How To Control Your Emotions & Become Mentally Strong

How To Control Your Emotions & Become Mentally Strong - Dr K HealthyGamer (4K)

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Dr K is a psychiatrist, Harvard Medical School instructor, co-founder of Healthy GamerGG, Twitch streamer and a KZfaqr.
Humans face a predicament that has never been seen before, a massive overload of stimulation. The effect of constant exposure to social media, video games, and porn is not good, but thankfully Dr K has developed a ton of powerful ways to finally take back control of your attention.
Expect to learn what social media is doing to our brains, how much we can attribute the mental health crisis to screens, why anxiety and depression are so prevalent, how to let emotions into your life more, why therapy so often sucks for men, why high profile KZfaqrs are quitting, how to separate your self-worth from your accomplishments and much more...
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00:00 What is Technology Doing To Our Brains?
07:28 How to Deal With Shame
14:56 The Terrifying Survival Feature of Trauma
18:40 Why Anxiety is So Prevalent Today
27:27 How to Deal Better With Emotions
33:40 Opening Up About Your Feelings
37:38 Can You Have Too Much Self-Awareness?
45:28 The Antidote to a Distracted Mind
50:57 Learning About Your Own Thoughts
55:28 How to Do Well in Therapy
1:02:41 Why Therapy Sucks for Men
1:15:42 How Important is Talking for Men?
1:20:32 A Better Movement for Masculinity
1:25:56 Why KZfaqrs Are Quitting
1:41:31 Stop Moving the Goalposts
1:54:54 What Does it Mean to Dissolve Ego?
2:05:38 Where to Find Dr K
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@ChrisWillx 2 ай бұрын

Hello you savages. Get up to 32% discount on the best supplements from Momentous at livemomentous.com/modernwisdom. Get 50% off your first box, and 20% off your next box of Factor Meals by going to factormeals.com/mw50 and use code mw50 at checkout. Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first box at www.drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Here's the timestamps: 00:00 What is Technology Doing To Our Brains? 07:28 How to Deal With Shame 14:56 The Terrifying Survival Feature of Trauma 18:40 Why Anxiety is So Prevalent Today 27:27 How to Deal Better With Emotions 33:40 Opening Up About Your Feelings 37:38 Can You Have Too Much Self-Awareness? 45:28 The Antidote to a Distracted Mind 50:57 Learning About Your Own Thoughts 55:28 How to Do Well in Therapy 1:02:41 Why Therapy Sucks for Men 1:15:42 How Important is Talking for Men? 1:20:32 A Better Movement for Masculinity 1:25:56 Why KZfaqrs Are Quitting 1:41:31 Stop Moving the Goalposts 1:54:54 What Does it Mean to Dissolve Ego? 2:05:38 Where to Find Dr K

@MC-ze8wj 2 ай бұрын

Could you interview Abigail Shrier about her new book "Bad Therapy" Love the podcast, thanks!

@cbpostservice 2 ай бұрын

11:00 You are stating completely that emotions are not valid. That is a dangerous and wrong statement. How does someone know LOVE if they ignore their emotions? It's not about turning off emotions. It's not about devaluing emotions. It's about learning with your emotions, and each person is different and so is their spectrum of emotions and you will never be able to write a book that "fixes" everyone's problems for them, nor will you ever be able to make a prescription medicine to "fix" their problems. I wish psychiatrists would understand this more. You're all looking creepy when you're trying to teach people to basically be mentally UNHEALTHY.

@danielangelmelgarejosolis6356 2 ай бұрын

should have Buyng Chul han, his book "Tired society" it's just mindblowing on the efect of technology. This is not an era of viral diseases but Neurological ones, he says.

@HalfJapMarine 2 ай бұрын

The idea is not to kick someone when they are down. Benzos are fucked up and Jordan should have massive amounts of empathy for addicts because their struggles mirror his but he doesn't. He still exists in his shame bound persona. He is shameless because he is shameful. He needs to feel his shame in order to recognize his ego/false persona. Call it a moral grey area but humanity needs to awaken to its shame in a big way so they can be human. Where does war come from?

@kevinkurgansky4479 2 ай бұрын

@@HalfJapMarineare you implying and/or making the assertion that war comes as a result of (unrecognized / disowned) shame? Might be a gross simplification of multiple overlapping reasons as some are largely rooted in money and resources or control of ideology but yes if it’s ultimately a fragile ego state that’s running the show and captaining the ship, so to speak, then yes, I guess you can say that it’s ones shame that drives us to act out and/or kill / conquer. For some, there’s also a motivator for a “will to power” as Adlers psychology talks about. Whereas Freuds philosophy was a will to pleasure. And viktor frankls was a will to meaning. And they’re all right in their own way.

