Watch this entire series on dialectical behavior therapy HERE: bit.ly/3gGjwgU

i wish mental health care would be free...

This is a disease. YOU are not to blame. I hope you find help and someone who will treat you and make you feel worth helping. You are not a bad person. You are worthy of love, help, and healing.

It's raising people who weren't raised basically. If you were neglected then you never had someone sit with you and walk you through your feelings and how to manage them so you can navigate the real world.

Every Minute is a battle, Each action is Catastrophic. BPD

I had to be my own DBT counselor, because my medical insurance didn't cover it. Dr Marsha's Linehan Workbooks are a must! Thank you for bringing attention to this effective type of therapy.

DBT has changed my life. Took a group DBT training for a whole year. Now it’s a daily struggle, some days better than others. I struggle still with isolation for relief, I know it’s just avoidance of pain and difficulty. I long for a relationship again, but geez still having issues just with friends or work people 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I'm a veteran that's been under diagnosed by the VA. I got the cookie cutter PTSD/depression diagnosis. I knew it was something more so I kept digging and came across BPD and my jaw dropped. So many things started making sense. I drove to my VA clinic and it just so happened that my therapist had a cancellation and we talked, she gave me assessment and agreed. I have my first DPT session coming up on the 18th of February. I hope it works. I don't know how much more I can take.

Alchool addict here, and very down to earth man, dbt is a real thing. Anxiety push us to overthink everything, just training yourself to not focus of the billions things emmerging each milliseconds in your minds by focusing on sensation, earing, visual, movement etc and train your mind to refocus on whats here and now allows your mind to ease rest and to apprehend whats really matter here and now. Writting your mind is a great thing too, dont read yourself just pose your thoughts to let them escaping your mind. ( sorry for my english)

Dbt saves lives. I love dbt. Should be required education for everyone.

I have done DBT twice and it has been a game changer!

I have BPD, am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my KZfaq channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates.

I love how everyone is open and vulnerable on some level... Great channel

How I wish my significant other will educate himself on this so we could work our relationship together. 😞 ugh I hate mental disorders

Please forgive the impertinence of my comment, but this lady is a total doll. She is so pretty. Happy woman's day

I have BPD and took part in a DBT for 2 years 2x a week. I have been in many regular therapies and did shit however DBT worked for me pretty well I can only recommend

Not actually “dbt” but walking and training dog was probably one of the most useful training tools I’ve ever had

Very useful, thank you all at Medcircle! Thank you dr Ho!

Brilliant channel, thank you all!

what a brilliant conversation! i have learnt so much from watching this. i am a new subscriber!

I do believe I was born hyper sensitive. I’ve always had my 6th sense super strong and even heard God’s voice and what I heard happened the next day. I dreamed about my mom dying the week before she did. And there are many moments in my life I felt I felt more than others

Thanks medicare doing a great job out there.

I have accepted truth that my happiness and value does not depend on other's treatment or their affection. People's promises are not reliable, that Lord will not leave me no matter what

Awesome stuff !!!

excellent explanation. thanks doc

i owe 28 years of sobriety to a man who walked me thru using a lot of Stoic principles at first, grasp of spirituality was a gradual process by acknowledging the value of integrity to bring out the fruition of virtuous living....today i live in control of my chronic pain by mindfulness by focusing on the outside with music, lectures, etc. therapy works if you realize that change is only achieved by devotion to the purpose...without devotion you only reap decay...acceptance is the key

my bff got me a book about mindfulness that is called 'How to be Mindful' by Anna Barnes, and when I started reading it I felt bored because to me it was about some normal common sense stuff that I actually do everyday. as a very anxious person, I tend to focus on every aspect and detail about everything that is around me while ruminating about every single thing that changes about my surroundings even if the change is trivial and completely normal which exacerbate my anxiety. I don't know why i am like this, may DBT doesn't work for me, or I need to educate myself about it even more.

Great job Sir

really loved this conversation!! great job.

Mindfullness is not somthing that was under a rock, it has always been a thing in religion and still is today, where praying is important!

I realized a really important application for DBT the other day.... ADDICTION! Seriously.

Mindfulness, the art of paying attention, my grandmother use to say to me a lot , Be mindful of where you are and who you are with,, pay attention,, people today dont use the word. I am going back 50 years. lol

I'm about to be sent to a DBT Hospital and got told it takes around 3 to 7 years (suffering Borderline). They said it goes step by step removing the self harm addiction - the strong suicidal wish - the (what they call wrong) impression of what i am. But the Doctor here say it's around 6 months to a year. Are there different ways of DBT ?

Haha they have my similar thoughts on midfulness. I always think “oh yeah ok sure I’ll get right on that” when I hear stuff like mindfulness.

