How to Be Assertive at Work WITHOUT Being Aggressive (Be Assertive NOT Aggressive)

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How to Be Assertive at Work Without Being Aggressive // Do you want to know how to be assertive not aggressive when you communicate? It can be difficult to know the difference between being assertive and being aggressive. Some people make the mistake of assuming they're being assertive when actually they're actually being aggressive. Then others think they're being aggressive when in reality, they're just being assertive.
How to be assertive without being aggressive is important to understand, especially for workplace communication. The last thing you want to do is communicate in an aggressive way to your boss! So in this video, I go through all you need to know about assertive communication and aggressive communication.
You will learn the difference between being assertive and aggressive. You will know the guidelines for assertive communication. And at the end of the video, I share examples so you can see different ways of communicating the same thing in an assertive way and aggressive way.
By the end of this video, you will know exactly how to be assertive without being aggressive.
Timestamps:
00:00 How to be assertive without being aggressive
00:37 Aggressive vs Assertive
03:05 Guidelines to Be More Assertive
03:16 Guideline #1
04:09 Guideline #2
05:04 Guideline #3
06:00 Guideline #4
07:11 Examples of assertive vs aggressive
09:51 Assertive Communication Skills Masterclass
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@blahbloop6310 11 ай бұрын

3:51 great tips for the most part. But this part is actually not true at all. Believe it or not, some people will still find a way to argue with you and ramp up the emotions even if you meet them with facts. No matter how politely you state them. It's important to remember that even if you do everything right on your end, it can still go terribly wrong.

@banderas2000 23 күн бұрын

Yes well if you are firm and believe what you say most people will respect it. Unless someone is physically trying you test you you have to let them know sometimes. This is what is true or this is what I believe, and Wtf are you going to do about it? Look them dead in the eye. Only defend yourself if need be but even the example is defending your position.

@Brenda-ny1gw 18 күн бұрын

Absolutely haha most people are experts gaslighters

@PinkYellowGreen2023 9 ай бұрын

So glad I'm not an aggressive communicator. I do not attack nor transfer hostility at all. I'm confident. I'm self assured.

@nelleo2507 11 ай бұрын

I really love that Kara gives examples which is absolutely helpful. That’s why I always binge watch her videos ❤

@kararonin 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@EssieBMusic 10 ай бұрын

This is the best video I have come across to explain the difference between assertiveness and aggression. Thank you so much for making this video! It has helped me so much.

@kararonin 10 ай бұрын

You're so welcome!

@hichamchemaly Ай бұрын

1- Use facts not emotions 3:18 2- Be specific not vague 4:11 3- Be curious not parochial 5:06 4- Be confident not dominating 6:02

@binhhuynh1471 8 ай бұрын

I’ve been searching for videos like this for a while, thank you so much

@rparpa4189 Жыл бұрын

I like that you start by pointing out the different perspectives of how some could think they're assertive when they're aggressive and how some might think you're aggressive for being assertive.

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

I'm glad this resonated with you.

@wyc2462 Жыл бұрын

I like your speech. It's very accurate and clean. Also, the knowledge from this video is powerful. It's kind of like Carnegie and Psychology. It's really useful. Part 3 Example 1 Aggressive Boss: I can't believe you make another mistake in this presentation, If we don't get this client because of your incompetence. Employee: To destroy me will not change this situation. Now, Let's face the truth. If you are nice to me. Will it happen? If I can stay a comfortable zone I can do it more better. With your blame, the result is what you had now.

@assertiveme9406 Жыл бұрын

Very clear examples and so many good points, plus easy to understand. It’s interesting how assertive communication comes from confidence and it promotes confidence in others. Unlike aggressive communication which can lower the other persons self-esteem. Thank you for the video!

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Great point about aggressive communication! Thanks for watching!

@PaulaAndreaGaviriaMarmolejo 11 ай бұрын

Oh you would be surprise at the amount of people that will deny the truth

@atwinemugume Жыл бұрын

Tone of value, thank you. Im smashing that subscribe button.

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Fantastic to hear!

@olakunleesther3070 3 ай бұрын

Thank you, so explicit and interesting.

@sunvaj6754 8 ай бұрын

Very powerful lesson! Thanks Kara.

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

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@Marcus-gi4jb Жыл бұрын

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@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kind words!

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@halasalah6375 8 ай бұрын

Thanks Kara, I liked the examples. It was useful 👌🏻

@poonamtambe6605 Ай бұрын

Great Tips thanks for sharing ❤🙂💐

@David-jb5dv 2 ай бұрын

So useful. Thanks

@asiaisabellaa 2 ай бұрын

Helpful

@kimzeck9827 Жыл бұрын

Great video, thanks very much for sharing ❤

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@PatrickSingsASong Жыл бұрын

thank you 🙂

@AmitMahajan83 2 ай бұрын

You are amazing, great video

@abdulwahidalmaghrib Жыл бұрын

You're awesome. ❤❤❤

@lupeclaros9965 Жыл бұрын

Great

@fatimaaah936 Жыл бұрын

❤Thank youuuu.. kindly make on making such videos . Your videos are excellent and helping me understand my communication pattern and improve it

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to hear that. Thank you!

@azzyyy734 Жыл бұрын

I'll try to put it on my agenda.

@anujjaiswal7640 Ай бұрын

It’s really a valuable for me

@ratimiras Жыл бұрын

Fantastic insight! Greetings from Ratimira, Zagreb, Croatia!

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Thank yoU!

@HenriquesPiresDumboManue-hx1sq Жыл бұрын

Thanks thanks thanks...

@ahmedkamell972 Жыл бұрын

I'm really impressed with your helpful tips you are amazing 👏

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

@landmindssoul4636 Жыл бұрын

Ty.

