how to *actually* be happy single | detach, love yourself, de-centre men & enjoy being alone
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Күн бұрынThis is how you ENJOY SINGLE LIFE! Being single doesn't have to be difficult and lonely. I went from being a serial dater and seeking male validation to dating myself, growing my independence and even spending valentines day alone. In this video I share: actual solutions, new mindset advice, how to master detachment, grow your self love, deal with the hard days and much more. I hope you enjoy! x
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@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
heavy on the 7:48 and 14:57 😌
@dominique36 Жыл бұрын
greetings from Ukraine! watching you with subtitles despite the war thank you for the motivation to live 💖
@bananaclip8989 Жыл бұрын
The sad one in your thumbnail looks like the mascara is fading from gagging on a 🍆 😅
@life_is_magnificient Жыл бұрын
@@dominique36 omg , are you alright? I hope you are , my sis . Stay strong things will soon be okay . ❤️ Blessings to you for a long and happy life
@jperez9528 Жыл бұрын
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@jperez9528 Жыл бұрын
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@megxxx3748 Жыл бұрын
My cousin never dated boys when she was a teenager. She thought they were all immature and stuff. She told her mom ( my aunt ) that she will live alone. And then one day she met a guy she was in her twenties cuz her good friends knew him and stuff. It came unexpectedly. They’re still together today
@lc-do5eo Жыл бұрын
That’s why I never dated. I’ve never met one who deserves me.
@MiaCarter7 10 ай бұрын
Maybe being care free and loving yourself is the key that brings that good person in.
@dcarrenob89 3 ай бұрын
Are we expected to feel happy for her?
@StarrSky 2 ай бұрын
@@dcarrenob89she’s just saying her cousin didn’t jump into a relationship and instead focused on herself which now she found her one. No need to be negative.
@devashreekale4281 5 күн бұрын
THIS IS SO ME ! 😂 this is literally why I didn’t get into a relationship and thought they were all so yuck ; cause even though my dms were full of proposals I did not date . Cause no matter how thirsty you are , you never drink sewage water 😭🤌
@shirleisantos6079 Жыл бұрын
I cried, she said everything that I needed to hear
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
🥺❤️
@esotericbliss5887 Жыл бұрын
@@tamkaur Hey Tam, I’m sorry for putting this here but can we have some affirmations from you? I wish l could listen to single and happy/detachment and success type affirmations while driving to work!
@Arlene_witha_y Жыл бұрын
Being single is SOO peaceful and freeing!!! I love putting me first! Relationships are only good if the guy is whole and healthy. Most are not so the relationship becomes burdensome, dramatic, exhausting. I don’t want a relationship unless someone can give me more than I can give myself. And if not, that’s fine, I’m awesome to myself!
@Angira77 Жыл бұрын
Yes to too agree !!!!
@gailainsley6939 9 ай бұрын
Right. I could never prefer to be in a relationship over this. If its a good one, fine but most arent. In fact. I dont think I've ever seen one that is. If it wasn't for societal pressure and wanting kids one day I wouldn't even bother 😂 I love focusing on myself and I'm less productive when I'm in a relationship 😂
@qeonnadavis8996 2 ай бұрын
I agree 🥰
@SD-kp6fj Жыл бұрын
I FEEL ATTACKED IN THE BEST KIND OF WAY THANK YOU QUEEN
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
🤣❤️❤️
@babyray1204 16 күн бұрын
She is genuinely a real queen
@roselinelee Жыл бұрын
detached, better friends ->how to detach stop forcing and obsessing over situations the only thing you should be obsessing over is myself embrace uncertainty we cannot rely on people you can't change people don't have expectations for people, if you don't want them anymore, leave them ->prioritise logic over emotions stay disciplined we can only rely and count on ourselves you have yourself to come home to ->stop getting men to choose you you will lose yourself and ruin your own life, lose your selfrespect CHOOSE AND ACCEPT YOURSELF -> be self-centered every decisions must memaksimumkan kepuasan sendiri your inner child is counting on you, don't leave them ->consistent self love and solo dating I eat in restaurants alone all the damn time ❤️ ok except in school I thought everyone was judging me You cannot let the fear everyone else's judgement dictate your life and your decisions gurl Practice makes perfect eat alone sit with feelings of discomfort and accept them good habits feel shit in the start you get to people watch ->it's painful to leave your comfort zone difficult feelings come BUT you're doing this for your inner child that's counting on you - and that will keep you going if you feel some typa bad way, sit with the feeling understand it accept it Change the narrative: everytime you feel unconfident - dress up and feel good about yourself everytime you feel bored and unfulfilled - you're gonna take yourself to the musuem to the concert take a train to a new city and explore it on your own be your lover, best friend LOVE YOURSELF because you know you best❤️
