How OCD Impacts My Daily Life

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4 ай бұрын

Allison shares specifics about how much her OCD impacts her life.
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@georginajones940 4 ай бұрын

I've watched you guys for like 10 years and I still watch every video. This is my comfort page

@tejasviniv6902 4 ай бұрын

Same. I just have to keep up with their lives. I’m too invested at this point

@kaleidoscope977 4 ай бұрын

100% me too

@shannonbolton6005 4 ай бұрын

Same! Can’t get enough of them! ❤

@rowanketcheson 4 ай бұрын

same here! id watch these two talk abt literally nothing

@gutenmorgan2063 4 ай бұрын

i just started watching i love this channel :)

@krissp8712 4 ай бұрын

Ok the beans/farts smell thing makes so much more sense with the blooper now.

@Girlfin 4 ай бұрын

GABE THAT 100% UNDOES THE HANDWASH COME ON

@medslarge 4 ай бұрын

As a psychology trained person who works with people with OCD, I think the research is not super sufficient with regards to how it truly affects the holistic person. I have seen firsthand how foundational respect and love are to any mentally ill person's healing. Without that foundation, little amount of exposure therapy or denying of compulsions can really go far in reducing the anxiety itself. Just my two cents though, and I am sure those living with OCD will have more intelligent things to say on this!

@katrinashaw2195 4 ай бұрын

My parents just told me I was crazy and kept doing things even average people would find gross and it made my walls of OCD go up more from feeling so disrespected and uncared for. I wanted to fight my compulsions less from being treated so unloveingly

@sadicalradness6927 4 ай бұрын

Respectfully, Gabe’s looking amazing

@oohlookatthatdoggo 4 ай бұрын

But the flushing after the handwashing does totally undo it though haha

@kai89712 4 ай бұрын

Hearing you talk about you OCD resonated so much with me, especially when you talked about how it's mostly fine when you're on your own but it's hard to manage other people coming into your space because you don't want to put them through your rules

@mollyfaucet 4 ай бұрын

allison, i have harm ocd especially with animals so the rummaging through the laundry is SO relatable cuz im always thinking i put one of my foster kittens in the laundry. it sucks because sometimes when my fosters get adopted its like a sigh of relief cuz so much of my stuff goes away, but i LOVE fostering so i dont wanna feel relief when i dont have any! anyway ya just wanted to say that i go through the laundry too sometimes when its soaking wet lmao

@goldfishsnake 4 ай бұрын

yet again everything Allison says I'm just nodding along like, yup, me too, that's 100% correct lol. I used to feel that "false memory" thing about taking my pills and I started to say out loud, "OK I'm taking my pill now" because that way if I said it out loud I would be more likely to remembered it happening. Maybe you should get weekly pill box for your tide pods lollll. Also, from one frequent hand washer to another, I love the bar soaps from Kona Natural Soap Company, I discovered them on vacation in Hawaii, and the bars have little like scrubby material in them so you feel really clean but they don't dry out your hands, fabulous!

@lineyloveslacquer 4 ай бұрын

I have never related more to anything than Allison describing her life with OCD. Dirty days can be a bit easier for sure, until I have to come home. Then it can be exhausting😞

@TheANTMcouture 4 ай бұрын

my contamination OCD was so horrific a couple years ago. it's better now but still bad now, and just listening to Alison makes me feel seen and comforted.

@ThereSoDone 4 ай бұрын

It's nice to have these videos, so that I can share them with people. Instead of having to always explain myself

@DesertStars27 4 ай бұрын

Watching you talk about your OCD and the impact on yourself and your partner is so validating. I was in a long-term relationship with someone with untreated contamination OCD similar to yours. I never got the kind of assurance and self-awareness you have gotten to with your partner. It's so healing to hear you give him grace for not having the same "rules" as you etc.

@eulerizeit 4 ай бұрын

"I forgot everything" deeply relating to you here Gabe

@kaemincha 4 ай бұрын

I have some OCD-adjacent stuff going on (trich and dermatillomania) and anxiety and depression. What Allison said a while ago about taking a harm reduction viewpoint of her illness has been a gamechanger for the way I view living my life with these issues. I also work in the addiction space, so this was such an easy concept to grasp, and I don't know why I had never considered giving myself the same grace before. Genuinely, thank you!

@claudiarcade 4 ай бұрын

allison perfectly describes my ocd and through her i found out the name for what i've been suffering from since i was 11, and i'm glad i'm not the only one T.T

@IsuiGtz 4 ай бұрын

Exactly the same here. Or "worse" even. We are not alone. We are not aliens. Some of us do understand.

