Join the conversation on Twitter/Instagram: @jockowillink @echocharles Excerpt from JOCKOPODCAST 83
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@kw59614 жыл бұрын
We suffer more often in imagination than reality -Seneca
@shiro58114 жыл бұрын
Dudeeee... I needed this. Thank you for the wonderful quote :)
@GarciaDK4 жыл бұрын
My man... :)
@ronankromheer6444 жыл бұрын
I thought it was eckhart tolle
@kw59614 жыл бұрын
Nope
@evqa9994 жыл бұрын
fckng true
@FoereaperGaming4 жыл бұрын
My life always improved after a break up.
@greg47124 жыл бұрын
FoereaperGaming second that my friend
@LRRPFco524 жыл бұрын
Roger that. Best break-up I ever had was divorcing my whore of an x-wife, who poisoned me (I died in the ambulance on the way to the hospital). Once I got out of that hell of a relationship, I was just happy to be alive and it felt like I dumped a rucksack full of stones off my back. I felt so free...
@7331warrior4 жыл бұрын
Same brotha.
@greg47124 жыл бұрын
Same here brother
@coyotekilla36844 жыл бұрын
Same here
@BB-re6nz4 жыл бұрын
GF: Jocko I’m breaking up with you. Jocko: Good.
@obiwanjesus92504 жыл бұрын
Joe H emotional hurt will end up making me stronger
@Codeinjection4 жыл бұрын
B B jocko is da man he can handle all those hoes
@Shoegazebasedgenre0.4 жыл бұрын
it's her loss
@frostbitepokin95204 жыл бұрын
That’s one less loose end
@rfcdgaf3 жыл бұрын
lmaoo!!
@ohiodigger43914 жыл бұрын
Dropped and cut out of her life after 2 years. Gentlemen, don’t lose faith in love. Love didn’t hurt you. Someone who didn’t know what love was hurt you.
@MRJTD993 жыл бұрын
Holy crap, a positive up-lifting compliment about break ups that isn't overtly cynical or misogynist. I can't believe it. Right on, brotha
@nicholasdipilla69933 жыл бұрын
@@MRJTD99 exactly Btw your username made me laugh , huge fan of ufc and mma myself
@realeltigre2 жыл бұрын
Well said
@austinm56182 жыл бұрын
Just had this happen to me. The truth is, me and her are still in love with each other. But I’ve come to realize that love also blinds, and there is more expected from a partner than simply love. Obviously you need love to form a relationship with someone, but many other factors to form a “partnership” with someone. I’m having to live with that fact now, that even though I loved her so deeply, our lives were too different to provide for a stable home in the future. So sometimes it is a case of someone not knowing what love is, but other times a breakup can be a case of not knowing what a true partnership is, and unfortunately I’m learning that lesson now. But it’s not all bad, I wouldn’t have learned this lesson had I not had to endure this storm.
@mr.m1garand2542 жыл бұрын
This right here🔥
@irrelevantideology96404 жыл бұрын
I fell in love a a toxic woman one time and I realized that if you spend long enough and try hard enough to get inside the mind of a crazy chick it will in fact make you crazy....don't ignore the red flags gentleman.
@Seewhogetsluckyfirst4 жыл бұрын
@@captainblood9616 leave man I dated an narcissist for 8 years nothing but trouble
@brianodonnell85534 жыл бұрын
You nailed it. Trying to cope with toxic and crazy with rational thinking will lead you to crazy town.
@fetusyeetus20634 жыл бұрын
Yeah just fell for this man. Lesson learned
@billythebake4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it's hard to see giant red flags, when you're thinking about little pink lips... Until a little to late (facepalm)
@Seewhogetsluckyfirst4 жыл бұрын
@@billythebake why did I read your comment in jockos voice
@axmnstrbnd4 жыл бұрын
I'm in shock. Just goin through a breakup after 13 fuckin years!!!! Its 2:16 am, cant sleep. Floppin and tossin in bed. Jump on the phone and this was recommended. Unreal. Thank you Jocko!!! And Echo!
@eugenesmith86394 жыл бұрын
Got you beat my man,34yrs364 days.But you got to get of that killing zone,retiring with full benefits.
@greg47124 жыл бұрын
Hope you’re doing okay my friend. My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me about 6 months ago. I was like you, I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat. It got so bad I was almost suicidal. But trust me, it gets better. It may not seem like it right now, but it does. Go and work out, use your pain and anger to push yourself. Make her jealous my brother. I believe in you!
@fluvialmaster23564 жыл бұрын
@@greg4712 "make her jealous" wise words my man. Doing the same, let's keep strong. Life is beautiful. I recommend you guys the book: Flow.
@greg47124 жыл бұрын
Fernando Ordaz absolutely my man! We’re in this together! It’s taken me a long time to realise (I’m sure you’re the same) but you need to love yourself before you love a woman. Have a great week brother, go and smash it!
@greg47124 жыл бұрын
jared bonds watch this brother kzfaq.info/get/bejne/oth6nsaqv6itgok.html never quit!
@OsservatorioPsichedelico3 жыл бұрын
"You are feeling the pain of losing something that was not real." Man, that is wise.
@angelace762 Жыл бұрын
That part hit me the most
@Erik-ps2tg2 жыл бұрын
My girl left me yesterday for another dude while I’m abroad on internship. Been listening to this on repeat the whole day. Love to all my brothers in pain ❤️
@sigtryggr41782 жыл бұрын
It may be a blessing for you, just keep going and be your best self.
@renegademaster1287 Жыл бұрын
God Bless You
@Eothan Жыл бұрын
How you doing now, Erik?
@kevinfought Жыл бұрын
I hope everything is working out good for you, you’re a good man
@bahrainaste8536 Жыл бұрын
Fuck, going through a similar situation. Been 4 weeks ago. How are you now?
@ShaneMorganDick4 жыл бұрын
Breakup? Cheated on? Walked out on? Good! More time for growth.
@fairey664 жыл бұрын
Shane Morgan Roger That 👍
@marza3394 жыл бұрын
Pick up the phone, and start dialing!
@Mabryu4 жыл бұрын
Bet my brother
@ShaneMorganDick4 жыл бұрын
@The Underground Man Yes. *Unfortunate yes.* However, you have either "grown" as a man or have withered away. You are on Jockos platform, so I'm assuming "growth." *Keep strong in the fight.*
@colesteeleA4 жыл бұрын
@ The Underground Man Nope. That is a kick in the dick... But, you learn from that mistake, wear a cup next time, and therefore grow. The next one is inevitably better, because you know junk woman flags.
@greg47124 жыл бұрын
I’ve been depressed for almost a year after she left me. I couldn’t believe someone who I dated for 5 years left me just like that and now doesn’t give a stuff about me. Listen and believe in Jocko, it gets better. I’m now working out 5 days a week improving myself. I know it’s hard to do, but cut contact and move on.
@greg47124 жыл бұрын
Art Vandelay agreed. On the surface my ex was lovely, sweet and attractive, but I now realise what a cold hearted woman she was. I spent thousands on her trying to make her happy and I even gave up my friends. I lost myself in the process. But I’m now a much stronger man and I am looking forward to the future.
@greg47124 жыл бұрын
The last thing my ex said to me was ‘I never loved you, I never found you attractive and that I had no friends and get a life.’ I’m using her nasty comments to better myself. Every time I’m in the gym when I’m close to giving up, I remind myself of these comments and it gives me motivation. I’ve always been skinny but I’m now bulking up, I can see the results already. It’s only a matter of time before she comes back, but when she does I can’t wait to tell her to f***k off. I’m in the final year of university studying aerospace engineering and I have a great job lined up after graduation. Things are looking great. Just would like a lovely woman, one who doesn’t want me for my money, but one who loves me for who I am. If there’s one tip I can give you my dudes, it’s to never invest all your energy into a woman!
@KagedTyrant4 жыл бұрын
Lmao, the crybaby losers in the comment section. Imposing their pathetic encounters and relationships with women. Bunch of Simps.😅😅😅 "The perfect guy or women for you doesn't exist" -Jocko Willink
@thedayisnigh58864 жыл бұрын
wow so true !!
