I love this!

Ive been raped, abused as child, no father, self hatred and depression, destroyed every carrier opportunity, was addicted todrugs and alcohol, 3 years of J.P. later, im not a victim, im a builder and a healer, i never tought i would find so much potential in me, ill win this life no matter what...

Only when you take responsibility for your circumstances can you be empowered enough to change them.

imagine being an actual student in this man's class. i think i would sign up for a phd, just to stay there

This mentality is becoming a trend.

Getting rid of victim mentality is what saved my life. I suffered a lot of trauma, depression and anxiety in my 21-year life but i realised that my happiness is MY responsibility. I can either complain and wallow in my misery forever or fight for happiness DESPITE all the bad things that happened to me. It is possible. I know it's really hard to understand for a person who is suffering. Some would even be offended by what i said. But getting rid of victim mentality and taking your own happiness into your own hands is the best that can happen to you. Re-living the trauma and other bad stuff over and over again doesn't bring anything good in your life. It makes you drown even more. Don't let trauma and bad experiences take over your life.

I choose responsibility, and a meaningful life.

When you try and have these conversations with your friends, and they call you weird.

"The sense of meaning that life can provide to you is proportionate to the amount of responsibility you decide to take on." that bit is all I needed from this video

Your circumstances aren’t always your fault, but it’s ALWAYS your responsibility to change them.

Playing the victim seems like a manipulative behavior in people.

The students are so blessed to have him as an instructor. They have no idea yet how blessed.

Life is like poker. Everyone gets dealt a hand at the poker table, and it’s random. You can’t complain to the dealer to give you “better” cards. You gotta take a risk, put your chips in the pot, and hope for a good flop. The message is to find a way to carve out a decent life for yourself without complaining that everyone else has it better than you, or believing that other people owe you something. Accept where you are, set realistic instead of delusional goals, and enjoy it.

Pinocchio actually parallels the reality of how most SJW's fall into their states of victimhood, he has a parent that doesn't prepare him for the harsh realities of life thus leaving him open to be moulded by others like Stromboli and Honest John who have their own agenda for him. Pinocchio only achieves his goal of becoming a real boy at the end of the film because he abandons his victim hood status and takes responsibility for his actions.

I know a few parents who could learn a thing or two from this

The first 30 seconds-- TRUTH BOMB. I want to tell this to minorities who identify as SJWs. We're all human, and you're not different from a white person, or a straight person, or whoever. And I'm black, and think the victim mentality is delaying progress of those people's lives.

Pinnochio + morality+ psychoanalysis + Jung = just brilliant. Hope JP knows he is 21th century hope for mankind...

I'm agnostic, but half convinced that this man may be an angel.

Concerning your daughter Mr. Peterson, You did well, extremely well!! I just watched your interview with her about your own troubles over the last year. Wow what a woman! Good job sir to you and your wife. I wish the best life has to offer to your whole family.

My father has an undeniable victimhood mentality that my family has been dealing with for a long time. Which is ironic because I in turn now have a victimhood mentality for always having to deal with his attitude. I guess the cycle can sometimes repeat itself, although I hope it does not.

We need to pray for this man to stay safe and protected, for he is speaking the truth in the face of the dark forces and their establishments...May Lord Jesus bless you Mr. Peterson and guide you in His light and truth! Stay safe...

Oh my, I relate to a lot of this. Better do some self-reflection.

Pinocchio is an excellent book to read. The book has more adventures than the Disney movie. I read it as a young adult. An excellent moral tale.

Ever since I discovered that I had a victim mentality I make every effort not to put myself in situations where I feel victimized. It starts by putting myself and needs first then taking accountability for my life. I have all of the power.

my ex-wife enables the kids, afraid of their reactions, wants them to never enter that mode of responsibility...and it scares the fox out of me cause I want them to grow independent and strong

There are two ways of living a life. One way is deeming self as a victim. You don’t have to take responsibility for your behavior and thoughts. It’s easy. The price you pay for it is that you would have no meaning for life. Another path is taking responsibility for your actions, thoughts, and beliefs. It’s difficult. You would have meaning as much responsibility as you take.

