Let’s Talk Black Male Femininity
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4 жыл бұрынHi everyone! In today's video I'm celebrating a few Black male celebrities who have defied gender norms. Lmk what you think!
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-The articles I referenced:
Addressing Masculine Norms to Improve
Life Outcomes for Young Black Men:
Why We Still Can’t Wait:
www.unitedphilforum.org/sites...
How Prince Redefined Masculinity Through His Music, Onstage:
www.nbcnews.com/news/nbcblk/h...
How Prince Helped Me Define My Black Masculinity and Love Myself:
www.teenvogue.com/story/princ...
-The videos I referenced:
1996 Dennis Rodman Interview on Oprah:
• Dennis Rodman | Interv...
1996 Prince Interview on Oprah:
• Video
Prince’s Fashion Evolution 1979-1989:
• Prince’s Fashion Evolu...
The Prince Effect: Prince Pushes The Boundaries of Masculinity | Part 3 | Fuse:
• The Prince Effect: Pri...
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@sagemoonchild333 3 жыл бұрын
"When we disown and mock men for feminine expression, we support misogyny." WOW!!!!!! The world is not ready for that conversation. You just preached a word!!!!
@skylar5733 3 жыл бұрын
YES!!!! And I really want you to continue the conversation Tee! Whether or not you do, I’m glad you brought this up in your video👏🏼
@noormasri571 3 жыл бұрын
I always thought of the fact that so many societies are actually pretty accepting of tomboys but when it comes to them boys it's just pretty weird how people act around it and I always wondered why were they not as accepted as tomboys it turns out femininity is degrading to society
@bealol1016 3 жыл бұрын
@@noormasri571 exactly!! It’s so strange that women are seen as people that need to be incredibly individualistic (being a tomboy was popularized by the idea of being “different from the others” years back) but men have to meet this very similar to the others standard (like every other conventionally masculine man shown on TV and magazines.) So weird. Just an observation.
@noormasri571 3 жыл бұрын
@@bealol1016 Absolutely right.. and needs a lot of changes and reform
@blackdome98 3 жыл бұрын
I've been a vocal feminist quite some time and expressed my "feminine" side as a men for also quite some time. I knew this was connected but putting it as precicely as THIS? This is a fucking DIVINE quote!
@Thecosmiccorner333 3 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend is black and bisexual and I am a straight woman. I recently bought him a pair of heels and it made his entire week. He’s not gonna wear them in public but it was still a super special moment for the both of us. It’s taken us so long to be in a relationship where we are fully accepted so the fact that we now have each other is so amazing🤎
@crazy808ish 3 жыл бұрын
Just want you to know.... You are an amazing person and an awesome girlfriend.
@Leo-xn7gt 3 жыл бұрын
Heels are painful girl don’t force him
@Dakarai_Knight 3 жыл бұрын
@@Leo-xn7gt it sounds like he enjoyed the gift lol. Doesnt sound like anyone was forced.
@liainahamilton2145 3 жыл бұрын
THIS IS ALL I WANT
@Leo-xn7gt 3 жыл бұрын
Jedijazz4 u know high heels hurt soooo
@VintageZippers 3 жыл бұрын
There’s a confidence and a swag within people who are authentically themselves. That ish is sexy- period.
@liainahamilton2145 3 жыл бұрын
YES
@sailorprincesscute 3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Anyone that feels comfortable and confident in their own skin turns automatically attractive to me.
@ljhighness4113 3 жыл бұрын
confidence is extremely attractive
@VintageZippers 3 жыл бұрын
DarthYuYevon society loves hypocrisy. But as long the person is being themselves and is able to find solace in that- they can be feminine, masculine or both or neither as far as I’m concerned. When someone is operating in their own confidence it shows and it’ll be attractive/ appreciated by somebody.
@tumb9510 3 жыл бұрын
confidence is so fucking hot like 😳😳 that's why i'm hot tho 😎 anyway
@yanna9611 3 жыл бұрын
Men that dress different, paint their nails, or even act feminine doesn’t bother me I find it attractive tbh. Like being confident in your own skin no matter if you’re different from the norm is just attractive in my opinion
@scarship8250 3 жыл бұрын
@Earl Jones who cares about clothes, let ppl be themselves
@rydercdaniels4475 3 жыл бұрын
@Earl Jones exactly. There is clearly an agenda to feminize men
@Joshua-fr1xp 3 жыл бұрын
@Earl Jones You don't get to tell men what's Masculine and what isn't boy.
@Joshua-fr1xp 3 жыл бұрын
@@rydercdaniels4475 Oh shut up.
@Joshua-fr1xp 3 жыл бұрын
@Earl Jones It's degrading for anybody who supposedly calls themselves a man and yet doesn't act like it.
@shimeih2287 3 жыл бұрын
That's why our community has the most closeted gay and bisexual men. Our people support this outwardly but still judge and attack people who don't identify as the cookie cutter gender roles. This needs to change.
@justanotherweirdo11 3 жыл бұрын
Closeted people in general.
@CuirPhotodotNet 3 жыл бұрын
....in my experience..the same ones dragging for effeminate men...are the same ones checking for effeminate men.....and stay away from the dl people....they usually are just not worth it...
@civildiscourse7626 3 жыл бұрын
Which community has the most closeted and bisexual men? You know this for a fact?
@saintzayan8205 2 жыл бұрын
@@CuirPhotodotNet that's actually not even true. That's just a typical talking point to shame heterosexuals that are against perversion like you wierdos
@elizabethburrows8925 Жыл бұрын
You shouldn't be gay in the first place . Find the problem with that first
@purplepineapple693 3 жыл бұрын
"And then you had Prince." That's it. That's the quote. GOODNIGHT EVERYBODY!
@ummeiguess 3 жыл бұрын
RIGHT??!!! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
@basket.8case 3 жыл бұрын
UGH LOVE HIM
@sagemoonchild333 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!!!
@Joshua-fr1xp 3 жыл бұрын
End of story.💜💜
@idiasweet8191 3 жыл бұрын
THANKKK YOUU
@fis7363 3 жыл бұрын
Imo embracing femininity is not only about wearing dress, but it's learning how to articulately express your emotion, how to be a compassionate and emphatetic person, how to be nurturing and caring for others, etc.
@johnwebb2442 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely true. It's not only physical, but mental, emotional and spiritual.
@michelcleark1802 2 жыл бұрын
So you mean being pathetic and weak 😂😂🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
@endbreadracism7086 2 жыл бұрын
@@michelcleark1802 do cis men not have emotions or basic respect and empathy for others? 🤨
@saintzayan8205 2 жыл бұрын
@@endbreadracism7086 not like women. I can tell you that
@markiab5817 3 жыл бұрын
I am a 36 yr old bisexual black woman. She/They. If Dennis Rodman wasn’t present in my childhood zeitgeist through tv, adult and kid conversations I would have been further isolated in my identity.
