How To Identify Your Core Values: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

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Values is an important core process in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). More than simple goals that we check off once, your personal values are like a north star providing guidance for how you want to show up in life and what direction you want to be headed.
Check out this video as we explore the difference between goals and values, starting points for identifying your personal core values, and next steps.
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@theworldispeace 2 ай бұрын

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@theacttherapist Ай бұрын

I love this! Thank you for sharing. It means a lot to me. And it looks like you've grown even more since you posted this comment. You should ABSOLUTELY be proud of starting!

@nathananderson8720 Ай бұрын

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@robertafierro5592 Жыл бұрын

One last thing, accepting Trauma, I mean, consistant TRAUMA, is thee most difficult thing to attain. You know what? It's a Challenge, that's all. My own mind holds me back and I couldn't see it till now. I'm 63. Thank you to EVERYONE who makes these videos possible. I'm very grateful..

@theacttherapist 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I think one of the challenging things is separating out our responses to trauma and the trauma (behavior of abuse or horrifying experience) itself. The actual behavior does not need to be accepted nor should it be. Trauma or abuse is not okay. If someone is hurting you, that is on that person and they are at fault.

@libasaurus6776 5 ай бұрын

No idea why you haven't got more subscribers - just started watching your videos and they're really helpful. Short but bursting with information and things to reflect on.

@theacttherapist 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for the kind comments! I haven’t posted a video in a while as other life things have taken priority. I think posting more regularly would help me get out there to more folks. Appreciate you taking the time to comment!

@libasaurus6776 5 ай бұрын

@@theacttherapist Do what's best for you, but I appreciate the content you've made. :)

@janicesztabnik5471 5 ай бұрын

Excellent video, deserves returning to, thx!

@mehmetefe9814 6 ай бұрын

You helped me a lot thank you so much!

@sakshijain8743 3 ай бұрын

Very well explained!

@probrickieexclusive 2 күн бұрын

Very insightful thank you.

@Jason-ou3pt 6 ай бұрын

The information discussed in this video is presented in a really end user friendly and makes me want to take the advice on - thank you.

@pout109 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing.

@theacttherapist Жыл бұрын

You're very welcome! I'm glad it was helpful!!

@taimurcgi 11 ай бұрын

The actionable small steps advice is great! I've been watching a ton of videos on discovering core values for personal life and business and yours gave me more clarity in terms of acting on it. Thanks!

@theacttherapist 10 ай бұрын

This is so great to hear! Thanks for commenting. Please let me know if there are other similar videos that could be of help!

@emilylin836 9 ай бұрын

This is an amazing video! I really appreciate your perspective that you shared; I was laid off from my first full time job yesterday and I think that this was really eye opening for me. I think, especially being fresh out of college, its really easy for me to lose track of my values or deprioritize my sense of self - this was very grounding.

@theacttherapist 7 ай бұрын

I'm so happy to hear this video was helpful to you during a stressful period in life. Thanks for commenting and wishing you all the best!

@musicmovement 4 ай бұрын

Just found your channel. These videos are amazing! Thank you!

@theacttherapist Ай бұрын

Thank you so much! Glad you like them!

@DanielCNoble Жыл бұрын

I had no goals, my partner wanted me to find some. I found a goal I really wanted, my controlling partner discouraged me from reaching it. Long story short, I'm now divorcing my partner. I have goals and values now. 😎

@theacttherapist 10 ай бұрын

Love that for you! Sorry you had to go through that journey but great to hear you are getting to live your values now.

@EMRAN994 Жыл бұрын

Great video, I love it

@theacttherapist Жыл бұрын

Thank you! I really appreciate you taking the time to post!

@rechaelikwuagwu8542 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video! Your explanations are so approachable. Usually when I try to reflect on what my values are or what I want them to be, it’s from a place of criticism which produces guilt and not changed behavior. I end up stuck.

@theacttherapist Жыл бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment! I'm so glad to hear the video was helpful. And you are definitely not alone. We get so much messaging around what we "should" value that it ends up becoming a source or shame, guilt, or inadequacy. I'm glad to hear the video helped you focus on what truly matters to you.

@daniellesanders9677 Жыл бұрын

i needed this today

@theacttherapist Жыл бұрын

I’m so happy my video found you at the right time! Glad to hear it helped :) If there’s any other videos you’d like to see please let me know.

@jeffbrumby3442 6 ай бұрын

Hi, thanks for the video, it's helped me build on what I'm learning from Steven Hayes. "I don't wanna be that, I wanna be this" - could that be construed as avoidant behaviour?

@robertafierro5592 Жыл бұрын

I'm SO HAPPY right now. I'm so glad that I didn't scroll by this SUPER IMPORTANT VIDEO. I now BIEVE I'm on the right track. One thing, though..I am an addict for the rest of my life. In accepting that fact, I know NOW what to focus on. I've had years and years of poor therapy..I was pretty much looking forward to NOTHING. I am also listening to Victor Frankl's famous 5 part book. I'm up to part 3 right now!

@theacttherapist 10 ай бұрын

So happy this resonated with you! Love Victor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning book.

@ceej5705 8 ай бұрын

To define yourself as an addict for the rest of your life is very dangerous and inaccurate. You are not broken, you are exactly where you should be. Reframe your struggles to find what you have learned along your life's path....run with these valuable gifts you have been taught as strengths...define yourself by them instead.

@Plasmafox 10 ай бұрын

Realizing my childhood of abuse and neglect only left room for me to value safety and food lmao. When even those are temporary privileges or "rewards," nothing else can be any kind of priority. Now I'm old and still living for just that and can't imagine a life based on anything higher. Which is a barrier to therapy lmao...

@missyfromholland4004 2 ай бұрын

You’re here for a reason. You can start and always stop, you decide.