@HealthyGamerGG 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for having us and for the incredible conversation 💚 Truly unforgettable!

@jc-jg9pp 2 ай бұрын

absolutely love you guys, so glad we get a second episode

@bakedpotatoes5545 2 ай бұрын

This was an amazing podcast!

@ErikT2002 2 ай бұрын

We need more pls.❤

@user-me9vk8df6p 2 ай бұрын

I literally just watched this just to make sure that im doing 'it' properly, and im really glad it's confirmed. Thanks man

@F3ND1MUS 2 ай бұрын

❤

@dillbaker 2 ай бұрын

modern wisdom is playing chess while other podcast productions are playing checkers. I appericate how much Chris cares about the viewers experience.

@AlmightyScorchy 2 ай бұрын

Checkers is pretty fun too ngl

@mumblaff 2 ай бұрын

@@AlmightyScorchyno, that’s just an escape from the true game of life, which is chess. If you’re not scheming on how to win from every angle at every moment can you say you’re really striving to evolve into a mega Chad like me? (All sarcasm) pls can we all just enjoy what we enjoy and not stand on watching videos like these as some kind of superior experience

@7ShadowMaiden7 2 ай бұрын

Mind of a CEO podcast also plays chess, both great podcasts!

@harrycampbell7594 2 ай бұрын

then youre watching the wrong podcasters , alex o'connor , CosmicSkeptic is his channel is a good recommendation , diary of a ceo podcast , everyone knows huberman the man himself , tetragrammaton by rick rubin and startalk by neil degrasse tyson , all objectively great podcasts and interviewers with the best and most interesting guests

@Dave_of_Mordor 2 ай бұрын

@@mumblaff the true game of life is poker. You do the best you can with the hand you're dealt with

@ronjohnson557 2 ай бұрын

Dr. K is the best thing to come to KZfaq in the last 10 years. So much free education. Thanks Doc!!!

@tonegoober 2 ай бұрын

Agreed, he rocks

@jimgarcia2468 2 ай бұрын

came to comment that but you already did.

@juniperstardust5549 2 ай бұрын

He's the Yogananda of our century

@simonebenitozzi2892 2 ай бұрын

Advising kids to take pills? I'm not sure about that

@jocen3 2 ай бұрын

@@simonebenitozzi2892 When did he do that? Please give one concrete example. I challenge you to find one.

@rossjbolla 2 ай бұрын

Chris and Dr. K laughing at the Indian accent and about getting cancelled was the most wholesome moment I've seen on a podcast in a long time hahaha

@Beingthankful 2 ай бұрын

Hahaha me too i laughed so hard

@kimchimasala Ай бұрын

As a fellow ethnic Indian and a doctor, I promise you I found it equally if not even more hilarious

@bushi7952 Ай бұрын

40:00

@loveinthevalley Ай бұрын

So good

@KylarLp Ай бұрын

breath through the cancellation had me dying . it was so perfect

@StrayVistaStudios 2 ай бұрын

This is the way. Was an honor hosting this production!

@adamwall7852 2 ай бұрын

Congrats on having them! That’s awesome!

@Pytliczello 2 ай бұрын

Amazing work. I am usually not a person who pays attention to the details, but it looked amazing even on Smartfon screen.

@jukkariikonen5757 2 ай бұрын

I watched behind the scenes video. Absolutely spectacular studio environment! The crew was also so admirable 🙂

@jorgetinoco3574 2 ай бұрын

I love the background, you guys are awesome!

@florinandrei7342 2 ай бұрын

Amazing production! Love the cinematic feel! 🎥

@user-uh7cb3vy4v 2 ай бұрын

you know they speak the truth when listening becomes uncomfortable

@skadi6750 2 ай бұрын

I dunno man, Nazi recordings are pretty fricking uncomfortable:-D

@Gm-ce5kg 2 ай бұрын

@@skadi6750 nay it just sounds stupid

@abdelilhmanflores 2 ай бұрын

@@skadi6750the nazis arent truthful though? What are you trying to insinuate?

@shlosher 2 ай бұрын

@@skadi6750apples and oranges. There's a difference between feeling embarrassment for your own behavior being called out, and feeling disgust and hatred for evil rhetoric.

@Snuni93 2 ай бұрын

@@shlosher we shouldn't support mass factory farms because animals are getting tortured

@Texzy21 2 ай бұрын

“No no .. don’t feel the cancellations just breeaaath” Dr k always makes me ball out laughing man 😂

@navarre4717 2 ай бұрын

It was amazing and hilarious 😂

@youknownothing9556 Ай бұрын

Don’t fear*

@karanbisht7236 2 ай бұрын

As an Indian I feel proud and sad at the same time , why sad ? Because our heritage has so much practical knowledge and despite of that our education system is so colonised that we don't even hear of these things let alone studing about then And obviously i feel proud they my country has such rich heritage to solve modern issues. This is one of the best content pieces I have seen on KZfaq .

