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@ericarrow77855 жыл бұрын
Learned this early in my marriage. I workout at 5am because it's only inconvenient to me. And the sacrifice makes me feel more like a leader. Happily married 26 years now.
@SundayReacts5 жыл бұрын
Eric Arrow i as well noticed when I adjusted my workout to the morning, it doesn’t affect my families life. Like you said, only an inconvenience to myself
@manga30404 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@Dave-um7mw2 жыл бұрын
I'm going to give this a try. My morning routine was thrown out the window the day my wife moved in and I've been bummed about how out of shape I got and how out of control I've felt. Hopefully I can turn that round.
@hebinpun16052 жыл бұрын
@@Dave-um7mw Hope u succeed in that and like always getting after it.
@taibeaudet2873 Жыл бұрын
@@Dave-um7mw you can and will brother!
@livewiretennis5 жыл бұрын
“It isn’t your families fault when you are WEAK” Love it!
@RAMB0VI5 жыл бұрын
Unless they made you weak.
@frozenkilt5 жыл бұрын
@@RAMB0VI Noone can MAKE you weak but you. That's a choice. Same as everything else.
@RAMB0VI5 жыл бұрын
@@frozenkilt Naive statement.
@ForgottenKnight14 жыл бұрын
@@RAMB0VI Your family members might be weaker than you, but this is not an excuse to fall in the same habits. On the other hand, if they try to force it on you with manipulation or other stuff, you might need to put the foot in the door and have a serious talk about the direction of your marriage.
@bobjoe58513 жыл бұрын
@@RAMB0VI *unless you let them make you weak
@onetwothree2575 жыл бұрын
Echo always gushes and seems like a shy kid hanging out with his cool uncle.
@FirstLast-gk6lg5 жыл бұрын
Lol i agree i often wonder if he is eats edibles before the podcast
@willzjc5 жыл бұрын
If I get to hang out with Jocko everyday I’d gush harder. I like how this is the take away u have on the video that u feel the need to comment though. Meanwhile the rest of us are thinking “man I gotta stop thinking so selfishly”, you are thinking another man is gushing.
@kaylag50434 жыл бұрын
@@willzjc Dude chill, it was just a funny comment. You can take both a good message and humor from a video.
@fromobile92 жыл бұрын
After all the stories he has heard from Jocko... I'm sure he doesn't hold too many other men with as high regards.
@jackjack4412 Жыл бұрын
@@fromobile9 he probably does respect all men who have accomplished things, he's very humble. But I agree, it'd be very hard to meet someone more accomplished than Jocko.
@FirstLast-gk6lg5 жыл бұрын
I get this with my family and very long time friends. No ambition or drive to do anything more than the bare minimum. Thats why i started waking up at 4am like you Jocko, get a large part of my day done before other people wake up.
@djovani29 Жыл бұрын
I have to ask . How do you manage sleep? How much? What time? Any tips?
@FirstLast-gk6lg Жыл бұрын
@@djovani29 absolutely. My sleep schedule is awful, that's the truth. Always has been. On a good night I get to sleep around 9-10pm and sleep through the night. But that's very rare. Most of the time I go to sleep around midnight or I fall asleep at 9pm and wake up at 1am. I sleep in on the weekends and I often take a 1 hour nap in the afternoons. Which I don't mind, up at 3:45am Mon-Fri, I get so much done by noon that it feels ok to sleep for an hour or even 2 if I really feel I need it. I feel I have always struggled with insomnia, so the 8 hours a night thing was never for me.
@djovani29 Жыл бұрын
@@FirstLast-gk6lg Thnx for the insight! Appreciated.
@ImmolationBloom5 жыл бұрын
My path is my personal accountability
@fahb685 жыл бұрын
You are absolutely rigth..... the leader make the things happend... and the changes start with the leader..... very good words....
@LiftRunFight5 жыл бұрын
Damn, I needed to hear this. Gotta make adjustments to get that training in outside if family hours.
