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Iyanla: Fix My Dependent Sister | Full Episode | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN
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Күн бұрынIyanla travels to Chicago to help two co-dependent sisters: one whose addiction is destroying her life, and the other who is forced to take care of her irresponsible sister at the expense of her own happiness and relationships.
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@Queenin06 3 жыл бұрын
Parents need to stop having kids and making the oldest sibling feel like they have to take care of them. It’s NOT FAIR smh such a beautiful soul I’m sorry she had to endure that.
@mssweets6119 3 жыл бұрын
Amen
@gigilamoore2656 3 жыл бұрын
Life isn't fair and 99.9% of us have been raised in some sort of dysfunction because parents are people and people are not perfect. At a certain point, can't keep blaming parents.
@samanthathuli1418 3 жыл бұрын
@@gigilamoore2656 very true
@liveyourlife1777 3 жыл бұрын
@@gigilamoore2656 I strongly disagree! I was that older sibling who had to be responsible for my youngest siblings. My child hood was hell! I love my mother( may God rest her soul) but she should have made better choices, She and my father( who wasn't there). I am not judging her, but after the first child you should be able to know not to have more unless you are prepared! I will not have my oldest child be robbed of their childhood for my responsibilities!
@Gigilovehugs 3 жыл бұрын
I am the oldest child I was changing my sibling diapers at 10 and 16 years old. I didn't want any kids until I worked at a children's hospital and I seen the love in the parents eyes. I was around 33 years old then I am 38 now still desire kids.
@gailfulson7384 3 жыл бұрын
I'm crying because she's like a little girl. Who didn't get a chance to be a little girl God bless her
@stardust2172 3 жыл бұрын
It's never about not having the chance of being a child. It's the damaging things that happens while you are a child.
@janelle_111 3 жыл бұрын
Me too🥺😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
@pamelalong233 3 жыл бұрын
Wee bit buddy wee t
@Prophetessdeecarter 3 жыл бұрын
I thought the same thing. She's a little girl in a woman's body. Even her hairstyle is that of a little girl. She stopped growing at 11. I pray it works out for all of them.
@newleft2254 3 жыл бұрын
@@stardust2172 Same difference. A child should be safe, innocent, carefree. She couldn't be a child.
@plitarosarita 3 жыл бұрын
Iyanla knows how to break it down!! She has shown me how many people walk around with so much hurt. I binge watched previous episodes during quarantine and found so many enlightenments about my own life. Love her!
@alicemiriah 3 жыл бұрын
Pamela Curlee sane. I definitely gain insight from this show as well as her interviews. I can listen to her speak all day.
@kardon4996 3 жыл бұрын
Well put !
@katiekat8329 3 жыл бұрын
She has such a soothing voice too...like the best bedtime story voice ever lol
@booboograyson1664 3 жыл бұрын
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@booboograyson1664 3 жыл бұрын
@@alicemiriah 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@gigilamoore2656 3 жыл бұрын
If fixing another is breaking you, you need to do something different.
@basicallyv9873 3 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@ladyclarke9903 3 жыл бұрын
Not necessarily! Emotions Are Relatable! Blessingz
@nolaclarke253 3 жыл бұрын
Easier said than done my dear.
@gigilamoore2656 3 жыл бұрын
@@nolaclarke253 For sure, but people do it. Those who usually succeed don't start with a negative frame of mind.
@Iamniko__ 3 жыл бұрын
Lol if you think it’s that easy, you missed the whole point of the episode. It’s mental health and survivors guilt. Google it. Stop gaslighting people with your words. Iyanla does it better.
@theconfidentnovice5789 3 жыл бұрын
she needs more than rehab. She needs life skills and continued counseling. Learning how to healthily cope with emotional issues will take way more than a 90 day program.
@vincentmangoma4128 3 жыл бұрын
Iyanla I thank you you have improved my counselling skill a whole lit after watchìng you in action.Thank you and may Good bless you and your work.
@Coolkem1 3 жыл бұрын
Of course. Getting sober is a good start 😊
@queenvee9729 3 жыл бұрын
One step at a time.
@shakanuhglorie8444 3 жыл бұрын
CoolKem C a great start
@rrogers5077 3 жыл бұрын
✅
@chaffroncorder646 3 жыл бұрын
When children are robbed of their rightful place by adults who don't step into their rightful place as parents, it disturbs the entire order of a family. When she said "you're the only mother I've ever known"...that's too much for anyone 😔. My heart goes out to them.
@smilergal89 3 жыл бұрын
The sad reality of it but unfortunately very little anyone can do to stop it (without violating human rights) particularly in the case of those who have addictions and mental health challenges for example
@mimilee7696 3 жыл бұрын
I’m an elementary teacher. And I have so many students who are the oldest or middle child and they are made to take care of their siblings. And will get punished by grounding, spanking, or worse if they don’t take care of their younger siblings, do the household chores, and do their school work. Some of these kids come to school so exhausted and my heartbreaks because they’re babies being robbed of their childhood and innocence.
