Everyone affected by this or by excessive desires towards the opposite sex or by addictions to watching haram please do ruqyah and listen to ruqyah while sleeping. Never skip 5 daily prayers and never ever skip daily adkhar especially especially Ayat-ul-kursi x 1, the 3 Quls x 3 each and La illaha illa Allahu wahdahu la sharika lahu, lahu al mulku wa lahu al hamdu wa huwa ‘ala kulli shayin ghadeer x 100 after fajr and x 100 after Asr (this last one is soo important) as well as x 10 after mughrib. Sleep listening to Ayat ul Kursi on repeat +/- Al fatiha on repeat Try to read Surat Al Baqara once a day or at least once every 3 days but if can’t do this last one at least listen to it and play it in your house and or sleep listening to it. I promise it will work in shaa Allah. Don’t ever skip the La illaha illa Allahu wahdahu la sharika lahu, lahu al mulku wa lahu al hamdu wa huwa ‘ala kulli shayin ghadeer x 100 after fajr and x 100 after Asr this one is so important and will only take 12 minutes max.

Most important thing: know, believe, and accept that what Allah wants for us is better and more preferable than what people may desire (I used the word 'desire' not 'want' as there's a different). Allah is able to do all things. What Allah wants for us is better than any desires. Allah may test people on this. What Allah wants for people is better than desires.

Imam Tom is exceptional in his display of compassion, and the wisdom it gives rise to. He captures the prophetic examples of Muhammad and Isa, peace be upon them, the the highest quality of Mercy. I imagine people who experience same sex attraction have been given the hardest of trials by Allah swt, and no doubt He saves those for His most beloved. May Allah grant everyone who struggles with this and successfully overcomes this desire the highest station among the Believers. May He make it easy in the Dunia and shower them with mercy and patience.

Jazak'Allah Khair for this very important discussion. I truly admire the openness and articulate honest presentation of Brother Jensen. I couldn't agree more with his request to the Muslim ummah not to judge for, without doubt, Allah (swt) is the only judge we need. I would love to be a friend/confidante to Brother Jensen or to a sister facing a similar situation but I do wonder how it'd even be possible for them to open up freely to others in the Muslim community about who they are without risking judgement, alienation and rejection. Perhaps I pray next to a person with SSA at the mosque every Jumu'ah. It struck me that I'll most likely never know. Sadly, and in my own experience as a revert, the Muslim ummah is lacking in so many ways when it comes to genuine compassion, empathy, care and kindness to those deemed "different" or "not one of us". There's much to learn. This discussion will hopefully help in this regard, insha'Allah. Let us all reflect on our behaviours with others and better ourselves and our behaviours, insha'Allah.

Thank you for elevating the voice and narrative of Br. Waheed.

Very brave topic to cover, thank you for speaking truth

جزاكم الله خيرا. وزادكم الله من فضله وسدد خطاكم. ونسأل الله أن يوفقكم ويهديكم لكل ما يحبه ويرضاه.

Assalamualaikum unfortunately my youtube acting up and prevent me to engage in the chat, just want to say thank you for having this discussion I know there are so muslim struggle with this i think its necessary to not neglect this issue for the ummah

I have listened to his podcast...very beneficial...and he has a good soothing voice (in the podcast) mashaAllah, Allahumma barik lahu

Thank you Imam Tom this is very helpful and elaborative a lot of people go through this in our Muslim communities it gives really great way of how to deal with such issues

Jazzak Allah khayran for this.

So happy to see (or rather hear) Brother Waheed on here mashaAllah! Translating his podcast for the German audience has been such an incredible experience and I couldn't be more thankful to Allah.

Barakallahufeekum Imam Tom & Waheed❤

50 min on: Very helpful also for dealing with addictions, shame and difficulty finding healthy attachments, for any emotional difficulty.