@fahim28031 11 ай бұрын

I like it

@MariaSantana-ul5wd 7 ай бұрын

Good information. However, in a work environment with high narcissism, some will react to anything that is communication very badly. Often, it comes as a covert counterattack.

@jeremiahsk8nsurf174 6 ай бұрын

I agree. To a narcissist, any kind of disagreeing is combative to them. Whether family or work

@faisalabbas9803 5 ай бұрын

Thanks a lot kara to give me a wonderful advice while speaking with other we no need to being offensive but with An assertive way we can convey our message to other because when we become offensive during speaking out hasnd gesture body style all is changed that is Not good .,🌹

@Sayanji1 6 ай бұрын

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@olive-yello 4 ай бұрын

This. This video. This is it.

@fly2006 Жыл бұрын

I just found your channel today and really like what you do, I wish I had known you when I started as a leader a couple of yrs ago. I have a question for you and I put it here under the most recent video. I used to lead different teams for years but went back to the expert track a year ago. This was not a decision against leadership but for the topics I was able to work with. However, I feel as if my people & leadership skills are falling asleep because I use them less. Furthermore, I am starting to resent my management and team leader for not being good managers and leaders. With my own knowledge and experience it is more and more difficult not to be frustrated with the situation. Do you have any advise to handle this without stepping over the line? Thank you!

@tracisimpson03 9 ай бұрын

Any updates?

@user-kx6ml3dl2w 6 ай бұрын

You can avoid unpleasant situation in some degree by assertive approach, but sometimes is better to give idiots the only language that they can understand truly. Also everything you've said is true, but depends on environment! For example everybody today in higher intellectual corporations know what is behind assertive complaining or remark. That shit doesn't pass easily, and it is easily interpreted as artificial communication. Nobody is stupid enough not to read hidden agenda. In that cases it is just waste of time, or sometimes it can be even contra productive, but is very good for bosses to maintain distance and not to involve in unpleasant situations, like giving someone knowledge in polite way that they are going to lose job or to give someone hard time for getting late to a meeting like you said etc. It is also the great part of passive aggressions behaviors. So fuck assertiveness, be a good and honest person at first place, and speak like it is ! But yeah, honesty, honor, truth etc., words that don't mean shit in todays society...(that is more difficult than to practice way of communication) instead lets act assertiveness

@yatendrasoni9588 Жыл бұрын

thanks for improv. my skills from india

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

@Youssef.A.A 19 күн бұрын

i really wanted to know some examples regarding stating the facts tip like what do u mean exactly cuz i couldn't understand it well

@darwinponcecano4662 Жыл бұрын

Aa, aggressive comes from negative feeling in short and then assertive comes from the positive outlook

@kararonin Жыл бұрын

Spot on!

@1432amer 3 ай бұрын

Heck, this can work for kids too.

@wcf6264 11 ай бұрын

It sounds like an invitation to make them invent an excuse which if they had, would of said proactively .

@asifmuniruniverse7732 Жыл бұрын

Actually my attitude of communication change with peoples behair

@vijinvidyadharan1161 Жыл бұрын

🎉

@jameswhite937 Жыл бұрын

Most people suck !!! That's people ! You know people suck ! I'll keep trying though Stay out the way ! Thank you.

@Humblentough 2 ай бұрын

Feelings don't think.

@martinetellerandet8566 8 ай бұрын

some how i get a feelng that the first examples are passive aggressive and not assertive. like "your late 3 times do you have an explanation.. " what about i see you being late 3 times, i feel concerned, because i need order, are you willing to come on time? but otherwise great

@anlla3 9 ай бұрын

Liked the video but some of the suggestions came across as passive aggressive in my opinion.

@johnkennedy1242 3 ай бұрын

Why would you offer to work on your idea with somebody who just stole your idea ? They'll just continue to take credit for it. They stole your idea, keep away from them !!

@olandofuller5588 Жыл бұрын

We in a day when being assertive is offensive. Half the nation working at home and the rest getting a government check. Those that are left are burnt out or lazy because jobs just want a body. I'll keep trying to be assertive but aggressive might be needed sometimes.

@Christophtov 8 ай бұрын

Aggression is necessary….with our leaders

@emilyrose2844 5 ай бұрын

maybe you have aggression issues already? every person on this planet can benefit from learning to regulate their own emotions. the government is forcing people to work 40+ hr weeks to only pay bills, so yes people are burnt out when their wages aren’t increasing, but costs are. think about others and their perspective first, don’t resort to aggression. work on yourself for the good of everyone, including you.

@kyesickhead7008 7 ай бұрын

Huh Most humans lie when you try to be sincere, and "understanding"... There has to be a faster way.

@daahircabdiguleed4270 Жыл бұрын

To Dear coach Please I Apologizing my well trainer karanina and her coach , I 'll not make that mistakes again I want say please please both of you excuse me again With your student Daahir cabdi Guleed

@Saved070707 2 ай бұрын

Your examples are extremly poor, your first one was not agressive, it was abusive, your second example was not assertive" I notice there is another mistake in your presentation,..."? That is agressive, only you put a smile on your face.

@mattramirez9579 2 ай бұрын

This is stupid

@serena_collins 10 ай бұрын

This is soo good! 🥲 I grew up being a very timid and very vague communicator thinking being direct = aggressive. Now I just signed up for the Assertive Communication Skills Masterclass and am so excited to learn a new way of being! Thanks Kara! 😄🌱#growthgoals #excited

@kararonin 10 ай бұрын

I can relate to the communication style you grew up using. I'm so happy this video gave you some insights into direct communication. And thank you for enrolling in the Assertive Communication Skills Masterclass!!!