@Rollacoastertycoon Жыл бұрын
Black peoples are screwed lmao wtf is they then
@padrescott2047 3 жыл бұрын
I've been called a white boy and gay since I was a kid because my clothes fit. Most black girls wouldn't date me and whenever I dated outside my race that's when the "white boy" chant got louder. Still happens somewhat to this day and I'm assuming it's because I don't look the part. I'm a man who doesn't see a problem wearing a women's shirt. It's been decades but I'm glad people especially black women can see that if we both go shopping and get a massage it's not gay, it's self healing.
@JulianSteve 3 жыл бұрын
I am sorry you went through this. I had similarly went through the same thing growing up, but a little different. We are strong Black men for pulling through and not letting any trolls stop our growth now.
@Sco2b 3 жыл бұрын
Dude, do you. You’re awesome
@camillefaith2005 3 жыл бұрын
Go you!!! 😊
@juggle_g7579 3 жыл бұрын
@@notevenonce2260 this was so well written, thankyou
@lockheart619 3 жыл бұрын
@@notevenonce2260 Well said. You hit the nail on all these points. As a dark skinned black girl I definitely noticed that dark skin is seen as masculine. It's seen desirable on black guys but not for girls.
@MxTheLight 3 жыл бұрын
I enjoy wearing leggings, makeup, nail polish etc. but my mom and brother is not very accepting of that. I appreciate this video because people like you are making me feel more accepted in society Edit: when I made this comment, I was straight and cisgender. Now I'm pansexual and non binary. The experiences I went through before shaped who I am now
@VaughnesN 3 жыл бұрын
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
@rosemali3022 3 жыл бұрын
And it gets better every day. I shop for my nephew in the ladies section more often than the men's. And he has a loving committed and gorgeous girlfriend, and respect from his peers and for his music. Your family might not be as accepting as culture right now, but they aren't the norm. Especially if you live in a city.
@rosemali3022 3 жыл бұрын
Oh also, guys wearing makeup is 100. Most guys should, it looks great and makes you feel great :)
@MxTheLight 3 жыл бұрын
@@rosemali3022 I can do mascara but that's about it 😕
@clivebby4877 3 жыл бұрын
@@MxTheLight just start small or when you fell safe enough to do it, like we don't want you're life to be put in danger, but try like a little mascara once, then like add some gloss or like some highlight, Idk some small things and lead up to bigger things, but make sure that's it's safe enough, because bitches be loud, violent, ignorant, and wrong
@vailvarone4075 3 жыл бұрын
"When we disown and mock *men for feminine expression*, we support misogyny." YES, YES, YES! Literally, insert any non-cis and or non-binary gender identity or deviant form of gender expression, and it's still a true statement.
@blankacct6421 3 жыл бұрын
And all these people out here acting like Harry Styles was the first to model in a skirt.
@JH-lb6qf 3 жыл бұрын
Prince was what we call - "a cultural reset".
@sherrodmacs3472 3 жыл бұрын
Prince was extremely secretive and took alot of secrets to the grave..
@justsomedudete3320 3 жыл бұрын
a whole icon
@peoplepleasingguy 3 жыл бұрын
@@sherrodmacs3472 oop
@takejaylor3528 2 жыл бұрын
@@sherrodmacs3472 are you saying he was bi?
@justsaying8358 3 жыл бұрын
If you're a women who wears pants, you shouldn't be talking anything about a man wearing a dress. Simple as that. I'm a women who wears alot of male clothing, I'm fact all my sneakers are from the male section, this doesn't make me more or less of a women so I assume a men wearing a skirt won't make him more or less of a man
@anelbre0904 3 жыл бұрын
Yassssssssss come thru fluidity. I love a good tailored suit honey. Wingtips, bomb ass cufflinks with a finger wave, lol.
@justsaying8358 3 жыл бұрын
@Jennetteish - it become a gender neutral thing, it wasn't always like that, in fact to this day in some regions and religions women aren't allowed to wear pants because it's men clothes
@muhdiskandar02 3 жыл бұрын
Kush Kush Kush Kush However if you look at history, pants weren’t socially acceptable to women globally until the early 1900s. Before that, most women regardless of their status, age, culture, race wore skirt-like garments. Even as today, women symbols for toilets signs are depicted as a figure with a skirt.
@justsaying8358 3 жыл бұрын
Also another thing, in alot of cultures pants weren't a thing, men whore skits and dresses. I'm my Ethnicity tradicional male clothing doesn't envolve pants, men just use a fabric around their waist like a skirt
@Topofthetopapex 3 жыл бұрын
For the next time plz do your research before talking ! In the past ,pants were for women 😂😂💅🏾💅🏾 in Asia mainly ! So your argument doesn’t stand 😌
@sailorraine2676 3 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend used to get made fun of by my own relatives because he dyes his hair, wears nail polish, makeup, and earrings and obviously those things shouldn’t be considered feminine. He looks amazing and is comfortable with his sexuality. He is comfortable wearing a dress or anything defined as feminine. He is not uncomfortable with people calling him gay because he’s not and he won’t stop a literal STYLE just because they’re trying to push him into a category
@LA-cm9uo 3 жыл бұрын
Huge respect to him.
@sarahbarabe8470 3 жыл бұрын
I actually really love when men wear more clothing that is considered feminine especially celebrities because when I tell you it is SO boring to see award shows and events where all the women are glammed up in these extravagant and unique beautiful gowns and the hair and makeup and etc. and the guys are just in black suits. Come on, its about fashion.
@feminine8766 3 жыл бұрын
Right like
@Kinglystateof 3 жыл бұрын
What I find is that we raise girls in their “uniqueness” there tends to be a celebration of the different aspects of the female experience and how there is no one way. We see that with girl groups like The Spice Girls. With black boys, we give them THE SAME outline, and we discourage anything other than the box of masculinity presented. To be afraid that you’ll be alone because you aspire for a level of personal growth and freedom we do our boys a disservice: THERE IS NO ONE WAY TO BE A MAN.
@JulianSteve 3 жыл бұрын
AMEN! You said exactly what thoughts I could not put in sentences.
@rosemali3022 3 жыл бұрын
Amen to that! Scream it from the rooftops. The boys need to hear you.
@LunaWitcher 3 жыл бұрын
girls' "uniqueness" is also mostly celebrated when it can be attractive to men. Oh, you can be goth, there are men who like goths. You can be laid back, there are men that like the more relaxed style. But if you are a black goth or fat and laid back, or if you're simply ugly, then put yourself away. That box of masculinity is also what most men think women want. I remember a story I heard from AA where the guy started drinking because the woman he loved said "if you don't drink, you're no man", and then he became addicted. The whole thing is very heteronormative and damaging to everybody involved.
@Kinglystateof 3 жыл бұрын
@@LunaWitcher agreed
@rosemali3022 3 жыл бұрын
@@LunaWitcher This is true also. We all have our advantages and disadvantages. Open discourse like this should eventually set us free. I think the difference here is that while women have the option to really work for each other, feminism, more homeless shelters, r/FemaleDatingStrategy, etc: men have MGOW, Incel, and scam artists. Of course, a lot of what we have is exclusive to trans women. But I do think we have created more options to get help than men have. Men of course also have the option to create resources, but do to the nature of toxic masculinity masculinity and the patriarchy they dont always see it as an option. I dunno, the world could be a much better place for all involved. And i'm inclined to blame much of what we have on capitalism. I digress though. Just woke up and had a few thoughts.
