Our Discord - ​discord.gg/xThWx8Q My tentative theory is that based on the comment sections of our videos, lot's of the people here would benefit from the ability to chat to each other in real-time. I've met people who have had/still have a huge impact on me and who I have developed close and collaborative relationships with online first, that I've also gone on to meet in person. We live in interesting times where that is no longer a strange thing. Hopefully this discord will be somewhere where all of you can do the same - interesting chats, find new and useful connections etc. Also my assumption is that this community will grow organically and become self sustaining if it's going to exist at all. So think of me as an intermittently present creator who often totally forgets about a planet he's made then quickly rushes to make sure they haven't turned on each other. Finally, an ENTP is running the server... god help us. ~ Nathan

"INFP's minds can be... weird as f*ck" and i *oof-*

My thoughts when reading the title: "this could be as long as a movie"

I like INFPs 🍬 -INTP

I finally stopped THINKING about doing something and did it. It is frustrating, but also rewarding. Patience for success, overcoming fear of judgement or failure, doing a little each day, and realising lack of perfection is ok, are the things that have helped me the most.

"It's funny how often being misunderstood is synonymous with never actually communicating your thoughts and feelings with people" 😂 Why you gotta call us INxxs out like that

Yeah seemingly we are the worst fit or candidates for the corporate world. The business environment we have today requires one to be ambitious, obedient, hardworking, logical, dedicated, strong etc. You have to fall thousands of times, get criticized, sacrifice a lot of time, from yourself and hobbies, from your friends. INFP's are quite sensitive, they do not like to be controlled at all, they do not like strict deadlines, rigid atmospheres and above all they look for meaning in what they do. So if what they do in that company or position is not in alignment with their values and world view, this can be a torture for the INFP. However, I as an INFP, really think and have seen that just like any other personality, these are qualities that we can change. What is important is being conscious and in peace of who we are and think about how to manage ourselves, our emotions and our inclinations. An ordinary INFP with no sense or desire of achieving something in this life in terms of career etc, is very likely to have nothing, not even something related to his/her hobbies. On the other hand, an INFP can easily start to be aware of their weaknesses or shortcomings and work through them and achieve the things they desire and deserve, and above all can achieve the highest self-confidence too which most INFP's need as well in my opinion. So, my dear fellow INFP's. It's okay not to fit in everywhere, it's okay not to like the routine stuff. But there are things which we have to accept and acknowledge just as any other personality. But let's just try, try to leave the comfort zone and really see, observe and discover things. We are not deficient, we are not vulnerable. We just need just a little more trigger and encouragement. If we can provide this encouragement to ourselves, we can achieve a lot more than we could ever think of trust me, I am one of the proofs of that. After all, we are the nicest, most caring and enthusiastic people by nature. Why all these beautiful features would not be mixed with some other empowering qualities? Wish you all the best guys.

"get shit done, carve out as much freedom as possible" - I needed to hear that :)

It's really interesting and fascinating how you take INFPs seriously (most people don't), and try to see things from their perspective with enough respect and a subtle butt-whipping. Kudos~

I always googling "productive things to do" But never really do it 😶

1. Get things done 2. Carve out freedom 3. See the benefits being a misfit

“Finally today I’m being productive... oh no I lost in daydreaming and forgot it “ yes this is my life

Not bad. -INFP

I’ve noticed infp appreciates when I (as an intj) provide structure to aspirations, creative work, and achieving goals set by ideals. There is a wealth of insight and inventiveness, but expression becomes scattered or bogged down in details, so having someone to help arrange that expression into a cohesive whole seems to provide relief and freedom to act for infp. Must admit, I have a huge soft spot for ‘em. 🤫

You're 100% right, a full-time job doesn't suit INFPs. My personal experience suggests that I start to feel trapped overtime (probably, several months into a job), this is why I now work half-time and feel pretty happy about it.

I saw the title and I was amazed that the video was only 6 minutes long XD

Just over one minute in and I'm already feeling attacked. (But in a good way? It's nice knowing I'm not the only one struggling with stuff like this)

We INFP's at some point need to figure how to work in this world in a way that is best for us. It's not always easy, but it's possible with hard work and dedication. I have come to realization I will never have a career in the corporate world or blue collar world. Yeah, I can work in it, but I need something more. There are very beneficial parts being in a corporate environment we INFP's need. Structure, dedication, learning to fail and get back up again, learning to take critiques and not let it destroy us and learning how to speak up with confidence. We can take those things and use them in our daily lives and build our own creative businesses. Love Who is right when it comes to being misunderstood. How is anyone supposed to get to know us when we are so inward focused. it feels pretty amazing living a little more outwardly. That's something I learned when I came out of the closet. Coming out forced me to evolve from the shy INFP.

