Let The Fire Die Out
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@dkstryker 10 ай бұрын
"Stop insisting other people change they're view of who you are, other people's views don't matter." Love that quote from you Dwayne!
@Reblwitoutacause 10 ай бұрын
*their Totally agreed, however.
@IrisJoens 10 ай бұрын
@@Reblwitoutacause Thank you! Glad to see people doing that again; I wish we had more of that these days.
@mikeg1433 10 ай бұрын
But don’t they? Aren’t other people’s (especially those who matter most to us) opinions about us important?
@nakiflo 10 ай бұрын
damn right. they call me fat. but i do not feel fat. besides, calling me fat is not helping me. Rather, if they do care or being supporting, kind and loving, they should approach someone in a caring way that helps them to improve their weights. so those comments not very meaningful and just noise. Ignore. thank you.
@tadghostal8769 10 ай бұрын
Most people don't remember what you've done for them, only how you make them feel.
@hugolippold 10 ай бұрын
Bees don't spend their lives telling flies that honey is better than shit. Just let people be. Leave em alone and live your life. Great video thank you.
@RyleKittenhouse 2 ай бұрын
Stealing this
@k31rifleman Ай бұрын
The problem is when other American think controlling other American is…..justified then it a problem
@nickinskeep Ай бұрын
Fantastic phrase!
@marcol6363 10 ай бұрын
For those of us who didn’t have fathers growing up I thank you for your much needed words of wisdom
@user-mj9lq9vp3w 9 ай бұрын
Not every father is wise like this
@PeachDragon_ 8 ай бұрын
@@user-mj9lq9vp3wmine is very wise but he's a hopeless cynic so every philosophical conversation with him is just existential dread rather than an actual lesson about how to live life properly
@rpd3720 7 ай бұрын
@@user-mj9lq9vp3w let me correct that: for those uf os who didn't have a WISE father
@nancyreyes5219 7 ай бұрын
I watch your videos when I can. I ve learned so much! Thank you! May God bless you!
@xoxoakouto 6 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤
@MJ-dv2gr 6 ай бұрын
I'm a 29 year old black combat veteran and it blows my mind how often what you talk about sits really well with my soul. I thank you for sharing your humanity with us it means so very much. God bless everyone listening
@Dokgo22 6 ай бұрын
A bit young n I feel the same way
@nybbhUSA 5 ай бұрын
Bless you and thank you for your service.
@szymon9234 4 ай бұрын
amen Brother, may the God bless you too
@kairenbrandjes5357 4 ай бұрын
So ironic because same. 29 year old black USMC vet in Baltimore! Found Dwayne last week and immediately subscribed! So much just resonates with my soul
@MJ-dv2gr 4 ай бұрын
SO to my birthplace, Maryland! God Bless u man. Glad we found likeness @@kairenbrandjes5357
@beermedic2545 10 ай бұрын
As charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife. Proverbs 26:21 ESV
@seekeroftruth9900 10 ай бұрын
Word ❤
@Arcahnslight 9 ай бұрын
@@seekeroftruth9900THE Word 👍
@sandbats5 9 ай бұрын
thank you, beermedic
@jah-marii8230 Ай бұрын
I've been being a quarrelsome man without even knowing it recently...
@vakp799 10 ай бұрын
As a veteran who is angry all the time this channel is what's making me think further all the time. I found out that i want to follow a simular path of the way you approach life in general. Thanks for this and keep up the good work.
@mickeyconnor830 10 ай бұрын
I spent the better part of 15 years feeling perpetually pissed off after returning home from Iraq. I smoked and drank too much and put more effort into giving up than into building myself back up. Best advice I can give you, I got from Dr. Jordan B. Peterson. To paraphrase: Voluntarily take on as much responsibility as you can handle, and make the effective management of that responsibility your highest priority. Develop a routine which aids you in the proper execution of your duties, watch your diet and get some good physical activity going, and don't introduce too many chemicals or intoxicants into your brain chemistry. Gave my life meaning again. I've developed a career, reconnected with my family and friends, and I'm now considered something of a pillar in my social and work circles. A leader in thought and in deed. I took the positive things I'd learned in the Army and retooled my behavior to conform* with and reflect both the values instilled in me by my time in service, and the wisdom I've gained about life and people in the civilian world. Let your best self shine out through the inner darkness until it casts it all back into its rightful place in your past. Hope that advice helps you put your mind back into balance. Best wishes, respect, and brotherly love to you.
@lloydfortner1663 10 ай бұрын
Thank you for your service
@darksu6947 10 ай бұрын
I know this might sound a little stupid to you but some things just aren't worth the energy it takes to be upset.
@vakp799 10 ай бұрын
@@darksu6947 Doesn't sound stupid at all. And when i think about it it's true but putting that into practice is a bit more difficult than it sounds. But i do understand what you are trying to say.
@yettimouse3561 10 ай бұрын
Take the time to write down the steps it took to make you angry, then give a different emotion to the steps( disappointment, fear, remorse, surprise, )...then use these instead of anger it will help you to find your calm brother.
