Dr Gary.. my dad was a counselor.. he called it “being comfortable with your own company” if you are comfortable with yourself when no on is around.. you are never lonely.

It is better to be lonely alone, than it is to be lonely with someone else.

It’s important to be nice to everyone you meet, you may be the only person they speak to today.

I'm so tired of no love and loneliness. It's horrible.

Just enjoy listening to "THE SOUND OF SILENCE" BETTER ALONE THAN WITH BAD COMPANY.

I have been lonely most of my life. I reach out to people but they do not reach back. I do not contact people who do not call back.

I decided to be alone than to be surrounded by family and relatives who prefer money over quality relationships. I have also lost friends over the years because I realized that most of them just wanted me as their emotional trash bin. I will never allow people to use me again.

Being alone is not easy

Im chose to be alone because there are to many fake people out there!

I lost my parents 3 years ago and my life has never been the same. I used to talk to them every day and now I have no one. Brothers and sisters are not as loving..I do have a dog who loves me and I will be rescuing another one. They are my family..forget about friends. They are not real. The most difficult part is during the holidays..when I walk my dog and hear people in the backyard laughing and hanging out or in restaurants I feel really bad for myself. I miss my parents a lot but they are not coming back. Can't replace them or fill the gap.

My loneliness, is usually because people ignore me. They make me feel alone.

I am alone, and lonely. This is not always a choice. Depression has taken over my life. Both parents have died. No siblings. Parents were only kids too, so no uncles, aunts, or cousins. Family is non-existent! I’m 50 and in this world by myself. I was drugged and raped 7 years ago. I go for days where I don’t see or speak to people. Some days, I just don’t feel good, and there is nobody who cares or to help me. I can’t just say....I’m not going to be lonely...and poof, I’m not alone or lonely. The world is set up to remind you that we should be in pairs. Restaurants , vacations, playing a game, weddings, cooking, etc...all these things remind us we should have a partner. You know how lonely and embarrassing it is to take a vacation in a foreign country and go to a restaurant and ask for a table for 1 ? You see families and friends together having fun, and I am alone.... BTW it doesn’t make anything better if you are HIV positive like me. Talk about rejection.....

This is good advice, but all the positive thoughts in the world will not help a person who is isolated by structural factors, such as being disabled, not having transport, getting older and not having family or social support. Online social media does not replace face to face contact. If you're unable to go out into the world because of practical reasons, the world will not come to you.

Ive been a loner for the most of my life but ive never been more alone and angry since these 1.5yrs. Angry at people who i felt have shunned me as a person. The anger and depression had gotten so bad that it was becoming potentially hazardous to my health. Then memory stepped in by instinct and i realized that ive been the author of all my misery and have been a person who had much to be ashamed of. That i only had myself to blame for all of this. I suddenly felt better as realized that i couldn't really blame anyone else and that the people i was angry at had good reason for their attitudes towards me. Im now more calm and able to move on and focus on more important things.

Yes but I still miss my wife...I have a great life...but when I unexpectedly lost my best friend and wife...it took a turn to the lonely side.

Just remember that people are a pain-in-the-ass!! You'll feel less lonely!!

Elliot, you are so right. I am my own best friend and my best friend is always with me. When I die, I won't be alone, my best friend will be there with me, holding me in a warm hug.

Loneliness can drive a person mad! It's very unhealthy.

"It is no measure of Health to be well adjusted in a profoundly sick society." - Krishnamurti

The real problem is families are not close anymore. They have no time for their siblings, parents and grandparents. If you have something they want , here they all come. They say we all have guardian angels if true we are not alone.

My Wife left me for another Man. I thought it was my fault. My Family told me I worked too much and that it's my fault. I have no contact to my Family. They dont call and dont visit me. My Ex-Wife Always wanted more and more Things, and I worked so much to get her all this. Now I live alone. I learned from all this, that God gives you whats good for you and takes away whats bad. I dont hate her. After all this I feel freedom. It took a while to recognize that in my realtionship I was always alone. Now I got more time for me, and who knows, maybe there is Somebody waiting for me. Whatever happens, happens. I keep going forward. I enjoy the little Things in Life.

Can we have a support group here? Sometimes I do not even see another real-live human being for 3-5 days at a time.