I always tell one of my INFPs that they need to hold back less

Unfortunately INFP weaknesses are a hindrance to professional development for the generally more respected careers. And living off of part times these days isn't seen as professional as many employers seem to find it as a lack of commitment/desperation/something being wrong with the person. Being an INFP is terrible if you ever expect to be independent or earn money in this society lol

I found that building the mindset/emotional awareness first, is the key to effortless production. When you accept and work out on your limiting beliefs (fear of failure, perfectionism, trying too hard, fear of success, not being good enough, overthinking versus trusting, not believing in oneself....) and switch to beliefs that allows you to move forward (trusting in oneself, feeling inspired, excited, worthy, thrilled, satisfied...)... Then, exponentially, you just do it, simply do it. Nothing can stop you when the inspiration is here. Not even your own thoughts.

This is so relatable, and im glad im not alone. I am 30 and bearly had a fulltime job, balancing work and money with freedom and art is key to inner peace for me, Im glad I learned early on to have a f*ck you attitude towards anyone who questions alternative ways of living. beeing happy is better than beeing rich 8-) Also all your points were relatable man, great video

I’ve found that saying things even at the risk of being misunderstood really pays out in the end, because even when they don’t really get it they’ll often engage with you purely on the basis of being intrigued by your unique view on things and that’s always a good start. And if they’re not really interested in giving you their time regardless, then that’s that. I was stubborn when it came to making connections because I wanted people to understand me, but expecting people to fully ‘get you’ is a tall order and you can still make genuine connections regardless. When it comes to productivity I’ve found that having an external source to rely on is night and day. I guess I’m lucky because I’m in school and I have access to people who are professional that help me on the basis of my adhd, but something simple as asking someone you live with to remind you of something, having appointments with people so you can’t back out or even timers are life saver. I it all comes back to how I’m always in la la land and I can’t always pull myself back down to earth so having someone or something else do it is great.

The amount of unfinished projects I have lol But I actually have started working on them again recently so thanks for the extra push 🤗 But that's only for now because of the pandemic... it's hard to carve out your own personal freedom when you're surrounded by people who think they know what's best for you and won't allow you to be yourself... Siigghh😩

Love the fuzzy jumper and your eyebrows.

Yea this type isn't suitable for the highly polarized extroverted world that requires an insane amount of mental and emotional gymnastics just to survive much less get ahead especially when it involves toxic office politics where issues of race and gender ect are being played out.

This (the first advice specifically) reminds me of when I had an art page. I deleted it because I felt insecure with every post and I felt that the guy I like didn't like my drawings so it kinda just crushed me.

One thing I've found that really helps is getting a hobby. Find something you're really passionate about, whether it be writing, drawing, painting, scuplting, or any combination of those. I've recently gotten into tabletop gaming. The combination of arts and crafts, assembling and paint miniatures, and storytelling absolutely sucked me into it. There's so many possibilities with it, and I find I'm thriving greatly by being in the company of a community that encourages personalization. It's a lot of fun for me, and it's rewarding to see a finished product come out, and it pushes you to do another project quickly.

"ok this is gonna be great" nathan : "number one,be productive." shhhit-

You can't tell me that the majority of the viewers of this video are INFP's. We need to figure ourselves out lol Amazing video!

Great advice.... you know INFPs very well! You’ve given me much to think about... It is reassuring in a way, to know that our weirdness is a strength. Being more assertive and taking action can really help infps. I wouldn’t say it’s so much as decluttering the chaos (or maybe I don’t perceive chaos as chaos) but more like holding on to one of the fleeting wonders and actually doing something with it. It’s a way to get an anchor into the world and it’s a good way to fight that feeling of loneliness that we get as observers. “Carve out freedom” I want that on a mug! Maybe a new set of merch?

You basically summarised everything my two INFPs need to learn

I love this advice. Fellow INFPs, if you’re struggling with the productivity thing - bullet journaling is amazing. (And as a bonus you can doodle while feeling productive)

As an Infp myself. I feel like one thing that has really helped me in life is doing drama. I feel through drama I have met so many weird and wonderful people that I otherwise wouldn't get to know. I also feel like in a weird way, I'm able to express myself through the many characters that I play even if that character is completely different from me. So if any fellow infps feel lost or that they can't express themselves I recommend trying a drama class as I feel like it has really helped me personally. Also improv once I got used to it is literally the most fun I've ever had. Idk if anyone will see this but I hope it helps.

“It does not to well to dwell on dreams and forget to live.”💛⭐️✨

The video is incredibly accurate, as always. The solutions You mentioned seem to be very helpful and well-thought. Thank You for creating such great content. Kind regards, Josephine.

Completely agreed on the point of being misunderstood coinciding with never actually expressing yourself. I think many INFPs like the tortured artist persona, and that suits it. Your advice seems to me to be the difference between a well functioning INFP, and a complete mess (in my humble experience with them). Great points! Jeff Buckley!! ...his cover of Hallelujah is one of the most gorgeous songs on the face of the earth.