Mindfulness = Re-branded Buddhism. It's not for everyone. I'm glad she acknowledges this. It's a start of a much-needed change.

Inspiring 🧘‍♀️

Thnx for uploading that stream from earlier, wanna learn more about it, where can I find more about it?I will definitely look into it, my attitude to both of you, really feel like I need other and give it a shot

So its about being in the present moment

I am more convinced by psychologist than DBT itself

This time your interview was less specific and repetitive. Thanks anyway for presenting another approach. I believe though if you are presenting mindfulness that it should be treated with respect and used from the source which is a complete philosophy of correct behaviour and thought so common in the Eastern traditions

What’s the best DBT book I could buy from Amazon? Any recommendations please... thanks 🙏

I think one of the biggest factors with borderline issues in order to get any type of therapy or results is to get a handle on impulsive behaviors usually in relationships with all the wrong people. For instance, a woman who is single , in her 40’s and is desperate to find a man that will put up with her. She dates multiple men at once , even having sex with them not realizing these types of men and this type of desperation to find Mr. Perfect is harmful to any possibility of getting a handle on your disorders. This is especially hard for the family members that are trying to help that person. We can see the dangers but they can’t . They try to justify their actions by whining about being desperate and not being able to find a partner. But going after the same type of assholes one after another expecting the next one to be the right one. It’s frustrating watching this cycle continue, spending countless hours on the phone trying to console and encourage them and realizing nobody qualified to help them will because they can’t afford the therapy.

I tried, but I can't ignore the host's comment about meditation here. Meditation feels unnatural when you first start doing it. There is no getting around that, but what annoys me the most (a sign I need to work more on my own mindfulness) is that if you find yourself getting distracted or bombarded with thoughts during meditation that is a sign that the meditation is in fact working. You are actually succeeding in the meditation process, not failing at it. This is one of the misconceptions that really gets to me. Along with Buddhism being "about suffering" (a mis-translation and enormous oversimplification). Seriously, read the whole book!

Dbt is essentially convincing someone they’re fine when they’re not

I'm not one to make phenotypical observation so bluntly but Judy, you're absolutely gorgeous! 💯😹

The biggest thing I’ve learned is not using this as an excuse for your sh!t behavior being here is a good first step tho so at least your trying! But once you know you have BPD it’s now up to you to seek help and treatment for it and take responsibility for your own actions you know yourself by now and you’re outbursts so you have the choice to leave the situation and rethink it as long as you need to to come back to reality it’s also a choice to stay and make the same mistake again and feel bad about it after but not bad enough to do anything to stop it most abusive partners have bpd and that excuse will never fly coming from someone who has it

Nice

Can they make the treatment free. I’m in pain. I need help. I’m so upset this info is behind a paywall.

years was trying for EUPD - ZERO effect... people don't want to change...

You down with DBT yeah you know me... LOL

that said, can we talk about how the clothes of the interviewer match the picture?

What about non evidence based therapy? I have been seeing a modern psychoanalytic therapist. It is all about free association, less goal oriented, uses terms like transference and countertransference, expressing emotions, and doesn't seem to have a start and end. I am aware of other kinds of therapy because I work with therapists and patients in therapy as a dietitan, who uses some of these techniques in my work doing nutrition counseling--which is traditionally taught using "motivational interviewing" but clearly has lots of crossover with DBT and psychoanalysis if you really want to be a good nutrition therapist (licensed dietitan with extensive counseling experience).

Dr. Ho is smart, clear and beautiful. 😍 Can DBT also help with falling in love with a doctor on the internet?

Try DBT during lockdown. Timeless. (solitary) confinement. present. moment. AAAHHH

Wow

Is management all there is? Surely the aim is to transcend this debilitating challenge. I wonder what can be achieved with Shadow integration with jungian psychology

I'm hoping someone I truly love will realize that radical acceptance IS obtainable, and will try mindfulness (DBT) as a helpful tool to one day accept things she can't change, so she can get away from the HORRIBLE, relationship destroying, life depleting, symptoms of BPD that her mother, for whatever reason, caused. Whether it's alcoholism, or an abusive childhood, or whatever. We can't help that our parents are untreated, or sick, and must stop waiting for them to finally be a parent, or change, or make it all go away, when they are perhaps too ignorant, uncivilized, untreated, or unwilling, to accept they have a disease and are responsible for their child's brain developing a behavioral disorder. It's time my mate, best friend, and incredibly talented partner tries this, and gets the help she deserves, or I have no choice but to save myself from the extreme stress, hypertension, physical danger, and emotional abuse that I've endured. She's an incredible human being but her constant fear of abandonment demands I spend my last dollar, and every second on her. Because she's literally afraid I'm giving my attention to something, or someone else. I feel so sorry for her but it's slowly killing me, and then add her insults to cope with her feeling bad about herself, it is an absolute hell sometimes. Surely she will try it. Wish me luck. I'm waiting for her to be in a good mood and using compliments and a few firm boundaries as an ultimatum. The worst could happen is she breaks up, and I get my health, money, peace, and life back in order. If she does try this, I know we will have an incredible relationship. Ive learned a lot about myself and I'm done feeling I deserve anymore abuse because of my guilt and shame for cheating on my x and mother of my children during a mid life crisis. I humiliated her and myself when I was in my 40s and dated ladies less than half my age because I couldn't control myself. I'm over feeling I should be punished by a borderline. Untreated borderlines are THE most hurtful, dangerous people. Even narcissists will get beat down by a borderline. So if you know anyone with symptoms, get them help. 💔