I was looking for something to help my interactions with another person. And yet, as I watched, I realized that I can't. In the place of a long explanation, she's lost. Trapped in a vicious cyclone. I can try to help, but I've been doing that for years. I needed to hear this lecture. To understand a part of a person that they don't understand themselves. And also to motivate myself as a non-victim.

This is my sister 100%. Don't let yourself become a toxic, entitled, self-centered victim. You always have choices and you are always responsible for yourself and your life.

I have a chronic illness that keeps me largely bedbound and pushing yourself to your limit is the only way you’ll know what you can do. But living close to that edge can be detrimental to your health

My criticism of Dr Peterson is rarely with what he says, but with what he DOESN’T say. Absolutely you must always push as hard as you can against your limitations. However, the end result of each person’s level of functionality and accomplishment will not be the same. We are individuals. We have different tolerances, strengths, and challenges. For someone with chronic pain, severe depression and high neuroticism, maybe just being able to complete a full day at school is an enormous accomplishment. Being able to actually engage in the day may be beyond his/her capacity. But now the door is open to say, “Johnny has cancer but he passed the Chem final. What’s your excuse?” That is not helpful. It’s actually discouraging. But it’s how many people listening will ultimately apply this little nugget of Peterson’s wisdom. And that’s the problem. He fails to caution people about the danger of being ignorantly judgmental and condemning someone without really understanding everything at play. He is silent about how counterproductive it can be to ridicule someone and minimize their efforts when they are genuinely struggling against their challenges. When he neglects to warn against the harmfulness of judging people we don’t really understand, he encourages a mob mentality and creates bullies who feel justified in deciding who deserves respect in the world and who deserves scorn. These people see themselves as superior to, and more deserving than others who aren’t able to reach the same level of functioning. Remember, we aren’t talking about criminals, we’re talking about people who are genuinely suffering and trying to live the best lives they can so be very careful folks! Honest effort can be invisible to you. Peterson’s advice is great for the individual it applies to, but when the group gets the idea it’s ok to be the “character police,” then we have a real problem.

Sometimes people go through tough circumstances. That doesn't mean every person is intentionally trying to be abused from childhood. Remember we don't choose our circumstances. But I agree you should try to improve it as much as possible. Also not every person is trying to play the victim. Sometimes they just need time to get over the trauma. Every person has that right. Feel free to comment on my comments. Have a good day!!!!

Hes literally translating our problems into words. He's a mind reader, he's like a second dad.

The fox could be a doctor, judging from the handwriting.

I wonder how many people snoozed through Peterson’s lectures not realizing he would be someday be a rockstar.

Personally, life at home with my mother was so unbearable that although I was extremeky sick, I'd choose to go to school!

Oh, look! My childhood described.

Years ago I used too self loath, my dad saw me as an object and controlled everything I did. I understood it when I did do things wrong, that’s called discipline, but it confused me when I didn’t do anything wrong and got put down.

I am a 34 yr old ADHD, ENTP bipolar... I am so grateful for this beautiful life and my greatest achievement in life is being the son of an angel I call mom. This cuts deep.... I so badly WANT to be better and take responsibility etc but I'm scared I don't know how... AND if by some miracle I did.. Would I even know I am if someone didn't tell me?

10 minutes of Jordan Peterson compel you to think more than almost anything else.

Wow this speaks to my soul right now. It is time to truly own my existence. Thank you, Jordon.

Pleasure vs purpose. Pleasure lasts a moment, purpose lasts forever. One slowly destroys you, one fixed you.

I'm gonna' be honest, watched all of his biblical series like 5 times over, watched much of his Maps of meaning... all spectacular... but the whole Pinocchio one just stuck with me, it was masterfully good and has resonated with me since.

Never thought I would need an explanation about Pinoccio but this guy is a fantastic speaker.

amazing content 😁 today is my birthday and i just turned 14 and i really enjoy Mr Peterson's content 😎

I'm 26 and this is truly me right now

BBC News should watch this. Then maybe they’ll stop encouraging people to adopt this mentality.

Better to be a "survivor" than a "victim" as there's so much victim blaming, shaming, misuse of the word to make false claims or avoid responsibility and a lack of trauma informed practise to support genuine victims.

This man is wise. God bless him when helping young minds be great.

Great...you never want to use your illness as excuse of not doing something...applies both to mental and physical illness...

