It really is, narcs will never end themselves ether and so it will go on and on

She is doing it for supply. They crave attention of all kinds. They only have intentions of feeding themselves and their ego

It's hellish for both sides...

Yeah it's hellish for everybody... for example just saying I'm gaming there's 8 people.. if 1 of them are toxic we all lose out it's more stupid than annoying now

​​@@MrPokerblotWrong. My mother was one. She ended herself 💀🔫 You don't know what you're talking about.

Its to get attention, not to actually inform. If you believe it was to help, you are naive.

@@Vixinaful Even if that's true, it's getting attention in an honest way. I think any of us who've experienced someone with NPD/ASPD just wished they'd be aware of it and honest about it. Right? So how are you gonna fault someone who's doing just that? It's the secrecy and denial that irks people the most, I think. Also, we all do things for attention. Are you gonna fault every actor, painter, writer, comedian, singer, musician, etc. too for sharing their work with the public? Participating in society by contributing our truths, gifts, talents, efforts, etc. is how we as a society function and stay connected.

@@Vixinafulcruel. you would rather be cruel than risk appearing naïve?

@@prolecnabasta3311 ?

It serves both purposes. More than one thing can be true at the same time. I love Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Maybe you should look into it if you're having a lot of black and white thinking?

Your ex sounds like my ex. ❤

Narcissistic abuse is absolutely awful but what i've learned from exploring deeply my own life coming from not 1, but 2 narcissist parents is you actually have an immense amount of influence on the abuse. The main problem with having parents that are abusive/narcissistic is you can spend your whole life not knowing you even are being abused because that's just the normal way of being for you since birth. Once you actually identify it and learn more about it, your biggest goal is to get a point where you literally could give 2 sh!ts about your parents opinions of validation. You accept you will never be good enough for them, and you simply dont care. Guilt, shame and those tactics literally don't matter or work anymore, and indifference will eventually make them not want to put in the effort required with you. They will provoke you, antagonize you and do anything in their power to get on your nerves. Just calmy give as little emotional response/care to them, and they will soon just give up trying to engage you. Get to the point where you adopt your own way of living, your own standards, and you do what's best for you. It gets really difficult if you are forced into a position of dependance whether financial, or kids are involved as they will always try to belittle you, and brain wash everyone including your children that you were the crazy one/the problem while having the kids think they are the amazing one. Stay strong everyone!

My dad is a narcissist. He was emotionally neglected and undervalued as a child.

lol healing, she's a demon and you can't fix her. Walk away.

Absolutely no one is thriving rn and I think it's very much a cause of so much PD and relationship agony appearing in our society since the 70s/80s. I think generational trauma is radiating down the timeline and as social pressure increases, people who never had a chance to develop as they should have, to experience real love and safety as children are hit with a barrage of things they struggle to cope with and don't even understand why they can't. We're seeing greater and greater numbers of traumatized kids becoming parents who traumatize their kids and not even really know why they're doing it...or in some people's cases, not even noticing what they're doing. 🙏 keep doing the work, and know you're one of many on the path, appreciated by others even if not directly known to them.

i’m struggling rn. this was inspiring. thank you

I have BPD and my emotions get so extreme and I KNOW I'm overreacting but I'm so overwhelmed by emotion I can't dial it back. It feels like I want to peel my face off and crawl out of my skin sometimes. Cluster B personality disorders are awful. Thank the gods for DBT.

What really annoys me in narcissists is bragging. I’ve heard: I have great legs (while their legs were exceptionally big - delusion…) or I have a great personality, etc. One of my “girlfriends ” was constantly having conflicts at work with people. She was describing the situations to me and thought they were picking on her because they were jealous. In fact she was just bragging how good she was and that she topped everybody at work. Hearing that constantly I’ve finally told her that people attack her because people do not like people who brag. She had enough conscience to take was I said into consideration. She stopped bragging and in her current job she doesn’t have any conflicts with people. With a little bit of awareness narcissism can be at least controlled.

