GUYS I’M CURRENTLY READING “YOURS TRULY” BY ABBY JIMENEZ AND IT’S SO GOOD I’M CRYING 50% OF THE WAY THROUGH.

You just call up the office when it’s closed, say you need to cancel and will call back to schedule later. Then, never call. Voila! Ghosting the dentist is allowed 😊

Elyse, my dear, think about what you would do if the dentist ruined your son's mouth. Would you ever take him back there again? No. Would you search for a new dentist and tell him about the problem almost immediately? Yes. Be your own protective mama ❤ because you deserve it, yes, but also because when you get in the habit of accepting goodness for yourself, your son will eventually learn that habit too

People need to stop going to your home.. That’s so awful… I’m so sorry

I once told a dental office receptionist that I didn't like a previous dentist I had had and was embarrassed because I didn't know what to tell them. She told me, you don't have to tell them anything. You don't have to like all the dentists/doctors out there, and people switch dentists and doctors all the time. They may not even notice (obviously that's dependant on how big the city is or dental practice). I had such bad anxiety going to dentists that when she told me this I finally realized I could control my health/dental choices. Growing up I just had to go to whatever dentist or doctor my parents said that I had to go to, and there were several I didn't like, and my anxiety grew from that.

I'm a dentist - many of us are anxious people-pleasers and totally understand other people who are anxious people-pleasers. As for your experience - I would most certainly support you in that break-up. Reminds me of my orthodontist who did something that wasn't quiet right, and I went back longer than I should have. Can be quite traumatizing. I went in like you did... prepared to tell him what I thought he did wrong, did tell him - he didn't accept responsibility so I kept going back to try to get him to see my way. I eventually wrote him a letter, gave it to his front desk, and didn't return. It's been hard - things were never going to be made right. I moved on to another amazing orthodontist where I felt safe and listened to... wished I would have moved on sooner, but I felt loyal to the first orthodontist and questioned myself... learned not to do that. Here to support!

Changing dentists was the best decision I ever made in my entire life. Went from dreading appointments to almost nodding off in the chair due to being so relaxed.

Gosh that’s really horrible about the car and someone not giving you space. I had a predatory dentist claim I needed thousands of dollars of work to save a tooth. Went for a second opinion and they quoted a couple hundred for an average cavity. I am now a huge fan of second opinions. You’re wonderful, even when you have snot 😂❤❤

The part about needing the perfect conditions for your natural curls to come out the way they should.. I felt that on a molecular level. My hair has a mind of its own and it loves to make my life difficult

You used the shorts to get me hooked, now I am mainlining your longform content now.

The stalker driving you off the road is terrifying! For anyone but especially as a parent of young children. Dear God, fame really is abuse.

6:45 That is a legitimate nightmare, esp for someone that is anxious. People! Stop doing that!

I've broken up with two dentists, and it was the best decision ever. It's my right to feel listened to especially when it's a body part that can't just heal or grow back.

I will never understand people going to others houses just to take video. Also the car thing!! 😢😢😢 that is absolutely terrifying!

If it makes you feel any better, I need to break up with my dentist too. Ugh. That’s someone you need full confidence in!

I'm so uncomfortable by that dentist story. I also have teeth that only touch on 1 side and it's hell.

You can always cancel the appointment and never reschedule it! You can do it! I had a hard time breaking up with our pediatrician, but after I finally did it was the best thing. I didn't realize how much anxiety it was causing me every time our kids would get sick.

From one anxious people pleaser to another - pro tip on breaking up with someone like a dentist. When they ask you about scheduling your next appointment, tell them you need to look at your schedule and will call them back… then just never call them back. They will call you back a few times (which WILL be anxiety inducing) but just let it go to VM, delete it without listening to it, and after a few times of them calling you, they will give up. Wish I could just be more direct when it comes to situations like this but I know myself too well lol. I’ve effectively broken up with a dentist and several doctors that were terrible this way. Also - I’m sorry people are invading your personal space and coming to/driving past your house. I get that people want to meet you or let you know what a positive impact you’ve had on their lives, but that’s a scary thing and people need to respect boundaries more ❤

I just wanna hug you at the end. Your face is my whole life story when you get back into your car. Ugh. Confrontation is the WORST!

