hehehe watch them get dumped at the nursing home BY their adult children and never get a visit :D

There have actually been some studies that show that adults who have to take care of their aging parents are prone to depression themselves which leads to physical health problems as a result of irregular eating and sleeping habits, and it causes financial problems as well as social isolation. So, choosing to not have kids not only saves you money but it also saves the burden from your children. It's good to have someone take care of you when you're older, but your kids shouldn't have to sacrifice their health to watch you die.

Absolutely, your kids are gonna get married and you're gonna end up alone either way.

This comment made me realize I don't have to feel guilty for not wanting to spend the prime of my life taking care of someone just because they are my parent.

@@skatrees I think it depends on what the care looked like. My parents made me feel like a burden through most of my childhood and often put me as last priority over their romantic relationships.

Society cares about money, and that's it basically.

@@B----------------------------D HOW CAN THEY MAKE MONEY OF A FRIKN BABY

@@scazab6408 have you seen prices of baby stuff? toys? formulas? diapers? school supplies? art supplies? oh god, and the worst offender - CLOTHES? it's a huge business with a huge revenue!

And then these same people whine about people who can’t take care of kids having abortions when they accidentally get pregnant.

@@szinga yeah ur right, thx dude

Exactly, men or woman should not be judged or forced into believing their value is tied to procreation.

@@bigbay1159 problem is there is more of a pressure for women to become breeders that is why women in their 20s who are adults can’t get sterilized as easy as men. Kick in men (patriarchal society) want to control a woman’s body after she becomes pregnant and the sire has no financial and moral obligation to be responsible.

@@stephaniepersin4145 My statement isn't to remove anyone's struggles. My statement is to point out that nobody regardless of why or personal opinion has the right to place any expectations on something that is not there's or impacting them directly. It's not a game of who has it worst, the principle is my point, NO ONE should be gas lighted into accepting a life choice that they do not want.

@@bigbay1159 women have it worse than men. I’ve heard of too many women who were married, that when it ended, SHE was stuck 100% with the financial responsibilities of raise offspring than males. Males can run away when the going gets tough.

@@stephaniepersin4145 You Clearly have a bias, not once was this a game of comparisons. BOTH have issues, if you want to use anicdotcal evidence I've personally seen men denied access to their children while they pay everything for no reason. Happened with my own father as my siblings as kids. Not once did I remove any difficulty from either woman or men but again you have this personal damage that won't let you stop trying to one up

EXACTLY 💯

period.

period

PERIOD SIS

so true.

You're an ungrateful, selfish little child. Grow up.

@@jessicamrussell How is not wanting children ungrateful? At least by not having a kid, she won't become emotionally abusive to the child like her own mother saying "my life you be better without you in it".

Jessica Dawn Russell oof got ‘em 😩🔥🔥🔥🔥💵👌🏼🔥🔥🔥😩

Camazotz 4444 its sarcasm

@@jessicamrussell Get Fucked!

Crys S BULLSHIT !!! She is just not able to be pregnant. Cracked womb. Lots of women like this telling bullshit. It is facts.

@@CreatorItachii If you're just here to argue, please just leave 😊 thank you!

MysticKoolaid808 Once society grabs a hold of hardwiring someone, they will oppose you even when facts prove them wrong hun! It almost becomes literally IMPOSSIBLE to reroute their brain. It’s part of a mental condition called cognitive dissonance. Not worth the argument.

Cinema Bizaree ?

@@rolandnapitupulu who cares if she can't get pregnant? She still doesn't want to have them biologically anyway.

yep I feel the same. Im 15 right now, and I really feel this way. Life is painful

@@thekawaiipotato4050 Im 17 and hate how my family insist that I’d have kids or “get married to a man” when that’s not the life I want. It also upsets me how society rushes the youth of most teens to grow up faster than what they are

Right?

The sad true!

Chris watts case..

My friend asks them genuinely, how do you know, if they confidently say you’ll change your mind, and of course they can’t answer that because they don’t know.

@@theocool6367 exactly!

thank you. now I know what to tell people.

I thought that sentence was going to end with "I always hit them."

But its very common, take Jennifer Aniston who changed her mind and now openly regrets not having kids

I was the result of a selfish reason. I really wish she hadn’t had me.

Or they have kids because they think that’s what they have to do

@@seaturtlepoppy7679 then coming sepeku and stop being ungrateful for life

Marcia Osullivan I think you need to take another English class, honey. Do that before you even try to use a Japanese word. 分かりますか。

@@LucareonVee auto correct and no one cares about you knowing Japanese get a hobby

I say this ALL THE TIME!! 😂

i felt that 😂

hahaha, same.

@Journey Lawton Same

@Journey Lawton You're only 14 kid. Your life will have so many twists and turns as you get older that it's ridiculous. I'm not saying you're wrong I'm just saying you're going to spend more of your life as an adult than as a child. Make that decision as an adult there really is no rush. Unless you have some plan to die young.

I never cease to be amazed by how invested some people get in what consenting adult strangers are doing with their private parts.

Because it goes against one of the BIGGEST norms of society, people force people to rethink something core they've been conditioned to do automatically since birth. Creating a human life should have the most thought put into it but people put more thought in what theyre gonna have for dinner than a human life

@@imthatgirlagain Being a busybody is definitely one of the norms of society I will be happy to see disappear.

@@imthatgirlagain goes against?? It’s a personal choice….

