Perhaps.. INFPs are simply built for retirement

"Why INFPs Suck At: 1. Marketing, Sales and Self-Promotion" Nothing to promote if you aren't even that great in the first place ahahah 😎😎 "3. Self Doubt and Imposter Syndrome" *chokes on my own joke coz it backfired*

it feels so good when “criticism” like this comes from a place of understanding instead of ignorance 🖤

I'm a strong INFP. I read the title and only cried for 20 minutes.

"Lots of self doubt and and really high standards." Why must you hit me so close ;_;

Oh no... * Bracing for impact *

Hello INTP here. I've been dating an INFP for a little over a year now, and I have to say INFP's are very underrated (i know he's not talking down on them or anything lol). INFP's have a surprisingly strong will and can be very logical, now given this isn't their natural state. For me personally, the reason I love INFP's is bc I am able to have higher level conversations, example, our conversations can range from Daedalus and Icarus to the morality of abortion, and as an INTP it makes my day much better to have someone to not only talk to but someone who has coherent thought about deeper things.

"lots of self-doubt and really high standards" SPOT ON

The issue with arts is that no one cares about arts unless it comes with nudity, something extraordinary, abstract or the person has pure luck. This is the day and age we live in. Still INFPs make my heart soft - ENFP

INFP Graphic Designer 🎨 here!!! Once you start developing your Te a little bit it does wonders for you. Yes it is the inferior function and yes it does come out during stress (a lot) but it also symbolises the areas of yourself that you need to work on the most if you are ever to be and feel fulfilled. Te is part of you. Accept that it's going to be uncomfortable dealing with it and...Don't ignore it.

As an INFJ I just love INFPs! Let's talk art and feelings!

I am very uncomfortable when I am in the receiving end of a compliment. I want to change the subject cause I never take myself too seriously. I am just me nothing extraordinary. We don't want to be a bother because we don't want to be bothered. We are slow to act because we are afraid to commit a mistake. I agree sometimes fake it till you make it can work. Learning by experience can be the best teacher. Its true that we forget to push the like and subscribe button too after watching a video. We get lost on our thoughts about what we think about the content of the video forgetting that the owner of the channel need the support.

I have an INFP brother and, for a long time, I thought he was too self-sacrificing. He spent many years living with and looking after our elderly parents in their old age, even though he (and some of the other children) had experienced significant abuse. Today, long after our parents' death, he has no regrets and, in fact, regularly counsels me that it's better to live with someone you dislike than to live alone. Whilst these are my ideas not his ... I sense that INFPs get a great deal of inner satisfaction from caring for others. So to dedicate themselves to assisting others is, in a way, an act of "selfish" joy. Edit: As an INTJ, living alone is my selfish joy :/ Ah, the uninterrupted peace and freedom to delve into my creative mind.

Nailed it again, Nathan! I'm an INFP who has written a dozen or so songs over the years that I believe are excellent (>) but have essentially done nothing with them over the years other than share them with some family and friends, who all are wowed by them. I know I need to--virtually obligated to--put these out in the world, but loathe the idea of self-promotion. I'm not getting any younger, so it's time to bite the bullet. Thx for the kick in the pants.

Honestly, I expected to feel sad, but I think I needed to hear a lot of this to better myself

i was so prepared on being roasted but you understand INFPs so well that none of this surprised me...because i'm so good at roasting myself 😂

AmongUs: The INFP was not the imposter. INFP: Oh yes, I am...😔

The moment you brought up how INFPs struggle with being too self sacrificing I couldn’t help but laugh. I am going through a crisis of exactly that sort right now. But where do you draw the line? I understand I need to put myself first but what or who can I, in good conscience, sacrifice so I can be happy? Great video as always! It feels like they always come just when I need them. To all my INFP brethren I love you!

BTW, will we get the "How ESTJs Defy Their Stereotype" video soon? I'd really like that because ESTJs get dumped on a lot but my ESTJ mom is actually a very good person. --INFP

If I need to choose between working in sales, accounting or business and be poor I would cut my wrists and jump off a bridge. -Me (INFP) talking about careers

The marketing part is so true. I've often heard INFPs saying how marketing is lies. To me (I'm INFJ) marketing is fascinating and it fascinates me how you can make one thing desirable while there are so many similar things on the market at the same time (it's about concepts and as we all know, INFJs love concepts). To the INFPs this would sound like manipulation but if there was no marketing then people couldn't sell their products and make no money, so they could not make an income and live. So it can actually be a good thing.

