Letting Go & Developing Unconditional Love with Mindfulness

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Mindah-Lee Kumar (The Enthusiastic Buddhist)

11 жыл бұрын

Learning to let go is something we need to do often during our lifetime. Sometimes we let go by choice and other times we are forced into letting things go. You could say mindfulness practice belongs to both categories: by choosing to practice mindfulness we are forced to let go of the past. Mindfulness is a practice that gives complete attention to the here and now, without entertaining thoughts about the past and the future. Mindfulness is an invaluable tool for helping us to let go of the past, be it our stories about ourselves or others. In this video I explore the personal freedom and happiness we can gain from letting go of our past stories. We don't need to be a prisoner of our past mistakes or painful memories anymore. And I discuss how mindfulness and letting go of our past stories about others can improve our relationship with them and allow us to generate an unconditional love towards them; a love that isn't based on past experience and expectations.
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Sutta used in this video:
"Tanhavagga: Craving" (Dhp XXIV), translated from the Pali by Thanissaro Bhikkhu. Access to Insight, 1 December 2012,www.accesstoinsight.org/tipita... . Retrieved on 16 September 2013.

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@timmorrow7103 7 жыл бұрын

I work in the mental health industry and your communication of these topics is amazing. Thank you!

@rebeccaplante4455 9 жыл бұрын

I love all your videos, I've been meditating for two years, it has had a profound impact on my life, and I recently decided to go farther and explore all of Buddhism and its teachings. Your videos and resources have been very helpful. This video really resonated with me, I was a stupid teenager too ;)

@HariKrishnan-pf1ec 7 жыл бұрын

Rebecca Plante :)

@BeHisLikeness 10 жыл бұрын

What a great video. Who could possibly have given this video a dislike? Thank you for your powerful teaching Mindah-Lee.

@BeHisLikeness 10 жыл бұрын

***** your teachings are real and very articulate, easy to understand. They come from experience...

@miketurley8272 4 жыл бұрын

Excellent . meaningful . yes. I throw away my 8 yr old US Army Infantry note books & journal .in 1992 (regretted it ) Thx. Evangelist Mindah

@antidepressant11 Жыл бұрын

Like the Thich nay Hsn quote. I wish you all the success you need Mindah.

@K0GAi. 9 жыл бұрын

I liked this one too, especially how the practice of letting go actually came to life and made more sense when you got to the point of explaining what burning your diaries was all about.

@SuperSmithdan 4 жыл бұрын

Very good point she makes on bringing other's past into our present....gossip probably falls into that grey-area category. Listening others talk about others is bringing up the past. So not only is gossip a story telling but often it is trying to evoke (yours or someones) past, usually in a negative way.

@kimonevictoriamycookbook507 8 жыл бұрын

I really needed to hear this it resonates with me, thank you ❤️

@yusefendure 5 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your humility, authenticity, and wisdom. In 'The Way of Non-Attachment,' Dhiravamsa writes: "The real work is not just to suspend, but to work through this matter of ego. It is a painful way...Often we do not like to see something unpleasant. There is a tendency to avoid it; to go to sleep psychologically. We suppress it by turning away, by taking up something else, but anything which is suppressed will have explosive strength." Your explanations are truthful. I won't burn my diaries, but I will learn to love myself and forgive myself, for the darker periods of my life that have shaped who I am right now. I am grateful for your poignant videos. Thank you so much!

@spudz555 10 жыл бұрын

Mindah, I'm really glad I've found your videos. They really have been helping me on my own spiritual journey. Peace be with you

@kenzieberr7263 6 жыл бұрын

You are a lovely person and I greatly appreciate your videos!!! I watch one of your videos first thing before my sitting meditation practice and you help me to grow and stay in a calm and compassionate state of mind. Your videos are a great tool for me. Thank you! ❤️

@nigelsheppard2953 8 жыл бұрын

These are amazing and precious explanations of Dhamma.

@c0284 9 жыл бұрын

You are a wonderful person. Thank you for teaching me to build my raft to the other side. You are my teacher.

@moonbaby109 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making these videos and sharing your knowledge of Buddhism and mindfulness. So helpful! 😊

@stevenkok1926 7 жыл бұрын

Discerning into passions with clarity.