@jaybae7315 3 жыл бұрын
The thing is WHY didn't relatives take the both of them.
@SunshineKK99 3 жыл бұрын
"You're allowing her to be the person you're trying to save her from"! Wow, mind blown, that is DEEP Ms.Iyanla!!!!
@MsBubu900 3 жыл бұрын
@prophet Dr kofi oduro shut up!! You have come to KZfaq too? Fake prophet. Wolf in sheep clothing. Destroyer of families. Judgment awaits you. You lazy fool. Go and find a job for yourself and stop scamming people. Onye ori
@ayandakhumalo8692 3 жыл бұрын
Deep stuff hey.
@Lollii_Popp 3 жыл бұрын
I love it when Ms. Iyanla starts off with, "why am I here?"
@shanec9840 3 жыл бұрын
The next meeting I go to, that's exactly what I'm going to say.
@Lollii_Popp 3 жыл бұрын
@@shanec9840 oooh, the visual i just had of the attendees faces😂😂😂.
@snsn7251 3 жыл бұрын
@@shanec9840 🤣🤣🤣
@austinrichards1740 3 жыл бұрын
Okoyé Forever period
@Brwniee95 3 жыл бұрын
@@shanec9840 😩😂 yooo
@AngelasTravelAdventures 3 жыл бұрын
This episode made me cry. You could feel the love the sisters had for each other, they are both beautiful. I hope they are flourishing and would love to hear how they are doing 5 years later.( filmed 2015, now 2020)
@bsinita_wokeone 3 жыл бұрын
Oh didn't know this was filmed 5 years ago 🤔🤯
@mao1055 3 жыл бұрын
@@bsinita_wokeone Right when the episode starts, you can see a caption that tells you the original airdate. Pause at 0:04.
@Rebecca-hc5ju 3 жыл бұрын
Someone above said they're both on Facebook but I haven't looked.
@quie4013 3 жыл бұрын
Google “Charese and Andrea” the first post that pops up, will take you to Charese’s Facebook page. They both seem to be doing really well
@rosseryankeegirl 3 жыл бұрын
All the episodes make me cry. 😢 There sooo many dysfunctional families out here...including mine.
@XXMissChanelleXX 3 жыл бұрын
Iyanla literally threw the rock at her lap like it ain't made of stone lol.....
@emm8348 3 жыл бұрын
I thought that was so disrespectful. I think Iyanla is mean and uncaring the way she speaks to the ones she supposes to care about.
@theequinnnn 3 жыл бұрын
@@emm8348 is life sweet and soft to you ?? Do you always get things softly placed into your lap?’
@PhleGmatic1 3 жыл бұрын
I think she was sending her an indirect message. "That's how her mum and dad dropped her sis to her to take care of her without them caring how it will be like for her or how it will hurt"
@lydian5762 3 жыл бұрын
@@emm8348 She been carrying heavier and more damaging issues that stone probably felt like a baloon.
@ljackson24 3 жыл бұрын
@@PhleGmatic1 EXACTLY
@bridgettemakgareetsa6269 3 жыл бұрын
When she said i don't want to end up like my mama, 😭😭😭😭😭😭my heart just dropped.
@woosahwitchelle 3 жыл бұрын
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
@wisdomfisher1701 3 жыл бұрын
I always have the same THOUGHT!
@PhleGmatic1 3 жыл бұрын
😢 😢 😢 Heartbreaking
@amandarecoveryjones8216 3 жыл бұрын
Same. Had to brace myself
@natashacarter0214 3 жыл бұрын
Same😭😭😭My God🙏🏽❤️
@miikamona 3 жыл бұрын
Whew it’s crazy to see how trauma can cause a person to literally stay stuck at whatever age or mindset it occurred. You can still see that scared 8year old in her sister. I pray she got herself together she’s beautiful. Wish them both the best
@moreangelmoon 3 жыл бұрын
“Who you think gon carry it, me?” Lmao gotta love Iyanla 😭
@lawandstreeter7074 3 жыл бұрын
It's just that simple. The symbolism she uses.
@royaltii_ 3 жыл бұрын
"You been carrying it all these years" Gotta love the realness 💖
@hotshotmose4900 3 жыл бұрын
Damn! She's amazing, the whole world needs lyanla's healing work.
@bernadettsamer1194 3 жыл бұрын
@prophet Dr kofi odurop
@renataburnette2241 3 жыл бұрын
We don't deserve this woman but I'm so happy we have her.
@chrisy-e 3 жыл бұрын
Tru
@KingdomReign 3 жыл бұрын
Same thing we should say about Jesus, seeing as He died for us.
@Iamniko__ 3 жыл бұрын
We deserve Iyanla! She was gifted to serve us all! She’s heaven on earth. Literally learn so much from her. Such a gem she is.
@mariskatjon9115 3 жыл бұрын
She is not a BELIEVER of JESUS CHRIST haven't heard she mentioned JESUS name at all!!!