@dawnt55875 жыл бұрын
I wondered about Jocko’s family. After listening to this, I like him even more. Oh and I love the “meathead” voice.
@UnknownPlayer-eg4tc3 жыл бұрын
That is why being single is great.
@shawnmurphy36934 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jocko for your continued service.
@nathanprescott69134 жыл бұрын
I regret sleeping on jocko for so long thinking he was just a dumb jock dude lol
@Shubham.Katyal3 жыл бұрын
Bruh smh 🤦🤦🤦
@sikhbro54214 жыл бұрын
Echo is the man dude. Mad respect.
@fullmetalalkami64664 жыл бұрын
Of all your videos this is by far the best advice anyone with a family can listen to.
@holly28105 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love this channel , I’m obsessed!!
@jasonshellop48405 жыл бұрын
Nice Joco you are 110% right, life is a learning lesson, and you break things down to a level of things should be done and the way life should be lived /Have to learn how to work with your pack aka family
@KeblerKookies3 жыл бұрын
I really needed to here this one, have to put myself in check. Edit: over 2 years later and absolutely crushing it, lead by example and suffer in silence. My wife seen this hard work and effort to lead our family and followed suit. Eating clean, working out, studying, and bettering ourselves as parents. Discipline really does equal freedom, get after it friends!!
@nick5119410 ай бұрын
Love this. Wish I'd seen this in my early twenties, but my families been so good living this way the past few years.
@JumpRopeVeteran5 жыл бұрын
Wise words spoken.
@jenniferdana56655 жыл бұрын
I',m going to a psychologist in a few days for help with my tendency to not always be able to sleep deeply because when I do I will at times get nightmares or worse, night terrors. I have to gradually work on overcoming my anger issues.
@maggiethedruid90103 жыл бұрын
How'd it go?
@pushharder06165 жыл бұрын
Needed this Jocko!!!!!
@66vapor665 жыл бұрын
Jocko you're my inspiration.
@donalejo18895 жыл бұрын
I don't have family I was an orphan But I also have SKINNY KNEES
@sergiotl73785 жыл бұрын
LMAO
@Crimson345335 жыл бұрын
maximum R.I.P.
@DamaniJones5 жыл бұрын
LOL
@RAMB0VI5 жыл бұрын
You are lucky, most families are shit.
@nekonfliktný895 жыл бұрын
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa :D
@obaidjafar91525 жыл бұрын
You’re a legend
@charlotteice57045 жыл бұрын
Wow this is extremely good advice in my opinion. It's the essence of "ju" - the philosophy behind traditional Japanese jiu-jitsu and every martial art derived from it which states that you should use your opponent's energy against him by going with his flow - applied to relationships, thus "do what is in your partner's interest and you're gonna get your wishes - or transform your wishes to be in your partner's interest".
@nothingnewtome12 жыл бұрын
“It might involve adjustments or attempts to get adjustments” I think the spirit or this question is less about blaming the family and more about how a bad person might attempt to get an adjustment or how to better attempt reaching alignment with your family.
@bws1971 Жыл бұрын
Jocko's advice is stellar and sound. Every woman should practice this
@ImCheesedOut5 жыл бұрын
What to do if your family is very intense and stressed and affects you with this type of energy? I love my family but I live and work with them and it’s hard to disconnect myself from their picking and prodding.
@taylorleblanc54445 жыл бұрын
Feel this 100%! This situation sucks ass, i am currently dealing with it at this moment.
@543567765 жыл бұрын
Help them , show them that you empathise with their concerns. It's hard to do and totally against my own nature but it usually calms them down at least and it will help you feel less stressed.
@lewis19025 жыл бұрын
It's really hard, but you can learn to do it with practice. You have to train yourself to acknowledge your emotions but not engage with them behaviorally: train to create distance between your emotions and your behavior and you'll learn that the more you struggle with them the worse they affect you. I think the best attitude is to treat every pick and prod as a test of your patience, and if you refuse to engage, you win. The greatest remedy to anger is delay.