Your entire day will be spent waiting for 2pm 😂 Same. I try to schedule appointments in the morning now because of this.

I have had migraines since I was 4. Did all the things for decades. Botox from my neurologist was life changing. I went from debilitating migraines almost every day to a couple of tolerable migraines a month. Helped with both the frequency and intensity of them. Wishing you all the best ❤️

I felt the adhd so hard in this one 😂😂 ;?between the waiting all day just to run late and the people pleasing, I feel ya sister!

That someone was that intent on getting a picture is terrifying. I needed to change dentists a while back . I just canceled my appointment and found a new one ... that way I didn't have to explain myself 😬

watching your videos heal me, i'm not alone

My mom and sister would have called the dentist, yelled at him, and broken up with him for me...I think you need a friend like that

This is terrifying and so sad. You are so intimate and sharing in your videos and I get the impression we would be great friends, but people can take this feeling too far with celebrities and somehow believe they have the right to know everything about them or accost them in public. I’m so sorry that doing what you love comes with such outrageous potential dangers.

I've walked out on doctors and dentists. I refuse to put up with bs anymore. It takes time, but you find a good doctor, it's really worth it. That includes how the office is run too. Find a new dentist, make an appt for 6 months from now, then cancel the appt with the old dentist. You'll be glad.

Breaking up with ‘professionals’ is sooooooo hard! Between the confrontation and getting gaslit half the time…… You are not alone! My trick is to write a letter. I either bring it with me to the appointment and hand it to them (I’ve never managed to be able to read it in person), or read it over the phone. I have a hard time asking for what I need, but if I pretend that it was my Mom or my kid that needed me to stick up for them, I can trick myself into to doing it for myself. Sometimes. It’s a work in progress…..

I’ve had migraines for decades. I got Botox 7 weeks ago (specifically for migraines), LIFE CHANGER!!!! My neurologist did the injections.

“And I would, I would but… I don’t want to…” me for real

❤ I hate having to change doctors of any kind... it feels like a LOT of work.

I once had a dentist who was polishing my teeth after cleaning. ( First red flag; where's the hygienist?). He was generating heat inside my tooth, which is an indication of improper use of the instrument. I literally grabbed his wrist and asked him to stop because he was generating heat. He got really defensive and wanted to keep going. I noped on out of the exam room, paid the bill, and never returned. First and last visit. You know when something isn't right and you are not obligated in any way to stick it out or explain your leaving. Just call and cancel. You don't have to say why or offer to call back later. You aren't even obligated to answer the phone if they call, nor are you required to call them back, even if they leave a voicemail. You are in charge of your own well-being and have the authority to fire your dentist. Hang in there!

I wanna do a whole video essay on how your existence/popularity is a good sign for days ahead

Nebraska used to do ads once upon a time. Their catchphrase was (maybe still is) Nebraska: the Good Life.

Your “generic head and shoulders as face wash” recommendation has literally CHANGED MY LIFE! I can’t believe how big of a game changer it was!

Elyse, I've been in dentistry for a VERY long time. I support your choice to switch dentists. 😳 I wish we were in the same state. I'd be happy to assist you in process anyway I can 💗

I could cry. This was so great. And so sad. And so wonderful. And so relatable.

Also, you are a wonderful person Elise and you always make me smile.

You need to have trust in your dentist. I'd ring and cancel the new dental appointment and find yourself a new one.

You talk to them about it? I just made appointment at a new dentist and never told the old one.

I hate confrontation too. I am low income so I don’t really have much choice on dentists (I go to a clinic that offers financial discounts based on income). So far the one I’m going to has done ok but EVERY dentist I have seen will complain about the work done by the previous dentist. Each one thinks they are the better dentist. It does NOT instill confidence!

I'm so sorry people are making you feel unsafe and your mouth uncomfortable. That's awful. I hope your needs are soon met by a compassionate expert.