@Jimmyboygohome 3 ай бұрын

I need Allison to make more videos on OCD because they resonate with me so much and are so helpful.

@gemgh420 4 ай бұрын

I was just about to recommend a different dog wet wipe just before you explained how the OCD means it's that particularly wipe you'd prefer to use - a lesson in letting people finish speaking before jumping in 😅

@abbyz13 4 ай бұрын

the problem is not what antibacterial wipe you wipe your innocent dog with, the problem is needing to clean it unnecessarily in the first place. this is a therapy issue, not a problem with the dog…cleaning them that often is not good for their skin barrier and can lead to more infection longterm, ironically.

@alixnight5318 4 ай бұрын

For the tide pods issue, I’d recommend leaving a visual indicator that you did put a pod in. For example, leaving a post it on the detergent container that you move to the laundry machine after you put the pod in. In my house we’re constantly unsure if the cats have been fed so we leave empty cans (just for that day) near their bowls so we have a visual indicator that we did feed them.

@finnregan5524 4 ай бұрын

"you can have one or two compulsions...as a treat" is absolutely my approach to managing my OCD

@judith3695 4 ай бұрын

Super interesting to hear! My partner also struggles with ocd and probably as do I (still in the process of getting diagnosed). Mine is very different but his is a LOT like yours. He also has mental rules of not sitting on certain things with street clothes or compulsions of asking me if I have washed my hands. He always apologizes afterwards bc on one hand he realizes it’s kind of unfair to bring other people into his compulsions. But way more importantly his therapist has told him not to do it as reassurance actually worsens his condition. I do find it sometimes hard to juggle wanting to reassure him that nothing bad is going to happen but also knowing I’m not actually supposed to do that.

@regulardragon 4 ай бұрын

It's incredible how we can be so unreasonable in some things and then flexible in others with ocd. Years ago i made a rule to myself that my ocd could never affect my pets, so whatever other contamination fear i have, it never extents to Lilo (my dog), she just has to live her life and she can be on my bed and it's fine. Same for people sitting on my bed and touching my things, however, my things or myself touching something I don't want? Huge problem. I haven't sat on my own couch without having to shower after for a whole year. We do what we can, thanks for talking about it, Allison ❤

@larahowlin2617 4 ай бұрын

you guys are the only channel I've never stopped watching

@kellygeorgina1466 4 ай бұрын

Allison, what about training your dogs to sit on a mat when you take them to restaurants, then you can bring a clean mat with you and they won’t lay on the floor x

@learudzena4754 4 ай бұрын

It would be so incredibly helpful if Alison felt comfortable enough to talk about how her OCD impacts her sex life. My partner has OCD and it can be so hard when it impacts our sex life and I feel like I’ve never heard someone with OCD talk about this aspect. I totally understand if this topic is off limits for some but if Allison did ever feel open to sharing about that, I think it would help a lot of people who also struggle/are impacted by this❤️

@JustBetweenUs 4 ай бұрын

She talks about it in her book "Overthinking About You" -gabe

@jules194 4 ай бұрын

Tip for the OCD girlies with hand-washing problems: get a big tub of Aquaphor (or small, if you want to try it out/have specific texture needs, etc.); it really, really helps. It always feels so nice and healing and takes away the pain immediately!! It's so life-changing, it's incredible! Especially if you put it on at night, you can wake up in the morning with softer hands that feel better/don't hurt. :) Good luck everybody, you can get through this! P.S. Thank you for talking about these things Allison; I feel so seen! You are helping people :)

@jules194 4 ай бұрын

One thing about this, though, is that if it gets on fabric, it might leave a residue. One way you could get through this is having specific gloves that you wear when you use Aquaphor. There are some cotton gloves that could work for this, so that they are breathable and reusable.

@leannabonafini9596 4 ай бұрын

I'd like to share my baking tip in case it's helpful for Allison worrying about the tide pods...I often forget/fear I've forgotten an ingredient while baking so I will loudly sing it in a silly voice as I pour an ingredient in the bowl it and it helps me remember what I just did 😀

@kale3137 4 ай бұрын

omg allison me and my gf have the exact same thing where i always feel bad asking if she washed her hands!! i totally get it

@vintagesoniia 4 ай бұрын

I feel so seen! I have very similar symptoms and I initially learned through Alison’s story back in the day that it’s OCD (on top of BPD and ADHD, yay). It is really difficult to explain to people and has been a point of tension with my partner 😢

@liabe18 4 ай бұрын

The laundry detergent- maybe use the liquid instead, one that has a Color, that way if you check the little drawer to see if you put in the detergent you can see or even feel if you already put it in. That helps me at least :)

@TheBeatlesToday 4 ай бұрын

Same!