@thedayisnigh58864 жыл бұрын
same well not themoney side, mine made eternal commitments to me then just left me cold, she seemed sweet and lovely but she was just thinking about her self
@mzansimomentsreloaded9133 жыл бұрын
The dude she dumped me for pumped and dumped her. I bought a house 6 month's after that and she came back begging me to take her back. Told her she can come back in my life when hell freezes over. Life is beautiful now. Don't give up gents. Just work on yourself and only invest love in your children and God. Don't worship fake idols aka women. You will be alright.
@davidrobertson58942 жыл бұрын
Glorious!!!
@helldragondante7604 Жыл бұрын
Bro, congratulations
@broncsking3318 Жыл бұрын
Nice advice
@canotajman Жыл бұрын
Real nice dude! The last sentence is full of hope
@JeffreyGillespie Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this comment. It really helped.
@shwetanavani4803 жыл бұрын
Its really important that you don't jump from relationship to relationship. That's just a temporary bandaid. Its better to heal your issues and figure yourself out. DO NOT be a time bomb and blast someone's life to pieces like someone did to you.
@joser_12952 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@Mike-xq8bv Жыл бұрын
The stiff one has no conscience remember that
@ThatOneGuyWhatsHisName Жыл бұрын
Literally what my ex does and did to me and is pm already doing that again
@ThatOneGuyWhatsHisName Жыл бұрын
Hurt ppl hurt ppl
@shwetanavani480 Жыл бұрын
@@ThatOneGuyWhatsHisName yeah we play hot potato with pain. I can't deal with my pain so I'll pass it onto you and make it your responsibility. But it's not an excuse. Let that end with us.
@VytisMaleckasBrunius764 жыл бұрын
Convert breakups to push-ups.
@CosminPerisan4 жыл бұрын
This is alchemy, brother.
@Brightestlightt4 жыл бұрын
Love this
@alchemist57043 жыл бұрын
Yup dip the brush of your soul into your heart and transmute the pain into gains.
@filiphanic8023 жыл бұрын
Wow mate amazing statement 🙂
@ignacioaraya54673 жыл бұрын
hell yeaah bro!
@revoke14 жыл бұрын
It’s crazy how much fuel you have inside of you when the person you used to love leaves you.
@whitespanish114 жыл бұрын
Either you use that fuel for self-pity or fuel it to get better. I am glad I did the second after I caught an ex cheating.
@greg47124 жыл бұрын
This is so true.
@Love-Alive4 жыл бұрын
Bwekfast?
@vaughanmachado72614 жыл бұрын
Really well said
@townbythetown3 жыл бұрын
I was left by my woman of 7 years a couple days ago, where’s the fuel man
@theplayer2286 Жыл бұрын
Take this in: 'A woman's weapon is vindictiveness; a man's weapon is indifference." Women, for clear biological reasons, have to be completely ruthless about choosing their mates. There is no arguing with this. It is just nature. As the rejected male you have to accept that you must accept your fate. Once she has decided, that really is it. Pleading on your part will only make you even more pathetic in her eyes and reinforce her view that she made the right decision. So what to do? Answer: Match her in ruthlessness. No, surpass her in ruthlessness. Use the male weapon of indifference. OK, you will have to 'act' the part for a while. However, if you keep acting it and you will soon master the role. Don't look back; don't stalk her; she's gone... and move on. Just one word of warning. The moment the acting pays off and you have finally erased her from your conscious memory, one thing is sure to happen. She will call you or email you. She is just checking in on your supposed 'misery.' Ignore it and bin it. Now she is somebody else's nightmare. Pray for him.
@Jack-bz7zr Жыл бұрын
you have no idea how much i needed to read this right now. thank you!
@bananapajamazzzz953311 ай бұрын
Thank you. THANK YOU
@FumaazHD10 ай бұрын
Wow, i am not even in a relationship and haven't been for years but i absolutely feel what you've written here. This part: "Pleading on your part will only make you even more pathetic in her eyes and reinforce her view that she made the right decision." could not be more true. I am not exactly hating on myself for being who i am but i always end up being the guy that gets befriended by women. Am i too empathic? Do i have too much good in my heart? Do i miss the signs they give me? Am i not exciting enough? Am i approaching too fast/slow? I don't know what it is but i just try to be happy with the things i've got, what i have achieved in life and sooner or later my goals and dreams might catch someones attention and they like me for who i am. We are all sitting in the same boat, doesnt matter if we are rich, good looking, a doctor or student. Everyone's heart is broken atleast once in their life and it's good to know that we are not alone :)
@theplayer228610 ай бұрын
@@FumaazHD Cheers. You write: "...but i just try to be happy with the things i've got, what i have achieved in life and sooner or later my goals and dreams might catch someones attention and they like me for who i am." Exactly so. If you don't value yourself, you can be sure that nobody else will. Forgive the tangent, but I am reminded of a conversations that women have but men never do. Or, at least, not from my experience. If you are along women long enough you will encounter a conversation in which they talk about "the one who got away." Have you ever heard a man say that?? I never have. Of course, "the one who got away" itself suggests that the woman baited the trap for the prey she wanted, and the man in question saw what was coming and bolted. The expression and the thought does tell you a great deal about the difference between the way men and women think about life and relationships, does it not. Looks like you have not been trapped yet.
@sandlerfrancois66610 ай бұрын
Amen
@user-lt1wf1zi5n4 жыл бұрын
This "you remember the memory of her" is way too real. I was stuck thinking "damn I lost a good one" then I talked to her and realized she was bad on so many levels that I was lucky to get out of that one. Jocko is spitting straight facts
@rktsnail Жыл бұрын
Bingo.
@diam3x3x3 Жыл бұрын
Amen brother
@whitewolf9547 Жыл бұрын
Haha same here. Like I lost my “princess” when in reality she lied all the time, put herself in shady situations and would never in a million years take accountability. It still hurts to be alone but I’m going to create the best version of myself from this pain
@lucashansen1776 Жыл бұрын
@@whitewolf9547stay strong brother! I’m in same position, really sucks to be alone.
@whitewolf9547 Жыл бұрын
@@lucashansen1776 Sorry to hear that bro but it’s definitely for the best. It hurts now but its going to feel amazing to level up. I am already in way better shape
@Adrian1018824 жыл бұрын
Just got the call that it’s over two days ago. I knew it was coming though. End of a four year run. Been here before. No pain, no gain. To anyone else in the same shoes - time to level up.
@OhhhJP4 жыл бұрын
5 years and a daughter here bro
@Adrian1018824 жыл бұрын
JakeP. now THAT’S rough. My condolences my man. I wish you all the strength required to pull through (and I trust you will)
@OhhhJP4 жыл бұрын
Adrian1018 Oh trust me i will brother 💪🏻 but i appreciate you. I know you’ll be good too. I’m going through worse than you and there’s a million+ people going through worse than me. Life is too short not to enjoy 😉
@dormdova4 жыл бұрын
7 years with mine....she moved out this morning...
@OhhhJP4 жыл бұрын
J G maybe, maybe not. What’s the difference? 😂
@davidlloyd12024 жыл бұрын
Let the fantasy go.
@loganstriker29734 жыл бұрын
Huh? What fantasy? Your comment is in a vacuum.
@zjg39134 жыл бұрын
David Lloyd word, man. We build up grandeur in our heads, and reality is a cold bucket of water in the face.
@davidlloyd12024 жыл бұрын
Cold water wakes you up!
@juarez10114 жыл бұрын
I will
@theebanraj70924 жыл бұрын
dude thats so true
@javiersds80814 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I'm 26 years old, and I decided to break up with my girlfriend about 4 months ago after a 4-year relationship. There were many reasons, but the main trigger was that I turned down a very good job opportunity for her and then I really regretted it after realising that she didn't appreciate what I had done. Even though it was my decision, the last few months have been the toughest of my entire life. However, I'm convinced now that it was the right decision and that it's way better to have made it now than in 5 years time, since we don't have any attachments (no house together, no marriage, no kids), and there are a lot of possibilities opening up in front of me right now. So, if you're reading this and you find yourself in a similar situation, I just have 3 words for you: ROCK AND ROLL.