Hello infps

Personally, my most persistent realm of suckage has been the management of time, space, and money. Also just the making of money... partly due to not being interested in lucrative career fields and partly because I don't want to be imprisoned by a full-time job. I do detest self-promotion. Job interviews are the absolute worst. I just want people to test my skills directly rather than asking me to sell myself. Luckily, some jobs in my field do forgo interviews and do just that. I have had to push myself to be more aggressive and less emotionally invested when it comes to jobs, because I've had too much of a tendency to turn every job-related choice into an existential dilemma, questioning, overanalyzing, hesitating, and ultimately taking no action. Fortunately I have an abundance of self-respect that prevents me from engaging too much in #2, and #3 can be true, though all in all I think I have higher self-esteem than the average INFP.

I’ve recently learned that I am ~a lot~ more ADHD than I thought (the inattentive type) and this video just reminded me of how much being an INFP probably exacerbates all the *executive function* issues that every ADHD person ever deals with. It’s literally an executive function/dopamine disorder. I lowkey feel cheated

i am a happy INFP now and when I see some stereotypes I start to wonder if I have mistyped myself. I had a low point in life 2 years ago and changed my perspectives on many things. This video relates to that time of my life and I can see how far I've come. Thank you Nathan.

These don't scare me. My mom's ISTJ. My former boyfriend is ISTJ. My best friend is INTP. I was born for knowing what I suck at. I was also born to not do anything about it unless these people yell at me.

I love how open-minded we can be and yet be so stubborn at the same time 😂

ahh yes... lazy perfectionist

The thing that lead Fi types are strongest at is standing firmly by their own values, which is great. The flip side though is that is is very difficult to reason them out of what feels right to them, even if multiple people are presenting them with solid evidence that there is something wrong. That doesn't necessarily make them selfish but they certainly are 'self-directed'.

*reads the title* Ah yes, a very informative topic about my pain. I like it. Anyway... hello fellow INFPs out there who wants their artworks to reach a wider audience but doesn't have confidence to self-promote cause you feel like you're bugging them into doing something they don't want to do :'>

I loved the part where you said start first & learn later. Literally something I as an INFP have learned & put into practice this year! Great advice, Thank you ❤️

True literally the reason why I couldn't be a personal trainer. I hate sales! Even if the product we are selling is legit.. it still kills your soul.

Suggestion for most Introverts specifically INFPs in the rabbit hole...Let's do Bitcoin - INTP

0:54 Yeah, I realized that. Being single or simply not having met enough people with the same interests/wavelength bothers me. I thought maybe I'm not putting myself much out there. I started putting all signs like photos and write in the About info my interests/hobbies in my social media account. Just so if people place interest on me, they'd have a good understanding of me and maybe I'd attract similar people like me. Yeah, I know it's still passive "marketing" or interaction but it's better than nothing. I realized maybe I'm being too private hence I couldn't meet "my" people. I've always been the type not to share these and may be seen unopinionated because I felt too vain for doing so and felt like overexposing myself. I also have the tendency of not revealing any of my works because I feel it's not yet good enough. Then, I tell myself maybe next time until I've really mastered it. I realized I'm in this constant cycle. I realized people wouldn't know me if I don't share these; then I always try to convince myself it wouldn't make any less of me to share who I am. I should be aware of my exceeding fondness of self-improvement and evaluate my criticality/standards apparently getting high without me even noticing it.

Blown away. My jaw actually dropped from the level of insight & deep understanding. Thank you not only for your gently delivered truth bombs but the clear solutions.

so true. lol the sales thing is a running joke for me. I found a way to reconcile this flaw as to not get fired and it has taken on a life of its own. I am a skin therapist/aesthetician by trade and nerdy for products that preform. If i believe in something, I throw my passion behind it and it really sells. I say, "no I dont hate this..." it sells. On the other hand, I physically cannot sell something I do not believe in. I read the box and I'm like " um well, Im not in love." it sits on a shelf. I felt so guilty about this that I added to my advice "but if you enjoy it, by all means, do" but to sell for the sake of selling, that has never been a thing. it just feels so false.

