Lori B big ol facts

I feel gratitude and grief at the same time. Deeply hurt that my adoptive mother is narcistic and that payback was impossible anyway. A.I.D. Angel In Disguise perhaps.

Lori B true !!!!

Lori B so true

Lori B ya i agree i felt this many time.. They hurt after knowing wat hurt us the most

Thanks I have a child with one who has been absent and hoovering I plan on going no contact..

Bambi Thomas but what do u do day to day. What about the no contact then they ask to see the child

@@stilettomaab This one only wants to be in the child's life when it is convenient.. Denies his deaf daughter when he can't get around me and uses his new supplys .. Wouldn't even answer in a emergency.. My child has had 16 surgeries.. I gave him plenty of chances its not in him.. And its not fair to her for him to ignore her calls. I'm done 🙅.. I told him go to court he has 6 other children same thing . I pray for him .. But I'm done ..

Bambi Thomas that is ridicules. Grown men who act like children. It’s really not fair for the children but as long as in the end they know mommy was there it will pay off. When they grow to be successful they will always know u were there! After sooo many chances u have no choice but to move and find your happy!! I hope you are okay. The day u disappear he will try to look for u. And I would shine on him!!!!

SK J which is nigh on impossible when they are the other parent of your beloved children

I actually met up for a closure, even tho they prefer having an upper hand, I basically said that I wanted to restore my dignity and take everything back as if it never happened nor existed. As if he never existed in my life. Delete. Made them feel very uncomfortable.

Well said Toya!

Love that too💫

How do I do that if it's a parent?

From experience, this does work. 100%. And if they block you it’s even better. 💯

Narcissists cant understand this for sure

I love this saying, thank you. That hit hard

Facts

Profound & deep.

Elicia Garcia I hope so! I don’t know if I can make it

Thank you so much for your advice! It really helped me to unload a bad decision in my life.

Thank you. Worst time of my life

You can and you will. I did.

It is soooo hard to deal with the anger inside me. I just fully (or almost fully because it is still too painful!!!) realised who did I give 10 years of my life. Who did I chose to be a father of our child. I am so weak and he does EVERYTHING to provoke my reaction. I see it but it it is still very disturbing. Is there any practice I can use to build my strength? Some kind of exercise to transform my anger so it won’t be out of my control when he approaches me. It is awful, unpredictable and I am scared of his provocations. I feel as if I want to scream into his face! I want him to suffer as me. I want to punish him so badly!!! So I want to be free and healed. How to start from those overwhelming emotions? Not to show him. None of what I feel. Truly learn the skill of being on charge if your emotions an boundaries? Thank you for encouragement🙏🏼. I NEED THIS🧡

jillian woods perfectly said! Absolutely the person that gets discarded is actually the winner!

jillian woods yes indeed

jillian woods great points!

Yes, so true, but so so sad when it's the father of your children and you have to explain why he hasn't asked about them in over a month! Because we caught him with multiple other women when he was supposed to be in recovery for sex addiction!!😢

Crystal Rolfe sad indeed. It seems you and I actually have a story in common. 😑 My ex left me at 3 months postpartum after cheating on me with multiple women. I've been in recovery for narcissistic abuse ever since. It's been a long two years but I've recently crossed a threshold and I'm finally healing. His antics as a parent are still bothersome to me but nothing like how it used to hurt me to the core of my being. I'm now more focused on the quality of MY relationship with my kids and let him hang himself with his own rope. Leaving me was the best thing he did for our relationship. It's like the apology I never got. Haha. Because now, after lots of introspection and deep work, I'm manifesting peace and happiness for me and my children in a way that I couldn't do if him and I stayed together. Keep doing the work, love. KZfaq has been like my BFF!

When I’m silent then he says I’m acting different and an argument starts

... that & living well!

Jesus loves you 🎨🎇🎣🎷🎆🎑💄🎺🎍🎋♥️🧸🪗🪟🎊🪁

It is! I finally learned that a couple years ago.

Thank you 💕

Absolutely agree.

This comment is an explanation I was looking for browsing through the videos. Thank you.