@SirenScorpio 3 жыл бұрын
@@mariskatjon9115 she believes in Source, The Creator... From which Jesus would hail from. & She mentions Source often! You are not observant and speak falsely amongst praise for this very enlightened woman. Be aware of your own actions before you seek to tear another down. Plz find true love & peace within you.
@andreatrue3054 3 жыл бұрын
Today I learned the term "false responsibility" and how I have addressed certain relationships. I am free.
@austinrichards1740 3 жыл бұрын
Andrea True omg I feel that way with a friend
@princesslene55 3 жыл бұрын
@Andrea and everyone else plzzzz Do not call the Bishop,all they know is spiritual attack.God is always revealing spiritual attacks to african pastors n Bishop's but never reveal the solution for lack of drinkingwater, electricity, hospital and etc smh.
@cind4846 3 жыл бұрын
Today, I've learned the term 'Survivor's guilt'; which is what I see in myself when it comes to my mentally ill and demonic possessed older brother who is so dependant on using his family. Now, I am finally releasing him out of my life and setting myself FREE in Jesus name!
@aliciathimo2038 3 жыл бұрын
Same with me
@asantitracey6612 3 жыл бұрын
Same. This was helpful
@itsjustmeflo8684 3 жыл бұрын
Bro I felt trapped and burdened as the oldest sister has. Bc I too went through that with my siblings. Except for the fact that I ended up being an addict at one point. Only through God's mercy and grace I am clean, happy, and blessed. My mom is still alive and tries to make me responsible for her and my siblings still! And I am 32 yrs old now.
@catherha1 3 жыл бұрын
Bless God and you 🙏❣️
@yourfavouritegirl90 3 жыл бұрын
Congratulations! I’m proud of you💜
@ForeverLuckyLika 3 жыл бұрын
Congrats on your sobriety. Sometimes we have to distance ourselves from family for our own sanity and mental health.
@MsChristyAmanda 3 жыл бұрын
💕
@learnenglishwithsimatanga9999 3 жыл бұрын
This lady is talented with understand ing others and helping them solve their own problems.
@sasha48189 3 жыл бұрын
This is sad
@traceydumase 3 жыл бұрын
She's very blessed. It's definitely a God given gift
@traceydumase 3 жыл бұрын
@Jenny Agrippa I guess we'll find out what's what some day... in the meantime, each to their own 😊❤️
@booboograyson1664 3 жыл бұрын
Ammmmmmennn!!!!
@katiekat8329 3 жыл бұрын
“You need to go to the mirror and slap the first person that shows up”. I’m soooooo using that line! Lol
@lyricsoftheart 3 жыл бұрын
Lol 😂 that part
@jaleneaaliyah 3 ай бұрын
RIGHT 😂😂!
@isciasoverall6393 3 жыл бұрын
When that first rock landed in her lap, she felt that. I did too!
@ranaebarker1443 3 жыл бұрын
Andrea mad me cry. I can still see the little girl in her. My prayers are for her success and growth
@kardon4996 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah! U definitely r right! I felt like hugging her SOMEHOW! But am hopeful both sisters will be fine .......
@Aubz47 3 жыл бұрын
When iyanla was hugging Andrea at the end, you could see the 9 year old girl in her. Afraid, unsure, lonely, and hurt all bottled up inside. I’m glad she made it through rehab. Bless all these beautiful women!
@sonitaluvfamily5627 3 жыл бұрын
Lord. Help me be a better version of myself, to be an example. Bless your heart ladies 🤗
@shanec9840 3 жыл бұрын
✋ I receive this prayer in my soul.
@sonitaluvfamily5627 3 жыл бұрын
@Bishop Oyedepo not interested
@charlita25 3 жыл бұрын
I’m loving 🥰 the natural hairstyles
@DylanRomanov 3 жыл бұрын
They are some of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen, I really hope Andrea gets some peace and healing
@4real197 3 жыл бұрын
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@sylliemwesh6016 3 жыл бұрын
I love Andrea's hair
@Poopie22 3 жыл бұрын
Me too but girl they are suffering 😅😂
@ElvinaLSmith 4 ай бұрын
Yes. Little sister’s hair is so pretty!
@bellagrace9812 3 жыл бұрын
My heart is breaking for Andrea. She is bound to feel her sister is abandoning her like her mother did (even though she's not). This is hard to watch.
@matoakatutoring 3 жыл бұрын
@prophet Dr kofi oduro how you get all that from a letter B 😲
@JessieSmithMusic 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting a full episode!! I don’t have cable anymore and I’ve greatly missed my Mother Iyanla!
@analishalovesyou98 3 жыл бұрын
Girlll free movie sites you can watch full everything now a days
@ItsLotus89 3 жыл бұрын
I haven’t had cable in a couple years now 😩 KZfaq is it lol
@faymcdonald2661 3 жыл бұрын
@@analishalovesyou98 in
@faymcdonald2661 3 жыл бұрын
@@analishalovesyou98 p
@Brwniee95 3 жыл бұрын
@@ItsLotus89 me too I just watch KZfaq or Netflix 🤷🏾♀️😂
@stephaniemariah8702 3 жыл бұрын
I have watched these videos lately and I see how parents can destroy children whether intentional or not and the children have to live with pain all their life. I pray to God everyday that he gives me strength and wisdom to raise my daughter into a wonderful and decent human being!!
