How to Deal with Criticism | A Monk's Perspective
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Күн бұрынHow to Deal with Criticism | A Monk's Perspective
In this day and age, it's easy to be judged and criticized by others due to how fast and accessible information is available. This act of being criticized can impact people in negative ways. In this video, I wanted to share two personal examples of criticism that I personally experienced and an alternative perspective on how to handle and approach criticism. If you ever felt criticized or judged by others, I hope this video provides you with some new tools. Enjoy! #monk #monks #buddhism
0:00 Intro
0:59 What is criticism?
1:39 Example #1 of personal criticism
10:58 Example #2 of personal criticism
17:15 Difference between criticism & feedback
20:00 Conclusion
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@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
How do you deal with criticism?
@royallimitzcc 3 жыл бұрын
I don’t take anything personally. I’ve realized that people have bad days and take any opportunity to snap at anyone. I know it’s also a reflection of whatever pain and suffering they have or are going through. I know my truths, and let those that criticize talk. Words don’t hurt. Thank you for sharing your perspective with us 🙏🏽
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
@gautam bk 🙂 sadhu sadhu. Thank you so much my friend.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
@@royallimitzcc wonderful. Thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂
@juliaangelicaa5395 3 жыл бұрын
I ignore negative criticism because I know myself more than those people who has nothing better to do in life 😜 I just focus on the positives. Like you said "focus on your own bowl, sleep on your own pillow." On the flip side, I do welcome constructive criticism because it helps me grow and improve as a person. In general, if people have nothing good to say, it's better to 🤐 _ Thank you Nick for sharing your view on criticism. You're in a good place and please continue to do good work to inspire others. Be safe.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
@@juliaangelicaa5395 thank you as always Julia 🙂🙂
@fienreunes 3 жыл бұрын
"I know my intention, and that's enough." That's going to be my mantra. Thank you.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful ❤️
@gauri9thf126 3 жыл бұрын
A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted… “Dad, look the trees are going behind!” Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed… “Dad, look the clouds are running with us!” The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man… “Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?”The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today. Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing my friend. Its very beautiful ❤❤🙏
@gauri9thf126 3 жыл бұрын
your welcome
@matttheman9740 3 жыл бұрын
Such a beautiful story! a good example not to judge or make assumptions.
@DystopianApocalypse 3 жыл бұрын
People are so cruel...
@Onlinesully 3 жыл бұрын
that was a great doctor that repaired the persons sight.
@christinel3604 3 жыл бұрын
I stumbled upon this channel and so glad that I found it. This is now officially my favorite channel. It's full of wisdom, love and light. I feel so much love and purity from watching just a few videos so far. I'm grateful for you Nick Keomahavong. Thank you with all my hearat.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you Christine. I'm glad it's helpful and welcome to the channel.
@sandravirag2492 2 жыл бұрын
@@nickkeomahavong01 I am a seeker for wisdom and direction. You are a blessing to us. Love your channel.
@ashasr9827 2 жыл бұрын
So grateful to you🙏🏼🙏🏼
@kathykaewsith9811 Жыл бұрын
🙏🙏🙏thank you!
@meganhipp5662 2 жыл бұрын
One of my favorite quotes is “Do what you feel in your heart to be right - for you'll be criticized anyway” - Eleanor Roosevelt
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
😊😊😊
@vt750sevans 3 жыл бұрын
My story, I have listened to A Monks Guide to Happiness for the past two years. I have listened to the audio over 100 times. I did this because Christian teaching was so engrained in my thinking where they teach anti Buddhism. I have not gone to church for over 10 years, but the previous 15 years of preaching very much narrowed my views on almost everything. My husband whom I have been married to for 13 years is not a Christian and opened my mind to the hypocrisy. I have suffered from extrema anxiety, PTSD as an X veteran. I just kept listening to a monks Guide to Happiness in the hope I would have a break through one day. This happened about a month ago. I listened to plum village messages and one of the messages I heard, opened my mind and all the anxiety I have had for decades, stopped in a matter of 2 minutes. I wish I learnt about Buddhism when I was a child. Thank you for sharing your message. Buddhism teaching is so simple, practical and non oppressive. If all Defence Member were trained in this, it would stop a lot of suffering for them in their future. To think that India came up with Buddhism, how privileged they are from this. India does not need to become more like the west, the west needs to be more like India.
@7QHook 3 жыл бұрын
"Why does it not affect me ? because I understand that when you take a look at something with not a complete picture, you're going to make observations ... conclusions, judgments .. but it is not complete and doesn't really reflect what is happening" - a gem of a thought. worth remembering.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much my friend 😊😊
@jameshopkins7507 3 жыл бұрын
All of your content has been very helpful to me. Thank your for your service to the Dhamma.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Awwwe thank you so much James. I'm glad it has been helpful. Greetings to you 🙂🙂
@loisliu88 3 жыл бұрын
I feel you have tried very hard to find your place in the world. A place that fits your true self.... I think every person has the same goal in life, that is to seek his/her place in the world. However, the difference is that not many people are willing to go so much beyond their comfort zone. For that, I really admire your courage. You are my inspiration.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you lois
@rtj7397 3 жыл бұрын
I read somewhere that "People that criticize others are most unhappy about something in there lives and they takes most pathetic measure to make themselves feel better" I hope they will find peace and buddha in there life 🙏
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
❤❤❤🙏
@Onlinesully 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes that can be the case. Other times it is not.
