Being hated by a narcissist is basically proof you’re extra cool 💗

Two more types of personalities that narcissists hate: the one who tells the truth and the one who exposes narcissists for who they really are.

The more a narcissist hates me, the more that I know that I’m doing something right.

Being hated by a narcissistic means that your confidence and empathy balance is correct

It's true, they want to break you down because they envy you for being authentic and real.

Narcissists are easily threatened by people, who like themselves, liked by others, talented, smart or intuitively kind. Because you remind them of what they are not.

Narcissists hate people that try to make them accountable for all the inappropriate words and actions they do. If you expose a narcissist for the fake person they are you will become their number one enemy.

I hope I never experience another narcissist in my life. They are energy vampires.

Starting to feel like there are way more narcassists out here than a lot of people think. People literally just out here trying to destroy people's lives for no reason at all.

BECAUSE YOU ARE EVERYTHING THAT THEY ARE NOT AND COULD NEVER BE!

Narcissists hate the truth about themselves because they can't face their own reality of their own behavior and actions! And that they hate you because you can!🤥😔

The more insecure and unconfident someone is, the more the narcissist likes it because such person is easy to control. This control boosts the narc ego and confidence at the expense of the low self-esteem person. Most important thing is to be assertive with these people.

They see you as a challenge, they hate you, because they want to be you, they are jealous and insecure about their own shortcomings, and they see you thriving, happy and enjoying your time in life and are doing good, it makes them mad, and they try to one-up you and try to make themselves superior, but they ultimately fail.

Narcissists hate people who take responsibility and accountability because Narcissists both can't and refuse to do so

The narcissist hates and loves you because they need your energy to survive.

There is nothing better than liking a video about why people dislike you.

one of the kinds of people narcissists hate are people who are individualistic, thinks for themself, and has boundaries.

Feeling like walking on egg shells is a sign of narssissim.

Not a personality trait, but narcissists hate smart people. The narcissist needs to be perceived as the smartest person. (Don’t confuse confidence with competence. Dunning Kruger effect.)

6:45 let the narcissist know you've grown a pair." 😂 Perfect.

I could always feel a level of resentment from my husband of 12 years but never understood it until recently

When they recognise you’re not like them, they go on the attack. Them = right, You = wrong To the extent they don’t want you to exist.

Thank you . I am male. I lost everything I had worked for at 47. She took 75% and I gave it to her. I was so done and empty. I needed to go. I didn't think of my ex wife as a narcissist until my dear sister told me so. I was actually shocked. So then I really had to think about it. Yeah. You are right. It's a hard road.

They are afraid someone will notice the contrast between them and you, the beautiful, kind and caring person.

My narcissistic mother is a fair weather fan. Conditional love, if things are going great for me they’re there but as soon as some adversity comes around, they throw me under the bus, gaslight, and backstab me to the many flying monkeys in my family. It’s so difficult to think they have changed when times are good and then boom they turn into demons in a split second. It’s so hurtful and difficult not react to their lack of empathy and lack of love and understanding 😩

Authentic is the worst for them

Narcissists don't like anyone that figured them out. They move on to gullible targets that they can get over on. That's why they don't have any relationships that last very long, once their found out they move on.

Bam! Spot on. I was raised by a narcissist, so I know how to spar with them. I had to learn after many years to disengage, and that seems to be the thing that gets me slammed with their passive aggressive wrath. The more you stand in confidence, the worse it gets. Let them spin out; it’s fun to watch. They can’t argue with my integrity.

They hate people who see through there bs and have called them out. Anybody who doesn't submit. My father is a raging narc

Can relate to this. I was a people pleaser, bowing down to whatever they wanted and believing everything they said which led to me making choices that had a negative impact on my life. When I did this they were constantly asking me to spend time with them and I just agreed, being easily manipulated and feeling awful after every meeting or interaction. Now, through working on myself, I’ve taken back my own life and the invites are pretty much zero now. I’m better for it and I’m proud too of how far I’ve come. Thank you for your videos, they’ve helped me on my journey.

Narcissist are always jealous…when they know people are noticeably ‘smarter’, ‘prettier’ better in general, all the way around, better than they are. I grew up with a few, I learned early, how to deal with these people. They’re not hard to ‘figure out’ anymore. I actually like to “mess” with a few family members who are narcissistic… once in a while 😁

I like how you said you are portrayed as always complaining just because your bar is higher.

I am the reason a couple of narcissists quit their job. They were relentless and made the atmosphere unbearable for all. They did know that I am stubborn and was NOT going to put up with their crap. Ahhhh! We are all happier working now that those people are gone. 😊

I want to have a guess before I watch this. I think a narcissist will hate people who are objectively better than them(in ways the narcissist perceives as meaningful), or those who refuse to play their game.

