Learning to look up again - controlling your smartphone addiction | Ross Sleight

Learning to look up again - controlling your smartphone addiction | Ross Sleight | TEDxLeamingtonSpa

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6 жыл бұрын

Ross Sleight has worked in digital media and experiences for over 20 years. Here Ross explores both the personal and social impact of our addictive smartphone use.
Why do our mobile virtual homes take precedence over our real physical homes? Does our obsessive behaviour make us less interactive and engaging with real people? Are we becoming less human and morphing into 'smombies' (smartphone zombies)? And if so, what can we do about it to break our habits, change our behaviour and instead of spending our time looking down bathed in the reflective glare of our 5 inch screens learn to look up again? Ross has been involved in digital media for over 20 years. He's founded four award-winning digital agencies, was a founder of Virgin Games and today is the Chief Strategy Officer for Somo - an accelerator that delivers rapid, actionable innovation for its global clients. Ross is a digital advisor to several influential companies, an investor and advisor to various innovative start-ups and a regular conference speaker. He’s also judged, and won, many industry awards.
Through his passion for art, music and design, Ross is a digital advisor to LIFT (the London International Festival of Theatre) and a director of Leamington's Art in the Park festival alongside his wife and festival organiser Carole. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@thechinmoydeka 6 жыл бұрын

When we think we need to leave the smart phone or need to spend less time on it, what do we do?? Reach for the smartphone and search for ways to do so... Wow!!

@casse1458 6 жыл бұрын

Chinmoy Deka lol

@PabloCruise91 4 жыл бұрын

This is sad and funny

@teccash3507 3 жыл бұрын

Get a flip phone dummy

@metalrockstarizer89 2 жыл бұрын

Thank God. I did not have social media throughout middle school. Wish I didn’t had it during high school years, that pretty much messed up everything.

@Ale-do3rn 2 жыл бұрын

I used the smartphone to destroy the smartphone. -Thanos

@GerhardLugauer 4 жыл бұрын

My new habit: I check my emails, social media and messages 3 times a day only: earliest at 10:30 AM, 3:00 PM and 7:00 PM - that works for me and could work for you too. Just give it a try. It’s relaxing and very efficiently 📈📊

@kaylirobles35 2 жыл бұрын

I commend you for this!

@truptiraut9998 4 жыл бұрын

I think I have been addicted to my phone so much that I am a different person now and I keep doing it cause it can distract me from anything and feel good but I know it's not good hope I get rid of it

@biswajitswain2853 4 жыл бұрын

Same here bro

@Moesie 4 жыл бұрын

Smartphone cause anxiety. It has wifi radiation that goes into your brain

@teccash3507 3 жыл бұрын

U weak

@adrianforbes7863 3 жыл бұрын

@@teccash3507 Everyone's weak minded, just in different ways

@zerotech8938 2 жыл бұрын

It’s been two years, hope you are better now

@diogenesaquino1316 6 жыл бұрын

I need it. I feel like a zombie when I notice how long I keep looking down at my phone.

@sleepysentinel7703 4 жыл бұрын

He's talking about how heavy users spend 4 hours a day in smartphone like it's something frightening and shocking, but for me with average time of 8 hours it's an ultimate goal :/

@thisisepic3052 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah... I’m a bit surprised that only 4 hours can be frightening.

@stefanie0158 2 жыл бұрын

@@thisisepic3052 me with my daily 11 hours😢

@kaylirobles35 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah same here. I think though that that's even more frightening 😂 8 hours a day I do believe is an addiction, but isn't that why we're both watching this video?

@brianh5878 2 жыл бұрын

Same I plan to cut my smartphone use back by 80%

@leiftheviikiingerickson7156 2 жыл бұрын

So, has this helped any of You guys? I seriously plan to put it down about 80% more Myself.

@jascha-r 5 жыл бұрын

Reducing my time on my smartphone to the absolute minimum really changed my life. My social interactions, ability to focus and concentrate, and my general happiness increased sooo much.. I can just recommend it to each and everybody to insistently work on this!!!