@@imthatgirlagain having kids is natural obviously..but humans are not ‘hardwired’ to want kids or else we wouldn’t have a choice of not having them lol

You should have said. "Why so I can be more miserable by having a kid, I don't really love nor wanted?"

@@KyleEvra well said! 👍

@@KyleEvra "yOu dOn'T kNow wHaT yoU aRe saYiNg yOu wiLL cHaNgE yOuR miND wHeN yOu hAvE oNe"

You can look down upon her and tell her she only wants children because she lives a pathetic, empty life and has no exciting things to do, no intelligent goal to pursue, and no any purpose or value of her own, other than being the reproduction machine as a female animal. Cats, dogs, cows, rabbits, rats, etc, reproduction is the main purpose of their lives. Human don't want children because they evolve to become a higher form of intelligence.

I can't believe people find it wrong thar someone doesn't want to be a parent it's truly ridiculous having a child is a serious decision that can't be taken lightly

saryn toews - yup, and as the child of abusive "parents" that didn't want children I can confirm that society has always treated me like trash and has made it extremely clear to me during my over 40 years of life that I should NOT exist, and that it would be better if I quickly died off without making much of a fuss. I've spent my entire life getting abused, getting my basic rights denied, getting chased away, rejected, hated, treated like an outcast. Never even found friends, a partner, anyone who would even just have treated me as a human being. Is THIS what society wants another human on this overpopulated rock for???

If, by 'society', you mean mostly republicans/evangelicals, then yeah that sounds pretty accurate.

@Witch Chan not a good one.

@@R3ktCunnyz69 what do Republicans have anything to do with this??

@@R3ktCunnyz69 im a Democrat

Yeah, my parents see me as their retirement plan since the day I unwillingly popped out of my mother's vagina. I'll be damned if they stop me from adopting, I'm not going through the hassle of squeezing a small human out of my body when so many kids who are alive have nobody to look up to.

That's what a 401k is for!

They will put you in a nursing home.. there is no return for having kids..

I get that too. My favorite that I've ever gotten was this...... "Your life is worth nothing until you have children"... Well....I guess I'll just go step in front of a bus then!

True and it's sad...

Good comment, Gentlemen or lady!

Agreed 💯😅

iiMooseii exactly 👏

Why would you assume that the right man would force you to have kids?

Exactly.

I went to amazon, they said they are out of stock for “right man”

@@mastersonogashira1796 can you remind me I'm a guy when there's stock?

Stella S 💯💯💯💯💯💯👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Hahaha AMAZING RESPONSE! I'm stealing this splendid idea 😍

And if you already know they have children just say; "I'm getting a dog instead, it's pretty much the same."

BADASS

Stella S I am officially stilling your line 👍🏻👍🏻💓💓

Spot on!

@@thegoldenbough6525 if you're unlucky enough to have children, I pity them

You'e thinking is so shallow, but it's not surprising. It's becoming more and more common. Remember, life is not a Hollywood movie. Reality is more complicated than "omg you want children so you won't be alone and lonely when you're older, that's so wrong". There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting children so you are not lonely and helpless when you're old. Which leads me to my question, what exactly is your plan for old age?

@@Dbadaing if earth still exists when I reach 60 and if I manage to survive til 60, that's 40 years in the future. We don't know how the world would work that time since the increase in digitalization of our world. I just want to continue learning to live the world with minimal negative effect to everything that exists and hopefully contribute even a little bit of positive effect. If I manage to survive til 60, that means I lived long enough to be able to provide myself a retirement plan. There's nothing wrong with wanting children but I think it's selfish to want them JUST to have somebody when we get old. They're another human who would have their own lives, I don't think I'm willing and will be able to shape another human into his/her best form.

Dbadaing I live halfway across the country from my mom. I basically see her once a year. Having kids doesn’t guarantee anything.

Thank you for thinking that childrens aren't just retirement plans, so many people just think of their children as an investment rather than a person

Actually, my wife had to sign a consent document before I could get a vasectomy.

B Johnson That's fucking ridiculous. It's YOUR body.

A similar thing happened to me a few years back, every doctor I went to said I needed a consent form signed by a wife/girlfriend, and I needed to be cleared by at least 4 mental health professionals.

@@bjohnson2655 wow... See, in the state where I live, I often see billboards advertising vasectomies, as well as radio commercials saying that you can "watch football while you recover" and it won't effect your work, because you can return in under a week.

@@mrnonsense1031 incredibly messed up, obviously. It's absurd that anyone would need a signed form of someone they have a relationship with to have a procedure on their own body

KN1GHT - Adopt fine ✌️

thanks UwU

Which is a bad thing too because you support people who made a huge mistake and shouldnt have had kids in the first place, dumb decision. But don't think now that I'm rude to you, I think you are right, atleast I thought so. I gave you a like still because it's the best moral and intelligent decision someone with heart can make. I'm against making kids anyway, I want that the human race dies out 😉

you're so cool and epic dude you want the human race to die? man thats so cool i wanna be like you when i grow up

Artism UwU It’s not the kids’ fault someone did a mistake, also it’s not that it is always the parents’ mistake, anything could’ve happened. A divorce (not enough money afterwards), rape, anything.

Well said!!!

But people like butting in.

like seriously that is just straight up offensive, not only to the person being given this comment, but also the current spouse as well

Amen 🙏

Very well said and all to true.