@natfyfluffy1474 4 жыл бұрын

Amazing! Thank you!

@tracyvegan9114 10 жыл бұрын

Another great video. Thank you so much!

@Kaohukreations 3 жыл бұрын

What an amazing video

@mybtnthgl9200 3 жыл бұрын

So proud of you. Excellent lecture 🙏

@HariKrishnan-pf1ec 7 жыл бұрын

thank you sis...very helpful...

@rajeshram5090 8 жыл бұрын

Very helpful. Thanks for the video.

@tsheringdorji6156 7 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your videos. I like all the videos of yours on enthusiastic Buddhist. I being buddhish, I have never done any meditation before nor attended any meditation center. It is difficult for me to do meditation and hope your motivating videos will help me in my path.

@andrec7558 8 жыл бұрын

YOU ARE AMAZING

@MrKenyajohn 9 жыл бұрын

I was trying to watch your videos in order, but I skipped to this one. I have someone in my life that is causing me great pain. Seeing this video has calmed me. For that, I thank you!

@harmanxx 9 жыл бұрын

Please keep making videos!

@MDN10021 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@omaviraomavira7187 Жыл бұрын

I so love your videos 😍😍

@codingstrong 4 жыл бұрын

Words of wisdom

@apostatepaul Жыл бұрын

It’s funny you saying about diaries. I had several five year diaries and I came to exactly the same conclusions. I thought that I was keeping them as a way of trying to hold onto the past. Even though they were often awful I still wanted to keep them. But what I found was I could hardly recognise the person in the diaries! I decided to get rid to stop holding on and being free now. I don’t regret at all!

@ganesanls8723 3 жыл бұрын

Awesome

@DreamWizard9 10 жыл бұрын

Great ideas! Thanks

@healthychill 5 жыл бұрын

Its beautiful

@NatureandSpirit111 4 жыл бұрын

What if you had not tried to forget those past memories in your diary and instead noted any lessons you were learning at that time? What if you merely tried to see things differently? You could forgive that past hurt that way even though you might not have changed what had actually happened. When I got fired at a previous job I thought the manager was out to get me. Seeing it differently, I saw that manager actually projected his feeling that he was not good enough for his boss onto me making me look like I’m not good enough to work for him. I remembered how stressed I felt yet I never saw my manager differently from me because I also saw his stress in his constant nail biting and actually felt bad for him that he was not enjoying life. That he was as unhappy as I was. In this way you could probably bring a lesson you learned into the present instead of an event which would create a future when you project that past in front of you.

@EnthusiasticBuddhist108 10 жыл бұрын

I made some notes of a few notable dreams during my meditation retreats. But I limited myself to only a few sentences for each. I haven't revisited those notes though; like I said, it was only a few dreams. I am more curious about my future dreams and how they might evolve. :) The dreams I recall of my youth were mostly nightmares, so I'm happy to forget them! :)

@lotusholistichealing 2 жыл бұрын

Do you have any videos specifically on romantic relationships? I feel like you would share wisdom on that topic in a beautiful way. Just found your videos yesterday and am enjoying them 😊

@DreamWizard9 10 жыл бұрын

The nightmares I can recall were when I was 3 or 4 years old. At about 6 I got more control. And now I'm into dreamwork heavily for about 25 years :)

@LesWilis 9 жыл бұрын

Reading your childhood diary when you're an adult is hilarious. Also, it can help you learn other things about yourself. For example, I discovered that before my medical condition had been diagnosed, at age 9, I knew something was medically wrong.

@wisdomwizard3620 4 жыл бұрын

Ironically I’m recording notable teachings from your videos in my journal

@DreamWizard9 10 жыл бұрын

I destroyed my old dream diaries (from age earlier than 10!) and always regret it. Basicly I did it because I didn't want anyone else to read them. It would be nice when I become 80 to read my old dreams from when I was 8.

@gilbertotongco1054 4 жыл бұрын

I have many happy Memories of my family. Should I forget it And letting go of the past?

