19 days postpartum/NICU update (+ tips for NICU parents)

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Our third child Juliette Dorothea Hover was born 19 days ago (6 weeks premature) and is still in the NICU here in Los Angeles. Here is a postpartum update and tips for other NICU parents. Thank you for being so supportive. All our love to you all.
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Our baby girl (third child) is in the NICU because she was born 6 weeks premature. She is growing steadily but remains in the NICU because she is struggling with reflux which is leading her to experience bradycardia. Here is an update video about our postpartum experience and some encouragement to other families who might find themselves with babies who need to stay in the hospital. You all are wonderful and I'm grateful for your kindness.
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@abigaildwayne1044 3 жыл бұрын

She's sitting in that chair nonchalant but she seriously looks like a model!

@jewelequalslove 3 жыл бұрын

haha my thoughts exactly

@1squishmallow 3 жыл бұрын

Right?! 😄👌🔥

@piaholmen8491 3 жыл бұрын

I love your videos! I gave birth to my son in 23+5 weeks. The dockors didn’t think he’d survive, but they saw how he was struggling from the beginning taking his first breath by himself. Yeah, he’s a real fighter. Today he’s 12 years and healthy and I’m pregnant with nummer two in week 13 and praying this little angel will stay inside until fully baked. Greetings from Sweden

@Moonie611 3 жыл бұрын

Currently watching this after giving birth at 34 weeks, 6 days as well. The strength this gives me is incredible thank you for sharing your story with us! 💕

@hannahortiz1629 3 жыл бұрын

Did ur baby go in NICU? my daughter was a 34 weeker, and she had to stay 2 weeks in the nicu, my son was born at 36 weeks and thankfully didn't need it but mostly cuz I was on meds, currently pregnant with my third and I'm scared about this baby will come even earlier then my daughter

@indigomoonchild6638 3 жыл бұрын

Being a NICU mama is really tough. My first daughter was in the NICU for nearly a month because she was born with respiratory distress syndrome and developed pneumonia. It was very scary, and very difficult. Leaving her there every night was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I cried every single day until we brought her home. I was told like, every few days or so that we may get to take her home soon and then suddenly we couldn’t because of her breathing. It does create so much anxiety. To anyone who has a NICU baby, Just keep going and you’ve got this. ❤️❤️

@christinabroussard9721 3 жыл бұрын

My fourth baby was in NICU and I couldn't go see her for a day or two because I had a c section. She had fluid in her lungs. I couldn't really sleep until I finally had enough strength to walk to go see her. Glad they let me stay at the hospital until she could go home

@annarocha3254 3 жыл бұрын

I know I can speak for so many people when I say that we are praying for you and Jules and the rest of your family. Thank you for sharing her progress with us. ♥️

@jennalarocque2464 3 жыл бұрын

I had my baby boy in May, he came 3 weeks early and spent 8 days in the nicu. I think the main takeaway I got from the experience is that it’s temporary. You will be able to take that baby home, hold tight they’re getting all the medical help they need. Covid makes it so much harder but stay strong, you’re doing great!

@kerriannefudge3269 3 жыл бұрын

Had a nicu baby too. She is 25 now. I can relate to those feelings of being scared and feeling new because she was my second and my first daughter was full term. I remember being scared of her but those feelings didn't last long and she did amazing. Roller coaster for sure. God bless and will say prayers for your beautiful new baby.

@TheGreatWerebear 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. That's such a vulnerable and brave thing to do. You're doing so much good with this channel. Here's to health, strength, stability and love for Baby.

@rachf9695 3 жыл бұрын

Was So patiently waiting for this update video!!

@meegsMB1993 3 жыл бұрын

I love following you on Instagram. Your kids are adorable and you are so kind and inspiring despite challenges!

@thefluffymarshmallo 3 жыл бұрын

She's so cute, Jess! Good luck. I wish only the best for you and your family. 💕

@natecheverri3440 3 жыл бұрын

You're amazing and I love your family! We continue to pray for bby Jules and you!