@andrewibarra4326 3 жыл бұрын
I fell down a rabbit hole of your videos. You’re so well spoken and well researched and I’ve pretty much agreed with you in every video that I’ve watched. Definitely subscribed🙌🏼😊
@gideoniskemp 3 жыл бұрын
same here
@ayodez9951 3 жыл бұрын
It's that energy
@gideoniskemp 3 жыл бұрын
@@ayodez9951 its always the energy
@marcosunamuno3433 3 жыл бұрын
Same one week after lol
@anthonyjake9726 3 жыл бұрын
Sameeee
@theede1313 3 жыл бұрын
I "teased" a friend in high school when he wore a dress walked in and went "what are you wearing" and he goes "I lost a bet" my response was "I wish you would've styled it better," I told him next time he 'loses a bet' to text me or someone else so they look extra cute next time. He smiled.
@KSangel180 3 жыл бұрын
Back in the 80's a lot of straight dudes would wear crop tops and no one thought anything about it.
@hadihatab3126 3 жыл бұрын
Not just crop tops, but also short shorts, high rise jeans, bell bottoms, etc. The problem was when the 90s hit, grunge and gangster rap became mainstream which presented a more stereotypical masculine image. Plus with the growing recognition of homosexuality, mainstream fashion for men became more relaxed, baggy, less fitted, longer so most men started adopting these looks and the only men still wearing stuff that was short and/or tight were seen in a certain way. It didn’t help that also in the early 90s, there was also the growing concern of AIDS.
@KSangel180 3 жыл бұрын
@@hadihatab3126 True that!
@OReily08080 3 жыл бұрын
I love men who can be feminine and masculine. Don’t know why, my range is from Timothee Chamalet to Chris Evans/Hemsworth or Idris Elba. It’s ok for a straight guy to be feminine
@itsokayif_itsSJ 3 жыл бұрын
Yup this comment resonates so much with me! I literally don't have a type, you can be feminine, masculine, black, white I literally don't care. If ur fine ur fine!🤷🏽♀️
@OReily08080 3 жыл бұрын
Sasha J “IF YOU’RE FINE YOU’RE FINE” I had to echo that because my preferences were A LOT limited before
@itsokayif_itsSJ 3 жыл бұрын
@@OReily08080 yea same for me, even when was I was attracted to "masculine men" exclusively I didn't like those hyper masculine dudes that thought EVERYTHING was gay, for example taking care of your skin, nails, etc. It's a hugeee turn off for me.
@miss_eclipsic01 3 жыл бұрын
I honestly feel the same way😭👏🏽
@camillefaith2005 3 жыл бұрын
I can go for anywhere between a Shawn Mendes to a Henry Cavill. 😂
@elsiebarry4748 3 жыл бұрын
It is amazing how articulate you are. I don't mean that in that "oh she's Black and talks well" I mean that your videos are straight up sociological essays and you present your information so well and I'm a huge fan of your sources and examples and UGH I can't believe you put this much effort into every video! I hope to be half this articulate lmao
@paulelago9453 3 жыл бұрын
No one would think you mean that, besides you, you are probably a little racist. Articulation has nothing to do with race, it's about ability to express yourself and it can be in any language.
@tia8245 3 жыл бұрын
@@paulelago9453 what do you mean "you are probably a little racist"? also no, articulation has NOTHING to do with race, an OP made that clear. They just mean that its amazing how knowledgeable and eloquent Tee is, they aren't "surprised because shes black", they are just praising Tee, as they should. Especially in comparison to other youtuber similar to her, Tee is far better at presenting facts, so it is nice to see a youtuber who can explain stuff so well
@deepspace385 3 жыл бұрын
@@paulelago9453 no, you would be surprised at how that statement can be misconstrued by others. it happens a lot.
@paulelago9453 3 жыл бұрын
@@tia8245 The person is racist because if that was a white person all they would say is " You are articulate" no disclaimer necessary. Maybe just not full on racist, that's why I said a little racist. That's like saying : "you are beautiful, but I'm not just saying that because you are black" The disclaimer has racist undertones.
@paulelago9453 3 жыл бұрын
@@deepspace385 misconstrued by racists. A compliment is a compliment, no matter who it's coming from or directed to. It should be judged by it's weight. Saying "You are articulate" to a white /black /Asian e.t.c is the same thing, if take that any other way by considering the racial identity of the individuals then you are a racist.
@docfabz 3 жыл бұрын
Male femininity is just as important as male masculinity. Both energies are needed for balance in each and every person even if in small doses. I feel like these dynamics have to take time to unpack and break our old way of thinking but we're getting there lil by lil.
@jadenphilander8799 2 жыл бұрын
Cap. Complete bullshit. MEN with high Femininity does not benefit society. Women don't even want feminine men
@Turquerina 2 жыл бұрын
@@jadenphilander8799 Bruh speak for yourself
@Joshua-fr1xp 3 жыл бұрын
As one of those men, it's something that requires thick skin and confidence. You have to ignore the haters and continue being yourself.
@LA-cm9uo 3 жыл бұрын
I admire your confidence.
@johnettewilson6595 4 жыл бұрын
I always love to see black men embrace who they truly are ❤
@exstellaxoxo6895 3 жыл бұрын
Um, not only gay but if they want to be feminine
@jadenphilander8799 2 жыл бұрын
Cap
@saintzayan8205 2 жыл бұрын
I don't think that's what they truly are, but are raised badly. But keep lying to yourself if that's what helps you sleep at night
@themelexperience7628 4 жыл бұрын
I love this. Especially the Prince love, dun fact Camille was his alter ego where he used a high pitched voice and expressed feminine love ❤️
@TeeNoir 4 жыл бұрын
See I didn’t know that! Thanks for informing me 🤗
@soaribb32 3 жыл бұрын
@@TeeNoir He sings half of the Sign O The Times album as Camile.
@UndrgrndTy 3 жыл бұрын
Interesting, him being a Gemini and having two alter egos.
@janepatton8100 3 жыл бұрын
@@TeeNoir Ma'am how has the blk community faired since the breakdown of the nuclear family and the removal of positive "traditional" male role models? Prior to 1960, blk people ( in particular blk women) were the most married people in the US. Then came the mistake of integration, followed by the welfare system that incentivized households with absentee fathers. Literally, our community *IS* the failed experiment of what can happen to a community after proper masculinity is removed. For the record, little boys (immature men) acting hypersexual while throwing temper tantrums is not masculinity.