I’ll throw in my two cents as a man… ehem… you should do what’s right for you. Actually, that comment is from a person. Gender shouldn’t matter. 😎🍻

omg he's so small🤦🏽‍♀🤦🏽‍♀

@@LucareonVee thank you! I know most guys are open minded like you. But there’s always that one dude lol

@@brianna_crawl hahah! I ended up taking the video down because of the amount of toxic comments.

@@cookiemonster_1991 yes, I know it’s a choice, one I’m happy to exercise. I never let anyone put this pressure on me and dictate what I should and should not do with my body and my life. Not even people like you who believe parenthood is an obligation instead of a choice like any other.

Chris watts case is an example

Seems like this are just bad people who don't have to have children. Most good people are good parents though with struggle.

You make it sound like childfree people would make horrible parents, 99% of the time child free people don't want kids simply because they don't want them that makes them more responsible than actual parents

Then great for them.

Next

Yaaaaaaah like wow...conversation going straight to some person that might not even exist (for me personally, this was the most laughable part)

@@platinumfitnessbarbie4637 Also the sneaky little dig that implies that her current partner will leave her, as if it's a certainty.

Then they aren't for you, that's for damn sure! I blast it on my profile to ward off the entitled men and those who would respect my no but still want kids for some fucked up reason. He really thinks bringing a kid into this world is a good idea? Hmmm no.

Preach!

True

That is what i always say to people, so glad someone else thinks that too!

Same here lol

Thank you Minecraft Kitten!!! Nice to know that there are still some caring and insightful peeps in this lifetime x

😊😅

And what does Haru think about it? Does she agree?

@@kryptoid2568 Half and half monsters?

Id love to know a mans reasons to why he doesnt want kids Bc as sm with tokophobia, everyone tells me you dont want kids now but once you fall in love with a man, you naturally wanna reproduce😒 And that made me feel like every single man wants babies I genuinely wanna hear your pov

@@beyondraeal My kid either as Levente (male) or Viktória (female) would be just as stupid as me

You don't need those toxic people In your life!

No one has the right to tell you that, especially your family. Every family/parents should support your choice and opinion, NOT talking trash to you just because you don't want kids. Follow your dreams and don't let those toxic people decide your life and tell you otherwise. Having kids has ALWAYS been optional and it's not for everyone. When you're turn 18, you have your freedom and choice.

@@Kebabaddict01 exactly! It's YOUR decision, and yours alone! I knew from the time I was in elementary school that I didn't want children. No regrets here.

Your family is wrong！ You should be who you want to be ❤

YES!

I'm 27 no kids and ima CEO my uncle 55 no kids my cuzin 43 she has no kids we all are good my sisters have kids they life is mirrsserble having kids is real I know the ones who have kids are pissed off and wish they never made that choice cant fool me I know better cant persuade me to change my mind either I dint care what yall say I dont want kids dint at 18 dont now at 27 I love my freedom I'm healthy I'm good I have lernt at a young age if you want to be fully free dont have kids I know what that means now as a CEO I'm glad I listen to my elders when I was 18 to yall who dint listen too bad yall mad cause you cant make us make that same mistake I love this video its says a lot 🙂

I got pregnant and was going to abort, then decide to do adoption. My mom stole all my mail and paperwork, convinced me to keep the kid or I'll regret it. So I tried the mom thing for 5 months before finding a happy loving couple. I took care of him 110% and I still knew that being a mom was not my thing. My mother, the one that had me keep the child would come in drunk and wake him from his nap and smoke with him in her arms while she vomits over the bed. I had to lock my room with a dead bolt to stop her from taking him in the middle of the night. I moved out with the child and was finally able to find a loving family. I truly tried to do the mom thing I got dippers, cute toys, cloths, beautiful baby crib, everything, when he cried I was there for him. But to this day 5 year from then I still don't regret the adoption.

Mia, you don’t have children do you?

Balls Mahoney I dont, and I don’t want to, but I have seen people struggling with their kids all my life, including my own parents, and as a child realising that it really takes away your wish of being a parent

So true.

There’s no selfless reason to have kids.

Ikr! Because what if something happens to your child and they're not able to take care of you?!?

@MR COLOSSUS it can be selfless to have children if you ADOPT them, but there is nothing selfless about choosing to conceive a child yourself, and many ppl have selfish reasons for doing so. i’m not saying it’s wrong to! it’s just completely neutral at best

This. Sike for them i'm gonna leave them anyway.

Because children are the easiest way to control women and blame them for the control of them.

not spreading your gene pool

Phoebe Chando Again, why the surprise? Not everyone wants that.

@Rey de País not everyone claims that lmao

Because most of the time it's our hormones that tell us to recreate and not our brain. It's as simple as that. Have you met anyone who has said "oh, it was a conscious decision that made me have kids"? Noone ever. We as the human species have evolved in so many ways, but here we're just like rabbits.

Suziezur Freiheit That’s usually a discussion of couples. Unless you think every birth was an accident. ;)

I had thirteen when I decided never having kids. Now I have 33 and still don't want

Can I just say that as someone who looks forward to having kids, I just want to say that you guys are super valid. Don't ever let someone tell you that you'll change your mind, you guys are amazing and worthy 💖💖💖

@@whalienabi thank you.😁 it means a whole lot.

me at 12 : No kids people: you'll change your mind me at 25: I want sterilisation plz doctor: no, you'll change your mind me at 59: Ha I did not change my mind asshat why did you all refuse to do what I asked

Commander Slay same

what happens is you get more and more quirky and odd as there are less close people around you to temper you and your wierdness. This is why all childless couples are fking wierd

@Mitchell Mitchell nope you are. With your dogs and cats.