@CBullman163 3 жыл бұрын

So great to hear from you and get your, as ever, wonderful and kind and funny and sweet insights 🙌🏻💕

@capturedbyannamarie 3 жыл бұрын

Praying for you guys

@alycecline5053 3 жыл бұрын

Praying for all of you Jessica

@shellyr.4335 3 жыл бұрын

I just wanted to say, from someone who has been TTC, thank you so much for sharing your story. Stories like yours are helping take the fear of the unknown out of this new chapter of life, whatever it throws at me. Sending love and wishes of health for you, baby, and your whole family.

@beno1996ac 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for talking about this, and I hope your baby comes home to you soon, healthy and safe. My parents had my eldest sister, their first child, at 34 weeks and she went through the same process as Julia, it was hard at first but everything was okay and she was such a beautiful and happy baby, I'm sure your baby will flourish too once she's a bit older and you'll get the hang of it in no time. It's normal to feel uncertain or scared because you feel like she's fragile, my dad was a doctor and he was still anxious when holding my sister the first few times

@cikazoki 3 жыл бұрын

Your babies are very lucky to have you as their mom 💕

@allennawright1394 3 жыл бұрын

Been praying for you guys

@sabbaakram1473 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the update, clicked on my KZfaq app just to see if you guys were okay. Keep looking after yourself too x

@shailemoorehead5587 3 жыл бұрын

I just wanted to let you know as an expecting mama I admire and am so grateful for you! Even if this tougher season of life right now, you still manage to think of ways to help bring comfort and knowledge to others! Continued prayers for baby Jules and for your family as you learn to adapt to this new way of life for a while. 💕💕💕

@notbeingsarcastic5947 3 жыл бұрын

My heart and prayers go out for any mama going through any hard postpartum 💕💕💕you are NOT alone. 🙏

@Andrupenko 2 жыл бұрын

omg, your baby girl is strong and beautiful!!

@katiekoerber8863 3 жыл бұрын

She has so much hair for 6 weeks early! She looks so sweet & gentle ❤️

@choosnau 3 жыл бұрын

Aw she's so sweet

@sropeikaite 3 жыл бұрын

your doing amazing honey I hope evrything works out well for you

@ryanelisabethharvey1242 3 жыл бұрын

You are just a gift to the world

@velvetstonebraker9874 3 жыл бұрын

Wishing your family the best 💓

@thescranline 3 жыл бұрын

How incredibly helpful to know all this stuff Jess!

@taylorb4255 3 жыл бұрын

You are such a strong mama! & Strong healthy sweet baby. Big (socially distanced) hugs from me!!! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

@Nikki-ks6wi 3 жыл бұрын

God is already using you through sharing your experience God Bless You for your open heart

@89hadarg 3 жыл бұрын

you are such a beautiful soul.

@SophieAbrahams 3 жыл бұрын

Love this video and hearing your experience, really glad I came across this video, now im addicted lol! I’ve just uploaded my postpartum tip and advice video, so really enjoying to hear everyone else’s 💕

@amandagrimes7720 3 жыл бұрын

This is unbelievably helpful! Just had my first baby and he is preterm and in the NICU as well currently. The newness of being a mama, him being early so not being able to follow my birth plan/ideal scenario, him going from being with me 24/7 in my belly to only being able to see him in increments, and all of this happening during Covid has been hard physically and mentally. But your recent videos have helped me not feel so alone in this experience. Thank you

@tatianayoon2992 3 жыл бұрын

Had my baby stay in the NICU as well, though there was nothing serious. But it's heartbreaking to go through labor and not being able to take your little one home. Wish your daughter health! Hope she's coming home soon. Hugs

@allie5295 3 жыл бұрын

I understand how you feel mama!! I delivered at 26+0 and we are still in the NICU. She's been there 10 weeks and if all goes well we are halfway to discharge. I understand that feeling of anxiety about baby coming home... Hang in there, things will get easier. Some days are tough, not going to sugarcoat it, but it will get better. Prayers your way

@chenel09green 3 жыл бұрын

That shirt is everything

@tubilatingtubilation 3 жыл бұрын

My water broke, 4 years ago at 34 weeks and 4 days. My first born son was here 6 hours later after a vacuumed assisted birth. He stayed in the NICU for a month and it was extremely difficult. It was emotionally draining. My son needed to be intubated for underdeveloped lungs, he ended up getting sepsis, had Brady's constantly, and had feeding issues as well. 3 children later and I still have ptsd about that..whenever I smell hand sanitizer I get flash backs about that experience. It was a roller coaster ride but now we have a completely healthy and amazing 4 year old, full term 2 year old and full term 4 month old. ❤️❤️ Thanks for this video. You guys will get through this!!

