How to Fix a One Sided Relationship (Codependent Relationships)

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How to Fix a One Sided Relationship (Codependent Relationships)

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Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris

Күн бұрын

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@jenniferfox8382 11 ай бұрын

I decided to leave and fix myself That other person can decide if they want to fix themselves (without me).

@MichelleFarrismft 11 ай бұрын

Good for you Jennifer!

@csstudio3648 11 ай бұрын

Me too! This is an ingrained pattern. Been tryng the do less approach. It's been working so far, thank goodness!

@MichelleFarrismft 11 ай бұрын

YES! Even though it's not easy - it IS simple to just focus on doing less :) So glad you found me!

@whome4851 8 күн бұрын

The most important is yourself not a person who came to your life fee months or few years ago.

@MichelleFarrismft 8 күн бұрын

@@whome4851 good point!

@dianeshoemaker6591 10 күн бұрын

I’ve been in a lot of one sided friendships. I started to discuss my wants and needs for them to put more in, such reciprocating reaching out to connect or returning texts or calls. Unfortunately most weren’t going for that and either they gaslighted me or they stopped communicating or I pulled away. Ultimately many friendships died because I wasn’t willing to keep putting in all the effort. It’s been very painful and I realized I do the same with my parents and in-laws. It’s triggered the rejection wound to think that unless I do most of the work to keep the relationship going, they don’t feel I am worth it. That’s what hurts the most is them not thinking I am worth it.

@MichelleFarrismft 10 күн бұрын

Actually I would encourage you to see this as GROWTH! BY putting your need out there you are getting valuable (but painful) information back about these relationships. THAT becomes your starting point for building healthier relationships moving forward. Make sense?

@dianeshoemaker6591 10 күн бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft thank you for responding and for your insight to change my perspective on it. You and your content are incredibly valuable and helpful, especially when it comes to friendships, because most relationship info is focused on the romantic side and I have more friends vs just 1 partner. Friendships seem trickier for some reason, especially female ones because of the whole girls have to be nice thing, but aren’t really kind. It gets very confusing and especially when I am prone to being overly responsible and accountable for my side of the street. Somehow I often end up taking ownership for both my and their behavior…for both sides of the street. I know… I struggle deeply with codependency.

@MichelleFarrismft 10 күн бұрын

@@dianeshoemaker6591 oh I can so relate! Are you on my email list? I have some journal prompts and e-guides that might help. Here is my latest one counselingrecovery.lpages.co/codependent-friendship/

@Angie-AFB 11 ай бұрын

Very helpful, thank you!:)

@MichelleFarrismft 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching! I’m so glad you found me!

@amy52347 8 ай бұрын

I love how you say, "I don't want that for you." It feels really caring. I realize that what you are talking about describes me. I have been having a hard time of it. Thankfully I have been doing some things right, even though inwardly I am codependent. Now I hope to begin recovering.

@MichelleFarrismft 8 ай бұрын

You have already started by watching these kinds of videos! I have lots of free and paid resources - if you have any questions feel free to email me.

@madebyhan 5 ай бұрын

omg. I just hit pause to write my list and number one is I feel responsible for.... and it just kept on going and going and wow! I just realized I've been babysitting a two year old for the last decade. All while convinced that I was the two year old who was being rescued by the actual 2 year old.

@MichelleFarrismft 5 ай бұрын

I LOVE that you did that!v It's so powerful to see what messages we tell ourselves. Great work!

@sajinig6555 9 ай бұрын

Thank you. It is useful.

@MichelleFarrismft 9 ай бұрын

I’m so glad! Thank you for watching!

@nancyantonini1097 11 ай бұрын

Michelle ❤Excellent Thank You

@MichelleFarrismft 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Nancy!

@ritawhitehead9138 8 күн бұрын

ME TOO !!!!!!

@MichelleFarrismft 8 күн бұрын

@@ritawhitehead9138 thanks Rita! You’re not alone!

@phemery1182 4 ай бұрын

Me too!!

@MichelleFarrismft 4 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@emmanuelnubuor7653 4 ай бұрын

Me too

@MichelleFarrismft 4 ай бұрын

Thanks Emmanuel!

@ayeshanasir9916 11 ай бұрын

Me too!

@MichelleFarrismft 11 ай бұрын

Thank you! I'm glad you found this video :)

@hildagurdian1760 18 күн бұрын

me too

@MichelleFarrismft 18 күн бұрын

Thanks Hilda!

@dannydevito8326 2 ай бұрын

shall i also match the way they text me? if they are being blunt and giving short replies, should i do the same?

@MichelleFarrismft 2 ай бұрын

No, I wouldn’t recommend that. The goal is to feel good about what We say and do in hopes of creating a healthier connection.

@dannydevito8326 2 ай бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft thanks for the reply! so even if she is giving short blunt replies i should still engage in new conversations and try to keep it going?