How To Emotionally Support Your Foster Child

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Discover effective ways to support your foster care child's emotional health with insights from a foster care mom and course designer. In this video series, we delve into practical strategies and personal experiences to help you navigate the emotional challenges of foster care parenting. From building trust to managing trauma, we cover essential topics to promote your foster child's well-being. Join us as we share tips, resources, and real-life stories to empower you on your journey as a foster care parent. Subscribe now and unlock the key to fostering a nurturing environment for your foster child's emotional growth.
00:00 - Miss A came to visit!
02:28 - Introducing the conversation about emotional support
03:15 - Current common struggles in finding good homes
04:13 - Traits of good foster care parents
04:38 - Empathy and compassion are key
05:38 - Active listening!
06:19 - Keep your promises!
09:38 - Affirmation and validation
11:18 - Seek professional support
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@KatTheo431 3 ай бұрын

I'm a former foster youth and in all six foster homes I was in, none supported or advocated for what I wanted. And it really is rare for any foster parents to do that - unless what the foster youth wants aligns with what the foster parents want (like adoption). I think the root issue is why people are fostering and why they may say they want to help kids/teens, they really want to build their family or promote their religion or have certain ideas about what fostering is and anything outside that doesn't work for them. My situation was unique since my mom's parental rights were terminated since she became disabled, but every foster parent treated me like I was too stupid to understand what TPR was and explain why I couldn't see my mom rather than helping me go see her. I think a few times I was moved, part of the reason was foster parents wanting a better fit with someone who would drive me the 90 mins to the facility where my mom was. But they all wanted to adopt and I didn't want that and I wanted to visit my mom - so I was moved. When fostering is all about what the foster parent(s) wants to get out of it - then it results in disruptions and a lot of people quitting. But trying to find foster parents who want to help bio families is never going to happen. They may say they want to help kids, but very few people actually want to help their parents.

@mochalatte13 3 ай бұрын

Not a foster parent, but I’m a teacher at an alternative school for kids with behavior issues. Most of the kids have trauma, have spent time in juvenile detention, and I come across many in the foster system. I think empathy and being judgement free is so important. I’m still in my first few years working with this population and I struggle and feel guilty if I don’t connect with a kid, so thank you for the reminder that not every kid might feel safe enough to open up, even with a safe environment. I do have a couple teens who did open up and still keep in touch; one is doing well and I’m so proud of how far she’s come; the other is struggling due to challenges with the foster system and trauma, but he feels safe enough to reach out to me to talk when he needs the support. I tell myself that even making a difference for a couple kids is still making a difference. I appreciate this video and I feel like it should be used in trainings for anyone working with teens with a history of trauma. Very informative and encouraging!

@KSalmon74 3 ай бұрын

Hi Arianna! Glad you came to see and update us! Congrats on school! You will be an awesome nurse!❤

@desireeglynn6230 2 ай бұрын

i love how your pantry is open and they can always see whats in it

@madisonrose1576 3 ай бұрын

Not a foster mom (yet) but my husband and I coparent my non biological daughter with her biological father (my ex). I’ve been her primary mom since she was 1. She is about to turn 8, and the three of us are taking her to Disney world next month. I wish her bio mom could see how amazing she is, how great of a big sister she is to my boys, but she’s in a very bad place and doesn’t want to speak to any family. Thank you for this insight because I would like to be able to gently guide her when questions about her bio mom arise. ❤

@knotcoppercurls 3 ай бұрын

Am I in a position to be a foster parent right now? No. But these are things that I’m definitely going to be implementing as a YA librarian!

@gapkid94 3 ай бұрын

Really excited to start seeing more KZfaq content from you again 🤙🏻🙏🏻

@maccifyme 3 ай бұрын

I'm not 100 % on board with telling a child they're strong or brave for having gone through what they've been forced to endure. I understand the idea of empowering them and telling them all these good things, and I'm sure it does feel validating for some kids! However, I also know some kids does really dislike being told that they're strong, brave etc. because what happened to them wasn't their choice. They didn't decide to survive ab*se, or move from foster home to foster home, or have their parent in prison, or whatever happened to them. They were simply put in a situation that they should have never been put in. I think that is very important to be mindful of. I think it oftentimes is more helpful to focus on their own strenghts, bravery etc. So, for example, instead of saying "You are so strong for having gone through all of that!", one could say something along the lines of "I'm so sorry you had to go through that, I can hear it was very difficult for you. I think it must have taken a lot of strength to keep doing so good in school/telling someone what happened to you/whatever, and I am so proud of you for doing that!" I'm not insinuating that you're not doing this, I just wanted to put the though out for anyone who might read this comment and maybe need to se this perspective as well.

@kmcheesehead7953 3 ай бұрын

Missss AAAAAA! WOOT WOOT!

@desireeglynn6230 2 ай бұрын

i was a foster parent who adopted a medically complex child ... but i would NEVER foster again.. not because of the kids.... but because of the actual county "professionals" and all of the trauma that they did to both my daughter and me and just dragging things out for so long and hurting the bio family too. 4.5 years before they let mom voluntarily give up rights. that was just plain torture.