One year later and my experiences (you know my back story) are making this video even clearer to me. It's seems easy but its so damn hard. You want to fix it but reality is that you can't fix it. You have to have your other women (don't loose your hoes). You have to not need respect, generate respect from who you are, your goals, your achievements and not women or society. You have to let her leave when you start noticing disrespect. Engineer this shit, do it over and over again untill it gets easier. You know your shit RM. Fuck.

The only way for a man to be respected in a relationship (short or long term) is if the woman KNOWS for a fact that he can and will go out the door if she disrespects him.

They know deep inside they are worthless, so they despise you for nevertheless wanting them, as you must be then even less worth.

I was such a damn fool for getting married! It was a dignity syphon.

Let them break up with you is the smartest thing. That is what I have been doing for years and it has saved me so much trouble

This guy is dropping some serious wisdom. If I'd heard this 12 years ago it would've saved me a LOOOOT of misery

Women can't respect men who stick around because a con artist can only have disdain and resentment for a mark who keeps falling for the same trick.

There's a saying which goes, "familiarity breeds contempt," which I believe is the essence of what you are saying in your video which I am in agreement with. You can be a rockstar or a famous actor and you're still not going to be able to satisfy the ever-changing whims of your girlfriend or wife. Happiness comes from within not from without.

Sad but true. Part of the dynamic for women is the novelty of something new. When a woman has been in a relationship long enough, you're old news, and she's looking for something new and exciting, which is her idea of romance and love. Men look at this more logically, and understand how enfatuation dwindles, but see the value in loyalty building as this happens. This is where many men are in for a surprise, because women often have no loyalty or appreciation for what a man has done for her up to the present moment, and continuously look for her best option whether for fun and excitement or a better trade for another man's resources. Hypergamy rules for women, and this is their version of love.

this is WELL DONE. I am just a bit younger than you at 46, and living in Nicaragua, and I have slowly come to this information, and of course I was always trying my hardest to please one, one who was crazy about me at one time, but then slowly started to fade to disrespect. Really, once you catch one whiff of disrespect, the relationship has left you, and it is time to let her go.

I‘ve gone through this, and it sucked. Guys have to be willing to walk away from women when the woman gets to that point of being bored, and disrespecting the guy. This separates the alpha from the beta. A beta will try so hard to put the toothpaste back into the tube, and you just can‘t do it. You have to walk away.

A woman only respects you if she fears you. Fear is a part of her respect. Letting her leave you is mgtow advanced classes.

I have listened to this episode a few times to actually get it and been through wringer a few times and RM is bang on, in my experience. Let her go, outride the pain and let her go with her dignity in tact, or what’s left of it!

Great video. What i learned is, no matter how great i become, how rich, famous, buff, or talented i can make myself. I can never entertain a woman for the long term.

They will lose respect to those that give them stuff (whether material or not) without girl actually earning it (and deep down she knows it) - it’s human nature in general

For me, in a long term relationship, it wasn't so much about the sex as it was the commitment itself. She might not have even been a dynamo in bed, but if she was the kind to concernedly come scoop me up when my car broke down on the highway at midnight, that's a keeper, or so you'd think. Knowing what I know now, I'd tread carefully, because the very thing that makes you grateful to them could very well be the one thing they resent you for. Womens' thinking is weird and far twisted than I ever could have possibly imagined when I was younger.

Gotta say you are bang on the nail man! I have been a very long haul dude, 20+ years with one til it became ever more stale and she ended it, but as you rightly said, I had her very best years, never thought of it like that back then when it all happened, it's a hell of a positive to come away with. It always feels that men in relationships are held to such high standards, viewed under a microscope, yet so often women are the one's who fail miserably to come up to standard or better!

What I admire about you is that you never come off as a woman hater like some of the other MGTOW guys . You just seem to live in reality, judgment free. You just keep it real.

If he is perfect , she is still gonna complain that he is "too perfect" , so she will nitpick and make excuses to self-justify her fading attraction

This is one of THE best videos on long term relationships EVER. I need to watch this EVERY SINGLE MORNING!!

This one was a real eye opener for me, so much good stuff in here. That line "It's better to make a lot of girls happy than to make one girl miserable" really resonates with me. Really good video, great work Ronin Man!