@stephaniemariah8702 3 жыл бұрын
@Bishop Oyedepo There are no spiritual attacks on me as I am covered by the blood of Jesus.... Go spread your lies somewhere else.
@Hopedealer31 3 жыл бұрын
When she got in the car to go to the meeting and was talking about "everyone just here to jump on poor Andrea. Take a vacation at my expense." Being a recovering addict myself, I knew she wasn't ready. For me personally, and for several others I've talked to and known, they had to hit their absolute rock bottom. Pretty much it's either prison(you can get drugs easier there than on the outside most times) or death. Everytime either I was court ordered or forced into some kind of "intervention", I would do it, BUT only because it BENEFITED me in ways not related to my sobriety at ALL. But, in March of this year, I nearly died on my dad's birthday. I, for the first time, was actually ready on my own, and was in rehab a few days later!!! Been clean, sober, and in my very own HOME (that just got decorated for Halloween mind you 😁) since March 2nd!!! So know, that when we the addicts are ready to get help, that we, us, the addict, the HUMAN.... WE DO RECOVER!!!! Relapse is part of recovery too, so don't give up, it's good she is addressing the reasons WHY she uses substances to self medicate. That was another biggie for me. Until I dealt with those, I was bound to continue to get high because those deep seeded issues were still there and still there enough for me to self medicate to cover or numb them. Love all these beautiful Queens!!! I'm so proud they asked for help, they have an amazing teacher! I'm so ready to see their glow up!!!! 🖤❤🖤❤🖤❤
@JohnsonKayla12 3 жыл бұрын
Thats amazing! Wishing you and your future all the best.
@valeriewarren9240 3 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your new life!
@Dannniellleee 3 жыл бұрын
Congratulations! I used the AA rules to begin my recovery from years of toxic abuse by my family. Some of our wounds come from drug abuse, and I’ve begun to see destructive behavior as addiction and obsession- Some choose drugs and alcohol, others choose unhealthy situations and toxic people (and believe we’re safer without a substance). Peace and love to you!
@Rhee.P 3 жыл бұрын
Congrats on you choosing your life!!! You are worth all amazing things❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@busumakundabwalya 3 жыл бұрын
Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉.You are an inspiration showing us that the past doesn't determine our future 🤗
@natoshiapurnell5652 3 жыл бұрын
We need a Where are they now episode
@missondo4887 3 жыл бұрын
Trueee
@ShadaeMastersAstrology 3 жыл бұрын
We really do
@lifewithdeonna9202 3 жыл бұрын
Seriously.
@ForeverLuckyLika 3 жыл бұрын
Yesss
@1990KeyonaJones 3 жыл бұрын
I found their facebook pages. Look up Charese Howard & Andrea Howard
@MuvaTwerks 3 жыл бұрын
Iyanla calls stuff out so beautifully!
@alicemiriah 3 жыл бұрын
She’s such a beautiful woman. I’m hoping she’s received/receiving all of the healing she needs 💕💕💕
@michellegeorge8947 3 жыл бұрын
She is really pretty. She just needs to stop drinking. She has some real demons walking around with
@sayitloudblcknproud 3 жыл бұрын
She really is!
@Xenonmorph__ 3 жыл бұрын
I love the visualization of carrying the bag of rocks around. That's what trauma feels like. It's time to identify what rocks we have in our bags and finally put em down.
@blackcosmos 3 жыл бұрын
"Drunk in the backyard is 1 thing, dead in the casket is another" 😖😩
@davisholman8149 3 ай бұрын
And that young woman is SO PRETTY. She doesn’t see it - she could be anything she wants to be & doesn’t see all that potential.💔
@jboepro1 3 жыл бұрын
When Auntie said "holdon" and ran outside to tell the sister to put 2 more rocks in her bag, I apologize but I lost it 😂🤣😂🤦🏾♂️
@prettyblackageblue9948 3 жыл бұрын
These sister gave no attitude was ready to listen really good episode
@marysutton434 3 жыл бұрын
Well said.
@shaylaaddison772 3 жыл бұрын
The older sister is BEAUTIFUL
@indigogirl5172 3 жыл бұрын
Iyanla is not a psychologist. Her approach is unorthodox. She rips the bandaid off. Shakes them awake…so they can acknowledge their problems and do the work. I like it.