This is exactly how I express myself. I have been capturing myself in moments of my life in song since I was 20, and with the written word since I was 12. Writing music is what I do to cope with everything, is *definitely* a window into how I feel about something haha that is far more elaborate than someone just asking me. That Jeff Buckley quote is soooo true for me holy shit lol I have so many songs in garage band, all unnamed in disorganized INFP fashion 😋 that I will go back to and tweak endlessly over time. I have some of them posted and don’t mind sharing with people I don’t know, but my friends and family like... holy shit, I feel like they’re asking me to strip naked for them when they ask for the link to my songs.

Thank you so much for your INFP content!

Whoooa! So much valuable information! I felt like I needed an Intermission half way just to start processing the overload.

"INFPs' minds can be weird as fuck" *that's* *not* *even* *an* *insult* *IT'S.* *JUST.* *TRUE.* GREAT advice btw

As an INFP, I always have many creative ideas for music, stories, art in general. My problem is consistency, so being productive and forcing myself into a routine is key. I get distracted by the moments. lol

Wow! I love my free therapy session! Thank you so much for this advice. I'll admit, I don't tend to follow advice as much, but I'll try my best to follow it.

This resonates big time! I'm really not great at expressing my feelings and worries and showing my emotions, but the times when I have pushed myself out of my comfort zone and talked about it, I was listened to, but I don't feel anything changed because of it. I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that not everyone 'gets me' and sometimes I'm fine with that, Id rather just be me than try to please others, but it can also be lonely and frustrating being misunderstood all the time. I get along with most people, and can be quite extrovert sometimes, but it's finding that connection and click that I only find with a few that's hard. Anyone else find this?

Infp here. Good video mate

I don't know if it's due to your word choice or something else, but out of all the MBTI youtubers I've seen it's your insights that really make me feel seen. I'm sure you're not the only one who understands the INFP type well, but it definitely resonates more when it comes from you . Thank you :-)

This was actually terribly practical advice, that I intend to use and keep in mind. Thank you.

I HATE that by the end of the video I was already speechless with so much pin point precision. Heck not even the end, half way through and I was already sobbing. The "Be productive" tip is very real. When I got my feelings hurt I used to write poems and after writing them I'd feel much better, so the "do things to declutter your mind" is a REALLY good one Also the "chrystalized thoughts" is very real. That is the reason I started writing, be it poems, expierences or just silly thoughts Ironically, I thought that this video was gonna make me hate myself, but now I feel much more like embracing the infp's way of life. At times I wanted to change, be more logical, procrastinate less, be less infp... but I don't think that will happen anymore! Greetings and Love from Brazil!

Thank you so much for uploading , tbh I'm always trying to turn my weaknesses into strenghts but I give up , especially about being practical , my final exams are after 48 days from now , I've made a schedule since I couldn't manage things without it , and It's working so far , I think that the goal from that change is the thing that is motivating me , I want to do well this time so I convinced my self that without this scheduled I'm not going far , I think that the "Goal" is really important otherwise I wouldn't be able to make this

I feel like you were talking about me . . . I identify with a lot of these struggles, for example a year ago I finally got up the courage to leave my 9 to 5 job after feeling so trapped and bored to pursue more creative interests. So I've been at home for a year and it's been . . . fantastic. I'm still trying to figure out how to do this for the long term but I'm very determined after having tasted this freedom. Also, I totally agree with you about "Grace".

I'm the INFP whisperer

This video has so much reality in it. Writing thoughts down and being done with them, for instance, is something I myself did independently of this video for a long time.

*crystallizes Not 100% sure what my type is, but it's the type that can't let this go.

Thank you for this Nathan.

You mentioned something that I rarely hear but but believe is most helpful. Observe yourself. Step back and watch what you are thinking, doing, wanting, hating, etc. As an INTJ, it helps me to course correct. I can see that if I keep heading this direction or keep doing that, I'm gonna end up where I don't want to be. Great video.

I love how accurate it is! Thank you💗

Your videos are so clarifying. Thank you! :)

Thank you for providing very good insight and a very well thought out parcel of advice. I don't often go to other people for advice on how to live my life, but I really find you to be easily relatable. Thank you very much for the help!

Thank you!!! I NEEEEEDED to hear that!! ❤ (…so much so, that I’m going to listen to it again! 😅)

I've watched a few of your videos today on INFP and am really impressed by the insight. Keep up the good work, I am subscribed!

Thank you for this advice; this is actually practical and actionable, and gives me as an INFP a way to improve that I can work toward. 🙏🏻

This was revelatory, thank you so much.

This is so accurate, validating, and helpful it is beyond belief. Your recommendations are so insightful, I suspect you are this personality type, yourself. I actually never wanted to take a personality test until a much smarter friend convinced me. Amazed at how INFP-T describes me to a tee.