Of course narcissist will hate you for no reason because they don't even love themselves they think you are better than them

THEY HATE IT WHEN YOU MAKE THEM HAVE TO USE COMMON SENSE.....AND KEEP THINGS SIMPLE....THEY HATE IT.....

A woman latched onto me when she moved here and she made my life hell, stole my friends took over different arrangements in my life and left me out of any plans for social gatherings, at first phoning me to see where I was and who with, complaining if I didn't include her. Complete nightmare. When I broke away from her she complained VERY LOUDLY. I never ever want to see this witch ever again.

This was a life changing video for me tonight. 9 months no contact w abusive natc mother and sister. .. I am the person that is empathetic, kind, been through so much, I will never tolerate abuse from them. Mentally I have buried them both and trying to rebuild my life.

Narcissists have a special view of the universe: it’s called “double standard”.

Confidence challenge narcissist

Comfortable in own skin

So true ,and that's why they love the discard to hit your confidence. Narcissists are sad, pathetic people deep down. Great video !

My mother is a covert narc she has all our family and the wider community fooled apart from me, and she hates the fact that I know who she really is, her 'pillar of the community' doesn't fool me one bit, always the victim and always triangulating siblings against each other, she pitted my brother and myself against each other from the very start which is quite sad.

Being hated because you’ve overcome a lot REALLY hit home with me; still blows mind how those that have more than I hated my guts once they learned of the obstacles I’ve overcome…. BLOWS … MY … MIND

Lol..... So this is why they got so pissed off when I let them know they can be comfortable with being authentic around me. As soon as I said the word, "authentic", it was like the world fell apart in their eyes...... Took it as a threat. I was like, "Whoooah.... Woah."

Enforce boundaries

The problem is, i called it out, i was sick of it, now everyone is against me. Even though they know i'm right.

My ex resented the fact I was so positive and saw the "silver lining," in situations... And the boundaries I finally put up 6 months in didn't bode well

This video is absolutely spot-on. In my situation, yep, I wanted to be the rescuer to a woman who seemed to have been treated harshly by life..and while I was like this, and while I put her first, I could do no wrong in her eyes. But the longer I was with her, the more I began to see through it, and I began to suspect I was only wanted while I fawned after her and reinforced her belief in being a victim. As soon as I tried to properly help her by showing where she was accountable in it all and also when I started to assert boundaries and expressed my needs..it all did a 360, the shaming and devaluing began, the circular arguments became routine, projection, gaslighting..and then I was discarded.. ..then surprise surprise, the hoovering began, time after time, for more than a year after the break up..pulling me in, then spitting me back out. Vying for attention, yet never showing any interest in me. Again, as soon as I stopped reacting, she disappeared.. To be treated this way by somebody who you naively thought was ‘the one’, is completely soul destroying.. But this video helps me see that to be discarded by a narcissist is actually, in some ways, a compliment to our personalities..

OMG I am all these things. My narc husband must really be irritated by me and he doesn't even know why. He even blames me that he is so irritated. I am just a happy person. It is OK to be happy!!

I was raised by a covert narcissist, and It’s disheartening to know my mother decided to dislike her own child. I would love nothing more than to have a solid relationship, but it’s not worth all my healing. I hope both my mom and sibling heal before life passes them by, they’re missing out on the beauty of freedom

Thank you for your dedication to bring awareness to Narcissistic abuse. Keep up the great work. ♥️♥️

Their capacity of deception, dishonesty, unfaithfulness and cruelty is unbelievable, I was so nervous around my so called partner, I am a male and a lot bigger physically, but she scared me, she didn’t rage, but would get silent and have a vacant stare, I called it silent rage, I knew when this happened, I was in for big trouble, I went no contact, but she continues to harass me, even though she is cheating and being with others, but we all grow stronger, stay strong, never look back

My narcissist friend got very uncomfortable because she discovered when i stayed with her that i was neater, more hygenic (with food & cleaning), not a heavy drinker & wore better quality clothes etc etc - i didn't have to say anything. I was so polite, but me being a perfect & lady like house guest infuriated her. Up until i stayed, she had gotten away with pretending to be an upper middle class British lady. I did everything i could to make her comfortable, & keep the stay pleasant, but she hated & bullied & harassed me & crossed boundaries- even after i left (managed to finally escape), so i terminated the friendship.

I was assertive and confident when I met my narc husband. I think he thought I was a competition he'd eventually win.