@KG-kk3ef 3 жыл бұрын

awww that sounds like a horrible time! I'm so glad your baby is ok now. I just had a traumatic birth, but my baby is healthy, so I can't relate to how you feel. X

@MrKmariah 3 жыл бұрын

Oh no hand sanitizer is everywhere now!! 😟 Glad he is ok, that sounds super stressful. Glad your other two kiddos were full term.

@angelinastellitano5538 3 жыл бұрын

What a blessing. Prayers for you and family ♥ Bless your heart

@baskin283 2 жыл бұрын

She’s a beauty!!💕💙💕

@alyhudson2294 3 жыл бұрын

@Jessica Hover , I had my baby this Feb 14th, he was 27 weeks. I know how hard it is to see your baby in the incubator and leave every night...But it will all past in a blink and your baby will be with you! Also, bring nurses candy's and cupcakes, they will really appreciate it !

@sophiamercek7866 3 жыл бұрын

We went through IDENTICAL stays. My baby was born on October 30th 2020 and she was 35 weeks and 2 days. She had reflux and Brady’s associated with them. She also has jaundice some so she had to be under the lights. She got to come home yesterday so we were there a week. Stay strong momma. ♥️ we know how you feel

@yaritzaovalles4413 2 жыл бұрын

My son was a premature baby too, born at 33 weeks and he had to stay in the NICU for a month. It was super hard leaving the hospital without your baby but I always went to visit, was there morning until late at night every single day, and they have rotating nurses (our room had 2 nurses for like 9 babies) so I was always nervous of how my son was treated because I heard from other moms that one of the nurses laughed at my son while changing a diaper because he peed himself and got peed on his face… so I was always worry about how my son was being treated, how other kids were being treated too, some nurses just go to get pay and don’t care much about other peoples child. But not all nurses were like that, some were really helpful, and compassionate.. It was a hard experience but glad to learn from it.

@gamermom6069 3 жыл бұрын

My 1st baby was born back in May of this year. He was 2 weeks early, not technically premature, but we did spend 10 days in the NICU because he continued to have lowered blood oxygen levels when feeding. And I feel you when you say they say you can go home and then literally the same day there's another "event" and you have to stay longer. And it was SOOOO much harder because of COVID because you can't have other people there for support (though our hospital had a separate room for my son that my husband and I were allowed to stay in with him). I will say, some of the VERY BEST advice that was given to us by a nurse was to basically give him a chance to be a normal baby (we had actually purchased an OWLET monitor and this nurse told us flat out to return it, that it would cause more worry/stress and to instead just let our baby be a baby. BEST. ADVICE. EVER.). At the time we were purposely pacing his feeding to try to prevent him from choking and causing an "event", but when we took the advice of one of the nurses and just trusted our baby to be a baby and do his own thing he actually ate better than ever before. And actually it turned out that the pacing was making his choking/lowered blood oxygen level episodes more frequent and when we finally trusted him to pace himself, he actually got himself checked out of the NICU. And I know, 10 days might not sound like a lot, but I know it definitely felt like closer to a month. Just hang in there, and trust your baby more than the machines. Like one of the nurses told me, non-NICU babies aren't hooked up to all those machines and you have no idea if a lot of them have a lot of the same lowered stat issues that NICU babies get admitted for just because they are early. My son is now almost 6 months, he's learned the word "Mama" and can stand almost on his own, he's in the 93% for his height, you would never know he was a NICU baby. Trust your baby. (best advice) Watch your baby, not the machines! Love you, love your videos! Stay strong and trust in her!!!

@neeshmanazar1086 3 жыл бұрын

Prayers dear😘😇🍂

@romulusthemainecoon3047 3 жыл бұрын

Your sweatshirt looks SO comfy and cozy!