@TwoTrees777 3 жыл бұрын
"ALL big girls have a purse" When I look into Andrea's eyes I can still see the little girl in her I wish her nothing but the best that life has to offer her...the Father has a plan and purpose for both of these beautiful sisters. I loved her big sis also ...she has such a huge heart what a blessing to have had her as a covering all those years despite the damage it caused she was a HUGE blessing and covering
@lovehope06 3 жыл бұрын
This show has helped me heal and communicate with my family about the abuser in the family however they didn’t receive it well but it’s there and I’m free 🙌🏾🙌🏾
@titilayoakins1269 3 жыл бұрын
Well done !!! This show has helped a lot of us
@simbae170 3 жыл бұрын
You are free, be at peace. Show is helping my do self therapy as well
@lonerloner5032 2 жыл бұрын
💖💖💖
@sha-maisworld7515 3 жыл бұрын
Well let’s talk about what an amazing sister she is😭
@YvetteLopez-ry2yz 3 ай бұрын
Waeeryuioxcvbuinkunkioaxz❤🎉😅
@YvetteLopez-ry2yz 3 ай бұрын
👌🏝️❤️💪🦷🪒👰👀🇵🇷🌹💋👅👃
@Chacha2810z 3 жыл бұрын
Charese is now at Harvard university ❤️
@msblackberry09 3 жыл бұрын
@Coily Cue Andrea’s brother passed away recently and she’s drinking again per the Facebook post I just saw. My heart hurts for her.
@OrganicallyLuxeLife 3 жыл бұрын
@@msblackberry09 oohh nooo
@msblackberry09 3 жыл бұрын
@@OrganicallyLuxeLife I know. I just pray that she gets clean once and for all. She's been through so much and I know she's broken.
@ZeeMadison123 3 жыл бұрын
Wowwww
@kkibela 3 жыл бұрын
Im not sure... I think this is just lack of awareness for what to do.. Any and all addictions are an escape from self development.. So why cant she get addicted to being healthy..
@michealburnam 3 жыл бұрын
The younger sister was such a beautiful baby, still beautiful now and more beautiful when she gets healthy.
@ashleyb9966 3 жыл бұрын
“The adults in your life failed you” is such a powerful statement smh
@panicfan2006 3 жыл бұрын
I hope the older sister break free from the younger sister and lives her life.
@tinamaxson2242 3 жыл бұрын
So if you took care of her,who took care of you?
@ILoveMyMelanin. 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly.
@adeyabell3202 3 жыл бұрын
God took care of her and held her up!😉
@redvelvetcakeYUM 3 жыл бұрын
Except her father, truly it was no one. No one took take care of Sharise the way she needed.
@MsJoyce31202 3 жыл бұрын
Nobody. That's why she is stuck.
@knifefightduchess 3 жыл бұрын
she brought that sack out and i was like, “baaaag laaadyyyy, you. gon. hurt. back.” lmao
@amirahbemiah5894 3 жыл бұрын
“carrying all them bags like thaaaat” lol
@Leedominiq 3 жыл бұрын
I guess nobody ever told you, all you must hold on to, is youuu😭
@Azulakayes 3 жыл бұрын
Me too...in Ms. Badu's voice
@zombieboobies 3 жыл бұрын
I respect Iyanla because she has been through the struggle and came out on top. ❤️
@donnaokafor 3 жыл бұрын
Thats what makes her genuine and relatable.
@FaithandNova 3 жыл бұрын
I learn more and more about her with each episode. Goodness she's been thru so much
@blessedswimmer 3 жыл бұрын
🗣”Put one in there for ‘helplessness’, and put one in there for ‘hopelessness!’”
@peterpatton2867 3 жыл бұрын
Lol, ☝🏼that right there!😂😂😂😁
@toxicteezy8310 3 жыл бұрын
I heard that
@racheluwase2603 3 жыл бұрын
This
@terrigarcia2750 3 жыл бұрын
I love Iyanla's wisdom and strength. She wasn't born with it. She's learned it from life! Now she works to help others learn. In my opinion, she's a living saint!!
@belleame1064 3 жыл бұрын
Did we all note that the elder sister did not want to share the burden ( bag)with her younger sister. But her sister threw it back.
@kgabomolele3346 3 жыл бұрын
She's used to it its sad
@ris7ahs907 3 жыл бұрын
@@kgabomolele3346 Yes i picked up on it , so sad
@missondo4887 3 жыл бұрын
Trueeeee - amazing observation plus she kept carrying it around, she could’ve let it on the table
@fallyneprinciotta9058 3 жыл бұрын
@@stacieraexoxo4562 girl you could of proved your point without speaking down on race. We should be lifting each other up on a channel and sensitive topic like this. Just my opinion/observation.
@stacieraexoxo4562 3 жыл бұрын
@@fallyneprinciotta9058 ...oh really Karen? You can go right over to the Trump and White Nationalist channels or Tara Mongeau and the White Feminist vloggers and preach all you want about race sensitivity. The woman who posted the initial and exaggerated comment about the girl suffering from alcoholism, triggered by PTSD doesn't need anymore false accusations and character attacks by people commenting who obviously are experiencing comphrensive, literacy and audio-visual inadequacies.
@quannasharp1982 3 жыл бұрын
Iyanla has no problem laughing by herself!
@smile2day162 3 жыл бұрын
I pray Sharese finds the strength she needs to move forward and release her sister... so many times people focus on the younger party or the party that acts out and the one that "appears" to hold it together is left out to dry. She needs love and prayer too. Her children dont deserve a "portion" or broken piece of her bc she is giving the best of her to her sister.
