I'm Trans - How did I know?

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Wives Vs World

Wives Vs World

3 жыл бұрын

Every trans person has a different story, a different way of knowing (or not knowing), and a different coming out. Here I share mine - and I hope you find it enlightening and entertaining : )
Also, since we're getting close to 1K subscribers, we really want to do a Q&A! Do submit your questions if you're curious about anything - but keep it classy and don't be gross! Please!!!
You can also submit questions on Instagram if you're feeling shy ; )
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@devilmostdie
@devilmostdie 2 жыл бұрын
i’m 23 and just realised i’m trans this year, haven’t started my transition yet and going through a lot of emotions at the moment... videos like this makes me have hope for my future, wich is something i don’t think i’ve felt since i was a kid😌 my next couple of years will be very hard but i know it will be worth it in the end, absolutely love your youtube channel 🙃
@mishimiaoo324
@mishimiaoo324 2 жыл бұрын
Hey, I'm in the same boat as you, I'm 23 and realised I'm trans. You're not alone, I wish the best for you. 💕🌸
@oceanNmotoWoman
@oceanNmotoWoman 6 күн бұрын
How is it going you two?? I'm 46 - I discovered my authentic self at 40. I'm SO much happier living as my authentic self. I'm so glad this content was helpful for you both!!
@michaelpieper4983
@michaelpieper4983 2 жыл бұрын
I work with a lot of young people, I see depression destroy them, I have known several that have taken their own lives… I will never stop sticking up for those that are unable to stick up for themselves, Or to speak for those that have no voice. As a father as a friend let me tell you I am proud of you! Your wife is your rock, she makes you feel safe and secure she loves you for you, not what it is you can do for her. I thank both of you for doing what you’re doing, because I know there’s young people and older people out there that I have sent them to your website just to listen. And I have never heard anything negative, You are my sisters through Christ. Yes I am a Catholic, and I am sharing the word that you are His children, and He loves you. Thank you Jackie, you are not only a very beautiful person you are a very beautiful trans woman. Never allow society to change you so you conform to others, be strong in your conviction and truly love one another. Empty your heart and your mind of the secular world we live in, and allow yourself to open yourself to one another, for that is a true gift. Michael
@RobisonRacing68
@RobisonRacing68 3 жыл бұрын
I'm older (transitioned in '96) and my eye opener was stumbling upon a chat room on AOL (dial up!) full of transgender people. I remember thinking, "Wait... So I'm NOT the only one?". LOL!
@pccookingwithtim7712
@pccookingwithtim7712 3 жыл бұрын
When I understood that I was trans at University, I presented as super masculine around others but when I was on my own I could be free and femme.
@metamoniker
@metamoniker 3 жыл бұрын
Wish I figured it out at 15! I love how the light looks like a little hat in this video LOL
@tashagamble1883
@tashagamble1883 2 жыл бұрын
I am 46 now. I was 45 when I began HRT, so later in my life. Since I was 3, I have known I was different. The possibity of transitioning until recent years was a non starter. I buried who I was as deep as possible. I had some supportive partners over the years which helped, but still I was miserable and foreign to myself. Since I began HRT, I "saw myself"for the first time and have been so very, very happy. With that, I hope I am the last generation that has had to hide who they are. I hope society is catching up. Keep inspirimg and telling your story. It is ok to be lonely sometimes, but never feel alone. Your story filled me with hope and proved I am not alone. Thank you!
@ChristinaWinter75
@ChristinaWinter75 2 жыл бұрын
This sounds so much like my story. I'm 45 and starting my transition now. I loved when you said "I hope I am the last generation that has had to hide who they are." I hope that's the future as well.
@daniellepearsall4978
@daniellepearsall4978 7 ай бұрын
I am a MtF transgender. I did not start HRT until 59, my egg did not crack until 57. It was buried very deeply. (if that is ok)
@Mikaelashotmess
@Mikaelashotmess 11 күн бұрын
watching this vide 3 years and seeing jackie celebrate 900 subscribers when they have 9K now is wildly adorable
@racheltgal
@racheltgal 2 жыл бұрын
hi i started HRT in 2003 i came out in 2000 had GRS in 2009 i am now 63 year old woman finally got to live my true self and not hide anymore
@chrisstahl2653
@chrisstahl2653 21 күн бұрын
I am very impressed, Jackie. As a man, I would not have recognized you as a trans woman if you wouldn't have given it away in the video title.. Your air, your appearance and even your mannerisms are so feminine, they feel natural and authentic to me. You really are a woman, no matter the chromosomes. I think that a lot of prejudices against trans people come from the public representation of loud activists who blame and accuse instead of trying to explain. Thank you for your courage to reveal yourself and tell your story. I think there is a big need for sensitivity and willingness to understand for both those who are pro-trans and transphobe. I think that many people who may seem transphobic would be much more tolerant if they would get another image of trans people.