Just be careful in the workplace. Leaders often package up fall-guy sacrificial lamb positions as "leadership roles".

I loved the part of “push to the limit, because if you don’t, you won’t know how far the person can go”

Just awesome, i hope those people actually in his class look back someday & realise just how lucky they were

A dear friend of mine had a near fatal accident when she was around 18 years old. She was in coma for weeks. The recovery process was long and painful. I met her after this episode when she was again back on her feet. Unfortunately, nobody in her surroundings came up with suggesting a psychological therapy to go along the physical one. The impact her accident had in her family is noticeable when you see how close her younger and older siblings became. They have alienated her. Her parents allow her to get away with anything, they became overprotective with her. She's unable to justify or elaborate on an opinion or decision when you ask her straight forward for her reasons. She blames bad luck, she says. She cannot last longer than a few months in a job. Nothing is her fault, everything is done to her. They fire her all the time because they are mean, she never practices self-critic to see why they'd choose to let her go. She has no goal or interest in starting anything on her own. She lives for the day still under her parents roof. Meanwhile, her siblings are well functioning adults who are economically and emotionally independent. My heart breaks for her. I've told her many times she should consider taking a psychological therapy. That is never too late. She's 36 now and still as stagnant as ever. She acknowledges there's something off with her but never manages to take action. She ultimately justifies her lack of action as a simple bad luck and stays right where she is. At home doing nothing. Her family seems to have stopped expecting anything at all from her. And as a consequence, she doesn't either. I'd love to hear Professor Peterson's opinion on this (he's a very busy guy off course so it won't happen.) I'm just her friend, she's a good and kind person. I can't take any decisions for her other than to hear her and give her my two cents...

Man...this was what I needed to hear...I have a drop out family member I clashed with...and this was the core issue.

I have stage 4 cancer but know of so many people who have survived stage 4 cancer implementing various lifestyle changes along with chemotherapy and other traditional treatments. I changed family doctors (for obvious reasons) but right off the bat and my new doctor initially tried to paint me as a victim. I don't fault him since it was frustrating for him to see how incompetent my previous doctor appeared and because we live in such a litigious culture that it actually pays to be a victim. However, most people who survive cancer don't dwell on how they've been wronged. They take the bull by the horn and advocate for themselves. If something doesn't work or a doctor doesn't want to do what the patient wants, the patient moves on quickly because, with cancer, time is of the essence.

God did say, all things shall be known at the end. Thanks for your knowledge Dr Jordan Peterson.

Every damn time this guy uncovers somethings about my life that I was kinda aware of and makes all the problems clear. he's really experienced, knows what he's talking about. Damn.

I would love to sit and listen to Jordan Peterson for an entire semester. How lucky his students were. He is one of our most cogent modern thinkers.

It's just so hard to swallow this information, because being honest with yourself can be a really painful process. If only you could shut off your ego at will, then life would be so much more peaceful.

This is gospel truth!!

"It doesnt matter that his arguments are incoherent, what he is selling is easy to buy - so pinocchio buys it"

" Look, I know the cast will slow you down, but I really want you to give your all in that 100 yard dash ..."

Jordan sometimes talks about Nietzsche, I am suprised he didn't even mention him here! This victim mentality is something Nietzsche saw in his time too and he called it "Sklavenmoral" or "Slave morality".

Wow. I simply have no words. This resonated more than I would like to admit

It's kind of funny how all these fairy tale movies I used to watch as a kid, all have a deep dark meaning embedded into them.

I was just sitting here thinking, "wait, isn't this supposed to be a university lecture? it's more like a motivational speech, or spiritual guidance, than a class on some academic subject" It just hit me that, generally, the only reason I pursue online lectures is because I'm trying to get to grips with a subject I'm studying but that is confusing the hell out of me. Outside of this I'm not trying to watch lectures for subjects I'm 'not' studying. But with Prof JP it is an entirely different matter. I have been seeking out his lectures for around 4 years ever since, by chance, I listened to one of the lectures because its title pointed to some introspection that I had been doing for about three years. I'm essentially coming to him to have my thoughts and conclusions dismantled and examined. And looking for a way to improve my current circumstances or to see if I'm sabotaging my relationships and, if so, how so. Imagine that; attending university lectures, not so much because you want to study in some field, or hope to be qualified to start some career, but because you want to address issues in your personal life, or you want to learn what science has discovered about the human psyche so you can use the information to your benefit. I've said it before, JP might have his detractors, but I seriously envy the students that had direct access to this man in the lecture halls. Discovered him when I was 44, now I'm 48 and keep coming back. I get the feeling I'll be returning for a long time.

