Watch This Before You Get Top Surgery // w/ Ash Hardell

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What to pack, how to deal with post-surgical depression, how the process differs if you’re not on testosterone, and more things to consider when preparing for top surgery.
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@Paulinemoke 5 жыл бұрын

There was a Bra ad on this video - Go Home YT, you‘re drunk.

@bryntendo 5 жыл бұрын

Pauline Lol, the advertising algorithm is so damn weird. It's like it searches for keywords but doesn't take context into account at all, so a video about 'chest/breasts/boobs/whatever' will get random breast related ads even if it's the absolute opposite of what the video is about 😂 Like, I'm vegan and I have a lot of rescue chickens that I absolutely adore beyond belief, they're my pets, feather puppies, mini dinobirds, my floofbutts! I can post something on Instagram about my floofs and even use hashtags like #friendsnotfood #vegan #crueltyfreeliving etc, then open the app (or FB or YT or whatever else) soon after and find all these targeted ads for like, KFC and Wingblaster Fried chicken or Yardbird beer music and chicken wings joint... Targeted advertising *_FAIL!!_* Hahaha. I know that Google's algorithms can account for context to target an individual user so acutely that they can advertise baby stuff to someone before they themselves have even realized they're pregnant, so how the hell do they keep getting it so wrong as to advertise sexy bras on a top surgery video or fried chicken restaurants to a vegan person who just said that they would never eat chickens because chickens are their pets?? I swear they're not even trying anymore lol

@scouttyra 5 жыл бұрын

I had an ad for a company that makes feminine hygiene products (pads, pantyliners, intimate wash(?) and wipes, etc.).

@mzanahenriques 5 жыл бұрын

KZfaq algorythim picks up the words "top" and "breast" or "chest" and decides someone needs a bra LMAO

@gorillaau 4 жыл бұрын

I am getting an advert for workplace injury lawyer. Shoot, what type of workplace injury requires top surgery.

@topangaleija 4 жыл бұрын

@@bryntendo yo yo fellow vegan :D

@littlecornmuffin3338 5 жыл бұрын

I'm literally 12 hours away from top surgery. I feel like I'm cramming for a test; marathoning all these videos.

@sandrajohansson9578 5 жыл бұрын

1 month after, do you feel good?

@Wades228 5 жыл бұрын

I’m getting top surgery in December this year, do you have any tips from your recovery?

@littlecornmuffin3338 5 жыл бұрын

@@Wades228 Honestly my recovery was really easy. But really prepare for the fact that pulling up ur pants after using the bathroom is gonna be really hard. Definitely something I did not expect. Also, find a way to make yourself comfy sleeping exclusively on your back. I slept very little that first week because I am *not* a back sleeper. Uh, have a comfy chair so that you can sit up some times and get loads of books and movies you like. I hope this helped? If you have any more specific questions feel free to ask!

@elijah8018 5 жыл бұрын

LittleCornMuffin my surgery is about 2 weeks away. How was the pain and managing it?

@Wades228 4 жыл бұрын

@LittleCornMuffin thanks for the advice! I’m not a back sleeper as well so I’ll do my best to try and make myself like a nest of pillows or something, I’ll try and figure that one out. I was planning on my friends recommending books and just getting stacks of those to read. Also I was wondering what it was like with the drains in and what it was like removing them? That is what gives me the most anxiety in the world about top surgery, the drains. The evil looking drains

@Fletcherrr94 5 жыл бұрын

Isnt it REAL WEIRD that in society boobs arnt aloud to be on display in public.. but then after top surgery the very same skin is totally fine for all to look at, even though the only thing that has changed is INSIDE THE BODY.. Like same skin, same nips, just no breast tissue INSIDE. Totally skrews with my head when you REALLYY THINK ABOUT IT :/

@nikolaipetrichor2065 5 жыл бұрын

Ya, it definitely is weird...

@PixieQuin 5 жыл бұрын

that's sexism babe

@zinniaward8549 5 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah......

@bug12435 5 жыл бұрын

It's weird to think that's still a thing in the states. In canada some provinces it's legal to go topless in public.

@doubleboy2388 4 жыл бұрын

It's just the way it is. People, mostly men are sexually aroused by women's breasts. There's just something attractive about them. When you remove them, then there is nothing.