@marie-nm9jo 4 жыл бұрын

Jascha R. How

@logancollins3030 Жыл бұрын

But how. It's not that easy.

@johnny_rain3226 Жыл бұрын

Very true, but asking other people not to touch their smartphone will be interpreted as tedious and impolite.

@javameeks 4 жыл бұрын

Today in school , my teacher had us watch a motivational video about success, and I was really engage to it. However, the rest of the students in class weren’t , they were staring at their phones. Literally I was only one paying attention. I honestly feel like the only teen in my school who isn’t a phone addict.

@kayraarmagan721 4 жыл бұрын

generally the people don't like the truth, and keep following the wrong. But every time there are exceptional ones who are looking for and follow the truth.

@yesreneau 3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry, on average ONLY 2 hours and 25 min???? omg.... I'm an addict then.

@kelseysv412 3 жыл бұрын

Ik mine is 8 hours😳

@sarasadiq6918 3 жыл бұрын

I spend 15 hours.... the only other things I do are eat and sleep at this point. I’m disgusted with myself

@NoodleSoupMusic 3 жыл бұрын

That's what i realized. From 6 hours a day, I managed to bring my usage time to 3.5 hours and i am still trying. Wish me luck y'all :-)

@sarasadiq6918 3 жыл бұрын

@@NoodleSoupMusic you’re doing great :)

@NoodleSoupMusic 3 жыл бұрын

@@sarasadiq6918 thanks a lot ✌️

@ambikanath9981 6 жыл бұрын

I need this I am spending my life just in my phone

@Cookiekeks 3 жыл бұрын

Same, 11h today

@chetansingh55 3 жыл бұрын

13+ hrs today. I'm watching it. Determined to reduce at anyyyyyy cost

@bouabdellaouibasma4173 3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@bouabdellaouibasma4173 3 жыл бұрын

I am actually writing this comment while in the bathroom! That is how addicted I am to it unfortunately

@toastbrot1131 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@Yasmin-wl5he 6 жыл бұрын

Your message is so important in these times Ross! I actively turned off my notifications after I first heard your talk even in the draft stages. I'm completely with you on this as it links back to our disconnection with humanity too! And well done on all the views!!! 22k and counting!!!

@Nagmbeirut 2 жыл бұрын

My phone addiction is really affecting my life. I am a PhD student in writing up year so I better focus and get the job done. Meanwhile I spend an average of 8-9 hrs😖 I am really upset about this and I want to change it!! Hope the advices in the video are effective

@andreanaranjo1655 2 жыл бұрын

feel this 100%

@edwingeorge10 16 күн бұрын

Make resolution for each day, each month, each half-year and on New year. Write down things you want to do and make your brain think that it is a game that will reward you later in life and start doing it by today and You will see the difference in your life.

@sharon3576 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you... You woke me up from the virtual world

@kuldeepsandhu5247 6 жыл бұрын

Wonderful sharing, and its really amazing that intentionally or un-intentionally we do this.

@hannapaul1583 2 жыл бұрын

I have been a smartphone addict and because of this I couldn't crack my entrance exams.I hope I will judiciously use my phone hereafter

@elizab3341 2 жыл бұрын

This is fine points to make to change our behaviour AND I believe it’s important to address the feelings behind these behaviours to prevent relapsing into our phones when we have a bad day or are struggling emotionally with something more long term. Like asking questions about what is the time on our phone protecting us from feeling - loneliness, inadequacy, overwhelm, fear, worry? Without addressing the feeling underneath, we’re likely to fall back into these addictive behaviours after a while. I know I use social media to ‘numb out’ so acknowledging that emotion under the need to numb out first, then changing the behaviour and noticing how I feel without my phone is key for long term solution to this addiction.

@vijayanthi2096 Жыл бұрын

Very true, this works for all addictions, while addictions are at physical level, the trigger is usually an emotional pattern not being addressed

@ana_silly_little_things 2 жыл бұрын

Totally agree. I deleted my Instagram account a month ago, and I've never ever been happier! The only one left is Voicely, but it makes me feel better and helps with anxiety a lot.