Wow. This is so eye opening. I know people who do exactly what he’s talking about and how much they miss out on life and joy.

After being "discarded" by a friend with Peterson's book on 12 rules for life on their shelf as they demonstrate a COMPLETE LACK OF ABILITY TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY, it is very emotional for me to hear this speech. Peterson is right in that taking responsibility is one of the best ways to "empower" yourself, or feel like you matter. And the clear lack of taking responsibility while hiding behind a facade of reading Peterson's insights and being an insightful person is such a manipulative move that I wish none of you ever experience such dissonant relationships.

Then there are those who are victims and don't realize it.

Awesome content - Destroying victim mindsets is so important! It's something I discuss in the latest video on my channel as well, & providing a blueprint for my child on how to be tough & not embody victim mentalities. Thank you for the content.

I love this guy!

I am in this narrative right now. I feel like my time is running out.

If you talk to your friends about this and they do not understand. Dont blame them, take responsibility and realize that you need to develop communication skills so that people listen to you.

Responsibility is the goal, but count the cost for each one you take on.

I was this. Now I have changed but still lot of work is to be done.

Excellent!

Its a viscous cycle to it seems. You only become strong from being accountable and growing from the experience. Some would call it pain, but that depends on the emotion you frame it in I guess, negative or positive. If your hardships are framed as blessings, that if it doesn't hurt you it grows you and you evolve, then you will be stronger for facing your truths. However In todays society people have developed egotistical ways through their lack of consequence, strength, honesty with themselves, call what you will. Ultimately the ego doesn't protect you, paradoxically it weakens you and makes your mindset more fragile, as you always have an expectation to hit because you have tied your identity to an ego. When you don't hit that expectation you're almost giving others the power to effect your emotion based on their criticism of you. You may become so fragile that you don't want people to see you look bad at something, because you're ego wouldnt be able to handle it.

There’s a certain culture in America that needs to hear this.

From a spiritual perspective, there is no such thing as a meaningless life; all things have meaning and purpose.

I’m in this mode...not by choice but by long term health issue. It is a daily battle to keep going but keep going you must.

I feel bad for people that have suffered serious trauma throughout their lives. Particularly childhood. Multiple nights without food. Beaten by drunken parents. Etc. I don't even know what to tell such genuine victims. But what gets me frustrated as heck is people who grew up in middle class homes with loving parents that act like they had it so bad off because they got yelled at for being bad or because they had to spend a whole 6 hours a day at school or because mom and dad didn't buy them the most expensive toy sold during Christmas. EVERYBODY has to go through those things! Yet they're always looking for someone else to blame. It's reasons like that Jordan had to give this lecture and Essential Truth had to post this video.

If someone is abusing you - abuse them back - because if you don't, you'll be labelled "playing the victim". Learned that the hard way.

I want the rest of the vid please

This man is wonderful, try looking into his family's history, it's all there for you to find out, his whole family have passed through tremendous difficulties in order to win through and conquer and reign in life. Praise God Almighty for people like Prof Peterson and his family, praise God indeed, I love these people.

This is very well summed up in the book of Ecclesiastes from the Bible whether you are religious or secular it's a book of wisdom from the natural world, and the author Solomon does related to the spiritual world, but it's about the pursuit of meaning and pleasure