@jonesmike53 2 жыл бұрын
Western psychology refers to “projection” , which if I understand correctly is calling out a perceived flaw in another person that one is unable to admit to - in oneself.
@deela262 2 жыл бұрын
@22: 21 I can resonate. I suppose most 'born' Buddhists have this alignment issue because Buddhist nations are moving towards the western culture... and there's hardly any support to bridge, for those who want. I struggled from the age of 14-15 years and completing the circle only in my 50s. Most of my counterpart 'professionals' living in main cities or have migrated to the west have same issue and are struggling to pass this precious cultural heritage to their children. This series on monastic discipline, mindfulness in daily life and monks perspective is SO precious everytime I listen it brings me to tears. I've been waiting for this for soo long in my life. Thank you bhante keep doing your great work!!!
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂
@MsSinth Жыл бұрын
I appreciate you sharing this video. You are a gift to this world. This is brings tears to my eyes. I want you to know that this channel and what you share is like a bright lantern in my life. Like i said before, please dont ever stop sharing these, theres so much gem and so much wisdom that you are sharing so freely with such an open & warm heart in your channel. Thank you, thank you, thank you, kind soul!
@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын
Aww thank you so much for your kind words my friend. Thank you and hope you are doing well 😊
@MIOLAZARUS 3 жыл бұрын
You are a light in the world. Thank you for being loving and open 🙏🏻🌍❤
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you my friend ❤️
@midic1092 2 жыл бұрын
Nick my friend, initially when I stumbled upon your 'morning routine' video a few days a go, I didn't realise what exactly about you spoke out to me. Was it the budhist philosophy that had always resenated with my personal philosophies that I'd come to learn about myself?, was it your calm nature? Or was it a nudge towards some clarity in this path to finding my true self? I now realise that it's all of them and the sincerity in the things you are saying. Keep doing what you're doing. I'm grateful and really glad you've finally found your place in the world, for you and for me. Respect, Midi
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
Awww that's very kind of you midi. Thank you for you support. I'm glad the content resonates with you and also welcome to the channel :)
@jeffreyjackson5229 2 жыл бұрын
You just reminded me of a verse in the Dhammapada: "He who talks too much, they blame him. He who says little, they blame him. Whether he talks too much or too little, they blame him." In other words, no matter what you do, you can't please everyone.😊
@ngonigriffith1491 3 жыл бұрын
There is a teaching in the Bible in Proverbs 29:25, "It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you, but if you trust in the Lord you are safe." This has helped me a lot when others judge me unfairly.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing 🙂🙂
@crabbypinchy 11 ай бұрын
Mr Nick, this came up on my feed and I shared with my friend who constantly gets criticized by family, even her own father. And she has been feeling horrible. I found this useful and shared with her. Thank you so much!
@nickkeomahavong01 10 ай бұрын
I’m glad it’s helpful 😊
@TrainLikeAProDaily 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your lesson on Criticism. So much pain comes from misreading criticism. From a different angle criticism could also be looked at as a helping tool for us to get closer to awareness. When people criticize us, they actually help us better understand the reality we live in. Even when they are wrong, the fact that they express it, it helps us understand human nature better. To me, the worst aspect is actually lack of criticism or ignorance - and probably even in the silence of ignorance there is so much to learn from. An absolute nothing doesn't exist.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome. Thank you so much :-)
@jadiha1120 3 жыл бұрын
I'm in my junior year of highschool, and from all the videos I've watched, I felt like I could immediately understand all the lessons you've provided in your videos. Especially when it comes to criticism, I always try not to take it to heart and look at it from a third person perspective. It allowed me to better understand the other person and perhaps their intention was to help, but the criticism was just quite aggressive. However, thank you so much for all your videos! Its a such a great breather for the day and very useful content :)
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. Glad it resonates with you. Greetings to you
@marlenemeldrum7382 2 жыл бұрын
You are so authentic, Humble and extreme Reflective.....I am also a teacher.... Reflection, Mediation, HUMBLENESS and what ever one recieves as Feedback....listen to learn....all the very best ...God's Speed....many many thanks..
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Marlene 😀😀
@jeffreyjackson5229 Жыл бұрын
I love how emphasize and reiterate looking through a different lens. Extremely helpful.
@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын
😊😊
@emayzing5210 3 жыл бұрын
Being a open book can cause some people to try and rip up the pages. I'm glad you don't let them. You are an inspiration.