@TechnoBots1 2 жыл бұрын

Heavy is 4 hours? I’d love to hear the term he’d use for those of us who uses it 9 hours a day.

@crunchycrispychip3266 Жыл бұрын

Phone addiction makes sense, its a device with access to unlimited entertainment. I'm severly addicted but I'm trying to overcome my addiction so I can focus more on things I love doing. Good luck to anyone else trying to limit their phone use!

@petuniabucelatti4410 Жыл бұрын

jesse we need to cook

@sokpheachea 6 жыл бұрын

Thumb up if you watching this talk on smart phone 😂

@nanfees7036 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, you can only watch on internet devices and this is a good use of smartphone

@dwightemorgan4367 6 жыл бұрын

This is very insightful and soberingly....

@javameeks 4 жыл бұрын

In my high school, a lot of students are staring at their phone 24/7. Me , I don’t really like to be on my phone , but I have nothing to do in class to keep me occupied.

@taegenmcshane 4 жыл бұрын

Java Meeks make art ❤️

@marie-nm9jo 4 жыл бұрын

This used to be me. I would feel weird reading a book or dosing something other looking at my phone

@giraffe7983 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@BaneVARIANT 2 жыл бұрын

Just makes me so sad to see my partner, family, friends etc sitting on the phone hours without any human interaction....

@alexvollmer2797 3 жыл бұрын

This is one of the biggest topics of our time

@PradoshMitra2121 6 ай бұрын

My smartphone addiction brought me here. I feel enlightened. Addiction, it seems, is not all bad.

@lohphat 6 жыл бұрын

I get plenty of sleep. My phone is my alarm and calendar and a key business tool. I am very aware of the potential of abuse and I never pull my phone out at a shared meal unless it's warranted and I have the permission of those I'm with. If a call comes it that's important, I excuse myself and go outside -- otherwise I let it go to VM. TURN THE RINGER OFF -- there's no reason to disturb others. TURN NOTIFICATIONS OFF -- EXCEPT calendar events and SMS. Email and all other notifications are not urgent you'll look at them when you have time. The constant barrage of notifications for EVERY LITTLE THING will drive you crazy.

@Al-Quranly 3 жыл бұрын

Starts at :6:30 ☺

@cardquest2118 6 жыл бұрын

As an 18yr old I find those 5 points very useful to keep in mind! Wish he mentioned that a lot of the apps that send us notifications are designed to take up as much of our time as possible however! So it is still in part our phones faults. Nonetheless a great speech! Happy Valentine's Day ppl ;)

@noctisgamma556 Жыл бұрын

The hardest thing for me is what I am addicted to on my phone. I could easily go online but the phone is really the place I like to be. I am addicted to learning useless information. Some of it has been so useful to me, and I feel like I learn more every day. I am addicted to reading first hand accounts of interpersonal issues in particular. I am addicted to how people think and what they do. It has been useful but its also useless because so much is out of my control what good is it that I understand it unless I use it for work? It is like a hobby but not really. I'm not happy at all. I also am addicted to funny videos on instagram. I remember I refused to get TikTok and for good reason, but unfortunately instagram was like a parasite as it eventually turned into TikTok without me realizing it and now I'm addicted to it as well. I knew better to stay away from TT but I'm basically on it. What funny thing will I see next? I like funny things and they uplift me but honestly I don't need that to uplift me. I can't get anything done and I'm really honestly becoming afraid of the way I am addicted to my phone. I average 7-9 hours on it somehow per day. The things I do not do, however, are sit on my phone while spending time with people, I do not go on my phone at all when my husband and I watch things, and I never ever go on my phone while in public.

@Peter_Parker69 5 жыл бұрын

nah trust me, it won't make me more social irl but after i quit all social media except youtube last week, i now got less worries and more time to waste where i actually want

@hero9402 6 жыл бұрын

thank you

@chinmaykulkarni1222 6 жыл бұрын

Nice TALK!