@andreaks28 3 жыл бұрын

Love this set-up! Super simple & I love your Monstera 🌿 Hugs from Ontario, Canada ❤️

@Lindsayf82 3 жыл бұрын

I am so thankful for this video. I watched it just days before my son was born. He came at 34 +5 and had some breathing issues and was in the NICU for 8 days. The anxiety and hope mixed together thinking of taking them home is overwhelming. Thank you so much for sharing your story!!

@bkg300 2 жыл бұрын

How long was your baby in there if u dont mind me asking. Im curious for just in case i have a preemie

@Lindsayf82 2 жыл бұрын

@@bkg300 just 8 days thankfully! 😊

@MippyBee 3 жыл бұрын

That pump thing is so stupid! During our NICU stay, I left those same pump parts but they gave me a whole new set for free!

@ansverhagen7402 3 жыл бұрын

My Son was Born last July.... Born with 32 weeks. He showed Brady’s up to the point he went home. They stabilized to dropping just to 80bpm and he was cleared to come home before September! Brady’s are scary at first but it can clear up in just a few weeks. ❤️

@Mshalloween_1994 Жыл бұрын

I know this is old and I don’t know if your account is active. But this comment helps so much. My daughter was born 4 days ago due to preclampsia and has had a few Brady’s it is very scary to me. She does indeed have reflux. Thank you so much for this comment. I felt so alone and didn’t know this was common.

@SailingHorizons 3 жыл бұрын

My son was born at 36 weeks and was in the NICU for 2 weeks. It was very difficult to watch him being poked and proded at times. I definitely feel for all the mamas. The same happened to my son with the drop in heart rates and Brady moments.

@sjannadv 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this video! For all your videos actually. Btw your leggings look so comfy! Mine always tear.. where do you get yours?

@kelli8841 3 жыл бұрын

Jess, thank you for making these videos. We are praying for you. Also, what are you drinking in every video... I'm so very curious! LOL

@Jaylonah 3 жыл бұрын

These updates are very helpful especially knowing how well your baby girl is doing she is so strong. My drs are guessing that my baby boys will be born 34/35 weeks they've stopped my labor twice already 25w and 30w and if it happens again it will be time to have them. I'm taking notes because I know they'll spend some time in the nicu.

@jennarigo1832 3 жыл бұрын

Good luck to you and your babies. 💕

@Jaylonah 3 жыл бұрын

@@jennarigo1832 Thank you for your kind words

@jessicahuntsman1138 3 жыл бұрын

I just had my baby at 34 weeks on Nov 1st. I am a first time parent and your videos really help me. My husband and I have her home now and she is doing well. Wondering if you know since she is home if I am able to call the NICU to ask more questions to them.

@austinrichards1740 3 жыл бұрын

I love you girly

@wallenka 3 жыл бұрын

Just yesterday I was wondering if everything is OK, I'm praying for you

@emmacarr7810 3 жыл бұрын

I did the same thing with not bringing home all of the pumping parts! So annoying!

@hannahortiz1629 3 жыл бұрын

My daughter was in the nicu as well she was born at 34 weeks water broke due to spontaneous pprom at 33+6, and my son was born at 36 weeks and I was on meds with him, and this time I'm currently expecting my third baby and I'm not on any meds and I'm scared for having this baby earlier then my daughter

@lelarockin 3 жыл бұрын

My son was born at 32 weeks my water had broke at 28 weeks. My son stayed in the nicu all the way up to his due date! The reason why is the same issue. He stayed there a month longer because of his acid reflux! They couldn’t figure it out but I made them try all different things... the thing that finally helped was putting him on a formula that is similac for spit up and he never had a drop in his oxygen or heart rate after that and came home! Please be persistent and hopefully you can have them put your baby on that formula. It was so depressing because they kept acting like it wasn’t because of his reflux but it was.

@IraG0427 3 жыл бұрын

Being a NICU parent is very hard and heartbreaking..everyday I feel like my heart is being ripped apart. I gave birth 5 days ago via emergency c section, although my baby is full term he pooped inside and got blood infection, he was in the NICU from day 1 and they told us that they will keep him for 7 days more. I feel so helpless and I feel like I will lose my mind. I cry everyday. It's so hard because I myself needs to recover. I also have a hypertension so its not good for me. I pray everyday.