@1rishikaa Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the tips
@yashyashwanth5888 Ай бұрын
What about toxic masculinity women always talk about. women say emotions are good now why you want to have all the red flags which men have.women scream red pill video and red pill guys teach men to hate women.why you hate men for no reason.why you want to act like men
@megxxx3748 Жыл бұрын
Most of the time love comes unexpectedly. Don’t look for it. Be yourself love yourself and the guy will come at the right time and love you for who you are
@karinac2541 Жыл бұрын
“Every single day is a fun adventure with yourself” Wow that just gave me the motivation to get out of bed 😂
@chinmayyeee9399 Жыл бұрын
Few months back. I met a boy who treated me the way I always wanted. But little did I know as the time went he started getting a little to comfortable which wasn't a good sign. He wanted everything from me but wasn't ready for commitment. Another red flag. Slowly I started noticing his behaviour. And then I realised he treated me the way I wanted because he wanted something from and when straight I said no, he felt disrespected. He started ignoring me. Which again was hurtful for me. I thought I had some connection with him. But more than that I feel proud of myself for not getting played by some boy who isn't ready for a real commitment. His behaviour was quite hurtful for me. I felt low for weeks. But now I know where to draw boundaries. Hope anyone who reads this feels a lil better ❤️
@livelifelovelife7787 Жыл бұрын
And you learnt 😊 early which is good
@tshegofatsosekgalakane2408 Жыл бұрын
"Let go of attachment to outcomes" This one hit home!❤️
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
🥰✨
@Aquaaaaa777 Жыл бұрын
I really appreciate and love this video because for most of my childhood days I would always be obsessed of what do boys think of me?, “Am I enough?”, “Am I desirable”, and that was one of the reasons I’ve gotten depression and I was very insecure. Also growing up I would watch a lot of romance movies as well so that made it even worse.😂 But nowadays I’m glad I haven’t found someone yet because God will bring the right person for me at the right time and I have a lot of self respect, a lot of love for myself, and is very independent. 💗
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
Love the growth!! 🥺❤️
@Aquaaaaa777 Жыл бұрын
@@tamkaur Thank You!!!!! 💗💗💗💗
@user-gb7lq9of8j Жыл бұрын
I relate to this 100%
@user-oq6ul1fm3p 5 ай бұрын
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@wanderingyourway3163 Жыл бұрын
"A life partner is there to inhance your life, not to complete it." Man! Yes! I'm going to write this down in my diary and look at it each time society pressurizes me to find a partner. Like.. thank you! What an amazing video for young girls! This is what we need.
@zaraislam9353 Жыл бұрын
I just started the process of a breakup and I cannot even begin to explain how thankful I am for coming across you. Esp as a brown girl, I feel like everything you're saying was meant for me and you say things in a way that gives me hope and has almost gotten me excited about my future when just days ago I thought my world ended. Thank you so so so so sm I am forever grateful for this energy and I know so many others are too
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
You’re so sweet. So glad I could help! Thank you 💖
@shwetasolanke6821 Жыл бұрын
I am 19 years old and I truly understand what you are saying and I'm grateful for understand this at early age . thanks 💕
@anonymous-yq4wc Жыл бұрын
Please don't become a wh*re like her then regret it like she's doing. Learn from her mistakes. Best of luck to you
@AngelDas-ip6vv Жыл бұрын
And I'm 14 but still i think I'm lot mature than my age
@moonlightxcv Жыл бұрын
So glad to hear this. I’m 27 & I’m trying not to beat myself up too much feeling like Im starting this journey way too old :(
@Humanitiesspecial 8 ай бұрын
Hey I am 19 years too. I am hella out single and feel so garbage about myself
@rekha3454 14 күн бұрын
Trust me you are just 2 years into this whole adult thingy its okkkk@@moonlightxcv
@thehibernatingone Жыл бұрын
