1. A mature man is NOT a perfect man. He is a work in progress. 2. If a man is getting drunk and high, he's NOT mature man. 3. If a man is still going to a regular club or strip club, he's NOT a mature man. 4. A mature man will NOT be jealous, controlling, and insecure, but becomes confident. 5. A mature man will NOT expect you to pay your half for a date. 6. A mature is NOT going to expect anything in return. 7. A mature will NOT coerce you into the bed. He will spend more time getting to know you better. This was a great message. I'm taking notes and using this to improve myself as well.

I had a man who paid for everything for 20+ years. Every thing. I never had to work. Never paid for a date or part of one, lol. Cheating was never an issue. Nor abuse. He wasn’t perfect but he was worth his weight in gold. It’s very possible to find one, ladies.

I stopped going to the club when one guy asked for my number and I gave it to him. Never heard from him at all. Ended up seeing the same dude at a different club probably a few weeks later and he asked for my number again 🙄. Had no recollection we had met before. That's when I realized guys in the club are a complete joke and I was wasting my time. That was in my mid 20s haven't been back since!

Cheaters always say "I'm not perfect" as an excuse for cheating on their wife. Thank you for clearing up what "not being perfect" truly means.

I love when Tony say "Lissen Nah", with his country accent. He is hilarious! 🤣

Your wife is a true Queen., please allow her to give us some insight as well . It would be a blessing if y’all could both speak together as the epitome of a Queen & King... how powerful that would be.

Meet somebody who is on your level or better don't settle for less. You don't want somebody who is 15% with God and you are at 75% with God. And dont go by what they say go by what they do.

Tony, you need to be a comedian on the side you stay crackin me up lol!

Lmaooo he said men who like classical music also like serial killing & he was serious 💀 I don’t even think he knows he’s this funny

"You waitin' on this man that Jesus has not created." - Tony Gaskins ROFLOL!!!!!

As a woman I was never comfortable in the club scene...to rowdy...the atmosphere never felt right...I always knew it was not for me...I stopped at 23 yrs old

12:50 I just told an ex boyfriend today, that I would not marry him for these same reasons. I prayed on it Wed., by Thurs. God showed me that he wasn't the one and Friday, I told him no and why. Hours later, I ran into this video. Just another confirmation that I made the right decision. *** I felt the right answer was no when he asked but I just wanted to be absolutely sure. So, I went to God in prayer.

Tony as long as women listen to you we'll stay on top.

Men who like classical music also like serial killing😂😂😂😂😂😂

Nobody is perfect in this world! We all have imperfections but you have to grow with each other, accepting each other flaws, compromising, and choosing to love each other. Maturity in character, stability, loyal, bring peace is a must!

A marriage is a mirror. It truly shows people who they are.

Good Topic.I’m not perfect, but I can say I have matured in so many ways. At times I find myself slipping back into my immature ways and having to check myself. I’m a 100% faithful man, but that took growth and discipline. I got on my knees in 2017 and prayed to God about it. My last relationship didn’t work out, I guess she didn’t understand that I was a work in progress. I hear you Tony ( Does she respect me and is she faithful?) That’s all I ask to Tony. I have morals and values but I am not perfect.

I dated a man that was very chillvary (opening doors, pulling out chairs, ECT.) and was mean as a BULL DOG and the opening doors didn't last long and he wore the name of a Envangelist ...