This hits too close to home. Great work once more. As for subscribing: I have already taken such action a long time ago, and shan't do it again lest something bad would happen like me unintentionally unsubscribing. I shall therefore continue my non-action a little while longer

First of all, this video was so accurate, and I think that I needed that call out. Second, as an INFP who wants to be a freelancer I'll start next year to study Marketing at university, because I would only trust myself to sell what I do/who am I to the rest. Also, newer versions of marketing include a lot of creative and artistic process because of the promotions online (a spectacular way tu put my perfeccionism to good use), so that's a plus. Third, I have two opposite reactions to do the things: do them and explain them while they're telling me what to do, or do them at last minute. Also, pretty high standards not only bcuz of myself, but growing with strict parents doesn't help at all (to a level that I feel dangerous when I'm in perfectionist mode, because I could react so bad, or start bursting in tears, no middle point).

Off topic: this is my favorite hairstyle for Nathan.

Thank you Nathan. Your understanding and explaining functions is incredible. Wanted to delete this comment, but you deserve credit😊

Great stuff as usual. This dude has amazing communication skills when explaining the distinctions of all the MB types. I'd be curious to see his insight for those like me who score INFP and INTP interchangeably on tests depending on the phrasing of questions - when your T and F cognitive functions are almost at odds with each other, as well as S vs N, etc.

Your advice to start first and learn later is very good. Once I started doing this with creative things, I finally made progress. If you spend all your time preparing and trying to get to the point that you'll be good enough to do something well, you are not spending the time on practicing that thing which would actually cause you to improve more quickly.

I’m feeling very seen… like, *shifts uncomfortably* very, very seen…. AAAAH! LOOK AWAY!!!!

Holy moly! How insightful you are. Yes I do believe we care too much and bend ourselves into pretzels attempting to avoid hurting others…

Oh, I'd never wanna be that obtrusive *sigh* That would be forcefully draining.

Oh yes, I totally agree on several points (not in a "I see your point"-way, rather in a "oh I already thought exactly this"-way). 1. People often retrospectively mastermind their stories (and that's disgusting, I agree with you xxTPs) I'm always tempted to do it (who doesn't love a pretty story? OK, maybe high Ti-user find it very annoying) and I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one. Plus, my biased bullshit detector assures me I'm not (biased because hey, I'm an INFP, when I hope for something to be true, I can distort reality (I hope people do retrospectively mastermind because otherwise, it would mean I'm a particularly nasty human for doing it)). Anyway, I totally do this in "official" circumstances when I'm summing up a project or looking for a job... When I'm talking to "real people" though, I would tend to do the exact opposite and say that basically, I didn't take any decision and that everything was arbitrary (in a proud tone of voice). 2. I feel like I have high standards for myself. In very specific areas though. In areas that matter to me. It can be anything from not being aggressive to math. I have a drive to "get better", not just "good enough" or "better than the others". I mean, better than the others around you is very satisfying but you're never really better than anyone else (see 3.). So I don't stop there. I don't expect a point in life where I will feel like I can rest. I expect from myself to make the most of every mistake I do. If I break down when I make a mistake, that's because I have to understand why it happened, how I can avoid it in the future and if I need to take a general decision to change something about my way of living. It's hard to put yourself in question all the time, you realize you should change a lot a lot more often and it's not confortable. (disgression (OK, even bigger disgression) : what matters to me ? Everything that is sufficiently generic to be applied in every situation, that's what I consciously decided. I like math because it makes me better at inventive and logical reasoning, and that can be useful everywhere (I also like rants because it makes me think and realize where I stand) But actually, most of the things that matter to me are in the following categories, and I didn't "consciously decide it" : don't cause trouble on purpose in other people's lives, don't try to persuade other people with your convictions about life/obligations, don't participate in ignoring the outcasts and mocking the weird, don't be influenced by the group if they don't respect the first 3 rules (which is 90% of the time if you ask me), try to be as little a disruption in other people's life as you can be) 3. INFPs always doubt (not just ourselves, but we do think a lot about ourselves). Ne aux, too low Te... I feel like we don't know what will/could really happen (in terms of probability) so we just run tests of every outcome when we feel like the situation is critical (could I cope with this or that ? No ? Even if I try ? So how can I avoid this outcome?). And if eventually Ne can't find a way to avoid the problem, one can always check if there even is a problem to begin with with Te (is this outcome even possible?). But I try to avoid that, it's not super natural to me (see how this could be a problem ? 99% of the situations I plan never happen). I don't live it like a curse, I'm more worried for xNxJs with their sense of certainty (they're really impressive, but bad luck becomes The Worst Situation Ever to them I'm afraid, whereas I get a huge sense of satisfaction from the fact that I'm not surprised, which is a confidence boost and allows me to have enough determination to handle the problem. See, INFPs have to learn to emotionally manipulate themselves in order to cope with life. Wait. Am I retrospectively masterminding??? Told you I had this tendency. I dislike it though). INFPs don't really compare themselves to others or external standards, because they try not to mix "others" and their goals, just to be sure they stay themselves and keep their own standards "unbiased". I feel like that's why I usually feel like I'm worse than the others at anything that matters to me. That's just the result of my "consider the worse even if it's improbable" way of living. Which may be the secret to INFP optimism. When things go the tiniest bit well, I'm so elated that I can take on anything that happens afterwards. That was a horrible rant, ever heard anyone say that INFPs become ENFPs when tired ? I think it's very accurate.

