“I’m cringe but I’m free” 😂😂 mantra to live by

A lot of people think loving yourself is treating yourself to Starbucks, nice holidays and that new bag, but it's actually more about *setting boundaries and putting yourself first.* Once you learn how to say no, it change everything! Easier said than done. Still learning🤗

I never thought about using my love languages myself, rather than from other people. That's genius!

“We are the loves of our own lives” such a beautiful sentiment to me, makes me feel whole just saying it.

You're my role model

🎶 I can buy myself flowers Write my name in the sand Talk to myself for hours Say things you don't understand 🎶

Literally, she's my therapist, role model, and sister... What a blessing ♥

Daddy Akana Squarespace hit a whole new level😂

This. Is. Gold. A tangible explanation of healing. Many childhood traumas will be soothed from this. I can’t emphasize how great this one is ✊tremendous work Anna

I think my self love is tied to making other people feel good (similar to external validation) I get way more fun out of giving a gift or writing a postcard than I would if I bought myself something for example. I also think it’s harder for folks who live with other people to perform acts of self love despite what the others are going through. These are great tips Anna ❤

Learning how to let yourself feel your emotions and validating them is a huge step towards self love imo

"You lovingly tell that b**** to f*** off" really resonated with me 😂

Love languages words of affirmations: I daily do mirror work, praise myself Physical touch: hug yourself, pamper yourself Quality time: making time for a new hobby Gifts: buying things you always wanted, I bought an amazing handbag last year Acts of service: clean your home or donate to others 4:08 Check in often & PRACTICE

Choosing self love changed my life. I hope everyone finds their way to connecting with their heart and the abundance of love we were all born with ❤️

That top is great: the middle is structured and simple with a beautiful pattern - flowers, which you love - and the sleeves are plain white but a flowing texture. The colors contrast, and the textures contrast in reverse. Really good choice.

I want to share the things that I do for myself to make myself feel loved (feel free to share what makes you feel loved

I cant even express how much of an impact you've made on my life. Thank you so much for your content.

Mirror work has actually helped me a lot this past half decade (started doing it late 2016 or early 2017 I think) or so. I practically had to force myself to think positive thoughts at least once a night, and it felt amazing when I realized I had managed to reprogram my inner voice to consoling or praising myself instead of the previous which was putting myself down. I mean I still turn negative sometimes, but I rebound so much faster now and I very rarely dwell on whatever thought tried to bring me down.

For Acts of Service, you can pay someone to do tasks for you (ex: grocery shopping, lawn mowing, cleaning, etc.)

Thank you for being a generous fountain of infinite wisdom, Anna!!!

I just feel like my inner child is so happy. I followed you on KZfaq long ago and used to watch all of your videos and skits, inspiring me then. Now I have found you again and to see you making such amazing self growth content it is bringing me so much joy on a deeper level; connected with that inner teen that used to watch your stuff! Thanks for being awesome ❤

My partner of ten years broke up with me and I've been really struggling. Some of your videos have brought me some semblance of focus and hope. I'm still really struggling but it's nice to have a familiar voice to talk me through things or explain how to feel better or do better. Thank you.

thank you for these beautiful words, anna. you are amazing 🌹

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH THANK YOU FOR THESE ❤ thank you for existing

Thank you for sharing your journey and being a living role model for personal evolution 🎉

Your videos are always very helpful, thank you!

Anna's been the older sister/mother I've never had growing up. Loving the guidebook. ILY forever Anna :c

One of your best videos! Simple, to the point and very informative (and still funny).

Thank you. You've been here since 2012 and I'm really grateful to have grow with you since then. I was 13 when I knew you. My first vid was you in cat woman suit. I'm really thankful.

you’re the big sister I always wanted and needed. thank you

My favorite channel on YT! You freaqueen rock, Anna!

I am so glad I found your channel. You are wise, sympathic and beautiful. Love your style!

Writing yourself sounds interesting, I get allot out of watching your content. So glad you exist! Thank you girl you awesome!