@dariuszgorski7133 3 жыл бұрын
Nick you should be a public speaker All your videos are very inspiring and reassuring, Your delivery is very efficient and your message always lands and resonate with me. For those who criticise your videos, it's a free world, they free to listen to whatever resonates with them Also , I feel some people bring criticism not for the sake of feedback but for the sake of criticism itself. You do you. Keep going, loads of people enjoys it. Do it for us who do please.
@victoriahangula382 2 жыл бұрын
Brother Nick. The world has a blessing in you. You sharing has so many angles and each is has star ready to illuminate any who is listening. Thank you for sharing. Be blessed 🙌 😇
@SundayBoy72 Жыл бұрын
Ven Nick. You are wise and yet so humble. Strength to see beyond the human expectation and to strive to become a human is so admirable and inspiring. I am always wishing you good health and strength to continue to guide and share. With million love ❤️ 🇸🇬
@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын
Sadhu sadhu thank you so much tan 😊 😊
@ashthecrash8928 3 жыл бұрын
Your videos have helped me tremendously. I listen to you at work and before I fall asleep. For meditation. It calms my soul. Keep up your work. You have a gift and I am so thankful you are sharing it with the world! Much peace and love to you.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Ashley
@foxmacnamara8809 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Nick! Great to see you. What a beautiful spot you are sitting in for this video. You are absolutely right you DO NOT need to explain yourself to anyone, you know that...but thank you for sharing anyways. Your heart is in the right place. As a therapist you gave so much of yourself to your clients to do your best to ease their pain and suffering. As a Monk you continue to give so much of yourself....and now not just to your personal clients, but the whole world! I see you as a spiritual guide, advisor, and a friend! So much of your advice and your words have been an important part of my life since I discovered you. To anyone reading this Nick's heart is pure and his intentions are pure. He truly cares about you. To any of the "critics" out there I can tell you with 100% certainty that Nick is definitely not bothered by any nasty, mean, or ruthless feedback! Don't ever stop what you're doing Nick! It matters so much to so many of us! 🙏❤️👍🙏🤜🤛
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your kind words. I'll continue my best to share. Glad the content has been helpful 🙂🙂🙂
@MindNow 3 жыл бұрын
It’s great that there are awesome, mindful people out there 🙏❤️
@Faye-vy5kb Жыл бұрын
You are truly a blessing to the world. To my world and to my perception I cherish your wisdom.
@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 😊
@SedA2027 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for this! I was criticized today at work for a training class I led. It was so upsetting to me and I couldn’t figure out why. I came from a supportive and helpful approach in my training…..now I know that my intention was enough and not everyone will receive my intention as my heart desired. Everyone but one person gave me high marks on the post training evaluation. And that is enough! ❤
@skiegazer1953 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, Nick! I grew up under the lens of criticism, so for me, for many years I turned that criticism inwards. After many years of therapy, little by little I have learned to not be my own worst critic and to better withstand the criticism of others. Your message brings me so much joy. The important thing is to look always at ourselves and our intention. If our intention is true and good and pure, then this is the most important thing: to be at peace with ourselves. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Yeaaaa. Thank you so much. Thank you for sharing your experience. Keep up your practice and keep doing good 🙂🙂
@skiegazer1953 3 жыл бұрын
@@nickkeomahavong01 :)
@janettemckillop6054 2 жыл бұрын
I find your talk's and wisdom amazing. You are kind and gentle. I am going to practice many of your teachings. You inspire me to not only want to be a better person, but to always question my motive and reach out to others simply for the sake helping. Keep going. You are doing great things!
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful my friend. You hit it right on the head. Well done Janette. Keep it up :)
@alwaystomorrow8551 2 жыл бұрын
One thing I learnt is that every criticism has some truth in it. I will use it it to see how can I improve myself without getting mad. I think of them as my teacher.
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
wonderful!
@kayjones3873 3 жыл бұрын
I felt like you were talking directly to me today, thank you so much. I’ve recently had some very unpleasant criticism of my work and my character which has affected me deeply. I listened and absorbed what you said and feel I can now move on. Thank you 💞
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad it was helpful kay. Keep up the great work 🙂🙂
@Makemenotcare Жыл бұрын
Those of us with no agenda are attacked and we don’t have a prepared defense… but just keep doing what you believe is right and you’ll be ok 💕
@moanateliersoo18 3 жыл бұрын
thank you for broadening up my perspective. I know I am very judgmental sometimes, but because of your video, I can stop and think why I am so harsh on others.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Wonderful. I'm glad to hear 😊😊
@jonesmike53 2 жыл бұрын
Brother Nick. Studying the dharma is skilful, but living the dharma is enlightened. I started my journey six years ago by walking into our local sangha - as so many people do, because my life was literally falling apart. Death of parents, failure of our 20 year marriage, several jobs lost and then my new partner’s brush with cancer. I felt that life was just too hard and I was in a very dark place. I was desperate to try to find out what is the point of being alive. I walked into the sangha, sat at the end of the mediation room and I will never forget the order member leading the meditation leaning forward and fixing me with the most radiant welcoming smile. I was in the right place. I have learnt from the dharma that a good answer to “What is one’s life for ?” is that we are each here to ease the suffering of others. And you, dear brother are a living embodiment of that. “May the longtime sun shine on you, All love surround you And the pure light within you Guide your way on” …. Quote from The Incredible String Band 😊
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂
@jorgeazpiazu3167 3 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU NICK. So much wisdom. So much common sense. Tu eres el nuevo amigo que más de 160.000 personas tenemos. ¡Gracias!