For years, I dreaded V Day. It reminded me of my singleness. I'd look at others and envy them. Get disappointed over expectation. So when I finally wasn't single on V day few years ago, I was over the moon to celebrate it. It wasn't so great as I'd imagined in my mind. Now I am single, I had the best Valentine day. I wasn't giving V day any undue attention, as I'd no intention to date anyone, or expect anything from any men. I was calmly living my days upto V day. The day before V day, my sister gave me a rose.😇 So on V day, I dressed on my best dress and cleaned myself up, tooks lots of pictures with the rose. I had a good feeling of excitement, happiness, and was feeling really pretty. Later that evening I spent with my family and talked about V day without any dread. There was no man. It was just me, in my home, happy, pretty and calm with myself. That's was love for myself. And I guess that's how a real valentine day should be- filled with love. Edit: Wow! 83 likes and a ❤️ from TK herself. This is the most likes I've ever gotten. Glad people enjoyed it. Also (no one is asking but I'm gonna make it my confession comment because it's special like it's 83 likes!) I'm still single and happy with my status☺️ Never thought I'd ever be capable of being just me. (4yrs can make you quite dependent on others). I am not crying over past, or looking for someone new. I am at a place in my love life, where I am ready to be happy even if I never get married. "Calm" is the word to describe what I feel- to value the peace & freedom & "the moment"of single life that I might never get again once married; to not envy couples because some of the wish they're single like us (away from drama); to not be worried about all the responsibilities of marriage/kids/duties; to make my life more than just about romance/men in the meantime; to learn to make good friends for company in case I end up being the spinster😉 Does anyone have experienced these still waters? And for the ones who have not, I hope you do one day. It's really 👍
@bm5_5_5 Жыл бұрын
Literally word for word I did all this on v day and had the best day too 🎉 Got all dressed up, bought myself a rose and cooked myself a yummy dinner. Best one I’ve ever had and I didn’t once think I wish I had a man now. That also used to be me that person who hated Valentine’s Day and now I’ve found so much love in myself and in my life everything is different. It’s all about romanticising your own life right. So happy for you ❤
@thehibernatingone Жыл бұрын
@@bm5_5_5 Glad to find someone going through the same things in life as me. ❤️
@bm5_5_5 Жыл бұрын
@@thehibernatingone So happy for both of us ❤️
@moonruled Жыл бұрын
i got broken up with earlier this year and immediately started dating again. it’s been a couple months and it’s clear that i have no self worth and i just crave male attention and validation constantly. i absolutely hate it. i am so happy to see this video because it is the wake up call i need. i’m losing control of my life chasing men in my free time when i could be rediscovering myself. i’m going to have to cut off some connections i’ve made but i need to be selfish and choose myself right now
@aarushidwivedi9716 Жыл бұрын
It's Okay mam. You're not alone in this😂 But just know You're a High Value Woman. 🥰👍🙏
@Lorriluxxe Жыл бұрын
THISSSS👏🏽 Understanding the root of the discomfort is essential! Attachment styles are a great indicator to being unhappy being alone, only then can you actually implement mindset & practical tips💕
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
FACTSSS!!
@angelalawrence6156 Жыл бұрын
42 years old. Loved the idea’s presented in this video. I’m going to share it with my teenage daughter. From experience, your message on solo dating is spot on.
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
Wonderful!🥹❤️
@bisersable8247 Жыл бұрын
I am 31 and I've always been single. It's okay, not a huge issue. 😄 I just live my life just like everybody else, with less stress and more time for the things I love.
@John-tz2tx 7 ай бұрын
I’m the same, I’m 53
@zuzuthefirelord164 Жыл бұрын
I'm a guy and lately I've been so upset on being single and not having a gf, that I completely forgot about my needs and self-care, so, thank you for that video, I found it very insightful!
@himsingh8654 10 ай бұрын
how old are you bro?
@zuzuthefirelord164 10 ай бұрын
@@himsingh8654 23
@user-xd2ei8qw5b 8 ай бұрын
The fastest way to disrespect urself is clinging to ppl who do not value you as much as you value them... this one hit me harsh... thank you so much for ur videos
@whatisreal711 Жыл бұрын
I’ve never been in a relationship and I’ve always been jealous of others who were happy with their partner. This really helped so thank you 💗
@missmadelinesadventures3278 Жыл бұрын
I've mostly been single my whole adult life. So in 22 years I maybe was in a relationship for 3 in total maybe 4. It's doable to be happy alone. But being lonely will come and go. Just don't let your standards drop based on your mood.