@Fiox789 Жыл бұрын

I've been trying to figure out this exact thing.

@theacttherapist Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you found my video! Was it able to help you clarify your values? Any questions it didn't answer that I could help with? Thanks for commenting :)

@Fiox789 Жыл бұрын

@@theacttherapist It's definitely put me on the path to figuring it out. I'm trying to have realistic values

@theacttherapist Жыл бұрын

@@Fiox789 remember there aren’t great values or realistic values. Values just are. We’re constantly taking steps towards them but they aren’t like goals where they’re meant to be achieved or checked out. Take some time to think through who and what truly matters to you and then you can set some realistic first steps towards them!

@Fiox789 Жыл бұрын

@@theacttherapist maybe that's where I'm confused I don't value anything. Everything is temporary. if these things aren't concrete then it can change and you find out that you don't really value that thing or quality. I valued having a loving relationship but I've been single my entire adult life. I've set steps for that thing but those steps haven't gotten me any close. since it's been elusive I'm thinking I guess I don't value that since I haven't been able to achieve that type of thing. I think I'm missing some information or I take these things too seriously but then what's the point if I don't take them seriously?

@Johansebastion Жыл бұрын

Do you arrange your values into a heirachy in ACT? I’ve done values elicitation using NLP and they recommend uncovering towards and away values, and then to arrange them into a order of importance. Does this process align with ACT? Cheers

@AlexS-vz7od Жыл бұрын

What is the NLP resource you are referring to?

@theacttherapist Жыл бұрын

Great question! I'll try to answer as much as I can here. Essentially the idea in ACT is to identify the top or core values (generally try to stick to 3-5 with clients) that they want to be moving towards for the next little while. And then in each moment they would pause and ask themselves what is important to them in this moment and identify which value(s) are guiding them. So it's not really a hierarchy because it's not like one value always supersedes others, but rather it's being sensitive to the context -- in other words noticing what is happening in this specific moment and identifying what is important right now and using that as a guide but knowing that answer may change. Hope this helps make the distinction for you. Please let me know if I can clarify further.

@user-gw4ce5ts6z 10 ай бұрын

Many thanks! I enjoyed the speech a lot. By the way, the volume was too low.

@theacttherapist 9 ай бұрын

Thanks for letting me know! I'm working on increasing the audio for future videos!

@sneakerbabeful Жыл бұрын

I have no goals.

@theacttherapist 10 ай бұрын

That can feel really hard sometimes. Hopefully the video gave you a good starting point. I'm going to make more step by step videos on identifying your values soon.

@mrjryan72 10 ай бұрын

I can’t deal with the vocal fry stop

@MattAnonymous 10 ай бұрын

@@mrjryan72I hate vocal fry too, but this isn't vocal fry by any means. Chill out

@arianaperez626 6 ай бұрын

@@mrjryan72people don’t do it on purpose bro😊

@daganbanks Жыл бұрын

90% COMMON SENSE..... 10% WHAT TO DO

@theacttherapist 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for the feedback! If there are any other videos you'd love to see (maybe more actionable, step by step ones) please let me know

@ceej5705 8 ай бұрын

Yes, good. But defining values we never live up to, or moving towards something in the future we don't have now is to define yourself as not good enough now and not where you ought to be. To be happy is to be satisfied with what it is that is going on now. If you're not satisfied now it is probably because you are trying to get somewhere else or feel you are not good enough, or what is around you is not good enough. This is an acceptance issue, or a self definition issue... or an issue of your values being too narrowly defined.

@theacttherapist 7 ай бұрын

I view values as a process not an outcome. So I don't see it as something we never live up to or something future focused and by comparison we are not good enough now. I think of it as the process of continually turning towards the type of person you want to be. There is nothing wrong with saying that you want to make improvements in your life. It doesn't me you hate yourself now or aren't good enough. Simply that you want to make a change or grow.

@ceej5705 7 ай бұрын

@@theacttherapist Oh boy, you are in it deep. Love to you. Continue on my fellow devine being of light... continue on turning into what you want to be. Eventually you will find two things: one, you don't know what you REALLY want and, two, you are it already.

@spiromlb 5 күн бұрын

Profound paradox of Now and Not Yet/Not Ever! Many Christians struggle with this. “If God accepts and loves me unconditionally yet wants me also to grow up !” it is a divine paradox. Each believer must find a working solution to this ambivalent faith belief…. otherwise we wont be true believers in “God’s Goodness.” Sorry for the heavy faith stuff.

@librarian1701-D 2 ай бұрын

i have no faith or culture, i'm a melting pot American... I live alone with no family so there isn't really a 'who' and 'what' well nothing really matters that much to be a 'value' I've tried doing this for so long, but I just don't get it. I love to be kind and loving and caring and listening but I have no friends or community despite the effort.. living rural makes that difficult and I find 'online' communities lacking sorely in connection. I hope this video serves young people watching, but for this old bird in her fifties, well, I'm pondering if 'values' is some kind of misnomer or maybe it's just me, thinking it means more than what it means. It just means what is important to you? But somehow the word 'value' bring with it, for me, ethics and morality.. I'm sure it's just me.. I'm a bit of an over thinking confused sort.

@Harmonyyhill 2 ай бұрын

I think that your values doesn't have to involve the outside world. like valuing presence, valuing self love and self care, optimism, having a clean space or clear mind. All can be values of who you want to be in life and you've probably been living based on your values not even knowing it. I watched a video on helping identifying values and the guy said what ever you surround your space with, what ever you think about the most and spend your money on the most helps identify your values. I hoped that helped BUT i dont know much im just someone trying to understand this life stuff as a 21 year old.

@user-hr2in9pz6r 25 күн бұрын

You are very insightful. I appreciate your thoughts.@@Harmonyyhill