From the research based literature that I've read about borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder, there can be a co-occurrence between BPD and NPD. The two are not mutually exclusive, but rather are related. (From what I understand, narcissism and NPD are distinct from each other. I can't list the distinctions off the top of my head, though.)

I agree! would be interesting to know. I think one difference can be that BPD is often linked to manipulative behaviour and addiction problems.

@@nihalhathaway4089 NPD is linked to manipulative behavior even moreso than BPD, and is also linked to addiction.

Vulnerable narcissism - the universal trait/construct, not a type of NPD disorder (subtypes of NPD do not exist in the DSM-V) - is actually a component of borderline personality disorder. It is a component of mental illnesses across the board. Even normies with run-of-the-mill depression tend to be higher in vulnerable narcissism. Keep in mind that "disorder" means that you have maladaptive behavior/cognition. You can, in fact, have borderline personality A.K.A. extreme emotional instability without having BPD. (I've seen research calling this BPT, "borderline personality trait"). Vulnerable narcissism is a measurement of psychological adaptations that are pretty much universally found to undermine an individual's efforts at connecting with others and manifesting themselves. That's part of why DBT is so effective. It teaches borderline people how to deal with their extreme emotions without resorting to vulnerable narcissistic coping strategies in their cognition, behavior, and self-image. If you want to really understand vulnerable narcissism trait, the paper "Vulnerable Narcissism, Forgiveness, Humility, and Depression: Mediator Effects for Differentiation of Self" is dope. I also super love the paper "The targets of all treachery: Delusional ideation, paranoia, and the need for uniqueness as mediators between two forms of narcissism and conspiracy beliefs" which gave me a deeper understanding of this topic.

@@Jokaanan thank you!!

Hey man, being honest with yourself is the first step👌I'm sorry your relationship didn't work out, but your efforts will show fruition if you don't give up! Hang in there, and keep working on yourself. You got this!

There is something you can do. Work on raising your self-esteem. The benefits will be endless.

@@m2pozad Hi, thanks for your reply. I am doing just that. I have certain issues around myself that I can’t do anything about so I have to learn to accept them. As for the rest, I’ve joined the gym and go everyday which has improved my fitness levels and physique no end and I’m very proud of that accomplishment. Dealing with my inner demons is a constant battle that I intend to keep fighting. All the best.

@@bluebutterfly5062 Hi, Thank you for your reply and kind words of encouragement. It’s a long road for me as my issues run deep but I am trying! I see my therapist who I’m able to talk things out with but also seek out videos like this as well as audio books to help me. I really hope I can conquer this because being the way I am makes me miserable and now lonely! All the best and thank you again

Its nice that that you're not only self aware but also willing to work on yourself. I wish you all the best in your journey ❤

@x6Fly - What job do you have?

You don't call'em. Ever again.

It is actually common for vulnerable narcissists to bounce between the two. Watch Dr. Grande's video on this. Grandiose narcissists have it built into their personality hence they are much more stable in their bad behaviors.

@@tomgjgj Oh I know. I’ve been no contact for over 5 years. He finally stopped harassing me back in 2020.

@@magnolia2 Yeah. They always come back sooner or later. You feel like some kind of drug peddlar to them. And it's tough to get away, especially if you care about them. But they'll never give you what you what you want, they'll only ever care about what they need (because they can't satisfy them on their own), and at the end of the day they don't have the energy or even the will to reciprocate. Too busy trying to get that fix.

Most narcissists are a combination of vulnerable and grandiose. So you would just call him a "narcissist" :P

Yea omg I need this so much

That's so sad, I'm sorry you're dealing with that! You don't deserve to be made to feel any kind of way for your past

Giiirrrlll be carefull 😬 he seems toxic like those red pill guys, they are the worst 🤮

You shouldn't feel bad about something you were okay w doing prior to you bf just because he doesn't feel good about it, his lack of maturity can't mean your guilt or emotional hurdle, that's exactly when it becomes abusive imo. Stay true to yourself no matter who you are talking to or dating, people come and go but you are the one who stays with yourself, treat yourself w respect because you deserve

That is not acceptable. You did nothing wrong!

The version I've heard is, the bipolar condition is progressing to schizophrenia.

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Well said 💯

narcissists tend to embellish their narratives even without actual manifestation.. the other is more level headed, grounded or more in touch with reality

EMPATHY

As in, I want to see more content like this video and also specifically studies about narcissism

I recommend the Psychology in Seattle podcast. Dr. Kirk Honda has a very neuced and compassionate perspective. I feel like I've developed more compassion for others and made progress in my healing journey from following him. He used to work with criminal perpetrators so he is very capable of humanizing some really difficult personality types. You're probably most likely to get this from watching his reactions videos but you may find it in his reactions comments and podcast episodes too.

nice guy syndrome isn’t a thing. what you’re asking is to become an emotionally abusive person to increase your dating pool. yes it will increase, with more unstable and unfulfilling relationships that are predicated on game playing and inauthenticity. Don’t go down that route.

a good one lol

@@foggycraw6758 Test- What is a good girlfriend?

@@meis7 yeah it makes sense, it was very interesting to realise

@@meis7 luckily that's true! I caused harm to both my ex boyfriends for this and don't feel good about it 🥲 but seeing more clearly why we behaved in certain ways is hugely beneficial

No. It's literally all made up.

:) i see what you did there

How narcissistic of you to point that out 😋 haha!

@@kms8627 :) see what WE do here :)

@ali aguilar I was first once. Not here of course. But, my lord, that was a good day! I will always cherish it.