@ummeiguess 3 жыл бұрын
BAY•BEEE!!! 🧐🧐🧐 EVERY guy I've ever been with KNEW that His Purple Majesty was allowed to express whatever love to me, if I ever encountered Him 😜 👁👁 he is still my husband in my head - we will def meet in the next life 🥰 chiiiiiiillle THEY KNEW - and none of them ever tried to say anything bad about Him either lol - cause we would've fought lol 👏🏽🤜🏽🤜🏽👊🏽🤣🤣🤣 but also bcz they understood his pull wholeheartedly - they couldn't even argue lol 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 **rest well Love Entity**
@belsnickel9568 3 жыл бұрын
I always thought it was weird how we encourage girls to express themselves and wear men’s clothes but we don’t do the same for guys
@joannamonique707 3 жыл бұрын
Because being masculine is cool, but being feminine isn't. According to society at least.
@belsnickel9568 3 жыл бұрын
@@joannamonique707 yeah it’s bullshit.
@joannamonique707 3 жыл бұрын
@@belsnickel9568 agree
@maryamkim1281 2 жыл бұрын
Huh? Masculinity is superior and high status, not inferior and stigmatised. That's what we are taught.
@braesidebikes4344 2 жыл бұрын
it's misogyny. masculinity is great, femininity is somehow lesser. femininity is "allowed" in women but is not forgiven in men. masculinity is respected all around.
@mogamatsedickpetersen8620 3 жыл бұрын
As someone who was teased for 'looking like a girl', I can honestly say that people are by and large really dumb. I was called ugly names and it didn't really bother me until some 'family members' started using the same slurs. While I am gay, I'm not feminine and I never was. I dressed like a boy typically would and was never really expressive (unless it was about my opinions), yet was still verbally abused because of the way I looked. It was always funny when straight guys would hit on me and somehow flare their nostrils and diss me when they realised I wasn't female lol.
@JulianSteve 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for creating this educational video. I went through a lot of discrimination during my middle and high school years for being "different." I never dressed feminine, but these boys (majority were Black) and a few girls would gossip about me 24/7. There were times I asked God "Why you made me different than the other boys?" Julian three years ago has finally retired. Now, I love myself and can give two fucks about what people think of my "eccentric" persona.
@uhohstinky5850 3 жыл бұрын
God didn’t make you different, you chose to wear what you wore not him.
@rioderique4090 3 жыл бұрын
@@uhohstinky5850 Ignorance with a capital I
@uhohstinky5850 3 жыл бұрын
@@LucasSantos-ss6ou remember these words you wrote
@chloewinnaa1515 2 жыл бұрын
PREACH god youre actually me, I hate that boys are need to be seen as stone cold low voice little hand movememt, theyre not even allowed to be excited for fucks sake or theyre seen as girly, but fuck that
@niaturner2137 4 жыл бұрын
This video was a masterpiece, just like all your others😆*chefs kiss* and you look gorgeous
@TeeNoir 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🤗
@ManyMonstersMedia 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!! As a black trans man I’ve struggled a lot with accepting my lack of ‘masculinity’ I thought I couldn’t be a man because I’m not very masculine and I don’t want to be
@animegothvampire1999 3 жыл бұрын
I feel that way
@yourfavoritecloud7307 3 жыл бұрын
same
@joaoggarinart 3 жыл бұрын
This is so true. Society kinda forces men in general to the hiper masculine behavior, but black men suffer even more. Most men keep being toxic, sexist, homophobic, not because they really are, because I have friends that keep acting and saying homophobic jokes, but just to reinforce that "I am masculine, ok? Have you guys saw me making this homophobic and sexist jokes?". I hate that so much. I tried deconstruct my family minds, especially my str8 brother, and I see that even him, that is str8, now suffer homophobia for not having that toxic masculinity. He don't likes homophobic jokes, he is always complaining with his friends about it, also with sexist comments. That's sucks. I realized that most of men are toxic just to be accepted, not all of them really are like that. ¬¬
@feminine8766 3 жыл бұрын
I’m a girl and one time my brother had a pink phone case and my mom got mad at him that she yelled to him saying that this is gay so I try to defend my brother telling my mom this is a phone case and why complaining about it’s color but she told me to shut up and I have no say in to it which got me really annoyed my parents don’t support the lgbtq because what they think in the Bible saying it wrong when clearly it’s just written by homophobic men one time my mom tell me she only wanted me to date boys not girls because she doesn’t want me in that position but little did she know I actually find girls attractive and also boys I’m actually a bit bi
@gabrielawolynec5800 3 жыл бұрын
it´s really common in other oppressed comunities to not address homophibia, transphobia etc bc it feels like "there's no time for that" but all oppression is connected
@cutienerdgirl 3 жыл бұрын
I LOVE this video. I really HATE when people, mostly other men, perpetuate Toxic Masculinity and attach arbitrary things to sexual orientation/masculinity. I hate it because it lessens my dating pool and will make it harder for me to find the type of guy I'm attracted to when people put pressure on men to be in a little box. I'm attracted to men who don't attach gender to pieces of clothing, don't have egos so fragile that they have to be in charge all the time, and who aren't hypersexual & ultra-aggressive and don't try to put on a front that they are those things to impress other men.
@arjaybaluca6482 3 жыл бұрын
That toxic masculinity thing, ohh I never knew it existed when it comes to dancing too this one youtuber who reacted to WAP dance trend on tiktok. Majority of the people dancing are teens and there this one guy dancing the trend and this so called youtuber was like "why this N doing too much, you do everything for clout men" and he's literally pushing his ignorance like why?? Can't men jiggle their botty as part of the dance routine?? I was furious and disgusted how people still support this youtuber who influence his audience to be hateful just because a guy twerking when he could've just skip and said nothing. I'm sorry I sound dumb cause this is so out of the topic.
@animegothvampire1999 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah me too I hate it
@headintheclouds7905 3 жыл бұрын
Once when I was in 3rd grade, this very adorable kid with glasses from my grade but from another class came to me in P.E. because I was that really energetic kid that thought that she was a gymnast just because she taught herself to cartwheel and split. The kid saw me and after talking for a bit he fucking did a cartwheel and landed on a split, I was shooketh out of my mind at the time, I was low-key concerned because I thought that would get him hurt but I got so shook that I actually started crushing on him, he was sadly ridiculed since people thought that doing that was gay. He was so confident and seeing a guy do flawlessly (to my 8 y/o eyes) a thing that I loved to do just really amazed me, that's sadly the only memory I had from him since we weren't in the same class and I ended up moving to DR after half the school year, I don't even remember his name but I hope he is happy and doing his/her/or their best and hope he knew I had a massive crush on him
@quackmothertrucker 3 жыл бұрын
Tee could literally be talking about how bad the Taco Bell she had gave her diarrhea and I’d *still* watch 10 minutes of it. She’s so well spoken and has has such a drawing tone
@lindadavies3281 Жыл бұрын
Yes, she is well spoken for a black women.