I freaking love it everytime you say daddy Squarespace Anna!

This is very helpful, thank you! 🌹

Dang, your vids are always super helpful, but todays vid was just… *chef’s kiss*

Definitely not the example of self touch I initially had in mind but still a good one.

I just realized I love myself more than I thought ❤😊 Thank you, Akana SquareSpace Fam.

You deserve it ❤❤ I love you tons!!

This was so good❤Loved it.

Wow every time you’re always here when I needed you the most

So true. I've just done dining out alone in fancy restaurant for self-pampering.

Thank you for this!

Felt this to the core of my soul... I gotta do better for myself. Thank you❤

Thank you Anna. This is very important and something I need to work on more than I do. Thank you for providing tools we can all use.

Awesome share, took the test many years ago and mine is acts of service. For me, that is the umbrella of all the languages as they are all an act of service 😊🙏🏾🌿

❤ Thank you so much! Very helpful 😊 Have a great day!!!

Girl you amazing been following you for 5years now ❤ I'm happy i did

you're a big sister for all of us. Thanks for guiding us

Thank you so much for posting this!!! I hope to start some if these ideas myself and make them habits

I love your videos, It's so soothing❤❤

Thank you for walking me through the process of knowing myself more. It's complex experience. AND knowledgeable. And sometimes you just need to hear it, even if you don't want to 😣🎗️

I love this so much, thank you 💕💕💕

Needed this! Love u 🫶🏻

This is beautiful. I never ever thought to speak a love language to myself ❤ thanks for the tips!

You’re good love the energy u have 😊

We love you, Anna ❤

I’m gonna go off topic and say Anna you look so slay😍 ur outfit is everything

I think I'll be rewtching this a bunch. Sometimes I have sent letters to myself from work with notes and such I needed to access online, and I would allways tell myself something kind about my hard work or whatnot. It feels great. Never figured I could just.. do it alot, and in different ways. Man, I am a frog in a well.

Awesome job anna.😊

This is great advice. Anna, you're the best.🥰

I love this girl! ❤❤

This is a LEGIT advice and I thank Anna profusely for it. I went to check my 5 Love Languages again and here's the result! Quality Time - 32% Words of Affirmation - 29% Acts of Service - 26% Physical Touch - 10% Receiving Gifts - 3% Gonna look up self-love for the first three after this! 'Love you, Anna!

My journey has been exhausting,I've begun trying to love and be kinder to myself butbits been exhausting

Thanks for the lesson dear I used to swear at myself big time when I was younger!!💝💝

YAAAASSSS Preach Queen ❤

Good to know Anna that's really helpful advice thanks 🙏❤

Anna's wisdom these days is off the charts.

Love this advice. I've been doing this myself for several years now and it's made me a lot happier, especially after having been in a toxic relationship with an abusive narcissist. I'm now in the most incredible and healthy relationship I've ever known. It's beautiful what we can do for ourselves and see the world around us evolve to lift us up even more. 😊

You are the one to give me comfort i feel good about you

thank you that was very helpful

every time i hear "love yourself" i always cringe... "eew I dont love myself" and i love Anna, I will always supoort her and take her videos to heart. but like standing in front of a mirror saying "you're beautiful and worthy" or writing it down, literally makes my skin crawl.

i love you anna. thankyou.

Anna never misses on her videos

I have just had therapy: this is a great reminder ❤

I just thought of this tonight and idk if it will even apply to anyone here, but if so, I hope it helps. I used to struggle with feeling guilty for feeling good about doing the right thing. I used to think that for an action to be fully selfless, it should offer no benefit to me whatsoever. I would even feel guilty for making a hard decision because it was the right thing to do, because I felt that it was somewhat selfish to do the right thing just so I could tell myself I did the right thing. I eventually realized two things that have changed my perspective. The first is that every action has a reaction, and anything I do will solicit some kind of emotion, so why should I not strive to create positive emotions for myself and those around me. The second thing I realized is that by actively putting myself down for my guilt, I was subconsciously training myself away from doing the right thing. If I’d punish myself for doing the right thing, it is only natural that I would subconsciously stray away from doing it because of the added burden. We should do things that make us feel good, and if doing something good because it’s the right thing to also makes us feel good, then so be it!