Thx

Sooooo on point! Very nice explanation! ❤️

It sums up my situation that I just had last night after losing 6 years trying to make it work with her. But she always blamed me and never wanted to commit into nothing serious such as getting married or planning a family. She wouldn't even admit her fault EVER. But now just trying to recover, thanks for sharing this comment 👍🏻

True ... and when it happened they flip on you like crazy and everything your fault.

I did this and my mother-in-law is starving to death with what to say to the community.

Starve them biiiiiiihes

Yep!! It works i know personally

The repercussion is they never will be able to feel like a normal human being. They are not capable of having a loving relationship with anyone. That is what is sad for them. They will live their entire life never truly connected to anyone.

Because it's not illegal to be a narcissist. Karma does get them eventually.

Their lives are shit they have nothing but enemies and they live in constant fear of their actions or they move arround to avoid the people they hurt

Me2

They haven't gotten away at all God will repay them and Karma is always an Ugly Bitch he will play them back more than we ever could wish them well and get the best success you can ever ever have

I just took few screenshot from his fon..he has no Idea of what's coming

I just exposed mine on social media and man was he pissed. Lol

period ! i wish i had done that w most things he had done but i’ve got a few

Yeah i have all the evidence of her cheating at least 3 times and recordings of her verbally abusing me and admitting that she hit me. The only reason I keep it is if one day shes crazy enough to make a false charge against me (she tends to threaten adversaries with legal action as a means to silence them and get them to comply). Shes a bully at heart and surrounds herself with sycophants that give her unlimited narc supply

That's a very good advice thank you ♥

@Life Advice BecomeOne Me neither. Jezebels the lot of them

Sophia Elaine I did that once and she wanted to hurt me and was chasing me and did not care about her son I ran to my boyfriend and he blocked her from hurting me she acted like a duck in demon.

It's not indifference when you are secretly hoping they will implode. That's just another form of evilness. You are just continuing the cycle. You can't lie about the energy that is motivating you.

I was totally calm and wished him the best when he told me of his new love complete with kids he was manipulating against her. He went APESHIT cos I didn't want him back.

Sophia Elaine I love this stat

Sophia Elaine That is the Gods honest truth! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 They can’t handle that. It overloads there system. They NEED and crave, a reaction! And most of the time, they’re actually “bating” you, specifically for a reaction. To use it against you. To prove whatever “smear campaigns” they’re claiming against you. Be it, “She’s crazy! She’s got issues. She’s disrespectful. Etc..” So they literally WANT you to react, to use as proof against you. And when you don’t react. You act indifferent, kind, like you could care less, they will show the psycho they really are. It’s great😹 THAT is the best revenge you can EVER get, on a Narcissist.

Bumble Bee did you have kids?

Xara Imogie Thank God no. We were just dating.

Bumble Bee i need ur help

Bumble Bee yes they lie

Bumble Bee or anyone: What does triangulation in regards to a narcissist mean?

Preach it girl

Yes. God is just and ultimately I will be rewarded. No vengeance. Unconditionally love and move on.

Move on. They were never genuine in the relationship to begin with. Hurts when it’s your child but the fact remains.

YES ❤️❤️❤️

He did! I saw them all get their karma

Yes but when you do that it helps you see all the ones that have been hidden in plain sight. The ones that are really good you never would have thought would hurt you. I never thought my mom was a narcissist until after my dad passed away.

absolutely true but revenge is so sweet when you have to deal with monsters

Neitche

Amen

I'm maybe a monster but i'm goku, and she's freeza

So agree with you not playing their shit game I win against the narrastic man 😁🙂 freedom from bullshit to the narrastic men online and not the other way around. Those online are narrastic men online and not the other way around

How ????? I always end up being part of their shitty game . I get upset ,furious ,freak out and get revengeful . And i feel my mind has become slave to that person ,always focussed on them . Its got terrible for me . How escape when living with them 24*7 . No ,i cant leave

@@reenasingh-id9zh Try meditation. And don't react to what they say or when they throw insult at you. Just tell them they are being very angry/unreasonable and just walk away. Talk to them when they have calmed down.

@@TurrkeySlap thank u so much for your answer . Yes i have started meditating recently .