Im alone but not lonely, I used to chat my children who are gar away, goes to seashore almost everyday by walking 25 mins.from home, tend my garden cooked my favorite foods and always gives thanks to the Lord that im still alive. Im 73 yrs young now. I feel young age is just a number.

There are so many people around the world who are lonely who have been hurt by their own family friends and they don't trust nobody ....nobody deserves to be lonely but its better to be alone than in a bad company in today's world it's hard to find a true friends and partner for life times have changed unfortunately ...instead if building bridges people are building walls between them its sad I feel so sorry for anyone that's alone in this world with nobody most of them they loose confidence and their own idententy ...you could be married and still feel alone or above all you could be in circle of friends and still feel alone .....that's even worse

Its depression. Contentment and happiness comes from within. It's not easy fighting depression

Thanks you so much Dr Gary. I never thought about loneliness in such a simple way. When I'm lonely, i just need to find peace in being by myself.

Dr. Gary, if no one has said this to you lately, I want to tell you that I deeply appreciate your videos. Your words have had such a profound and positive impact in my life and I am so thankful. I just want to say thank you.

This is spot on. We are not lonely when we stop wanting something else! Then we take pleasure, not in other things, but in our selves. We spent the first 9 months of being Alive, within our mother’s womb. We were perfectly happy, be cause then we did not hanker after others things, Keep spreadinG the message. This is when we are closest to God! “Be still and know that I am God” Psalms 46:10.

If I feel a sense of loneliness, I get out into public places. But I have my angels who are always with me; I know that I am really never alone. During my divorce process, I have a team of angels supporting me behind the scene. Even though I may not see it, the support is there. :=)

after reading the comments I am not even going to watch this video. Let's take care of each other

I never thought you could be lonely married! But I took steps to fix me! I am alone but never lonely!

Man, so spot on thank you! I even didn't need to listen to the end of the video to realised what was going wrong! Thank you for extending your hand brother!

Stop chasing people. You need to love yourself and be friend with yourself.

I think sometimes loneliness stems from childhood

I live in an apartment complex where nobody speaks to anybody else and I have tried saying hello too many people who don't even look up. I am also medically and physically handicapped and have no car due to $943 on SSDI and my mother pays the bulk of my rent as it was in my father's will and now she's going to stop after September and myself and my cat will end up on the street in a manual wheelchair I can walk but not very far. And I cannot push a manual wheelchair due to nerve damage from horrible B12 deficiency. So you tell me how to meet people. I am alone but I'm not lonely although it would be nice to have some friends. People don't want to be my friend once they find out how very intelligent I am and they say you're too smart for me I can't be your friend! Well you know I went to Harvard and that's just the way it is it doesn't mean that I look for people with super intelligence it means that I look for people with super hearts if you have a good heart then I have no problem being friends. I am a very good friend but I have not been able to find another very good friend. I was abused from the age of 4 until today my mother my brother several husbands several boyfriends bullied in school for 9 years going home bloody everyday. I also did many wonderful things during that time but I have no way of leaving my front door until I get a new caregiver which could be next week or maybe not. I can't get her can get me out of the house and I am extremely nice to people even in Walmart if they say excuse me or something to me because I'm on the ride and got or sometimes I'll go around the corner and see the same Man 3 times in a row and say we have to stop meeting this way with a chuckle. I am very social and when I lived in the UK they said I was the life and soul of the party which means that you are fun funny good to be around that you can spark up anything even just having coffee with somebody.

I was not lonely for a long time. I have my mum and kids and can only stand to socialize a lot less than most of my friends. Lately, I have been feeling lonely because I am single. It helps to remember the last ten years I was married when I felt even more alone. What helps the most is hard physical exercise.

The trouble with the UK is that everybody wants to live their own secret lives "An English mans home is his castle" ...and nobody is allowed in. Open your doors to your neighbors and neighbors open your doors as well and get out their and meet people...make a daily plan with other lonely people instead of sitting in your home listening to the clock tick by. Use your phones and make plans....join together and buy a small camper van and go out on daily or weekly trips, sleep overs with your new Buddies...spend any savings you have wisely on YOURSELF and leave nothing to your uncaring family if you have one.