I think I want an INFP friend. Maybe.

sending hugs to all adorable INFP in the comments 🤗

Yeeees!!! This is a valuable topic for all infp includinf myself... and it covers most areas i think 😊 I especially appreciated the self doubt part and the inability to use the inferior function which wouls solve so much of our day to day success problems.. since my husband is an estj he's really pushing me to use this te function. And it really helped this past few months after things have sort of turned back to a new normal.. and im trying to be more aware of my being actions feelings thinking when I say and do things.. it helped my mental health to be this way 👍

Hell to an INFP is working a phone in a sales room, making cold calls. It is the lowest level of Dante's Inferno.

This is why I like Intps more than Entps. They have some understanding of Fi unlike Entps.

We try to understand everything... 🎱 it's so hard for others to understand. 🎎

Being obtrusive will make me feel like I'm forcing myself somewhere that I am not wanted... I'd rather be invited where I am needed.

i sacrifice a lot for my family and when i do things for myself, for example, spending my hard earned money on myself, i feel selfish

Self-doubt is my constant companion! :(

Excellent video. As an INFP, the first one is so accurate.

Enjoyed as this is saturated with insight that I was thirsty for.

The support and understanding I got from this video is like a life-saving hug 😭

Amazing, concise, accurate, entertaining, perfect videos every time. Thank you so much!

Such an enjoyable video !! As an enfp, learned valuable stuff about my infp cousins

Great video- very much agree with your take on Fi.

this whole video was a call out but it was really good and needed, thank you!!!

Just what I needed to hear this morning.

"You have to be pushy - very pushy". That's so annoying, every time I put someone off about my work, I can empathize with them wanting to get as far away from me...

You are such a blessing really! I've been always struggling with friends and family trying to "fix" me. I know they're only trying to help but it also hurts and I can't help going into depression. You do want to help as well. But it such a beautiful delicate way that always bring to my mind what the Prophet once said "Kindness is not to be found in anything but that it adds to it beauty ...". Your kind consideration does beautify even criticism. Thank you!

😂 And the video starts off with direct hit. I suck at marketing, but I keep trying.

Ohh bugger, you've got my hands where you can see em, I'm under arrest, period.

I'm terrible for setting impossible standards and then talking myself out of even trying at all 😅 I'm working on that

4:10 I am literally in my final year of my BSc in microbiology because I read about a character who worked as a forensic pathologist and I wanted to pretend to be her. I am the definition of an imposter. lol help me I'm not meant to do science

This is very helpful THANK YOU 🌷

Nice one, dude! Looking forward to the INTP one.