I am APPALLED that I just seem to be drawn to these people.. I'm on my 3rd right now. And I KNOW their traits.. why do I do this?

period ! i had actually prayed for it so many times because i knew i wouldn’t be able to be the one to leave.. then God did what had to be done

@@zashiworld YES!! THANK GOD! We DO NOT “Belong” in Narc🌎!!!! Praise the Lord! ❤️ Now we can FINALLY HAVE SOME PEACE!!

Amen Heather

Amen.

Prayer is powerful, binge watching Fr. James Blount and you’ll soon realise you are not alone. I started 2 years ago with Our Lady’s mantle 46 day Novena 🙏

my husband uses what hurts me the most and no remorse he does it over and over again and then laughs when i have anxiety attacks from being ignored for weeks

Beautifully put.

trevortractor 1000 like on this comment if I could

Sad but true.

Sad but true but I still think revenge....

Great point SB!

I think that everyone thinks of revenge especially when you've been hurt so bad and you just want revenge but the best thing you can do is put it in God's hands

Keep your Mind and your heart in check when fighting the Narcissist and their gangs!

Sorry to hear that, women are selfish and mean, I'm going through the same thing, my wife treats me like shit,and thinks nothing about it, her day is coming

My Hurting story too.l loved and cherished my husband. supported and invested in him.but what i got in return is a pure betrayal by cheating with my sister.

@LIZZ WACERA OFFICIAL I wish that was my case, my wife is a cold woman, I gave her love and friendship and I got shit on for being a good husband to her,

(hugs).wish you quick healing

@LIZZ WACERA OFFICIAL thanks 🙏

Kira Lavenson,hope you are not with a narc 🙄 cause you are too precious! 🌹🌹🌷🌷🥀🌹

They will leave you exhausted

Wow , good luck .And keep taking advise about narcissism.

Me too. I'm with you

Seriously you'll never win. They emotionally exhaust you, and can take you from being a confident high self esteemed peron to wondering is it me what the hell is going on.

lorraine smith what did you do to find all this things about your narc? Investigative wise?

Just because he suffered as a child doesn't justify what he did to you. You don't have to pay the price for something you didn't do.

I agree we don’t have to pay but doesn’t meant that we can not have compassion. What is most difficult is separate both feelings. We need God to guide us because us to difficult to leave when we discover things like this in them childhood. Same happened to me and now I’m trying to leave without him to know but at the same time I feel really bad abandon someone that has no one in his life any more. He lost the last person in his life, his mother. Lord help me 🙏🏽.

@@VANIAASOUZA So you have compassion for a Narcissist? That's part of their game.

Empaths and Narcissists are magnets to each other.

linda from ga absolutely!!

Blessings hehehe goodbye Abbie

Who would hurt you.

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Furkan Öz thank you for the compliment!

Furkan Öz ....."Golly gee whiz!!! ...I wonder why sarge?"

🙌🙏💪

Josephine N M i got rid of EVERYTHING...jewlery..( the whole 2 pieces he bought me) clothes his mother bought me ( her style of clothing) the last discard i kept the things...his excuse to come back....i threw away his timberlands n his jordans....ALL in the trash...it felt so good NOT caring if he got pissed about his precious THINGS....

Josephine N M I did the same sort of thing. One day I had just had enough with my ex and her narcissistic tendencies. I would call her out for things and try to work on them with her but she never actually would adjust her behavior... I felt a ton of guilt for abruptly ending it the way that I did but in reality, I was just trying to put an end to the manipulation and I realized she would have some garbage excuse to explain her behavior per usual.

@@noneofyourbusiness7787 You did the right thing. If you try to do a humane breakup and explain why they will just use it to make excuses and reel you back in. The only way to break up with a narcissist is to go no contact. You'd been calling her out all along so she can't claim she doesn't know why.

char west that's a great point. Thank you. I actually checked her Facebook to make sure she's doing alright and she had a rebound within a week. Literally was in a new relationship. My gut feelings were so right. All of my guilt for blocking her was gone lol. She's from hell, but she's no longer my problem to fix. I learned a lot of lessons from our 8 months together and it's empowering to walk away from such a draining person for good. I'm glad I got out after just 8 months because I can go full no contact with her. No kids, ect.

Hello to whom it may concern in an refer you to consommé that helped me get my ex back and he can also render you help as he did mine oo

Whtspp him

+234,.815,..689,,,6436

I had to block. Sometimes you have to.