@aubreyheyy3 жыл бұрын
thanks for this! 🤘
@sjc0913 жыл бұрын
Really appreciate this. Cheers brother
@aceoface75703 жыл бұрын
I did the same and trust me she didn’t give a shit ! Heartless women are gonna have their days don’t cha worry about it buddy ! Karma is a b**** Just turn yourself into a big bag of power and education and move on ! I broke up with a woman I fell in love with as fast as a year and we just broke up recently! I felt a lot for her and I really got damaged when I left her Bcz she was lying to me about things that doesn’t make any sense. The point is I have to just ignore every point where it leads me back to her or any memory ! I took off all her photos and every shit memory that was with her to just get over it! I even skipped gym for her to spend time with her which I have never did in my life ! Turn down an offer job a great one too and just regret it now a lot !! Never give your time of success to any woman ! Never give anything that is precious as your time to any woman out there unless she s your mom or sis !
@Rbear2662 жыл бұрын
Bro what the fuck you broke up with her over something you did?? I’m confused. What did she do
@lunit00n682 жыл бұрын
Ur a g
@joser_12952 жыл бұрын
Just got out of a 3 1/2 year relationship. Feels like she left at my lowest point. I was overweight, mental health was declining, and it was hard to work with my schedule. Hit the gym and lost forty pounds, bought a new car, and now moving cities. Still feel depressed though because of the pain she caused but I’m trying to move forward. Keep grinding gents💪🏽
@Eothan Жыл бұрын
@@VICBATMANSOLO x2
@copper4045 Жыл бұрын
Keep the stoke alive. Congrats on losing the weight!
@sheepadoo5154 Жыл бұрын
Bro. GO GET IT
@brodyfulford6096 Жыл бұрын
See! There’s ALWAYS light at the end of the tunnel, even when it feels like an impossibility. Glad you’re doing well, and it’s been a year since your comment so I hope you’re killing the game of life even more!
@joser_1295 Жыл бұрын
@@brodyfulford6096 Doing much better man. It’s been a little over a year and half since I broke up with her. I’m in a new relationship now, about to graduate college, and looking great! This new girl brings me nothing but peace. It’s something I’ve never felt before in a relationship.
@7331warrior4 жыл бұрын
Got broken up a month ago, immediately entered the gym going like 6 days a week. The gym makes everything better.
@davidpierce99494 жыл бұрын
Plus hot chicks in yoga pants
@7331warrior4 жыл бұрын
David Pierce time to get some!
@davidpierce99494 жыл бұрын
@@7331warrior I went thru a break up a couple years ago. Dude, i loved her so much. But it was my fault. Anyway, getting after it sped up my recovery.
@7331warrior4 жыл бұрын
David Pierce same here, my bad too. I feel you brotha, go hard stay strong 💪🏽
@williambentler88754 жыл бұрын
So true.
@PracticalInspiration4 жыл бұрын
"She's not what you built up of her in your mind". Well said, our perception and expectations of people and who they are often don't match. If she was what the guy hoped she would be, they'd likely be together. It's hard to move on when attached, but this advice really helps to do what's necessary
@kidphillyorg4 жыл бұрын
I read comments before posting my own for this very reason. You said EXACTLY what I was thinking aboit the facts this video presented. Thank you.
@PracticalInspiration4 жыл бұрын
@@kidphillyorg that's awesome, glad you agree :)
@cthornton5234 жыл бұрын
Best. Advice. EVAH. Jocko you give brilliant insight to mothers of sons. That is all. Carry on.
@kalash_nikov4 жыл бұрын
I agree in general with Jocko (and you) on that, but that's only in a situation where a girl you thought is "the one" walks out of your life all of sudden, or when we assume that the guy did nothing wrong. Of course there are plenty of situations like that. But the advice doesn't really apply when we are aware of the flaws of the girl we love(d), but it's our flaws mainly (or solely) that causes her to leave us. While in relationship we are thinking "wow, I'm so lucky to have someone like that to want to be with me". And then due to our innate stupidity we still do dumb shit we know we shouldn't do and/or she realizes eventually she could be with someone "better", someone who might be similar, but less flawed. Was her willingness to endure our flaws one of her positive traits? No, it's not a virtue, it's just our luck. So no, the advice doesn't apply when it's guy's fault that she left him. It's not "our imagined, perfect image of her" when we know she's not perfect, but we understand that she's still an amazing person, and after breakup we also realize she left mainly due to our fault. The rest of advice still applies, because what other option do you have? Wallow in your sadness and depression, make your close ones worry about you, stay in the past? You might as well keep moving forward while being sad, at least you can still help others, make your family and friends less worried, do something with the time you have in this world. The other option is not really an option.
@jessebradford39004 жыл бұрын
Practical Inspiration And on the flip side, we, in those situations aren’t what they built of us in their mind either. But what’s messed up is with certain women there’s guys who were still great men but the woman placed too much into what she built in her dumb mind and now she’s second guessed it.
@pg.n56943 жыл бұрын
i feel for the people going through this. I've been there. One thing i would say is hit the gym and get healthy. Don't forget to work on your soul too. Learn to be at peace with yourself and others. Learn to not be judgmental towards people and learn to love life. You can die any day, would you want to die with regrets/sadness?(hopefully thats a no). Forgive your ex, don't hate. Yes be disappointed but don't give hate space in your heart. Forgive and let go and keep walking onto better and beautiful things. Go for walks, meditate and love yourself. Understand that no one can validate you but you(cant stress this enough). If you want to cry, do it but don't stay there. Better yourself financially, physically and spiritually(in terms of your inner being and what not). Take this time to really self reflect and learn how to not be dependent on a partner for your happiness or your identity. The comeback will be stronger my beautiful people. Yall got this. And remember to be kind to people you meet for we are all fighting a battle out here. Much love
@isaachayes212 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much.
@NetSkillNavigator4 ай бұрын
Pin this! I need this.. Thanks for sharing. This is such an enlightenment to never depend your happiness on the outside..
@SSW24884 жыл бұрын
I came out of a 3 year relationship where my ex gf left + I had no money to my name + my best friend of 20 years decided to backstab me. I went to the gym straight for one whole year. It helped me not just physically but mentally as well. I always tell friends & family that if it wasn't for the gym that I would have probably ended up way worse. Hence why I tell people who are suffering from a break up or just life in general to always go out and exercise & focus on your health. A healthy lifestyle & a healthy mindset will pull you out of any darkness.
@kingjoseph590111 ай бұрын
I need to get in the gym or start running
@Trillvil14 жыл бұрын
One thing I can say. Falling in love is dangerous. It feels good when you’re in it but hurts like hell if they leave. Just think about that for a second... my goodness
@daves-c89194 жыл бұрын
Jatari x It’s not love that hurts. i.pinimg.com/originals/9b/66/cd/9b66cd7457b369c03d97ac050c5dc525.jpg
@vgdrent28524 жыл бұрын
@@daves-c8919 I agree.
@TheBb6prelude4 жыл бұрын
Jatari x never get too attached,ever! Look at actions more than words.
@daves-c89194 жыл бұрын
preludeF20Bking You will receive the distance that you give out.
@TheBb6prelude4 жыл бұрын
Dave S-C that depends. When you give women distance it gives them time to think and wonder about you.
@KavySan168804 жыл бұрын
(STORY TIME) Dealt with a break up 2 months ago and I put myself in a dark place. I've completely lost my way and I had no motivation to do anything. It was just work, sleep, over and over again. Pizza hut was my best friend. I thought of countless ways to try and get her back and right when I thought of the "best solution", my buddy of mine told me she was with someone else. BEST BELIEVE THAT KICKED MY ASS. But you know what? In the peak of all this emotional chaos, not 1 tear came down. Not one complaint came out of my mouth. I've realized this person does not care about me anymore like they use too and their is nothing I can do to change that. I got up and took my ass straight into the gym the same day. Been consistent since then and I'm currently prepping for a bodybuilding show. (Its been 2 years since i last completed) Ladies, fellas, just because 1 thing ends doesnt mean you stop. It's time for you to take back your life. It's time for you to realize the best moments of your life starts now. I've stayed away from social media to prep myself for this competition and I'm loving every second of it. People are asking me where I've been or what I'm doing but i answer vaguely. "Nothing". I'm keeping everybody guessing even her. BEST BELIEVE this comeback is gonna go down in MY BOOK for the rest of my life. This is for me and only me. Thank you Jocko and echo for putting me on the path. LETS GET AFTER IT!