Everytime I watch you Tony, you make me believe there is still hope. Thanks 😊

Just subscribed cause you told me too. I never really thought about it.😂you have become somewhat of a “cyber dad” for me. I’m 26 and my dad died in 2013 and even when he was alive, my parents marriage was toxic and abusive af. Never ever had a healthy representation of real love so I have taken all your advice to heart and it worked! I have a MATURE but imperfect man. Hopefully my trauma from childhood to adulthood relationships doesn’t peek through and run him off but I thank you for giving me clarity. Idk if you’ll even see this but I just have to thank you in someway. You changed my life.😭

I need a man that’s 100% faithful

“You waiting on this man that likes classical music, but guess what serial killers like classical music!” I’m HOLLERIN!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Hotel Chronicles, Car Chronicle... Im here for it! Thank you Tony!! ❤

Tony 😂😂😂 your impersonations of how and what a woman says is hilarious! You also have the gift of comedy 😂

When you in a marriage you simply have to compromise

Wow!! This really hit home.... My mother told me " women like you don't get married" it sound harsh but she wasn't coming from a mean place. She was telling me I'm looking for something that don't exist..... PERFECTION! My parents just celebrated 40 years of marriage. Thank you for this video!!

I can count the number of times I went to the club on one hand. First time was for my friends graduation, second time was after my graduation. Both times in 2019...The first time I was lucky. The second time left me traumatized. There’s nothing there for me and when I’m asked to go out to the club it’s just a no for me. It’s frightening as a woman we can’t even go out in the day time and not be safe. I’ll pass on the night time especially. People think I’m weird because I tell them “I’m not going out unless I have a purpose. I love my life.” (events, family/friends gatherings, etc)

You're right, I'm not perfect so why am I looking for perfection 🤔 but I am very honest & loyal & I require the same. I am open for the greatness GOD has in store for me -> Be Blessed! 🤗

😂😂😂😂😂😂Tony too funny how he imitates women

This was good. You're so right. A mature man is a work in progress. Just as I am a work in progress. Thank you!!!!

My pending ex husband does have it all together as long as he only has to take care of himself. He is a narcissist and knew how to say and do all the right things. However, what I allowed were the red flags. He is also a pyschopath. Just because they look good, smell good and have a good job makes them good. That’s all apart of the game with a narcissist! I wasted 7 years of my life with this boy. Educate yourselves this is real and it had lasting effects depending on what kind they are. He was covert so nobody else sees it but the person in the relationship with them.

I’m so glad this video wasn’t live. I would NOT have been able to focus with all the commentary from the blessed tribe!!! We would have been too busy ROLLING! 😂😂😂😂

Lol "pimp walk"..... we can't mess up your swag Tony😂😁

Lol, "walking too fast will throw off your pimp walk"😂😂! Thanks Tony for the enlightening message; it was very helpful!

No man is perfect, I understand that but some men think your supposed to wait until they're mature.

MY LORD....Tony, thank you! This is SO true! You are preaching and teaching!

Before entering a relationship, I think people need to learn too love on one another without thinking or having sex

This is the funniest video Tony has EVER made 😩😩😩😂😂😂😂 And the realest 💯 I swear!

I was waiting for a video!! I feel like the topic you choose to speak on is always right on time!! 🙌

This right here... I am seeing a difference in my perspective since I’ve been listening to Tony. I recently met a man and I will tell you I am using this knowledge to weed out the real men from grown boys. I am seeing the difference between a man that is really interested in getting to know me and the ones that just want to get me in bed! I’m applying what I’m learning from Tony and I’m telling y’all it’s working!

I'm lol at the limp in yo pimp walk. Lawd haMercy

“And that’s why you was on ya byke” the way you say that kills me every time 😭

“Standing up against the wall in the dark and squeeze booty 😩🤣🤣🤣 y’all was out of pocket

I started clubbing at 18-21 I stopped years ago when it got played out, I was tired of two stepping to lame music, hanging out with dramatic friends, fights and drunks. I knew it was no place to meet a guy. Really no place is good to meet a guy especially when they already have I'll intentions. I believe meeting a good guy is one of those things that happens out of the blue when you least expect it.

Tony you Real all the time and it takes self reflecting on my part. You right and I’ve been learning from your courses, videos and The Bless Tribe. Be Blessed

Be blessed! I don’t really care about the opening of doors for me, I don’t care who pays for the meals or if he buys a house. We are all imperfect. I just want him to be faithful, respect me and good with communication.