@jurjenbavelaar15585 жыл бұрын
Take ownership & talk to them about the situation. (Been there, it helps)
@saltyzombiefan66715 жыл бұрын
Be away from your family. Work in your studio or rent an office space. No reason to be around people sucking your energy. They will also be much more pleasant to be around the less you see them.
@Bassman-yh3uv5 жыл бұрын
9:39 "Hey if we do a good job on this mission I'M gonna get promoted"
@JToca5 жыл бұрын
Good discussion, thank you!
@christopherwallace55215 жыл бұрын
Jocko, PLEASE get Robert Greene on your podcast. His knowledge of history, war, power, and human nature is second to none. The following books are life changing: 48 Laws of Power Mastery 33 Strategies of War 50th Law Laws of Human Nature The Art of Seduction
@the89185 жыл бұрын
He has not been in combat and he wrote a book about 33 strategies of war?
@bradlindblad52255 жыл бұрын
48 Laws of Power is about manipulating people -- not exactly something Jocko would probably support
@p_serdiuk4 жыл бұрын
@@the8918 The book is a rehash of the Art of War and On War, combined with some historical anecdotes. It's useful as a reference.
@chickenshieee4 жыл бұрын
Jocko doesn’t wouldn’t want to talk with that manipulator
@mattmancuso42204 жыл бұрын
100% smart. Tell 'em Jocko!
@0xg4845 жыл бұрын
I can see every muscle in Echos arm it’s fuckin crazy! Like see through skin
@licencetochill74895 жыл бұрын
Good one! - I feel the same, don't tell people what to do. Tell what you want or need in any situation with a non forcefully approach. Lead and others will follow you naturally =)
@sikhbro54214 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this advice guys. You're really helping me out with this channel.
@thehandsurgeon4 жыл бұрын
Great advice!
@selflessly1015 жыл бұрын
Willink- They called me Johhny Appleseed to make fun of how good I was at cleaning the bathroom after 7 you know the general "Agogi" age. Love your channel Sir. It's not only for us but those after and now. Those before matter. Any mention of favorite warriors in history? Hmm maybe single Routine oriented small unit Tactics? CQB readiness and maintenance routines. Combat Medical procedures, stalking, Bush craft ect.
@DiegoPereyra5 жыл бұрын
Very Cool man... Thanks...!
@Brandon-ml9lx5 жыл бұрын
Great vid keep em coming guys
@Youtubesuckz9765 жыл бұрын
No jocko, he isn’t going to say something simplistic. He’s going to say something realistic
@spencerkeep88165 жыл бұрын
7:24 chillin' doing the podcast with Echo across from you, with a Knife in your hand.
@spooky75425 жыл бұрын
dang...…. I did learn this as well after trying to get them on the path. they are watching. you don't have to say as much as you feel like. you cat make someone want it. they can be shown the benefits of it though and take off themselves. keep them coming boys. GOOD.
@jasmynesartstudio Жыл бұрын
I rather be single than tip toe around unmotivated people. My only family is my mom, and I tried the method they are describing. It sucks. When I choose my own family, motivation and similar schedules/hobbies is something I am going to look for in whatever I enter a relationship.
@AlexHernandez-ke2nd4 жыл бұрын
Thanks dad
@AlexHernandez-ke2nd4 жыл бұрын
Holy shit jocko I’m laughing at the similarities you just said My father who we hate would work all day be gone for months still work then drop his stuff off grab his gym bag and leave. He was always angry always. when he got home from work we thought it was because he didn’t like it here (he was cheating) . Me and my mom describe it as walking on egg shells when ever he’s home because he’s a ticking time bomb angry guy and tbh I have no idea what for he had everything he ever needed house 2 nice cars and threw it all away for a younger girl
@glitzandgratitude11702 жыл бұрын
To the young Dads out there who want to do jiu jitsu but have little kids. Get the kids in jits build a friendship with the community and get your wife to see how supportive everyone is. Let your wife have a rest on the nights you guys go. Any mom will take this opportunity 🙂It takes a village to raise a child. If you can find a place that has a couple days a week where kids train along side the parents. That's your chance to get started but first help your kids get an understanding so it's like learning to ride a bike and the time comes for you to ride together. This is how my life is I have had a great time watching my kids grow and compete and for the last few yrs I have been training with them and it is the best time of the week. My wife is happy and likes having a meal ready for the troops (my daughter, son and I) on our return. We are all proud of the challenge we have completed. I didn't think of this it all happened in a beautiful way but you can make this a great way to show your kids your heart through pain and effort and you can show the love and understanding when the mats have been rough on them. We are all in this together family = team.