@Mitchell Mitchell yeah there is, you will be a parasitic drain on the economy in the not so distant future.

@@seawater1322 this literally makes no sense there’s loads of weirdos who have kids lmao

If you decided not to have kids it's fine. why do you care so much about what others think of you?

Ahahahah oh my. Your husband aswell. And she says that. Parents are actually clueless

Menopause. That's when my mom stopped bugging me about it.

So basically hes of no value and is disposable because he cant or doesn't want to reproduce??

@@secretaryofoffense7118 Well really "cant" makes no sense in this context because its a vasectomy so I would rather guess the 2nd one?

😂🤣😂🤣

The same people who don't want women to have another baby because she can't afford them would be the same ones yelling at a different woman that she should have kids while she's young. People are so messed up about a total stranger's decisions about procreation.

Yeah. I'd rather have a world where every child is loved than a world with more children but those with bad lives

Mark Hamptonlingly'd and this is why people won’t have an honest conversation before conceiving: your attitude RIGHT HERE. Not everyone finds kids cute, it’s great that you do, but you don’t get to force everyone else to think and feel the same way you do.

Well then get busy getting pregnant. I love it when these indignant teste owners try to shame females into being brood mares.

Rimu N right on, I'm 39 and have no regrets of not having a child, plus I quite frankly don't want to be obligated towards the father of the child and I wouldn't have the means to adopt although I'm an adoptee myself.

@Devil's Logic For being too happy? 😋

@Devil's Logic And what law is that violating? 😘

@Devil's Logic Seems like that’s just a part of nature, honey. I never chose to be born, but I can choose not to procreate. 😘

would love to know more about that! I'm in my 20s but always like to hear from people of all ages

Same here buddy! I'm in no way knocking marriage and kids, It just wasn't in the cards for me at all, I know that it bothers many people but guess what if I have to live it all over again so be it!😊😄😀

True

Also, parents mad at people who won't be miserable because they have a life w/o obligations

I wouldn't say all that (some sure), I would say those are people who are so engrossed in their word view they are bigoted. That they can't accept people can choose not to accept their world view as law.

You said the truth

More likely parents who think it's selfish not to have kid(s) cause they properly think it ruins the point of life not to have it. Personally i can barely take care of myself and i really want to commit suicide, but i don't have the will power to it.

Doc "oh, you will love your kids once they are there" Now imagine something would say the same about a car purchase. Buy it, you'll like it once it's in your garage. Or a house. Hey, you don't want this house, but if you'd buy it, regardless of you being able to afford it or maintain it, but buy it. You'll love it eventually.

Doc 🙏YES!!

That's also y i think abortions are ok like mistakes happen. If you're not ready or you dont want it or you're too young or you were raped etc the list goes on.. then it's perfectly ok

Doc I wish people would understand personal accountability more...

bunny m Kids aren't cars. Back to the drawing board.

I agree! My favorite one is "oh when you meet the right person, you'll change your mind. You'll want a family with them." Um, no, the right person became family and he doesn't want kids either.

I agree

Although you may be partly right, I think a lot of people that say that are people who wanted kids themselves but just believe everyone else wants kids, as well. They can't imagine the possibility of missing out on having kids, so they don't want others missing that chance. I think most of their intentions are good and that they just don't realize their are women who want different things. I'm anti-abortion (not here to get in an abortion/pro choice argument). However, if people don't want kids that's their choice. I can care less if someone has kids or not.

Exactly.

Agree!

Maybe we SHOULD start saying that 😂

Sol Accursio Is that you in your profile picture? You look young for fifty

Hehehe thank you :)

That's a great thing about not having Kids. You look better as you grow older, generally speaking because you have less stress from the burden & huge responsibility of caring for kids & you usually have more money too because KIDS ARE VERY EXPENSIVE!!!

Just give it some time. You might decided you want kids when your 60. ;3

Probably look young due to not having children. It's well documented the stress ages us very fast.

Answer: there won’t be a second date. :)

Exactly!!!! That's the most common question people ask me and I just don't get it!!!!

People can be so dense.

Well, I personally don't want to have biological children at all, but I'm open to the idea of adopting, and my partner knows it. We are still too young to have children and start a family so we just vibe, but I was clear on that and he respects my decisions!

True that's one of the most stupid questions ever!!! Specially considering the fact that the Doctor asked her that 🤣🤣🤯🤯🙉🙉😏😏😏

Realized it when I was 12. I’m 41 now if anything, I want them even less now than I did then. 😎🍻

Kathy Writer glad u dropped that fool

@@kristyklaws3925 why a fool? maybe just a person with different needs?

This happened with one of my friend but she married him and now she's miserable because that guy is a something else.

@@kristyklaws3925 he's not a fool. He's a man. Ones that say he is are though

adi yaf I would. :)

❤️❤️❤️

Cindy Jencks 54 no kids by choice, no regrets!

I'm 57,no kids,no regrets. I have an exciting, romantic, stable marriage. There are many of us like this.