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Sadhu sadhu. thank you so much Jorge 🙂🙂🙂
@moonstonecottage1463 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Nick for your videos. I have been in a twelve step program over 40 years. I like hearing what people observe me doing and share it in a kind way. It gives me the opportunity to evaluate myself and sometimes change a behavior. I have one friend that I try to share my experiences in an effort that maybe she can see something that may need some tweaking. However she feels criticized and that’s not my intent. Your video helped me see myself and hopefully “not share” what I see when I see it. I have tried in the past and do better for a bit then fall back into my old habits. Listening to you has been enlightening and I will continue try to be less opinionated :-) in the future and remember it’s not my job to fix others, only myself. Namaste my friend 🙏🏼
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
sadhu sadhu. 🙂🙂🙂
@georgearles559 Жыл бұрын
After embracing buddhism a decade ago I'm still struggling to make sense of this philosophy/faith in my life, but your clear and pragmatic approach made this practice more fulfilling and light. Thank you for sharing your enlightenment ven. Nick...
@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 😊
@atlantis3438 3 жыл бұрын
Dear Nick, I'm in shock when I watch your video why you became a Monk, but then I realized & understood your mission! My father was a Buddhist. I'm a Buddhist too! I can relate to you in several different ways. All my life, people are judging me wrongful, badly, & causing me anger. What these people don't know is that, I have special gifts, talents, & skills that someday they might need my help!! With maturity & windsom, I'm managing a whole lot better. All my life, I'm teaching people how to be kind heart, generous, help the needy, respectful, & love! God knows my intentions are good! I ADMIRE YOU & RESPECT THE PATH YOU CHOOSE! I love watching your videos! IT'S VERY ENLIGHTMENT! FINALLY, YOU'RE THE ONE THAT I CAN RELATE! Keep making the videos.WE NEED MORE PEOPLE LIKE YOU IN THIS WORLD!😇💜🕊 I WISH YOU WELL, PROSPER, & PEACE!🎊 CA🌻
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much
@vallovesnature8449 3 жыл бұрын
Such a beautiful place you’re at. I believe that all roads lead to here & knowledge is wealth, share it. I’ve realized that so many people are set in their ways, staying true to what they’ve been taught. Those are the ones who have criticized me most. The receptive people are the open minded ones who love hearing about other people’s interests. Whenever someone criticizes me, I just say “let’s agree to disagree sometimes”. Blessings always Nick!🙏🏻❤️
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Yesss. Sadhu sadhu 🙂🙂
@MindNow 3 жыл бұрын
I think on our planet there will always be people who will disagree with us. It’s just the way it is. It balances things out. There is no right or wrong except for different perspectives and we can always learn from perspectives.
@vallovesnature8449 3 жыл бұрын
@@MindNow I seem to have attracted a lot of narcissistic men over the years. I guess it’s the empath/healer in me. They’re always disagreeing with me. I guess I’m naturally intimidating😂
@MindNow 3 жыл бұрын
@@vallovesnature8449 Eventually you will attract the people that you are. I'm not saying that you a narcissistic person, but the empathic person you are, you will attract those people in your life as well. So, keep being who you are
@vallovesnature8449 3 жыл бұрын
@@MindNow Working on positive vibes/law of attraction. We are all in a gentle balance these days. Blessings 🙏🏻
@hasr3t 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I want to drop everything and become a monk :dd fascinating and pure world...
@100earth4 3 жыл бұрын
Same. I attest this to the fullest degree! This was my mindset back in April and May.
@hasr3t 3 жыл бұрын
@@100earth4 yeah i think so nowadays :dd
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
❤❤❤🙏
@njaunjeri1712 2 жыл бұрын
I know myself, i know my intention. This is deep. I love it
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂
@cloudnine735 2 жыл бұрын
I'm new to management. I try to be fair to everyone but I still get criticism. This helped me get a bit of peace. I know my intentions and thats great enough for me. Thank you. This so helped me ❤
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
Wonderful. Glad it's helpful. Also taking time to build those relationships will help as well ☺️
@cloudnine735 2 жыл бұрын
@@nickkeomahavong01 I work with some very challenging women and opinionated women. I have decent relationships with most but they can be so fake as well. Definitely working on myself to not internalize how they act towards me at times because I know I cannot change them. Im finding it difficult.