Don't block? Yes iam .boundaries

Blocking shows immaturity. You're showing them you're still hurt

@@YugoStrange not hurting but it's called boundaries and they crossed them. If they are crazy, they won't leave you alone to heal. That's how they work. You clearly have never experienced it. I can move on from them without them gas lightening me. Not immature just done.

@@goodnews5082 I'm currently experiencing now. My ex is my boss. I'm her right hand at work. So imagine my struggle.

From what I have read so far that's defiantly true, if they see you aren't getting to them anymore then you win. Trying very hard at the moment to rid myself of one.

daria sterle I have to ask have you ever been involved with a narcissist? because sometimes and with some of them moving on doesn't work. I know because I'm being gang stalked by several unknown individuals because I went no contact with a narcissist more than 2 years ago.

Mary W they you have to go far away from them because they are very dangerous

daria sterle So give up everything my job, home, family and friends and start all over again. why not just get a big vicious dog?

Mary W because your life is in question ;)

Amanda Maria Team G Sure, but you may have to wait awhile. Also, how will you know when it happens?

I saw my mom get beat , my brother and all our pets by my narc dad ! Now I’m 62 and he’s rich and threatened taking me out of his will . He demands me to clean all the rental properties and won’t allow hired help or up keep . He’s a slum lord so to speak. Now what do I do ? He’s living across the street and my mom passed away so he’s targeting me !

So agree with you 😁😊🤗lol.lamf

Amanda Maria Team G .... YES!!!!!

Exactly

Hope you’re holding up well 2 years down the line. I survived. Many others like us have survived. You will survive too hun. Keep your chin up 😊

Keep yourself busy I'm in the same situation think of all the things you went through write them down get out. I will not compare what hes done to me because I try not to even write it now. Is the worst narcissist I've ever been with and you have to think do I want to stay with a monster over a real man that's going to love me love yourself Pray and go to the gym. Good luck may God be with you

I was codependant

Just got dumped on Valentine's Day . . . :(

I hope you are feeling a little better by now! Valentine's Day, your birthday, Christmas, or the day your dog dies are popular days for toxic people to throw you off. Why? Because you're supposed to think about them on that day for the rest of your life. And because on such days it hurts even more. And it's supposed to hurt you, that's the whole point. Big Hug

Well said

Sometimes karma doesn't work fast enough. Lol

Thank God that I'm actually seeing how karma is being played out on him ...he looks dark n empty

I'm waiting for that day...

Karma or God? You can't believe in both... karma is from boudhism...

Thank you i am in the same boat as you and i am glad my child wont get to meet him

Im currently in my second trimester going thru the same thing. Its soooo hard. How did you get thru this?

Same here! I was left as soon as I found out I was pregnant and he had a new girlfriend and now my son is two! I take my child support and keep it moving. He said he left because, of me 🤷🏽‍♀️ I told him thank you because, I didn't have the courage to leave you! It was a very toxic relationship and I was proud he left. I went to therapy and that helped me even more! Now, I'm like a new women 💃🏽

Kishorie Weingart lucky

Lenora Hawkins pray

it takes years to get over a relationship

my husband ignored me its was the worst pain ever I asked him to please do not ignore me and he did it over and over again

@@jesseenixon leave him

That is true.

I think you are right. I may post my story sometime.

Mark B - Please do. I’d love to hear it, plus it’ll help you to talk about it.