I don't got to take care or attend to anybodys' needs but myself! I treat & spoil myself. I deserve it. I love it!!! :)

loneliness is hard but you have to realize the world will not come and rescue you, you are the one who must get out and reach out to people and not be put off by rejection, it's unfortunate but true.

Well this is great advice. I have been lonely since childhood - always, even when married which I no longer am. I am lonely for the "perfect mate". I feel that very strongly, and not only have I not met the perfect mate.....I have never seen one except in the movies. So my solution is to daily try and focus on beautiful things. Babies, puppies, my kitties, the decor in my condo, my hair color, the color of the sky, I paint so I love the paint colors, my daughter and grandson's faces....somehow filling my brain with beautiful things leads to nice thoughts and I am happy. thanks for this non "cookie cutter" advice.

Firstly may I tell you where I am coming from. I am nearly 73 years old and have lived alone for over 20 years. Two of my children live abroad but we regularly text. My oldest daughter lives in the same town and I see her and my granddaughters about once every three weeks. I am not sure what this doctor is rambling on about, it doesn't resonate with me at all. So for what it's worth this how I cope with being alone. Firstly I walk every day. I have a coffee in town and go to the gym. There are plenty of people older than me in the gym and fitter. I have set myself a challenge, how fit can I get at my age to the standard of an Olympic athlete, and also paint in watercolours with the objective of becoming a famous artist. Now none of this is at all likely but it is a challenge I aim for every day. When out and about I smile at people, chat with some and have friends at the gym. Some of those friends are severely disabled but my goodness do they try. So for anyone lonely here is a few tips. Start listening to modern pop music, some of it is just as good as in my youth. Get out and walk, preferably to a cafe and take with you a magazine or newspaper. Go to the library if one is nearby and sit and read a book. Most of all be proud that you are old , proud that you are out and about and just talk to anyone . They (rarely) bite. But smile and enjoy being old and rickety. SMILE as much as you can. Get out of the house even if you have to crawl, you will be admired for your spirit and who cares what others think you are too old to be troubled with that nonsense. Good luck

Lonely in trinidad 🇹🇹..I've learned...well still learning to hold on to the promise I'll be with God one day..because guess what the average other human beings don't give a rats ass ...only what you can give them ....I still love them all from a distance

I have 2 brothers, 3 nephews, 2 nieces. None of them helped out in taking turns with our mother.All on me. The only famy member being a caretaker. My family, friends left me behind going on with their lives. Only one friend would visit me 2-3 times a week and the intetnet. All I had for a year. Lost contact with many whike2 sitting home mommy watching. All that baloney talk from siblings about how tbey love their grandmom. Till the time came when she needed care 24/7. If not for me shed been in a nursing home. Thanks I got for caring. A lonly life.

Dr. Daniel, I am alone, but don't feel lonely because I use my alone time to read, go for a walk, cook, go out eat, etc. But there's people who for whatever reason sometimes mobility can't do these things. Let's elaborate on more options for them.

That was great advise! Thank you for posting this. My life has changed forever and I will relay those words to anyone who feels lonely.

The most helpful thing here was him saying we have to push through the uncomfortable feelings of loneliness to move forward. The rest was not much help.

Divorced a Narcissist controlled family last year, this year my negative husband wants a divorce. I shall be just as happy as I choose to be. This can turn my upside day into a smiling day. I am going to give a smile, walk and speak to others.

I`m alone a lot and not many friends. I think our best friend late in life may be our money.

Thank you so much, Garry for your words and the energy. Love.

Wow. THANK YOU Dr. Gary. The words you spoke are so true. I have to forgive myself, accept my life for the way it has turned out, DO the one thing that I am good at doing and move forward. THANK YOU !!!

Thanks you, totally agree! I just talk to people where ever I am!!! Dog park where ever I am I make friendly conversation 👍🏼😊

I also think ur wrong. The friends and family that says their there for u is never there. So where do u turn no where.

you're exactly right! glad I found your channel

Try to remember, we're not just our current situation... plenty of happiness has been blessed to us. Cliche but true gratefulness and acceptance. Try to avoid creating snow ball of negativity in our mind

Depression, 24/7 caregiving, being sick yourself adds to lonely. Kids have grown up and have their own lives. Old age is no joke.