@Chocolatnave123 Жыл бұрын
as someone who trains, dont bring your brats to the gym
@glitzandgratitude1170 Жыл бұрын
@@Chocolatnave123 lol they are the future my friend. I train with many fathers you have a shitty attitude.
@Chocolatnave123 Жыл бұрын
@@glitzandgratitude1170 have you considered the opinions of anyone outside your group of fathers? saying i have a shitty attitude because i have a different opinion than you and all your friends is a pretty shitty thing to think, my friend.
@glitzandgratitude1170 Жыл бұрын
@@Chocolatnave123 families build our community. My professors kids are there and his wife is also a double black belt in Japanese and Brazilian. You do you, man. I was just trying to extend my life experience to others who needed a way to handle being a father, setting an example for our kids and families while pursuing more in life. I see guys like you at the gym all the time, doing it for themselves and have dreams of being a World beater and if thats the case great and good luck but you will always need fans and supporters and thats us. Maybe help the families from your experience rather than see them as little brats. Take care bud.
@lsyl17 Жыл бұрын
Lol what if one of the kids is an infant
@chickenshieee4 жыл бұрын
“My wife probably would have murdered me” hahahahaha what a dude
@robynbabecka49895 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes that is RIGHT I AM a STRONG WOMEN and he is RIGHT so happy you said this thank you one man that. IS Right
@puresafe20115 жыл бұрын
Listen & Learn
@Numantino3125 жыл бұрын
awesome like the rest of your vids, thank you! in late 1980s, there was a dorky tv show called Major Dad. was about a Marine(?) who marries liberal reporter wife with three daughters, and the various familial hijinks that result. you may think it's dumb or get a few laughs out of it. tho yeah, it's part of why i say families sacrifice (in different way) as much as the soldier/sailor/airman who gets sent to wherever. not easy, which is part of what makes this vid so informative.
@glocktown215 жыл бұрын
Jocko.... I WEAR the Pants in my family! But my wife tells me which ones I can wear... :-) I love all your videos and Thank you Sir for giving us lessons to live by and to improve our lives!
@janedoe-to2yc5 жыл бұрын
I make 15 chicken thighs every week, 10 for my husband and 5 for my self
@c431inf5 жыл бұрын
Lol God bless you that's great I get leftovers if any
@martinmartin13305 жыл бұрын
Jocks is a student of Patrice O’Neil I can hear the similarities in his wisdom
@BurninVinyl5 жыл бұрын
Except Jocko will never get a pleasure being a swinger lol
@huggz75433 жыл бұрын
The late great 😌
@bridelessgroom13693 жыл бұрын
"HEY JOCKO! AIN'T THAT BETTAH?" LOL LOVE Patrice O'Neal!
@Scotsdave5 жыл бұрын
Not sure how I feel about Jocko fidgeting with a knife 😳
@ivanmendoza73215 жыл бұрын
The Agent In The East 😂😂
@eisenwerks63885 жыл бұрын
It's part of his body language for "this is important shit" heh
@SundayReacts5 жыл бұрын
NEEDED THIS THANK U
@Pagainzo5 жыл бұрын
Jocko, thank you for everything you’ve done to help better lives and also for you’re service. I had a question on this topic, how can I help maintain self control when I have family members who are addicts and have gotten constant help but they always got back and it’s never enough. Wondering if you have any intel for me. Thank you 🙏🏼
@jenniferdana56655 жыл бұрын
Be disiolined. Create relationships. Be kind. Explain yourself. Be respectful. Take action to make healthy changes so you'll feel better.