@@jimmynix5399 This was a male friend I met in 2012. We met on a business forum, and found we lived nearby. He put on a big show on the forum about how successful he was, yet when we met he was anything but. First clue I totally ignored. At any rate we struck up a friendship. While I knew we would never be close, nor did I have a desire to be, I had absolutely no idea what would be coming… I’m still not 100% certain if this person is a narcissist, or just a crappy/irresponsible person. For instance, I purchased material from him and not realizing I had overpaid, he caught it and handed it back. Was he honest? Or is this a narc’s way of building trust/setting up the fall? Other times he has apologized for whatever. Again I think it was to gain trust and set me up. Then again he was always blaming everyone for his circumstances… Yet other times he was a groveling mooch, wanting a $20 to get beer and chew, other times it was diapers. I caved a few times, and wish I hadn’t. Few years go by, we’re still casual friends, so why I agreed to the following is beyond me. Maybe it’s that slick charm I hear about in so many videos. Oh, by this time he’s married. I just hope she wakes up soon. Unfortunately she had a kid with him. Plus her 2 from another relationship. He came to me wanting to buy a car, but didn’t have any money. We can all see where this is going… I had a car for sale, he had a job lined up in Washington (or so he claims, since I’ve found out he can’t hold a job for any length of time) and needed a vehicle to get him and his family there. Perhaps I was feeling sorry for the family. Who knows. So I write up a simple agreement and he swears up and down he will pay me back. In hindsight I can see he had no intentions by how pushy and insistent he was. He just needed to get out of state because he had burned all his other bridges, I was his last hope and would soon burn ours. Part of the reason he came to me is he had a blowup with his dad. I basically bailed him out and allowed him the opportunity to escape. I regret being the catalyst. So he messages me to let me know when he is settled he’ll start making payments. Then I don’t hear from him for a while and message him. Tells me things are rough but he’ll send money asap. Not too long after I get a letter from an impound yard. The POS didn’t put the car in his name like he said he would. I go to message him on FB and I’ve been blocked. I message his wife. Blocked. I message both from a 2nd account. He tells me he has no idea what car I am talking about, that he has no room for negativity in his life and had the balls to tell me “quit being a victim” and blocked me. This from someone who at one point said I was his best friend and he always had my back. Ha! I think he is jealous of me. While I am not well off, my home and vehicles are paid for. He’ll always be chasing a dollar, never getting ahead. He’s entitled and saw me as someone he could screw over. Again, I regret allowing myself to be taken advantage of. A year has passed since this last encounter. I was starting to get over it, then a month ago it came flooding back with a vengeance. I want to forget I ever knew him. I suppose it takes time. He claims to have been molested. That is horrible, yet I am not sure I believe it. Also claims to have cancer, but I have heard that’s a sympathy ploy of a narc. Though I don’t have any insight to his life right now, I am pretty sure he is struggling since he’s been sued by multiple people (landlords, car lots) and a title loan company is after him, plus the fact he can not hold a job longer than 2/3 months and imagine the stress is absolutely overwhelming. This is childish but I take satisfaction in that. On another note, I see many comments about narcs aging rapidly. This fool is 28 and almost bald and just looks awful overall. If he is a true narc, why not bail on the wife and kids? I know there’s no way to understand a narc, but I wish I knew why they think they can treat people this way. I’m embarrassed it took me until after all this happened, but it dawned on me the only time he ever came around is when he wanted something. His wife didn’t like his drinking, so he’d beg to come over and hang out…yet drank the entire time and played with his phone. As I learn more about narc’s, this behavior seems to be one that is constantly running from their demons. Can’t sit still, always have to be doing something. Some days I wish he’d return to Idaho, and I can corner him and have him read all the messages he’s sent and explain why he is a manipulative worm and pathological liar. But he’ll just spin it somehow. I am now more cautious of those who “want to be friends”. And I definitely will not be loaning any money to anyone again.

Mark B - Sorry that happened to you. Just remember that we always have a choice who we allow into our lives. No offense but it sounds like he was a negative influence and you chose to be around him. Surround yourself with positive people, be a positive person, make positive choices and good things will happen. One book that really helped me was The 7 Habits and learning to be proactive instead of reactive. Not to sound preachy but it really helped me.

Katelyn Barber,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!

lol want to make a friend with one haha

😂😂😂😂

Narciss--zits😂😂

@@godzillamanstreb524 nice

Me too‼️

So do I. Newly awakened. My sons mother. My brother and my ex who I wouldn’t take back. All triangulating me. I attract them. I’m now a Super empath. Awake.

Jwnsksneu sis same omg I'm tired

Babu it is a huge blessing when you get discarded.. I 100% agree!