@marquises494 жыл бұрын
Kavy Senpai good luck bro!!!
@KavySan168804 жыл бұрын
@@marquises49 Thank you brother! You're looking great!!!
@gms96554 жыл бұрын
Forge On.
@AnGelo-qb9il4 жыл бұрын
cheers to you man you did great , life is short
@CME19944 жыл бұрын
How’s Colorado?
@austinsavage13584 жыл бұрын
Being 17 listening to this is actually helping me a lot
@Louie122113 жыл бұрын
Shit man I’m 22 bad been through two shit breakups that took long to get over and looking back on both of them I don’t know why I was tripping for so long
@stewiegremlin44543 жыл бұрын
Man I'm 16 I feel like the young u are the harder break ups tend to be
@aidenw44483 жыл бұрын
@@stewiegremlin4454 facts man, i'm 16 and had my first breakup yesterday. Shit's rough but we'll get through it
@stewiegremlin44543 жыл бұрын
@@aidenw4448 yeah I'm getting over it pretty well and trying to look at the bad and the reason why it didn't work out helps alot
@aidenw44483 жыл бұрын
@@stewiegremlin4454 thx bro doing that
@chevelle14 жыл бұрын
Don’t need “perfect”. Just Honesty and Loyalty. The reality I’ve learned over the years is that the vast majority of women line up your replacement long before she ends it. She breaks up with you months before you even know it, or even know there’s a problem. The lack of integrity and morals in most women these days is astounding.
@Idontevenknow27883 жыл бұрын
I fucking needed this... I was meant to see this. Thank you✊🏾
@csp793 жыл бұрын
I dunno if it’s just the ladies... Maybe people in general? My breakup about a month ago was largely due to that I accidentally found out he was literally researching how to cheat on me. Now he flips out anytime I go out and just hang with people but I most certainly didn’t plan ahead or look for a replacement. Nor am I trying to jump into something else quick. Just enjoying some freedom :)
@spyglass1233 жыл бұрын
This exactly what i found the past month, she was giving me blunt messages.... she never messaged me in the mornings like she used to and gave me messages like i was just a "friend" i kept wondering and even asked if she was "ok" and all i got in response was "yes" a month later she sent me a text saying she cant keep doing this and dumped me. she never wanted to meet me.
@saradavies33463 жыл бұрын
Both men and women. Being untrustworthy doesn't pertain to one gender.
@saradavies33463 жыл бұрын
@@csp79 you go girl! Me too :)
@jasonwalker98084 жыл бұрын
15 years and getting divorced. Been going crazy then god sends you guys and gals. Also sent jocko .I'm going to keep the faith I'm 45 years old and a cancer survivor.. god bless everyone and be safe.
@chronicmartinez66194 жыл бұрын
How's everything going now?
@zfloqn39174 жыл бұрын
God bless you jason
@jasonwalker98084 жыл бұрын
Still separated and my wife has gone down a bad road for now . our anniversary was 3/30 we were going to spend time together and have dinner . well long story short she was drunk and got a DUI on the way to see me . I went and bailed her out showed her love . Sharon is a good woman . like all of us she is her own worst enemy. Thank you for asking about us and sending prayers . right now I just try and be upright and love people . day to day . yet again thanks for showing interest.
@jasonwalker98084 жыл бұрын
@@chronicmartinez6619 thanks
@jasonwalker98084 жыл бұрын
@@zfloqn3917 thanks I think we could all use a little prayers and blessings
@TheDonchileno4 жыл бұрын
Im looking at a break up after 7 years , and this comes out at the right moment, thanks jocko.
@Adrian1018824 жыл бұрын
@Seven_Year_Itch enters the chat...
@OhhhJP4 жыл бұрын
F BB 5 years and a daughter later here i am Bro. It’ll all be greater than it was
4 жыл бұрын
Wat happened
@OhhhJP4 жыл бұрын
VirtueOfTheLessBrilliant me or original comment?
@OhhhJP4 жыл бұрын
VirtueOfTheLessBrilliant long story short i didnt treat her right
@culturedthug88504 жыл бұрын
I got cheated on by my highschool sweetheart and fiance when I was overseas the first time. I was in the darkest hole I had ever been in at the time. Ultimately it took me looking at myself and convincing myself that it was her loss and not mine, I worked on myself alot more and realized that she just wasnt the one for me, and that there are plenty of fish in the sea for me. Now it still gets me down because I loved her more than anything, but all that taught me was to not create the fake perfect person in my mind the next time around. Then I found another girl who in many ways was better than my ex and when she cheated, I wasnt even that upset, I told her that it's over and that's that and I wish her the best. It took me a whole year to realize that I'm just young and I have my whole life ahead of me without this girl.
@rickyc7113 жыл бұрын
Great thinking and attitude 👍
@battou91403 жыл бұрын
Damn. I needed this. 2 weeks into a break up. For those who had to look something like this up (like me) we will get through. 🙏🏽
@iladebicartha48553 жыл бұрын
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and who ever you want to manifest within two-days ❤❤❤
@iladebicartha48553 жыл бұрын
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
@iladebicartha48553 жыл бұрын
Whtsaap him**
@iladebicartha48553 жыл бұрын
+ 2 3 4 8 1 4 0 7 9 9 3 2 3;
@Eothan Жыл бұрын
How you doing now brother?
@bryanverberg43424 жыл бұрын
She isn’t the person you thought she was
@viciousathletics52004 жыл бұрын
Was married 10 yrs to my highschool sweet heart, have two beautiful girls together. My Ex cheated and had another child, my girls and i haven't heard from her in years. Its hard at times but I got the absolute best parts of my marriage and moved on. My girls 12 and 8 are my best friends and we kick ass together, they both wrestle and we train our butts off in the gym. We use our misfortune as fuel, i choose to be very thankful instead of bitter. Jocko speaks the truth
@viciousathletics52004 жыл бұрын
Im very lucky, i had a choice and i made it. I was not the right man when it came to the job of raising two girls by myself but i have became that man lil by lil over the last 4 yrs. The hardest part is making excuses for my ex when my girls ask why she can spend time with her new baby girl but not them. My girls are heartbroken to not have a mother who is involved but they have been taught to beat the crap out of those feelings with hard work and dedication. The grass isn't always greener homie, i would much rather go through any kind of hell then to see my babies hurt so deeply.
@BarefeetB4 жыл бұрын
You are the man 😉😉😉 thanks for sharing , keep on keeping on
@That-rogue-14 жыл бұрын
Was married had 2 beautiful daughters with her and she left for someone else. For a while I felt like I was disposable...I still get waves of depression but climbing out of it
@jbsmith35563 жыл бұрын
you very blessed. My childhood sweetheart, that i wanted the same things as you, (child/wife) well, after making love and us both wanting a child, we started not using the pill or condoms, she got pregnant, but she, decided to be selfish and have an abortion. There was zero I could do to stop it. I know if she did have my children, they would be my best friends, just like your family. Count your blessing, cause I always wonder, 20+ years later now, how things would be.
@MRJTD993 жыл бұрын
@@jbsmith3556 That's rough, man. I hope you're no longer with her.
@austinsavage13584 жыл бұрын
“She’s not the perfect person you built in your mind “ Fr tho!
@hbutter13063 жыл бұрын
Getting yourself distracted after a breakup is so important, after breakups in the past ive rediscovered myself. Sometimes i reflect on those things and remind myself to keep my individuality and continue to pursue my own interests while in a relationship. Its harder to keep up with hobbies because a relationship satisfies so much of your social needs and free time. remember to take yourself out, practice your shooting skills, your martial arts, your sewing, etc.
@OceanBeatsYT4 жыл бұрын
this came at right time, thanks jocko
@medicineman64543 жыл бұрын
Yo, I can't believe I found you here of all places. Love the videos man, keep it up!