@doumie1082 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for all These wonderful videos. They have become my early morning treat as I’m starting my day. They not only bring me food for thoughts they bring me inner calm and comfort me on my path in life. So yes thank you so much and you definitely are on my “gratefulness “ list everyday!
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much doumie 🙂🙂🙂
@christinestana3474 3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate your kind heart. Thank you for sharing your journey and knowledge.
@annamercury_ 3 жыл бұрын
First, thank you! I'm so grateful to have stumbled upon your channel, and I love your content. I wanted to share - watching myself watch this video, the changing tide of reactions I had was so amusing to behold. I clicked on the video from a mentality of "Save me oh wise monk!," then kept watching and was like "I can totally empathize with why you'd want to work with the populations you noted, and while we're at it, let me project my own judgments about why I would want to do the same onto you," then felt so much compassion and empathy for the notion of just focusing on your own intention, then as soon as you mentioned the sunset, I saw my judgment mind kicked in like, "Ohhhh now we're just showing off how awakened and peaceful we are, aren't we?" and my gosh, the ever-churning mind of Ego projections is so absurd. So if you're reading this comment and struggling with handling criticism too, just look at the roller coaster of my own reactions to this one video, and how completely random and contradictory they all were. When I experienced myself negatively judging this video, it had nothing whatsoever to do with the content. When I could turn off my own fears and just receive the content, all I felt was empathetic appreciation. The same goes for all of us, too :)
@danw918 2 жыл бұрын
I worked as a palliative nurse for a while and for some seemedly bizarre reason people have questioned every decision i made about my career beyond that point. I say don't give it a second more thought. You are making the world a far better place than you found it, that should be more than enough.
@katcvm 3 жыл бұрын
Needed this!! Thank you so much.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Glad it was helpful 🙂🙂
@scorpio7938 3 жыл бұрын
This is real deep very interesting i find social media some people can be very cruel i have thought when people are mean they are not happy with themselves. But you are teaching me and have me thinking maybe different
@mariabartsota7955 3 жыл бұрын
I think you are such a special person, i discovered your channel recently and I've seen several videos. Your speech, your experiences, your way of thinking, even your profession and the way u look as a therapist, have inspired soo much!
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much Maria
@inaratkhan7348 Жыл бұрын
Whenever I feel at loss with the world, and let's say that includes more or less my family, and sometimes that can feel like an extremely lonely place to be in, I come here and suddenly I am all smiles. I love above all how you laugh with all your heart over the most distressing of things. I have so much to learn. Thank you Nick.
@leyag5481 2 жыл бұрын
Wow! Great message. So glad I found you 💛 Continue being a light in this world 🌍
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much. Welcome to the channel my friend.
@raphaeleusebio5286 3 жыл бұрын
im a roman catholic and ive been watching your videos from time to time. my life is down bad and im developing my self control and im on my spiritual stage where as i question peace anger what to do etc. you help me a lot and i believe in everything i know i have a different God but i believe on other Gods too. THANKS for the videos NICK! do your own thing people would say what they wanna say!
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Raphael. I'm glad you're able to use this information to improve your life. That's beautiful. Thank you for sharing and keep doing the work 🙂🙂🙂 greetings from Thailand
@jeniefersarmiento4908 3 жыл бұрын
Same here-a devoted catholic but really love watching Nick’s Video...So much information and lots of wisdom that we can apply for our everyday living....Thank you Nick for sharing your wisdom ...
@donaldsimons2429 Жыл бұрын
What I appreciate the most about you, Ven. Nick, is that you are a real person and not an act. This video is a good example of it. Thank you for being so forthcoming and so forthright. I have been a fan of yours here on KZfaq for many years and look forward to many more years with you.
@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Donald 😊
@marlenerichardson4429 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve become enchanted watching and listening to Nick. I’m Christian and don’t have any understanding of Buddhism. I don’t know if they have a belief in God but when I listen to Nicks words i feel like I’m listening to a great religious scholar. For me he speaks Gods words. I have so much pain in my life I think Nick has come into my world for a reason. I pray for healing x
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much Marlene 🙂🙂🙂
@MilenaOlgaTheHorseListener 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video so much. Exactly what I needed to hear today...
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Wonderful. Thank you so much my friend. Glad it's helpful ☺️
@kentsmith1507 3 жыл бұрын
Greetings from Richardson Texas... I'm comforted by the belief that criticism, in my life, usually means that God is telling me to remember that we all carry a piece of the truth. Maybe someone sees something that I don't... namaste friend
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
🙂🙂
@calmbeforethestorm9498 3 жыл бұрын
This has changed my entire perspective. I will not strive to look at every interaction with my teen with the thought to my intentions. Thank you.