@lunadewolf478 9 ай бұрын
I love that I found this video so soon. I am a 14-year-old girl and all my friends are getting in a relationship. now I know that there is nothing wrong you are such an insperation.
@caitlingill 5 ай бұрын
14 is so young im 20, never been in a relationship
@elisethearmy6451 6 ай бұрын
tam's channel is one of the main things getting me through heartbreak fr 💖
@natashakhan1942 Жыл бұрын
VIDEO CHAPTERS: reason vs solution 1:36 new mindset 4:44 master detachment 10:15 de-center men 14:35 self love lifestyle 16:20 the hard days 18:20
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@yasminec2144 Жыл бұрын
I’ve been asking the universe for messages and Tam you LITERALLY said EVERYTHING to confirm I am on the right path! Thank you thank you thank you are gorgeous and such an incredible speaker
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
Wonderful! Thank u ☺️
@Fairygelic Жыл бұрын
I’m actually on my first solo date right now (at a restaurant) and it is very nerve wracking sense I have anxiety 😭 but this video definitely made me feel better thank you!
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
AWWW HOPE U HAD FUN🥹❤️
@AgentFulgoreBasedDepartment Жыл бұрын
i felt weird going on a solo date for the first time, but after doing it multiple times at my favorite restaurants and other places i felt much better about it. now when i go to the places i frequent, the staff ask if i want to sit at my usual spot, not if i’m with (or waiting for) - someone else. i’m alone, not lonely. you got this ❤
@rtu8054 6 ай бұрын
"Singlehood is a gift that we never know when we'll have to give it away".. This made me stop in my tracks and gave me CHILLS -- flipping the narrative on it's head, what an awesome perspective 💯
@Emocitygirl Жыл бұрын
Even though I am in a relationship currently I still want to make sure I am my own person and happy with myself !!
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
👏👏👏
@lanaf1_1655 Жыл бұрын
I don’t usually comment but OMG! This is one of the most informative videos I’ve ever watched! Not me literally rewatching it and taking notes, haha. I looove your energy and l‘m incredibly grateful that KZfaq recommended me one of your videos a few weeks ago. You deserve a million subscribers, Queen 👑 With lots of love and appreciation from Siberia ❄️
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you!
@lanaf1_1655 Жыл бұрын
@@tamkaur thank you!! For replying to my comment and for your content ♥️
@nehakhan5589 Жыл бұрын
Well i did the same.. literally i took all the notes .. writing in my diary 😅
@happeebunny0329 Жыл бұрын
Love thisss! I'm so determined to stay single this year because when the pandemic started, I just got out of a relationship and immediately began dating again, but being in those relationships suffocated me. I feel like I should be focusing on myself, working on myself, and healing, but I couldn't do all of that because, when choosing my actions and the things that I want to spend my time on, I have to consider how the other person would feel. That responsibility was too much for me at that time, so I knew I had to be alone for awhile and enjoy my own company. Now I feel so liberated, my family felt bad for me for staying home alone during valentine's day this year but I assured them that I'll be fine. I bought myself chocolates, chips and beer then I binged-watched romcom movies 😌
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
LOVE THAT FOR U!!!
@headspace3449 Жыл бұрын
I feel embarrassed when I realize how clingy I was to a person who never actually valued me... How to overcome this embarrassment?
@solchodaseewicz4584 25 күн бұрын
Accept it. Validate the fact that you were sensitive enough to fall in love with somebody who didn't deserve it. You may feel embarrassed, but there's nothing more beautiful than actual true feelings for somebody. You gave it to that person and they didn't accept it. Not your problem. You were real and congrats to you, not everybody can offer so much to another person.
@riyaa88 Жыл бұрын
the fact that this lovely girl genuinely wants all those things for people out there is so heartwarming!!
@valerijastorozenko4075 Жыл бұрын
This has been my favourite video for the past few days. As soon as I feel that I begin slipping up again emotionally, I press play and oh my god. This is gold in my ears and brain. Thank you! No other video (and I watched a lot) has made me feel confident and believe in myself and love myself. ❤️
@arjjjel9760 Жыл бұрын
This is so bomb. I probably need to rewatch this at least once a week 😂 Gotta absorb all the tips and real talk dang. Thanks for this!
