Learned this early in my marriage. I workout at 5am because it's only inconvenient to me. And the sacrifice makes me feel more like a leader. Happily married 26 years now.

“It isn’t your families fault when you are WEAK” Love it!

Echo always gushes and seems like a shy kid hanging out with his cool uncle.

I get this with my family and very long time friends. No ambition or drive to do anything more than the bare minimum. Thats why i started waking up at 4am like you Jocko, get a large part of my day done before other people wake up.

My path is my personal accountability

You are absolutely rigth..... the leader make the things happend... and the changes start with the leader..... very good words....

Damn, I needed to hear this. Gotta make adjustments to get that training in outside if family hours.

I wondered about Jocko’s family. After listening to this, I like him even more. Oh and I love the “meathead” voice.

That is why being single is great.

Thank you Jocko for your continued service.

I regret sleeping on jocko for so long thinking he was just a dumb jock dude lol

Echo is the man dude. Mad respect.

Of all your videos this is by far the best advice anyone with a family can listen to.

I absolutely love this channel , I’m obsessed!!

Nice Joco you are 110% right, life is a learning lesson, and you break things down to a level of things should be done and the way life should be lived /Have to learn how to work with your pack aka family

I really needed to here this one, have to put myself in check. Edit: over 2 years later and absolutely crushing it, lead by example and suffer in silence. My wife seen this hard work and effort to lead our family and followed suit. Eating clean, working out, studying, and bettering ourselves as parents. Discipline really does equal freedom, get after it friends!!

Love this. Wish I'd seen this in my early twenties, but my families been so good living this way the past few years.

Wise words spoken.

I',m going to a psychologist in a few days for help with my tendency to not always be able to sleep deeply because when I do I will at times get nightmares or worse, night terrors. I have to gradually work on overcoming my anger issues.

Needed this Jocko!!!!!

Jocko you're my inspiration.

I don't have family I was an orphan But I also have SKINNY KNEES

You’re a legend

Wow this is extremely good advice in my opinion. It's the essence of "ju" - the philosophy behind traditional Japanese jiu-jitsu and every martial art derived from it which states that you should use your opponent's energy against him by going with his flow - applied to relationships, thus "do what is in your partner's interest and you're gonna get your wishes - or transform your wishes to be in your partner's interest".

“It might involve adjustments or attempts to get adjustments” I think the spirit or this question is less about blaming the family and more about how a bad person might attempt to get an adjustment or how to better attempt reaching alignment with your family.

Jocko's advice is stellar and sound. Every woman should practice this

What to do if your family is very intense and stressed and affects you with this type of energy? I love my family but I live and work with them and it’s hard to disconnect myself from their picking and prodding.

9:39 "Hey if we do a good job on this mission I'M gonna get promoted"

Good discussion, thank you!

Jocko, PLEASE get Robert Greene on your podcast. His knowledge of history, war, power, and human nature is second to none. The following books are life changing: 48 Laws of Power Mastery 33 Strategies of War 50th Law Laws of Human Nature The Art of Seduction

100% smart. Tell 'em Jocko!

I can see every muscle in Echos arm it’s fuckin crazy! Like see through skin

Good one! - I feel the same, don't tell people what to do. Tell what you want or need in any situation with a non forcefully approach. Lead and others will follow you naturally =)

Thanks for this advice guys. You're really helping me out with this channel.

Great advice!

Willink- They called me Johhny Appleseed to make fun of how good I was at cleaning the bathroom after 7 you know the general "Agogi" age. Love your channel Sir. It's not only for us but those after and now. Those before matter. Any mention of favorite warriors in history? Hmm maybe single Routine oriented small unit Tactics? CQB readiness and maintenance routines. Combat Medical procedures, stalking, Bush craft ect.

Very Cool man... Thanks...!

Great vid keep em coming guys

No jocko, he isn’t going to say something simplistic. He’s going to say something realistic

7:24 chillin' doing the podcast with Echo across from you, with a Knife in your hand.

dang...…. I did learn this as well after trying to get them on the path. they are watching. you don't have to say as much as you feel like. you cat make someone want it. they can be shown the benefits of it though and take off themselves. keep them coming boys. GOOD.

I rather be single than tip toe around unmotivated people. My only family is my mom, and I tried the method they are describing. It sucks. When I choose my own family, motivation and similar schedules/hobbies is something I am going to look for in whatever I enter a relationship.

Thanks dad

To the young Dads out there who want to do jiu jitsu but have little kids. Get the kids in jits build a friendship with the community and get your wife to see how supportive everyone is. Let your wife have a rest on the nights you guys go. Any mom will take this opportunity 🙂It takes a village to raise a child. If you can find a place that has a couple days a week where kids train along side the parents. That's your chance to get started but first help your kids get an understanding so it's like learning to ride a bike and the time comes for you to ride together. This is how my life is I have had a great time watching my kids grow and compete and for the last few yrs I have been training with them and it is the best time of the week. My wife is happy and likes having a meal ready for the troops (my daughter, son and I) on our return. We are all proud of the challenge we have completed. I didn't think of this it all happened in a beautiful way but you can make this a great way to show your kids your heart through pain and effort and you can show the love and understanding when the mats have been rough on them. We are all in this together family = team.