Bravo!!!! I am 54. Never had kids. Never wanted any. Never married either. Never wanted to. NO REGRETS.

Thank you sincerely to women who represent my future, I choose not to have kids and I am 32 now. I see my own life ahead to invest in, not more than one life to invest in.

Ya... Exactly...we are not BORN just to give BIRTH, to protect and increase our human civilization from falling or ending...WHO CARES abt this CRAZY and PATHETIC world... anyway... Live your life to the FULLEST...!! (｡•̀ᴗ-)✧

Very well said

Except that not every woman can have kids. It is rather disgusting how people always say "but you must have kids" while some just can't, even thought they want to. It's shameful that having your own life decisions is so taboo

@@sin3358 you're right. It's really an insensitive and disgusting thing to say.

Women are the source, women are creation, women are multipliers, women are muses, women are creators - of life or art or community. We don’t need to have children. Women are powerful bc we hold the key to life and inspiration. Either or both,

It's better to regret not having kid(s) than regretting having it.

Plus that child will most likely, at one point, see their parents regret having them. Which of course can mess them up.

well by that time they're gone anyway

@@xxxmmm3812 That's not always the case, especially now days.

Treva Graham True. I moved halfway across the country from the rest of my family, but I have high school friends who still live with their parents (I’m 36, to put that into perspective).

Soooooooo true

My doctor took that a step further. I have a girlfriend (we have no intention of marrying yet due to buying a house in the future which marrying can complicate) and when he asked what about my husband I told him about my gf and the fact that she can carry out herself if she wants to (she doesn't). He stared at me, and then asked 'Yeah, but about your future husband?' He basically insisted for a few minutes that I will stop being a lesbian (which I am not) and start being straight (which I am not) once the 'desire for kids' sets in. All while ignoring that I have a heart condition that will kill me should I attempt to carry out. So basically, in his mind my uterus belonged to that person I have not met that I will leave my long-term girlfriend for to fulfill my desire to die carrying a child I don't want. We no longer go to that doctor.

ValerieRaya This is pretty off topic but that was so well worded! Do you write books? Anyways, bless you and your gf! I don't want kids either and I'm lesbian so I defo get what you mean :/

ValerieRaya omg wow that was so sad and shocking to read :(

Elena Christian Exactly and most men don't want kids if they did they'll stay eith your baby mamas.😂 The truth is always funny.

No YOU insinuate that. Its not unreasonable to consider an other person in something you BOTH will have deal with for the rest of your lives. And your thought process is the problem to begin with.

Great Decision

I think a lot of the reasons why people repeat things over and over is because they learned that is the response to give when someone says they don't want kids. I was told I was selfish for not wanting a child by my mother-in-law who only wants me to have grandchildren because she wants to have grandchildren even if neither me or my husband want it. By definition, selfish is when someone does something without consideration of others and being only concerned with one's own profit. I pointed out that she was being the selfish one by ignoring how her son and myself feel. The decision and discussion to have or not have a child was one both me and my husband had concluded together and mutually both agreed to. It wasn't a selfish one that I made for myself without thinking what my husband felt. I don't make this decision for my own benefit, I made it because it was one that was the most logical especially with my health. She did not like that. Scratch that. No one who has ever told me that I am selfish for not providing them a baby has ever liked how I handle the response.

misery loves company so they say it's selfish to want to be free

I always thought it seemed more selfish to have children because a lot of people try to mould their children after themselves. It's like saying "I'm so great, I think there should be more of me".

because children don't know any better. the parents, assuming they're good parents, do know better.

i think it's actually more selfish to have children of your own when there's so many that need a family. but you want your own flesh and blood, your own little project, maybe a second chance at life and so on. have a baby and i know i was selfish but i don't care, it's my choice and i'm glad i made it. i was ready and i love her to bits and it's a hard and wondeful experience but it's inherently selfish. our natural instincts are selfish. morals are man-made.

I wanna be like you when I grow up

Goals.

you don't know How it is to have a kid, but hey life and human beings right?

@@Idk-dm9zg maybe some people don't want that experience. Some people don't find joy in watching a child cry all night while they can't get sleep. Oh, but that last part was right human rights, am I right? Because everyone deserve the choice to decide what to do with the body they have(plus the brain).

Who will visit you when you are 90 tho? That's the part that scares me

EXACTLY, you pulled the words right out of my mouth, thank you.

I I legit stood up and clapped U BE SPEAKING F A C T S!

And pets. Y'all think I'm blood-related to a cat or something? XD

I love my stepdad^^

And if your partner is blood related to you... something is off

Wel thats your opinion ,what do you think wil happend if everyone stops making kids.we just need a balance breeding is a natural thing in life.

Mr.Antimatter Yea, let's all stop reproducing and die. What's the point of living anymore? What's the point of humanity? (-_-)

Aндреј Бугариновић that's because there *is* no reason but pure chance for us to even be here right now. Quite frankly, I refuse to bring in *another* *living* *being* , and this is literally one of our own kind and not a goddamn pet like we treat them to be, without a valid reason. Wanting to raise children, genuinely wanting to, and being responsible for them, that is a valid reason because she actually wants to have them. Me, I'm not willing to put another human being through the realisation that life and existence, especially their own, has no value whatsoever, and every little thing we do is worthless nonsense. If anything, humanity should drink the Kool-Aid, as the saying goes, and save it the trouble of doing so later. I refuse to contribute to the retarded repopulation system we have set up, and if I want a child I'll fucking adopt one.