This is so articulate! When you talk about "doubling down" & getting her to leave you on "her terms". I call that the "illusory takeaway" I have another called "advanced illusory takeaway". It works so fucking well because you're placating her ego by letting her believe you're not the "man" for her. With these techniques you will keep the Cluster b and crazy at bay!! Thanks, dude!

Wanting to be Respected / Admired by Women is Men's Kryptonite - Thanks Ronin Man

I feel like I've already done that with some relationships. Breaking up is a process. There comes the point where you make a choice, she doesn't like it because it doesn't include her, you try to be nice to her, but you know there's no coming back. I had a girlfriend like that. I really liked her. Enjoyed the sex, we lived together, but I decided I didn't want to take the next step with her. She was very hurt, but she didn't want to be alone just yet. During the last 2-3 months, I moved into another bedroom in her condo, the same bedroom her ex before me slept in. She asked me what my plan was. It seemed like she was giving me the choice, so I laid out a plan that was all in my favor. She thought about it for a couple of weeks, then decided to cut my timeline short. I got a new place and within a few months, I got another career opportunity that moved me out of town. it was a great deal. However, I still maintained friendship with her. I had a commitment that required me to attend some meetings once a month over the next 3-4 months. When I told her about it, she offered me to stay with her on those nights I came back to town. The sex was great. The friendship continued. Things actually got better for her in her life as they did for me after that. But I know what you mean by that point of no return, when they lose respect for you. Women are very unforgiving that way. You can still ease your way out, avoid the post-relationship drama and keep your self-respect.

Look at older couples, the guy is almost always a shell of himself.

Adoration is a concentrated form of respect. When a woman loses that for you she is gone, it doesn't matter what you did in the past for her or how fun you used to be, all that shit is erased in her mind.

When a woman asked me to change I simply said you knew many men just like that. Why did you choose me?

Yes, women take for granted whatever you do for them. AWALT.

Long term relationships DO work. They are not common simply because they take a LOT of work, a lot of communication and a LOT of compromise. Most people who attempt these kinds of connections bailout when it becomes plain what it takes to make them work.Fact: Long term relationships are not for everybody. Fact: To make a long term relationship work you need to believe that the entity produced by two people is more important than either individual. Fact: A relationship without Purpose will not survive. Relationships are not for the shallow, fainthearted or wannabes. If you are not up for it, that's OK.

This was spot on broski 👌 Did a long term from 20 - 26 (basically was a married man) stumbled on the manipulated man and now i’m free at 27 ready to explore all that life has to offer

@ 20:28 Refer to the 1st corollary of Briffault's law which states that a past benefit provided by the male does not provide for continued or future association.

Holy crap you're so insanely spot on, absolutely amazing listening to your stuff man how much it resonates with my experience. I'm pushing hard for my brothers to listen to your stuff, this one in particular, as one has made the mistake of marriage and the other is just about to. I'm the only one who hasn't and never will. Thanks so much for everything Paul, cheers from Australia.

YES! I have done this "letting them drop me" technique with all my short and long terms! I too gradually become less interesting and gain 25-30 pounds. Although with my ex wife it took gaining 100 pounds and asking my old boss (who was divorce raped) to demote me and drop my hours for her to divorce me without taking a thing from me (LOL SCORE!).

Damn your right on the money man, you've really analyzed this stuff. Your describing many of my experiences and others that I have witnessed.

Dads...introduce the sons to this as earlier as is possible.

I replace women every 10 years, I start a new adventure and excitement, feels like I'm always in honeymoon, i love my life

You sir deserve more subscribers! Thanks for the truth bombs.

Perfect description Of how to get out of an old stale relationship where you’re not respected or she has let her body get out of shape. In my last long-term relationship I told my wife “don’t get fat” . When I notice she was putting on weight I knew then that the relationship was over and I engineered her out just as you described. I’ve done that many times and none of them have ever caught on just like you mentioned. Great work you’re doing keep it up.

Ronin is the best. Thank you for your desire to help Men figure out all of this crazy shit.

Fascinating concept Ronin ,thank you for delving into this

Everything you've said in this (and other videos) rings true in my experience. Real wisdom here.