@neilagangitlog 3 жыл бұрын
I'm an Asian boy and most of this also applies to me :(
@LA-cm9uo 3 жыл бұрын
If this makes you feel better. :) My bf is an Asian man. He acts and looks very masculine. But he also wears pastels, nailpolish, does skincare, and dyes his hair. It's his own personal choice and he does not attach these things to gender. I hope that makes you feel encouraged! :)
@chaoshistory4936 3 жыл бұрын
This makes me think of when young thug was wearing skinny jeans before they were popular, and everyone in the rap game called him gay??? Like it’s a pair of pants
@anthophobia430 3 жыл бұрын
a trans gay guy, whos a femboy, instead of the argument of me having to conform to being a man because i was born as one. i get people yelling at me because im not masculine enough, or that im not actually trans. i love society so much 😀
@diobrando1616 Жыл бұрын
Just like me!
@MrsPervy 3 жыл бұрын
gender is a construct yes, but feminine doesnt equal woman and masculine doesnt equal men ;)
@denilsonalves558 3 жыл бұрын
it basically does...
@jennellrobinson1264 2 жыл бұрын
@@denilsonalves558 it doesn’t tho. The gender identity you present doesn’t determine the gender identity you are.
@johnwebb2442 2 жыл бұрын
Right
@jadenphilander8799 2 жыл бұрын
Cap. Perhaps in the west but only if you could leave the bubble the west lives in. Come back to the rest of world. Come back to reality.
@saintzayan8205 2 жыл бұрын
@@jennellrobinson1264 however masculinity is associated with men as much as femininity is associated with women, therefore, men who have feminine behaviors are viewed differently as much as women who act masculine because it's confusion and as something that you don't normally expect
@mokgethwamoraka6941 3 жыл бұрын
Let's not forget my baby daddy Steve Lacy.
@dirtyicontarot 3 жыл бұрын
Hes gay
@willarroz6703 3 жыл бұрын
Dirty Icon Tarot bi sexual
@unfazedjae2645 3 жыл бұрын
Check out the youtuber Almonte Films. You won’t regret
@gideoniskemp 3 жыл бұрын
@@unfazedjae2645 deadass I cosign that
@amballin0349 3 жыл бұрын
@@unfazedjae2645 bruh that video was a joke thats how he is, he can be completely joking but look completely serious
@gabriellaniyitegeka401 4 жыл бұрын
Completely true. She said what she said.
@kingdomseeker88 3 жыл бұрын
On hyper masculinity: I planned to wait until marriage for sex. The reactions i got to that info in my teens (even from "church" folk)... It was like an alien concept. Girls even refused to date me because i was a virgin 🤷🏾♂️ I know this is slightly off the topic of femininity. But hopefully this will help someone wait until they're ready. Nobody "deserves" your body if you don't want to share it. 🙏🏽
@chickofmusic001 3 жыл бұрын
Keep doing the right thing! 🙌🏾 virginity isn’t a feminine thing, it means you have self-respect and are patient to have your sexual experience with someone special 🤍❤️
@Lujah15 3 жыл бұрын
I didn't know before, but I may have just discovered that I am a femboy...wow. Thank you for helping me get closer to who I truly am. I am South African and black so these concepts are still very taboo and misunderstood where I come from so I truly appreciate the enlightenment
@applebeeshoney7490 3 жыл бұрын
I'm south Africa too and go for it. Live your truth
@animegothvampire1999 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah go for it
@moochie8296 3 жыл бұрын
Man: wears skirt People in their feelings: *LIFE WILL END* Meanwhile men in old ages: 👁👄👁
@Jacob-wz7pm 3 жыл бұрын
i really thought this was going to be another video talking about the gay agenda and feminization/emasculation of black men. I'm not attacking anyone but i always hear people blaming black men for the whole toxic masculinity thing when in fact a lot of black women help reinforce it. I've heard some black women say they can't date a man without a beard or a light skin guy or his pants are too tight or why is he keeping his hair that long(not in dreadlocks) or blah blah blah and its all just "preference" but its the same type of "preference" that some black men have for light skin women. Also this is just my opinion though but black women of all the races have the least tolerance for pretty boys and it comes from hyper masculinisation of black women by black men in fact men of all races. A lot pick a traditional man the gruffer the better in an attempt to make themselves feel more feminine and slight in comparison. Women of all races do this too but its sooo prevalent in black women. It's a terrible cycle and i hope it ends soon cause its not good for both sides of the communtiy at all
@lightingrod5907 3 жыл бұрын
Finally someone said it. Everyone loves to overlook the fact that women uphold toxic masculinity just as much if not more than men
@justinakinsola3305 3 жыл бұрын
You....thank you!
@Chaoticalgrrrl12 3 жыл бұрын
You’re not wrong I see a lot of black women are the main ones egging it on and that in turn makes men push who they are down further Like it’s both but when your being criticized for everything from the women you like (or are supposed to like) that probably hits different. But I have definitely seen black women doing it just as hard as hypersexualized black men
@Jacob-wz7pm 3 жыл бұрын
The Asexual Goddess Exactly. Like it’s bad enough from black guys but I’ve got loose curly hair and I’m light skin and I know colourism affects darker skin girls but I’m light skin guy and I swear if I wear anything outside a hoody and Air Force it looks “gay”. God forbid I ever wear ripped jeans 🤦🏼♂️ unless it’s got supreme and zippers for days
@mackynzi2049 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Something I’ve definitely noticed in my family.
@crunchychicken2 3 жыл бұрын
I never understood why people cared so much about other people's fashion. Fashion is one of the best ways a child can explore identity and self expression. Putting them in a box to be a certain way because of societal norms only influences self hatred which could then be projected in the worst ways possible as they get older. Whether a man is happy wearing clothes that are considered "masculine" or happy wearing clothes that are considered "feminine" or even a mix of the 2 shouldn't be anyone's business to scrutinize. People being happy and successful simultaneously seems like such an out of reach thing the way society reacts to it🤦🏿♀️.
@jrr7031 3 жыл бұрын
I care about because I dont want my kid lusting after 'gucci and Louis Vuitton ' because they see fake rich people peddling that shit down to us, and i aint buyin that shit. Waste of fuckin money. Thats why i care.
@exstellaxoxo6895 3 жыл бұрын
JR R Yeah but there’s other stuff, stop assuming that’s what kids want
@jrr7031 3 жыл бұрын
@@exstellaxoxo6895 do you have teen girls? Do you live in the south? Yea, ok.....thanks but you have no dog in this fight.
@onlyfoes 3 жыл бұрын
@@NO0Kn0OK Let me drop an example: I think it's not healthy parenting to tell your child she/he can't have these or that favorite toy because it's "only for boys/girls". Children doesn't understand that at all.
@exstellaxoxo6895 3 жыл бұрын
Consent to what, seeing other men wearing feminine things?
@murtithinker7660 3 жыл бұрын
Even forgetting about the boy's looks, just loving art and music is considered feminine. Some men are naturally gifted with these skills, but sad that some abandon it because they do not wanna be considered feminine.
@CarlosHernandez-jv6wk 3 жыл бұрын
"Viewing a man as inadequate because he chooses to express his feminine side implies that femininity is weak, and fragile, and should be held to a lower regard." I think I have 3rd degree burns from that spilt tea.