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
🥰🥰🥰
@aarushidwivedi9716 Жыл бұрын
I've downloaded it too and watching since April 2023. April 2023 was kinda my golden month as I found this queen and got motivated about self healing and Growth. 🥰🥰🥰
@devonmariahjackson6493 Жыл бұрын
When I tell you this was very much needed. I’m about to turn 25 and I’ve always been single and it was getting to me really heavy. But after this video my wholeee mindset has changed💜💜
@Jazmine.x Жыл бұрын
Your story is exactly like me. Even i had this mindset in my adolescent but when i turned 22 everything changed after a toxic relationship and i am single since 1 year and i am only going in a relationship if a man knows how to keep a girl , not with someone who isn't even sure about his own self
@apala09 Жыл бұрын
I'm going through a heartbreak please could you share your experience. What helped you and how did you overcome it?
@apala09 Жыл бұрын
@@Joynzau that is such a wonderful perspective. Thank you. I hope you are doing better and I wish you a healthy life ahead too. I too realize that it's never too late to come back to yourself and as a person it's imperative to find my centre. Peace,Love and warmth your way :))
@amstephens2449 Күн бұрын
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@jodieleigh2888 Жыл бұрын
I’m exactly the same as the old you. It’s breaking me, but I’m in love with the thought of being a happy single and you give me so much hope and love❤
@moonlightxcv Жыл бұрын
45 SECONDS IN & YOU DESCRIBED MEEEEEE. I’ve been that way since I was 14…. I AM 27 NOW & just looking into self help sources bc I just recently became single & want to work on all of those flaws you mentioned. I’m only one minute in I can’t wait to see the rest!!!!
@roshianderson Жыл бұрын
I just found your channel and as a fellow brown woman I remember the days of thinking “my soulmate might be here” 😂 I’m married and a mom now and prior to becoming that I had to become the type of person I wanted to be with. I truly had to love myself and through that I made sure to date intentionally and not walk in anything that didn’t serve me. Instead of just being with a person I can confidentially say I’m happy because I found love through love ❤
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
Hahahah love that you can relate! Love the journey too❤️
@anonymous-yq4wc Жыл бұрын
Did you go through a h*e phase?
@Nonamenoneya Жыл бұрын
"Am I even ready for a relationship?" Once you started listing everything it was a beautiful reality check for me lol I'm thinking like in reality I actually do not think I am ready I think my "fantasy relationship" gets in the way of what relationships actually are. Really enjoyed the video you are beautiful and love your energy.
@mahiaggarwal6286 Жыл бұрын
This line have hit me hard: the other person have to choose you because you haven't chosen yourself. I'm new to your channel and subscribed 😀
@slenophile7107 Жыл бұрын
Now that's called a real influencer..who is real and genuine with her audience..Keep it up girl...Young girls need influencers like you❤
@gautam6405 11 ай бұрын
As a single guy, I liked your video. The points you mentioned in the video are correct and have really increased my morale. I was always rejected, and treated like shit. I became so obsessed to get female attention and compassion that I started to live life for others rather than living life for myself. I just forgot myself and felt depressed and lonely all the time. The 14:35 really was on point and resonated with my situation ( although, I am men). I am trying to work on myself, trying to change my life for the better. I hope I am able to be happy, able to change my life, and take care of my family to whom I am grateful, they always loved me unconditionally. PS: sorry for the bad English, if any.
@sarahbeeck377 Жыл бұрын
Tam, thank you so so so much for this video. I cried the whole time. I am 22 and have never been in a relationship. Although I am enjoying being single, there are moments when it is really hard to accept that I never experienced love like others. But everything in this video was what I really needed to hear. I feel more empowered now and understand many things as well. Thank you
@chelleaina5579 Жыл бұрын
this video felt like a slap in the face bc I've been brushing this off for so long💀 keep them comingggg💃
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
I gotchuuu🤣❤️
@Kookieeee2604 Жыл бұрын
This is exactly what i needed.. Just broke up with my long distance bf.. He was narcissistic omg he used to bodyshame me n be like i was joking u know i love u n i joke alot.. Like whattt? I've cried so much in that relationship m done wid his bullshtt... So m done wid him.. I wanna focus on myself now n if m lucky enough i will find someone who will love me the way I'm ☺💕
@gretchelfaye 7 ай бұрын
How are you now
@mea24palustre3 2 ай бұрын
Your not alone
@yashyashwanth5888 Ай бұрын
Having long boyfriend and saying he is narcisstic.girl you are being brainwashed by this video
@Sakshibarapatre26 10 күн бұрын
Same even in my relationship my ex bodyshame me like I am ugly and then he says he was joking with😒
@Kookieeee2604 10 күн бұрын
@@gretchelfaye hey thank you for asking well I'm lil better
@thatgirl4927 9 ай бұрын
It's been a month since I broke up with my bf . This video really helped me to get clarity and hope for better future
@lovetrustandpixiedust Күн бұрын
this is the fourth time i'm watching this video and truly this is a timeless reminder to love your life the way it is (or change the narrative if you don't). thank you, tam, for being such a positive light in this world and sharing your tips with us!