@caliigrey 5 жыл бұрын

*"pineapple before, during and after [top surgery]"* "yeah doc, special request, but as you're performing the surgery i'll need you to literally feed pineapple to my unconscious body, thanks"

@caliigrey 5 жыл бұрын

before anyone yells at me im joking thanks

@IceKreacher 4 жыл бұрын

kay ʕ ꈍᴥꈍʔ I laughed so hard at this

@l0v3.pr3tty.b0y 4 жыл бұрын

lmao

@leoslemons8382 4 жыл бұрын

kay ʕ ꈍᴥꈍʔ lol

@charevandenheever4460 4 жыл бұрын

Lmao I love that

@ben1301 5 жыл бұрын

I think I would walk around shirtless all day after top surgery lol

@kartermeijer6813 5 жыл бұрын

Honestly I want to make a cosplay coat (Mollymauk Tealeaf's coat of you're familiar) and just run around, only wearing that

@emocrybaby 4 жыл бұрын

To be honest I think I would do that too

@kittycatdays8719 4 жыл бұрын

Yessss

@Connorsedols2002 4 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@dedboidamien515 4 жыл бұрын

Same honestly.

@thegoblinundertheporch351 4 жыл бұрын

“Before I even knew I wanted top surgery I wanted a breast reduction” damn, they are hard core making a lot of sense rn

@BlahBlah-cm1os 3 жыл бұрын

Oh my god, I remember seeing double mastectomy scars from cancer patients and thinking 'i wouldn't mind that.' I'm done trying to convince myself that it's a phase or that I've never had dysphoria. 😂

@Sunny-gy3jv 3 жыл бұрын

Blah Blah same

@np-cos4065 3 жыл бұрын

Same, even before I knew I was genderfluid. Before I knew I had dysphoria. Before I knew just how much I hated my breasts, I've always wanted to get some sort of breast reduction or something to get rid of them lmao.

@uhnyluh 3 жыл бұрын

this just hit me like a TRUCK

@tym8792 3 жыл бұрын

Right my mom got Brest reduction when I was around 10 or 11 and I wanted it then so ik it was telling me some🤣💯

@yourlocalcryptid6024 5 жыл бұрын

If this was a tv show: "Get Titless."

@bingobongo9353 4 жыл бұрын

*Scared Titless*

@np-cos4065 3 жыл бұрын

@@bingobongo9353 OHHHHH THAT'S A GOOD ONE

@bjasshjaskjdhkasj 2 жыл бұрын

TITLESS HAHAHHA

@ediblecactus5703 Жыл бұрын

That's called gender disforforia people. Clowns 🤡 who are actually afraid to be a woman are exactly the kind of women that the good men out there in this world will never even consider dating.

@donnajocatlady3839 4 жыл бұрын

I'm not trans, I just DESPISE the DD globs of fat that hang off my chest. I'm 50 and happy to be a Grandma🤗🤗🤗, so I'm not on T or anything. I fight the accursed chin hair daily. 🤣But these THINGS have been the bane of my existence for years. They interfere with everything. I happily intend to be single for the rest of my days, but I want to be able to look in the mirror and buy clothes without hating myself... This is great info, guys! Thank you!!! 🤗🤗🤗

@mudmudmud7007 2 жыл бұрын

@Emmy stop being cringe and mind your business

@justme-dm7sb 2 жыл бұрын

Ha! I know that feeling. These things in the way of everything I do are one of the most annoying things ever !

@thelemondropgirl2140 10 ай бұрын

Good for you :-)

@LadyIarConnacht Ай бұрын

And yet because we're not "trans" we aren't allowed to do anything about it - unless we get cancer. Then it's OK.

@HeyThere005 5 жыл бұрын

This was so lovely! This talk really helped me prepare 💗💗💗

@klcoult5746 5 жыл бұрын

I love you ash!! And can I also just say, YOU LOOK GREATTTT 😊😊

@nikhansen8775 5 жыл бұрын

I am so happy for you! Thank you for sharing your story

@plowie6370 5 жыл бұрын

Wow, I forgot you used to have boobs haha, Love you ash thank you for your all support, you are the only thing that gets me through each day 🏳️‍🌈🖤

@laurenelysewalters 5 жыл бұрын

are there any non-binary AMAB's who choose to get implants/estrogen that you know of?

@soldiaz7261 5 жыл бұрын

YOU GO PAL!!! We love you

@omnipossum92 5 жыл бұрын

I was at a non-binary meeting (despite being like 95% binary) and one person said they wanted to still wear sports bras after top surgery because they liked wearing a contrasting colours under tank tops.