@yvonnedavis9650 3 жыл бұрын
A lot of “Femboys” can be HIGHLY attractive. Does anyone not remember Prince? He wore heels , hair extensions, blouses , and even eyeliner and he still got some 🐱 from women. He loved himself some women😍😍 he was freak. I use to hate when guys dyed their hair🥵 but now that I see more guys doing it I still find them attractive and they still love women. I kind of feel like we should know the difference between boys who have some feminine style but still love women and a guy who’s actually gay.
@brownstudios5379 3 жыл бұрын
true. something odd is, people get so confused when they see a masculine gay/bi man often accusing them of "not being their authentic selves when really, sexuality and how you express yourself have no correlation. you can be a feminine or masculine guy and be straight, bi, or gay. people just need to let go of making assumptions. honestly, if y'all click, you should be able to go at it and then go get your nails done together.
@yvonnedavis9650 3 жыл бұрын
Brown Studios exactly. Their a lot of artist now that are following this trend. One of the guys from the band “Prettymuch” is considered a “Femboy” .
@brownstudios5379 3 жыл бұрын
@@yvonnedavis9650 i think thats cool if he's expressing himself in a way that makes him happy. people, specifically men in this case should be able to dress how they want and not have their sexuality questioned or without being harassed for being different. the issue i have with the femboy(besides the fact that the word has a bad history) trend is that the same guys hopping on it now were making fun of feminine gay/bi men and transwomen and now its a trend. i think part of the issue tho is that they weren't able to be the part of themselves that wanted to play around with their feminine side before this trend. people just need to stop judging other people negatively.
@yvonnedavis9650 3 жыл бұрын
@Ricky Styles Well, that is true. Some of the most unattractive artists can get women so quickly.
@starrsmith3810 3 жыл бұрын
A lot of women love a feminine man, hell one of my biggest crushes wasn’t the typical hyper masculine type
@j.a.h.3836 3 жыл бұрын
wow Im so happy I found this video because Im a 18 year old black male and Im in the mind set of being confident in my own skin and embracing my femininity. cant satisfy everybody and I refuse to be put in in that toxic masculinity box🗣💯
@krosis2774 3 жыл бұрын
🙌✨ you do you!! This is exactly what I love to see, people embracing who they are and making no apologies for it
@williammathison4978 3 жыл бұрын
Prince the first black male artist to break the mold of masculinity? Ever heard of little Richard?
@aram7706 3 жыл бұрын
But how many people know about little Richard? How many people even know that about him?
@averagejohn47 3 жыл бұрын
“A little fruity or a little tooty baby a-WOOOOOO”
@lucapeyrefitte6899 3 жыл бұрын
I would say they're both great and really influencial in my eyes
@therealsoulproduct 3 жыл бұрын
Anyone who has listened to popular music of the last 60 years should know who Little Richard was. He was an incredibly influential Rock & Roll pioneer.
@milkyteawithbiscuits3555 3 жыл бұрын
I mean little Richard wore glittery shirts and stuff but it took the likes of David Bowie who wore actual dresses and Prince wearing assless chaps that really set the gender fluidity conversation in motion
@larrypakowuah2410 4 жыл бұрын
Yooo my wife in my head cut her hair. You look beautiful ❤❤❤❤❤
@TeeNoir 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@aleribeiro9278 3 жыл бұрын
I can't thank you enough for this video. It truly touched my heart. Expressing yourself is really difficult when you don't conform with the norms. I've been struggling with that since I was a child. Here in Brazil masculinity is one of the only things tha will bring respect and admiration to a man, especially in the black community. This video not only made me feel evaluated but also respected for who I truly am. Thank you so so much for this! Now I have little bit more emotional strength to keep being who I am :) PS: I love your channel and you're such an incredible, beautiful and smart person ❤ PS2: I love the pop of yellow in the eyes, really want to try it myself!
@coolcatbad4508 3 жыл бұрын
You should've put little Richard in this he chose to be himself during a very controversial time and influenced a lot of other artist doing so
@ummeiguess 3 жыл бұрын
TRUTH💜DOT💜COM another Great One we've lost recently 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@andresciahooten9598 3 жыл бұрын
If Prince was starting out musically in today’s world, he might not make it. Because of the way he looked back then
@jovanreid6782 Жыл бұрын
Huh?????....
@thecraftykingdomking7029 3 жыл бұрын
I definitely think being wealthy is a big part of this topic. The celebrities mentioned who challenge gender norms can probably afford body guards to protect them from hate crimes or can afford private tutors to home school their children. As opposed to middle class guys who have to face bullies and discrimination in high school.
@Radhaun 3 жыл бұрын
As a femboy myself, I love my other femboys. On Billie Porter, that man is amazing and I love everything about his fashion. I haven't seen him in anything that didn't look spectacular. Your tea on femininity being held in lower regard was HOT.
@pastel7327 3 жыл бұрын
Eeeeyyy femboy squad
@animegothvampire1999 2 жыл бұрын
Me too
@Miss-Ann-Thrope 3 жыл бұрын
Little Richard, Slyvester, and Rick James did not conform to gender norms, but they were all very successful long before male feminity was a topic.
@MrAlen6e 3 жыл бұрын
The bit at the end you mentioned about misogyny is 100% true, I feel the way to truly embrace equality is to bring down the walls of toxic masculinity expectations.
@thebluebeyond2329 3 жыл бұрын
Scottish men : Are they serious? 🤣
@reg1m0nz83 3 жыл бұрын
i love this video so much.... im a really big fan of tyler the creator. and id argue he always expressed his feminine and creative side, but he was known for so long as being toxic and homophobic. but it was like when flowerboy came out, he just shed that perception of himself, and he didn't even have to come out as gay. he just became so true to his authentic self and the people that were with him on it were with him, the people that got it got it. getting to watch that kind of transformation happen in an artist you look up to feels really special. and so many kids are following his example
@storibrown6250 3 жыл бұрын
I love Tee Noir's channel AHHH. It helps me hold myself accountable and helps me remind myself society has progressed but we still have such a far way to go. :)
@arichardson5903 3 жыл бұрын
I don’t think people understand that there is a difference between sex and gender and the labels and constructs places upon us by western views and philosophy.
@akira3874 3 жыл бұрын
This video was amazing! Men are constantly put under scrutiny for not conforming to their gender, but it doubles for black men. Gender is a colonial, white construct and so the model for it is white people. You put so much love and dedication towards your videos! I'm binge watching and really enjoying them so far. My only problem is the use of the term f*mboy... It was really popularized as a porn term referring to trans women (as they are seen as feminine men) and it has been recently rebranded as gender non conforming men. Maybe using just feminine (or GNC, gender non conforming) men would be more adequate. Love love love your videos and can't wait to see more!