@berthibert Ай бұрын

I scrolled through the comment section for such a comment. Thank you for sharing! Even though I’m from Europe, I felt the same mixed feelings you are describing. So much conscious living has been lost due to the ego revolution in the west.

@prateek752 Ай бұрын

As an Indian, I want to say it is not just Indian culture that is being eroded(Frankly speaking Hindutva has helped retain some culture in India). But it is traditionalism throughout the world that is in decline. Be it Europe, US, even the middle East and of course ASEAN and East Asia. Nietzsche was right.

@karanmavi4793 Ай бұрын

I think it's best to feel proud because there's someone now teaching about it, we can learn as well and apply to our lives and help out others as much we can

@ceydayesilay5479 2 ай бұрын

'' Whatever you want to cultivate within you, keep within yourself '' Dr. K, Amazing !

@drmedwuast 2 ай бұрын

If there was only one takeaway, this is the one

@Ven-zg3fj 2 ай бұрын

I frankly dont get it. So like, dont share? Dont talk about yourself or what you want to do? I feel like this is casting too broad of a net.

@LearningKaizen 2 ай бұрын

Talking about doing something can sometimes feel like you've actually done it, but to truly cultivate that sense of accomplishment, just take action!

@LearningKaizen 2 ай бұрын

@@Ven-zg3fj here

@drmedwuast 2 ай бұрын

@@Ven-zg3fj That's what he says the research is saying. I find it difficult to imagine in practice, although I have indeed experienced the losing sight of a goal from talking about it

@RedRiveR97 2 ай бұрын

I’m so glad I deleted social media after high school, can’t even imagine how stuck some people are. Life so much simpler when you just live life and just do your best with what you got. No one can take that away from you

@BenLillegard 2 ай бұрын

Real question: what do you do for your news? I won’t watch any MSM because they all have agendas and put crazy spin on everything, I just want facts. I have found independent journalists in the past that were decent sources for the most part, but it requires staying connected to social media and I really want to break away completely.

@Zoned0ut123 2 ай бұрын

Exactly

@drewnelson8692 Ай бұрын

I'm right there with you brother

@Cyberpunk_Radio_PBS 29 күн бұрын

KZfaq is social media, look at us right now, being social, together online.. lol just FYI

@Quaffables 2 ай бұрын

This has been a great eye opener of a podcast. My wife passed away at the height of the pandemic and seeking any help was really difficult. We were both 32 at the time and I had never really experienced loss or trauma before. I tried grief shares, therapy, and in the end the only thing that seemed to help was exercise. Grief is a very difficult reality. I wish I understood just how much It pulls mental, emotional, and physical resources from you. The term “Grief Brain” is a very real side effect. The tiredness you experience from the emotional rollercoaster. The constant effort to be present and not miles away in grief laden thoughts. The immediate burnout that sets in from the whirlwind of life events just experienced. Just hearing or reading this small paragraph would of helped me SO MUCH in understanding the monster that grief really is and the fallout it creates. I know men don't like to share or open up, trust me, as a young widower, its really really difficult to find anyone to relate too. If your going through something, people do care, your not alone, and love is really the only way out of your circumstances. Love for yourself, gratitude, and patience. Great work Chris and Healthy Gamer!

@niftybaker5967 2 ай бұрын

I think his trauma guide would be an amazing resource once it’s out!!

@amampathak 2 ай бұрын

Hugs dude!

@purelife8559 2 ай бұрын

Wow I'm so sorry. Wish I could help ease your pain

@thestoebz 2 ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss young man

@user-sw2tt9nl8y 2 ай бұрын

Sorry for your lost dude

@dmarie2231 2 ай бұрын

Ignoring your emotions leads to chronic illness. I'm digging myself out of that right now.

@budoshi1981 2 ай бұрын

You got this

@myself2noone 2 ай бұрын

There's basically no good evidence to suggest that. In fact, I think the longest running study on happiness suggests the opposite. That a degree of emotional suppression is actually helpful.

@dmarie2231 2 ай бұрын

@@myself2noone I'm not going to get into my personal stuff, but I know it's true. I'm in a program specifically for fixing it and I've recovered 90%. I'm not talking about ignoring my emotions a little bit. I'm talking about half my life.

@myself2noone 2 ай бұрын

@@dmarie2231No, you don't. But whatever story you need to tell yourself, go for it.

@leadgenjay 2 ай бұрын

Dr. K's insights on the impact of technology on our brains are spot on. A lesser-known tactic to combat the negative effects is to schedule "tech-free zones" in your day, where you intentionally avoid screens and stimulate your mind with activities like reading or engaging in face-to-face conversations. This can significantly improve focus and mental well-being.