It comes from the heart. I love myself because I am trying to incorporate my shadow and ideal ego self image together. Work hard towards a goal, and be thankful for the lesson learned when it fails. Forgiving is the patch for the soul. Don't do anything over and over, while expecting a different result. That is insanity, it is not bad to cut off toxic people from your live. Their bank account does not justify their toxic actions. There are 8 billion people out there, pop your bubble and go out there and seek new people....

Thank you sooo much for sharing this using five love languages 🥰

Anna's sponsored ads are the only ones I watch 😂 We all love Daddy Akana Squarespace!!

As someone, who is going to counselling sessions and have emptied all my thoughts there, I need to refill myself with love!

Love your videos! P.s. that choker DEAR LORD, is gorgeous.

Very helpful. Thank you

You are soo amazinggggggggg

Just the best ❤❤❤❤

i prastice 3 of the 5 i give myself aforrmation,gifts&quality time each&every night.thanks again anna.

I’m so obsessed with how she keeps taking the daddy squarespace sponsor joke farther and farther

Easily one of your TOP 10 practical videos

One of my main coping mechanisms has become dissociating by either mindlessly scrolling or intensely daydreaming. I've had this since I was a kid but I feel like the ''good'' moments have become less and the dissociation more. When I'm in deep, I can't get out. I can act normal for a while when I'm around people but when I'm alone again I go right back in. Most of the time something ''bad'' has to happen to snap me out of it, like recieving tough feedback or flunking an exam. Stuff like that really wakes me up and makes me want to work on myself, it feels great (after feeling awful). Right now my head feels more clear because I just got some tough feedback, and I am making steps to work on loving myself like Anna is saying, but I always fall back quickly and when I do I don't know how to get out. Being aware of it doesn't help, sometimes it makes it worse. I have these periods where I can speak softly to myself, be patient, but also strict so I do my yoga and sports, make steps towards a healthy and loving mindset, but these periods never last long. Does anyone have a similar experience? How do you guys cope with this?

Love you Anna 😘

Thank you so much... You have no idea how you are helping the anonymous joe this side of the screen

I once heard a woman say that the key to living for her was learning to love herself no matter what. Words to live by.

I have had a hard time with self love in the past, and not many good examples around growing up. The transition, which I’m still going through, towards loving myself has felt very awkward and difficult.. but one thing that has helped me, were two very good relationships in my life. One was with a relative and one with my fiancé, and in both situations, whenever they were around, they’d say kind things, build me up, and give me gifts or acts of service. When my fiancé and I had to do long distance for a while, whenever I would pass a rose and think how pretty it was, I would pick it for myself. Not because I felt like I deserved it yet, but because I knew If he was there he’d think I did. And the same with my other relative too whenever something that reminded me of their love came around, I would take it in as if they were there giving me the support themselves. This especially helped me after they had passed away a few years back, to remember their kindness. And over time, now when I see good things, I’m more welcoming of that into my life and take a more active roll in self love because of the examples they gave, so that help in learning to do that for myself made a big difference, just by framing it in my mind as what they would want for me first, until I could decide it’s what I wanted for me too eventually

Thank you for that, one of my goal for 2023 is to start to love myself and to have a better mindset in general. It seems that reaching the moon would be easier 😅

I just applied my love languages on myself today 🔥❤️

"I'm cringe but I'm free." - Anna Akana

I wonder if she had a color analysis done or something related to style. Because she always has amazing clothes and the colors compliment her a lot and makes her look sooo beautiful and glowing

Loved it

Thank you

Congrats

Ahhh where did you get your top btw? It's SO CUTE!!