@kohlinoor 4 ай бұрын

I imagine that liquid is messy, hence the tide pods. Laundry sheets are another idea, though both sheet and the pods contains micro plastics that some water filtrastion systems may not filter out. They do make solid tabs out of the powders with no plastic in them now. You might be able to put those in the little detergent slot.

@molly4556 4 ай бұрын

or with liquid you could keep a little pot on the counter that is durable to measure out the liquid and then throw whole the pot in to the laundry with your clothes. if the pot isnt on the counter youve added your detergent.

@miznikki2u 4 ай бұрын

I'm happy to hear Allison finally address how her OCD tendencies can come across as incredibly rude, especially to those who don't know her or what she is dealing with. Having a mental illness is tough, however, we can't just expect the average person to understand or even care about how deeply it affects us and we need to be prepared at how rude (the things we can say or do to mange it) can come across to others.

@rloach067 4 ай бұрын

i also feel bad about asking my partner if he washed his hands, particularly before touching me 💀 i try not to do it but i do keep track when he washes his hands and such 😅 i feel like logically i shouldnt care that much but i just hate feeling dirty and i get scared i'll get sick 😔

@PariyaZabihiMusic 4 ай бұрын

i feel so seen. thank you allison

@chloecherry7126 4 ай бұрын

Gabe is looking great!!

@jw844 4 ай бұрын

I also have ocd and have previously had the worry and checking compulsion with laundry and the pods / washing powder.

@cecilepapp7246 4 ай бұрын

Gabe is so cute in this video ^^

@bretteelana189 4 ай бұрын

One or two compulsions as a little treat 😂

@saskiapleil8982 4 ай бұрын

I laughed SO hard at the end

@jaybee8170 4 ай бұрын

I’m curious. Would narrating what you’re doing help your brain “know” things have been done? As someone who’s memory sometimes isn’t the greatest, I often announce things I need to remember as I’m doing them. I don’t have ocd but wondered if at laundry time, saying something out loud like, “pod’s in, clothes next, press start” would help. (I’m rooting for you.)

@MustBeM 4 ай бұрын

or perhaps a little whiteboard (dry erase board for the US?) next to the laundry and you just write the date and a tick if you put the tide pods in as you do it? might help!

@user-uh5qr1mb1o 4 ай бұрын

One issue is that saying it outloud would probably quickly become a secondary compulsion

@jaybee8170 4 ай бұрын

@@user-uh5qr1mb1o yeah. I’ve got no specific knowledge about this so anything is possible. :{

@blayne2029 4 ай бұрын

would love if you guys would do some skits again. thanks!

@soccersweet11 4 ай бұрын

Lysol wipes ARE incredible!! OCD 🤝 ADHD

@beckyboo1001 4 ай бұрын

This was such an interesting video, thank you Allison for sharing! Also Gabe I am compelled to say that you have reached the stage of transition where you have Attractive Man Hands and I'm enjoying them (respectfully) as a fellow fruity trans man.

@meganm8722 3 ай бұрын

Weird suggestion but could you count out say 10 pods and put them in a labelled container (like for pills). I'm assuming you do laundry maybe daily? Or at regularly where you could label each section with the day, and then if that day is empty you know you put it in already. Or even simpler, a whiteboard/notepad next to the machine with a tick box that you tick or write the date on when you put the pod in. Then if you doubt yourself after you can just check and see that today's date is there, so you don't need to rifle through to find it (maybe). Or you could use powder that goes in the drawer and then you can just open the drawer to see if it's there before starting the machine. Don't know if any of that is helpful,I'm always doubting my memory/getting fake memories of taking my meds as it's something I do daily so I can never remember if my memory is from that day or a different day! So I use a labelled packet

@sanra167 4 ай бұрын

I’m watching this while I’m cleaning and getting ready for a friend to come over, and I’m covering the bed with extra blanket so their outside clothes don’t touch my actual bedding lol now I’m thinking wait, am I ILL??

@ashrichfield7135 4 ай бұрын

tide pods aren't great yea because they add microplastics but honestly as someone who has borderline and struggles with my brain constantly i think we can take tide to task for that one and leave our friends with OCD alone

@Maxwellhyde14 3 ай бұрын

Not this whole episode being like…..I’m feeling a lil scared about how much I’m relating to what Alison’s saying….do we not all feel kind of like that, thought it was just anxiety, maybe something to look into!