@francestaylor9156 2 ай бұрын

We did no tech Sunday for the whole family yesterday. It was tough but good for everyone. Going to continue it. I think it helps to figure out when you default to tech/screens and why.

@francestaylor9156 2 ай бұрын

It got so bad for my husband that he started watching Ring videos bc he so needed to watch TV/youtube at night to wind down lol.

@kieran368 2 ай бұрын

@@francestaylor9156 That sounds so good

@JoeARedHawk275 2 ай бұрын

@@renelovemetalYour comment is poorly written

@breakfastclosed 2 ай бұрын

@@francestaylor9156my dad does this too 😭😭

@JohnVandivier 2 ай бұрын

"Just because you don't feel it doesn't mean it doesn't exist" Dr K incredibly based

@The_Rubber_Duck 2 ай бұрын

That's what he said Sorry

@prointernetuser 2 ай бұрын

the sun shines in the morning, the sky is blue, rain is wet, Dr.K is based

@cwg9238 2 ай бұрын

why doesnt he give his full real name? his supposed credentials are unverifiable.

@whale4191 2 ай бұрын

@@cwg9238 Google is SO HARD

@user-ex5pg3oy9c 2 ай бұрын

@@cwg9238 lol what? He's simply searchable by this name. Real name is Alok Kanojia, if that helps you, and his KZfaq channel is @HealthyGamerGG, with the official licensed doctor thang under every video

@theyetti90 2 ай бұрын

This has actually been the most impactful episode I've seen.

@Dacrada 2 ай бұрын

"Now I am dissolved Ego, the Taker of Shits." In all seriousness, it pleases both heart and mind to see two Chads of improvement and aiming upward, join together to have a sublime conversation. Looking forward to more collaboration and overlap in the future.

@tonegoober 2 ай бұрын

This is like if the Joe Rogan show was good

@D_Jilla Ай бұрын

💀💀💀

@ZachMeador Ай бұрын

yeah chris is like +2 sigma over joe. love joe tho

@TyroneBiggums789 Ай бұрын

@@ZachMeadorcan you translate that in English?

@ZachMeador Ай бұрын

@@TyroneBiggums789 feed it into chatgpt

@ericschultz7097 Ай бұрын

Would love to listen to dr. K on joe rogan preferably on a good day for joe sometimes his podcasts are realy inconsistent. :/

@gabudaichamuda2545 26 күн бұрын

40:00 ABSOLUTE GOLD. Dr. K is both serious AND knows when to be comedic

@SANEnurse 2 ай бұрын

Dr K and Chris Williamson and next world cinematography is certified gold

@jacksoncrapuchettes 2 ай бұрын

Love that the "slow down on the screens" guy is on the first episode with a giant screen as the background. 💪

@tonegoober 2 ай бұрын

Lol, but in seriousness I think it’s more about what’s on the screens 🧐

@user-fi3jo8ek3z 2 ай бұрын

Just 10 minutes in and I had to pause the video to say this: Chris, this is a WORLD-CLASS production. Thank you for continually investing in mastering your craft. Your viewers appreciate it far beyond words can explain

@Thisisausername556 2 ай бұрын

Love the BTS of the screen and the room and everything! And love Dr. K back on!! Amazing work, Chris. Amazing.

@shoutatthesky 2 ай бұрын

BTS?

@Thisisausername556 2 ай бұрын

@@shoutatthesky Behind the scenes

@yessliveyourlife 2 ай бұрын

This is one of the best mental health podcast I’ve ever listened to. Gonna have to listen again and again because there’s just so much gold I need to let sink in and apply

@donna-marie9100 2 ай бұрын

I really needed to hear this. I went back to using Twitter in 2020 when the UK 🇬🇧 was in lockdown. It self-soothed me as I was also caring for my Mother who had Alzheimers. I realised I was getting addicted to my phone by 2021. It wasn't until Jan 2022 when I deleted my Twitter account, a month after my mother had died. I only watch certain KZfaq channels nowadays that I consider informative like Chris's channel, Jordan Peterson and some Christian channels. You guys are great. Thank you.

@Fressica_Rabbit 2 ай бұрын

I know you know this, but aren't missing anything, I was on Twitter yesterday and it's so depressing, people complaining, nothing's changed. You're so much better off. I need to find the courage to delete it.

@GorzFCD Ай бұрын

@@renelovemetalGet help asap, copy pasting the same non-sense everywhere .

@JayTalksinjury 2 ай бұрын

Litterally, just today, I had a conversation about children being taught meditation. As a 53 yr old with A.d.h.d. that has never had a quiet moment of thought. Both breathwork and meditation are giving me some peace . The sad part of a lot of keeping yourself healthy is free, and we have a healthcare system meant to keep you sick for profit.. I've told so many people about the show.. Thx Chris .