@marshall.klecuyer 4 жыл бұрын

thats fASHIOM babEE

@IceKreacher 4 жыл бұрын

Sure. I can see that. It can totally be a fashion accessory.

@v0id_d3m0n 2 жыл бұрын

Fair. Also what up with that 95%? That is really not it...

@straberryshinigami15g97 Жыл бұрын

what do you mean 95% binary? if youre nonbinary youre nonbinary, no matter how you look.

@omnipossum92 Жыл бұрын

@@v0id_d3m0n I guess more like binary but a little nonconformist

@zabecartowsky4724 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I am non binary, not on T and I will be having top surgery in a month. I am 65 and started talking to doctors about surgery 35 years ago. Then people were trans or got breast reduction, which I knew I didn't want. I changed my name 31 years ago so this feels like the final step in becoming my authentic non binary self. I think it is so great that you don't have to wait as long as I did. Thank you for being out there. I don't feel alone anymore.

@eveedgarlopez Жыл бұрын

That's wholesome! It must have been hard to grow up non binary back then... How did the surgery go?

@Qwertygerty123 10 ай бұрын

I usually post and say NOOOO. However at 65, I say go for it.

@diederdas27 9 ай бұрын

@@Qwertygerty123what… what are you talking about…

@Qwertygerty123 9 ай бұрын

@@diederdas27 Pretty sure it isn’t that complicated to understand what I said. If you’re entitled to an opinion surely I am too.

@foxythecutefox2564 5 ай бұрын

@@diederdas27I think they’re referring to the younger generations

@gaymer5272 4 жыл бұрын

Me *has hated my chest since it started developing * *does research 7 years later if I can chop em off* *finds this* •o•

@doriorinori 3 жыл бұрын

This is old but samee

@fireruby1882 2 жыл бұрын

Literally me🤣

@mcflubbiebubbies6394 2 жыл бұрын

Literally me

@Matt-cu7fv 5 жыл бұрын

This really helped. Even though it can trigger dysphoria, it helps to hear people talk about their own dysphoria because when you say ( x, y or z but this thing helped me see it differently) I go “well huh, thats a great way of looking at it”. The thing about both of you talking about peri vs double incision really helped ease my worries about the same thing. But even if I don’t qualify for it, I know so many others relate and I’m not alone

@khaxjc1 5 жыл бұрын

I thought the pronouns were printed on Ash's shirt. I didn't realize they were pins. I love that idea! I love it so much I was distracted thinking about it instead of watching lol. Than you said "body painting party" and a whole new distraction grabbed hold of me. Thank you both for sharing your experiences and thoughts with us in making and sharing these collabs and all your content.

@makenzileg 2 жыл бұрын

Revisiting this video now that I'm FINALLY getting surgery in two weeks after being out for 7 years!

@lovealexander 2 жыл бұрын

Proud of you!!!

@drumsaresexy 2 жыл бұрын

I’m proud of you! You’re very strong!

@bryntendo 5 жыл бұрын

The neck pillow thing is so real. I actually found it best to have 3 neck pillows, because they were perfect for keeping my arms in a comfy position whilst having to lie and sleep in an almost seated position for like a fortnight. Having the pillows stacked up so that my back, head, and chest were in the correct position made my arms just kinda dangle down by my sides in an uncomfortable way that hurt my back, pulled at my incisions, and made my drains feel even more annoying. So sticking a curved neck pillow under each arm was an absolute godsend in allowing me to just rest comfortably and in a good healing position, while not putting any strain on my chest/arms/upper body at all, and still leaving room for my drains to not get smooshed between my body and a pillow hahaha. Neck pillows _neck pillows_ *_neck pillows!_* Don't underestimate the power of pillows when recovering from top surgery!

@dontworryimfine1859 5 жыл бұрын

I wore a cut off shirt that showed my scar on my sides to pride a few months after my surgery and immediately got ask if I had cancer. The person herself had had a mastectomy so that's why she asked but it was so discouraging especially at pride.