Narcissistic pple r all that I’ve forever hve dealt with n hve attracted all my life. I’m convinced there aren’t good pple out there. At one point I was constantly asking myself, “what’s wrong w/me..what am I doing wrong that all betray me?”. I’m yet to meet a good person that doesn’t quietly start to compete to eventually hate n criticize me behind my back for no reason.. Meanwhile all I’ve done was support them, let them shine..encourage..give constructive help.. I’m always playing myself dwn..sadly..it doesn’t matter what I do w/in a few mths I start to feel the betrayal, passive aggressive&dismissive behavior towards me.. I c it..I don’t confront, I just cut them off & quietly walk away. Do they ever reach out to ask, “where did u go, what happen? No..they let me go.. with out a peep as if we had nothing to do w/each bcz I decided to cut them off bcz of their evil undeserved hateful behavior towards me. I don’t trust any one, I make no eye contact..or encourage any contact when I’m out on a walks w/my Poppy (my dog), I stay aloof, I stop smiling hello .. I stay stoic..I hve no trust any more.. bcz it always turns out to b a mistake, a waste of my time n care..I go it alone..I must except n not feel sad abt it..

You said several things that really caused a light to shine in my head. You used the words "manipulation" and "control," as the major goals of the narcissist. And then you said that the narcissist is always saying, "Please see me as a victim." I have heard many people talk about this, but somehow suddenly I understand the person with whom I am dealing. Yes, manipulation and control are first. And he must be a victim at all times. Thank you.

Finally have the ability to cut three narcissists out completely who are my mother's siblings two are grandiose the other covert. I have made it known that if they come near or contact me I would be taking legal action for stalking and harassment.

The narcissist hates you because youre alive.

you know guys...I don't care If a narcisst loves me or not the fact is...i was sooooo brave to say him: in 2 hours you have to leave the house with everything otherwise...I through everything on the trash....does he love me' I don't care ...i love my self , this is the most important thing

Narcissist people are manipulative !!!!!! You need to run FAST 🏃‍♂️!!!!!!!!!!!

They want to be you. Real jealousy.

Finally explains why my 20 year marriage blew up. I was married to an abusive covert narcissist and couldn't understand her behavior when i finally started standing up for myself and my boundaries. It also explains why I struggle to find deep relationships with people in today's highly narcissistic society...

Do exactly what they want you to do and they won't hate you, but will treat you like their doormat; put up boundaries and reject their brainwashing attempts and they will despise you. It up to you to choose between being disrespected or hated.

My narcissistic sister goes around telling people she is my narcissistic mothers favorite like its a prize. I’m the empath and saw this as her trying to take digs in the most public way possible in the past and was humiliated for some odd reason….but then one day I blurted out “I FEEL VERY SORRY FOR YOU IF YOU ARE HER FAVORITE. THERE IS NO FOMO”. (Fear of missing out) Pure crickets! Mic dropped! 🎤😄

Feeling that hatred and cruelty from someone I thought loved me has been the hardest thing I have ever experienced, but I am now starting to realize the "why" behind the behavior which has been helpful to healing. Thank you for this clear explanation. Your videos have been very helpful in the process of understanding what has happened and working on healing and moving forward.

You simply defeat any narcissist by never ever letting them have their way. So there. Wasn't that easy?😊

This describes why my mother has always hated me! What a great podcast. She describes my personality expertly and explains why the narcissist hates it. Makes perfect sense now!

My daughter is the Narcissist in my life and she told me that she hates me but shows me even more.

I remember hearing that a narcissist that I kicked out of my life hated me because I was confident.

And if the narcs life is crummy they hate anybody whose life they perceive as better. Relative, pastor or dog, it doesn’t matter

They don't like themselves

Both of my parents are like this. Any praise from them always came with a backhanded compliment and any of my failures come with laughter, them shaming me, and gossiping about me on social media. It’s a shame because I’ve developed massive trust issues into my adult life.

People that get along well with others Or make money Are upwardly mobile Are generous Are caring Are friendly They need you but it makes them hate themselves more for it. They feel competitive and shamed by your success, therefore deeply angry or jealous toward you. You have a comfort level with joy. Like it’s part of who you are. “How could you?” They might think, offended and aspirational at the same time, without being inspired instead or challenged to improve their own attitude or status.

Three words you will never hear from a narcissist (no, not those three words, these three words) : 'I was wrong' That's all... ; - )

It definitely was a love/hate relationship. He would act like he was so impressed in awe of me but had a secret disdain or resentment towards me. This was because I didn't need him. I chose to spend my life with him. I left 3 years ago and he still hates and loves me. Tries to be friends but I put him on NO CONTACT as soon as I left and found out what he truly was.

Well. I needed this information. I was somewhat aware of most of it, but it is always good to have someone lay it down in an organized manner. From my childhood I have been under despotic control of a close family member. My wife brought her controller to our marriage. We were both victims of our families. My controller had always a panic attack if I became successful in any way. I put everyone on edge after I emigrated to the United States. When I was waiting for the work visa for three months, I obliged my wife and children not to tell anyone. When I let both families know two days before my departure, it was like dropping a grenade in the middle of a room. They started moving with the speed of light to sabotage my plans. It was too late. :) :) :) I knew nothing about narcissism back then, but I had good male intuition and a great guardian angel that advised me to conceal my future. It is not the end of the story, but I should stop now.