Grew up in California my entire life. I remember seeing commercials for California for people living in California. I guess they wanted us to travel to different cities in California as well as bringing tourists from out of state. The tourism board of California was working hard to get people here. Sending love from Los Angeles 💛💜

Just call, cancel the appt, when they ask if you want to reschedule you say no thank you. No explanation needed. Also, fun fact, when your mouth is "at rest" your teeth shouldn't be touching anyhow. Your tongue should be suctioned to the roof of your mouth with a gap between teeth. But the chewing... That's when it's important that they come together.

You are a treasure. Thank you for your vulnerability/honesty/humor/insights into the insanity of modern life. I hope you made a police report on that stalker. If not, please do.

Nooooo!!! Did you talk to your dentist?! It’s so important that your bite feels correct and comfortable to you.

Hi from Ireland, we're great! come visit! don't mind the rain... 😂😂😂

Your authenticity about not thinking you are worthy of someone wanting your skincare routine. Such a real person and I respect the hell out of that. Also now I need to know about that book.

I'm so💥proud of you💥 for actually GOING to the dentist! I'm terrified and it's been multiple years! 😬

Hey Elise! So I asked my husband about the wisdom teeth thing as I was very curious why myself. He explained that if you believe we are primitive creatures when we would eat stuff in the wild eventually our teeth would break and fall out so the wisdom teeth would then be able to move in and still enable us to have teeth and eat and survive. He did explain it a little more eloquently but that’s the jist 😊

OMG Elyse. 😂 Thank you for your authenticity! Because you're probably still obsessing about it... you should know that the ending for that cameo was so completely perfect for that fan. Love it. I would have been over the moon about it if it was for me because it was so real and not rehearsed or edited to an inauthentic perfection. That's why I love your videos. Thank you for sharing these things with us. You always make me feel better about my own inner/outer monolog dilemmas. 😀

I had the same exact thing happen with my teeth! Asking me how “it” feels while numb? Ridiculous! It hurt for months bc everything was cattywompus 😢

Very relatable. Glad to see your videos. In your corner.

Pure Michigan commercials were the best!

Elyse, To answer your question about them just being around- yes wasps tend to be both pollinators and predators which makes them excellent for gardens and agriculture because they both pollinate and serve as fantastic pest control. Those wasps are likely either looking for flowers or they're looking for other insects, caterpillars, etc that they can take home to feed their larvae. Wasps are actually awesome, like bees. There's a few specific kinds that really have an attitude problem, like yellowjackets, which look a lot like the very common European paper wasp but you can tell them apart easily. The good guys have bright orange antennae tips and their legs dangle down behind them, they live in the exposed paper honey comb looking thing. Wasps and bees remember faces, so as long as you don't do anything to make them feel threatened, they will leave you alone. Although watch for wet grass on hot dry days, they get on it to drink and if you step on one, you'll both regret it. It can be a real problem around kids water play. Keeping a bowl of water with a few twigs in it (don't leave in the sun) so that they can walk down the twig to drink, will solve this. Do a quick search on the difference between yellowjackets and paper wasps; and how to identify other wasps, spiders, etc. Its such valuable information and there's a lot of really amazing and misjudged critters out there. 😊

Bro what is wrong with people! I’d literally have a nervous break down, move somewhere far away, and never talk to anyone again if some stalker drove me off the road or came to my house!!! I’m so sorry that happened :((

I just went down the freewrite/ word processor rabbit hole two days ago, but I got overwhelmed by the variety and I gave up for now. But this feels like a sign. Happy writing!

I am so glad I found you. I was talking about how my Dad pulled out a welder mask to during the last eclipse, then you posted the short about it. It was like a sign from him. You make me laugh every time I watch you. I love your content!

Just wanted to say how much I love your videos. I turn your vlogs on sometimes when I’m doing chores so it feels like I’m catching up with a friend and makes the chores go faster. Thanks for sharing a piece of your life with us! 😊