@the22ndCJ
@the22ndCJ 11 күн бұрын
It's hard for me to imagine being happy to just be here. That's not something I've had my entire life. Thanks for the video!
@WivesVsWorld
@WivesVsWorld 6 күн бұрын
You're so welcome, hopefully things will change for the better soon ❤️❤️❤️
@taiyouscandalous1175
@taiyouscandalous1175 Жыл бұрын
I realized that I'm trans (mtf) at 19 and publicly came out at 21. I've been on HRT for a bit. Now at 25, I rather identify as genderfluid and figuring out how I'd like to continue my transition. I also like some visual kei: the GazettE, lynch., DEVILOOF, Codomodragon
@rrrrench
@rrrrench 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, Jackie! I believe your story inspires many people and I am so happy about you!
@maureenpavlik3144
@maureenpavlik3144 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story, Jackie. I'm glad that you found you were able to start expressing yourself through visual-kei and start experimenting before taking that leap of coming out. I'm also glad that you did have so many supportive people around you and still do. I know not everyone has this and goes through that really dark period as you mentioned without any support. I hope that more people find your channel and that your words can be a source of support to them. Also, I just want to say that I adore the aesthetic of whatever little room you are in. The yellow walls with the bright blue door, the ship lath ceiling, and the deep little fireplace are all so quaint.
@samiam100
@samiam100 3 жыл бұрын
Congrats on 10 years of hormones. I'm coming up on 3 years in a few months. I relate so much to the uncertainty about starting transition and finding the right words for what you're going through. I think lots of us wish we started earlier (28 for me), but just make the best of it.
@williammccarter6973
@williammccarter6973 2 жыл бұрын
I have known that I was a woman and a lesbian since I 8. This was 1968 Idaho hyper conservative. So I am just coming out this year. I had a very loving out of body relationship with a lesbian. Finally I said this is It and began my journey to me.
@qwertykeyboard5901
@qwertykeyboard5901 4 күн бұрын
Dang, you developed lust and/or romance at 8? It was only until my early/mid teens when I developed lust...
@exquisite0
@exquisite0 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story! I'm happy that you can be you (everyone should be able to)! Also the garden looks fabulous. :)
@kasanebaxter3064
@kasanebaxter3064 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. So many bits resonate for me! It is so affirming to hear stories like yours on my own journey.
@kgevans
@kgevans 7 ай бұрын
I have only recently came out as trans and seeing a video like this gives me so much hope. Really wholesome and I am glad to have found the channel.
@mihaicraciun8678
@mihaicraciun8678 2 жыл бұрын
So happy that you figured it out and feel great. This is what it's all about!
@rosalinafarias2757
@rosalinafarias2757 2 жыл бұрын
Over 40 years on HRT and I still wish I will not wake up in the morning. I have no friends or family. very sad every day of my life. I'm very lucky to have a job, home ,car but I still lost in myself. I'm extremely isolated and just don't care to socialize with others. I was ostracize by our own community many time. I was not accepted and i felt out of place. I done every thing alone up to this point. I hope no one on this earth is living like me .
@oceanNmotoWoman
@oceanNmotoWoman 6 күн бұрын
I'm so sorry, if you haven't already, just talk about this and be honest with someone you trust
@oceanNmotoWoman
@oceanNmotoWoman 6 күн бұрын
I feel so much joy that you've celebrated 13years on HRT! I'm 3yrs and SO happy
@WivesVsWorld
@WivesVsWorld 6 күн бұрын
It's unbelievable sometimes 😂❤️ Congrats!!! ❤️❤️
@shireenisanokapi1142
@shireenisanokapi1142 3 жыл бұрын
Your story is so wholesome Jackie! So glad you found what makes you happy :D My question for your q&a is: a lot of the language and nuances of terminology around LGBT rights is very English centric. It's something I think about quite a lot because I live in a multilingual country too, but are there ever situations when having conversations about queer issues in Danish, where certain words or concepts might not exist in the language, and so you have to frame discussions differently than you would in English? I dont know if I worded it clearly, I hope it makes sense!
@davefisher1840
@davefisher1840 8 ай бұрын
I’m so glad I found your video. It was so helpful. Thanks so much for sharing! 😊
@IkariLoona
@IkariLoona 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing! It's been great to find your channel and others like it that make ways to live one's life more "real" and less something one just wonders about as a faint unlikely possibility. I believe that in the grand scheme of things it's to everyone's benefit - individuals might get more of a short at personal self-awareness and happiness, and if the more "conventional" lives and relationships out there lead to most people being born on purpose and willingly and lovingly raised, the effect might just keep compounding into a better world. If along the way society does away with the notion of single-gender environments (been there in the earliest school years, and things barely got better later on), all the better, but that may be something of a personal hang-up thay nowadays opens up a lot of questions about what could have been in other circumstances... Keep up the good work, and I wish you both the best.