@josephbowman1626 10 ай бұрын
My SgtMaj in the USMC used to say, "The only good thing about beating your head up against the wall is it feels good when you stop."
@chelleb3055 10 ай бұрын
This guy is like the wise uncle we all need. Love this channel so much.
@westoncampbell1268 10 ай бұрын
I agree
@weekendatbernies2265 9 ай бұрын
Now they have Microwave fires....then what??
@jaythparrianen8555 9 ай бұрын
I agree
@SouthernJaeger 9 ай бұрын
That’s why I refer to him as Uncle Dewayne. He’s the figure I needed after the age of 14 when my grandfather died and my step father wasn’t the fatherly figure that I needed at that time.
@alexwolf2845 10 ай бұрын
Needed this today. After almost 7 years, my ex fiance told me she didnt believe she could love me the way i wanted and she faked feelings for over a year and a half. It's been almost a month since we split and haven't seen each other, I'm using this advice for the future. No more fires. Focus on what needs to be done and change for the better and not the worst.
@GUITARTIME2024 10 ай бұрын
That's rough but she was being honest. Don't contact her or suggest anything. It ran its course.
@alexwolf2845 10 ай бұрын
@@GUITARTIME2024 it is what it is. Hurt is there. But no ill will.
@GUITARTIME2024 10 ай бұрын
@alexwolf2845 if it helps you to not contact her, just realize that at the very least, she was cultivating options with other dudes online for a while. It's called monkeybranching and they all do it as the relationship wanes.
@supercoolyguy 10 ай бұрын
@@GUITARTIME2024 That's what I say. No particular facts in this instance. But I've seen enough 🐒MB to know it's definitely Not a coincidence. She doesn't want to criticize you, because it doesn't matter, you're Out. She's got Or going to, get another fish to fry real quick.
@user-vz1yx1tt4t 10 ай бұрын
It's for the best, she was not on the save wavelength as you. Love and feeling isn't something that just happens, it's something you grow. It takes work and commitment. Either she didn't want to work or she didn't want to be committed.
@goodvybe679 9 ай бұрын
That fire analogy is actually great, don't leave the fire unattended, but remove the fuel/oxygen and leave when it's safe. You can look at it with fires you want and don't want in life
@JayWalks95 10 ай бұрын
Don't start none, won't be none 💯
@GlenAitken-zu7lf 10 ай бұрын
❤
@outdoordauber 10 ай бұрын
When this man goes to philosophysing, I suggest sitting down, quieting down and opening my ears. He is a national treasure!!
@westoncampbell1268 10 ай бұрын
Ow ya I agree.
@beanbean4563 10 ай бұрын
I just got broken up with, and this is definitely something I need to hear. It’s something I should’ve learned earlier but it’s also something I can use dealing with this time and all the emotions. Thanks for this.
@sonyavincent7450 10 ай бұрын
Sorry about your breakup. They suck.
@davidpitchford6510 10 ай бұрын
A lucky break for you; you may have avoided the Divorcentration Camps.
@sosinati3358 10 ай бұрын
@@sonyavincent7450you dont know their situation. This is about growth and maturity, no childish blaming. Let them grow.. stay childish where you are
@WowNemy 10 ай бұрын
Same here. Take care.
@mannyg1750 10 ай бұрын
Break ups are tough but you’ll be alright! Keep your head up and focus on the positive!
@LakesideBattler 6 ай бұрын
Tonight I am having a dinner with my Dad and he said its the last chance I have to repair our relationship. This was just the video I needed to see today.
@jeffrey6618 6 ай бұрын
Turn to jesus friend
@custerranch 6 ай бұрын
I hope it went well, and that you can build it back again together
@boscodog4358 4 ай бұрын
Your Dad may just want to talk, let yesterday go and just focus on today and tomorrow.
@j.taylor3670 10 ай бұрын
As Gavin DeBecker points out in The Gift of Fear, if you respond to an unwanted stalker after they contact you for the 30th time, you have taught them that the way to get a reaction is 30 tries. Just refuse to engage.. Your advice is consistently excellent and useful. God bless and keep you.
@XRPtrueking 10 ай бұрын
I'm coming back off a drug relapse after 6 years clean. A few days ago this channel was suggested on my page and it's been a God send. Also some of the best years of my life was working with horses . A big God bless from West Virginia.
@cylentsmoker 14 күн бұрын
Yo how you doin
@subaquagene608 10 ай бұрын
Excellent analogy Dewayne.....I wish 95% of the world would listen to your message and truly Listen and Hear your words. Thank you very much again.
@CPTkeyes317 10 ай бұрын
I just heard the joke yesterday about somebody that we thought for sure had a hearing problem with how many times the instruction had to be repeated. The joke was "buddy, you've got a listening problem"
@unstabletwig1038 10 ай бұрын
Not the other 5% though, that would be overkill 😮
@westoncampbell1268 10 ай бұрын
Ya I really like his voice I had a cousin recommend a long time ago
@Sm-ne8ff 8 ай бұрын
Remove the oxygen from a relationship and the next stop... Prison 😅
@r44inspector44 10 ай бұрын
For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases. (Proverbs 26:20)
@curtismcdaniel6264 8 ай бұрын
Brother, I’ve listened to you for about a year now, and I just want to thank you for being a good Christian man and for helping others. You have been a blessing to me!