@alexf800 3 жыл бұрын
Love and gratitude outshines and forgives all criticism. Thank you for sharing. 🥰 🧘🏻♂️ 🙏
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you alex
@suecastillo4056 3 жыл бұрын
Sending love and health to you💕with gratitude🙋♀️💕🦋🙏🏻🌟
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you sue
@dmang0 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making the content. I hope this negates one of the ruthless comments. From Seattle
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much my friend 🙂🙂
@tammywicker5904 Жыл бұрын
I'm a reforming perfectionist and tend to be extremely critical of myself, and this understanding is my saving grace. I now can analyze myself in a neutral manner, and correct myself without beating myself to complete defeat. Please know that you are a shining guide for me. I appreciate your help, and thank you from my heart. I pray for you and your journey! God bless you!
@BeYOUBloom 3 жыл бұрын
I share your journey. If we can bring into the business world and other industries these modalities and practices, it means we no longer do so privately or within our own groups, but actually live it within our job roles and how we engage with those we serve. I have led talks with doctors, inmates, corporate professionals, and also for actors. I also reside in CA, have my own therapeutic practice and have been a business executive, and I coach performers on mindset as they suffer deeply. I was one and a member of SAG/AFTRA. I have found so many in all of these industries suffering within and are relieved to learn tools for mental management. More and more leaders/CEOs are now interested in welcoming educators who cover mental wellness due to the after effects of this most challenging season the world has faced. Ive only seen 3 of your videos. Yesterday I mentioned you to a colleague. It was before I knew you may return to "the world." I literally said, "the business/therapy world needs him out here because he is also a hybrid and able to bring these worlds together." I was speaking about you and had considered reaching out. And here I am and this video popped up. Godly affirmation you are in your calling. 🙏
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Awwwe thank you so much for reaching out and sharing your experience. That's very kind of you. I agree with you that so many people and sectors can benefit from learning these tools. Having lived and worked in the west and now living as a monk in Thailand, it has given me a more holistic understanding. I'm very glad to be on this journey. Thanks for coming along 🙂🙂🙂
@mattalexzweig 3 жыл бұрын
So often I watch your videos and they speak to me and resonate with me so deeply - as if the message you are speaking about was meant to find me at this specific time. Thank you for sharing your journey and insights and wisdom with us. It would be so awesome to meet you one day (I'm an expat who lives in China and has been exploring Buddhism for a bit over a year now and have been entertaining the thoughts of going on the same journey that you have walked). Thank you, Nick. You are a voice of reason and insight and balance and inspiration to me.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Wow that's so wonderful Xander. If you are ever in Thailand, feel free to visit our meditation retreat in Chiang Mai Thailand. I'm excited for your journey. Keep up the great work and stay safe my friend :-)
@maherameen2362 3 жыл бұрын
Dearest Venerable Nick; I’d be lucky if I learn from your wisdom personally face-to-face. I am eagerly looking forward to that. Sadhu.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Sadhu sadhu 🙂
@hengsiewgin8524 3 жыл бұрын
If I judge myself didn't commit an error,just forget about it.If I've make a mistake,Then,is about to apologize. Sadhu🙏🏻Sadhu🙏🏻Sadhu🙏🏻
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Sadhu sadhu 🙂🙂🙂
@TheHoly_Bro 2 жыл бұрын
I don't usually leave comments on videos, but this one really really hit me in a way that I cant describe. Thank you so much for this gift you have given me.
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad it was helpful my friend. Thank you so much :-)
@rattiyale2461 3 жыл бұрын
Ven. Nick, I just recently found your channel and I have been watching quite a bit of your videos. Your spiritual words are so amazing! I'm feeling so blessed that I found you. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us around the world. During this pandemic, I loss few of my love ones and I'm feeling of sadness and grief deeply. By listening to your words, it brings me so calm and softening into my heart and feeling of peace. Sadhu 🙏🙏🙏
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Wonderful. I'm glad it's been helpful. Welcome to the channel Rattiya 😊
@shutong8 3 жыл бұрын
it takes wisdom to look at a whole complete picture. I really enjoy the pine trees, the space between the trees allows the sunshine to reach the grass. Sadhu..3x 🙏🙏🙏
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Sadhu sadhu. Yes its beautiful here 🙂🙂
@Dmorris96 3 жыл бұрын
Another wonderful video Nick, thank you. Also, thank you for the live stream yesterday, I am currently saving to come to ordain next summer. Thank you for your wise words and for sharing your knowledge with the world.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Wonderful to hear drew. Yes please get everything situated and hopefully we'll see you shortly 🙂
@aqdoan5006 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for all your videos on Buddhism, Nick! I have listened to 15+ of your videos and I appreciate your teaching, your genuine sharing, and your thoughts/ideas. You've helped me gain more insight in lessening my pain and sufferings. I send you all the best wishes!
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Aww thank you so much. I'm glad it's been helpful for you my friend 😊😊
@mepkin9449 2 жыл бұрын
Hi, Nick, it’s Mepkin 94 again! This resonated with me so much. I will keep it simple. It was interesting to take notice that when you began your life’s story of how people criticized you on KZfaq - the longer you spoke the longer the shadows of the Pine trees dispersed and the sunlight shined on you. You have a gift, my friend. Please continue…
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much for your kind words 🙂🙂🙂
@leahc8347 3 жыл бұрын
How do you go inside to heal yourself? I want to know.