@lsyl17 Жыл бұрын
This would not work with my wife all this navigating talk unless bjj had classes at nine pm or five in the morning. She works full time so I'm not sure how it would work
@BarbellMethod2 жыл бұрын
@08:18 just started #JiuJitsu a week ago, trained 6 days straight-only because they were closed on the 7th. My girlfriend made the same observation, there’s been a drastic change in temperament in a very short time.
@bowlo_ilyaas5 жыл бұрын
I have a problem and i wonder if anyone could help me if they have any experience, there is this sensational feeling in my mind that makes me want to bring something interesting with me to school the next day, to impress someone i don’t really know for no absolute reason, i believe it is some sort of mental feeling that makes me feel like it is interesting to other people but i keep telling myself that i should worry about what i need for myself and hence want to detach from having people in my mind that are unnecessary, does this at all make sense?
@DavidTremblay3 жыл бұрын
Relates
@smalltimer6665 жыл бұрын
What's going on EchoCharles' arm ?
@tylerdurden76905 жыл бұрын
Muscle sleeve
@MichaelJames707 Жыл бұрын
🐐🐐🐐
@GodsOwnPrototype5 жыл бұрын
Sure, no doubt...but bitches be crazy. In all seriousness though, some people are very low in agreeableness & are happy to lie around and have you make yourself a slave to them because why should they own anything if you'll own it all. There's a baseline presumption here of the other people being at all reasonable.
@mysticbluelight58725 жыл бұрын
I’m afraid my partner will keep screwing up behind my back and the sons I’m trying to grow up as strong young morally good men will screwed up in the process. What do I do I’m afraid
@ResolvedGrayness5 жыл бұрын
Try to get on the same page, talk about what you both want for your kids and why. Also, there's no adult reason to be asking this in the youtube comment section so realize you are probably just as likely to screw your kids up.
@treelee26024 жыл бұрын
Echo is more jacked than a streetshark
@riccaruso77915 жыл бұрын
I keep asking my 13 y/o daughter who's going to flush her crap down her toilet when she goes to College or into Military Basic Training!? ~ My wife wants me to quit eating garlic & go work-out at the YMCA more often...Yet when she goes there with a certain g/f guess what they do together? ~ Smoke a few cigarettes!! ~ Why should i quit eating GARLIC?!!?
@TerierBull5 жыл бұрын
you poor soul
@tylerdurden76905 жыл бұрын
Guys going to a gym to workout is gay. Do the home gym.
@ShadaeMastersAstrology5 жыл бұрын
Sean Fuhrman I’ve heard about what you’ve mentioned here. I hear that many of them get it on the the locker area.
@tylerdurden76905 жыл бұрын
@@ShadaeMastersAstrology dunno, never been. I don't even like working out in front of my wife.
@Newbport8494 жыл бұрын
@@tylerdurden7690 you're gay
@00Noontide5 жыл бұрын
Yeh dude
@andrewmccall24215 жыл бұрын
These men are awesome..... It would be awesome if they become hardcore Christians
@cascadianapplications71244 жыл бұрын
Something worth praying for 👍
@Chrissummerill4 жыл бұрын
Cooking chicken breasts for THE WEAK! That’s how I heard it anyway. 😂
@clawedmist68934 жыл бұрын
Am a teen.
@trainingwood5 жыл бұрын
Bravo.
@enjoythedaybrand6809 Жыл бұрын
🙏
@jimmyconway83685 жыл бұрын
I don't work out when my kids are sick. History has taught me that if I do I get sick breaks down the immune system too much
@ahmedalmoaber89524 жыл бұрын
Sir, MBC parked a creepy shining van in front of my house.... I think I will burn it in the morning..