Fake it till... Things fall apart. Stupidity on two legs.

I don’t mean this as a jab at you, but.. In all likelihood, that’s probably not a Narcissist. Just saying.. 🤷‍♂️ NPD is relatively rare. This is just factual. So.. Let me put this into perspective for you.. Out of every.. 200 people you know.. Only 1 of them will be a pathological Narcissist. Just 1 ☝🏼 Do you know 200 people on a personal level? I would be surprised if you did. Regardless, even if it were 1 in 25, which it’s not, I can’t imagine a pathological Narcissist doing what you just described, for various reasons. I’ll list off the first thing that came to my mind. Narcissists are, believe it or not, quite intelligent. Extreme perfectionism is one of the core features of NPD. Of course.. Not all Narcissists are “know-it-alls”, but I’d be surprised to meet one who wasn’t. The point is, how can one be intellectually superior or a misunderstood genius if there’s nothing to back it up with? Look. Narcissists may be delusional and grandiose, but they’re not oblivious or completely lacking in awareness. Idk how to make you understand. 🤔 Hmm. So.. Being looked at like you’re an idiot, being corrected, criticized, laughed at, or mocked for making a mistake or saying something incorrect.. Fucks a Narcissist’s sense of self worth up. Imagine the one thing you’re most insecure about. Now imagine you told someone in confidence about that deep seated insecurity.. Now imagine how you’d feel if that same person tells a group of people about your insecurity, in front of you, then they start laughing at you and mocking you. That’s how a Narcissist feels about EVERYTHING. Who they are as a person, their looks, their style, their laugh, their voice, their personality, their intelligence, their ability to speak well, their work performance, their ability to be a good listener, a good friend and lover, their taste in music, they’re uniqueness, their wide range of abilities and being a pro at all of them, etc etc etc. That’s why Narcissists are sensitive to criticism, slights and insults. They fear failure, fear being exposed as an imperfect human being, as merely a man, a mortal, a fragile, feeble creature just like everyone else. I simply cannot imagine a Narcissist who behaves the way you described 😆 That’s just asking to be publicly humiliated! That’s one of Narcissist’s deepest fears. Humiliation in front of his peers? That’s worse than death. Lol. It’s excruciating and makes you want to run away from the situation, go home and crawl under your bed and fall to pieces in the darkness so nobody can see you. The shame would be so bad that you may isolate for days or weeks or months or years if it was bad enough. So, why in the hell would a Narcissist continually put themselves in that situation over and over by actually being dumb, but then lying and making stuff to pretend to be a genius? 🤷‍♂️ Make it make sense, dude. Narcissists feel they need to be perfect, so they can feel worth.. anything. They’re afraid if they reveal flaws, imperfections, make a mistake, embarrass themselves, or show any signs of humanity at all. Hell, if they even walk down an isle in the store in any way, other than with the ethereal flow and majestic grace of a cat- then they’re a failure, worthless and incompetent. I swear.. I have spent more time concerned with the way I fucking walk, talk, move around, how I stand and how I operate this body of mine to be in a way that’s like poetry in motion and flowing with exquisite beauty. 😂 It’s a nightmare feeling that visceral need to be perfect ALL THE TIME. I hate it. That’s just with how I move around, dude. Now we’re talking about being smart, knowing everything, being able to do everything and do it masterfully? Come on, man. Show me a dumb Narcissist and I’ll show you an uncoordinated professional athlete 😆

It has always amazed me how much we praise confidence over competence. Highly confident incompetent people are terrible to be around and are dangerous.