@tetegentille1887 Жыл бұрын
Such a smart intelligent woman we appreciate you
@performingqueen2022 8 ай бұрын
This is so inspiring for someone like me who is going through a lot of insecurities! Gurl, I literally gotten goosebumps listening to you! It felt like you were sat in front of me as my best friend, motivating me, inspiring me to become my beestest version, and being my strength just by listening to your video! It is so impactful that your voice has reached to me! And it made me feel so good hopeful and positive hearing you! You have given me a boost and I so needed to hear this so Thank you so much! You've made my day with this! I just became your fan! God bless you! ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for such a informative inspirational video!
@elenamaria.gls_csm Жыл бұрын
I discovered your KZfaq channel a week ago and now I am addicted😂 Thank you so much for helping me soooo much!! Sending you love from Paris❤
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
Soooo cool!! THANK U ☺️
@Soft.Catnip Жыл бұрын
i have been watching your videos like crazy lately and i am so thankful for your content. i genuinely was in a really bad mindset and didnt know how to feel better, yet your advice and relatability has helped me so much
@kardelen9574 Жыл бұрын
I love that you’re just so straightforward about all this. And it’s all so true and so important to realise that at the end if the day you always have yourself. No one needs a man to take you out on a date or buy you flowers. That’d be the bare minimum a guy could do and it’s not something to over romanticise. It’s lovely and of course it makes us happy but it’s definitely not something that should impress you so much that you might think he’s an absolute prince. I’m currently so proud of my learning progress even though I sometimes take a step back but that’s completely fine but as for today I’ll take myself out on a coffee date and read my book that I recently bought! Thank you so much for this video!!
@elliah7438 Жыл бұрын
Girl, you don't know how much I love you !!! Your videos are so straight to the point and life changing.
@Cry4theSun Жыл бұрын
I tend to be very prone to feeling lonely. I need to learn to embrace being alone instead of feeling lonely. This video is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks!!!💛
@Longpotato_ Жыл бұрын
One day , i will be content with myself and have that high self love and self confidence just like you 🥰 i really admire u girl !
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
You got this. 🥰
@Longpotato_ Жыл бұрын
@@tamkaur thank you !!
@yuka5464 Жыл бұрын
I am 15 Year old and I sometimes take myself out on a date too I feel like I'm in a area of confidence right now 😊 thank you your my favorite 😊
@natashanaples 9 ай бұрын
I love that you give actual actionable STEPS and talk us through exactly how to accomplish these topics. I feel like there are a lot of creators nowadays that just give motivational advice but don't tell you *how* to actually go about getting results, so thank you so much.
@muthiatamiraeldri8355 9 ай бұрын
REALLY. I need a friend like you
@SwaranjeetKaur-nk6ur 9 ай бұрын
I got my answers without asking to anyone after watching your videos. Thnk uhh❤
@brunotoby4493 15 күн бұрын
Thank you for being brutally honest, I really needed this
@mahal-rania 9 ай бұрын
i don’t usually like videos but this one was so so good! i gave everything to my ex and i’ve been feeling terrible since he broke up with me for days but this really helped me change my mindset. thank you so much!!
@embracem7722 5 ай бұрын
Im a straight male but I found such great value and relatability in your video. I appreciate your bluntness and thank you from the bottom of my heart. Even if you dont see this comment. Especially when you talked about everyones timelines are different.. and how some people get tested earlier etc.. in my case I have been single all my life. Im 28.5 now, maybe Ive been focusing too much on something that I don't need right now. I should build my best self.. I just envy the guys who have girls in their 'DMs' I guess. It is loneliness. Thank you & wish everyone else the best.