TG out here healing lives!

Tony....I am near tears (From Brooklyn, NY - you'll NEVER see that happen, lol) You inspired me No man is perfect - but I found it! The perfect FOR ME man. I just sent him the following message (we have been apart since Thanksgiving as I am house hunting!😄) THANK YOU BROTHA -you feed my soul Lawrence your not perfect (eventhough you may think so), we don't think the same way, we go about shit differently.... You don't see - that's what I like! I'm not wanting/looking for my parallel, then you would lack the same shit I do But....if you are a different size puzzle piece, together - we can make a whole picture You got to have what I don't to complete the picture You don't complete something by adding more of what you already got The difference and patience, allows me to grow, see things in a different light I I won't always agree or approve But....two different ways is better than one And because something is different, doesn't necessarily mean worse, doesn't imply better Different is NOT THE SAME Different -Could be better -Could be worse +Definitely not the same, tho I'm just saying

The country life coach is so full of wisdom and comical!😭 God bless you & your family!

I turned 25 in August. I stopped going to the club because I started to hate the hyper sexual attention I would receive. Also because of the type of crowd it attracts overall and the energy is reckless

we're not perfect beings ourselves, we shouldn't expect perfection.. Its consciously working on ourselves as men and women and respecting each other in the relationship to make it work.

I cannot tell the difference between a good man who is imperfect and makes mistakes and a “grown boy” as you call it. That’s a fine line... lol

I love long videos 🙌🏾

Tony, you crack me up, but for real, you've given me and probably others somethings to ponder. Expectations must be balanced, thank you!

He told me he was a Christian have yet to see any substance but a great talker and wonderful eloquent prayers I am sure God heard.

I stopped going to the ratchet club at 23. But even after i would go out with girls and drink and regret it later. I just had to stop drinking all together. I rather go dancing at a lounge playing RnB but i haven’t found any good places to go in years. Dancing like they did in the Love Jones movie 😂

Big Brother you got me cracking up over here with the "listen to me now" 😂😂😂😂😂! 🐸 Be blessed! All the things that you are saying are things that we as women really know and some of us just want confirmation on it and others of us want to still go against it nonetheless your speaking truth. And quiet as it's kept it may appear that you're not speaking to the man but you are especially if they are secretly watching and never responding to your videos but they're there I'm sure of it.

Wow, never even thought about some of these things. I’m using your examples to analyze myself as someone whose been single for 6 years!!! I got to snap back into reality...I have no clue what it’s going to be like to do life with another human being....”unrealistic/strict expectations*

I love your long videos and thank you so much for doing them.

This is a WHOLE WORD! Thank you sir!

I'm not going home with anyone from the club🤷🏾‍♀️

TG.. your timing is impeccable. I was literally thinking about this subject matter. Waiting on daily video and then bam!! Be blessed

You never cease to amaze me! You're on point, and because of that I appreciate the REAL talk!

I stopped going to the club at 21 I realized it wasn’t my environment and I was trying to better myself meaning no drinking, no wasting time.

"Listen to me nah" if you don't want no truth...scroll pass this video but if you do, you better "Hear ME" I love this brother, he is the realest they ever made...this info is 💯right here!!!

This is your calmest video ever! Almost soothed me to sleep. I like it.

Lol. My guy got real calm and proper explaining. Bless your heart, Tony. You speaking truth.

His woman imitations are hilarious and on point 😄😁

What helps a man mature? With age should come maturity, but that’s not always the case...

This is the EXACT message and sign I've been praying for.

I absolutely love your videos! When you add humor to the topics, you make it even more interesting to listen.

Don't say forgive you for being to long in these video I love it with a passion . Tony Gaskins thanks so much for everything. Grace, mercy and peace be with you.

The commentary in this video was so funny 😂

When you said a man can still open your door and still abuse you reminded me of Ike turner when he opened the car door for Tina but was still beating her inside the car 😭😭

So grateful for this word. Thanks much. Will listen again.