@zamrasul2628 2 ай бұрын

Bro i normally watch or listen to your podcast on my phone, but for this i literally went and open my laptop and put headphones on just to appreciate your hard work Keep it up brother!!!!!!!!!!

@davidwilliama.7296 2 ай бұрын

I was listening to this at work, but I want to relisten to take notes. This was a good discussion/interview.

@badabing7529 2 ай бұрын

YES! I could listen to you talk to Dr K for weeks. Please have him on as many times as you can think of questions to ask him. This is wonderful.

@verebgyorgy9307 2 ай бұрын

@Njmoreno22 2 ай бұрын

Such a good episode! That part about hypotheticals activating negative emotions but not the dopaminergic system…🤯

@Fressica_Rabbit 2 ай бұрын

Yesterday I was at the store and I got sad and pissed all in one because some POS put a rotisserie chicken on a regular shelf, letting it go bad. It upset me that a whole chicken was killed and some turd thought it ok to just waste this good food. I took it to the front and then later was mad at myself that I didn't just buy it and feed it to my dogs. I realize my emotions are too much, because they linger, at the same time, I don't want to be so detached that I don't give a damn about consideration and human kindnesses and most importantly GRATEFULNESS. I definitely needed this episode 😅😅

@tonygicz8 2 ай бұрын

Would be a good idea to not feed that to your dogs those rotisserie chickens have a bunch of salt and other added ingredients that aren't good for dogs. If you do give your dogs chicken or meat it's best to cook it without any seasoning just trying to be helpful 👍

@andreaspapakanellou3804 2 ай бұрын

Conscientiousness is a blessing and a curse. You seem like a kind soul, hope you find a balance between caring enough to do something and being wise enough to know your own limitations

@MylezNevison 2 ай бұрын

"It is never *THE ISSUE(the chicken)* that is your issue, *YOUR ISSUE(the anger)* is how you react and respond to the issue." - A course in Miracles Your issue is your anger, case in point; your usage of words like "some POS" , "some turd", "mad at myself" in the present tense illustrate that the anger is still with you and l bet it always has been before the chicken issue. I believe it was Jung who said our subconscious mind holds all our unresolved baggage which it tries to bring into our conscious mind to be resolved; and that one way it does this is through conflict (internal & external). The chicken scenario could very well be the conflict your subconscious self used to bring your anger issues to the surface of your conscious mind so that you could address them with a smaller conflict before/instead of a bigger conflict. Objectively nothing really gets wasted in this world because energy is never lost, it merely changes form. Thus, the chicken wasn't objectively a waste of "good food" because as biological organisms decompose, they become "good food" to other organisms and useful manure to the earth... When you look at the idea of "waste" in this way, you begin to see that your anger wasn't even rational in the grand scheme of reality/nature. If you address & resolve the internal anger directly, external situations won't trigger what is not there(in you). If you don't address it, it will colour ALL your experiences, big and small... Food for thought

@MylezNevison 2 ай бұрын

@@andreaspapakanellou3804 Bare in mind that conscientiousness could very well be a dressed up form of Control. The human ego often dresses up its need for/coping mechanism of control in positive & palatable terminology... What's the litmus test for this? It's fear, for wherever the ego seeks to control, there is always fear (which can manifest/be expressed in the form of anger).

@Ttyumbra 2 ай бұрын

@@MylezNevisonsheesh,so how do you directly face those emotions, those problems?. Do you go in a room, try to remember , what exactly do you do?

@AsuraTheBass 2 ай бұрын

Shut off my emotions for years as a coping mechanism, and honestly it makes life so much worse later on. Early on its so useful and amazing, no more emotional pain? No more sadness? Sign me up! Problem is eventually they come back, and its not like flipping a switch on; its like the emotional Dam you built exploded and had a catastrophic failure. As a result the city of "good" emotions and things you enjoy or dont feel bothered by gets destroyed. Suddenly youre an adult now and the lack of shame and guilt has led you to a place where its very hard to get out, and now you ARE feeling the shame and guilt and things that make you feel that way are all around you.

@steven99191 2 ай бұрын

I've loved Dr. K for years and this is one of the best podcasts I can remember. Keep killing it Chris, Modern Wisdom is truly becoming one of the premiere podcasts on Earth.

@minty000 2 ай бұрын

So happy you had Dr. K on. He is not only amazingly insightful and smart, but one can tell he has thought deeply about these subjects. I love how he brings ancient wisdom in. One of your best guests ever!

@dr.nandanpavithran3660 2 ай бұрын

“All you can do is action, you cannot achieve any result” That comes from the bhagavad gita - “You have the right to work only but never to its fruits. Let not the fruits of action be your motive, nor let your attachment be to inaction.”