@Trish.H487 3 жыл бұрын
Those sisters love each other. I felt that 😭😭😭
@24KinfO 3 жыл бұрын
That lady was appalled when that rock hit her leg 🤣. Iyanla probably will say, you bruised yourself. *message*
@1LadyTee 3 жыл бұрын
I grew up with Chareese. My heart has always gone out for the family because they were always withdraw. She has always been a sweetheart.
@dianasaintfleur6602 3 жыл бұрын
This is a perfect example of someone who wants to heal. Shay Johnson did not come with an open mind.
@faithmwanakatwe6267 3 жыл бұрын
no fr shay was so prideful
@FirstNameLastName-mg1px 3 жыл бұрын
Disrespectful as HELL and I really don't like her after that 💯 I see exactly what Scrap was talking about on the L&HH reunion.
@FaithandNova 3 жыл бұрын
She came for more TV time.
@dianasaintfleur6602 3 жыл бұрын
@ChocolateMe91 ! I disagree when you are battle with issues and you really want them to be resolved nothing will trigger you to not make the best of the opportunity that is presented.
@jessygane3580 3 жыл бұрын
Everyone is different shay has anger lots of anger
@jeromelj1010 3 жыл бұрын
Leaving family to fend for themselves if you're a child is the best act of Self love
@9mind236 3 жыл бұрын
My heart kept breaking during this episode. Bless these women. Iyanla, tv or no tv, you’ve broken some yolks, opened some heavy hearts, and healed folks that weren’t even on your show.
@user-kn7rr5qv9t 3 жыл бұрын
This was very emotional to watch.. I could literally feel Andrea's inner turmoil as she told the story of her mother being burned and thrown out the window (bless her sweet soul)!! I would really like to know how she's doing in 2020....
@robinmcgett6220 3 жыл бұрын
Me too. The system has failed us as children of abuse there has got to be a better way to help .
@bellagrace9812 3 жыл бұрын
Having a loving mother and father in my life was a great blessing, but how do you get counciling for a love you never had and crave till the day you die. I cant imagine the pain these sisters have endured. I pray God finds a way to bring the love they so deserve and heal their broken hearts.
@kardon4996 3 жыл бұрын
I do not know whether its correct but according to a person who is very very close to me told me, she could forget about her aboundenment through her children. May be it will work ..........
@VinnieMcVay 3 жыл бұрын
Finally someone gets it. EXACTLY
@DIrizarry07 3 жыл бұрын
You learn how to love and re-parent yourself 💖
@triciagray9474 3 жыл бұрын
A counselor will help them learn to love themselves more profoundly then their parents failures. Self love is transformative and freeing from the mistakes that others have made
@tetebabymo8849 4 ай бұрын
This comment touched my very soul 🥺😢made me weep and call on the name of Jesus. 🙏🏾🙌🏾
@bettieroyster36 3 жыл бұрын
Iyanla is AMAZING. I've been following her since the 1990s. In doing so my life has been so much better listening to her teaching & guidance. I trust her words and live everything about her. Iyanla you fixed my life and I have never met you. I saw you in person in Raleigh in 1996. That changed my life. I started living different acting different and caring about me more. Iyanla words helped me run my salon better. This Lady is a God sent. I thank you Iyanla for being the person that you are.❤❤❤😇❤❤😇❤❤❤😇
@missmash6493 3 жыл бұрын
@Bishop Oyedepo 🤣🤣🤣🤣 copy and paste huh,
@Carrrnversations 3 жыл бұрын
She was so scared. 💕... You can see that little girl inside of her.. I pray she found healing
@RA-kz5jc 3 жыл бұрын
They are both beautiful sisters. I hope she gets well.
@BeanieBug2You 3 жыл бұрын
This one hits home , all the way thru my house....wish I had this support so I can get better.....damn near very same story....if ur reading this please pray for me 🙏🏾
@m.a.sweetz2965 3 жыл бұрын
🙌
@pattyfisher8839 3 жыл бұрын
Sending Love and hugs to you
@willhector1949 3 жыл бұрын
You are the redeemed of the Lord, I plead the blood of Jesus over your life in Jesus name amen
@TheShevonyahShow 3 жыл бұрын
Praying for you!🥰
@zandilesilinga7851 4 ай бұрын
I hope you are doing well❤
@stoplayin21 3 жыл бұрын
Little sister look young and her mannerism are very childlike
@nadirahcroom1938 3 жыл бұрын
She hasn't grown up. I hope she's better now.
@redvelvetcakeYUM 3 жыл бұрын
It’s called “arrested psychological development”. Being 'stuck' in an emotional level of development. Depending on the timing of trauma (childhood, adolescent or teen) determines the symptoms of Arrested Psychological Development. So you are absolutely accurate in your observation!
@redvelvetcakeYUM 3 жыл бұрын
@@nadirahcroom1938 Someone in the comments (decided to be a Facebook detective) said Charese was accepted to Havard University! However, the other sister has since relapsed after her brother passed away.