@pearlpearl3806 2 жыл бұрын

Imagine how discouraged she felt thinking she met someone who would relate to a traumatic battle she went through but instead someone who voluntarily chose to undergo major surgery

@dontworryimfine1859 2 жыл бұрын

I don't normally engage with obvious transphobic people online but I genuinely don't care about anything you have to say after this and it's my day off so let's get into it. The lesbian who had came up to me to ask if I was also a survivor and I had a short but lovely and heartfelt conversation when I explained my situation. She congratulated me on my results, we commiserated over the length of our scars and she gave me tips on what to expect next while my chest continued healing. She, unlike you both, was not a transphobic POS. It was discouraging, not because I got misidentified as a cancer survivor or even as a girl. It was discouraging because I was excited and most likely had unrealistic expectations for the event. It was discouraging because I was at the very beginning of my transition and wanted my first pride post surgery to be perfect. But I forgot pride is never perfect because nothing ever is. I don't and would never blame that person for coming up to me. So with all due respect, get tf off my replies.

@pearlpearl3806 2 жыл бұрын

@@dontworryimfine1859 sorry that an average person with normal empathy would read your story and commiserate more with a cancer survivor. You’re very self absorbed

@bjasshjaskjdhkasj 2 жыл бұрын

@@pearlpearl3806 Read over your comments again and tell me from an unbiased position that you're not being insensitive. You genuinely look absurd and like a fool. Grow up.

@Schnort 2 жыл бұрын

@@pearlpearl3806 I mean, the cancer patient had to willingly sign a paper to get their boobs removed, too. They can't do that without permission. By that logic, both people are terrible for willingly getting their boobs chopped off. That doesn't make sense.

@themousoleum 4 жыл бұрын

I found this video as a resource for being non-binary and interested in top surgery. I'm super feminine, I absolutely do not want to go on T, but I've always wanted top surgery and am currently trying to navigate through getting the resources necessary to receive a diagnosis so I can *one day* be considered as a candidate for surgery. Seeing an open and positive dialogue between someone who is binary and non was incredibly helpful and I feel a lot more prepared when it comes to my expectations. Thank you both for doing this! 🥰

@Rowan.Evander 3 жыл бұрын

I'm in a really similar place. I enjoy looking super feminine, don't want to go on T, but at the same time I'm worried I won't be able to get the resources to receive a diagnosis as a result. I hope you were able to get what you needed friend!

@khmanuel Жыл бұрын

This is two young women talking about sexually mutilating themselves.

@straberryshinigami15g97 Жыл бұрын

jsuk, you can be fem and on T!

@finn7435 5 жыл бұрын

I've totally had the thought that if I ever get top surgery, that I might occasionally where sports bras still, so hearing Ash say that made me excited!

@haydenroth6990 5 жыл бұрын

OH MY GOD THEY HAVE AN ANTI-NAUSEA THING?!?! That is one of the main things I was worried about...I have a huge fear of throwing up. Like it's not even funny it's ruining my life. It's gotten better but a lot of the time I'm thinking about throwing up and not throwing up and purposely avoiding not touching things, etc. To try not the throw up. So thanks for the info! :)

@jackisnotabird 5 жыл бұрын

I was still very nauseated, even with it, but I didn’t throw up. A nurse fed me ice chips for a while and then I felt all better.

@Inseut 5 жыл бұрын

SAME, i have a really bad emetophobia ): that's the only thing that scares me about top surgery (or any kind of surgery)

@emiliahartman8264 5 жыл бұрын

I'm also emetophobic and so scared of top surgery for that reason >///< I have a lot of friends who have had the surgery and did not experience much nausea and definitely none of them threw up. So that's good news for us!!

@IceKreacher 4 жыл бұрын

Same. I think I have a phobia of vomiting.

@theok3646 2 жыл бұрын

I’m exactly the same

@ittybittyrampagingcommittee 5 жыл бұрын

I'm not getting top surgery for another 8-ish months in May 2019, but I'm still preparing every day, mostly by getting pumped about it.

@marshall.klecuyer 4 жыл бұрын

you have gotten top surgery by the time im commenting this so.. HOWS IT FEEL

@tym8792 3 жыл бұрын

How did the surgery go bro

@president-owen6267 5 жыл бұрын

I'm proud of anyone with scars because they have made a huge step in their journey of loving themselves

@ediblecactus5703 Жыл бұрын

That's called gender disforforia people. Clowns 🤡 who are actually afraid to be a woman are exactly the kind of women that the good men out there in this world will never even consider dating.