Hearing you describe this situation with your dentist - I had a very very similar situation with a dentist that I had to go to because my dentist was overfilled in the same office 3 times for emergencies and every time I wasn’t happy with how things went but the last time I told him I thought there was something wrong like I had an infection in my tooth - I don’t remember the exact details now but rather than do anything productive with the tooth with the problem like sand down the filling on it he started sanding down the Whole/untouched tooth underneath it. I knew it wasn’t helping but wasn’t able to vocalize it and just let him do it until I could get out of there. And then I did everything I could to hold my anger and frustration in until I made it outside the office and just sobbed angry tears for the next hour. I never went back to him again or explained why I changed dentists on the spot and I’ve been so grateful ever since! But I miss my original dentist too, since it wasn’t his fault - just that he’s downsizing /retiring but he was very helpful in recommending the dental school he teaches at and getting me set up with the best team under him at the time 😇 Even though it didn’t go the way you wanted it to - kudos to you for even thinking/working up to confronting your dentist and telling him what was wrong! I never got there myself. ❤

Every long form upload is such a treat. Total comfort watch every time 😌

OMG The Word Processor-you just unlocked a memory for me from elementary school!!!

Chronic migraines for 53+ years. My cocktail is Emgality, Botox and Neurtec for breakthrough. Go to a neurologist that specializes in chronic migraines.Thanks for making me laugh today. I really needed it.

The way you held up "Me Before You", and I said, "Ohhhh no..." out loud for real.

This video made me very aware of my teeth and idk how to feel about it😂 Also I'm so sorry people are making you feel unsafe, you deserve to feel safe and have your own privacy❤️

I’ve always only watched your reels til now. Your awesome!!

YES on the book reviews! We need more!

I’m so happy to see you using KZfaq so much more. Love this space for you!! Also - I really struggle with asking for what I need. Especially like with doctors, dentists and bosses. I’m working on it. Until I get good, I bring notes or people. It’s hard to ask for stuff. Sorry you went thru this.

I broke up with my dentist about a year ago. Best decision ever!

What a day. I love how you talked to your citrus paintings. And I love how you describe the margin for things to go wrong 😂 keep going best friend, love watching you

Elyse, I’ve been catching up on your recent videos and just want to thank you for sharing ❤️ You make me feel so much better as a fellow person who deals with adhd/anxiety/depression and is trying to work on myself. Also I love that you follow your different interests and have found a way to make it a career. I have too many (current and potential lol) passions to count on both hands and sometimes I love my excessive creativity but it can also be crippling and I have been having a sort of career existential crisis. Anywho, all that to say I relate to you on so many levels and really appreciate that I know you exist and are doing well 😂 gives me hope I can find happiness

9:57 you should absolutely sue him!

Omg I just love this entire video and every direction it takes haha Somehow I feel comforted by your presence through my phone screen. Keep painting whatever your heart desires ❤

I love your blogs so much. I also get bad migraines sorry to hear that you do too! That’s weird that people drive by your house, I hope you can stay protected.

Thank you for sharing about your teeth, I am a dental assisting student, I've also never had to be frozen. I like hearing people's stories about they're dentists visits so I can speak to people more clearly

Somehow I just knew how this would end, but the journey!! *chefs kiss* Thank you for being you 😂❤

The shear disappointment she had on her face at the end was perfect 😂😂 13:53

I felt the same about a dentist and finally cancelled. They asked when I wanted to reschedule I told them I didn’t have my calendar with me so I’d call back and then never called back. I switched to a different dentist and feel 1000000% better. I explained my anxiety to him and he was very patient and talked me through everything. I live in the same town as you so if you want a suggestion of who bit is I can let you know. I’ve had 2 other friends switch to them and they’ve had amazing experience too!

What we did when we broke up with our family dentist was, just make an appointment with another office. Cancel your upcoming one and when they ask if you want to reschedule just say "Oh sure, let me get back to you though when I have a better idea of my schedule." And then never call them back. Just ghost that dentist.

Elyse I used to live near you and I miss my dentist at Kennedy Dental SO MUCH. She’s a younger woman and she’s so kind.

Yay! I'm so glad you painted! It looks adorable. I'm so proud of you!

have Jonah call and cancel it. I brought my partner in to my latest visit because it was my first time. my previous dentist wasn't listening to me, so, after 2 years, I finally found someone new. I share your feelings on this and a lot more. I appreciate you showing this stuff. liking you, helps me like myself too

I felt that dentist dilemma so much. I hate confrontation too, and probably would have done exactly the same. I would either need to carry someone with me (and I am a grown man, so that's not weird) or just find another dentist and ghost my old dentist, which feels disloyal and sneaky. And the new dentist would have to ask the old dentist for my dental records, right? The shame!