@larsonjackson40173 жыл бұрын
Thank all of you guys your great
@MC-dz8be3 жыл бұрын
Love your beats bro!
@nlrenzo94324 жыл бұрын
“A lot of times the pain that we feel isn’t based on the reality it’s based on the fantasy”
@rileymcintosh4852 Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much I appreciate your advice and you are absolutely spot on
@liltrue84203 жыл бұрын
Ex keeps messaging me and bothering me, won't let me go. She cheated and she won't leave me alone. Today instead of waking up crying I put ear buds in and shadow boxes and did some old muay thai drills I've learned for an hr. Now watching this feel great. I recommend working out for a lil then watching this. Thanks jocko and echo. My father died when I was 2 , so these kinds of people are my guidance.
@deborahkane27433 жыл бұрын
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️
@deborahkane27433 жыл бұрын
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
@deborahkane27433 жыл бұрын
Whtsaap him**
@deborahkane27433 жыл бұрын
___+ 2::3::4::81::40::79::93::23...
@msmarie47344 жыл бұрын
1:33 “The pain that we feel isn’t the reality, it’s based on the fantasy.” This actually left my mouth hung open for a bit. POOOF, epiphany, so much weight off my shoulders. I focused so much on what I wanted with him, because of how good our present was, I thought the future would be even brighter with him. I’m not mourning because I lost him, I’m mourning the idea and fairy tale of him.
@brettlorenzo604 жыл бұрын
Hello is he dead if I may ask?
@keithfreeman58404 жыл бұрын
Yes, when we get ditched, then the person we loved did not exist. She may have pretended to be someone she wasn’t, and we believed the lie. We have to grieve the loss and not suppress it. If we only suppress it, it grows within us and gets worse, and is harsher each time it resurfaces. When we humbly admit that “I was lied to, and I bit the bait”, then grieve the loss, then we can move on. We become wiser. Thank you for covering this topic.
@gnarthdarkanen74644 жыл бұрын
Remember your five steps to accepting a loss... 1. Denial 2. Bargaining 3. Anger/Rage 4. Sadness/Depression 5. Acceptance It's okay to stumble through them. That's normal, and they don't even always come "in the right order"... It's called "being human". There is no such thing as "the perfect one", because (quite simply) there is no perfect human. We're all trainwrecks in one fashion or another. We're all screwed up somewhere. SO... while you suffer through the loss, it's perfectly healthy and helpful to remember this. Remind yourself that the "fantasy" wasn't real... Wait until you're in at least a "decent mental space" and go back through the memories and face the truth. Analyze where sh*t started turning sideways, and arm yourself for future encounters. AND maybe, don't rush so hard to "get somebody" because it's really not worth the effort. Love, if it's going to work, should be gotten "organically". That means, give the time and patience to let the damn thing sprout... THEN work hard to cultivate it. If you ain't enough of a complete person on your lonesome, no relationship is going to "fix" you. ;o)
@user-hj9xz5gr3f4 жыл бұрын
How can I grieve the loss? I want to accept the reality and move on. I want to move on, but it's been two weeks and I haven't shed a tear. I guess I'm a strong individual, and I am still pretty numb from the breakup especially after she went straight to rebound TWO DAYS after our breakup. I'm currently pretty damn broken as a human being, I legit have to reinvent myself and emotionally detach from that narcissistic, selfish, self- centered bitch that used the trust I had for her against me to break me.... And even though the pain is brutal, and I can feel it every day in my heart and my soul, I still haven't shed a tear. My guess? My essential grieving stage has not yet been reached. It's hard man....
@DavidM-lj5yv2 жыл бұрын
That is an extremely effective way to approach this. Thank you.
@flexibleaspect4 жыл бұрын
*She’s not your girl, it’s just your turn.*
@abrahamsaavedra89534 жыл бұрын
flexibleaspect So true!! I like that! I’m going to adopt that saying!! 😂🤣
@imunchienandalusia4 жыл бұрын
harsh truth.
@thedesertsux4 жыл бұрын
flexibleaspect daaaaaaaam
@thedesertsux4 жыл бұрын
Just get a female dog and your good
@daybuttons75414 жыл бұрын
Get a girlfriend and treat her like a female dog, she'll love you forever.
@adthompson1544 жыл бұрын
Developing an abundance mindset is the best thing i have done. I was in the same boat, got caught up in who i thought my ex was. In reality, she was a mean and toxic person and was holding me back with poor lifestyle choices, lack of ambition and bitterness. When you realise you cant change people, it becomes easier to just let go.
@catstickler Жыл бұрын
Not sure how KZfaq knew I needed this video, but I'm so glad it was on my home page. This sister needed to hear all of this. I think it's time to get back to kickboxing and fully committing to my business again. What hit me hard was: "The person you built in your mind doesn't actually exist. The pain that we feel isn't based on reality; it's based on the fantasy, so you're feeling the pain of losing something that wasn't real. So let the fantasy go." And damn if that's not the fucking truth. Time to get back after it.
@catstickler Жыл бұрын
Oh my god stop. Get a hobby. Go to the gym. Eat a steak. Stop being a spambot.
@spencersilverstein2922 Жыл бұрын
I believe in you
@alexng4 Жыл бұрын
@@catstickler i think you are flirting with.. Remember, he isnt real, he's just a spambot.
@Vashthestampede9674 жыл бұрын
This reminds me of the best advice I've ever heard from the tv show mad men " People tell you who they are, but we ignore it - because we want them to be who we want them to be". When I first heard this I didn't believe it, I thought I knew the people around me and my SO at the time. But What I didn't realize was that I wasn't listening to what people were saying, I was letting my emotions guide how and what I did for people. It took me a long time to swallow that pill and as a result I see how true it is. People tell you by actions and words who they are and the best way to decide who is in your life is to listen to them.
@uhhjustin4 жыл бұрын
Vash Stampede thanks for this
@Vashthestampede9674 жыл бұрын
@@uhhjustin May I ask why your thanking me?
@uhhjustin4 жыл бұрын
Vash Stampede your message really resonates with my experiences
@maharjasendy75374 жыл бұрын
@@Vashthestampede967 yes thanks to,very proven and related
@carlosgarza17014 жыл бұрын
powerful stuff and so very true thank you. It brought me back to thinking about the beginning of the relationship and the red flags. I just ignored them. Now I'm paying a high price. This time with wisdom tho. 🙏
@Rox23184 жыл бұрын
I know this video is directed towards men but as a woman who has just come out of a 10 year relationship and had someone treat her as if shes nothing, this has helped ♡ warrior mentality can be for women too so if any gals are watching - you got this xo
@jaysonmuzuruk66044 жыл бұрын
Could be a mirror of how you treat your Self and your unconscious realization of such :)
@Rox23184 жыл бұрын
@@jaysonmuzuruk6604 truth xo
@jaysonmuzuruk66044 жыл бұрын
@@Rox2318 that could help you in relationships too. Seeing how the unconscious parts of others, usually fear, influence their lives. If you unconsciously feel inferior, you will consciously, but unconsciously seek superiority until it is brought to consciousness what one is doing to cope with reality.
@funkywarrior39062 жыл бұрын
@@jaysonmuzuruk6604 brother, please if you can extend yourself on how if i feel inferior i seek superiority? I believe this happened to me,
@jaysonmuzuruk66042 жыл бұрын
@@funkywarrior3906 when you are weak, you seek power. The need for superiority itself, is weakness. Nothing wrong with training or anything, but it's best to let all of that "superiority" stuff go. Alot of it leads to pride and arrogance. Prove yourself superior if anything, but be humble about it. Not using your superiority in vain.
@shootwithjets3 жыл бұрын
I went through this before, work out and work on yourself. Show her that you’re better off without her. Improve your physique, improve your mental strength. Do squats, do dead lifts. When you see results, you’ll forget about her. Trust me. I became the sexiest guy on campus after a break up. This was from someone I slept with. After that I had the best senior year of my life. Good luck!
@robertant77683 жыл бұрын
Shouts out the this comment section for helping all heartbroken soldiers out!!!