@tiphneewestry3129 3 жыл бұрын
OWN can we get some "where are they now" episodes please? Don't let Iyanla retire before you tape those please.
@jessicasalgado5570 3 жыл бұрын
Pleaseeeee!
@lesleymcclain 4 ай бұрын
Just watching this is what I needed to do. I wish I had her as a therapist for my mother and I
@emceereach 3 жыл бұрын
This is my girlfriend's life. She has this exact dynamic with her sister. It's heart-wrenching to see how sad Andrea is. You can tell she's really broken. I pray she heal and find wholeness. Parents must always remember their sins are visited upon their children.
@efeaideloje2744 3 жыл бұрын
Wait did anyone else hear Ms. Iyanla say “wahala” lolll
@shannelgrace8535 3 жыл бұрын
Why do some ppl have children? They just create a cycle of pain, hurt and heartache
@AllThingsVon1277 3 жыл бұрын
I had two siblings i had to be the mom my mom had a nervous breakdown and was beaten by a boyfriend. I never allowed it to bother me. Thus my faith in Christ help me. My sister's are deceased for other reason although my middle sister she never seemed to be bothered with our pain of life situations. Although she tried to commit suicide. I had thoughts of it when i went on the darkside of life. I'm grateful to say I've succeeded with Degrees and now taking care of my mom. My story!!!!!!!!
@andycalimara 3 жыл бұрын
Let me say this with as much kindness as possible. It must have bothered you if you tried to commit suicide.
@alwaysaccurate8725 3 жыл бұрын
Keep Going👑
@confidentalways7526 3 жыл бұрын
Kudos to you. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
@TheMOBLife 3 жыл бұрын
So sad to know that there are people walking around with this much pain. So heartbreaking. I hope & pray these ladies are doing well today.
@mauhuff 3 жыл бұрын
The oldest sister has such a pure and beautiful spirit about her. You can tell that she is afraid yet she is truly ready to LIVE. Praying for her that Jesus gives her a peace about her baby sister and that she is able to move in the right direction.
@autumn_inthemoonlight1301 3 жыл бұрын
Who love an update, on these two beautiful ladies.
@marysutton434 3 жыл бұрын
@Marquisha Jerry Aw no. 😩
@Darkdemonoflite 3 жыл бұрын
Every single one of us are products of our childhood. For better or worse! Parents treat your kids better than well. Keep their journey to adulthood healthy.
@margh737 3 жыл бұрын
I feel for Andrea. I understand why her sister wants to protect and keep her close for the rest of her life.
@StandupGirl-ym3ey 3 жыл бұрын
Wooowwwwww!!! This opens up my eyes to a lot and explains what codependency looks like!! Woowwww!! Can we get an update?
@missmash6493 3 жыл бұрын
@Bishop Oyedepo Mmmm so in order for your prayer to be successful she has to donate to foundation lol , God is on her side , He will protect her, she doesn't need to donate for God to fight for her
@tiffanylatoya 3 жыл бұрын
@Bishop Oyedepo you are the devil
@Mrs51315 3 жыл бұрын
I am an ex addict an I'm praying for sis but unfortunately I don't quite think she's surrender yet! It's a process as long as she keeps coming back something will eventually click! Prayers for the still suffering addict and alcoholic 🙏🏽
@monicakay8973 3 жыл бұрын
Iyanla by me watching these episodes you are fixing my life. My mum used to drink a lot,to forget her pain. She wasn't a bad mum. We ate,had a roof over our heads and were clean and went to school BUT, mum used to drink a lot.
@teeynggod2168 3 жыл бұрын
This was a really powerful episode.
@KKandLex 3 жыл бұрын
So powerful
@redeemthetime9990 3 жыл бұрын
Incredibly powerful.
@tiffanylatoya 3 жыл бұрын
I’m in tears, some traumas are so deep... how do you overcome something that you’re afraid to confront? I pray they all found the much needed peace ☹️
@RestorationEdenMinistries 3 жыл бұрын
Classic parentification right here. I went through it. 2020 has given me the gift of being freed from it.
@milacn 3 жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to them, cause they really seem to be nice people. Hope they're safe, healthy and happy.
@michellegeorge8947 3 жыл бұрын
You can see she is scared to be by herself. She also needs therapy. Which I'm sure she gonna get when she go
@catherha1 3 жыл бұрын
That's your get high right there!! I felt that. Been a caregiver since childhood... Dropped my bag of rocks recently...
@jessicaemilia101 3 жыл бұрын
And me you never picked them up
@chersono5506 3 жыл бұрын
Man she ain't gotta throw that rock on her😭😭
@tshegofatsoleepile7849 3 жыл бұрын
It hurt seeing that
@princesslene55 3 жыл бұрын
That symbolized the heavy loads she's been carrying,she needed to feel it to realize it however I get your point.