@AbigaleStuart
@AbigaleStuart 2 жыл бұрын
Just found you, hence the delay. Excellent video Jackie. Glad you have found your true self and a loving partner. A lot of what you felt and experienced in your youth I can relate to. Unfortunately my youth was over four decades before yours. There was no way then of knowing what trans was and being able to deal with it. No matter I do what I can to be the inner me. Keep that smile and be the inner and a lovely outer you. 💋
@thefeels2624
@thefeels2624 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this post. Hearing people talk about the same things I’ve gone through is very helpful. ❤️🏳️‍⚧️ Love from the US.
@WivesVsWorld
@WivesVsWorld 3 жыл бұрын
That means so much, thank you for saying that
@lukael
@lukael 3 жыл бұрын
I'm always happy to hear you talk about this topic. I actually didn't even know you were trans back when I visited and only learned later on Instagram! It makes me sad to think about how difficult things must have been for you but it's comforting to know that there's at least a happy ending to it all! How someone could look at how much happier trans people are after transitioning and still be opposed to or not understand it is beyond me. Why would you oppose someone being true to themselves? I knew the media tends to demonize trans people but I didn't realize just how MUCH and how often until I watched Lindsey Ellis' video about transphobia in movies, a great watch for anyone interested. Sometimes it's small things you don't think twice about either because you're not trans yourself or because it was before transgender was a more well known thing like it is today. 2011 is actually not that long before I met you guys in 2014! I was wondering, is hormones something that you must take for a set period of time and then the treatment is "finished", or something that you'll have to take for the rest of your life? is it something that's been covered by medical insurance or did it represent a financial challenge to consider when you made your decision? keep up the awesome videos Jackie!
@Empowerment_Self-Love_Coach
@Empowerment_Self-Love_Coach 2 жыл бұрын
The HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) is for life.
@shutthegate8232
@shutthegate8232 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. Heartfelt path you have taken.
@jeffbaine4094
@jeffbaine4094 Ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story. I am so happy your still here and found yourself. You look so happy.
@WivesVsWorld
@WivesVsWorld Ай бұрын
Thank you so much, I really am 🩷 Life has its ups and downs, but I've never regretted this 🥰
@tiffanytimbric
@tiffanytimbric 3 жыл бұрын
So well told. Such a common story.
@thelestrangelair
@thelestrangelair 4 ай бұрын
Lovely video, so well presented. I love your energy and your vibe. Yea for we accentrics!! I loved the shout out to LOTR early 2000s film was magical. Not so much today. Bella L
@jessicamaivlogs4308
@jessicamaivlogs4308 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this :) I’m really happy I found your channel. Potential Q for the Q&A: can you recommend any self help books or other media for someone struggling with gender?
@robertbodek4473
@robertbodek4473 Жыл бұрын
The very few times I’ve been mistaken for a girl has been so satisfying. I’m now an older trans person who is out of the closet but not out of the box, I will never be able to be my true self, but I had a few years ago that I was able to be out as me! It was the best time if my life, but sadly to say those days are gone. I’m only able to come out one day a year for Halloween. It’s tough coming out so late in life and knowing I’ll never be able to be my real self. Those who know early, go for it. Be your real self! Love you all.
@portiajartelle5939
@portiajartelle5939 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@sheep1ewe
@sheep1ewe 3 жыл бұрын
You are awsome!
@grippysockgf
@grippysockgf 3 жыл бұрын
I watched until the end, and honestly So beautiful 😭, it's amazing to hear everyones experience because it's different for everyone! As for the question, What do I do for makeup 😅 I know nothing about it
@liza542
@liza542 Жыл бұрын
I new I was different too. Did not realize it till Halloween. I dressed and saw my true self. I knew then this is how I wanted to live my life. After that started dressing up more. I then new I was trans. Love being a woman. You are such a beautiful woman. If you are not true to your self you will never be happy.
@notquiteme.8512
@notquiteme.8512 2 жыл бұрын
Very interesting to hear how you found optimism.
@giac1096
@giac1096 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Jackie. Have you thought about to make videos on voice training tips? I really really hate my deep male voice and I wish I could sound like you☺️
@coffeecomicmc169
@coffeecomicmc169 3 жыл бұрын
The hardest part has been acknowledging that i spent the better part of my life hiding who i am so i can please others.. i don't anymore though but it did hurt knowing i JAD been
@StratoAeon
@StratoAeon 3 жыл бұрын
wish we had that information availability in the 70s, to connect with others of like feelings, or even to know they existed....