Very good stuff Nathan. I don’t know how you do it! In my case I am a successful small Business Owner and Art Director/illustrator. The success part is largely influenced from other people/partners who have put me out of my comfort zone. I need someone who has full confidence in me to outsource marketing and promotion to because I have found I do not understand how value works. I am constantly told I undervalue my work, possibly because I expect the outside world to tell me what value I bring rather than falsely assert that confidence without knowing the measurables it is founded on. I recently talked with a friend in finance who was trying to get the concept across of the market determining value and I couldn’t grasp it. It felt wrong as though I was taking advantage of others or changing my prices based on how wealthy or established my clients were. It felt arbitrary but I can trust someone else to handle that. I am not good at being pushy, but fortunately it is now people finding me who are pushy. I don’t self-promote but my schedule is packed. The themes of authenticity are very relevant though. I work with clientele who are largely zealous conservatives while I am liberal and I feel like an outsider in their culture, but I have bypassed this concern by reframing the challenge to understand and speak their language. I am interested in understanding brand identities which are similar to human identities so it plays into my inclination to look for meaning. in this framing I am not required to resist or change them, just help them find themselves. They have actually been very kind and accommodating so far. For some reason it works, although I still constantly wonder if I am in the right place.

Great video! Please do one for ISTP!

I’m an INFP and I approved this message

The irony. Yesterday I complained about my job to my gf, and she said: that's because sales, marketing, self-promotion and convincing people really doesn't sit well with you. I open this video about what INFP's suc at, and the first thing I read is exactly that! :p

I feel so seen and the moment you said "You have to seek them out. You have to be somewhat pushy." I felt like vomiting. I'll go back to all the side projects I'm doing which will never be finished because they're not good enough yet. Or ever.

Of late I have been presenting frequently in public at conventions. It's really helped to have a deep belief that I have something to say and share. Along with all other beings. It helps that presenting is framed within a context and feels like I am playing an acting role, a presenting persona. I have really enjoyed this experience as it is creative. However, I'm still quiet before and after. It's been really good for my self-esteem and would recommend a similar journey.

Ouch... I needed this

This is absolutely accurate..thank you sir.

it is a sad thing when a random stranger in the internet understands you more than the people around you

Great timing with this video. (I realize it’s a few months old, but whatever - time is soup) I’m diving into a writing career and seriously considering self pub. The freedom is appealing, the self promotion not so much.

2:55 I know this kind of relationship well ..

Spot on. Thanks.

I was speed writing an essay due tomorrow and my laptop dings with the notification "Why INFPs suck" I feel called out in more ways than one lol

As an infj I do identify to these points (maybe bc I'm 9w1)

Not wanting to market is part of the reason I made the intentional decision to stick with fanfiction rather than trying to publish. I would rather keep it fun instead of stressing out over self-promotion or making a living on it. I'm actually conservative and pro-capitalist (which is why I have no qualms about working for a good company, which thankfully I am), but I just don't feel like doing business tasks at home. --INFP

uh oh panic jk i i hate myself too

Very good. Again!

Beautiful people.

Came here out of curiosity, and now I just feel completely naked lol. ~ an INFP

Thank you!

Looooove your hair!

THANK YOU

I read the title as " what INFP suck at" and was like : everything? Friendly disclaimer i ADORE INFPs and I've many INFP friends. Oc they don't suck at everything especially when it comes to emotional stuff and most of them are creative and good at arts. But they do suck at many things (when they're not fully developed due to age or bc unhealthy) for instance : confrontations, organisation, objectivity. Those are big fields and if ur bad at them it shows in many different situations. That being said: u guys are cute.

Spot on

I feel so seen! Nathan you strike again hehe

I don’t like how accurate this was

I once had to end a potential relationship (With the INFJ of my dreams) because, to simplify it, I was terrified my mother wouldn't approve because it was internet based. I was an adult at this time. My would-be boyfriend, clarifying that it wasn't to his benefit to be saying this and he was just worried about me, worried greatly that my self-sacrificing would tear me apart eventually. Perhaps. I still regret it, but I wouldn't change it.

Bish, you wanna go? Come at me. 😂 your hair looks super pretty btw

Epic hair!