Babu absolutely

Discarded the connection like it had no value...and then I put the brakes on...I wanted value...the narc had none..I had to go with the good energy I had left over to build on..thanks..I know it's a better way to love me..so I began with me again.... thanks 😎

Babu you’re absolutely right! Because I reacted to the narcissist I got in trouble. I was ignoring her for days at the shelter I’m at. We lived in the same house but then I was moved to a down stairs house at the shelter and I over heard her talking about me to staff and she was doing it in front of people. So...I totally reacted which wasn’t cool so staff had to talk to me. But I asked staff to shut the door next time. I also told my advocate at the shelter (she’s above staff) that I do not want to talk to this lady and that I need to focus on my program and meeting with this lady and my advocate is not focusing on my program. I also sent stuff that she’s done to me to the program manager. This lady just has been reaching and reaching to hurt me and I’m done with her.

@@mariahconklin9345 yes me too!! I reacted at a party with a whole group of friends who involved themself in my situation of leaving quietly and then afterwards they were all hating on me, like I had a/ was the problem in the first place!! Even though this has been going on for years and that night, involving different people in the friendship group! (He said, she said, you did this, you did that) Thankfully they're not my friends I've chose in life, they are my best friends, (who is an empath and not a narcissist) friends, so I'm moving forward in my life and will not put myself in that situation again! I will stick with my friends who love me! None of us need people who bring us down! 🙏

Yeah my Nex said and did the same when I told her I was not gonna be held in limbo.

Kristen West,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🌹🌺, hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

Are You Saved? Wow. I’m sorry. Without pressure, judgment or anything else but love, hope and prayers, and FAITH is to say that “God Will Make a Way where there seems to be no way!” He said it! If I could, I would deliver you and your 7 children myself! Start praying the 91 Psalm everyday over your home .. Learn strong boundaries. Step by step God will lead you! Just keep having faith in Him! One day you guys are going to look back on your lives.. I spent 20 years in Hell with Satan and my boy watched his Dad tear me to shreds and blow up everything. I got very sick in there and didn’t know it was from the Narc Abuse. My little daughter came along 9 years later and it was SHE that told me, “You got to get away from Dad”.. So God made a way, and he has to pay for it because I was a stay at home Mom. I’m still disabled in body because my entire family was taking turns treating me the same way for 51 years. (It was normal to me) It’s only been a year since I couldn’t take the last 1 for 1 more min 🤢🤮 My 16 yr old daughter and me are on lockdown together and this is the first home in my life that’s filled with love, joy and peace. I hope my body will get well now! So far I couldn’t work if you paid me! 😂 I had 2 Narc Husbands . First 1 I married to get out of the Narc house! (18 ) That lasted 5 years. Next one 20 years. After that the WORST Narc boyfriend who I knew as a totally respectful friend and former co worker that I knew for 11 years of respect and boundaries FLIPPED into the WORST ONE after the love bombing stage of dating after the divorce. He is still Hoovering me 3 years after the final discard.. I think of my daughter every time he tries to get back in so I can stay strong. She is doing better than I could have ever imagined! I wish I would have known about this when my son was born! Just keep learning as much as you can every day and pray for Gods GRACE and to Lead you in the way you should go! God bless you guys!

I would not have made it if it wasn't for Jesus in my life. My narcissist discarded me after the most amazing world wind romance...or so I thought. Then he hovered over me for 2 years. I finally moved to get away from him. It was only God who gave me the strength to do this. It was very difficult but he made the way, opened doors and even blessed me with my own home. It was not easy and the pain is something I dont want to experience again. The Holy Spirit was my comforter during my most painful moments and I know that God carried me through this and I am so thankful for Him.

D L That’s Awesome!! Thank you for sharing that! I don’t know how people do life without Him? He is my Everything! Nothing is impossible to those who believe!! Look how much He Loves you! 😂 Thank you Jesus!!! ❤️

@@Lovefrequencyenergy Yes

Gratitude of your comment Heather. Heartfelt GRATITUDE!!!

Jerry S those people are possessed with evil I’m so happy you got out

Way to go Jerry! I was in for 19 years and feel your pain. No contact works. Keep on keepin on brother!

Same here my story...exscept no divorce

darnell anderson Yes

Jerry S Thank you

Clear Clear I love your comment it means alot

YES! That's the gift the narcissist inadvertently gives us. We love based on character, not on attributes.