@Selah1141 5 ай бұрын
EVERY male trying to be a man needs to listen to your words of wisdom. God has indeed blessed you with common sense.
@LiLoTech 10 ай бұрын
As a Wildland Firefighter, you've just described 99% of what we do on the line. Never thought of how the science also relates to living a better life.
@rejvaik00 10 ай бұрын
Yeah I thought that was very neat too That's what we call a "fire break" and he describes it perfectly well the soil is turned up so there's nothing on the bottom of it for the fire to catch on and burn it so it just stops at the firebreak As long as the firebreak is done correctly and they tilled up the soil deep enough as sometimes the fire and the Sparks that come from it can jump a firebreak and continue to blaze onwards
@road_king_dude 10 ай бұрын
Thank you guys for all you do. 🙏
@Keys879 10 ай бұрын
If people sat and thought, a lot of activities out there are showing us lessons which we generally choose to ignore for the sake of the moment. For example, during the Pandemic I spent my time in Mexico, learning to surf. (i was lucky) In my time sitting out on the water, waiting for a wave to try and ride; it occurred to me while on the paddle back out to the break point that it is important not to rush against the current. It's much stronger than you and doing so will only wear yourself out, leaving you fatigued and too tired to catch the real wave. Likewise, when catching a wave it is important to pick your run wisely and not to get upset when it is stolen from you by other people. Just like in real life, it is important not to fight against the flow and struggles of life; just keep pressing forward and you will meet your goal. Pushing too hard will only create more obstacles and tire you out. As well, you should pick your battles wisely and choose what you spend your energy on with intent. Don't get upset from other people who are more successful around you. Watch and learn from them. You will gain more insight and skill than just jumping headlong in competition and fighting over skewed opportunities. Be safe out there!
@Nerdalertt27 10 ай бұрын
I think you unintentionally provided us with your best piece of advice yet and at the same time explained your perspective/reasoning for your outlook in a very easy to understand way. This says a lot because you've hit the mark on a number of these videos over the last year or so. All of that horse drama you're always dealing with is teaching you more about people than horses. Cheers.
@westoncampbell1268 10 ай бұрын
I agree just leave everyone alone on their own land
@mohammadqadri5065 10 ай бұрын
i’m a 21 yr old and stumbled across ur videos when i moved out of my parents house, it’s been almost a year now. You taught me a lot every week since then about how to be a man, make better decisions and get my goals in order. I haven’t talked to my father personally in ages but watching your videos remind me of him and how if he was with me he’d give the same advice. I think everyone watching would honored to call you Papa, you most definitely deserve it! ❤
@quesseca7246 9 ай бұрын
Same situation here! I moved out at 17 and hes helping me navigate life on my own
@Thetruthiscosmic 8 ай бұрын
You should talk to your own father, there is no replacement for him out there anywhere. God calls us to honor our parents. Now that doesn't mean honor them only if they are worthy of it, it means honor them in spite of their unworthiness to be honored, honor them *especially* when they are not deserving of it. If your father refuses all your attempts and he is the one who wants to maintain the distance, despite your best efforts to close that distance, then of course you cannot force it, but you can rest calm and assured that you tried to your best to mend your relationship with him. This will be hard to do if you don't consider your father to have been a good one to you, but ultimately it will lead to your growth and to you becoming the best man you can become. Forgive your father, especially because it's hard. Forgive him and you yourself will be set on the right path in this life, you will find that peace we all desperately seek. Forgive those who have wronged you, and this is how you honor your parents. No one is saying love them or do this and that, to honor simply means to show them respect and to look after them/help them in the ways in which you can. I wish you the best of luck young man and may God bless you.
@Pragabond 7 ай бұрын
@@Thetruthiscosmic God calls YOU not us or we to honor our parents. Don't assume other people live under the same structure as you. Some parents simply do not warrant honor to begin with and attempting to honor parents that have in fact abused such honor over and over can lead to a lot of horrible hurt in the child. Your parents are not some immovable thing that has to be looked after regardless of whatever nightmares they might have put you throught (god knows monsters are parents too so you're being insanely irresponsible with the feelings of those who aren't yet monsters just to adhere to scripture). Obviously be kind and be gentle and listen honestly to your parents and people around you but its absurd to pretend like the answer to every parental situation is just "respect them". There's merit in forgiving and forgetting and moving on but saying you just need to respect any and every parent and always look after them period is sincerely naive to the point of being callous to the horrific realities people actually face.
@christyb7590 6 ай бұрын
Go make peace with Dad.
@achildfromafrica5456 10 ай бұрын
This internet is bad for a lot of things, but listening to your lectures and advice is one of its finest merits.
@aquagrunty101 10 ай бұрын
I’ve been butting heads with another manager at work and it almost got out of control a few weeks ago. Our relationship has always been contentious, but listening to this… I realize I be been feeding the fire with air and with wood. I really needed to hear this. I think I’ll take this motto with me for the rest of my life: Don’t start none Won’t be none Thank you.