@Kim.minkui 4 жыл бұрын

thank you, love your videos but I still not totally understand what is mindfulness

@virginbetrayer2751 7 жыл бұрын

It's good that you got rid your diaries!👻

@fosterhall738 9 жыл бұрын

Oooh I've been sooooo... "When a person lives heedlessly, his craving grows like a creeping vine. He runs now here & now there, as if looking for fruit: a monkey in the forest." "Tanhavagga: Craving" (Dhp XXIV), translated from the Pali by Thanissaro Bhikkhu. Access to Insight, 1 December 2012,www.accesstoinsight.org/tipita... . Retrieved on 16 September 2013.- 334 thank you thank you thank you - your no-self enthusiastic way is an antidote for this infected mind

@kameronmaki6697 9 жыл бұрын

Buddhists say that craving is the root of suffering. One thing I don't understand is that we have natural cravings like to have friends, fun, achievement in life, having a mate and other things. So how can you truly eliminate craving then? Or is the idea to have the most satisfaction as possible in the present moment while still craving or desiring those things and learning to balance?

@deaconblue9038 10 жыл бұрын

It sounds wonderful, to practice "kind forgetfulness". Unfortunately there are people, even loved ones, who would take advantage of such blank slate ideals. How do we overcome this in our relationships with people?

@deaconblue9038 10 жыл бұрын

***** I thank you for your answer I hadn't thought it that way. How do we protect ourselves from being taken advantage for our forgiving nature. Many times people don't appreciate our efforts

@deaconblue9038 10 жыл бұрын

***** Thank you Mindah. This will take some hard work to cultivate :) But it already gives me peace. Namaste

@kyleightaylor7089 10 жыл бұрын

I'm just 10 years old and I'm really interested in Buddhism!! Don't you think that if your Buddhism in this life then maybe we were someone who new the Buddha in our past life's I go to a Buddhist temple in Dayton and one of the lamas told me that in a past life u could have been much like you are now !! So I was wondering about your opinion on that anyways get back to me on that as soon as you can oh and thinks for teaching me but not only me a whole lot of other people thank u so much

@deaconblue9038 10 жыл бұрын

What a positive message you have received at such an early age in this life. It is well known that even Siddhartha Gautama came to see all of his past lives once he became awakened. Knowing this gives you a great opportunity to continue on your path to enlightenment. If enlightenment is not reached in this life. I believe it makes it more likely that you will pick up somewhere you left off in the next life. :) What a wonderful piece of wisdom you have found, I am so happy for you....

@kyleightaylor7089 10 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much I go to a Buddhist temple in Dayton Ohio

@yourheavenmyhell3747 7 жыл бұрын

+deaconblue9038 Wrong! Completely dead wrong!!! Now, I realize that I troll Mindah's channel here and there, but I like Mindah, and am Vgtame about it! And it's just trolls. And Mindah can delete them, and I won't get angry or offended. Religion, is inappropriate for a 10 year old child.....PERIOD! Now, upon saying that, swallow this: If I was stinking rich and had children, I would contact Mindah, and have her teach my children about religion. She on a one one basis (as a payed employee of my wife and me,) could come up with certain practices (from a Buddhist perspective,) that would be appropriate and beneficial for a child! I know you didn't intend any harm by it, but your an adult. And I sure do hope that the child who was online here, was present, as the internet has a lot of things to watch out for. This is not an attack on Buddhism!

@sunder2422 7 жыл бұрын

🙏

@SuperSmithdan 3 жыл бұрын

Should be renamed the Beautiful Buddhist

@gilbertotongco1054 4 жыл бұрын

What Jon kabat Zin and echrart Tolle mindfulness and power of now are budhism

@happyozzie 4 жыл бұрын

11 people who disliked really need help because Kama for is disliking such a good video could result in you being reincarnated as bacteria that lives in dogshit

@tomthumb9839 6 жыл бұрын

When I was 47 years old I had 19 photo albums and all photos in chronological order. I threw them all away.

@Lulywulsin 3 жыл бұрын

the intent of my formal practice is to be in the present not ruminating on the past or the future, and the intent of my practice in the day to day is to meet others with openness and no stigma. I hope I took the right thing away from this video :)

@virginbetrayer2751 7 жыл бұрын

I don't think about what I do, I do it. That's Buddhism. I jump off the cliff, and build my wings on the way down. Tara Lemieux

@stevenkok1926 7 жыл бұрын

Zealous Minded.