Wow just the best.:)

I was ignored by a narcissist who was always to busy and said one thing but done another hes the one that wasnt worth my time though. Yep Iknew a narcissist who said he wanted to marry me but he broke up in the end saying I gave him a hard time for the week when he was bragging to me about a female from school he was hanging out with and I told him how upset I was and it seems like he has more time for them mentioned it one day in the week. He also had female coworker over after inviting me over and not telling me. He put others before me and was a big momas boy extremely close to his mom. He wanted girls to cook and preferred if they paid for dates. He wasnt even that attractive yet wanted a high degree for attention from others and wanted to be a ladys man. He fooled many to think hes Christian. He didnt want to be a priest in the past cause of all the pretty girls. Claimed he wanted to wait but kept seducing and pushed away playing games. He said in the past he wanted to be a ladies man. Also manipulating people into fights. He put others down sometimes to even those who are struggling with jobs and bragged about his many job offers. When he broke it off he said he wasnt ready for relationship but never thought it would work out was also suprised it went on for as long as it did. Even said he has problems and gets turned on looking at other women in tight outfits when walking in the mall. He thought I broke up with him first had a tantrum; then when he found out I didnt, he broke it off with me the next day just tell people he broke it off.I had low self esteem at the time to and asked him for another chance when he was breaking things off I didnt even know what I did. He told me it wasnt worth it his excuse was he was too busy. Yet that made me feel even lower like I wasnt worth it. He always put plans with me off saying hes to busy. Yet had time for family and friends even female ones. He played hot and cold leading me on and pushing me away. Leading me on with poetry, opening doors, seducing and being romantic. In the end I saw his true colors.

He treated me like I didnt deserve any attention or anything but in the end it was the other way around. Mine also said made me promise using God and his sons name that if I ever told people about some messed up things he done in past that something bad will happen to me and my family. He had me repeat those things before he told me and other stuff I dont remember. I didnt keep my exs promises he made me say after he threw me away like trash I decided to mention the truth about him. No real Christian should make another person make promises like that or something bad will happen. Thats sick.

Peace Joy What a great analogy!

Wow perfect analogy

Yass! 👏♥️

Chew toy. Good way to put it.

Thanks....I'm a free bird...waiting to mount up..like wings of an Eagle...thanks Narc sadist🤔

I was will a narcissist on and off for a time she broke up with me several times I was always honest loyal caring and loving with her she even cheated on me once had a one night stand and then cried and told me about it sometime after we got back together she was living in bad conditions with her mom and I decided with her to go buy a house 10 days before the closing and buying up the house she broke up with me the only thing I can say is thank God we weren't married but I want up with a house that I never picked that I never wanted to eventually I had to rent it out and I'm waiting now for the the house to be my possession for 3 years so I can sell it you don't know how much time and effort it took to be with her she was never happy she was always looking at the negative there is no pleasing a narcissist believe me I've never felt so much love in my life from a narcissist but it's all lies it's all bullshit they can never truly loved anyone except for themselves they see themselves as a good person but in reality they're not they're horrible they think they are great parents and reality they are horrible they see themselves as good partners and in reality there demons in disguise

@@warznemesis4189 everything you're saying is so true; it's good you realized all this before you got married. You are lucky you got away. Now there is room for someone good in your life, and you probably will be more able to recognize the signs of a narcissist better next time around.

Judy Garner ouch yeah but ouch

Yes and they are so desperate for any attention they will take anything. It's best to learn from it and not take it personal. Just a life experience. They are very sick individuals. For my spiritual growth it's better for me to set a healthy boundary and pray for them. As opposed to having a resentment being vengeful which only makes me sick. I've come to realize people are who they are. I'm not the judge and or jury. ☮️❤️

No contact and moving on is the best revenge

I am an adult and i have never seen this resentful side if myself ever. I am better than that and yet I really wanna see them exposed.

@@narona move on

Jane Cooper,You are beautiful 🌹🌺,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!