@littlestjevito 10 ай бұрын
This is the truth my brother - it just so happened the very moment I read the final lines of your comment, "Don't start none, won't be none", it was said outloud in the video playing! The timing was perfect from my head to the video - that means the truth has been spoken!
@interiorattack8331 10 ай бұрын
@@littlestjevitoliterally just happened to me as I read both your comments…the truth reveals it’s self no matter what. Love this saying and plan to apply it everyday
@peterkroneberg5456 10 ай бұрын
The tongue of a wise man brings healing. This your talk is good medicine. Thank you!
@jas672 8 ай бұрын
Quell the fire within, quells the fire without. Much needed wisdom, thank you.
@AuthorZachJames 9 ай бұрын
This was something that I finally realized earlier this year, and was reinforced by this video. Only reason I'm commenting now is because I've thought about it plenty but haven't been able to properly put words to it yet. But I finally realized that I needed to stop fueling the fire to three very large, very heavy subjects in my life that kept me in a constant state of anger and bitterness. Once I had that realization, it made it so easy to just let go, to stop fueling that fire. And it's brought about an amazing sense of peace and catharsis. Well spoken as usual, sir.
@tmtb80 9 ай бұрын
That's great! One of my favorite sayings is, "Everyone's got their own bag of rocks. Why would I want to add more rocks (somebody else's!?!) to my bag? (or their bag?)"
@heidi32500 7 ай бұрын
Letting go. So valuable. Equally taxing in its effort. Keep letting go. There is peace in this idea. Blessings.
@jamesmetzler2031 10 ай бұрын
Another much needed message for the world and especially this country. Thank you Sir! My wife and I were true soul mates. We were made for each other. When she passed, life as I knew it, ended. We were also both pretty strong-willed. Which led, occasionally, to some knock down, drag out raging arguments. But I found that if I just removed myself from the situation, the fire would go out fairly quickly. I would go upstairs and read or work on one of my stories for just 10 or 15 minutes and when I came back down, I was fine, she was fine, the fire was out and we could interact again in a civilized manner, whereas if I had stayed downstairs, the fire might have raged all night and done irreparable damage.
@godshelp6068 10 ай бұрын
can you tell me kind sir, how did you managed to move on from the loss of ur wife? how were u able to continue living this life?
@jamesmetzler2031 10 ай бұрын
@@godshelp6068 I'm not sure that I have moved on. It's been 3 years and I still miss her every day. I always will. Some days I think I'm not really living, just surviving. The good news is that the unbearable agony gradually subsided. Though I still have occasional moments when I lose it completely for a few minutes, I am now able to enjoy the memories of the times we shared and even laugh about some of them. I think it is important to spend time with others you love if you can. I can't do that easily and have been mostly alone since she passed which has only exacerbated my grief. Be around people who love you. Or just call and talk to someone. It sounds too simple, but it really does help.
@seekeroftruth9900 10 ай бұрын
@@jamesmetzler2031😢,🙏🤗
@JenJan36 10 ай бұрын
I take this whole channel as a massive metaphor, an analogy for a better life. A good man to the core. Helps me immeasurably, Daddy energy x
@crankfotton 10 ай бұрын
🤦♂
@Blockbustah 10 ай бұрын
Bro why you chose those words at the end
@musikgirl7 10 ай бұрын
I hear you, Jen. Gentle, loving and wise, like all fathers should be.
@almakay6437 6 ай бұрын
I just found this channel today. I don't think this ole boy knows but he is truly doing God's work. Words cant express my gratitude.
@davidbarnes6410 6 ай бұрын
Welcome to the channel. God bless you. 🙏
@williamohman 10 ай бұрын
God I love you man. You’re an idol of mine, someone I look up too. I’m a 23 year old guy from Sweden and will be moving again to the rural area of Norway. I love it out there, it can just get lonely sometime. However I love the loneliness don’t get me wrong. It’s nice to have a father figure out here on KZfaq when it gets lonely and when you guiding. Keep it up sir you are fantastic.
@jesuslovesme8477 6 ай бұрын
Make no one your idol
@lastOFtheBOHEMIANS 10 ай бұрын
I watched your video about a ship at sea in a storm. You said steer toward the storm and meet it head on. I had recently started a new job and an opening for a much better job was posted within the company....long story short I applied because of that video and I got the job...a LIFE CHANGING job. Thank you.
@troybarbare9191 10 ай бұрын
Dewayne, you’ll never know how much your videos help people, but they have truly touched and helped me through some tuff times and decisions. Listening to you has also helped me calm my temper with the general public. I just wanted to truly say thank you, you and your wife are a blessing to us
@jamesrice6096 9 ай бұрын
It's true. Parts of my family get upset with me because I don't care what other people have, and I like people who don't care what I have. Another point is that what you do doesn't matter much . Some folks will have your best interests in mind and others won't. There's plenty that let other people do their thinking for them. For them, nothing will change their mind about you. They'l first think dumb things, and then they'll do dumb things. Whatever you do isn't going to make any difference so why fret about it.