Shakespeare said it best: Familiarity breeds contempt, or was it disdain. I agree with you , best make many women happy then one unhappy. By the time one come around again she hasn't seen you in days or even weeks, and she is HAPPY to see you and whatever you do is great; see her everyday and she starts to demand and nag for MORE.

I found out also you can give a chick a kidney and she still won't have gratitude!

Coach RP, Early Rollo Tomassi videos were the most educational videos for me, they helped me a lot!

I watch an over 60 yo woman and I can't grasp it how the older she gets, the more irrational and emotionally unstable she becomes. It was a shock to me that a woman that age can be so illogical, driven purely by emotions, making false accusations, endlessly trying to draw attention herself, trying to elicit pity for herself and complaining of her alleged ordeal of cooking and cleaning every few days. she worked maybe 2-3 years in her whole life and endlessly tries to impress her husband with the exhausting things she did during the day- mopped the floor, made dinner and went shopping. She makes such a big deal of it. The more I watch older women (I am a young man myself) the more convinced I become it's best to never marry. Another woman I know, almost 40 yo, worked maybe for 1 year in her life, married a wealthy guy, she's lazy, hardly ever cleans, cooks once a week, has plenty of $ to spend, indulges herself to everything she wants and she's never pleasant to her husband, she doesn't respect him, doesn;t appreciate him, is always upset. I don't get what a guy with lots of $ gets out of it?

I had never been disrespected before as I had experienced with the mother of my child in spite of doing everything right. This is exactly what I needed to hear.

My friend used to call "suffocating the relationship" slowly as "turning off the drain."

Closing on 60, I can say there is a lot of Truth to what this young man is saying.

great job !!! good analogies thanks for breaking it down.

Why long term relationships don't work

You need to always show her you are wanted by other women and she will respect and ride you like a wild horse, most of the time!

best to play useless than to be used

Nothing but truth! Great vid.

Love is a choice. You can love someone when it is hard to love them. Love and Lust are different!

Some real gems in this one, much appreciated

thank you for your honesty and reflections/insites

You are correct in the way to depart a relationship. Having the detached emotional state of walking away is the best position be in. I would add.. Do something everyday for someone, even if it is something they can never pay you back for. Do it even if you are never recognizes for what you have done. You will begin a path of righteous self actualization and success that cannot be described in words. If its a chick with no respect that you have helped... walk.

awesome! gonna add to my "watch later" list

Married 13 years and tired of the disrespect and sexless marriage, after ups and downs and a last try I finally had enough, had a talk and she agreed, we're getting divorced. I guess her agreeing with what I told her is kind of letting her think it's also her decision (I would leave anyway) , and we don't hate each other, we're still on friendly terms, but I've known her for 20 years, she seems oddly at ease with it and I suspect she already has someone waiting in the wings even if she hasn't cheated. Having said that, there was no fire anymore but she seemed content to remain in the marriage out of comfort and the kids, while at the same time not doing anything now to stop me from leaving. So I'm finding her behavior a bit strange.

Man this is one of.best videos I've ever heard on KZfaq that could save most men's lives! Salute 100 🔥

