Journelling is amazing! It isn’t just a release of feelings, but I have found the benefit to read back on journal entries and remind myself of the pain, but also why I made the choices I did and also to see how far I have come. Even a year later, I still go through periods of thinking it is me.

Thank you, Ben. I found Lee Hammock when I was hurting and then I found you and you have both helped me tremendously. As one who was on the heartbroken, trauma-bonded, thought I wanted to die from the discard side of things, I can honestly say God has brought me to the other side and I am happy, joyful, and most importantly, FREE from wanting him back. Thank you so much for being a part of my victory.

This makes much more sense now. Ok. I get it. If you could see the bright lightbulb that just went off over my head…it really is encouraging

Wow--this just gave me a major epiphany. I just got scammed recently (everyone be SO careful!! Mine was an Amazon gift card scam!); but hearing this I realize my narc used so many similar mind-twisting strategies. For SIX years, I was similarly 'scammed'! And I know why I've not been able to see it--seeing it degrades one's faith and trust in humanity and oneself, and that is so heart wrenchingly hard to come to terms with. That a person will just use and twist another person like that.

The aging Narcissist will wonder (example) why his/her children never visit them. Early days with my ex Narc: I would avoid his phone calls because I knew he would start abusing. Feel that "avoiding" mode.... that's what helped me walk away for GOOD.

I only found out yesterday that I had a relationship with a narcissist 11 years ago. He had love bombing me and I didn't know what was happening to me. Ultimately he broke off the relationship and the reason never sat well with me. Now I realize that deep down I now know that it was not the real reason. We broke up during the love bombing period and I found that so difficult to understand because "everything felt good" and I realize that there was trauma bonding. It is the story you tell yourself and that determines your truth. Thank you for the video

Hi Ben! Thanks for doing what u do. It's inspiring and helps a ton.

The first thing I do is face the truth and my reality and face things head on. I do things each day for myself and become content in my own company. When I go out I am the cheerful chatty person that makes me me and I sometimes feel that smile inside. When the pain comes at the most unexpected at times I'm not staid to feel it or cry wherever I am, but I try to keep composed. 🍒

I am going through this right now the healing process going strong💪

This is one of the best Videos Ben! Thank you so much! But it wasn’t that bad……maybe it was me…….now I understand why journaling is so important! It is hard for me to see what was the truth!

I really appreciate these videos, thank you and have a blessed day sir.

Only several weeks since the break up. Feeling sometimes so helpless

Triggers: If I only think about selfdefence (protect my inside) it causes me to feel guilt.

5 months on and I'm still angry/sad 😠 😡

Thanks for the Video and the advice ....

Almost a year and I am not even close to being ok.

Wonderful conversation Ben

Thank you! This helped. A lot. Bless you.

Very powerful. I'm finally transitioning from understanding what happened to my body to rewiring my circuitry. This quiet in my head is something I've never experienced. It's a little uncomfortable due to my brain always being in vigilant mode for over 35 years.

I've been in a metastasis since years. I'm still not sure he's not still stealing stuff, it's just annoying. Good 2-3 years of NC though minus his yard hoovers. I am lucky in he doesn't want to be seen.

Why the question mark?

Writing is massive catharsis.