@@DrJamesBWood Yes. It is infuriating and it's getting worse no matter where you work.

be kind to the people, but hold them accountable for their actions. them not suffering the consequences of their actions is not us being kind, but enabling, and enabling is not kind, is doing a disservice to the perpetrator, case in point, narcissistic collapses determine the narcissist to seek help, and they are usually the product of the lack of enabling of the damaging behavior

@@ileanaprofeanu7626 That can be hard when they are very selfish, abusive and controlling and will start stuff up just to get attention. Any attention. Someone else can take a turn at being kind (AKA being supply). I've done my time and am out.

​@@DrJamesBWoodyou're generalizing all narcissists based off of one experience you had. Stop being ableist.

@@iheartspirits Am I? We ALL have our challenges, all of us. But at the end of the day, as adults, we are responsible for how we treat others, neurodivergent or not. Call me all the names you like but I'm well aware that cluster B types are exceptionally creative at finding ways to both get attention and shift the blame.

@@DrJamesBWood that had absolutely nothing to do with what I said 😭 stop generalizing narcissists because you met one bad person lmao it's not hard.

A dual diagnosis of NPD and ASPD happens all the time. ASPD do have a rudimentary sense of guilt and shame. This idea that ASPDs are emotional zombies is a complete oversimplification.

You don’t have NPD to a degree. You either have the disorder or you don’t. Perhaps you mean you have a lot of narcissistic traits.

Get out. You are worth more than that life of isolation and pain.

Nah that's just you bud

@@iheartspirits ouch..

@@bladen0869 womp womp stop being ableist

@@iheartspirits Calling out evil is not discriminatory, I stayed 2 decades supporting someone with mental illness, so I thought. They, you are not the victim’s, but you leave plenty behind.. Try the DAVO method somewhere else…

Exactly 💯. They make the choice to be evil.

Keep going with your music career! Make it your goal to be able to go outside and teach that class. You can do it!

@@existentialchaos8 Thanks. I say this now - I wouldn't actually mind dating or just being friends with a diagnosed and self aware person with any of NPD / SPD / PDP so long as they have not committed crimes before and are willing and working towards self improvement. They are the people who would be more than happy to offer me the level of control and support I require, I would be more than willing to help them notice any of their toxic behaviours for them to improve upon. But good luck again to ever finding anything like this.

To this I would say become a little more informed before passing judgement on this young girl, who has clearly been through hell. Empaths are not the other side of the coin. They may be related to HSP, but everyone thinks they’re an empath or hsp these days. And everyone thinks all the bad people are narcissists. These are clinical terms. Borderline and NPD both are cluster b personalities, and they both result from serious trauma, so you’re basically blaming her for having a form of ptsd. The way hers developed is simply a protection/defense mechanism, that she HAD NO SAY IN as it developed probably around 7 or 8 years old, and she doesn’t perceive from her end what those on the receiving end are perceiving. I am BPD, and have out of necessity studied into this extensively, and I’m really tired of all the crap online about this stuff. I personally am very grateful to hear her perspective especially in trying to navigate a marriage to someone who is NPD.

Get away as fast and far as you can! Staying for the children only hurts them and you I. The end. My two youngest don't speak to me or their older sister (from a previous relationship)bc they believe I was the abuser. He told them she isn't their real sister​! They cannot love and you can make excuses for them all day or lifelong as to why they are the way they are, it's a CHOICE! I know plenty of abused and wounded people and they are not narcs. People are using it as an excuse for their behavior. There is no excuse for causing intentional harm!!! I wish you the best of luck. I have compassion for her but cannot empathize with her, I refuse to take in that energy.@@Llorali

I doubt you've met every other narcissist in the world to know how they act.

@@iheartspirits ironically, that’s something a narcissist would say 😂🤣

@@moimeme6533 no lmao it's something someone would say who doesn't demonize and stigmatize disorders 🤡 I know multiple narcissists and they're all amazing people.

I think so. It’s possible for someone to have ASPD and anxiety disorders, but I think for me the ASPD blocks out the emotion of anxiety

NPDs and ASPDs are both highly manipulative. The difference is that NPDs do it more to self-regulate while ASPDs do it more for the thrills.