lots of deep wisdom there Ronin. so many things there echoed with my own experiences. I've had lots of anecdotal scenes where you could really tell how respect is an entirely different concept for men and women (honor is another one which most women aren't probably even genetically capable of understanding). anecdote 1: I was visiting an enterpreneur friend in Bucharest. he makes mid 6 figures in USD from his business which is EXTREMELY good money for Romania, and is generally a very funny and social guy. he had a pro model LTR GF at the time (3 years into the LTR), 8 years younger than him, and me and another pro IM guy both stayed at his place for a few days. and what shocked me was how his GF treated him at the time. she was literally, habitually, putting him down in front of us, saying how "we both know who does all the work in this relationship", "your ideas never work out anyway", etc. and not just jokingly, no, with a sour face and a contemptuous smirk. and that while he was financing her own ambition of starting a designer clothes boutique and online shop. that literally blew me away, I mean yes the chick had T&A of very high quality (seen her near-naked in a thong bikini at the Bucharest Therme Spa - was the first time that I actually saw a goodlooking girl sport a thong at a public pool, too), but I'd have kicked her ass right out the door the same day if she were my GF. the Romanian friend btw never said anything even remotely rude to her while we were around. and yes, sure enough, the Romanian friend did kick her out a few months later, then went through a crazy Russian chick and a Thai chick in quick succession and currently basically is single and happy with it. anecdote 2: while chatting to a Russian woman I knew for numerous years from RL (married mother of a teenage daughter, around 40), and who had always seemed fairly reasonable, we came upon the topic of the civil war in Eastern Ukraine (both of us being of course heavily against the current Neonazi Ukrainian regime and supporting the Novorussian republics in the east of Ukraine). I mentioned a young 20-year-old guy from Germany, born in a Russian German emigrant family, who actually went by himself twice as a volunteer to defend the independence of the Novorussian republics, just out of abstract loyalty and honor to his ancestors (who were from the region), not even making any money or anything, and not even speaking very good Russian himself. to me, that's very honorable and worth of major respect - by far not every guy out there will stand up and be ready to fight and die thousands of kms away, just for the honor of his ancestors and the self-determination right of some people whose language he does not even speak very well. many locals in the area actually just ran off across the border to safe Russia, instead of joining the fight (luckily not all, otherwise it'd all long be Neonazi-land by now). he was totally inexperienced with combat, so they mostly kept him off the frontlines doing logistics and support jobs, but his very action and motives are IMHO more than admirable. now, how did my Russian acquaintance characterize him? "stupid child" and "cannon fodder". those are verbatim quotes. that left me f-ing speechless and then really angry, when she stubbornly persisted on that viewpoint. this woman has never fought anyone in her life. women dont serve in Russia (healthy men are ALL drafted at 18 for a year of military service, with only a few exceptions). she probably cant fight or shoot a gun to save her life. she has never lifted anything heavier than a handbag, doing some mundane office job in Moscow marketing/sales of a mobile accessories retailer (yet she holds her "skills" in very high esteem). she lives in a country which is built on MONUMENTAL sacrifice of tens of millions of men's lives, both in WW2 (where almost 50% of Russian men between 18 and 45 died fighting Nazi Germany, and just 3% of women - since they were next to non-present at the frontlines) and in other more recent conflicts such as Chechnya etc (where I would've been drafted since I was the right age at the time - 18 - except that I was very short-sighted and deemed only limited-capable, i.e. only during wartime), where men pay near 80% of the taxes (since the traditional women's role is to sit home with the children, and even if they do work, it's usually in safe and routine low-paid office and clerk jobs), where men live 15 YEARS LESS than women on average (among other things, because men shoulder ALL the stress and ALL the danger - workplace fatalities are near 100% male in Russia - and because women are vastly over-represented in the free healthcare system AND the pension system, paid for by men). the average Russian man DOES NOT LIVE TO SEE HIS PENSION (average death at 58 from heart trouble and stroke, pension at 60). the average Russian woman lives 18 YEARS as a pensioner (they get to retire at 55 and live to 73 on average). and when a young idealistic guy actually goes above and beyond that and volunteers his LIFE for honor and duty, this woman just spits on him gleefully. what an idiot, from her standpoint. he should rather work off his ass at BMW or Daimler, make lots of money, and give it all to some stupid broad like herself. I'm paraphrasing what she said to me afterwards to justify her words. interestingly enough, I challenged her to ask a few of her male friends or relatives about their viewpoint on this. she asked two (a work colleague and her father) and BOTH sided with me completely, which absolutely astonished her. she then quickly polled all her female friends to confirm her world view, who of course all sided with her.

Great message Ronin. Much Needed.

This was AWESOME Ronin Man!

All true except as you get older you get better at pretty much everything. If you get with a woman who has some idea of reality then as you get older so does she and the more she realizes that you are the best part of her life. But if you choose poorly then you are fucked.

@ Ronin Man, Wow, thanks for the warning! Unbelievable insight ! I have never heard this! You were livin it ! The right guy in the right place at the right time! This information is priceless!

RM, very valuable video! Thanks for that!

Dude! You nailed it. Its so true about guys and girls on their perception in a relationship. Thanks for the eye opener! You da man!

U are so right!! I agree with you 100 percent.

Awesome! Best vid I ever seen.

Damn Ronin, epic advice! Thanks man

love the exit strategy. I think you just changed my life! :)

I like your approach, it is sincere to me.