I fully understand what Peterson is trying to say, but he’s glossing over, or perhaps does not understand that certain physiological/biological changes occur with instances of severe trauma to where it not only affects your psychological mentality, but also literally alters your DNA and even as a child, is permanent throughout your entire existence. He’s correct in that a person needs to push beyond their inflictions, but not addressing those inflictions or worse, ignoring them altogether won’t allow understanding as to why certain behaviors exist to begin with. You can’t push past something until you understand what lies at the baseline. It’s far too simplistic/idealistic/unrealistic to believe his method works for everyone every time. It doesn’t. Sure, for certain personality profiles this would be far less of a problem, but with others, not so much. You can’t move past a problem until you begin to heal. Also, an infliction is different than a condition. For 25 years I’ve volunteered and worked as a group facilitator for kids 13 to 23 with HIV, and facilitated a support group for sexually exploited youth and rape victims although I’ve always had a very strong dislike for the word “victim” even when I had the shared experience as both a child and young adult. When someone is traumatized it is most always the case where it is through no direct fault of their own but they see themselves as a “victim” because that’s how the world most often sees them. Sees them, but ultimately doesn’t care. Not to say that they have to care. I’m just stating that at the end of the day, they don’t.

The people who hate Dr Peterson really fail to understand just how much of a humanitarian he really is. He wants everyone to do as well as they can and part of that means not being a victim and taking personal responsibility for your own actions and decisions.

I think sometimes people take a break not want to do things. is because of intense anxiety. sometimes even do not know that the anxiety exist. the best things is be aware of anxiety. and do slowly. start from small...For me it is the case. when I identify the cause and get a bit better. I laugh at myself for being so scared. Therefore I think people not working all lives may have serious mental illness.

I absolutely agree with Jordan Peterson. I am so sick and tired of victimhood that many people around the world are behaving absolutely disgusting. The victim mentality symbolises immaturity, laziness, low self-esteem and weakness. I literally cringe so hard when some of these whiny snowflakes play the victim because it is so embarrassing, so fake and so stupid. A victim means someone innocent who gets murdered by a violent thug for no reason. Just because some random stranger gave you a mean look or they insulted you or they disagreed with you that does not mean your oppressed. Also just because you escaped from an abusive toxic relationship from someone whether if it’s your boss, your coach, your family members, your friends, your lover, your mentor, your spouse and your teacher that does not mean your a victim that makes you a survivor big difference. Every human being around the world needs to have gratitude, maturity and responsibility in life period.

I've been watching some videos on this and it's just wild to think about how easy it is to flip yourself into the victim role and lose control of your own life

I would love to hear Peterson go through the entire movie and make every observation. Intriguing.

Meaning and responsibility are 100% correlated. I’ve seen the truth of this in my own life and in the lives of those I’ve interacted with. The nihilists are always on a pleasure seeking downward spiral who can’t take responsibility for their lives, why would they when it has no meaning? Go a step further and those are the same people that deny they feel anything about anything. They’d have to accept responsibility for that too. I love JP. ALWAYS on point.

I keep getting distracted by the blue doors at either end of the room behind him and wondering what is behind them.

responsibility = meaningfulness

I have to laugh... reading so many comments where people are insulting to one another. I think those people are missing the point with all of JP’s lectures - have you ever seen JP call people names or insult them when he’s been misunderstood or misrepresented? He formulates his words articulately to convey his meaning. What stands out is stance on how important it is on how we communicate with each other.

..and I don't have to take on responsibility. This is the gold here.

How do you get data and research on a mentality. .? Or a state of mind?

Really enjoyed watching thanks for sharing 😀

Narcissists are excellent actors/ actresses. They really know how to give a performance, and people are mesmerised by their fake charm and innocence. It's leaves the victim's feeling deflated, bewildered and confused. It's hard to change people's perception of the Narcissist, because they are so convincing in playing victim, and tainting you as the abuser. Beware of perpetrators in disguise.. Some people set fires wherever they go. and have mastered the art of playing the burn victim.

I think everything is meaningsless, but we can give meaning to it. In my View there is no need for a reason to take responsibility. Its rather a voluntary decision and it depends on what you want. You will have to experience new things anyway, why not doing it voluntarily? Do you want to feel like a snowflake, thats being moved around by wind and does have no power and control over the direction its going? Or do you want to throw yourself into new situations voluntarily with the will to learn and to eventually suffer from failure, without feeling unpowerful, because you have chosen that path? There is no need for responsibility, but i am sure it makes you feel worthless and weak not to take responsibility. I think there can be a pleasure or relieve in not feeling responsible, but i dont think that it will make you happy on the long run. I am german btw, so i hope my english isnt to bad and i hope i correctly formulated my thoughts so they will be undestood the way i want them to.