Oh, boy. Another nihilistic comment. >Wanting to raise children, genuinely wanting to, and being responsible for them, that is a valid reason because she actually wants to have them Bullseye! I absolutely agree. I will also add few more valid reasons why would I also like to have children: to continue my family's bloodline, to contribute to the population (before you say: "OVERPOPULATION!", notice that I live in Balkan, where mortality is scarily bigger than natality. Why, you ask? Two reasons: a lot of emmigrants, and because there's just too much people who think like you. Also, the entire Western world is not overpopulated as some may say. It's about the East, where every family has like +4 children. But I digress.), to raise, guide and nurture young minds the best I can, in order to make them good people and that will do great contributions to our society. Those parents who think of their children as "pets", as you formulated it, are a minority, those idiots should never have children. Please, don't generalise it and badmouth every single parent like that, because, I'm certain, there are much more parents in this entire world who genuinely take care of their children and fulfill their duties as they should. >... the realisation that life and existence, especially their own, has no value whatsoever, and every little thing we do is worthless nonsense. >...there *_is_* no reason but pure chance for us to even be here right now. We are stumbling into philosophical questions now, but I will bite it. This is precisely why I called your comment nihilistic. The tone of your thoughts is really dark, darker than it should be, if you ask me. It's true tho, there is no _objective_ reason for us to live (unless we say from biological perspective that our reason is solely to reproduce, which I only partly agree with). But, this is what makes us _human_ - we are intelligent living beings, and we are able to give ourselves meaning, a reason, a "why?" that will drive us forward. I think that the meaning of life is to find its meaning; that's where it's beauty lies, in the search for something that makes you fulfilled. Objectively, nothing has a value, but for humans, beings that have souls: everything has. Also, there's one interesting thought from Dostoevsky's "The Brothers Karamazov" which is a very nice, and concise counterargument about us not having the absolute, objective reason to live: _We must love life more than the meaning of life._ NOTHING is worthless, NOTHING is valueless. I rest my case. >if I want a child, I'll fucking adopt one. Sure, that's fine by me. I'll just say two more things to finish this comment: - Be thankful you got the chance to be here, alive. Be thankful to your parents. If you can't appreciate life, then that's your problem. A big problem. - If everyone had this pessimistic reasoning of yours, we'd do nothing, progress nowhere, stay in caves, and humanity would eventually be extinct. There would be also no kids left to adopt, because everyone would be adults or elders, there would be no children anymore. Have a nice day.

krystal I hope you have lovely children and your choice makes you happy.

Yeah, but having children is the definition of life, I guess.

@@strictlyunreal well, then have a kid of your own, why don't you? This world has something called orphans. Children who are unlucky in life, uther because their parents are dead, or were abandoned. If that kid is going to grow without love, it's better he isn't born at all. Having kids may be a biological necessity for the continuation of a race, but I say that it's not that urgent if orphans exist Maybe if humanity wasn't overpopulated we would have a different conversation, but now, you can't expect people to just breed like they are cattle just for The so called "Definition of life" Specially when even animals can act outside of the "natural" way

@@constantgaming2275 Asking people to take care of orphans and not have their own children doesn't make sense to me. That would mean that the genes of people that are unfit to raise children get passed on, while the genes of the caregivers are not. Why should I raise a child that is not part of my lineage? How would that benefit me? Orphans are Nature's way of saying "the line of my unfit parents should end here". Of course, there are orphans, as you said, that were unlucky that their parents died, but I still can't raise a child that is not mine. Only maybe if it were to be the child of one of my siblings, but never a stranger. Anyway, you failed to take into account the context. If you analyze my reply, it was to a stupid remark. Is having children an extension of womanhood? Isn't the way we define sexes based on the type of reproductive organs that one has? Isn't childbearing the primary characteristic of being a woman? And isn't reproduction one of the elements that make up the definition of life? What was the point of everything you said in the context of what I said?

@@strictlyunreal You are aware, that the lines of, as you put it, "unfit parents", are excactly those that very often never seem to end?? So what you'd do about that? Been there, done that, as what you're pointing out basically comes from a pov of selection, you just turned the ends around.

@@strictlyunreal "Orphans are Nature's way of saying the line of my unfit parents should end here" Are you serious? What a disgusting sentiment that you think orphans are any less deserving of love and attention. As for raising an orphan not 'benefitting' you, umm... maybe the benefit is that you've just provided a homeless child with a much better life so they can grow up as a normal kid? Unless of course you only have biological children to continue your clearly 'superior' lineage, even though psychology has demonstrated time and time again that genetics are only a partial factor in how people grow up to be, and that the *environment* that they grow up in has a much bigger impact on how they will turn out.

Witch Chan Yet not everyone wants the same kind of family.

I agree. So many people should never have had children. Children deserve to be loved and wanted.

Witch Chan Your parents should have gone to therapy. That’s what they needed. And a divorce.