That exactly how this video made me feel

star fire

Lynn King,hope you are not with a narc 🙄 cause you are too precious!🌹🌹🌷🌷🥀

Yes!💯 currently coparenting with this “thing”

Bev Hayden ....except for the age...my story is so similar...but haven't broken free yet...he discarded me but is back..to punish me some more....my problem is am currently so mentally emotionally and physically weak from it I can't seem to get strong enough to let go and leave

Thanks so much for your response. I have been there, and went back to a horribly sick, dangerous situation, too many times. It doesn't get better! The best thing you can do is go to an abused women's center and plan to leave. I read the book, "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" by Patricia Evans, in two days, and that gave me all the info I needed. Plan to leave, safely, quietly wisely, and do it! He will never change and/or admit what he did. My ex is in construction, builds homes, lifts tools every day so he was super strong! All I do remember when he slammed my 5'4", 140 lb body up against a door, pinning me and quishing my heart/body against the door....I had the thought, "Is this how he is going to kill me?" He could have very easily. It's my responsibility to take care of myself. He isn't a safe person and has proved that innumerable times throughout our marriage. The BEST feeling is when you are driving away, out of state, and will never have anything to do with him again. It is true that the best revenge is taking your own power back, and being anywhere else that he doesn't know about! My family helped me pack up and move too. Everything can be done through an attorney....Take pictures and make police reports and LEAVE....Never talk to him again and only have a PO Box in a State. Set it all up in advance and get the heck OUT of there!. I believe we are Daughters of God and have to take caer of our selves and children. I have an awesome Attorney who waited to be paid, and was so wonderful to work with in Court. I am so thankful I am out of this horrible situation that could have killed me. With much love and support to you! Thanks to you, Stephanie for all these videos! They are empowering! Bev

I am happy you manage to cut off and found freedom. You are a courageous woman. Thanks for sharing your story.

Good for you!!

Congratulations on your triumph & success. You are an overcomer! 💪🏼👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Stacey Heath Exactly it is essentially a little child begging for attention… And the more attention you give them the more they will abuse you. When you disengage emotionally from this person they go away. And that’s how you get revenge by taking your power back!

Stacey Heath does he know you are just acting?

Maybe he knows your acting honey .

Amber P showing him the videos is a codependent behavior. You will find that he will not change his behavior if he is true NPD. He will use the videos to gain information on how to manipulate You even more.

😂 same here , but was girlfriend .

Right!! I can totally relate..

Ugh same. Now I know thats a red flag.

Thats gow tbey get you down talking their ex

Narcissists tend to play narcissism experts. They can really fool people. Imagine a child learning from this woman. It’s like the fruit from the tree of good and evil. It’s all the rigid rules and rigid roles the narcissitic control freak teaches. They use the knowledge to be even more abusive. Most abuse victims have significant issues themselves.

"The lack of empathy and the mind games, gaslighting. The smirk. The excuses and pure exhaustion. The life sucking force that is narcissism, and not to forget the rage!!!" A beautiful, perfect, and poetic description.

corrolla yes I was lucky at the end blessed to be here

Your last lines are very true. They could murder you if you don't go away when they want you to leave

My Brother and on top that he is Narcisist he take Testosterone and Tranbolone Steroids..... I Hate that Monster!!!!

creator..... I just went through the rage faze with my ex. He choked me in front of my kids and when I told him I couldn't breathe he said ” SO” and held on tighter to my neck when I got lose from him he spit in my face. I wanted REVENGE!!!!! I wanted blood! But I calmed myself and walked away from it all.

That's called going "grey rock" be blah, when you don't stimulate them , they get bored and go find a different person to "play the game" with I know it's a funny concept but now I rejoice when I look "ugly" in pictures where he is around or in them (we have four kids together) and I have had to be around him on family occasions like weddings and graduations etc. I look at the pictures and say to myself "Oh I look awful! Then "hey that's a GOOD Thing!"

I had to do the same with my own father, and in order to do that fully, I had to sever ties to his side of the family as well. He's also not the only narcissist amongst them. At first, it sucked and was difficult, but I'm much better off and happier without them. Having been through this myself, I applaud anyone who has been able to completely cut off narcissists.

telling you to clean your room is abuse?

Athena K Dad or not. He goes. Good on you.

@@thefirstjustin I don't severed with the kitchen knive any more. I use a dedicated insinkerator lol🤣🤣 I had a spare just in case it breakdowns

He did not like that very much he never text back.

And that was five days ago.

What were you feeling that brought up a tear?

I just said this to myself yesterday. Save my tears for someone who actually cares!!

Welcome to the smear campaign club.

A narcissist sibling? That's the first time I heard that