@1wanderingpoet 5 жыл бұрын

I'm non-binary (but on T) and after 3 years of waiting I'm having top surgery in 8 days. I've watched so many top surgery videos, but this was the first that addressed the emotional experience of having a part of my body removed, even if it's something I want to have done to me... it's still a shock. And the idea to write myself a letter for after. I know I'll go to sleep and will be the same person when I wake up, but my body will change. And this experience will also change me over time. I'll never be able to come back to the body I have now (unless I had another surgery?) or not this exact body. Good job warning about the dysphoria about other body parts, I'll be prepared for that and any sadness that might come after. It's such an exciting thing, people don't think that they'll feel sad.

@LaRana2315 Жыл бұрын

It makes me happy as an enby person to know I'm not the only one who likes their curves. I wanna get top surgery bc I'm SUPER dysphoric about my chest but I actually like how curvy n big my hips and butt are. In MY mind, having a curvy bottom half and flat top half will help with me looking more 'androgynous' and comfortable in my body.

@Kagomai15 6 ай бұрын

Yesss I'm the same! And I like what's in my pants already 😂

@jamiebisson2752 5 жыл бұрын

This video is a very big part of why I was able to accept that I am trans. Part of the reason I fought against the trans label was because I thought my Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome meant I couldn't transition. So finding out that I could get top surgery without T allowed me to finally apply the word transgender to myself. Of course some research showed that I have Partial AIS and can go on T, but until I could accept the trans label and come out, I didn't bother with that research.

@srthr6984 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for making this guys. I've just came out as non-binary and hope to get a chest binder one day. My end goal is top surgery eventually. This has helped so much, even just thinking about binding.

@ediblecactus5703 Жыл бұрын

That's called gender disforforia people. Clowns 🤡 who are actually afraid to be a woman are exactly the kind of women that the good men out there in this world will never even consider dating.

@MalfoyIsOurKing 5 жыл бұрын

i love hearing how you prepared yourself emotionally for top surgery. i feel like the emotional toll of such a big surgery isn't talked about nearly enough so i'm so glad when i hear people bringing it to the forefront. yes top surgery is common but it's such a big deal and it's a lot to go through so having complex or even conflicting thoughts or feelings about it is ok! great work y'all!

@PeoplepersonOG 5 жыл бұрын

I'm not considering top surgery, and I'm not trans or non-binary but I love this two human beings so much that I watched the whole thing

@juleronitz5100 Жыл бұрын

I am rewatching this three month after my top surgery and this notion about "look post op depression in the eye and take it on (and maybe write a letter to yourself beforehand)" really stuck with me since I first watched this video. And of course I don't know how I would have felt without preparing for post op depression. But I am really thankful for having it on my mind and being ready for it. And then it never came.

@lightning2367 5 жыл бұрын

Always love information about top surgery

@Rowan.Evander 3 жыл бұрын

Watching this as a nonbinary person in 2020 gives me hope that maybe I'll finally be able to get top surgery one day.

@megggggg8437 5 жыл бұрын

You and Ash both individually helped me to love myself over the years, so whenever you two collab I become inappropriately euphoric. Seriously, you're both the best!

@juliancairns5885 3 жыл бұрын

15:00 this is very funny because I saw Ash and Grayson at the PTWC after Ash got her top surgery and they we're so excited to be like "look at my chest!! I can show you this now!!" and it was really heartwarming and adorable to see him so happy.

@andycole3729 5 жыл бұрын

Ooh yay the hates not here yet

@nikolaipetrichor2065 5 жыл бұрын

Yesss....

@aliselman3834 5 жыл бұрын

Two of my favs! 😍 I really hope I can get top surgery one day 🙌

@unspokenvoices3399 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for filming this ! This truly helped me in some of the questions and concerns I had for when I have top surgery in the future.Definitely gonna reference back to this video.Two of my favs ☺️💕 love you two so much and you’re big inspirations xoxo

@sammauceri5266 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video!! As a nb person not pursuing T, it is so so helpful to get info on top surgery from your variety of perspectives. Thank you Jackson and Ash!!

@stefaniesowa9568 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing. I’m going through reconstructive surgeries for burn scars currently on my chest and I feel these tips about waiting for it to totally heal before moving so you don’t stretch the skin will totally help me. Thanks for the post!