@user-xc2kn8du5g 6 жыл бұрын

очень актуальная информация, которую можно приложить к многим сферам жизни. спасибо докладчику за его работу.

@drksimi3 6 жыл бұрын

Quality time is good app. I have notifications in off. Using facebook only on google chrome.

@abhishekverma-hu7by 6 жыл бұрын

Very nice

@PMC889 Жыл бұрын

Adds a whole new meaning to Luke 21:28!

@taziaspencer9905 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing that verse

@netcalibur 2 жыл бұрын

Well, without my phone I wouldn't even know this video ever existed nor this speech

@enmeterdumheter 2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same sadly. Or i live the same. Directly i wake up, i listen to poscast and stuff in ny couch, until i need to sleep. And then i put a ear plug in and try to sleep to a podcast! :( This has made my life negative, i have over used the phone. To escape the reality. And it makes me sad, i dont know how to change this. I need help. Om 35 years old! Love from Sweden! ❤🇸🇪

@_.aktion._ 2 жыл бұрын

Become present, it will be uncomfortable otherwise you would’ve already done it. Figure out what you’re trying to escape from, wish you the best 😅

@colinvanful 6 жыл бұрын

going to send this to my daughter just to see her have a virtual melt down ! she has a fit if her battery is low !!

@HalloFrogie 4 жыл бұрын

5:17 the guy shaking his head heavily and looking around 😂😂

@ciii1237 5 ай бұрын

ahahaha i notice that guy too,

@saarthakmalik3284 6 жыл бұрын

Really helpful bruv

@MrASingh 6 жыл бұрын

Well done Ross!! It was awesome going on stage after your talk! :)

@komal146 4 жыл бұрын

They're still pretty successful. Its destructive when when it replaces your real world.

@hoangkimviet8545 6 жыл бұрын

It's very wonderful when I see this video on Valentine's Day :0

@hoangkimviet8545 6 жыл бұрын

Chaosflower No, I mean this video is very wonderful, but more wonderful when I watch it on Valentine's Day :0

@manishkrarya5373 6 жыл бұрын

Sawsan Tarraf 😁😁

@pari6775 4 жыл бұрын

I saw tis msg on next year valentine's day...

@artsyminecrafter745 8 ай бұрын

I didnt have a smart phone until i was 46 years old. Its horrible..its replaced everything. Tech is good, but it opened my eyes to depression, distraction, addiction, and overall misery. Its time to take control.

@nigelcairns5517 5 жыл бұрын

Conversation is more difficult than looking at a phone-there can be awkward moments-and most people cannot manage it. Will they have an anxiety attack if it is taken away ?

@pleiadiblu2365 8 ай бұрын

This is the content of the video: 1. Understand your smartphone usage 2. Put it away during social situations 3. Ask others to put their phones away too 4. Don't sleep with your smartphone 5. Turn off your notifications

@John_F898 6 жыл бұрын

I find it embarrassing, staring at a phone.

@cbsteffen Жыл бұрын

Addictions are like germs. They don’t hide forever, but some take longer to discover and/or control with time! Nowadays, mobile devices are so addicting that they distract many people from talent!

@momadstyle 2 жыл бұрын

A Great lecture for a very important issue, we need to review our smartphone usage ,and assess our behavior throughout the day

@noobmaster-dm7tu 6 жыл бұрын

I have turned of my WhatsApp notifications ,have uninstalled the Facebook app and have made all remaining app notifications silent for months now, except SMS's and missed calls, which cumulatively are not more than 5 a day.

@xhmbx9548 4 жыл бұрын

3 Hours 45 mins.... *Looks at my 6 hours*

@Divineshot 6 жыл бұрын

I run my business off my smartphone. Loved this talk.