I used to feel lonely, and too shy to talk to people because as a kid I got teased a lot because of my southern accent. I got tired of all of these thoughts in my head, but too afraid to speak. Now you can't shut me up. I see people who are clearly lonely and it makes me so sad. I have total strangers tell me their life story and I listen even if I really don't have the time because they clearly need to talk to someone and I feel honored that they felt some kind of energy from me that made them choose me. Btw Dr Gary you have never really been lonely. The kind where you go weeks or even months with no one to talk to because there's no one in your life, and the older you get no one wants to be bothered with you. Sadly that's the unfortunate life of far too many people. I made my spoiled daughter do volunteer work for the Elderly but then covid-19 struck. When this is over both of us will do volunteer work even though my work keeps me quite busy.

Long term loneliness saps the confidence and you become so socially paralised that little or no change can be made...

Wow I loved this short talk!! Thankyou!!

Thank You Sir. I play gospel music on guitar and sing at nursing homes many. It is a blessing. They become so greatful. And Ive found like you say... what I'm best at. Still single but as you say it's the first step working on yourself. Thank you.

This was one of the best talks in the you tube. It seems people are talking about their subject but do not have enough knowledge to get to the point. Well, Dr. Gary Daniel has the gift of speech. He has got the point all through his speech. What an experience to listen to him. Can certainly help transforming one´s life.

I really needed this today. Thank you so much!! :)

Thank you, good sir, this was great

DrGary even though this was said 8 years ago, it is TIMELESS. This is so true in so many ways. I couldn’t have said it better. Funny thing, it’s some of the stuff I’ve said to myself. Thank you for sharing.

Whenever i feel lonely , i talk to the Lord Jesus aloud in my room. I feel heard. Then i feel complete. He is my real BEst friend

Years ago we didn't need doctors like him to tell us how to overcome loneliness because families lived together or close by . Kind of like the Waltons tv series . The kids didn't move far from home when they got married and the older family members was cherished and lived with the oldest child . Now , instead of family or society reaching out to the elderly, they act like the elderly needs therapy to overcome a basic human need .

Its nice to be alone , 1000 things you can do alone. Loneliness is another thing. Thanks for this video ! You are helping a lot of people , especially in this “crisis” . I call it ; the Great Good Turn. Greets from the Netherlands 🇳🇱🇳🇱🇳🇱 ❤️👩🏼‍🦰😺

My life is Solitary confinement! Becoming Agoraphobic. Too painful to have fake friendship, I deserve better. I’m a loyal, loving friend.

Don't allow alone time become loneliness. I had a habit if turning down invites. Always telling myself, I don't fit, I'm too old, I'm not cool, blah blah blah. The devil is a liar and wants to see you in misery. Go out. Accept the invite. Tell yourself you are beautiful, people love you and care. You are a child of God NOTHING LESS! I really care.

A thousand thanks (from an 84-year-old).

Life is full of loneliness, sadness, and misery . But it's all over before you know it ..

Thank you Dr. Gary! Listen to what u say feel good. I guess when u r feeling lonely it's best to say to yourself "enjoy it alone". Such as reading a spiritual book or book on loneliness or insecurity.

This man is amazingly wise. And a tremendously good speaker. I have listened to specialist on you tube channels. This man includes all specialized knowledge in his speech. I just love this man.

Thank you. We beat ourselves up all too often. Its a very helpful reminder that we do have potential, worth and are good. Whats ironic is that most people feel this way.

Knowing who you are will never fill loneliness, knowing God will. We all have an innate desire to know our creator. You can push that away with drugs and sex and everything else and you will still feel lonely

Wow so glad I found your video. This is fantastic and such true advice very straightforward love it and thank you so much it’s really appreciated!!!

There is always something to do, and you can meet someone anywhere you go. It's meeting the right person that is the biggest challenge. Conversations are just conversations but that also means you are not lonely when you are just having a conversation.