@TeeNoir 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks! Watch to the end & you'll see me realize that term isn't for me after all 😊
@mo.ka.9661 3 жыл бұрын
Men and women wear different clothes and have different roles in all cultures since the beginning of time. Believe it or not white people didn't invent everything
@clivebby4877 3 жыл бұрын
@@mo.ka.9661 chile You just proved the fact that gender is a social construct, because the definition of gender and gender identity changes in each culture, meaning it is not fixed or biological, when researching the gender constructs in non white cultures, please look at the culture pre and post colonialism, because it does make a difference, a big one actually, for example in, I'm not sure where in South East Asia, but I'm pretty sure it's the Philippines, where many tribes were matriarchal, in contrast to Europe's strictly patriarchal society, and this was considered their gender roles, in the Philipines, the women led, while in Europe men led, but post colonialism and Europe (Spain) being the assholes they were basically replaced their gender construct with their own, so this further proves the point that gender is a construct and the most common gender construct used globally is one that was created, crafted, utilized, and forced down the throats of many who didn't ask, was from Europe
@uhohstinky5850 3 жыл бұрын
It is not white colonialism wtf, if anything, white colonialism is perpetuating alternative lifestyles and feminine men and masculine women
@yveaperez8253 3 жыл бұрын
@@clivebby4877 the truth be hard to swallow . Mhm
@veelooolove4118 3 жыл бұрын
I also got this feeling from Michael Jackson, when I was younger I used to ask if he was gay coz he didn't represent the the social norm masculine man that I grew up around used to.... I was young but I really detected that feminine vibe from him
@lelelew2735 3 жыл бұрын
Yea I'm surprised hes not on the list hes definlty an androgynous type and liked wearing perfume instead of cologne. But I'm guessing it's because he only wore men clothing and didnt like to cross dress he only used make up heavily because of vitiligo. But he was the sensitive type and liked to break boundaries but alot of people dont consider mj a feminine type for some reason I think it's because mj can do anything and people dont mind it. Prince wears ass less pants everyone freaks out,mj wears a full face of make up and dresses in an Elizabeth tatler theme people are like " oh that's just mj" and dont mind it.
@lelelew2735 3 жыл бұрын
Plus theres still a mystery of his sexuality theres been every story saying hes every sexuality his life was a mystery I personally think because of the way he grew up his sexuality was demisexual heterosexual he had a low sex drive but liked women and had a childlike mind.
@starrsmith3810 3 жыл бұрын
He was the reason I even got into men who aren’t hyper masculine. It’s hella attractive tbh
@j.t.1086 2 жыл бұрын
Predatory p*dos aren't a good example to hold up. There's no mystery to his sexuality except among fans who won't accept the facts. "he had a low sex drive but liked women and had a childlike mind" --> yeah, because he was a (at this point) well-documented child groomer with a cover story He deserves pity on some level bc someone probably did it to him, but he's the last person you want to hold up as a positive example of male femininity, he embodies the worst trope of all. Always been drawn to feminine guys but Michael Jackson and Peewee Herman are the two celebrities that have always given me the same creep vibes.
@PrincesFriend 3 жыл бұрын
I know I'm only just now watching this 2 months later, but I just wanted to say thanks for repping Prince for the groundbreaking artist he was. Exactly the quote your read was true to my life. Through listening to Prince's music and seeing the way he presented himself, it allowed me to simply be myself... and I'm glad you are preaching about how this is important for everyone! Thank you, Tee! Really enjoying the channel, and was pleasantly surprised to have Prince highlighted. Cheers!
@usooicee 3 жыл бұрын
I rly loved this video! as a black woman and someone who appreciates and respects people for what they decide or don't decide to do with themselves, i never understood why so many people (and when i say ppl i rly mean the black community; specifically the men) have the need to tell others how to live their lives. why they are so comfortable with the blatant homophobia and transphobia they always throw out. so what if a man wants to dress more feminine and wear make up and nail polish, they're not hurting anyone by being themselves. the toxic masculinity in our community is so sad bc it forces those who choose to feel free in expressing themselves more self conscious and unfortunately can become suicidal. i do believe that gender as well as sexuality are meant to be fluid and those who choose to explore that spectrum shouldn't be punished or mocked for doing so just bc it's not considered the "norm".
@nightcypha 3 жыл бұрын
I love this Sistah’s take on this. While I don’t consider myself a “Femboy”, as I’ve never heard of that title until this video, I am a straight man who’s form of self expression is nail polish. Initially, some women just wouldn’t date me for whatever reasons they were hung up on. Even had one woman say to me that my nails and toes shouldn’t be better than hers and I wasn’t competing with her. However, my wife loves it and that’s what matters. I have no issues with how anyone expresses their creativity with themselves as everyone should live their life how they wish as long as it’s not hurting the next person. Great video!
@LA-cm9uo 3 жыл бұрын
Cool! .y bf wears nailpolish too! He doesn't think it's a gender thing.
@LA-cm9uo 3 жыл бұрын
*my
@isabellepantelll5004 3 жыл бұрын
The fact that people even think twice about men in dresses, skirts, heels is so strange. Like why do you care so much?? Men in robes and silks and heels used to be a symbol of power and wealth. If it makes someone happy to dress a certain way, shouldn’t we just accept and embrace them?
@angelcakessyummy099 3 жыл бұрын
Love this video!! I would love to see a masculine-presenting man stand up for 'butch' presenting women though. I've never seen men stick up for butch women like that
@jeromelj1010 3 жыл бұрын
Masculinity is whiteness
@Crashedonmarrs 3 жыл бұрын
I have no words but to say thank you as a black man thank you so much
@samuel7385 3 жыл бұрын
I remember when I was around 14 years old and my younger male cousin would wear his moms dresses. My uncle came home and would beat him every time he caught him wearing a dress.
@jennifergarcia2710 3 жыл бұрын
Oh my god what your uncle did is very disgusting. Hope your cousin is doing great now :/
@3hinoh 3 жыл бұрын
“ Femboy” ... hmmm something that gay men were hated on and have been physically/verbally attacked for doing for decades... now I guess a straight man can be praised for his aesthetic or challenging the norm 🤦🏽♂️ that’s just my opinion tho
@3hinoh 3 жыл бұрын
KStar And I love that from her 💕 and to the men of any sexual orientation that go out of their way to express their fem beauty I deeply applaud you 👏🏽 but when it is being only recognized from a certain social group without recognizing the group that has challenged it before them it’s a slap across the face you know? (this is only my opinion tho)
@cosmiccentaur 3 жыл бұрын
not only its a of problem men holding these expectations towards other men, but women as well. Seen so many girls on social media who say they would never date a man who didn't act or present as hypermasculine, not only in appearence but also their sexuality (like, bi/pan men or those who have explored their sexuality). in conclusion, gender norms are trash and should be burned and forgotten.
@ebeth7045 3 жыл бұрын
Its their preference though.
@lendlalfred7870 Жыл бұрын
It's their preference and everyone is entitled to them.