“My wife probably would have murdered me” hahahahaha what a dude

Yes yes yes that is RIGHT I AM a STRONG WOMEN and he is RIGHT so happy you said this thank you one man that. IS Right

Listen & Learn

awesome like the rest of your vids, thank you! in late 1980s, there was a dorky tv show called Major Dad. was about a Marine(?) who marries liberal reporter wife with three daughters, and the various familial hijinks that result. you may think it's dumb or get a few laughs out of it. tho yeah, it's part of why i say families sacrifice (in different way) as much as the soldier/sailor/airman who gets sent to wherever. not easy, which is part of what makes this vid so informative.

Jocko.... I WEAR the Pants in my family! But my wife tells me which ones I can wear... :-) I love all your videos and Thank you Sir for giving us lessons to live by and to improve our lives!

I make 15 chicken thighs every week, 10 for my husband and 5 for my self

Jocks is a student of Patrice O’Neil I can hear the similarities in his wisdom

Not sure how I feel about Jocko fidgeting with a knife 😳

NEEDED THIS THANK U

Jocko, thank you for everything you’ve done to help better lives and also for you’re service. I had a question on this topic, how can I help maintain self control when I have family members who are addicts and have gotten constant help but they always got back and it’s never enough. Wondering if you have any intel for me. Thank you 🙏🏼

This would not work with my wife all this navigating talk unless bjj had classes at nine pm or five in the morning. She works full time so I'm not sure how it would work

@08:18 just started #JiuJitsu a week ago, trained 6 days straight-only because they were closed on the 7th. My girlfriend made the same observation, there’s been a drastic change in temperament in a very short time.

I have a problem and i wonder if anyone could help me if they have any experience, there is this sensational feeling in my mind that makes me want to bring something interesting with me to school the next day, to impress someone i don’t really know for no absolute reason, i believe it is some sort of mental feeling that makes me feel like it is interesting to other people but i keep telling myself that i should worry about what i need for myself and hence want to detach from having people in my mind that are unnecessary, does this at all make sense?

Relates

What's going on EchoCharles' arm ?

🐐🐐🐐

Sure, no doubt...but bitches be crazy. In all seriousness though, some people are very low in agreeableness & are happy to lie around and have you make yourself a slave to them because why should they own anything if you'll own it all. There's a baseline presumption here of the other people being at all reasonable.

I’m afraid my partner will keep screwing up behind my back and the sons I’m trying to grow up as strong young morally good men will screwed up in the process. What do I do I’m afraid

Echo is more jacked than a streetshark

I keep asking my 13 y/o daughter who's going to flush her crap down her toilet when she goes to College or into Military Basic Training!? ~ My wife wants me to quit eating garlic & go work-out at the YMCA more often...Yet when she goes there with a certain g/f guess what they do together? ~ Smoke a few cigarettes!! ~ Why should i quit eating GARLIC?!!?

Yeh dude

These men are awesome..... It would be awesome if they become hardcore Christians

Cooking chicken breasts for THE WEAK! That’s how I heard it anyway. 😂

Am a teen.

Bravo.

🙏

I don't work out when my kids are sick. History has taught me that if I do I get sick breaks down the immune system too much

Sir, MBC parked a creepy shining van in front of my house.... I think I will burn it in the morning..

What brand/ model knife are you fiddling with here?

LOL is Echo high as fuck or what? hahahahaha

God was just a old word for a leader. We've just developed everything.

Starvem for 48 hours and reward with food

Make it happen🤨🤣🤣

Timely lol

What can I do for ya’ll?

Echo so cut it look like he got tattoos of muscle striations.. lolol

Join the military become a Drill Sergeant

When two people get married they become one, but are still 2 individuals.

I personally won’t be with no women who doesn’t support me and my dreams!!! Most women don’t under building anything!!! Blaming is another story tho!

He sounds like Eddie Bravo! LOL

Lol mother teaches my kids depend on everyone but your self expect everyone owe you something and if you do not get what you want from one person you go to the next and appreciate nothing, and anyone that takes care of you , you treat like dirt,, guess what it didn't work out lol

In my marriage, I expected a partnership... unfortunately, my wife expects something very different. Demands my attention. In other words, besides work...my time belongs to her and what I want doesn't matter. This has to change...

You know you’ve been married a long time, when everything is “your” fault. Lol.

Guys cook your own damn chicken, you shouldn't need help with that!

Excellent. If you were jewish and learned gemara you would make for a great rabbi... you would look kind of funny with the beard and black hat, though...then again🤔

Why is @echocharles being so smug?

Or you could just learn ju-jitsu.

I thought you were gonna' say: Turn the wife in and check out another one.

Stay single men. It’s only ever, your turn...

Jocko is right. You become a tyrant

Ridiculous

wish Jocko would stop interrupting...

How long have you guys been married? Your rationale is laughable.