@jordansmith3597 5 жыл бұрын

Divineshot 314 cool bro

@miyuki568 2 жыл бұрын

“It might surprise you that on average you spend 2 hours 25 minutes a day on your smartphone” *Laughs in an average of 8 hours a day *

@nischayjain2376 5 жыл бұрын

True

@muskanasudani729 9 ай бұрын

turning off notifications really is a good idea and it works for me. But sometimes, while keeping it on do not disturb ,I get more distracted thinking if there's an imp message from someone . How can I manage that?

@ronlight7013 6 жыл бұрын

Here's a sixth suggestion: Aging eyesight. As we all know, we lose our close vision as we age. For me, looking at my iPhone requires I put on a pair of reading glasses. Since I keep my reading glasses tucked away in a shoulder bag, and when out of doors always wear sunglasses, it takes time and some amount of effort to don my reading glasses. The result is I pull out my cell phone only when I'm ready for the dedication and focus (quite literally) required to read the screen. It becomes an act of genuine deliberation.

@Coders_World 3 жыл бұрын

My screen time is 7 hours a day☹️

@rishabhrajmishra7884 6 жыл бұрын

Nice

@ishaanmalik2821 4 жыл бұрын

4:32 It's lockdown! That's sooo normie! 10-12hrs daily screen time here

@alexitanguay 4 жыл бұрын

2 hours? More like 7 hours 🤪

@STAR-LIGHT.1111 4 жыл бұрын

same here...

@usmankhalid7839 4 жыл бұрын

My average are 10h

@christianmcdonald7746 4 жыл бұрын

unfortunately same :/

@ainsleyburkey9637 4 жыл бұрын

more like 12🤪

@karanparmar4754 3 жыл бұрын

10h ,12h are commen..sometimes even more.... Losing everything else in my life..

@jpeezus6519 6 жыл бұрын

Dang it, I noticed I felt like a zombie while looking down at my phone for 11min watching this KZfaq video

@lorimav Жыл бұрын

I think I am too much of an addict to implement these things. I need to completely detox to a flip phone.

@emacwakeup 5 ай бұрын

My problem is infotainment... Ive always loved information even as a kid amd now its so accessible. :(

@melly429 3 жыл бұрын

It's literally 2021 and everyone is addicted now

@mfar7400 2 жыл бұрын

Can someone summarize the key points in the video

@spartan1453 6 жыл бұрын

Lols.. I am watching this video on my smartphone

@emmam.rodriguez1160 2 жыл бұрын

who ever turned the camera at that one chick on her phone did her dirt 💀

@rameshraju4784 4 жыл бұрын

Actually 7.5 hrs

@zeeshanalikhan7403 6 жыл бұрын

Its ironic how i was looking down to my phone to watch this

@rmendeljacobs2832 5 күн бұрын

1. Know how you use it, and what you use it for. 2. Live in the present, turned off. 3. Ask others to put it away too. 4. Don't sleep with your smartphone. 3hrs before sleep don't use it. 5. Turn off your notifications. Look up!

@soundhealingbygene 8 ай бұрын

good ideas ill post a video too

@timotiusanrez9492 2 жыл бұрын

for comment below a year, does your smartphone usage hour gone up when the pandemic hit or before the pandemic hit you already spend so much time on a smartphone?

@kaylirobles35 2 жыл бұрын

Phubbing is the word Forest uses and now I know what it means

@asbakulislam9182 2 жыл бұрын

I have been spending at least six hours a day since 2018 watching how to leave smartphone.

@QuaaludeCharlie 4 жыл бұрын

I have an old 2007 Tracfone , No Camera or Texting , I use this only as a Phone . I have Modern Phones some quite expensive I never buy a Sim for these or use them much . I do the Internet on a 2011 core i5 Laptop and when I leave on a bike , on foot or in an older car I am not visible to be tracked by Apple or Google . I Hate Smart Phones . You won't find me looking into my Hands :\ QC

@Luvnuts83 6 жыл бұрын

Even before smart phones people just read more books or magazines in public spaces, or had headphones in listening to music. Granted, we do need to look away from our phones more, but there have always been these problems