@OkOk-vj9db4 жыл бұрын
"Aw man me and Jennifer broke up last night" "Sweet man lets roll!"🤣
@the7A7dude4 жыл бұрын
This came at the right time
@roblincoln102 жыл бұрын
Man, I am going through this 2 days now and I am hurting so bad. I appreciate you Jocko, and all the kind comments I am reading on here. 7 years together, we got together at a very unhealthy time in my life and we have been through a lot, but the last year has declined quickly, very unhealthy attitudes.
@GarciaDK4 жыл бұрын
I'm 30 an still single. A blessing and a curse.....patience is key..
@EsotericHighway4 жыл бұрын
Rich DK dude I’m 35 and single. It’s freaking awesome
@loganstriker29734 жыл бұрын
@@EsotericHighway -- I'm 37 and single, no kids. MA and PhD in philosophy on the horizon.
@vanesa28124 жыл бұрын
26... a semester left in getting my masters... y'all are making me feel better about this single thing 😂 seems like everybody around me is happily/miserably paired up
@dboom27294 жыл бұрын
35 and single no kids... Loving life.. Want kids and wife but patience is key.. Broke up 1.5 years ago and been thinking wanted her back.. This vid came at right time... She is in Walgreens I'm in parking lot waiting.. I'm dropping her off and minimizing contact and focusing within..
@4rmDavi2puMa4 жыл бұрын
As a 33 year old man with no kids, I am happy to see other men the same as myself. Thank you guys!
@edwindejesus29974 жыл бұрын
20 year marriage ended 7 months ago. This is absolutely the TRUTH! Make the best individual in yourself as possible. Only you are responsible for your happiness. God bless!
@ikeinnyc3 жыл бұрын
I swear this is the first time in my life where I watched a video and felt instant relief. in the grand scheme of things none of this shit really matters.
@y33tboy973 жыл бұрын
“Find something better than fantasy” Thanks man
@robertgolfetto4 жыл бұрын
This guy passed through this, and came out as a greater man. I'll follow him, I want to be a great man too.
@wheredidileavemycell4 жыл бұрын
the girl who i thought was perfect & who i built up in my mind turned out to be kind of crazy. she did me a favor by breaking up with me. i met my now wife shortly there after. my wife just happens to have the same name of my exe. God has a funny sense of humor since i often prayed that "Mary would be the one" haha little did I know that 10 years & 3 babies later, that turned out to be true. It Will Get Better. Cry, Yell, rub one out, Get up, Get out. Go live your life.
@reido_dorito4 жыл бұрын
God is a madlad like that, man.
@rumor-9363 жыл бұрын
God did what's called a "pro gamer move"
@tylerbutterfras342110 ай бұрын
Needed this bad. Using my pain and heartache as motivation to become much better! The worst thing you can do is give up, you’ll get to a point where you rebuild your confidence and mindset, and it’ll attract someone better to your life. Something I thought about yesterday was “there’s billions of people on earth, why let one person destroy your life”. Just keep moving forward and don’t stop, I’m starting my journey now as well’
@lzp74904 жыл бұрын
Today’s Valentine’s Day, I have been thinking of my ex like crazy. My brain can’t let go this 7 years relationship. I have no friends to help me go through the hard time. This video appeared to be what I really need right now. Thanks.
@williewilkins72532 жыл бұрын
How are you doing so far bro? Just curious because I'm going through the same thing now....hoping you're doing well
@pandelisdermentzoglou6596 Жыл бұрын
I broke up some months ago . Going through depression and anxiety. Cant get off bed . Her birthday is on valentine's Day.....
@whitewolf9547 Жыл бұрын
I am in a similar situation. I moved states and recently broke up with my girl so I’m dealing with this alone. It sucks not having a support group around to take your mind off things
@patrickpuente Жыл бұрын
I moved to another state for her, now 6 years later she has left and I'm in a town where I have no family, no Friends no one to at least give a hug to. It's really f up what that can do to your mental health.
@DSNCB9194 жыл бұрын
Every breakup has made me MUCH STRONGER.... still love and miss my ex been near a year but I'm on a diff level now much better off than I was with her I don't regret it at all glad it happened.. went from ass credit to excellent credit... went from drinking and getting high daily to sober near a year and owning my own house
@grahamodonnell49802 жыл бұрын
That’s awesome !
@SkinnyLegend18004 жыл бұрын
needed to hear this my girlfriend broke up with me almost a year ago now and I'm still struggling
@greg47124 жыл бұрын
Same here man
@jeffreyrichards93864 жыл бұрын
T hey man I know it’s been a while but life will get better. Just know it’s not unusual. My first love and I split and I was a train wreck for a year and some, made all kinds of bad plays and even stopped to trying to get her back. Let time do it’s thing and focus on creating a version of yourself that an even better girl will love. Cheerz
@olegariorodriguez47394 жыл бұрын
Still there brother , rips your heart out
@sinovy78644 жыл бұрын
Don’t be a pussy. Yeah I know it sucks most people do. It was a walking back of flesh with a mind that wasn’t what you thought it was. Your old image of her isn’t who she is now. People change and it sucks but you can’t be depressed about it. It was a hard pill for me to swallow but it’s true, you need to know the only person you should really love is yourself because you’re with yourself till death obviously. Being a train wreck over a girl that’s probably forgotten you who isn’t the same person, it’s stupid. Don’t be a pussy and try and find new girls, not to fall in love with, but to get that empty feeling out a little. Go to the gym, run, do stuff that makes you happy and can kill that time that otherwise you’d be in bed thinking about it. A year of your life with chains on top of you... all you have to do is let go of it. Because there is nothing you get by bringing them past the finish line. It only makes it harder. Stay strong man and remember that it wasn’t as big as you thought.
@MattRockwell14 жыл бұрын
There's more women out there. Take a chance find someone else
@BlackMagic04173 жыл бұрын
My girlfriend and I broke up two days ago after our 6 month long intense relationship. It was mutual, but she couldn't handle commitment and we have been long distance for 2 months along with our own personal career goals. It still hurts a lot, but I stumbled upon this video and rewatch it every time these fantasy thoughts enter my mind. Being self aware is almost impossible after a breakup, but this video helps keep you on the right track to better yourself and you. It will get better with each day and although it may not seem like it, there are a lot of people that will support you through this difficult time.
@Genghis_Khaan_4 жыл бұрын
I’ve learned that pushing emotions to the side isn’t the way to go, you have to feel them and assess what’s going on inside and take control of it, feel your emotions but don’t lose yourself
@billythebake4 жыл бұрын
Note to the guy who wrote in: I'm a civilian, haven't been in the military, obviously haven't been on a deployment That being said, I've had girls dump me, I've had them dump me by text message, and voice mail So I understand that piece of the pain I worked with a Navy sub A-gang guy who told me this s*** is SUPER common returning from deployment - so you're not alone Remember, the way people treat us really speaks to themselves, and not us. And the fact that you're asking these questions from Jocko makes me think that your head is actually in the right place on this - "how do I adapt/cope/grow" vs. "poor me - I got screwed" All the same, it's a bite of the shit sandwich to go thru...
@DrummerJacob4 жыл бұрын
Why did you censor shit earlier but not later in your comment?
@dankdark9744 жыл бұрын
@@DrummerJacob valid question
@carlzipperman66894 жыл бұрын
@@DrummerJacob Why must you nit pick? Just take in what he's saying, jackass!
@billythebake4 жыл бұрын
@@DrummerJacob using voice to text censors the s*** I say - but if I'm typing... that shit gets spelled out. Happy now? Or, you have some punctuation or grammatical issue you want to bring up, now? (shakes head...)
@Tallonest4 жыл бұрын
Why is it true that the way they treat us speaks to themselves? Aren’t they reflecting back our value to us?
@TheJet1084 жыл бұрын
Unfollow your ex, even if on good terms
@matthewhayes68064 жыл бұрын
Yup. That got her to block me a few days later which shows she still thinks of me and made me laugh. deleted all social media and I feel great trying to not impress people. I don't want anyone looking at me through a picture frame.