@AliTheFlightlessBird 5 жыл бұрын

yo! the anti nausea thing is really helpful!! i had no idea you could do that, thank you 🙏🏼

@imahorse4ever 5 жыл бұрын

Also, with the family thing!! Obviously my family hasn’t seen me naked since I was a baby, and since I was an H cup pre-op I covered myself with lots of layers of clothes so family, friends and strangers couldn’t see I had massive lumps on my chest. The second I got my reveal at my one week post op I was sharing the pictures with all my family (close family that is, don’t wanna give my nan a heart attack!), it’s such a weird sensation to overcome. I started growing breasts at 8 and so I haven’t been shirtless around anyone since then, and now I can sit in my post op binder with no shirt on (and when I’m cleaning my chest it’s total 100% shirtless-ness) and it takes some getting used to. I remember just sitting with my mum the other day watching tv while in my post op binder and I got the biggest hit of panic because “SHIT, WHY DONT I HAVE A SHIRT ON?!”, and took me a few seconds to remember that “wait! they’re gone! aha!”

@gothmaze Жыл бұрын

I feel like I am finally ready for this step. I cannot wait! Thank you for making this video and Ash is so lovely!

@artifedex 5 жыл бұрын

Oh god thank you SO MUCH for the tip on the anti nausea in the anesthesia... I’m emetophobic and I don’t feel like a lot of the community relates to that so I never see tips about this kind of stuff. You have no idea how much I appreciate that little thing, it will make all the difference. 💕💕💕💕💕

@Inseut 5 жыл бұрын

Same!! I have a really bad emetophobia, it's the only thing that scares me about top surgery (or any kind of surgery) :(

@scarletnxphilim2534 4 жыл бұрын

SAME

@alexshemwell8320 2 жыл бұрын

Today I learned there's a word for my phobia. I've had emergency surgery a few times. The first time I told my concerns to the surgeon, and he didn't do anything for me and I felt sick upon waking. The second time I learned that when the anesthesiologist comes to check on you, you need to tell them that you're concerned about nausea and they'll put a patch behind your ear that is typically used to treat seasickness. I've never had a problem since.

@b1u3anima69 3 жыл бұрын

I have top surgery in 6 days I'm super excited but also pretty nervous but I'm glad I have videos like these to help me prepare

@darlingwater-ev 5 жыл бұрын

truly peak timing for this, my surgery is a week today lol. excellent video. thanks so much

@galaxyreach8168 3 жыл бұрын

I'm genderfluid, not sure if I need hormones, and need top surgery. This makes me feel a lot better about where I am right now, and more confident in advocating for myself and what I need. Thank you

@ruubux 5 жыл бұрын

The conversation in this video was really great!

@abracadabra2395 3 жыл бұрын

Button downs... OMG! I can't wear them because they don't fit with my large chest... That's going to bring me such joy while I'm feeling like crud during recovery.

@faarang-2453 11 ай бұрын

I didn't prepare for post surgery depression and it hit me HARD, identity crisis and all. Despite knowing I'm sensitive to stress and having been on antidepressants for 5 years. So please please please prepare yourself emotionally 💖💖 even if you think you're "safe" from it, because you can never know for sure.

@JaspersSpace Жыл бұрын

2 months from top surgery and binging all these videos!!!

@VirtualJMills 4 жыл бұрын

Anesthesia nausea -- Term used in the US is PONV (Post-Operative Nausea and Vomiting), extremely common. A bunch of antiemetic options are available across several drug classes, discuss with doc & anesthesiologist before hand, read up on side effects, tolerance/addiction curve, etc… to find one which meets your needs.

@PastellPudding 2 жыл бұрын

*aggressively takes notes* Having surgery in two months and this is so helpful! Thank you so much! :D

@Hunter_Journal 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing all this information. I start to prepare myself to get my top surgery and I am so scared but this helps so much. thank you

@neeliwilson9771 3 жыл бұрын

My bilateral mastectomy surgery for chronic breast pain is next week and this was very helpful! It wasnt centered around cancer...which is the majority of what ive found. Thank you both!!

@itsmexoxurmom 3 жыл бұрын

how did it go? hopefully we’ll :)

@neeliwilson9771 3 жыл бұрын

@@itsmexoxurmom insurance fighting it... Pending 😞

@marsh9564 5 жыл бұрын

I'm 2 1/2 weeks post top op at this time, thanks for this. Pillows, yes, a must. Button ups are a godsend, back scratcher also a must. So effin ecstatic the f's are gone. I had full on bilateral mastectomy and nip nop graft, and so far healing has been going good.