Great vid as usual Nathan! I really like the idea of crystallising these "mental states" as you call it and since I'm not really creative this mainly is done through journalling and just writing all my daydreams, feelings and interesting perspectives/philosophies I come up with. Also having freedom of time seems to be a lot more valuable to us than financial freedom so I only realised the importance of your second point recently but I can't do much about it because I've already entered the field of medicine which is like the least flexible option haha

Nearly spat out my tea watching this!! You hit the nail on the head, as always.

This is VERY USEFUL information! Thank you so much:) You are very intelligent and insightful..excellent!

I am blown away about how much you know about me. There are things you pointed out in many of your videos that even I haven’t thought about.

If Nathan will still be making videos in a year itll be like psychological Matt d'Avella vids

Now I wonder once again if I am actually an INFP.

"Being inwardly focused when it's taken to an extreme can be kind of like repression, or at least come at the expense of expression." Thank You

That’s good advice. Thank you!

Thanks big brother Nathan for the advice! :)

Thank you so much for releasing me from the 9 to 5 that I was definitely not doing anyway. It's just good to have the validation 😌 like a breath of fresh air

Thank you! This helps a lot

Yes! That album is truly a masterpiece.

The "being productive" part was true. My mind become more stable after pouring out into writings and drawings. Alas, some people are criticize me to having dark fantasy, and ask me to produce more happier product so I get more attention. Somehow it caused me in dilemma: shall I focus on stabilizing my mind first, or listen to them so I get the attention that I wanted? At the end I prefer making bittersweet fantasy: still dark, but also giving some hope and positive things between the darkness. Just like real life.

Thank you so much for this :D

i agree with you..a lot of information..so, i’ll come back to this a few times so i can remember it and fully take it in

V.good advice. I appreciate your work. Thank u.

This is really insightful thank you so much 🙌

Great vid thx. More like this about infp please!

Producing something or crystallizing one's emotions/thoughts, may it be into a simple drawing or a song, literally takes time (days, weeks, or months) and to be able to make something half decent would most probably require a seriously long and continuous hermit mode state of being because if one stops in the middle to breathe and take a peek at the sky, the thing will forever be unfinished...and life will always, always have distractions, for one's own good or not. I'm seriously making an excuse but this vid is one of the most compelling advise for INFPs. Thank you ❤️

Thank you for your chrysalises your thinking at the moment advice and Jeff Buckley documentary snippets, cause I'm actually in a kinda similar situation now. You gave me enough push to do and finish my project.

Coming back to this video 3 years later. Spot on, I didn't know how much STRUCTURE was important for me. A chaotic mind full of creative ideas is nothing without some sort of reliable system to pull them out. They are deemed to stay in the abstract form without it. Took me 3 years to understand that 😂

I’m literally all ideas and no execution Like I’m an idea machine to the point where if for example in my writing if I try to commit to writing something long I’ll get bored with it because I’ll have moved on to a new idea which is more exciting. Secondly, I also fear that the idea will never be as good in real life as it is in my head and I can never fully translate something from my head to the real world the way I want to

Perfect. The most practical, short and to the point video for INFPs. You really grasp the importance of creativity, it crystal-clear :) Thank you for your videos.

One of the best, most practical(lol) videos. Thank you ❤

Yay, I made it within the hour this was posted. Guess it’s not so bad, not being able to sleep.

First time commenting , love your video's, they make me laugh. INFP but luckily I have some need to be a list maker and I get so much satisfaction when I can cross something off. I still procrastinate but the list is always encouraging me to tackle the next thing.

"Decluttering the chaos" wheww chile, I literally had to pause the video and start clapping. You hit the nail on the head.

thank you that was really great

this is so accurate and useful!

Well, that’s great advice. Probably the best toolkit for Infps to live their life by i have ever heard.

I do it. It is not "fun". But publication does help. You do feel isolated. This is an excellent video!

I think like this: i have potentially written serveral collection of poems. But I know that I at some point want to be a teacher. So I don't want to get into the process of publishing because of the potential redicule from students if it is in some ways published. Once you officially put something out there, it is permanent and you loose your anonymity...

The day you upload this video is my birthday and I'm an infp 9w1, quite amazing isn't it?

Liked, subscribed, and *smashed* the notification bell. :)

Very thoughtfully said Nathan and you didn't bruise my gentle INPF feelings once. I have to admit, I sometimes hear what I am saying and think that I am weird as f**k.

This is great advice. However, I find my greatest challenge is particitpating in society. As we live in a time where human activity affects everything. Society is focused on growth, money, and living beyond the limits of our planet. It seems that no one cares about our modern lifestyle and it's impact on the future, or near future.

You where finishing up and I thought "oh, that's it? I was expecting this to be at least 30min" 😊