I’m TIED of you with these “Women Impersonations” 😂😂😂 but you dead on point every single video

Ayyyyy. I needed this! God bless you!

Recently was in a relationship with the 1 in a 1000 type of man. We have love for each other but had to part our ways because of different long term goals. Chile somedays I feel stupid. But ten I remember my goals. Thank you for all the wisdom Tony, Im 28 and been learning from you for years now and I'll continue to take your lessons to heart!!

So true, my ex would open the car door, walk on the outside, open every door for me, pay for everything BUT he cheated on me, so I learnt that those things aren’t what makes a real man.

Thanks so much, brother Tony, for clearing things up and saving us Lol! For someone who didn't have a father or male figure and presence for that matter. Your videos are especially helpful and beneficial to us in particular. God bless!

My legs have been closed for over 3 years.😫

Yes... A man will open your door, but will still abuse you...PREACH Tony. Behind the scene, where no one is watching.

“Listen to me”..... 😂

This was for me. I have unrealistic expectations in what I want I want in a man... and Lord knoooows I’m far from perfection. I’ll be alone for the rest of my life with that mindset. Thank you for humbling me.

This "risk management" that Tony mentioned is very overlooked in relationships by men and women. It's one thing to intend to be faithful but it really takes maturity to actively keep yourself out of situations/events that can make your fidelity difficult to maintain 😕. Married folks should not hang around members of the opposite sex alone....no texting...social media or dm's. No going to clubs/bars without your partner or drinking so much that you could put yourself in a compromising position. People who truly want to stay faithful will be proactive in eliminating as much temptation as possible.

Facts I appreciate all of your videos and quotes.

I broke up with my ex-boyfriend 6 months ago. When we first started dating I thought that he had many redeeming qualities such as being disciplined and driven. He however lacked a strong spiritual foundation. In the early stages of our relationship God began working in me and transforming my heart, however he adamantly refused to open his mind and heart to message of Christ. He said that he believes in God, that’s it. Long story short, we broke up. He would never really get drunk on purpose and hardly ever went to the club. He was an okay young black man, living a relatively simple lifestyle. Sometimes I wonder if I gave up too soon, or was too unforgiving with my standards. Other times, I think That I absolutely made the right decision. While his values and morals were not deplorable, they still did not line up with what God was revealing to me through his word. Tony, after seeing this video I think it’s important that you speak on issues like what I just described and clarify the importance of being equally Yolked in a relationship, even if the person you’re in a relationship with seems to be wholesome. Grappling with ending my past relationship was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do.

Your amazing keeping it real in the most gentle way (at least for me)..

Your wife is telling the truth...He will be a handful and drive a women crazy.....Love it

Str8 haters. How you watch ALL this man's content but WON'T subscribe 🤔 ...? Keep up the excellent work Sir Gaskins!! Looking forward to Queen soon as well!!

You are absolutely right and I get everything your saying and some ppl won’t get it b/c they only hear what they want . BE BLESSED

I am a single mom and as soon as I get some extra money I swear I am going to donate ! I am subscribed to the channel and I plan on doing a few of the courses !! he is My uncle in my head I swear, the end of this video had me cracking up!! 😂😂

If I volunteer to pay half for the first date, and he accepts it, I probably wont be seeing him again.

Conflicts reveal someone’s character...

Yes for the podcast, can’t wait to hear both sides together.

Tony, thank you for your honesty. This has been great information that I've not had anyone explain to me or even talk about. Especially being from a Jamaican background. Be blessed and thank you for sharing!

Thanks Tony! Stay on the long Video track...

Tony, thank you for this. Be blessed! 🙏🏾

So much Wisdom!! Thank you Mr Gaskins, Be Blessed‼❤

Amen! I don't need a perfect man, I'm not perfect. But a man that truly wants to be the best he can. So glad I found one