@LindaHessing 3 жыл бұрын
Check vipassana meditiation. You can do this all over the world. 10 days silence meditiation and learn techniek to still the mind. I had no thoughts afther 4 days. I did mine in nepal🙏
@deityreefer6617 3 жыл бұрын
I’m so tired of being sad... I need to get out I need to be free. my mind is imprisoning itself and I feel trapped in my own thoughts and even though I know I am ok and in good health I just can’t calm down
@bobjalockowitz1568 3 жыл бұрын
A person spoke to Buddha, "I want happiness" Buddha responded, Remove the I - that is ego. Remove the want - that is desire. You are now left with just happiness. Remember the peace comes from within, do not seek it without. Best of luck on your journey🤙
@vt750sevans 3 жыл бұрын
Deity, how are you feeling now? You are not alone, we are all in the same boat, it is just that few people talk about their mental state because it is what has been taught to us in the Western world. Things are changing, but if you can open your mind to the thought that you are not alone in your suffering, then it is a huge step towards happiness. I wish you all the best.
@ilianadiaz8039 Жыл бұрын
Miami, Florida - Nick, recording your videos is a great thing to do, this is you communicating with us so we can learn! Your videos are extremely helping to me. Thank you for your videos!
@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much my friend 😊
@starfighter1972 3 жыл бұрын
We all need a "home", somewhere that we belong. Our true selves is our home and it is so wonderful that your soul lead you to where you are today. I salute you and I will write in my journal all the good attributes that I find attractive in you so I can begin to be my true self too.
@victoriousf.i.g.3311 3 жыл бұрын
Nick is the perfect friend to take to McDonald's; he likes to share his nuggets! Whomp, dad joke 😂
@lisas1625 3 жыл бұрын
I'm stealing that, I'm trying to perfect my "mum joke" game 💜
@victoriousf.i.g.3311 3 жыл бұрын
@@lisas1625 Teamwork makes the dream work, mum! Steal away!
@lisas1625 3 жыл бұрын
@@victoriousf.i.g.3311 🙏🇳🇿💜 Yes. Unless my kids are cringing regularly I am failing!
@dianelamorticella6053 3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@dianelamorticella6053 3 жыл бұрын
Don’t quit your day job! 😂😍
@TenaciouslyTina 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for combining your experience of the West and now the East! Your words help me keep my own spiritual journey focused on authenticity. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Blessings
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Tina. Keep up the great work on your end also 🙂🙂
@KaddyFeast 2 жыл бұрын
This was lovely. And another result was I lost my voice, silenced myself from fear of the critics. And then I was lost. You really dug deep on this one and it was very helpful.
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
Aww I'm glad to hear ☺️☺️ glad it was helpful.
@AphelionSol 3 жыл бұрын
The same way earth has the capacity to create precious gems, heaven also has the capacity to create precious gems. Thank you for the insight. Your authenticity and empathy is truly "contagious". Blessings.
@mariaa6918 Жыл бұрын
Nicks honesty is so powerful heartwarming and refreshing. And ever so kind..im so so thankful and greatful..to have found this channel..peace love and kindness to all out there struggling
@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 😊 and welcome to the channel Maria
@russellm7530 3 жыл бұрын
I love that place where your sitting Nick. I reminds me of a place in western Washington, some property my Grandfather had with a house pasture and 70 acre's of second generation trees, mostly large Douglas Firs. When he passed away I should have gotten that place. I was his only grandchild who he neglected. My mother was his only child who he neglected and she also narcasisticly neglected me my whole life. It's a long story but Mom stole Grandad's place from me. This sort of thing happened a few other times with mom and some other relatives. I've been learning the past few years that I was very narcasisticly neglect and abused my whole life and I didn't even realize it. I just remembered how beautiful his place was out in the country and I'm in a state of shock about my mother and other relatives and they all have so much, me virtually nothing. It's kind of like I've unintentionally lived a monks life or hermits life via my family's treatment of me. I don't know what my point is really but God bless you and thank you.
@ma.jackiefernandez8511 3 жыл бұрын
wow im glad i found this video i just suffer so much it feels like when yo are too focused and that you take personally what others opinions of you then you start to doubt yourself .This whole video helps me so much i got tears in my eyes. Because my whole life i have been struggling on that so now i guess im gonna take my power back living my life focusing on myself . This type of videos must watch for those who want to live a big and fulfilling life.Thank you for this.For everyone YOLO❤️
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
😊😊😊
@tinkerbellars 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Nick for sharing about your own journey and the wisdom you have on alleviating the suffering in this life. It has really touched me and changed my perspective on my own suffering. Thank you again, you are making a real difference in this world.