Same here - I was unwanted and had to endure severe abuse, physical, sexual, spiritual and emotional abuse, and severe neglect. I had to endure numerous attempts to kill me, and I have to live with the knowledge that I was born 3 months early because I survived the botched abortion. Even after my birth they tried to just quietly do away with me, in fact they didn't register my birth until 10 days after my birth because they hoped they could quietly do away with me. It is only thanks to my grandmother that they didn't succeed. All my siblings were done away with via abortions. My so-called "parents" also hated children and were far too interested in pursuing their high flying careers to bother with them. On a daily basis it was made clear to me that I was in the way, and I got shoved off to other people at every opportunity. They even went so far as to deny me my identity, ie they lied about my background, my ethnic background, the family history, my cultural background. I had to establish what my race is via a DNA test, and have struggled all my life to get people to even believe me that I am the race I am. They stole my inheritance (from grandparents) from me, leaving me in extreme poverty instead of in considerable wealth (I am from a wealthy family). I have subsequently suffered lifelong abuse as people assume that I am just another uneducated down and out/drug addict/low IQ delinquent from a rundown background. I have suffered every kind of abuse, and continue to suffer this to this day - and I'm in my forties. Every day people make it clear to me that I am a useless existence, and more people than I can count would be only too happy if I would just die off without making a fuss. Yup, that's what happens to those of us who have always been unwanted - society learns that we are unwanted, and they consider us as much as unwanted as the people who gave birth to us. If only people who actually want children have them, and people who don't want them use birth control - the world would be a much better place, and nobody would need to suffer the kind of abuse that unwanted children have to suffer.

@@LittleKitty22 I am sorry for what you had to go through but my question is Why did they have children in the first place if they didn't want them? Social pressure?

I echo your feelings💚

Yes❤

Just ignore everyone you'll be fine I also don't want kids I rather spend 250,000 dollars on a house than on a child

@@Adamthedickmaster bravo! Good for you! I would, too.

Hildegard von Bingen maybe make that argument when there is an existential threat to the human race and populations are so low that a birthing scheme needs to be put into place. For now, when we have something called freedom, don’t pretend to use evolutionary necessity as a mask for your misogyny.

Hildegard von Bingen yes and that is an utterly pointless argument since no one is arguing that all women should refrain from having children, and it remains to be true that the majority of people WILL choose to have kids as they grow up. All we are arguing is that you respect the personal choices that other women make with respect to their own lives as they are none of your business. Also, the idea that children are the only people with whom you can develop a meaningful relationship that will take care of you when you’re old is laughable.

@@hildegardvonbingen9092 most ppl in old age need to be cared for by other ppl ie nurses, doctors, homeopaths, so yes other ppl other than their own children anyway.

@@hildegardvonbingen9092 Having children does not guarantee you will be taken care of when you're old.

@@hildegardvonbingen9092 Oh here we go with another whataboutism. Since up to this point (and I'm pretty sure it will be true in the future as well) there are far more people having kids than not, and the possibility of EVERYONE deciding they don't want to reproduce is zero to none, I'd say your argument is null and void. As for thinking that I'd have kids just so I'll have someone to take care of me...well, that's where the SELFISH comes in, doesn't it? It's no better than relegating me, as a woman, to the sole purpose of reproducing.

Erica Hooper ya asking "what if your future partner wants kids?” is not a problem. I specifically only dated men who also didn't want kids. I've been trying to get my tubes tied since I was seventeen. I'm 35 and my husband is 38. Because of cancer he got half a vasectomy and we wish they would've finished the job. Cuz after 5 years of asking my current GP he keeps saying no and suggesting a Mirena implant. How about I don't stick a copper dodad in my body and you permanently fix the problem?

Erica Hooper same here. 32 year old man. applying to a graduate program. no desire for children.

my grandpa had 11 children and non of them want to take care of him

Thats exactly what im saying, everyone tells me how ill change my mind but cant stop bitching about how they wish they had time to do things or my favorite “marriage is when the fun ends”

I was told i cant be selfish for not wanting kids

@@Hanfahhussain same thing

@@Hanfahhussain tell them to care about their own fkn lives, too many people intrude into other people's lives and beliefs these days

@@ppppw2 I wonder why is that.

S. The big issue is it's used for political purpose,otherwise people knows it goes nowhere, it's just your interest at that point.

Basically the idea I think is that its selfish because you're using your resources and time on yourself rather than on forwarding the next generation. Just my best guess, though.

Axioanarchist, but there are WAY too many humans on this planet. We're destroying the environment.

Yeah I imAgine most of the people badgering women to have more kids don't care much about the environment beyond their back yard.

Axioanarchist, yep, you're probably right. University, 9-5, drunk at weekends, mortgage, marriage, kids, retire, die...that's all there is to life, right? I said 'fk that' to that age 13. The result? - Adventure and enlightenment. Mind you, I'm as tenacious as they come. Everyone's different; just follow your instincts.

Best of it to you. =) I'm more an indoorsy type but my SO and I have agreed likewise to pass on kids for various reasons - health concerns, asexuality, financial concerns, and more - and focused our attentions on our work and our personal hobbies and pursuits instead. At least in my case, thankfully I have two siblings who already have kids so there's no pressure from my parents to add to the grandkids.

I have a "stepmother" i wouldnt call her that way but technically she is. She always wanted to have children but the time never was right for her as she went through breakups with the men she could have imagined to have children with, with one of them one or two weeks before their wedding. I never lived with her, she married my dad when i was 24, so she never was a classic mother figure to me. It wasnt as different for my siblings who lifed ther for a short term but are only 2 & 3 years younger than me. Still she is a mother figure and our family. She always saw us as her children. So even you want to have children as despreatly as she did when she was younger you might have them in the future without needing to get pregnant :)

The best families are the ones you choose for yourself.