@brunoaraujo7016 4 ай бұрын

Uhm... hi Gabe hello??? *stares differently than ever before*

@iamdanielle 4 ай бұрын

I love youse

@hakunamatata3279 4 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@carinen8119 4 ай бұрын

Interesting

@ms15525 4 ай бұрын

If somebody put their bag on my CARPET in my home I'd be so mad lmao Also the travel thing is so relatable. It's like the usual rules are suspended. I feel like a lot of is described as symptoms here is just basic cleanliness standards, but I guess not being able to be flexible with it creates the issues. Or maybe I just also have a problem 😅

@andyyy138 4 ай бұрын

Can we hear about a cool animal you've pet?

@culturequeens1734 4 ай бұрын

I knew it was from beans, but I was wondering for half the video why not say dog poop. Also, could the flushing thing be ADHD?

@zoraarnold8482 4 ай бұрын

Hear me out: flush the toilet with your toes.

@tigersily 4 ай бұрын

@ivo8312 4 ай бұрын

i think the person with ocd should be the one deciding what compulsions they do and don't wanna challenge, especially when they are an adult they can make that decision for themselves, ppl pushing u into it is so bad like u don't know me

@bennettcafarelli7066 4 ай бұрын

Gabe looks so hot omg hiiii

@EbyKat 4 ай бұрын

Maybe an auto flush toilet would help.

@creativewriter1000 4 ай бұрын

It's disappointing to see you putting the OCD "research" in quotes like that when Exposure Response Prevention therapy is tested and effective and has 100% changed my life. ERP and medication will change your life and free your mind to think about things other than your obsessions and compulsions

@RinKagamineIsAmazing 4 ай бұрын

I think to be fair to Allison, she has had OCD since she was 4 years old and has very likely been through ERP with limiting success and now currently has to find a balance between giving herself grace and also not giving into compulsions too much. She even pushes back in the video against Gabe when he says that he finds ERP to be bullshit. She also gives resources to the OCD foundation which I'm sure is a strong proponent of ERP. I'm sure that Allison believes in the research, but has personal and complex feelings about it because she will likely never be 'cured' of OCD and now has to find a way to manage her life and also be kind to herself. Like, imagine if your entire life was an uphill battle where all the research showed that your anxieties should never be taken seriously and nobody should ever indulge you in easing them (and they were right, to some extent), but you also knew that you had to live your whole life with these same anxieties. The idea of "nobody should ever give you reassurance or indulge your compulsion" would feel super unempathetic when you've lived your entire life already fighting this and you will likely continue your whole life fighting this.

@kaemincha 4 ай бұрын

@@RinKagamineIsAmazingVery insightful comment, thank you.

@EthanHermann 4 ай бұрын

Imagine living with OCD, bipolar, autism, and being trans💁‍♀️💁🏼💁‍♂️. TO BE CLEAR THIS IS NOT THE TRAUMA OLYMPICS… I just think it’s funny that I’m like the child of both of them 😅 (Also, before anyone comes for me, all of these are diagnosed except autism, which is valid imo) EDIT: Not that I need to justify my diagnoses ❤

@sancilice 4 ай бұрын

Gabe is that a watermelon tat on your arm? (Free Palestine! 🍉)

@amaranthelk2668 4 ай бұрын

why do you guys sit so far apart now

@mahasaad985 4 ай бұрын

Have either of them talked about palestine?

@abbyz13 4 ай бұрын

It’s worse that it affects the dog’s lives, dogs do not need to be wiped with antibacterial wipes…bacteria is literally everywhere, and isn’t always bad. I would base their need for cleanliness off what vets recommend and work on those personal issues apart from whether or not the dogs are “dirty from the floor”. Just don’t let them on your bed and wash your hands after you touch them if you want to do what you can control?

@reyanrgrace3313 4 ай бұрын

I'm pretty sure she knows all of that. Part of OCD, a disorder, is that it isn't logical all the time. You can know something is true but OCD doesn't care.

@medslarge 4 ай бұрын

There is no need to guilt her like this. It's a wipe made for dogs so it's suitable for dogs. She is trying to live her life with OCD, let's encourage instead of nitpick.

@abbyz13 4 ай бұрын

@@medslargestop defending a grown woman justifying these behaviors online instead of working on them in therapy. this show is not therapy.

@abbyz13 4 ай бұрын

@@reyanrgrace3313yeah, that’s why meds and treatments exist. you can choose to NOT HAVE PETS. y’all are so dramatic

@phukyu1402 4 ай бұрын

Allison looking like the michellin man.. sad.

@arglefargle123 4 ай бұрын

unfortunately, the only practical guidance for partners of OCDers is: "Run!". sounds mean, but some things are just intractable and solutions ultimately aren't effective.

@terrihulm873 4 ай бұрын

My therapist said that people with OCD have this overwhelming need to force other people to comply with their needs because of anxiety... I have Multiple ocd relatives and they are overwhelming most of the time with the need to control... I agree run...