@user-jf7zo6pq7s 2 ай бұрын

Dissolving the ego is a herculean task. Start with knowing that the ego is your tether to this world/reality. You need it in order to continue existing. It is a symbiotic relationship that sometimes gets out of balance af.

@MPKKAAS 2 ай бұрын

What a great episode! As someone who has had my first therapy session being a couples therapy session, with a female therapist, I can call myself lucky that she was extremely empathetic about how both my wife and I would be communicating and always making sure our points were mutually understood without giving any sort of judgement. What I especially liked was her ability to "translate" what we said and how we said it into what the other person needed to hear or even see. But to Dr K's point, we had spoken to 2 other couples therapists before that we had to pass on as it just didn't feel right. I only wish we had done it sooner (we are all good, but as Dr. K said, I was first against it as I thought we could handle it without the help of a therapist)... Fascinating stuff and I can only encourage more people to go into couples therapy!

@ender674 2 ай бұрын

This might be my favorite episode you’ve ever done. And not because of the dope screen. Great conversation dude, thank you.

@MarcCaladoFitness 2 ай бұрын

What an outstanding podcast. Every time I see Dr.K I learn so much about myself and I'm provided with new tools to better my life. Chris, thank you for being an excellent speaker and interviewer. Your conversational skills and honesty during the podcast makes it that much better.

@notbrad4873 2 ай бұрын

Glad you got Dr K on. Dude's doing important work. Really insightful.

@AFreakingAxeCH Ай бұрын

On the Accomplishments part I think Captain Picard said it best: "It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life"

@kailtis 2 ай бұрын

Never before have I felt so seen while at the same time given the knowledge and tools to free myself. Thank you for this infinitely valuable episode

@megafreshlemons 2 ай бұрын

Could have effortlessly listened to another 2 hours. Great conversations and questions. Thanks for having on one of my favorite people!

@jrxarrie 2 ай бұрын

Wow this is the best podcast I have ever watched about Psychology, Mental health and technology. Absolute master piece. Please do more collabs in the future like these!

@Keara113 2 күн бұрын

23:56 “What you give your attention to matters“ just got a much deeper meaning.

@day_tiger7981 2 ай бұрын

I have a challenge for everyone reading this: Try a kind of trataka but the thing you are staring at is your turned of phone lying before you and hold it as long as you can. Watch your impulses go wild. (At least for me it was pretty crazy)

@sebastiaanstok 2 ай бұрын

This episode was wild. Properly one of the best ever, the ego death part that hit hard.

@theandrewheuss 2 ай бұрын

Two of my favorite KZfaqrs collaborating! Looking forward to watching/listening. Thanks to both y'all for doing what you do.

@happytime2781 2 ай бұрын

40:05 I love Doktor K makes Chris laughing using his Indian accent 😂

@mTaR36S 2 ай бұрын

Dr K is a brilliant person ! So loved that he recognized your brilliance as well, Chris ! I will listen to this again. The amount of information was huge ! Thankyou

@BIGGELATO Ай бұрын

Kinda wish this was 4 hours...

@WhateverWasLeft 2 ай бұрын

The production value on this podcast is on another level. Love the background visuals, lighting, audio quality and obviously the content itself - all AAA+ stuff. Keep it up, Chris!

@robyn4427 2 ай бұрын

What a great conversation. Can’t wait to read the book- I have a 15 year old gaming son and am thrilled to have something aimed for parenting young men with Dr K’s insights.

@DailyWisdom-fw7xc 2 ай бұрын

Dr. K and the Platform of Chris ist just the perfekt match . the high lvl of his knowlege matches perfectly with chris high lvl of leading an conversation and asking the right stuff.. completing the thoughts.

@ivanmlinarevic1826 2 ай бұрын

Fellow 21:9 aspect ratio enjoyers, please press the like button to show Chris his efforts into providing an A+ viewing experience aren't going unnoticed.

@elibright767 2 ай бұрын

Two of my favorite intellectual influencers sitting down and dropping wisdom. What a treat.

@ntcarver 2 ай бұрын

The production quality on this is incredible. The aspect ratio on my phone, the lighting, the LED wall. Stunning. Not to mention one of my favourite educators Dr. K. Great episode guys!

@barto7490 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for the guidance Dr. K Very Respectfully, - Jon

@LifeofYuu 2 ай бұрын

Yes! Was waiting for this one!

@jinxedking 2 ай бұрын

I've listened to hundreds of podcasts rarely do I smile as big as I was when Dr. K kept going with the accent. Loved so much in this, thank you both.