@ashiyanakapoor7405 Жыл бұрын
Your channel is what we females were looking forward to but couldn't get any help because people don't talk about self love in such details and how it's important for you to detach urself from the world.... And attach with the UNIVERSE ✨ ... Also, I am finding it as a therapy for myself ... You're honest and powerful and beautiful... Much power and love to you 💗
@eugnegirl2999 Жыл бұрын
i was once struggle to go through this journey and i ddnt know how others can do it so easily. but now after my last relationshp with my ex, its just click to me. i prioritize myself in every single time. i start to watch mvies that i love! i start to buy flowers that i love! and i dont mind other people business. i stop care if i find a men or not bcse the journey of loving yourself was just so beautful and peaceful than being in the drama getting my heart break. and its true that my standard getting higher. for those that are struggle finding their ways, dont worry sooner or later you will get there ❤ just trust yourself
@bbyliiaz Жыл бұрын
i just found your videos a few days ago- everything you are saying is exactly what I need to hear right now. thank you so much ❤
@mansijain3666 Жыл бұрын
I love you girl! You’re so good. I recently found your channel and it’s so motivating and is helping me get back on track. I’m a very ambitious and self reliant person, but sometimes when life gets hard, you need a pick-me-up, and your videos are just doing that for me. Please keep posting more and more videos.. looking forward to a lot more motivational content from you 😊❤️
@molly8070 10 ай бұрын
The hardest part is being alone. I’ve tried to find other women to be friends with but then it turns into them trying to find me a partner or going out was revolved around finding a man or getting male validation. I really would just like to form a community of girls but it’s been hard being on my own since moving to a different state and not having my close friends around me. I just desire connections even it is platonic.
@kritikaboola7844 28 күн бұрын
Oh my god! I love how EVERY SINGLE WORD kicked me in the heart and made me realise self sufficiency. I really needed this today.
@jainejane107 Жыл бұрын
This video couldn't have come at a better time!! Absolutely lavved!!
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
Perfect! ❤️
@dariawasilewska8579 Жыл бұрын
I love the way you are! yes, I am in the process to get myself out of comfort zone over and over again, this is the purpose of life itself, and it's WORTH IT... and you are just AMAZING, have no words to describe! 🔥✨
@lolicdia 7 ай бұрын
This video helped me calm down from three different panic attacks, the good vibes this woman has are in a different level
@user-xr3ms5yb4i Жыл бұрын
I love this😍😍, I was literally taking notes of everything you said, I really needed this talk and you really helped me to feel better and be happy single💗💗💗
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️❤️
@unaestrekka4338 Жыл бұрын
I loveee this. You gave so much value girl and thank you so much for sharing your experience ❤
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
❤️❤️
@bonitabelle3336 Жыл бұрын
i was clinging on someone who don't care if I'm gon💔 I'm taking notes from you your words are awakening sobbing heavily thankyou so much ♥️❤️
@millym9414 Жыл бұрын
This was good. I’m to be divorced soon and even at the age of 48 this hit home. Sometimes I envy the younger generations as you all have so much access to information that we didn’t have in the 90s…. Mental health and self-care was not a thing when I was in my 20s and 30s but when I was in my late teens, I would do a lot of things alone and loved it but at the same time I always needed to be validated by a guy - that line in the movie eat, pray love, when Julia Roberts says that she never really had a moment to herself because it was always a guy involved is real for me…..I’m just glad that I am at least getting to this mindset now. Ageism is real and I know a lot of people my age or who are divorced could really use this. Thank you for this video it helped me today.
@terriwatson9151 8 ай бұрын
Same.
@whatdeyadoes Жыл бұрын
I definitely feel the second point you made. So I just turned 29, I’m a travel nurse and I love the experience of traveling and coming & going as I please. I make good income so I am able to splurge on myself bc of the fact that I don’t have a family to feed. I’m able to vacay & travel bc I don’t have a husband or kids waiting on me. I know one day this will be taken from me. So I try to enjoy my “selfish years”. However, my younger sibling recently got engaged and I constantly feel judged by family and strangers and being asked when I will be getting married, AS IF I KNEW? I’m not in control of that. So lately I’ve been feeling unhappy but I realized it’s because other people want me to be in a relationship when I’m actually happy. But I think because of my age (late 20s) and my Hispanic heritage it’s almost like it’s not a blessing at my age anymore regardless of how happy I am with my current self. I wish ppl would just mind their own business and let ppl live their lives. Also one of my exes got married and on social media his life looked sooo good. The big house, the fancy car, the baby shower etc. turns out he has Been and continues to cheat on his wife this whole time. I know bc he confessed to me and tried making me a mistress after he married her. Don’t believe everything you see ladies.