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much my friend and I'm glad it's helpful :-)
@mereairahata7632 3 жыл бұрын
You are authentic and genuine in the way that you express yourself. Love learning from your wisdom and please keep sharing your videos and share your love with the world.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you mereaira
@ravenskye6595 3 жыл бұрын
HI Nick, I so look forward to your videos. Thank you for being so open and yet so willing to share nuggets of love that have the potential to add so much to our everyday. Criticism and public opinion never really bother me, mainly because very few people really take the time to know the circumstances of my life. Those that take the time, then I will listen... but at the end I will still go and do whatever I need to do. I've known that not everybody is entitled to knowing what motivates me. Wishing you joy and warm sunny days ☀️🌺🌺
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Raven 🙂🙂
@joanmichel6922 2 жыл бұрын
Every day I watch one of your videos, I am watching slowly and mindfully. Today this was suggested and what a treat it was, so full of kindness, wisdom and insight….it really resonated with me and struck me how small the world is now, and how large a message you have for anyone who needs it….this is one I’m sure I’ll come back to again and again, even tho I have never much concerned myself with others opinions of me….thank you so much for putting these messages out, they are so uplifting…. I watched this and then had a wonderful meditation, full of inner silence….blessings, blessings to you and to your parents, how blessed they are to have a son like you, they must be so happy ❤️
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
awww. what a delightful message. Thank you so much Joan for your kind words. Greetings to you from Thailand and keep up the great work with your meditation :)
@juliemielle1604 3 жыл бұрын
I am so happy you never gave up! You are awesome! You are helping me…. Your experience in a silver platter, I am grateful, I appreciate you. Sending you hugs and love.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much Julie. Glad you are enjoying it.
@colettekitlas4746 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Nick. Your teaching inns are very helpful in remembering that we all come from an incomplete view when hearing another’s story. I appreciate your life lessons and bringing them out openly.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Aww thank you so much Colette. It's a pleasure to share 😊😊
@jamesforrest7322 3 жыл бұрын
As someone who's saw a life coach and CBT therapist, you explain things way better and from a different perspective 🙌👍.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much james. I'm glad it was helpful :-)
@gingersutton8240 Жыл бұрын
In listening to you, I am happy you are doing this b/c you reach high profile ppl who influence our society through their work or speech. I also see you doing this as an example of a merit for yourself ( & me). There for, I use what you are doing as an example of how I am living the example of my own religious life. Sharing my belief as a “church lady” w fellow sufferers. The sharing of hope & peace one person @ a time. Your using your careers as an entertainer & business person encourages me to look @ my environment & how I can offer hope & love. Thank you for sharing your gifts as a monk, entertainer & business person. May all embrace love, Peace & simple living to end suffering & sinning. Shine on!
@nickkeomahavong01 Жыл бұрын
Aww thank you so much and yes I think we can all use our gifts to make this world a brighter place 😊😊
@DCL26 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for opening up and giving me the insight into the mystery of a Monk's life and world.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much Dolores
@summerclementine132 3 жыл бұрын
Love your style of sharing wisdom. Feels like we go for walks together, bonding over these subjects. Thank you.
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Wonderful. Sadhu sadhu. Thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂
@adriananeagu609 2 жыл бұрын
I think you are the first who is shearing with true love these .....Thank you ! All my gratitude !! 🙏🌹
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
Sadhu Sadhu 😊 thank you so much Adriana
@stard7206 2 жыл бұрын
People who don't like your wonderful, bridge building content are welcome to make their own. But I bet they won't. You're a gem.
@arayiparragirreetxeberria1204 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for opening your heart and for showing your inside. everything you've said so far, helps me a lot. Bless you.
@chaoticcalmness482 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for doing these videos and sharing what you are sharing! I have been trying to find spiritual guidance for so long and I am so glad that I found you!
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
Wonderful! Glad you are here. Also, we have an online reddit community you are welcome to join. We have people support each other from around the world. There should be a link in the description.
@hasr3t 3 жыл бұрын
You like everybody's comments and you answer one by one. You're great nick, I hope you're not tired. 🙏🙏❤❤
@nickkeomahavong01 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Hasret. Greetings to you from Thailand 🙂🙂
@cyndiwong9150 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Ven Nick I stumble upon your videos for the past 3 days straight all I do is listen to all your videos and each videos is more inspiring and heartfelt then the next. I hope someday we can meet I can tell you are a true monk and a genuine kind devoted person. I'm going through some very dark time in my life and been suffering with my health since I was 11 and now I'm 50. Your videos gives me hope and I hope I can take what you say and your wisdom and apply it to my own life. Thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart!
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much Cyndi. Welcome to the channel and I'm glad the videos are helpful. 🙂🙂🙂
@JOSEPHINETSANG 2 жыл бұрын
That was the first video that I saw of yours, and I was so impressed! Then I was so chuffed to randomly meet you in Pai a few months later. 🌿🙏🏻🌿。I am looking forward to the pandemic clearing up, and then I can go to Pai again to further learn how to practice meditation. 🌿🙏🏻🌿。
@nickkeomahavong01 2 жыл бұрын
I know. It's such an amazing story. There are no coincidences ☺️ hope your doing well.
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