Let’s stop making excuses for terrible people A**holes We all deal with things differently, however you can still be respectful towards people. No matter what we go through we need to be aware of how we treat one another. Some ppl don’t change no matter how you treat them.

I’ve dealt with an aggressive (narcissistic) colleague and I just grey rocked him. I never provoked him nor did I engage in his anger. Eventually his behavior was recognized by others and management ended up firing him. Apparently others didn’t like his aggression either. The garbage will take out itself eventually.

Those rude people need to be dealt with! Stop telling people to cope with bullies!!

My first job was like this. I ended up leaving and got a better position and higher income. People don't change and it's not your job to make them change.

Quitting is the dumbest idea ever!! Why kind people shall leave?? Somewhere is not gonna be any better!! Toxic people are everywhere and they are the ones that have to go!!!!!!

In Dave's mind: Will this lady hurry up so I can get to the point where I say sell the car

Lawsuit waiting to happen! Workplace bullies are the worst

Probably would have been better suited to call Ken Coleman or Dr. John Delony for this one.

There's one at my job. She's the golden cow. Her behavior is ignored because of her accomplishments. She also realizes that she can be as nasty and as bad as she wants of there are no witnesses

When things like this happen, you have the responsibility to nip it in the bud immediately. If you choose not to it will continue to escalate. She doesn't own the desk she's works at nor the Staples or paper clips. When I speak with her and tell her that her tone is not office friendly, I would do so with a smile!

You leave one workplace with a toxic environment or bully to walk into another one. Sometimes it’s better the devil you know and stay where you are.

I would tell my boss “it’s either me or her and if it’s her I quit”. Wouldn’t hurt throwing a ultimatum, just make sure you are out working her at the time of the ultimatum and be kind at the same time

I'm a nurse I work in the hen houses they hen peck each other to death, it's crazy.

Never confront an angry co-worker unless you are good friends. If you feel things are getting hostile, see HR.

In the words of Dalton from Roadhouse: Be nice, until it’s time to not be nice.

Been there before with these workplace bullies, but I was this woman’s supervisor and I went to management and they were no help. Had to leave that department.

Myra, don't worry about it. Just move on. It's the offices loss. This lady's negative attitude is probably a big contributor to her original cancer and her big C relapse. She won't make another year or two with a negative mindset anyway. Leave. You don't need the grief.

I've been in the reverse situation. Corporate forced our business to create a lead position for our team none of us wanted it but since I was the lowest seniority I was told I would be let go to hire an external person lead lead if no one accepted. So I ended up accepting (we were in the middle of buying a home). Even though no one else wanted it several people really pushed back when I started doing my new job, ensuring they did theirs within compliance, including moving things to hard to reach places and in ways that were damaging our office supplies and it took time out of the day to fix. Luckily I got a chance to leave.

Document, document & document. Names, dates, phrases, witnesses & locations.

Love the way Rachel ribs Dave when she gets the compliment for her show.

I'd lose my job before I had to cope with a difficult employee. No one should have to put up with their crap and if they try bullying me, I'd cuss them out.

Bullies are cowards.

Poor communication over time leads to resentment which leads to an aggressive coworker or at the very least a coworker with a bad attitude.

I am so glad that I work remotely. It was not only was the best decision I made in my life; it changed my life for the better. It allowed me to travel and work remotely anywhere in the world. I worked with angry aggressive people in the past. I am so glad that is behind me now. It is not worth putting your mental health on the line. Trust me

I am the newbie at my job, although I am a skilled medical professional. During my first week of training, one of the leads became pretty aggressive with me. At first I thought maybe that was her usual tone (talks very loud to make a point, kind of accusatory), but have realized that it seems to be only with me. I rotate through several locations and this is the ONLY person in the whole company that speaks to me like this, so I am making the case that it's not me. So I rotate back to her department and again yesterday I get the accusatory tone about something. Since she is the lead at this location, I cannot simply go over her head with a complaint about her behavior. And if I ask to NOT rotate there, I will have to explain why and I am not good at making up stories. If I quit over one bad actor, I will have to pay back a huge sign on bonus and put my whole life in upheaval, not to mention the way it looks to quit a job in 90 days... anyone got any ideas??