@user-jy1hp9we9s 10 ай бұрын
Dewayne, “Let the fire die out” is classic good advice to all of society today. This is a message everyone could benefit from. Thanks from Idaho!
@a_birds_nest111 2 ай бұрын
Allow the fire to flow into solar, and feel this warmth not exactly in temper but in a peace. The best thing we really just need is allowing the fire to slow down, and flow with us, not exactly go out and disappear. Its to not create a fire of rage, its to create fire of freedom. And everything Dry creek says is amazing, everything is naturally spoken from the love and richness of someone who went through hell to live and teach the rest of the nest of Phoenix's that fly and flow with the power of Love.
@jht7002 10 ай бұрын
Listening to this was just like being in church and feel like the message is just for you!! Thank you brother from Detroit!
@amandaking7702 10 ай бұрын
I’m not close to being religious, and even I think you’re spot on.
@DapperNova 9 ай бұрын
Ditto. Also, hey there fellow Detroiter 😂
@jameswyatt2662 10 ай бұрын
i am a retired firefighter of 30 yrs and thats well said brother...i needed this to improve my skills with my mare, apprecite you guys...blessing from ontario canada ,ptl
@thothtahuti5509 7 ай бұрын
I refuse to join social media because it looks to me to be to big of a fire to cover, and others won't stop feeding it. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, people really need to hear it ❤
@itsmichaelmai 7 ай бұрын
I wish I never joined it, now it is really hard to leave it..
@thothtahuti5509 7 ай бұрын
@itsmichaelmai I bet it is :( They program you along with the phone, use those apps enough and it can eat a person alive. They are a great tool, much as a hammer is. But if the hammer actively conditions you to use it "the wrong way," it's only a matter of time before that hammer destroys something you don't want to break :/ I'm sorry we live in a time where we are essentially prescribed and then forced to use these tools :( I managed to avoid the big ones, but some are not really a choice. Good luck getting a bank account without a home address, good luck getting a home address without an email address and phone number, good luck getting those without money, good luck finding employment without virtually all of the above... and before you know it, we forget we are people, not cattle. It's a cruel joke that 1st world countries have played on enough generations to make most of us forget our roots, to become easy to manipulate, and ideally, to be docile. If not docile, then they point our anger (that they instill in us from birth) at anything and anyone else but themselves. And if we don't follow the road they predetermined for us, we are at best outsiders from society (🙋♂️ like me), at worse the veil is torn off and we are thrown into smaller pens which we can't leave. At worst, we are all geared and conditioned to hurt others, or ourselves... and then they blame us when it happens :( I'm sorry if I just "spoke down to you", that wasn't my intent, the opposite. I aim to lift up every human I can, at every chance I get. Thank you for your reply, I respect your honesty! Both inward and outward... Much love, friend. I hope you can learn to put the hammer down and use it to build when you pick it up ❤️
@MovingBlanketStudio 5 ай бұрын
youtube is social media
@erinmuetz8771 3 ай бұрын
I have coworker that has different opinions than I. He came off hard on me one day. I just stayed quiet. Things went back to normal after that. God bless!
@TeeIeh 10 ай бұрын
I think it really comes down to knowing who you are communicating with. There's certainly a place for debate and the changing of minds--I would never advocate simply lying down and letting the loudest voices dictate the commentary. But you're right about one thing. If a conversation isn't productive, it's just gasoline on a flame. No sense in that whatsoever. Good talk, thanks for sharing your wisdom and thoughts with us.
@jaimhaas5170 10 ай бұрын
I see your point completely. I have watched too many people not stand up to evil when confronted with it. That leads to compliance and evil thrives.
@maxcorder2211 10 ай бұрын
You never miss an opportunity to share some worldly wisdom. Thank you.
@washout04 10 ай бұрын
These videos have a calming effect on me I can’t understand. I feel like these are the talks we’re meant to have with family that aren’t happening because we’re all so busy and indebted financially. Thank you for sharing these. It’s doing a lot of good in the world.
@Tommycro 10 ай бұрын
It’s crazy how your videos show up just at the right time I need them. Thank you for your insights sir. Much appreciated 🔥
@westoncampbell1268 10 ай бұрын
Ow ya crazy
@nightswimmer5357 9 ай бұрын
Totally! The wave finds you when you’re ready to ride it 🌊🌊🌊🌊
@raykemry954 4 ай бұрын
Your smart phone is actually listening to you .
@Eidenbites 10 ай бұрын
It’s becoming a routine to wake up and listen to this while getting ready for my day.
@DragonwaveOG 10 ай бұрын
So trueee
@dfuss2756 7 ай бұрын
You have a load of wisdom. I hope the young people listen. I have trained dogs and horses most of my life. I found "sugar works better than vinegar." I have had a great life with my family and my critters, using similar philosophy such as yours. I am retired now and helping my ailing husband.