I think one word to sum up your message is “acceptance”. Accept yourself along with your flaws and mistakes. Just as important, be forgiving to others. Everyone makes them. Accept your circumstances in the sense that you will only add to your despair if you concentrate on the negatives in your life. Know that others feel like you do and they need you, but understand that others cannot fulfill you. Turn your need into giving to others and show kindness. Know there are others that need friends and stay open to being one. If you are always negative even patient people might give up. Don’t drive them away. It is especially hard during the pandemic and this makes connecting more difficult, but remember there are people that care and need you to care about them as well. Don’t give up. 💞

Thank you for making this video. It is very on point! I needed this.

Your a great gentleman Sir, Dr Gary, Thank you for videos, i listen to all of them and are very comforting.

I'm seldom alone but lonly. Usually with others needing me for help, not for just enjoying companionship with me. I had many friends. I experienced 12 lay offs. Each time trying to catch up with my friends. Then hit with disability early and only social security for income. Everyone else moved on. I'm stuck being a caretaker for the elderly and they are not much in campanionship. To survive I need to live in someone elses home as a caretaker. I'll never have a retirement at age 63. Cant afford to take trips, afford my own place. I see other retirees lounging about in public. Socializing. I cant because Im always watching over some senile person. Needing so much attention that the family wont fill in for me to get a break! 24/7 doing this. I live on less than $1,000/month. If I didnt have so many lay offs,downsizings, health issues, I'd be doing fine. I make friends easily. Just cant keep up financially.

Thank you Dr. Gary! You are 'right on'! Having an 'attitude of gratitude' really lets the sun shine in! God bless. xo

Dr. Gary, you have awakened and inspired me! Negative energy be gone! Thank you!

I am a 60 year old female who has no family or friends .All of my family and good friends have all passed away in the past few years. I have absolutely noone

Just came across your video, I know a lot of lonely people , I myself fight it. Being a widow and at the age of 71 I have out lived most of the friends back home and close family , so when I get closed in I try to make me happy by trying new things . Most of the time it works, even with illness ,but I keep going for me and who I am as a woman .

Under no circumstances was this video helpful in ANY capacity.

Dr. Daniel, you definitely made some good points in this video about getting over being lonely and I think the key is what you said about finding something a person is good at. After my parents' passed-away, I felt a bit lonely because they were the last connection I had to my immediate family. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I decided to pour myself into my work that I enjoy and am good at and I rarely feel lonely.

Thank you so much. It helped me a lot.

Another good, helpful video Dr. Gary and by the way I love your shirt!

Wow, you said some things that actually made sense, especially to me. Thank you.

Tracy Watson. I am in the same position. My family are all deceased. I do have a son, however he is incarcerated. No visitations due to covid. So I can understand your feelings. Prayers for you. Be strong.

I got myself a rescue dog, Cindy. She takes me all over the place to have fun. We go to the park, the beach, shopping etc. People stop to chat and stroke my dog and, she's there for me 24 hours a day. I'm 74 but I can act silly when I'm with her.

A lot of you lonely people have already taken the first step by reaching out to one another!! Take those offers of friendship, maybe your life will change drastically. You have nothing to lose.

Thank you for this video Dr. Daniel!

👏👏👏👏👏thank you Dr. That was short, concise, precise and to the point.

This video couldn't have come to me at a better time!!

Thank you so much fir that information, I totally get what yiu are sayin and have a lot of wirk to do on myself. I will continue to follow your channel. Thanks again, that really helps. Jerry

Dr Gary thank you so much, great message~~~

Thank You for showing this.

I used to feel so alone in relationships and friendships during my 20’s. Once I got older, I became so much more comfortable with myself and worked on myself..and now, I don’t feel alone at all. Great video even tho it’s 12-13 years old. It still holds up

To Dr. Gary Daniel, The first 2:00 minutes really packs a kind punch. Good stuff. You seem to have a pulse of the country, too. I'm just laying back, not miserable but in pain- neural, back pain, have other stuff and easily my thoughts can go to "I have no friends". True, I cannot get out much, disabled, but what you say about identifying yourself is true. I wish I could just hand you a bunch of $100 bills for what you said in 2 minutes. God bless your practice, your loved ones and your future. I decided yesterday that it is a matter of my core faith to be beneficial in being and hopefully doing. I believe if people are breathing that its beautiful. I avoid news and programing mostly if its depressing. What a great video