@morganbussey2571 3 жыл бұрын

Watched this 2 years ago when it came out. Watching it again today, 12 days away from surgery! 💕

@ashi.7714 3 жыл бұрын

Happy pride months btw!!

@Totalchaos0228 2 жыл бұрын

I've always had a loce/ hate relationship with my breasts. I developed early and I hated it!! I was just 10 when it started then 11 when I got my period!! Then after breastfeeding my daughter at 17..I wanted implants so bad! Even after breastfeeding I had these tiny boobs and I thought they were awful! I used to obsess about getting implants and wearing very padded and push up bras. When I became an exotic dancer I was very surprised, the #1 thing people would tell me was "leave your boobs alone! They are fine!" Now as I'm 39 and a 32 barley B cup...I couldn't be happier with my small, but perky little boobs. The way you feel about your body is going to change at many points in your journey. When you learn to love it, accept it, and appreciate what it's done for you...you are free of all of these feelings.

@teaartist6455 Жыл бұрын

FYI, for anyone who needs to hear this, it can be super helpful to just use your fingers to pull on things immediately post-op. The muscles controlling your fingers are in your lower arm and thus a lot less affected by surgery.

@GoldfishConsumer 4 жыл бұрын

I’m also someone that’s super pasty pale, so it’s good to have that heads up that my scars are probably going to turn red occasionally!! I’m really not sure whenever I’ll be able to get my top surgery, but I hope I’ll be preparing soon!

@drawswithayda4656 5 жыл бұрын

Wow you guys know each other. THATS AMAZING I DIDN’T KNOW THAT AND I LOVE YOU BOTH SO MUCH

@AlessandroRL 5 жыл бұрын

this was really helpful. thank you guys! 🖤🖤

@nikolasslead6582 3 жыл бұрын

This has been in my watch later since my freshman year, and now I'm only 1 year away from being old enough to get top surgery without my parents permission and both the passing time and the possibility feel so real and poggers :)

@stunningbrave3470 2 жыл бұрын

You do not need a breast amputation because there is nothing wrong with your body. Society is at fault for its treatment of females.

@pompidou8489 2 жыл бұрын

helpful information, happy we have this recourse

@MicahRion 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video! I think I’m trans and nb. Not sure if testosterone on top surgery are things I’ll ever do. I’m getting to know myself and appreciating so much learning from other people. And learning what some physical transition options are! 😘

@krnshrn9450 3 жыл бұрын

hi!! I know this is a kinda old video but I just want to say thanks for making it! I kind of recently (like 8ish months) realised I'm nonbinary (afab) and I've had a weird relationship with my chest since I started puberty. I feel a lot more valid seeing someone else who's kinda aligned with my brains version of myself 🥰💕

@teissi 8 ай бұрын

Body painting party sounds incredible! It's something i might wanna adopt for myself 😊

@Alex-px5bz 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for clearing some thing up for me, this helped so much.

@pianoflute22 4 жыл бұрын

I had a breast reduction before I realized I was agender and what I was going through was dysphoria. I've read that I still can get top surgery, but I'm honestly worried about my scars that I already have.

@Totalchaos0228 2 жыл бұрын

You're probably going to be fine. It's your body, and if it's a change you want to make...then go for it. Doctors these days can do some really great things especially in terms of scars and revising them or removing them almost completely! You'd definitely want to find a specialist and see if it's safe for your body.

@ezrajohnson7257 3 жыл бұрын

After several years of wanting top surgery I was finally approved

@cameurysm 3 жыл бұрын

congratulations!!!!!!!

@walter-vq1fw 4 жыл бұрын

Getting top surgery tommorow! This video is very helpful !

@joncookiepants3287 3 жыл бұрын

Getting top surgery in a week, this really helped❤️❤️

@danielboughal7793 4 жыл бұрын

I'm still young so I haven't got any finalized plans with a surgeon for top surgery, but I'm hoping to get top surgery without being on T even though I'm trans-FTM. Thanks for so much information and answering a lot of the questions I personally have!

@B-free7 3 жыл бұрын

Way to go guys thanks for the much needed info.to help transguys

@lucacommonjay7894 5 жыл бұрын

I love this video, but it also makes me very aware of how unprepared I went into top surgery. I am really happy with how I turned out, but I can't shake the thought that I would've ended up with better scars and stuff if I had only taken better care of myself...