@garrywindshield1 10 ай бұрын
Words cannot convey how I needed this when I was a teenager. My trait of going out to make more trouble out of trouble didn't do too much harm in my general social life but it sure did bring a lot of pain into my personal life and messed everything up. I was really really in love later in life multiple times but I just couldn't make things work no matter how I tried. This is such a tragedy not a lot of people would understand. Because you do think and you do want to put out that fire but you're just keep adding and adding to it; you're ready to die trying but the other person don't. They just leave you and the cycle repeats. It's just a horrible ordeal. I was raised by a very good but very emotional mother that cried a lot and was scared of every little thing, and I think that influenced me to a degree. But the most important reason was my pride and my attitude towards God. I was too proud to ask Him long enough for help, I got upset and rejected Him, and my life spiraled in a horrible way. When you're full of pride you think you're the master of fire but in reality you aren't. Weak and foolish men think they can tame fire while strong and wise men know their place. It's as simple as that. You do less and you achieve more. But in order to do that you have to be a healthier person, you need to put out that fire within you first. Even if you see what's "right" (you probably don't), even if you do something out of the best intentions you've got to make sure you're calm and the other person is calm. If you care for them make sure they're calm and feel loved, act gently just like you would with fire because it's dangerous. Gentleness with people is calmness and love.
@AdamSmith-rp9ej 6 ай бұрын
Tremendous advice! “Don’t add fuel to the fire.” Thank you so much!!
@madic2263 10 ай бұрын
He reminds me soo much of my father, especially his eyes. You can just feel that true old country wisdom. Everyone needs someone like Dewayne in their life!! Lost my dad when I was 13 yrs old, I’m now 31 with 3 young kids. I wish everyday I got to have him while growing up & that my kids got to meet him and listen to his wisdom/stories. Thankfully I met my husband when I was 22 & his father is veryyy similar to mine.❤️ Keep spreading your positivity please! It’s much needed in the world today!
@JHL0L 8 ай бұрын
This is in tune with a trick I have learned recently. If someone tells me something combatively, I reply just “ok” and leave. Try it, it’s awesome! 😁
@gmail9772 10 ай бұрын
I never thought i would call another man my second dad... thanks. The world needs you.
@TF22453 7 ай бұрын
Wow, the “fueling the fire” analogy realllllly resonated with me. I’m glad there is free source for this kind of wisdom, this is the kind of advice I want to internalize and pass down to my future kids
@TrentMcNary420 10 ай бұрын
Another gem from this universal treasure! Always has me listening intensively to every single word! Love you all 🤙🏾🖤
@michaelthemadsoldiertist 7 ай бұрын
I like this explanation of the difference between fight and rational debate and discussion. Two mature people can have a discussion and we can all learn to agree to disagree.
@PepeCris15 3 ай бұрын
This came for me at the right time. Just what I needed to hear to help me see where I've thrown a log on a situation that didn't need it. No shame or harm in putting my hand up to say sorry and put the fire out. Thank you!
@heidi32500 7 ай бұрын
"Hurt people, Hurt people." A glorious clip on the wisdom of letting fires flame out. Don't engage. We probably in many ways are very different from one another, I practice zen Buddhism. You practice Christianity. Yet, we are similar in our spirituality. That's a blessing to share. Differences can be strength and beautiful. At least, as I see it. I mainly watch your channel because of horses. I was young, and infant, when I was introduced to horses in the southern Utah deserts and mountains. They are my spirit animal. I so wish I could live on a small farm like I grew up on with my grandparents. Alas, 64, and time is running out. I would hope I could join one of your retreats with each of my adult children. Or myself. It would remind me of the time I set out at age 40, after a divorce, to dream and claim to own my own sailboat and sail her by age 50. I did so when serendipity intervened. I taught women how to sail on the Great Salt Lake. Dream has come and gone. Lessons learned not forgotten. I wanted to say, the reason I started writing, is to share something I heard in my meditation practice that to me has to do with choosing to put fuel on a fire or learn to not engage the embers. The words I heard were, "Emotions are indicators, not dictators". Often my common enemy is my mind. I have lived through many traumas in my life and they still interfere with my life. If I take these words of indicators vs dictators to heart, I can find a more peaceful, calm place from which to observe my emotions, so they don't dictate my responses and feed my fears. As I listen to your analogy of fire, I see the embers from a fired up log split apart in the pit as just indicators of how close I am to allowing the fire of emotions to consume me again, or just watch the embers, the indicators, slowly burn away and out to Ash, and let there be no more flame to burn. So, there ya go. I do wish that you would decrease the amount of smoking because of the risk of cancer. As a retired nurse in a cancer hospital, I saw too many disfigured souls from pipe, cigar and chew tobacco. (I was a former smoker in my teens). I do enjoy the aroma of pipe tobacco burning and thought I could maybe just burn some like incense. Not sure what that would look like. If it would bring pleasure. I am glad you have found pleasure in life and give back to many who need some of your advice/lifestyle to measure their own world with. Now that's a Jesus/Buddhist gig. May you be sage. May you be happy. May you live with ease.
@samueljlarson 10 ай бұрын
Great video. I try to listen to every one you post. Reminds me of the saying “Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone.” Have a great one Dewayne!
