Intresting. My first date was equal. She opened the car door. We shared the bill. I felt so comfortable and not stressed out.

My biggest struggle is the i attract men-mostly. I get asked out all of the time by men. Women-never. I can’t even remember the last time a woman asked me out. I don’t know why? 🤷🏻‍♀️

It seems more complicated because there aren't any pre determined roles.

I had boyfriend found out years later we’re both happen to be gay.

Emily, this is so interesting to watch! The "norm" is that a girl waits for the guy to make a move, but frankley I've always been the one making the move when dating guys in hetero settings. From a young age I used to call them at home, asking the guy to the movies, or writing poems and give flowers. But now when dating girls, it's the other way around. I feel like I have much moore to loose now, because my feelings towards females are typically stronger. And because of that, I just secretly hoping to be asked.. I have asked one girl very vaguely, but the respond was non-exitent.. It's wierd that I'm this timid, when I was fearless with all the guys!

Love how ur videos are so crisp and to the point. Very insightful. Thank you for sharing. Good onya.

I’ve found every guy wants to pay when they take you out. But they asked me out. I find same rules apply with women. If I asked them out then I want to pay. If they asked me then I assume they pay. But that’s only for women I know. Blind dates or set ups I’ve usually spit the bill.

You really have a way of making me come back to your channel, and through the months of following you, you made me emotionally attached to you because you remind me of my mother

One thing I’ve noticed is that the women I’ve talked to bring up their exes a lot, like right off the bat. And I’m not sure if this is just normal or if it’s a red flag lol. I know when I dated men we would talk about past relationships very minimally, especially in the first weeks of talking to each other. Wondering if you’ve noticed this or have any thoughts ☺️

Emily! Good to see you! Clay

I can totally relate to the bathroom thing!!

I totally relate to you. I came out quite late too. Thanks for the information xx

As a woman dating men, I have no issue asking guys out or asking for a second date etc

Related kinda... another topic maybe? What i find amusing is if I go out with a straight friend she never worried that we could be mistaken as a couple. But if i go out with my gay friend she always makes it known we are just friends. Kinda always thought it would be the other way around. Thats why I love my straight friend. She is the best.

What about the conversation flow, I find it much better with women. Also, I laugh alot more dating women as I am waaaaay less nervous. Dating a woman doesn't feel like a job interview, whereas dating a man often does.

I've dated both men and women, and I agree with you too. But to add to this, lesbian dating can be annoying because what if both chicks want to do the traditional female role? I find this is most often the case, and so relationships never get anywhere, unless I do what I don't particularly like, which is leading in how things go. lol

Emily here is an interesting question: for you do you think there is more sex with women or men in a new relationship typically?

I’ve been trying to find a similar issue that I’ve gotten into. Well I’ve fallen in love with a lesbian friend. Thing is she is in a current relationship. I mean we clicked super well and we both enjoy each other’s company. My thing of why I’m confused is that I told her I liked her being honest but letting her know I respect her sexuality and relationship. She said she likes me a lot and would date me if she was straight and could see us together. That was after 2 months of knowing her. Now 2 months later we hang out a lot and have deep conversations. I mean she has talked about her ex’s and even her current girlfriend. And although I’m stuck between my feelings and being a good friend i don’t know where I stand with her and if she happens to have similar feelings and is just because of her current relationship or if I’m just blinded by love. I enjoyed your video and would appreciate some sort of advice. I’ve also never dated anyone so this is new to me. I’m also 18 and she is 26. But like I hang out a lot with her and have a key to her place too. I don’t know I’m just confused and don’t know what to do. It also pains me when she talks about the idea of moving away to be with her gf and has even said the possibility of marriage. I support her and want her to be happy but I’m just conflicted and a part of me thinks that their relationship might not be the best out of interests and goals. I’m really lost and I’m sorry for the long message.

hmm... what about the inviter pays on the first date? Seems logical and simple to me.

The asker pays that’s what believe I taken my wife to dinner she done the same.

In your previous videos you talk about having a catholic background and having religious parents, is that right ? Well, I was also raised in a very strict Christian home -with my mom- and a Catholic home- with my dad. I guess I’m wondering if you struggle with being a lesbian and your faith. I do. It’s a hard thing to accept the way you are, who and what you love, and then having faith in a God that supposedly hates you. Let me know what your take is on that? Thanks ! - Rhia

Hey Emily C. Bettis 🥰😍❤❤❤🌹! Great to see you. Thank you so much for this video. I love the topic and content. Next time we should have glass of wine here together, "grab a glass 🍷" whilst you share and do your thing. That would be cool 😎. What do you say my beautiful and lovely friend? Anyway, back to your vid about "Lesbian dating vs Straight dating". I personally think there aren't many differences particularly when it comes to romance and "chivalry", especially nowadays. Traditions are out of the window 🤣🤣! However, some people still follow traditions which is fine by me. I don't agree that there should be any golden rules about roles in a romantic relationships. I am a hopeless romantic at heart 🥰❤. I believe in having fun and playfulness. Traditionally, men and women had completely opposing roles in romantic relationships; some men have always opened car doors for their dates /women; they pulled out a chair for their date /woman; they paid the bills on dates; etc. I think times are changing and people should share these roles, be it it's lesbian dating or straight dating. I think that makes it more fun and playful. I believe in chivalry in a romantic relationship. I also like to have "fun" with it and play my role. If someone wants to be chivalrous, then by all means I think they should go ahead…. besides even in any type of date, woman and woman, man and woman or man and man…..you should just be chivalrous. However, nowadays there are some girls /women who are very feminist, and would rather open a car door for herself without help from her partner…..so people should be just be wary of that. People shouldn't be scared to ask a woman if she would like you to open the car door for her… because honestly if a guy /woman ever asked me, that would be adorable 😍. Kudos to you Emily, for being chivalrous and going after what you want, asking for a second date, etc. I love that ❤. Take care my girl. Have a beautiful Saturday and weekend. See you very soon. Blessings 🥰🙏❤❤🤗🤗🎄🎅🦌🎁❄❄🌹🌹.

The number one thing / issue - the female (s) cannot figure out who is paying for everything!!! Lol😊

A bit of bierasure here. I know it’s not meant to be. But you keep saying straight dating = dating a man. I’m bi, I’m not straight even if I date a man. I know what you mean. Just as someone who is recently coming to terms with all this, it hurt a little

Most faith and religions are preached as Homosexuality to be as sinned. Hope that's not true cause alot of people are going to hell if that's what written is ture

Why don’t you just pay for your own meal? 🙄

Who hurt you.

Alpha male broke her heart and now she just play lesbian for couple years till can find Alpha again , but because of her age will bever happened again...

No that's not stright roll asking for a date and a second date

No that's no the man rool opening doors and flowers lesbain women open doors and give flowers