This video is literally so she can conjure sympathy for narcissistic supply. Imagine narcs being victims… LOL

​​@@friedrichmuller2416narcissists are victims. That's the whole point. Do your research and stop being an ableist scumbag.

Pretty sure psychedelics could make someone’s narcissism worse. The apotheosis thing is not necessarily helpful when you already have issues with grandiosity. Some psychedelics can help with some issues but we’re mostly talking about micro-dosing and otherwise they can create all sorts of mental issues such as paranoia, schizophrenia and what not. As someone with personal experience, I’m pretty sure narcissism can only be overcome by acceptance of the issue, self-reflection, the willingness to change and through lots and lots of conscious mental effort.

@@dietertheanteater I disagree, Ive seen psychedelics cure narcissists.

@@dust17111 Long term?

Yessss… and the way she looks, sort of empty eyes.

Sociopaths experience flatter affect. Thanks for the observations, Captain Obvious. Maybe work on your own empathy before trolling someone who is trying to be and do better, hm?

Never blinks. My thoughts exactly. I would never trust a lion, whether “self-aware” or not.

My narcissist x-wife with whom I spent 25 years of my life and who tried to kill me during the discard phase had the same stare. I wish, I had never saw that stare in my life. I don’t know how long it will take me to recover, probably way too long, if ever.

I saw that intense non-blinking stare too. What I also noticed is zero empathy for others, "I'm a victim" and "this is hard" (while she creates all the drama, blames others for their reactions to it, and hurts others on endless repeat). And this video and channel too are great for being the center of attention and getting more supply. I have a clinically diagnosed BPD ex. Those of us that have had our empathy and sympathy exploited for so long are just done when we see the same RED FLAGS again.

Yeah we didn't want to be near an ableist person like u anyway :3

Hey. No need to be mean.

Get outta ableist trash

My Suggestion would be to go on a Carnivore diet to change your brain chemistry. It really helps dealing with mental issues. Then go into personal development.

@@sebk174 I don’t have this disorder, however, I am raw vegan.

I personally don’t. I have spoken to other narcissists who relate to that experience though.

@dammitdelta thank you for the response. I wasn't sure if that was a narcissistic thing or not. I knew someone that wasn't diagnosed that I'm aware of but I believe she was, took a year of living with her and lots of research to come to this opinion of her as we were friends for years prior with other mutual friends but nobody ever suspected it cause she played this super nice person and acted like she cared about others, until I really got to know her personally on a deep level.

spoken like a true narc

@@MV-wb2cz spoken like someone who actually knows about the disorder!

Narcissists arent bad people and narcissistic abuse doesn't exist? Can you elaborate?

Either you are a cluster B type or you have never been in a relationship with one. OMG they are abusive, self centered, manipulative and horrible to be around. Yes, many were abused as children and act like children throwing temper tantrums, etc. Yet they can be very intelligent and manipulative and extremely good at playing the victim card and controlling other and sucking the life out of anyone near them. Horrible.

@@fakiv2682 narcissists aren't bad people because it's a personality disorder and personality disorder do not inherently make anyone a bad person but the media stigmatizes those disorders to make them look bad. If a narcissist is a bad person that's on them, not the disorder. And there's no such thing as narcissistic abuse because again, it's a disorder and you can't seperate the word from the disorder. It's like saying adhd abuse or autism abuse. It makes no sense.

Malignant narcissism is seen as the most dangerous by professionals. It’s a combination of NPD, ASPD, paranoia, and sadism

The Covert Narcisst is, because they are hard to identify

"I'm so great, other people are jealous" is a delusional way of thinking if it doesn't correlate with reality. Delusions can be indicative of mental illness.

Disarm a narcissist using the blink technique

Yes it's normal, tons of people do that

@@iheartspirits do you have a diagnosis yourself out of interest? You claim to know about the disorder and seem to be advocating for people that have NPD.