@Uncle_Tijikun 10 ай бұрын
Wonderful video, Dewayne. Listened to it while walking my dog on a silent, chilly night in Scotland and it was the most relaxed and inspired I felt in a while. Appreciate you as always
@johnroyer2522 3 ай бұрын
Such a genuine man with that old-timer wisdom to analyze the situation.
@tomv3146 10 ай бұрын
Amen, my friend. I've walked away from fires situations, that would have resulted in to much risk of loss of friendships. I've lost to many fights with our equine companions.
@StoicSpeaks 8 ай бұрын
You know you're a real man when you post 480p videos in 2023
@fhangorn Ай бұрын
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@Alisoncruisssssse Ай бұрын
Wdym?
@xellared4983 28 күн бұрын
Fr💀
@Zantetsuken94 Ай бұрын
Someone mentioned God bless everyone listening - I would like to echo the sentiment. God bless everyone listening to this man. He spoke the God's honest truth and his point about WHO you will answer to at the end of all things speaks volumes about his priorities. Holy Spirit bless your messages my friend
@Won_Hunna 10 ай бұрын
One of the best pieces of advice i ever received was : "you don't have to attend every argument that you are invited to." Ppl are lashing out at strangers online for personal reasons you'll never know and a fight isn't going to do anything positive for anyone involved. A waste of time.
@dkstryker 10 ай бұрын
Awesome. People that love a conflict usually like it for they're own advantage. Its the traits of a selfish spirit. Nothing irritates a conflict creator like ignoring them. I had a situation like this recently and ignoring them brought out the worst actions from them but I got out unscathed and they got out without a job to go to. I did nothing but ignore them and that got them to the point they are at today. Don't engage and conflicting people will be they're own undoing, not yours.
@mcd5082 10 ай бұрын
Another amazing video. Thank you as always for sharing your wisdom! Not enough of this anymore.
@aprildawnmusic_ 4 ай бұрын
I like hearing your talks. Like an uncle or fatherly figure I never had, we could all have more of.
@jcbanbury 2 ай бұрын
Same. Fatherless sucks
@Daniel-bn5rn 6 ай бұрын
This is so true....this also helped me immensely. It amazes me how we are supposedly intelligent humans but yet fail to see such simple truths.
@flow6252 8 ай бұрын
I wish I had a father with the kind of wisdom this man has thank you for sharing what you share with people I know I can't be the only one you've helped
@borderlander2260 8 ай бұрын
I say it all the time... People literally look for reasons to be mad or to start a fight. It's absolutely insane to think that someone, somewhere is just so mad at everything and everyone that they feel the need to try and take it out on others.
@carmabirch8451 2 ай бұрын
I’m with you….I don’t always attend every fight I am invited to….folks can get their jollies elsewhere with no help from me. Good luck with that…hope it works out for ‘ em
@jamesmorgan6782 7 ай бұрын
Well that was a inspiration to say the least. Don’t start none and there won’t be none! Words of wisdom to say the least, thank you!
@jackkeeble9272 10 ай бұрын
Excellent talk! If people would only stop and think for a minute. Let it die down. You have a great way with words wish the world would listen! You are a inspiration to many people thank you and God bless you and your family brother. Your friend from Tennessee
@user-ml8nx4xw9t 6 ай бұрын
I did not even know conflagration was a word. I have watched several of your videos and I must say that you are very insightful. Thank you for a positive resonance in a society that has lost their minds.
@bigmacintosh1766 5 ай бұрын
This society will bow their knees unto Jesus one day.
@lornabourns6922 10 ай бұрын
I wish I would have had you as a male figure in my life growing up, simply to soak up all of your wisdom. My dad kicked the bucket when I was a young child & I had to figure out life on my own. Horses have always been my deepest love & strength. It’s where I’m happiest. They basically taught me everything I needed to know about human behavior by the time I was seven. Well, that & music. Take it slow.
@richardtrammell7521 2 ай бұрын
I followed my grandpa for years behind a team of horses brother… God bless you brother. I lert a holl lote. Some times at the end of a check rane 😢… But sometimes that’s the way we learn 😊
@NifBac 10 ай бұрын
I let my emotions get the best of me and ruined my night. But this was a great message don't fuel the fire even with myself. Let it go out. Thank you Sir
@ethanhilton915 10 ай бұрын
Dewayne, once again, thank you. Once again, for a man who is different in his spirituality than I am, different in his politics than I am, different in his societal opinions than I am, we sure seem to see eye to level eye on a great deal of things! I listened to the podcast, as I always do, and the message was one I couldn’t agree more with. If anything, it is our differences that interest me the most! Why? Well, my wife and I will be there for school in eight weeks time, and while my main goal is to soak up as much learning as I can concerning horsemanship and horse care, and wrangling, I can honestly say, I cannot wait to simply sit around a fire and listen to you, talk with you, and hear and discuss our differences openly and not only with respect but with genuine interest and a very open mind. It is from those who are different and have a different view that we can learn the most from. When all we do is surround ourselves with those with whom we agree that we find ourselves in an echo chamber, learning nothing. A discussion should never become a fire. It should be had around a fire.