Ha ha ha ha ha "sorry if you saw my snot" 😆😆😆 That is not something I was expecting to hear today!

Yay! I love my Neo!! I had the exact same journey you did - the free write looked so cool but the neo does all the important things.

It's OK to cancel appointments (with notice). You do not need to give a reason. It's OK to switch medical care providers. You do not need to give a reason. There's many valid reasons for doing these things, such as scheduling changes, location issues (maybe you moved or changed work and that place is no longer convenient), price. And also simply because you want to, or you're not happy with the service. You got this!

I had no dental anxiety at all until i hit my fourties and had started experiencing some dental issues due years of really bad clenching. I had no idea how consuming dental anxiety can be. It's totally ok to find someone you trust! I have to travel 2.5 hours to my dentist but he has been so patient with the 10,000 questions i ask every appointment so its worth the trip!

Love these long form videos !!!

I had a dentist do that to me!!!! Then at an appointment a year or so later, tried to convince me that I was grinding my teeth at night because it was ground down so much! He literally didn't believe me when I told him it was HIM that did that! 😡

omgosh i just went through something similar with my dentist! they fixed a cavity and my teeth haven't been the same since; bite was painful, cold was SUPER painful and when i went back to tell them i had pain, they basically told me "just brush your teeth" and then they tried to fix my bite and chipped my front tooth, which had nothing wrong with it in the first place! 😭 so now ive got this obvious chip on my front tooth that looks so ugly. so i just.... found a new dentist (who is fabulous) and found out the first one didnt really fix the cavity and it became a root canal thing. i wish you luck with your dentist issues and hopefully you can get your issue all fixed up!!

I find that reading a bunch if reviews can help pick one to try, and just keep trying more until you're satisfied. I hope you are able to find a good one the first try!

I’ve never heard a more accurate description of curly hair and why I sometimes choose to straighten. Thank you 😂

Thank you for making these KZfaq videos... your experience is so relatable. Makes me feel a little less... alone in my crazy? Idk, something like that.

Wasps are super common where I'm at in the Midwest, but I don't know since other places have had them less when I've lived there. Your painting came out so well! I love it. The ending was so relatable. You can break up with them! I believe in you. Just cancel, don't say anything and hang up. Or just don't go. Make an appointment elsewhere. GL!

I went to a new dentist after my old one retired and after never having a cavity in my life, new dentist tried to tell me i had SEVEN cavities that needed to be filled over two separate visits. I got a second opinion and two tiny little fillings later, I called that other dentist and told them they were trying to commit insurance fraud and I'll be cancelling my appointments.

My dentist retired and reccomend me to a new place. I forgot the apt, got there late, find out i need 9 fillings! Ive had like 2 in my life before. Oh my gosh, she didnt numb me well at all. And oh my goodness it was awful. Fired that dentist. No akwardness, no shame. Forget them. Also now i find out many others have a crappy experiences. Not just me.

We get commercials for California, Michigan, Illinois, and Minnesota pretty regularly. I always thought it was weird too.

Ugh changing dentists can always be challenging- dentists just create this weird dynamic where you want them to be proud of you but they’re basically a stranger so you don’t want them to know you’re trying to make them proud. I’m not a dentist but I work with them a lot - just cancel the appointment, say you’ll call back to schedule another and just don’t. BUT, for your migraines and now that one side doesn’t touch, I’d recommend you find a dentist that does Invisalign. Sounds crazy but it helps with TMJ which is basically pressure in your jaw and can lead to headaches. You’ve got a kick-butt smile already but they’ll know how to fix the mis-alignment and hopefully make you more comfortable. Just make sure you get a dentist who is trained in Invisalign - like one that is part of AACA or Molis Coaching. Plus, a lot of them offer a free scan so you can test them out a bit and save some money for more books 😂

I used to get Texas and Vegas commercials ALL THE TIME. Specifying Vegas bc it feels like a place completely separate from Nevada 😅

My absolute favorite person! I love your videos so much 🥹