So I love the idea of DBT especially after learning that I likely have BPD. However it doesn't appear to address my most debilitating symptom, which isn't even identified within those of BPD, that I know of. I also have ADHD. I've talked to many types of therapists and nothing has worked yet to address my extreme avolition that I struggled with since I was a child, though it has helped with other things so it makes my avolition a smidge less heavy. Any thoughts? It isn't overwhelm, its an inability to start tasks unless I get thrown into something, Again, since I was very young and I am in my late 30s now.

Im A mother of an adult daughter with borderline personality disorder. I AM STRUGGLING daily, constantly in a state of pure fear waiting for that next melt down phone call from her, nearly always triggered by a person she feels has been abusive to her. She expects close friends to treat her exactly as well as she deels she treats them. I am only aa good as the nice last thing i did for her. Her meltdowns are both emotional as physical including involving self-Harm and screaaming matches. She saw aa Dbt therapist and stopped showing up after a month saying it was a waste of time. I am in over my head as her rage scares my 5 year old who is now petrified if his older sis during meltdowns. How do I handle these rage episudes now that my daughter moved baack home after losing her job, all her friendships and now finances due to COVID 19. I cant do this anymore... 😥 Nothing is ever going to change because i cant throw my own daughter out in the streets

The treatment in this episode was never explained.

I’m a Mixed Race gay Canadian male in his 20s who was sexually abused by a White man who was 13 years old, regularly, when I was 6-8 years old. I think I suffer from Stockholm syndrome (I lust after men who look like the man that attacked me) and Borderline Personality Disorder as a result of racism, colourism, and sexual abuse I have endured my entire life. In the bedroom I am passive and submissive, naturally, I believe because this was my first introduction to anything sexual. I hate that this has happened to me, and wish it never did. I wouldn’t wish the sexual abuse I’ve suffered on my worst enemy. I was living and working in London, United Kingdom on the Tier 5 Youth Mobility VISA 2017-2018 and was attacked at a club in SOHO by a Middle Eastern man because I wouldn’t talk to him and wasn’t attracted to him, I did nothing to this man and did my absolute best to make it clear to him respectfully that I wanted nothing to do with him. I testified against him in court the day before my birthday 2018 and he was found guilty. This has only added to my problems. I’ve been accused of being a narcissist but based on what Dr. Durvasula has said I am not - as I can be rehabilitated while narcissists can not. I want to live a good life in peace and wish the same for others. My heart hurts.

This doctor is so much better than Dr. Ramani. I feel like she has much more empathy for our condition.

Is Kyle supposed to be making every session all about him? Are all the videos he is in a mock therapy session? Doing so seems to take us off topic -- and then Dr.Judy, et al., have to reframe what they were trying to explain again. He interrupts, talks about himself & goes on a tangent, and then the Dr. has to say something to the effect of, "Actually, it is more like..." And then the viewer has to mentally try to erase his tangent while listening to the correction.

How does this differ from mindfulness-based CBT?

What about having a stroke while being borderline

what can i do if i try to get into the mindfulness state and focus on the outside but my brain instantly starts isolating myself from reality and i just fall into the same recurring thoughts? i mean it feels like a thick wall that i can't break

me, estranged and culture shocked, dissociating with this vid playing in the background to avoid dealing with the idea that there are strangers around. I'm 29 next week😂

So is the toxic or abusive relationships; friendships or romantic, some bosses just in the perception of someone with B.p.d? Otherwise they likely attract those ype of abusers? Specially if the person b.p.d emotional flawed person has a past of being abuse?

What do you do if you simply feel distress and can't shake the feeling?

