Such an interesting video Nathalie! I see a lot of this in the relationship dynamic of my parents. My mom has always been a stay at home mom, and when my dad moved out it was financially horrible for her. She had to go back to the only job she could get with her big gap, which was cleaning houses. She was SO tired of that job afterwards, she was basically doing for someone else the same chores she did at home because no one would help her (I was young, stupid and wouldn't help lol). My dad moved back in a couple years ago and financially they're doing better. Don't get me wrong, he's a nice dude! It's just a matter of how incompatible they are. My mom has said time and time again that she regrets not having her own money, not having a career or a profession, and how much she regrets it cause she feels like he (my dad) questions all her purchase decisions because she overspends on clothes (a whole different story XD but she should be able to spend her money on whatever she chooses).
@mignoncobraАй бұрын
Hey Florde, thank you for sharing this with us, it was vulnerable and very real. That is the kind of situation that I wouldn't want for anyone, so I agree that it's important to look at the reality of women before us than simply preaching, "stay at home gf is goalssZs!!" to impressionable young women. A wise man learns from other's mistakes. Thank you again, Florde!
@lusasilva4643Ай бұрын
On spot! Loved it!
@mignoncobraАй бұрын
Hey Lusa!! Thank you, so glad to hear you enjoyed the video!
@mignoncobra2 ай бұрын
Hey there my handsome and pretty little cobras! I wanted to share with my cobrababies my take on the "stay at home gf" trend. I know I'm a bit late to the trend but better late than never. I know this is a take no one asked for, but I like to talk about things of interest to me! My channel, my rules. Comment down below what's your thoughts on this trend! I fully enjoy Nara smith content, it's super inspiring and entertaining to watch (but it's also good to look at topics with a critical eye)!
@lizasoliman7232 ай бұрын
a critical eye is key! the average woman is definitely at risk (as you described) to be a stay at home gf. girlfriends have ZERO legal protection.
@Miranda-zn4xy2 ай бұрын
I would like someone who is actually married to comment on this lol I feel like I only see younger single or in a relationship but not married women talking about this issue like it has anything to do with them or they have the experience when they don’t. Marriage is *supposed* to be about entering a binding contract between 2 people who love and want to support each other and you should trust your spouse over your blood-related family when it comes down to it. I understand divorce exists but when you enter into a marriage the intention is supposed to be that you are together forever through thick and thin and I’m sorry but why would you EVER marry someone who you think one day might leave you or you think you need to hide away your own money *just in case*. That’s not a real marriage. I love and trust my husband and I’m about to quit my job to be a stay at home mom to our first daughter and not once have I thought that I need to stash away my own separate money because I know the man I married and we both made a mutual commitment to each other and our family. Don’t marry someone who you think you can’t 100% trust and I get that some people will say that they did feel that way first about their spouse and then things changed but when you find someone who takes the promise of marriage actually seriously and you are bound by something bigger than yourselves there’s no reason to be worried that one day they might abandon you. I also think women who are afraid to “ask their man for money” are in an abusive relationship bc every conversation about money should be mutual and not “oh can I please have money?” Like that’s not a mutual partnership of respect. You can be a SAH wife/mom who takes on more traditional roles but is still treated like an adult by your spouse.
@stitchingbear40032 ай бұрын
My husband and I just had our second child we have been married for six years and I have been a stay at home mom for 4. My husband makes the money and I make the budget for the household. We are both heavy savers so we bemoan spending money together but I am never stressed about telling him I plan to buy something.
@mignoncobraАй бұрын
Hello Miranda, thank you for pointing this out. I am married as well, so that is why I decided to share my opinion on this matter. I have been with my partner for 10 years so I felt I could share my life experience with my younger viewers on what I felt could be a dangerous situation if they left themselves to abuse. I think marriage is there to protect women, so doing the whole "stay home" as a girlfriend has little legal protection. As a wife, it is different and that's why I wanted to share my thoughts as a married woman as well. If someone wants to stay at home, it should be a wife, not a girlfriend. Thank you for your thoughts as well, it was a pleasure to read.
@mansoor31592 ай бұрын
Nathalie whenever you posts a new vlog it's put a big smile on my face..😀😀✨💗 and I am always always looking forward to your vlogs so so so much
@mignoncobra2 ай бұрын
Hey Mansoor, wow, thank you so much for the kind words, it means a lot to me!
@DanielFrerix2 ай бұрын
TikTok Trend? Need to get rid of EVERYTHING right now😂
@mignoncobraАй бұрын
Haha, hey Daniel, happy declutterings!
@stitchingbear40032 ай бұрын
I am a stay at home mother who has been married to my husband for six years. To us marriage was a means for us to build a family together. We didn't get married to be happy or to have a lot of romance. Maybe because we thought so hard about the utility of marriage we managed to build a lovely little family together. I think a big part of that is because we didn't "try each other out" by living together before we were engaged. (We lived together for a month before marriage) We jumped in together feet first and dealt with the awkwardness of learning to share our space without a fallback. Also I disagree with working when I have small children. I am not going to work until my children are in school. Once they are in school I will resume working. I am not worried about the gap in my resume, giving my children a safe and stable childhood is worth the risk.
@mignoncobraАй бұрын
Hey Stiching bear, thank you for sharing your thoughts!
@maximatefox25172 ай бұрын
its 2024. Stay at home wife/gf is no no in this time. Girl wanna do work or whatever she want will it be. Trad wives are out too.
@mignoncobraАй бұрын
Hey Anderson, thank you for sharing your thoughts! Agreed, everyone needs to have their own autonomy.
@mansoor31592 ай бұрын
Nathalie you forgot to give me heart comment in my main comment 😭😅😅😅😅