She is obviously dealing with one of the nastiest diseases, so I would take that into consideration. But I've been dealing with serious stuff too and you would never tell. Always professional, respectful and nice. You should try not to make your surroundings suffer for something that they have no involvement in.

This answer helped me so much!

First, you need to respect her work space (i.e. cubical, desk, and etc.) You mentioned among others of leaving your hand lotion on her desk. RESPECT! Do that and it should NOT be like walking on eggshell. You do NOT have to like the person ... but, be PROFESSIONAL. If the situation does NOT change, notify leadership again. If you resign your position, mention this situation on your EXIT interview! Once again, be PROFESSIONAL and you will be RESPECTED.

I can relate to this lady so much

Yes! I love you Ramsey!!!

Years ago I shared a desk with another part timer. I left the calculator on overnight once. When I came in on my next day, the calculator was gone and a post it note was in it’s place. It read: Since you can’t remember to turn off the calculator, I’ll take it home with me every night. 😜

So cute Rachel’s reacción and looking at Dave. Jiji

Good bosses in a meeting make it very clear that if I catch you acting like a jerk with your co-workers security is going to walk you out. H.R. backs them up. There is no place for silent treatment, avoiding eye contact, sarcasm or raising ones voice. You do that kind of thing and you should be fired immediately.

I used to get picked on alot at work. Still do but used to too

A legend in her own mind 😅

The one acting mean and aggressive won’t be there long because she will be forcing everyone else out

Don't attempt kindness. Just confront them. If she escalates to violence you call 911.

I wouldn't want you going through my desk and leaving lotion on it either.

Can you let her finish a sentence

we're all a little aggressive where i am for now lol

Give the lady rice and beans and one of Dave’s books, sell the car!

I want to work for you Dave. I desire so much to work with a good leader.

report her to HR

Allot of details in this call.... would be interesting if someone in the office hears this call

I don't understand why people put so much responsibility on the victim to do the right thing and make so much excuses for the abuser. Help me to understand this?

I have learned that an anonymous letter works wonders.

Women usually do this at the job. I know several of them.

I dont like he suggested her to leave her job. Not everyone has the luxury to just up and leave at their own convenience

I would say pray for her and ask is she ok! Just like David said if it’s part time leave. I hate this situation for her and pray it get better for her. Myra just ask if it’s something you can help her with and it’s like you work with Oscar the Grouch! Stay Strong 💪 💪

Great advice! Can you give advice what to rude, passive aggressive women? Between a man a women, while HR favors the rude female coworker.

Tell her you won’t tolerate it and go to HR if she keeps it up. Or ignore and don’t respond.

Tell him once, politely, that you are not ok with is behavior, if it doesnt works go to HR or the inmediate boss

It’s jealousy!

This is a question for the Dr John Deloney show. Good question though.

Nah cuz if you leave you will deal with it else where have to find a way to deal/settle it

Cancer it’s not a joke, and it affects each person differently. I would just be nice to her.

How is this a personal finance question? This has turned into a self help hotline for counseling. Lol

Rachel > Dave 😂. Jk Dave

Mr. Ramsey at about the 20 second mark in the conversation: "How many many freakin' times have I heard this story? ....Well, let's see how the UT Tennessee spring football team is doing? ....Hey, wow, look at that: mutual fund is up again this morning....man, I'm getting hungry."

She is a sweet lady

This is why I’m glad I’m in the engineering profession. Hardly any women and emotional cattiness

Myra talks too much.

Don’t react. Problem solved. They crave attention.

another perspective: (a) an old worker feels that a new one tries to take her place and is simply protective/cautious; (b) the new one may be incompetent and messes up a lot, but didn't realize it

You handle her with a slap across the face. Just to teach her to respect others. :)

Yall making excuses

Just get vaccinated!!!!!!!!! Then we won’t have to worry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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