@nickpalko9334 2 ай бұрын

This was by far the best interview you’ve done, Chris. Thank you so much for this. 🙏

@bluesyjazzcat31 2 ай бұрын

This was a great podcast. I know we’re not all doctors, but one time I read a Reddit post about a doctors being asked about how he handles the death of patients and he said “there are people who will live no matter what and there are people who will die no matter what and there’s nothing you can do to change that” so it was nice to see Dr. K break that downs in a way that we all can apply that to ourselves.

@TheStarrySky-sb9df 2 ай бұрын

This is gold. Thank you both for such a wonderful, insightful conversation.

@joshuaacevedo8231 2 ай бұрын

This podcast has actually changed my perspective on life. It’s very easy to say such things without visual and physical evidence of said change. But I cannot be anymore honest in my opinion. What Doc was saying about change in regards to technology cannot be anymore true to my experience in life. I have used KZfaq as an outlet to express emotional trauma without the human experience of digesting these emotions. This past year I have recognized this and began to take steps to resolve some of these issues. I have stopped smoking cannabis (weed) and began to start to notice the clarity in my mind. I no longer act out irrationally but I have been quiet and understanding. I feel MORE human than I have before, now, I am still struggling to put down my phone. But it safe to say that in the midst of company I no longer care for outside attention or distractions. I have been more present, pleasant and understanding than I have been in the past 3 years. And as I write this I’m crying because I never thought I could write or speak so fluently because of my constant self medication. If there is anything to remember about us as a species, we are self healing and love vacillating beings with no boundaries or barriers. Que Dios te bendiga mi gente❤

@fuffywawas2382 2 ай бұрын

Absolutely stunning production! Great work, Chris. Love the connection you have with the people you bring on and the care you have for the audience. 👍

@immarudamu4508 2 ай бұрын

My Favorite podcaster meets favorite therapist! Cant wait to watch this 10 times!

@dend1 2 ай бұрын

13:40 trauma fix 14:30 schema automatic thoughts, narcissistic ego defensive mechanisms, influence behavior 17:05 Reality vs survival 1:14:15 Shame towards your wins > turning them into losses = drinking poison towards your life 1:47:10 Comparisons are a fallacy, The Wonder of U 1:49:08 Self worth vs Accomplishment: Judge yourself by your actions, not your outcomes 1:56:00 A judgement by someone elses mind is not reality A judgement by your own mind is not reality Thoughts are not reality 1:57:00 How people treat you is not what you are, it's how people treat you. What and who you are is separate from how people treat you. Two different things..trauma needs to understand this...conclusion 1:57:40 Whatever comparison or thoughts or negative ego you endure, dissolve it by acknowledging that we all take shits 1:59:00 ,The nature of pleasure vs accomplishment and ego damage from attaching oneself to outcomes rather than actions is one of the main paths of pain in life 2:01:00 Dr K goes full David Goggins. Once your ego is dissolved, acknowledge what you could have done better, and the next day go get after it

@miltonmonster Ай бұрын

Thank you so much, Chris and Doctor K! The part about moving goalposts and dissolving the ego was very helpful, really appreciate this...!

@andrewcarlson5254 2 ай бұрын

Dr K absolutely has one of the best perspectives & approaches when it comes to mental health & habits. He’s one of the best!

@benn125m 2 ай бұрын

Are we entering an era where podcasts will be watched and enjoyed in cinemas ? The highest tier of quality conversations.🎉 Congratulations on the success of your hard work!

@dsg1992 2 ай бұрын

Straight into the deep end with this episode. Loved the "No intro".

@michaelbovee6808 2 ай бұрын

Spirituality-framed- approaches blended with straightforward, empirically-driven, common-sensibilities aimed at objective truthfulness offers a strong foundation to build upon.

@christenelishevas2050 Ай бұрын

Loved this discussion! I think it would be incredible for Dr. K and Dr. Peterson to have a discussion. The two greatest minds of our generation, wow!!! That would be amazing!

@retyifourthree6929 Ай бұрын

the part about men being socialized to not be very “emotional” (except for anger) is so true. i assume that is because anger is seen as an emotion that portrays (on a surface level) strength, power, and aggressiveness, unlike the “female” emotions that many of us associate with vulnerability, weakness, and dependence. this made me realize that perhaps a lot of men turn their sadness, shame, insecurity, etc. into anger since it’s the only emotion that has been accepted and expected for men to express for so long. the other emotions get suppressed, but they have to be released somehow, so they’re released as anger.

@BrofUJu Ай бұрын

100%. The part on the red pill stuff was so spot on. To me it's men with serious, unresolved trauma. Men need to be told it's okay to feel things and process them.

@charliemilroy6497 Ай бұрын

We can also let I out as aggression in a healthy way such as exercise.