@MikeMcCormick13255 жыл бұрын
What brand/ model knife are you fiddling with here?
@RushVoorhisOutdoors5 жыл бұрын
LOL is Echo high as fuck or what? hahahahaha
@danamuller50165 жыл бұрын
Haha yessss
@miklossethnikolajsen31985 жыл бұрын
God was just a old word for a leader. We've just developed everything.
@nikonxxx5 жыл бұрын
Starvem for 48 hours and reward with food
@virgilmerino65405 жыл бұрын
Make it happen🤨🤣🤣
@thewize5 жыл бұрын
Timely lol
@rykerquackenbush5854 жыл бұрын
What can I do for ya’ll?
@fosterchild17934 жыл бұрын
Echo so cut it look like he got tattoos of muscle striations.. lolol
@youlee80635 жыл бұрын
Join the military become a Drill Sergeant
@ratagris214 жыл бұрын
When two people get married they become one, but are still 2 individuals.
@RAZASHARP5 жыл бұрын
I personally won’t be with no women who doesn’t support me and my dreams!!! Most women don’t under building anything!!! Blaming is another story tho!
@internet332 жыл бұрын
You won't find what you desire without giving what you desire
@thecohenclan75905 жыл бұрын
He sounds like Eddie Bravo! LOL
@c431inf5 жыл бұрын
Lol mother teaches my kids depend on everyone but your self expect everyone owe you something and if you do not get what you want from one person you go to the next and appreciate nothing, and anyone that takes care of you , you treat like dirt,, guess what it didn't work out lol
@ianmcfee56115 жыл бұрын
In my marriage, I expected a partnership... unfortunately, my wife expects something very different. Demands my attention. In other words, besides work...my time belongs to her and what I want doesn't matter. This has to change...
@TheDallasDwayne5 жыл бұрын
Difficult situation but remember what Jocko would say about ownership. At the end of the day, You are the one who controls Your actions. There is a book called Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud which really helped change my thinking in this area. I highly recommend it. Best of luck, sir!
@ianmcfee56115 жыл бұрын
@@TheDallasDwayne thanks...I should have set these boundaries 40 years ago...
@chadspencer76295 жыл бұрын
Mgtow
@llewodcm205 жыл бұрын
Anything you don't like about a relationship is your fault. Take ownership. Set boundaries and show some self respect and she'll probably respect you more. Just do it righteously and always explain yourself logically. Set an example.
@jimperry44205 жыл бұрын
You know you’ve been married a long time, when everything is “your” fault. Lol.
@mieko745 жыл бұрын
Guys cook your own damn chicken, you shouldn't need help with that!
@SK8N715 жыл бұрын
If people rely on others to cook for themselves they need to take a long hard look in the mirror
@gilnetter5 жыл бұрын
He's just using cooking the chicken as an example of quid pro quo in a relationship. He seems pretty capable of doing just about everything, including cooking a few chicken breasts.
@user-pf4px2cn9e4 жыл бұрын
Excellent. If you were jewish and learned gemara you would make for a great rabbi... you would look kind of funny with the beard and black hat, though...then again🤔
@bh58174 жыл бұрын
Evil
@interludic2 жыл бұрын
Why is @echocharles being so smug?
@wankyiffer92763 жыл бұрын
Or you could just learn ju-jitsu.
@brendandrury21775 жыл бұрын
I thought you were gonna' say: Turn the wife in and check out another one.
@jlk41065 жыл бұрын
Stay single men. It’s only ever, your turn...
@tylerdurden76905 жыл бұрын
No thanks. Marry the right woman you share goals with. It makes your life better.
@chickenshieee4 жыл бұрын
Jocko is right. You become a tyrant
@gardenroom655 жыл бұрын
Ridiculous
@LeviNormandeau5 жыл бұрын
wish Jocko would stop interrupting...
@larryarocha69705 жыл бұрын
How long have you guys been married? Your rationale is laughable.