@nineseven52524 жыл бұрын
Matthew Hayes haha she’s trying to one up you 🤣
@Matts1304 жыл бұрын
That is really one of the best solutions. Seeing what she is doing every day just get things worse
@randommm53764 жыл бұрын
Matthew Hayes deleting my social media was one of the best decisions I’ve made
@marcus31613 жыл бұрын
@@randommm5376 *comments on a social media platform*
@joenahay59224 жыл бұрын
Holy shit man. You're exactly right jocko!! I got stuck on a chick because i only knew her as the fake sweet, caring person she pretended to be but she's literally been the most selfish mean person I've ever been involved with. And i was stuck on her, taking her back a few times and she always ended up the same. It's hard to realize who they really are so it's good to hear it like this
@daze5074 жыл бұрын
Ah the fun times with a BPD/NPD...
@thomasleur1121 Жыл бұрын
Been in the same situation. She always told me she cared for me and wanted to help. But when I was struggling or confused (had cancer), she didnt want to talk or want drama. And always acted like the victim in the situation.
@ryumorita87613 жыл бұрын
2:12 - getting distracted with productive things, is always the way, as mensioned by Alan Watts! 2:59 no person is perfect 4:05 anger towards the past ain't something too bad 4:39 everybody faces this ex-girl/ex-guy problem 6:00 the young-seal-jocko response towards break ups 6:35 fall or rise 9:00 the parent-jocko response towards break ups PS: This was probably one of the best, funniest, and most honest relationship videos I've seen. Lol, maybe have 1 podcast episode about marriage & relationships from Jocko's perspective
@boseprecious84253 жыл бұрын
I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate
@boseprecious84253 жыл бұрын
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay
@boseprecious84253 жыл бұрын
Whtsaap him"**
@boseprecious84253 жыл бұрын
+ 2 3 4 8 1 4 0 7 9 9 3 2 3
@bennettabler46374 жыл бұрын
The other breakup video really helped man. That "shes a liar and not the fantasy that you built up" and it really helped man.
@slamdunktiger4 жыл бұрын
Can you imagine picking up a girl and Jocko opens the front door....
@loganstriker29734 жыл бұрын
Yeah that's not very hard to imagine.
@Alecrich4 жыл бұрын
Man, that'd be awesome if you're serious about the girl.
@scylla82473 жыл бұрын
Ohhhh fffuuuuuuuccckkkk 😂😂😂😂 you better bet you can do keep up with the push up and BJJ
@Lorendrawn3 жыл бұрын
I'd push the girl aside, slap and bump with Jocko and start rolling. Let's go uncle!
@p0rt3r4 жыл бұрын
What he said at 0:52 is so true. In your head you create this fantasy of her. It's just a concept in your mind, a fictional character, vaguely based on the real girl. To let go of this girl, I came up with a trick that worked great for me: I detached the fictional girl from the real girl, by treating them as two distinct entities. I had a nickname for her and now I reserved that nickname for the fictional girl, while the real girl was only called by her actual first name (all in my head). And so I can still have positive thoughts about this lovely fictional girl I fell in love with, without attaching myself any longer to the real girl. I let the real one go, but kept the fiction in my heart.
@williewilkins72532 жыл бұрын
Bro im trying this
@uzairhussain48562 жыл бұрын
Smart way. ♥️
@tranformersaddiction Жыл бұрын
🙌🏾
@Demothean Жыл бұрын
“You are feeling the pain over losing something that wasn’t real” Damn that hit me hard
@zafinaseldom31274 жыл бұрын
Focus on yourself, deal with the emotions as they come, and kick em out when they stay too long. Never loose sight of yourself-keep busy. Though it's simple with discipline it's not easy, Jocko is correct. Thank you for your podcast Jocko and Echo and thank you Echo for the question. It was a legit question-I was curious.
@derekallen90554 жыл бұрын
Warrior mentality when dealing with skinny KNEES
@Marwan-fz8nx4 жыл бұрын
😭🤣
@fenris81794 жыл бұрын
I can relate. The struggle is real.
@muzikfitness4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@fernandonakamuta15026 ай бұрын
It's the second time I am dealing with breakups, and I am hearing this again, knowing exactly what Jock is going to say, but it feels good... Just needed to hear this again. Thanks, Jocko.
@Jefrejtor3 жыл бұрын
Q: Did you ever get your heart broken? A: Negative. Lmao. Gotta love Jocko
@nightangelx15134 жыл бұрын
I got broken up with a few months ago, 7 years of my life down the drain. I needed to hear this
@Cannibalizer934 жыл бұрын
its not 7 years down the drain. Its 7 years of solid experience. You are now 7 years maturer and now you know what you can look out for from your next relationship.
@rolsonDotcom4 жыл бұрын
Like Jocko said “If you get out while there are no permanent legal bindings, consider yourself ahead of the curve.” Figure out what you did right and wrong.
@joeythechin88704 жыл бұрын
Perfectly Answered Brother!! The girl was a selfish non being to begin with! Best Advice ever!!! Drink Water, Drive On!!!
@ChrisRobinson11693 жыл бұрын
this hits home, my last break up she literally told me she was pretending to be someone she thought i wanted and obviously as time goes the real person is revealed
@maliankane69913 жыл бұрын
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️
@maliankane69913 жыл бұрын
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
@maliankane69913 жыл бұрын
Whtsaap him**
@maliankane69913 жыл бұрын
___+ 2::3::4::81::40::79::93::23...
@2300enduserperson14 жыл бұрын
“Get after it” = Get after life. Life is all we have. And there’s no such thing as perfect. There is such a thing as “The Perfect Fit.”
@LoneWolfRanging4 жыл бұрын
Men: make your life a mission. Only include those who help you accomplish your mission. Hint: most women will only interfere with your objectives.
@EsotericHighway4 жыл бұрын
LoneWolf Ranger best comment on here. This is how a man stays happy his whole life..
@alantinoalantonio4 жыл бұрын
True, but also help others accomplish theirs. If a woman is dead set in helping you with your mission, she may be a good one. Rare though.
@alantinoalantonio4 жыл бұрын
@The Underground Man Calling names now? You must be a child. Listen, when you grow up to become a man you'll find that there are good feminine women out there that help men with their mission as a helpmate should. Of course, you must be a man first. One day maybe you'll grow to become one. Meanwhile, try your best to stop acting so feminine.
@KARTIKEYA0074 жыл бұрын
@@alantinoalantonio Yea be a "man" and waste your life on a woman instead of just chasing your dreams without a fucking bitch in your way. A "man" is a person who does whatever he wants, he doesnt just follow the societal norm of "oh I must get married, find a woman".... fuck off with your traditional BS little bitch.
@john-nk4kr4 жыл бұрын
Damn you couldn't have said it better
@chadspro4 жыл бұрын
Nike need to hire Jocko for a "Just do it" campaign
@CH-bp3bj4 жыл бұрын
Chad I doubt Jocko would ever do a Nike commercial and support sweat shop, under paid, and or child labor made in countries with no or poor labor laws. Jocko has a strong passion for Made in the USA goods and his own company Origin. He talks about it in the Tulsi Gabbard podcast on JRE.
@coleg55784 жыл бұрын
Yeah right. The same company that endorses Colin Kaepernick, a spoiled child of America’s wealth who refuses to honor its fallen by standing for the anthem, would dare to support Jocko, a SEAL who has built his reputation by making actual sacrifices for his country and who respects it immeasurably? Sure. I would hope that Jocko would spit in their faces if they ever approached him.
@iProHydro4 жыл бұрын
Chad Jocko & Shia would be a funny ass combo JUST DO IT!
@Numantino3124 жыл бұрын
@@coleg5578 "here. let me give you a list of my competitors!"
@onward-fp2fz4 жыл бұрын
If he knelt during the anthem they would
@khawk32143 жыл бұрын
When I get knocked down in the healing process I always come back to this vid.
@sageway479 Жыл бұрын
Me too bro, me too
@Cybop-xd9mm Жыл бұрын
After 4 years my ex came out as a lesbian and destroyed me. Going out and socializing, hitting the gym and being with my family is the best way to get through this for me rn.