The only thing is that I have been to therapists and I am a master of talking nonsense. I will literally shave off the surface levels of my bullshit and give away as little as possible. I may touch on subjects that hurt a bit more than others but I'm someone who buries the issues and how deep seated they really are. I need a therapist who will actively challenge me, not just ask me what I think the issues are. Because if I am left to choose the topic of course I'm goi g to bring up something I already am trying to address and have done my own research on to mitigate, which more often than not are specific behaviours and emotions. There's a story attached to the behaviours and why I want to fix them, which is an easy way to make the issue seem more distressing than it really is. How do you help someone who actively refuses to dig that deep into their issues because if they pulled those thorns out they have no idea how to stop the flood and are convinced they cannot live with themself.

for the ones of you with bpd what is the hardest thing when starting dbt?

2:15 I'm in a wheelchair and dislike grapes though

But it's incredibly difficult to find someone who uses it correctly!! I found therapists who absolutely didn't use... "mercy". I was stressed beyond tolerance and no one said "touch the couch" and instead kept... Insultung me(im not joking) or asking me to think and think and said about all the things i was doing wrong and that i had to change... Well, i know i have to change!! Why are we talking and SEEING each other if i didn't have to or WANT to?? I felt seriously dragged on a floor and not "pampered" for once in my life as i always needed. I don't want pity, i want to LEARN, but nobody taught me i just had to touch the couch and name the things in the room... It... Life it's so simple and how in the world can therapists be so able to forget that? We already live in a brainy world... What are they doing? I might even have ptsd for the kind of therapy i've done, and i wish i was kidding, but i'm not... People lose themselves in a glass of water. I lose myself in a glass of marbles and nobody knew what to do with them and it's probably tge biggest tragedy of my life because if your family, you or others can struggle to understand or comprehend, how can a professional be so... - i'd get killed- ignorant or unprepared? The reality is that is 2019 but it's still incredibly difficult to find support or explain yourself, i guess. And it's so sad... And really this would even benefit who is NOT deep in the trenches of suffering. Such ignorance in the world... And you'd just need a guide and information on yourself. I... How can i sit still on this? I want to, i need to get my life back together... Why is it so difficult for anyone to get the simplest things? I've even been told that i don't want to get better wich is absurd... I'm dedicating my life to trying to learn. And how is it possible that i find answers with a video and sadly it's the case for who knows how many people. A world full of psychologists and yet they manage to miss entirely the approach. I hope i'll find a way to communicate what i need and find a way to help myself. I hope... Sorry for the long, surely wrong comment, i'm... Sorry...

not everyone can afford dbt tho

You're still told to "reach out."

My Mom is BPD

I.just.wanted.to.listen.to.Dr.Judy.fcol.

She is beautiful

that's me, and im fighting for help and can't

Is this a joke? They said nothing new or helpful. I have no idea what DBT is

It's extremely hard to keep focus on this video because she is so beautiful.

My spouse is a nurse with what I believe is undiagnosed BPD. She’s unapproachable with even the idea anything is wrong, she lashes out to the point of violent behavior if I hint at the idea of seeking therapy. It’s destroyed our marriage, her teenage kids have moved out and are living with their father, her job is effected, she hints at self harm, etc.. How do I open her mind to be receptive to even talking to a professional? It’s like watching a train wreck and I’m powerless to help. What can I do?

walking on a trail with a dog[s] is dbt

Her name made me giggle.

I am skeptical that she makes it sound like DBT being the answer for all mental health issues. I know that people gotta sell their crafts, but can we be at least somewhat intellectually honest?

A bit behind the curve....the Mindfulness you speak of has always been within the spot light of recentering the mind towards the actual moment of now... without analytical attachment. Sorry, but their is nothing new under the sun...read the book of Ecclesiastes.

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Although, some people’s brains are just mashed.

This is unbearable to watch. The dude was leading such a cringey sales pitch I actually need to remember not to hate the [insert several letters] treatment system you were talking about.

Be careful with exploring mindfulness and then meditation. It lead to me joining a meditation community that turned out to be a cult. Mindfulness is great. Meditation is helpful. Just beware of people who prey on others with these concepts.

Does the interviewer want to show off how many disorders he knows?

What is her name?

Dr Judy can treat me any day

this chick needs to top me off real bad

Kleinian psychotherapy is far more effective than DVT.

How could you forget about mentioning the worst mental illness of all, schizophrenia? I don't think your DBT would be helpful at all for paranoid schizophrenia.

she pretends to work with mindfulness and has no idea where it comes from. In meditation you sometimes wake up in the present moment and it has nothing to do with being a better person, it only focuses on awareness, consciousness and perception. I thing if you use technics from other methods you should know about the roots

My approach to mindLESSNESS is simple; Breath. You need to breathe to live. Focus on it. Job done.

It's uncomfortable watching this interviewer bring the points back to himself. It would be helpful if he asked questions rather than make statements when she is the expert.

Short term treatments are not the best for people. They’re band aids for the real struggles that need to be dealt with. Long form is the way to go 🙃