@Sebastian-nk2tt 10 ай бұрын
It is fascinating how a lot of people get caught up in politics, believing that must be all there is to know about a man (or woman). I applaud you for furthering your own self by daring to have conversations with people outside of your own 'societal group' (i.e echo chamber). God bless.
@tracyjohnson5023 9 ай бұрын
@@Sebastian-nk2ttsame. People used to be able to talk and discuss things and just agree to disagree. Then move on
@linocarrerasiii4532 10 ай бұрын
Sir, Thank you for calming my mind and tempering my spirit. This is what I needed to hear today and I absolutely can not thank you enough for your experiences and your insight. My respect for you knows no bounds. I hope to shake your hand one day, something I would keep with me eternally.
@fugger75 4 ай бұрын
Respect to this gentleman and his philosophical gems!
@sandyv1270 10 ай бұрын
First time watching one of your videos. My husband's comment was that your way of communicating reminded him of Jesus - giving messages in stories. I agree. Story is a great way to get a point across. It allows us to paint a visual picture. I'll be sharing your video with others. Such a timely message for the world today. Thank you for creating this video.
@vapingfastbreak5629 8 ай бұрын
I love this message. Coming from the inner city my mentality was always if you want a fight you got the right one. Luckily I haven’t been in many fights but I’ve trained myself to be ready because of things I witnessed or heard but now a days I don’t want any smoke. Like at all. I still don’t take kindly to disrespect but this reminds me that there’s a way to handle it like a gentleman.
@michaelgarrity6090 4 ай бұрын
Good, strong truth filled, wise words. When we are young, we need to learn that lesson. Hopefully in your later years, you finally learn this lesson.
@blep668 4 ай бұрын
This is by far my favorite video of yours sir, I don’t always agree with your opinions, but most times I do, and this video was a gem, thanks for being a positive role model for young guys like me trying to find out how to live a peaceful life in this world full of chaos and confusion. You are appreciated.
@robertron5303 8 ай бұрын
Thank you for sitting down putting the time in and share your experience with the world. Truly appreciate your takes since I discovered this channel days ago. Greetings from Vienna, Austria and all the best for you and your family
@jamesduggan5846 10 ай бұрын
I am so appreciative of your channel. This message hit just when I needed it the most. Thank you.
@jordanpinson8686 10 ай бұрын
I appreciate you I listen to your video about loneliness... I recently had a restraining order and now live in cartel territory in Mexico I'm going through some very hard times ..and you helped me get thru the night much love
@ZombieWomb 8 ай бұрын
New subscriber here mate, so far I've liked your content. I've live by a quote that so far has led me to be living happy currently. "Would you be the kind of person you'd be honoured having your child spending their life with?" If the answer is no, you've got work to do.
@claudiajames1808 9 ай бұрын
Amen. "Two thoughtful, mature adults...." Live and let live
@chiefurxskates 10 ай бұрын
Another banger my friend. Yous & mama work ain’t never gone unnoticed, Thank ya both!🙏🏾
@jenmdawg 10 ай бұрын
When I was a kid being raised by criminals I looked for insight and wisdom wherever I could find it. Some of it stuck and got me through and much if it didn’t make total sense until I entered middle age. What’s amazing to me is wisdom is the same values told or lived in different ways and the key is “let it be”. Of course there are times we need to act or choose or even flee but if you let most things just BE those other times (when action is needed or a choice is to be made) become clear and simpler. You are a gem and have that glint and smile of those who saved my sanity if not my life.
@terryblevens9547 4 ай бұрын
I’m glad God directed me to your messages. Thanks brother and God Bless
@mylesgoodwin2017 10 ай бұрын
First video of yours I've ever watched and thank you for putting into words something a lot of us feel and know exists but can't clearly articulate. Much love, brother!
@VirtuousJerm 10 ай бұрын
always blessed to view your videos Dwane. Bless you and what you do for people that need these insights. God bless
@FirstnameSurname211 8 ай бұрын
Man your such a wise man. You know what I noticed the older im getting the more it easy to let go and stop proving my poingt and just leave it as it is
@jerodwhitmire8816 10 ай бұрын
First time watcher, I needed this today thank you sir.
@reneetobin5158 10 ай бұрын
Great session- thank you😊
@bobgraham4395 10 ай бұрын
I really enjoy your calm, cowboy approach and presentation on your chosen topic. I'm from Montana, currently living in one of those "heated " states and I agree with you, let the fire run out of fuel...or hot air.
@ThomasWBaldwin 10 ай бұрын
I like "smoldering fires". Keeps the coffee pot warm, and the critters away.
@physiquieleliot6406 10 ай бұрын
These videos always come out exactly when I need them. Thank you sir.
@urbanekrisenvorsorge6999 10 ай бұрын
I rarely comment a video, but you and I absolutely share the same values, it's amazing. I think we would be good friends if I lived nearby. Your passion for nature and animals, your balanced and relaxed easy going way, your urge for harmony and avoiding conflicts, your passion for cigars and your overall spiritual attitude towards life. And yes, the world is on fire. That's why we need more people like you so the fire doesn't spread any further 👍 Best regards from a dear U.S. follower based in Europe. Thank you for your videos and God bless you 🙏