@tarryngregory8644 6 жыл бұрын

No ones ever pulled a book out in mid conversation and just sat there reading it for 1 minute. Never saw anyone crossing the street reading a book. Walking into walls watching the TV. It's quite a different beast. And reading actual content not just headlines improves your attention, 5 second headlines do not (not saying EVERYONE is like this but most are)

@Luvnuts83 6 жыл бұрын

I've seen people walking while reading newspapers and magazines

@tarryngregory8644 6 жыл бұрын

True enough. Where it bothers me personally most in life is when you're just tryin to hangout have a conversation and there's usually a lot of interruptions, takes me out of the moment.

@Luvnuts83 6 жыл бұрын

Yes I agree, the worst is when there only two of you in a conversation and the conversation ends because of a social media notification

@sannamati4571 5 жыл бұрын

Tarryn Gregory nailed@

@amanda6851 4 жыл бұрын

Well...this week I spent 31 hours watching KZfaq...on my iPad 😰🥺😖 on total for my iPad this week it was 64 hours of screen time!...umm I’m sad

@marie-nm9jo 4 жыл бұрын

Prima vijolniece don’t leave your iPad in your room. Place it ur living room where you can only use it there

@paritoshmoghe8668 3 жыл бұрын

Best when watched @1.25x speed

@ayecarumba4928 4 жыл бұрын

What's on a smart phone? Camera 📷 Internet Social media Music Viral video Educational videos Video games. Banking account Brokage account Flashlight 🔦 Gps And especially this video.

@shafinnahian75 5 жыл бұрын

I like the indian guy's reaction at 5:20

@shawnansimmy7045 5 жыл бұрын

I noticed it too brodaaa

@muraleedharanar6876 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah 😅😂😂

@hissendaud653 6 жыл бұрын

WORTHWILE

@lucifronexpress5353 6 жыл бұрын

Sub en español pliz

@hrshdr1606 6 жыл бұрын

Hlo

@bulgingbattery2050 4 жыл бұрын

Smartphones have broken the back of the world.

@suryansh_pathak 6 жыл бұрын

First comment

@thechinmoydeka 6 жыл бұрын

MR. HACKER No prizes for that though...

@kyle13133 6 жыл бұрын

First

@marypreston9791 6 жыл бұрын

I think my physical or emotional safety might be at risk if I asked them to put their phone away or no one would hangout with me

@thuo2548 6 жыл бұрын

I feel you

@enriquecastillo7487 4 жыл бұрын

1212

@kausalitasdesign7090 3 жыл бұрын

I spent 15 hours a day on my smartphone, hm........ 😂😂😂

@kausalitasdesign7090 3 жыл бұрын

@@emward6858 been 5 months, still the same :(

@Jennifer-uh8th 3 жыл бұрын

What do u do on ur phone

@kausalitasdesign7090 3 жыл бұрын

@@Jennifer-uh8th mostly youtube, Mobile legend, and..... Dunno? Xixixi.

@hakunamatata5342 2 жыл бұрын

Any progress???

@montero6571 4 жыл бұрын

I feel like a smombie😭

@dutchfan7650 4 жыл бұрын

3 hours for a heavy user? Jesus

@dAvrilthebear Жыл бұрын

looking at this video in my bed

@markraya2541 2 жыл бұрын

3 hrs and 45 mins are rookie numbers tbh.

@joehunter7929 6 жыл бұрын

The indian guy nodding his head no lol while looking around

@radnaskiify 2 жыл бұрын

2 hours and 25 minutes on your phone. Double that and you'll spend 3 hours and 45 minutes on your phone. 🤔

@jimothy05 6 жыл бұрын

Ironically I watched this video on my smartphone.

@susanoliveira3155 Жыл бұрын

6.2 billion in 2023

@nature4365 Жыл бұрын

Get a keypad if you can

@_the_Necromancer 2 жыл бұрын

5:40 LMFAOOOOOOOOOOO XDDDDDD lost all credibility right there buddy boyo!!!