Ronin Man is the ultimate boss. I'm coming to the MGTOW world summit for sure!

Best MGTOW/Red Pill content I have come across yet A++++

Invaluable advice on how to let the disrespecting woman leave. Thank you.

I heard it said somewhere that there was a study of men vs women regarding the question: Would you rather be in a marriage/relationship in which you feel unloved but respected, or loved but unrespected? Surprise, it split decidedly down sexual lines, that men would rather have respect, even without love, and women can live without feeling respected, as long as she feels loved. Who could have predicted that?

I subscribe,I listen to every word and its past my bed time,good night.

After listening to this, I can’t help wondering why we bother at all.

This is as good as your Marriage: The End of Sex video, in other words, superb. So grateful I found your channel. The critical commonality is their truth, and the just-the-facts presentation of information that frees men because it demonstrates that, frankly, these problems are not our fault. These things are just the way they are. Thank you so very much.

Beautiful game and analysis. Where were you 20 years ago, when I really needed you?

Ronin, you have come to the same conclusions as I have. Not only that but I’m doing what your doing. I think this outloook is the way to deal with relationships and it works for me as well.

Phenomenal video!

Very interesting take on female nature.

this is so on point.

I admire how Ronin breaks the concept scientifically, even if you just friends with a woman long term ,she will lose respect for you & start taking the guy for granted ..keep up the great work Ronin ,this channel rocks🎉

Don't ever demand respect. Remember what happened to Fredo.

You nailed this bro

You are a certifiable genius dude...course I already knew everything you were talking about...I just never heard anyone else verbalize it...

The part where she didnt understand what you did for her reminded me of another channel i watch when he often says "women are really just children with breast"

Hey Brother, great insight and great vids! I’ve lived the last 10 years mostly in Asia and have enjoyed not being tied to one woman and have lived very similarly to how You have. Now However, the girl I REALLY was into after 10 years of searching is 7 months pregnant, however the lack of respect has now become extreme. I want to be there for the birth and to assist her and bring about a Bless ed’ Family. Yet, if there is continuously no respect how to manage’. Lack of respect that leads to confrontations where my only option is to step away... Can You be a great Father and not be with the Mother!? Welcoming All thoughts gentlemen’ Responsibility, Love for my Daughter, and what once was with my Lover, and then the Self Respect to not take the emotional abuse... Thanks Gents! 🙏

The reason she loses respect for you is because she never respected you. You're just a fun ride. Respect is built day by day. Its built through a combination of love, chastisement, and physical disciplining a woman. If she gets out of line she should expect the disciplinary consequence of her action. If she does not fear the consequences that are enforceable by you then shell lose respect. Respect is very important to a man. It's so important that God kicked Lucifer and his band of angels out of heaven over being disrespected. God also kicked Adam and Eve out of the garden for being disrespected. Since it's important to God its definitely important to man

The secret to keeping respect in a relationship for me is.. keeping my word on everything. If I threatened to leave they know damn well that I WILL GO ! Be honest about what you like and expect. Do not ever deviate from something you have made clear. Because the first time you do..SHE WILL OWN YOU. AND NEVER RESPECT YOUR OPINIONS AGAIN. Have some balls and stand up for yourself. Women need compromise. To feel comfortable. But never break your own rules.

Familiarity breeds contempt

They seem to use the time around you to file incidents and situations that worked or showed you at a disadvantage or in a bad light. Then the EVIDENCE is used in the court of her to condemn you to firing squad with no cigarette.

And always keep improving yourself.

Happened to Brad Pitt!

in all the marriages I know the wife has no respect for her husband even though they earn well, are faithful, obedient, caring. I even know a guy who after 40 years of marriage got slapped, offended & nagged for a few hours just because he came back home drunk. I realized that there is no pleasing women. no matter what you do, they always complain

L t r are complex / thanks for breaking this down to the nitty gritty ! Wise advice - thanks ronin👍😎

Haha ya a genius got it to an art, well done sir

I love every word you said I love it so much you know what you are talking about and I applied the breakup technique of making the girl leave me instead of me leaving her and don't let the respect bother me no matter what I did for you because it's true girls love showing no respect to close me them but I learn not to let that bother me