@allwinds3786
@allwinds3786 2 жыл бұрын
I first knew when I was 4 after a conversation with an older woman (she was 6). I'm 61 and just started 5 months ago.
@aliciahentz7700
@aliciahentz7700 2 жыл бұрын
I would never know adorable
@starlightbright
@starlightbright Жыл бұрын
You're so beautiful!
@WivesVsWorld
@WivesVsWorld Жыл бұрын
Thank youu ❤️
@hopemorales9147
@hopemorales9147 2 жыл бұрын
if you don't mind how did you modified your voice you sound lovely
@laurapeeples2925
@laurapeeples2925 Жыл бұрын
My wifey is Transgender and we have a 15 years age gap we live in the USA in NEW MEXICO I AM THE YOUNGER ONE OF US LOL ANYWAY LOVE YOUR VIDEOS ❤
@jamieleedavis
@jamieleedavis Жыл бұрын
Boilerplate feelings for transwomen and transmen. Similar to my youth. In the mid and late 80's, the terms for dealing with your feelings were societal suicide. Nice video.
@fantasyhochzwei8977
@fantasyhochzwei8977 3 жыл бұрын
Have you had any kind of voice training that made your voice get higher? Have you ever had a "deep"/relatively obvious " Male" Voice
@grippysockgf
@grippysockgf 3 жыл бұрын
What's it like in Denmark for the trans community? I'm in West Virginia in the US and well it's very conservative here 😕 Do you all want a website? I can't develop one because I'm not skilled there but as for the domain, email, Facebook page and all that I can help with, Any tips for dealing with transphobic people Also, How do I know if a girl likes me 😅 I really suck with this, being autistic doesn't help either for me,
@Aurora146
@Aurora146 2 жыл бұрын
I knew at 16 as well that it was possible to transition but didn't start medically my transition before I was 21 :( dysphoria is horrible I still don't know how I did to survive these years of puberty.
@rosieboughton5353
@rosieboughton5353 2 жыл бұрын
I feel the same. I been struggling with depression and self hatred that I never had the courage to tell my parents. Reason varying from lack of exceptions back when I was 15 and lack of confidence in myself, I didn’t fully accept that I was trans till 20. I’m 21 today and am getting htr this month. I envy the future generation of trans because now there is more excepted and more information. Thank you for sharing x I’m glad that I’m not alone 18/01/22
@Aurora146
@Aurora146 2 жыл бұрын
@@rosieboughton5353 yes true and I'm in France so it's even more lagging behind. I'm also very envious of this generation and of cis people of course, i feel like we were not born in the right time even if I'm only 24 Oh I'm so happy for u that you're starting hrt soon ❤️❤️ you're welcome We're a LOT in this case you're not alone
@pythosdegothos6181
@pythosdegothos6181 2 жыл бұрын
Most everything you point out here has so much to do with gender rules and limits, and nothing really to do with gender in and of itself. This is a big problem honestly. There is too much associations of things and styles and looks with gender, and for boys it is far far more limiting when it comes to appearance and styles. I too was pulled in by visual kie, and aside from Kaya, all of those performers are cis...they just say "eff off" to the gender rules and limits. I think it is a massive crime what the strict adherence to gender rules and limits have done to people. I LOVE so called "feminine" styles...and there was a time I considered transitioning, then I realized that no, I did not want to be a woman...I wanted more latitude in my expression. To cast aside those expectations imposed on me by being born a male in this world. I honestly do with gender non conformity was far more accepted in our society, and that gendered dress and grooming codes need to be abolished. I do think that people would be far far happier if these things went away.
@WivesVsWorld
@WivesVsWorld 2 жыл бұрын
You make a really good point here, and while I agree that it's kinda reductive to think of gender only in terms of limits and rules, I also think that for me, my sense of self was very much informed by what I "couldn't" do. It's just the best way to describe my experience. I have always had pretty strong gender Identity and I aligned with 'not boy' before I really knew gender nonconformity was an option, so when I found it in VK, I really embraced it as a formative step in my journey. And while I have long hair, wear makeup, etc, I do this as a form of self expression, not because I as a (nonbinary) woman feel I have to. The many ways we experience gender identity is really something to be celebrated, and as the strict adherence to norms hopefully loosens a bit, I think more people will be the happier for it. So thank you for the thoughtful comment : )
@pythosdegothos6181
@pythosdegothos6181 2 жыл бұрын
@@WivesVsWorld Things need to change, and have done so for a very very long time, perhaps longer than you or I even realize.
@Dav10111
@Dav10111 2 жыл бұрын
Been identifying as non binary to make my parents happy and not myself.
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