I possess all 6 traits, so I really get it now!!! Wonder no-more😢

7:10 this is sad... 😢 but it makes sense as to why trying harder and harder to connect or even to just not annoy them does NOT work. I never considered myself a threat. I feel small.

Yep everybody likes you a lot w/o you even having to try to get them to b/c everything that makes you stand out is genuine and authentic.

If someone finds out you're watching these videos and has a full out temper tantrum, they might be a narcissist!

Thank you for this. You have helped me see my traits as a self confident, giving individual who cannot be easily manipulated. There is a narcissist in our building who hates me. Wow! You are so right about this person. Thank you again, so much.❤

The "having overcome adversity" point really resonated. My husband and I have 3 kids with autism, and for years life was very, very hard. But in the last 4 years or so, things have gotten much better. One son is in a group home and is doing wonderfully, much of the stress was lifted, we were finally able to fix the damage to our house - we were actually happy! And that coincided with an increase in constant needling by my narcissist sister, until we had a confrontation 2.5 years ago and I went no contact with her. I never realized until now that the pressure from her increased as our home situation improved, but now I think they might have been connected, even if she wasn't conscious of it either.

Brilliant, 100% right, having lived with a text book narcissist wife for 25 years, she hated the fact "I needed no one" in her words, btw that was her way of insulting me.

This psychologists analysis of empaths and narcissists is extremely accurate.(Hits the nails right on their heads). My compliments from Venezuela.

My ex narc (who I believe also has borderline personality disorder), is a closeted gay woman and she would project her insecurities out on to me. She told me that over time she would resent me to the point of hate. She was jealous that I have a supportive family, she doesn’t, I’m comfortable with who I am & she isn’t. It’s why over time she’d make excuses for us not to get together when we used to spend a lot of time together. I would always tell her that I don’t deserve to be punished because she’s insecure. She’d refuse to get back into therapy to work on herself. She would always lie about everything. She was very aware of her behavior & how she treated me.

Makes so much sense, my x husband used to say to me "I love you but I hate you" now I understand. Married for 14 years, 2 children, divorce, 11 years of chronic illness, unravelling the abuse and now healing. A long journey but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel and feel like a different, empowered woman.

This is the story of my son-in-law whom I treated like a son of my own. He has taken away my daughter and grandchild for reasons that defy logic. Well, at least I know why.

Truth, I have all these traits. This is why I never meet them. I filter these traits out and women who are narcissistic avoid me like the plague…. Good stuff. Forwarding to a friend who needs to watch this.

They absolutely "HATE" me 😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉✌️💛✌️

So basically they dislike anyone not weak.

I feel like they don’t like people who are not that good at giving “supply”, if you’re quite a straightforward, non-reactive kind of person. Or maybe if they subconsciously pick up on you not liking them. It’s very hard to hide your true feelings and energy. If you find them cocky or annoying, you will let it show.

Yes I’m very comfortable in my own skin and confident yes I have a glow about me of happiness . This is interesting to know .I’m all about boundaries love setting boundaries it’s a healthy thing to do . I didn’t used to do this .

Many thanks, may your inner light continues to shine girl. Very well said❤

My narcissist daughter left me alone when I started to be objective and assertive. The king years stepping in egg shells are gone. I am being very confident exposing whatever in public or not. I am feeling in peace now and enjoying my life. It took a real long time to decide to put a boundary in there because I always knew that would be the end of any contact. The fact she is strong in her life now, liberated me as a mother. Life has perspective to me now.

Empaths be on guard

What you described is exactly what I experienced from a former boss. Even the way she complimented my skills was eerily foreboding. I ended it by walking out after she attacked me through a narcissistic employee, whom she kept calling the entire day to carry out various assaults upon me and my work. It was so bad the patient was intuitive enough to step in mid-abuse and stand up for me.

This is the greatest narcissist exposing channel in history!!! Where have you been all my life?!! 😄I've spent decades being utterly confused and disheartened by so many of these gaslighting tactics. NO MORE!

Thank you.Putting forward for people who are not in a man women connection.Just being a person who has chosen not to entertain the. Madness of the mentally disturbed.People have no idea.🎉

Yes I'm often the one that the narc wants out of the group. But I'm not that confident, certain, boundaried person you describe! I'm a people pleaser in recovery. So, I think it's because they see my confidence isn't invincible. Theirs isn't either clearly but my approach is different. These types perceive me to be lower status than they are, so an association with them can't serve them, or reflect well on them but yet here I am *connecting* with the others in the group. That seems to trigger their ''fight'' stress response and the next thing I know I'm being edged out of a group (again).