@larocco83 3 жыл бұрын

Im really hoping covid is almost over when i deliver in the summer

@alexandraleaving2041 3 жыл бұрын

Did your doctor figure out why you had the sharp pain prior to going into labor?

@amberlancaster7055 3 жыл бұрын

Just curious would they let you do an SNS while nursing? Also what pump do you have that you take with you?

@laptopgirl 3 жыл бұрын

What medication and what formula is your baby on? I have a 3 week early reflux baby myself. He is 2 months now. He is my first baby and reflux is so debilitating. Breast feeding failed for me because I didnt know why he wouldn't feed. Turns out it was probably his reflux and the position he was in(flat instead of head elevated). Pumping became impossible because he was always unhappy and I had to take care of him. Then he would barf all of my milk up because I would lay him down flat because I didn't know what was wrong. You are lucky that your baby was diagnosed early. Never lay them flat less than 30 minutes after a feed. Make sure the hospital checks for allergies such as lactose intolerance because that is a main cause of reflux. I truly do not think I could handle a reflux child with other children. Now I'm terrified to have another. I have no one to help me but if you do, dont feel ashamed to ask for help. Fed is best! If breast feeding doesn't work out, it's ok! Do not beat yourself up. You are a wonderful mother! Having a reflux baby is so so so hard.

@megandonat8783 3 жыл бұрын

My (full term) baby has reflux really bad when I have caffeine. Have you tried to alter your diet to help with the reflux? I am a dairy free, tomato free, caffeine free breastfeeding mama of a 10 month old. It’s very hard! But that combination has eliminated the reflux completely for us.

@shawneesaunders8042 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Jess, just wanted to let you know that you can buy the pump parts separately online. I’m assuming you’re talking about the membranes. Not very expensive online.

@tatianayoon2992 3 жыл бұрын

Target also sells parts

@shawneesaunders8042 3 жыл бұрын

@@tatianayoon2992 true! I forgot about them.

@rosie-maerebornmummy3147 3 жыл бұрын

I was 6kws early and weighed 2pounds 2oz

@hollyfarnell2011 3 жыл бұрын

Look at all the hair on that baby girl!!

@meaganvillone2253 3 жыл бұрын

Thinking of you and sweet Juliet! Question: are you saying refLUX related or refLEX? Just curious about it!

@choosnau 3 жыл бұрын

I'm guessing because she is talking about keeping milk down, that she is talking about Reflux.....

@chenel09green 3 жыл бұрын

Reflux

@estrellita2912 3 жыл бұрын

Reflux 🧡

@MissHawes0187 3 жыл бұрын

My baby went septic and stopped breathing at 14 days old. I gave her CPR and was able to stabilize her and call 911 we have been in the PICU for 12 days. Can i be part of ur group? I know its for NICU babies but since my baby went home and then came back shes in pediatric intensive care instead of neonatal but she only weighs 6 pounds 9 oz My husband works out of town and my mom works so she had to take my 5 yr old home with her to Oregon until i come home with baby. Im allowed to stay with her 24/7 and i never leave her side I smell like breast milk and sweat and im so tired i can barely speak full sentences or keep my train of thought I think ur mommy group would be very helpful and id be very grateful for the support if u let me join

@kaoruyamazaki5724 3 жыл бұрын

How long can you stay at the NICU at a time as a mom?

@tatianayoon2992 3 жыл бұрын

Before covid it wasn't limited. I stayed almost all day long, breaks for lunch and dinner and sleep. Might have changed now

@souadbekhit751 3 жыл бұрын

She got lots of hair

@sitcomchristian6886 3 жыл бұрын

Romans 6:20-21 For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness. But what fruit were you getting at that time from the things of which you are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death.

@katrienvdk 3 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry you’re in this situation with your little one but it’s probably not a good idea to drink in the NICU, exposing all the babies there (since you said they were all in one space) if you’re an asymptomatic carrier of COVID. Makes you wonder how many other parents they are letting “sneak” liquids aka taking off your mask aka risking exposure.