@Pranjalirai. 5 ай бұрын
I PERSONALLY LOVED EVERY SINGLE YOU SAID IN THIS VIDEO. I'M MOVED ON, I REALISED MY STANDARDS ARE SO HIGH AND MY YOUNGER SELF WOULD NEVER WANT TO LOWER THAT FOR A MAN. THANKYOU SO MUCH. YOU'RE MY PERSONAL FAVOURITE
@melaninqueen2413 Жыл бұрын
I really appreciate this video so much! I'm turning 23 next month and the pressure gets worse. My good friend of 6+ years, who's 19, just got into a relationship. Since 2020, I personally know 10+ couples, including a cousin I don't like, who have gotten married and few started a family. They're all around my age. That's what makes it harder. I don't want a relationship right now and I know I'm not ready for one just yet. I know after college, I want to move back to the northern region of the USA by the age of 25, and start settling down. It all just happened to fast, one after the other and out of nowhere! Although I was invited to a few weddings over zoom, I stopped viewing because it reminds me of what I possibly could not have. People tell me it will happen because of how I am and how "pretty" I am, but we'll see. Thanks again for posting this!
@vanessa32101 Жыл бұрын
Cant wait to watch this Tam!! I love your channel so much💗
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
thanks girl!! 🥰
@calistaj2284 Жыл бұрын
Tam is literally the definition of being happy single.
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
🥺🥺🥺
@lucypalacios1364 3 ай бұрын
This was exactly the big sis pep talk I needed to hear. Thank you so much.
@Sunshine26762 4 ай бұрын
I needed this😭 Thank you!✨
@oo_mony2421 Жыл бұрын
I was happy being single and too independent but since last two months, one mf came into my life and destroyed. So, I’m building it again after break up. It’s kinda hard but gonna make it🤞🏻
@nikitaraut1870 Жыл бұрын
Hey going through breakup and this video really helping me! Thank you girl♥️
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
You got this!
@annette9362 11 ай бұрын
Your channel is a godsend to me at this moment. I’m 22 and I’m literally you from 2019 rn and I could definitely use this advice.
@sunkissedchaos 11 ай бұрын
I got chills on “let go & be detached” This was the shake up I needed to hear. I’ve been the type of person to let someone in unless they give me reason not to. Sometimes a first impression is enough. I didn’t listen at times when my gut had screamed at me to let a person or situation go. Thank you sm, Tam. You’re brilliant & a breath of fresh air. xx
@InvestHerPodcast Жыл бұрын
Yesss !! I love this video , needed to hear this , thank you ❤
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! 💝
@VINAYKASHARMA Жыл бұрын
I always used to think this way, I am glad someone else also has the same perspective I am new to your channel and loved your energy ✨💕
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
Awesome! Thank you!
@PoojaMishra-zt3ck 9 ай бұрын
This level of Maturity and Understanding! Hats off.
@Luver2196 11 ай бұрын
THANK YOU A LOT FOR THIS, I LOVE YOUR ENERGY💗
@shainoorshaikh210 Жыл бұрын
2023 is 100K success for you, u go girl.👏🕺
@theresafinnegan9671 Жыл бұрын
I needed this, thank you Tam❤️
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
So glad! Xx
@obscureinternet7506 Жыл бұрын
The face I googled "how to stop being alone' should be sad enough. But your advice was great. Thank you
@anushkakalebere3385 Жыл бұрын
Thankyouuuu so very much for thisss!!!✨💓💓
@meafrancesca840 Жыл бұрын
Luv this! Also u look like a real life Princess Jasmine and u have that fierce confidence she has too✨
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
too kind, thanku!!! Xx
@jaymoney31153 8 ай бұрын
i’ve been saying this to so many girl i lovee this video 🤍
@kreativnestvari1298 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!! Tomorrow I'm gonna go on a date with myself! 😌💕
@tamkaur Жыл бұрын
Have fun! ❤️🥰
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