@icebox9339 3 жыл бұрын
@Bishop Oyedepo shameless scammer
@redvelvetcakeYUM 3 жыл бұрын
Did you see the episode with the man with 32+ kids holding all those baby dolls?! 😆 Ms. Iyanla wasn’t playing that day. She kept piling up them baby dolls in that man’s lap and arms!
@RubyRim 3 жыл бұрын
I feel Andrea's pain. It is much, much harder than anyone may think it is. Getting up and accepting what happened to you isn't your fault, is not easy
@ashleighsway4179 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful sisters. Both respectful no drama. I can tell they love each other so much. The older sister has a beautiful personality .
@celestialextraterrestrial305 3 жыл бұрын
This one is really sad because you can tell that not only the younger sister has had an arrested development, but she is also suffering from PTSD as well. I can only imagine how it would feel like seeing your mother get tortured and abused then abusing hardcore drugs. And then the older sister carrying all of burden on her back. My heart really goes out to the both of them 💓
@follojesusfj2705 3 жыл бұрын
What is discerning to me is when children have mothers and fathers that actually take care and ❤ them but they don't appreciate it. Then there is this story.. 🤷♀️Go figure.
@cherylnelson5155 3 жыл бұрын
So very true
@sleeptherapy1595 3 жыл бұрын
Yes preach
@yuuablewon 3 жыл бұрын
It’s always going to be a struggle as a child and as a parent. The children haven’t gone through anything
@jenniferjackson5382 3 жыл бұрын
I try to explain this to my own children, some parents are selfish, torture their own even kill but exposure is real! God bless these ladies
@FaithandNova 3 жыл бұрын
Yep I got cousins like that. 3 kids 2 of them act like they was raised by wolves. Meanwhile my aunt and uncle was the most amazing arents.
@coyottittocoetzee438 3 жыл бұрын
Out of all the episodes that I've cried my heart out, this one hit home. 💔💔😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Andrea is exactly like my mother. I even have a headache from all the crying. I really really hope and pray Miss Andrea acknowledges that she needs help and gets it. They are so beautiful and humble 😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️
@GeorgiaGirl__ 3 жыл бұрын
I’m the oldest (I have a younger sister) and my mom had to leave us at home at night so that she could work. This started at age 6 and my sister was 2. That was a lot of responsibility on me being a little girl having to “take care” of my baby sister. I couldn’t tell anyone what was going on and never got a chance to express my emotions. This is why I have a hard time expressing my feelings to this day. I’m a work in progress and it still bothers me to this day at 33 years old. I’m thinking about going to counseling.
@hannahrogers6956 3 жыл бұрын
It’s a lot ❤️brave girl ❤️
@SRegiMs 3 жыл бұрын
I need a follow up episode. The end made me emotional she was terrified to go to LA. But her coming back to workin in her sisters salon again and probably still living with her makes me think not much has changed.
@alicemiriah 3 жыл бұрын
Sara K. I definitely want to see a follow up of this episode, as well.
@blessedmslady7341 3 жыл бұрын
Did anyone catch their last names and/or the name of the salon❓❓ I'd really like an update too‼️
@atiyaz 3 жыл бұрын
@@blessedmslady7341 Hey! Charese's last name is Howard. The salon is Amazing Kinkz Natural Hair Shop in Detroit, Michigan.
@blessedmslady7341 3 жыл бұрын
@@atiyaz Thank you 👍 I'd like to know if she MADE IT ❣️ So I'm gonna turn into B M L- Private Investigator.
@TimeisUp22 3 жыл бұрын
Anybody got an update?
@natashakalanda622 3 жыл бұрын
She is speaking to me. Survivors guilt and addicted to being or feeling burdened.
@sanashan9093 3 жыл бұрын
The old sister the most sweetest poor innocent heart ❤️ loving and caring woman, her soul, mind heart and her body submitted to her little sister, oh I wish to have sister like this
@AyooCashley 3 жыл бұрын
33:57 the way all the sisters looked at each other so proudly and loving even though so many issues are being discussed you can tell they love each other passed the moon and back
@shadaywhilby6439 3 жыл бұрын
You could see how stunted Andreas growth is. She’s like a little girl so scared... I feel for her, I cried this whole episode. It’s the best I’ve seen so far.
@octoberjohnson9939 4 ай бұрын
"Its okay to be afraid. You dont know the you that you are becoming, you dont know her yet but i think that she will be more than enough to hold you up." Wow!! I've never experienced this particular situation but that powerful statement spoke to my soul. 💯
@shelocsher2396 3 жыл бұрын
There is still something so young and innocent in their eyes, and about their demeanors. I wish them healing and happiness 💛
@novera.tambunan 3 жыл бұрын
Praise the Lord there are still good people who wants to help these heart broken sisters.. God bless you ALL...
@t.d.6731 3 жыл бұрын
Awesome metaphor with that burden-bag. I have let go of a burden-bag myself, but it’s good to know I only carry 1 rock of burden: guilt, for dropping the rest of the weight of that burden-bag 😊 I love Iyanla. I love the strong women out there who really can make the difference in so many lives here on earth 💪🏻❤️👌👏👏👏👏
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