@Dzaandry Жыл бұрын
My ex-gf is also a lesbian, but, weirdly enough, it didn't destroy me. At all. I mean, if she left me for some dude, cheated on me with some dude - that would've been extremely painful. I would've felt betrayed and stabbed in the back. Depressed and suicidal. But since she left me for a girl, I was like 'hmmm ok, i also like anime with some hot girl-on-girl action, I get it, that's fine' 😂. Seriously. I didn't have any hard feelings about it. And we were together with that girl for 3 years, and I loved her, maybe I still do.
@djkush849511 ай бұрын
@@Dzaandry LOL, so yall were a triad, is that right?
@MVProfits4 жыл бұрын
You had said this in another breakup video, and it was so spot on. That we build a fantasy in our minds, that the person that broke up with us isn't at all how we built her up in our minds. Even knowing it rationally, it's still feels real, especially when that breakup is raw and new. Like echo said, it's also dopamine related and all. I think one of the reasons, is that as men, when we finally commit (and that can take a while), we tend to see the positive and mostly the positive of the woma(e)n we care about, and in the breakup for some strange reason that is even accentuated.
@TimeWaveOfficial Жыл бұрын
lol funny that you said that we as man take a while to commit and if we do we see the positiv things... you are fully right..in my 10 years of rl i wanted break up with her in the first year and in the fourth year because her red flags, but then i started to accept her whole person and i never tested her anymore (woman test you the whole fucking relationship), but i started reall to commiting after some time even after break up i stay loyal and dont jump into another relationship and heal myself first.. i would take her back BUT she has to change her frame, but as a monkeybrancher after 2 weeks after break up she wont change her mind, without being hurt like i was hurt...so even after break up i see these shitty positiv things..but they help me to say "fine the 10 relationship was good, now move on"... i went into top gun maverick and the scene "its time to let go" was like a god sign!
@firehorse_44alpha-omega4 жыл бұрын
This an epic "week of Valentine's Day" message..... Thank you gentlemen
@samyoung24464 жыл бұрын
His statement about “she didn’t exist, the sweet person you built her to be” is the most truest shit ever like my jaw is on the floor. Fuck man I’m about to conquer this life this man showed me the light.
@obi-wan-cod-obi6692 Жыл бұрын
3 years since splitting with my sons mum and still have to watch this,
@_M_D_M_4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Jocko. Today marks around 8 months of me dealing with a sudden breakup. Did some professional certifications in between... Now better.
@tootsieroll31094 жыл бұрын
My partner for 10 years left me 2 weeks ago for another man. She told me a lot of things like, she doesn’t love me just like before and it totally wrecked me. Indeed, nothing will shock you more than the uncertainty and because I still loved her. I am completely clueless. I was so busy grinding for my career/ work and law school improving myself for our future. Not realizing she doesn’t love me anymore. I pity myself and I just can’t still accept up to this point.
@kylem28494 жыл бұрын
Carlo Panesares I feel you bro I just lost my first love of a year because she wanted her ex. Fuck girls you’ve lived without her you’ll live now she’s gone. Fake your confidence and soon you’ll forget it’s just an act.
@IAMHARRYARTIN2 жыл бұрын
I understand
@williewilkins72532 жыл бұрын
Dam bro...I know I'm a little late but this is the same thing that happened to me...after 10 years together she met someone else and told me she didn't love me anymore...been 3 weeks and im still trying to pick up the pieces. Feel so stupid now because I helped her buy a house that she is now selling because she said she needs the money....and I paid all the bills for a year and a half so she could go to nursing school. Then she dropped me like she didn't even know me. Im coming out of the hole but dam this shit hit like a ton of bricks.
@TimeWaveOfficial Жыл бұрын
LOOOOL exact same situation, my 10 rl ended 3 months ago (she was my first real gf me too for her, first sex for both), she said she love me but she hastn feelings anmore (fearful avoidant? borderline? Hypergamie... she was monkeybranching 2 weeks before )...i had to work in 2 shift system and created side hustles so that i can pay us a good life and for our marriage and kids..because of the workload i got a hidden burnout (i helped her emotionally and financially)...in that moment she left. but the point is if she would be the right person, she wouldnt have fear to be alone and read book, and support your business she wouldnt leave you...she would see the long term effect would be much better for her ...so she has a weak mindset and immature mindset
@TimeWaveOfficial Жыл бұрын
@@williewilkins7253 same bro, im in 3 months now
@BadForYourKidneys4 жыл бұрын
This is so needed. I was in 2 year relationship where I was cheated on. I was way too much of a pushover and she found someone who treated her negatively. I realized I need to change and that she was never the person I thought she was. Just cry it out, dry off your tears and try your best to work on yourself to prepare for the next relationship.
@daze5074 жыл бұрын
Yup. Eventually, you learn that you are never rewarded or respected when you act as a nice guy. This is NOT what women want, never been, never will.
@niallntaz4 жыл бұрын
I needed this! Almost 2 years since she left me with no closure or explanation.... My heart is still shattered but this video helps a lot!
@jamesh32263 жыл бұрын
Same bro, 10 year relationship. Stayed friends for a year and no closure. Feel like that’s the part that hurts most
@tylerbutterfras342110 ай бұрын
You can do 2 things whenever your heart is broken, you can let it keep you down in the darkness and consume your thoughts, you can give in to it. Or, you can use it a fuel to grow and be better, you can use it as motivation to persevere over the pain someone brought you. I promise you option 2 is the best path, because the pain hurts like hell, trust me I’m going through it right now myself. But I refuse to let it keep me down!
@ryanbarker39783 жыл бұрын
The message that your ex is not perfect is a really good one, the message that all breakups occur because the other person was toxic is a really bad one. Sometimes people are just incompatible, and a real mark of your own maturity is your ability to recognize and be at peace with this. There doesn't always have to be fault or a bad person involved when we're just incompatible. Sometimes our own emotions trick us as discussed in this video, but blaming the other person for that is incredibly weak behavior.
@DougJK3 жыл бұрын
0:48 This whole part about the person we build in our mind being a fantasy actually helped me so much
@brunodj157 ай бұрын
Been watching dozens of videos and IT WASNT REAL is almost all that I really needed to hear
@kallinjames48554 жыл бұрын
This was the best break up advice I’ve found and I feel soo much better after hearing this. Thank you!
@dejannashoku2603 Жыл бұрын
Going through a heartbreak at the moment, and needed to hear this. Thanks!
@tommythompson79412 жыл бұрын
Still struggling because she is gone. I know Jocko is a tremendous man and warrior. But these words are just words (at least for now) to me. Best of luck to those who are still sad and struggling.
@nate72494 жыл бұрын
Fewer Girlfriends = more discipline = more freedom
@drivennomad47413 жыл бұрын
And lift heavy
@prestigious5s232 жыл бұрын
Breakups are tough man and can haunt you if messy. I'm happily married with a beautiful family, but a relationship that I ended 14 years ago still plagues me to this day. Had a whirlwind relationship with a girl I met in Ibiza, but she lived in England whearas I was in Ireland. We got on so well, and were back and forth to each other a lot over the course of 2 months, by which time I was completely flat broke which stressed me the hell out. Had no savings and missed multiple load payments. Worked a very low paying job, where I got a weekend off every 10 weeks or more so I convinced myself it couldn't work. It still seems crazy to this day that I let the previous issues change my opionion on the relationship and that I was able to switch my brain into a dark mode where I was willing so say whatever shit to end it, as I knew she would desperately try to twist my arm to keep going. Both of us were confused by what I was saying as it was pretty harsh and I made the relationship out to be nothing when we got on so well. Needless to say it was a terrible decision and we never spoke again. She was the sweetest person and I wanted to make it up to her, but was so immature and ashamed by what I'd done, I couldn't bring myself to contact her as much as I wanted to. This breakup deeply affected me for years as I'd never broken up with someone I still had feelings for and I believe it aided me going into a depressed state a couple of years later, before I met my future wife and things turned around. I still find it hard to believe that I let a job I hated and little bit of financial difficulty ruin what could of been an amazing relationship. Oh how I'd wished I knew at least one person at the time who could of spun a positive light on it so I would of packed my bags and moved off to england. Maybe it still wouldn't have worked out but it would have been worth the risk. Even to this day I'd love to apoligise to her and heard anthony robbins say in one of his seminars recently that you should do it, so maybe I will one day.