@BlkSuperman77 3 жыл бұрын
I'm a proponent of live and let live, in all forms. While I am for uplifting my effeminate and gender bending brothers, let's not go down this rabbit hole that us masculine staight dudes are all the way we are because it was beaten into all of us or because of "societal pressure" all the time. I grew up in San Francisco, a city that was known for being very open minded about you doing you, whatever that may be. That is up to, and including a guy like me enjoying being my truth. I like jeans, jerseys, cars and football, and am not feeling wearing a dress or makeup. But I reiterate, bear no ill will toward a man that does. Yes, there are men who force themselves to be the Alpha male when that is not in them, but it seems like that blanket is getting thrown on all masculine straight dudes. Huge Prince fan, by the way. Love that you included him in this conversation.
@boshmcgosh5235 4 жыл бұрын
Just found your channel. I really appreciate your input plus I'm learning. PS you are gorgeous.
@qsister1 3 жыл бұрын
It's really tough for black communities to talk about male feminity especially with the media and old traditions of showing how strong a man is supposed to be. They can't cry and show so much emotion or they are deemed "weak". It needs to stop and many of us still struggle with the unconscious bias of how a "man" in this case a "black man" is supposed to present themselves in society.
@qsister1 3 жыл бұрын
@Manuel Patterson well I don't have to depend on a man to defend me I can do that myself or call authorities if need be. I think a man should discover for himself how to present himself. I am in no position to dictate what a man should or shouldn't do to his own body because it's his business and nobody else.
@qsister1 3 жыл бұрын
@Manuel Patterson If anyone significant other is in danger when they are around I'd they would come to their defense. In my original post, I was talking about black male emotions and how they have to portray themselves. yes, id hopes they won't act like robots since I didn't say that...anyways. Expressing oneself has nothing to do with a lack of parenting or not having a proper role model in the household. Unconscious bias is real and still permeates today just like society wants men to be a certain way it asks for women to be a certain way.
@boolii7383 3 жыл бұрын
Funny how This is something I struggled with my whole 17 years of life😭
@boolii7383 3 жыл бұрын
Actually made me feel kinda better about myself, thanks 😊
@Doctor-Infinite 2 жыл бұрын
Same 19 yrs for me I snuck in my moms closet and wore her long skirt and I haven’t been the same since smh
@essenceamiahderas4662 4 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love your cultural commentary videos! They are always super informative and capture the nuance of experiences that’s folks are unable / unwilling to discuss. Please keep creating, love ya Tee 💛.
@TeeNoir 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I have a huge passion for this so when it gets acknowledged it means a lot 🤗
@FLLLLTBEEP 3 жыл бұрын
it was funny when u mentioned prince, i immediately looked at the poster of him on my wall 😭❤️
@ArtsyFartsy010 3 жыл бұрын
ABSOLUTELY!!! I dealt with this struggle since a child. Even my parents and family say “Don’t do that. That’s what females do” or “You’re a boy. Act like one”. Now that I’m grown I say sometimes “Well idc. I do it. It’s ME. Let me be the first male for you to do it”
@atfnitarian 3 жыл бұрын
Thnx so much for this video!! I am a recording artist and I constantly question the things I do and wear for this very reason. I've been recording 14 years and have never received any recognition partly because of being a military brat and partly from being out side the black norm. What makes it more complex is I'm masculine. Which really throws people left. I don't wear dresses n such but I had green hair for the longest and I'm not shy about being sexy and wearing lace underwear and just being a versatile and free spirited black man. I'm your new subscriber. Thank you for giving me the confirmation to keep goin
@Morgansaron 3 жыл бұрын
With a degree in communication studies and media strategies...your verbiage is amazing! *friend in my head 😂
@emaginationproductions 2 жыл бұрын
One thing that has helped me personally is realizing that a lot of the standards of masculinity that cis straight black men uphold came form European colonialism and pre-colonial Africa was much more accepting of various gender expressions and identities than post-colonial Africa and the African diaspora. In other words, it's part of the legacy of colonialism and white supremacy.
@Brown597 Жыл бұрын
There was no gay black men in that time in Africa
@lilweedsea 3 жыл бұрын
There’s something very powerful and strong about men expressing their femininity freely and confidently.
@josiahlewis5838 3 жыл бұрын
Thank for making this video...I wanna wear crop tops, paint my nails and dye my hair but I havent...I never went thru that right of passage and I'm slowing figuring out who I am as a black man. I just wish society would see me not as some type of freak or "fem" but just another man.
@simplyandy9792 3 жыл бұрын
I been waiting for you tubers like you who are straight forward and actually address the elephant in the room. Like as a community we’ve been needing to talk abt this
@mspettybetty 3 жыл бұрын
I love that at the beginning of the video she made it clear that being a feminine man doesn't always affect your sexual orientation. This is to anyone who doesn't understand the point of breaking gender norms. It's not about making men feminine or making women masculine. It's about freedom of expression. Expressing yourself in a non-harmful way doesn't make you any less of who you are.
@sylviapaints 3 жыл бұрын
I’m surprised you didn’t mention the historical significance of the emasculation of Black men as a possible reason why our community is hesitant to accept black male femininity. I’m not necessarily saying it justifies it but it does provide a significant and understandable context for it.
@johnwalker1058 3 жыл бұрын
That explains some things.
@fishflopper7k 3 жыл бұрын
I like "femboy" as a term for myself, just because I feel like it fits me, but others don't need to of course
@Gaiaschosen 3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate you making this video....I wish more men could just be themselves without worrying about the world's point of view. Thank you! 😊🤗🤗🤗🤗💖💖💖🙌🏾
@pastel7327 3 жыл бұрын
I need to say that seeing men im feminin clothes gives me the confidence as a trans man to wear make up, crop tops, dresses/skirts and high heels
@fabiopadilla3444 3 жыл бұрын
Why can’t people be so well spoken, logical, open to criticism, educated, sweet and witty like YOU 🖤 I don’t usually comment but you’re a true influencer, woke af without bragging about it and a natural leader I would say ... the world needs more people like You omg
@toxicstarcandy 3 жыл бұрын
Everytime I see a man in a skirt, dress, or kilt I have to smile and nod. They understand the breeze between the knees on those really hot summer days.
@bendingbananas6540 3 жыл бұрын
clothes are genderless! some may look more feminine or masculine than the other but at the end of the day, let people wear whatever they want!!
@Selena_Cara 3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate how much research you put into these videos and the topic in itself. Really love your channel and listening to your commentary/thoughts on these topics. Keep it up :)
@maxinexo 3 жыл бұрын
"dying hair crazy colors, wearing nail polish" me with dark green hair and dark green nails: what you on about, definetly not me
@jktavious4157 3 жыл бұрын
I’m not into to wearing female clothing or acting feminine but, I have a weird child like goofiness that’s gets criticized by other dudes and girls which makes me seem less masculine.
@LA-cm9uo 3 жыл бұрын
So how does it make you feel when you see people pushing masculinity on other men?
@pyscez93 3 жыл бұрын
Prince was a pioneer for STRAIGHT MEN. Sylvester played with gender expression first but because he was a same gender loving man, he didn’t get his shine