Rowynne Crowley thats exactly the way i see it. Every year i hear the clichee of those terrible Christmas parties you dont want to enter and since the people i call my family consists out of the people i choose to be my family its very weird to hear that every year. Why do these people even go to these Christmas dinner?

Yessssssss

Yaaaas queen

Sounds good

Chloe Saad omg same queen!!!

I envy you

Out of curiosity, where do you live? I’ve never had a therapist say anything close to that to me. In fact, they all supported my declaration that I didn’t want children.

@@LucareonVee central Virginia, United States 🤷‍♂️ I didn’t know it was possible to have therapists be THIS terrible, but I’ve had several therapists who cared more about: -criticizing me -telling me “yeah but you shouldn’t want that anyways so let it go! :)” (or “….why do you care about that?”) -getting inside my head -telling me how to live my life, against my terms …..wayyyy more than actually trying to help understand more But I’m glad you didn’t have to deal with that

@@slowrunn3r88 I see. Yeah, I’m not familiar with the politics of central VA, but I’ve been to therapists in Chicago, Madison, and Seattle. Very liberal areas. Might be worth relocating. I know that’s not always easy, but it’s definitely possible.

@@LucareonVee ahh very well; I’m currently seeing a therapist via Better Help, and I made it VERY CLEAR what my standards were. I like my current therapist

@@slowrunn3r88 Great to hear that. Yeah, you seriously don’t need therapists like those in your life. I’m rather disturbed to hear that they exist, though. 😒

There 8 BILLIONS On this earth

it’s commendable and responsible that you refuse to conform not only to preserve your own happiness but to protect a potential child from being unwanted

I never had patience until my late 40s....I also felt I wasn't meant to raise kids.

i’m glad you’re smart enough to realize that about yourself because so many people have kids only to realize they don’t want to or can’t handle them

They will never stop it)) After my first child my relatives asked almost immediately "when is the second". My jaw dropped. Having the first and only was such a big decision for me, never thought about the second))

Just stop caring.Stop explaning yourself.

I wanna be like you

Backed 100% and I say this as a 24-year-old man.

Im also 27 and feel so strongly i will never change my mind yet i will get told by strangers that i will

I always heard that in my 20's and 30's... Now that I am 41 and of course I still don't want children, some feel pity for you 😅... I just can tell you that it's a indeed very liberating, I feel free 😉

FREEDOM!!!!!!

I did it too last year at age 31 👍

Minal Sharma Tell that to adam and eve

Saif, they probably didn't exist.

Right on the other thing though is that a lot of people don't get is that being a parent is a privilege not a right.

Pencil Cat thing is... I don’t want to get married in general, my family is like “oh you will change your mind” or “Don’t say that!”

Eligible Suitor😂😂

@@mariamgomaa1242 society just wants us to be the same, marry and having kids and a loot more things. I actually dont want to be a mother and everyone in my family knows but they are always like'' you will change ur mind when you marry'' or '' that just shows you didnt grow up yet''

same but jokes on them i'm bi with a pretty big preference for women

Marie HAHA Same my friend

I agree.

Congrats!! 🍾🥂

Wisest decision you'll ever make in your life. Best wishes.

I’m so jealous

@@kaleighp7723 Just out of curiosity, is there a reason you can’t get this done?

Congratulations

I recommend episode from House of cards where Claire is asked by her oponent as her children wizz around and scream "Do you regret not having children?" and briliant and cool as Clair is, her answer is "Do you regret having them?"............I DIEEEEED YAS

"'no' does not mean 'convince me'" !

I don't think that's a good sign for your mental health. You maybe should work on not getting so worked up watching youtube videos.

Shayne Bates I didn’t actually do that - it was just a expression about how I felt. Most of the people comment things like these, but that doesn’t mean they actually do them.

Because friends or acquaintances are family? Hahaha

@@isaacsanders9203 blood of the covenant and all that, also adoption exists.

@outlawfly that's because your family is toxic. My family are very supportive and can tell who are my family. A mothers bond (for the most part) is much stronger than friends are to each other. Haha yes, friends can be like family, but the best way to live is to have supportive family members.

That's actually a really good idea. People who stop women from having abortions should also be forced to take care of that child, pay the hospital bills and adoption fees.

@@edibleshoe8713 Exactly 💯

gotigers98675 Same for me and restaurants.

*TARGET 😭

gotigers98675 HAHA I shop at Walmart weekly I KNOW what you mean🤣

Observing any random Walmart is a good reason why we should rethink the welfare system

😂😂😂

Robyn Salaver Wtf is wrong with your gynecologist?

"I knew at 5 years old" lol no you didn't

@Witch Chan society is dong fine cuz look at all the foster kids in the overcrowded foster care system.

@Witch Chan Who cares about lineage?

That gynecologist should've been fired, honestly, you, in the military, treated with such disrespect. I'm so sorry

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK !!

That's true. I'm 30 years old, happily single and equally happily child-free. I barely have the patience to handle my nephew, so why would I want a child of my own. I haven't been hounded on my choices yet, but I'm sure it's just a matter of time.

So true!

@Vlad the Inhaler Agreed. Socrates too made statements that were sometimes simple and seemingly obvious, but still very important and necessary like this one. It really is frustrating how people need to be told such clear things, right? :)

so true