@OrdnanceTV 2 ай бұрын

Ultimate dream job: traveling on-set production team member for this podcast. Piterally hands-on development of the best podcast going while getting all the best info from the brightest minds straight from their mouths.

@christiankale7817 2 ай бұрын

This conversation acted as 6 months of therapy. It came out at such a perfect time in my and I’m sure so many people’s lives. The Solar eclipse day. We’re bringing in more light 🫶 and mental fortitude

@kevinlucken8558 10 күн бұрын

What a great guest. Full of information rather than just spewing words. Practical and applicable. Thank you

@THETRUTHOFTHEDAY 2 ай бұрын

It takes more than just genius to revolutionize the world; it takes a trait that only leaders possess to bring something new to life. I'm telling you with certainty that the entire podcast space will tap into this in the nearest future, all thanks to you for this contribution. See you soon my future friend.

@rylando_bing_boom 2 ай бұрын

“The biggest ego trip is getting rid of your ego” -Alan Watts Great conversation. Bravo.

@Monkaii Ай бұрын

Two of my favourite role models having a conversation. Thank you for making this happen!

@EcomCarl Ай бұрын

it raises an essential point about the dual-edged sword of technology. It's crucial to find a balance where technology serves as a tool to enhance productivity and connection, rather than a crutch that dulls our emotional intelligence and motivation. 🧠

@leonsshare 2 ай бұрын

I understand why we're studying the effects of social media on children and teens directly, but more needs to be said about the effects of having parents who are addicted to these apps and online "clout". For the first time, we'll have a cohort of new adults (turning 18) who will have had their very first moments on earth documented in a Facebook status update (and almost every significant moment thereafter). Imagine how different that person's relationship with social media, the internet and the notion of privacy is compared to an 80/90s kids like the majority of this audience. Started listening to this one on Spotify and look forward to finishing in this cool studio jungle setting.

@catherinesalacuse3284 2 ай бұрын

Bravo, what a great conversation and so needed in this day & age . Thank you Chris Williamson for bringing this guest. 🇫🇷🇺🇸

@HitenPatel 2 ай бұрын

Thanks both, probably one of the best Podcasts I’ve ever watched. I love how CW talks about the blend of “East” and “Western” philosophies on the matter, since Dr K can resonate with both it’s a great position to be able to share from.

@a9mission439 2 ай бұрын

Thankyou for the stones of insightful dialog and topics yall both break... I'm truly blessed being sparked with these seeds. Love From Tanzania, didn't start here though, it's a habit and can't lie i see me progressing integrated vertically. 💚Stay blessed Radicals..

@Ceeps1212 2 ай бұрын

The quality of the picture in this is better than seemingly most movies we watch these days. Koodos for the incredible first ever movie/podcast release. This is phenomenal!!

@dumfriesspearhead7398 Ай бұрын

Is this the first? I've seen similar on another podcast at least two years ago.

@jpmendestv 2 ай бұрын

One of the best podcasts I've ever watched! Very helpfull to understand our mind! Thanks!

@smookyonthebeat 2 ай бұрын

easily the best conversation this podcast’s ever seen. Dr K is a Planetary Treasure. Great chemistry between the two aswell.

@no1djkamilo 2 ай бұрын

This was one of the best podcasts ever! The cross over between these two. Love it! So many important and timely topics teased and discussed. Lots of wisdom nuggets. Will have to relisten for sure.

@mrroboto18 2 ай бұрын

Taking podcasts to a level I didn't even know they could go - this is fantastic

@user-vu3ys5bi3t 2 ай бұрын

Haha omg I had to laugh out loud so hard : "I will teach you practice" 🤣🤣🤣 amazing episode overal! So many great Insights, whilst also having a good laugh here and there

@FilmBooth 2 ай бұрын

This set up is incredible! Really going so much further than anyone else

@TheAuthorNook 2 ай бұрын

Crazy. Absolutely mad. I love it so much. Keep it up, Chris.

@revenantwolzart 2 ай бұрын

Dr. K and Sam Harris are the two Intellectuals in public sphere whom I respect immensly for they have arrived at the realization of a lifetime, the discovery of selflessness and thier efforts to spread the Truth.

@jai_nasu Ай бұрын

Chris uses a low profile mic arm. He is absolutely BASED.

@MindsThoughts 2 ай бұрын

one of the most informative and most valuable conversations to be had in the modern era. Already this is in my top 5 podcasts of 2024, possibly 2020's in general as everything is so spot on, on the current human condition especially when it relates to attention. Hopefully more and more people realize what's going on around us by looking up from their phone and choosing courage over running away from their problems. I'm currently trying to do my part in all of this by creating videos that helps young adults navigate this same thing. Thank you Dr.K and thank you Chris, odd are that y'all wont see this comment, but it cannot be state enough how important this conversation is and how important it will be in the coming years.