@dontworryimfine1859 5 жыл бұрын

SAME!

@lukereagor9396 3 жыл бұрын

I watched this around when it first came out not having any idea of when I’d get top surgery and now I’m rewatching it cuz my surgery is May 28th!! I can’t wait it’s so un real to me still

@takeokuroshima2293 3 жыл бұрын

I just found this video and i just adore you both to pieces

@idkhaa5521 3 жыл бұрын

My friend will have a top surgery soon and honestly this is so helpful cause I'm gonna be taking care of him

@nancypeteja6560 4 жыл бұрын

Question: Have you ever thought of getting a tattoo to cover the scars? I mean the kind that blend with your skin, not a design. (Have heard that there are tattoo artists that actually do this over scars or create nipples for mastectomy patients. Just curious.

@perryfunnyvideos 4 жыл бұрын

The thing you said about wanting top surgery before you knew what it was, and thinking you wanted a breast reduction is literally how I realized I was trans. The more I thought about it the more I realized it's not cis to want to look like and be seen as a boy. I'd literally started talking about a breast reduction when I was 13 and got puberty.

@niko9603 3 жыл бұрын

I dont think i even want a "male" chest, I just want a chest where i dont hve to care abt covering it up

@colbydixon6695 5 жыл бұрын

My gosh, I love you and Ash

@As8bakwTheSage 2 жыл бұрын

I get top surgery in 2 days!!! I'm so excited! (And I can't wait to have my battle scars!)

@imahorse4ever 5 жыл бұрын

Damn, I really wish I’d found this video pre-op. More-so the post op depression part; I’m 3 weeks post top surgery before and 100% believed I wouldn’t get post op depression as I was an H pre-op and knew I’d just be happy and that my (recovery) daily routine would be identical to my normal daily routine, but boy was I wrong! I got hit hard by it. I can’t wash my face by myself and it took 2 1/2 weeks to wash my face and it really got to me. I still can’t reach the top of my head to itch it, so lots of things have been affected by my surgery which caused my post op depression. If I ever have a revision I’m gonna take note of preparing for it and seeing if it goes away because I’m prepared. Thanks! (ps I’m super happy and my normal depression is 100% gone due to surgery and T, it’s just my first ever surgery and I clearly didn’t prepare enough)

@arengray1712 2 жыл бұрын

when they said they’ve envisioned his chest being a certain way after surgery and being scared it’s not gonna be exactly the same… relatable as hell

@RhomboMus 5 жыл бұрын

Another thing, usually 40-60% of people who get peri need a revision and they can't really move the nipples to a more "typically masculine" area on the chest.

@magnuslightwood8818 3 жыл бұрын

This helped a lot! I'm gonna have top surgery in 2 days, wish me luck! :D

@MarcoQuon 24 күн бұрын

Hi!! My top surgery is in 5 days, and I’m a non-binary person not on Testosterone! I’ve been taking notes on this video, so I can prepare properly!! Thank you so much for making this, this means the world to me!

@clementinedewitt9022 3 жыл бұрын

This is so helpful 🥺

@lemonman7705 2 жыл бұрын

My surgery is tmrw I’m just vibing :))

@livvikitty Жыл бұрын

how did it go 🤔

@lewysf8705 5 жыл бұрын

You posted this right after my surgery lol agah I love you guys so much h

@eden-artemis4392 Жыл бұрын

Ash is the perfect example of who I feel like I want to be and I’m enby and not on T and so badly want to get top surgery which is how I found this video but it’s nerve racking to realize how society is going to see me

@raylol4291 12 күн бұрын

i'm getting top surgery in like 3 months!! i'm so excited

@eh9918 3 жыл бұрын

Ash always helps me feel more valid! They are the person that actually helped me realize I wasn't trans even though I thought about top surgery. I found their videos and realized I am non-binary :) I accept all pronouns too!

@kaka-kawaiineko274 3 жыл бұрын

As a kid I use to fear boobs,and when it was finally that time when I started developing I tried to flatten them by literally punching myself in the chest

@Maukiki 3 жыл бұрын

Kaka-kawaii Neko Same

@fireruby1882 2 жыл бұрын

OUCH-

@thatbee64 19 күн бұрын

Same actually 😅

@juliancairns5885 3 жыл бұрын

I personally am so excited for scars because I think they look really cool and I just read Castle Swimmer (a webcomic about mermen. Most of them have scars all over their bodies).