There is great benefit in this Ayat: Al-Kahf Ayat 16 "Since you have distanced yourselves from them and what they worship besides Allah, take refuge in the cave. Your Lord will extend His mercy to you and accommodate you in your ordeal.” What did they do? Distance themselves from the others and take refuge. And Allah extended His mercy upon them to accommodate them through their ordeal. Allah is able to do all things. So what can people who are struggling with this do? Distance themselves from the elgeebeetea community and just focus on their relationship with Allah. Go to mosques, attend lessons, and seek knowledge about Islam. Allah can fill hearts with peace and people might not feel the constant need for validation and acceptance or the distress that can usually come with going through those struggles. Requesting Muslims to seek knowledge about this community has genuine harm. May Allah forgive us all. (Pasting it as a comment again in case it helps anyone)

Allah bless you for serving your community as well as the global community!

MashaAllah, a great test from Allah. We as Muslims should help each other towards Jannah, and save each other from Jahannam.

JAZAK ALLAHU KHAIRAN MAY ALLAH SWT BLESS YOU GUYS

Tom you should make a video on democracy, the concept of checks and balances and islam/khilafa compared to that and how to deal with rulership going against sharia, would be fun and informational

JazakAllahu Khairun

Waheed's podcast "A Way Beyond The Rainbow" is amazing. I recommend for Muslims who experience same-sex attraction or any abnormal sexual attraction in general to listen to it. I don't know many Muslims that have those attractions, but i do know Muslims with other sexual problems, like those who are attracted to the opposite sex but can't get married due to health or poverty, so they have to remain celibate, or those who are addicted to pornography. That might not be the same struggle, but it's something that one can appreciate and benefit from listening to how we overcome these obstacles in our lives.

Impressive show, Imam is extremely articulate and superbly informed. Inshallah, keep them coming on a variety of topics, our souls are in danger in this dunya.

'' What led you into Hell Fire? They will say: 'We were not of those who prayed.'” (Qur'an, 74:42-43) 🌸Don't forget your five daily prayers🌸

I wish I could interact with Waheed face to face

I invite everyone to come and listen to the beautiful recitation of the glorious Quraan

Allah bless you

Salaam Br. Waheed. I listened to your podcast last year and I've learned so much and benefitted grateful. Insha'Allah your guidance will continue to raise awareness and guide us to do better as a an ummah to support those with SSI. May Allah (swt) raise your ranks and ease for you your task. Ameen.

Great podcast 👍 JazakAllah Khair

I'm already 40 minutes into this video but here is my honest opinion on what have been discussed so far. I'll continue to listen to this completely inshaAllah. I think honest opinions will help grow and not just praising ppl. So this seems scholars are projecting everything wrong on a single individual instead of some practical real life examples being shared from different parts of the world. I understand the might be rejection from family etc. I understand their might be fear associated in children to even bring these topics up to our previous gens cause they cannot stomach. However there are people who even when experienced such tests did not transgressed, considered it absolutely wrong not just in their brain but in their hearts as well. They really fought themselves for decades and with age they are at loss cause of several practical reasons such as social acceptance, and vulgarity on streets, vulgarity on media, social media and so on and even in Muslim societies itself. Yet our scholars have still found a way to only point finger back at those ppl and still telling them they are responsible while not taking the responsibility themselves for anything that goes on in the society even in Muslims social constructs. Please don't take this the wrong way but today majority of Muslim scholars are only looking to build their brand without actually ever addressing the needs and the problems of Muslims but basically stereotyping everyone into a small little box. I'm glad that you don't see everyone as bad. Great first step but that's not enough. You really have to come down to a complex human level and treat different cases differently.

i wish i could speak to someone from the yaqeen team about someone I know struggling with this

I am working on a concept for a matchmaking app to help muslims (and other people of faith) who struggle with SSA find opposite sex spouses who understand their struggles. I was inspired by Brother Jensen’s podcast. Inchallah I get to complete this project and help the ummah. Please make dua so that Allah may grant me success in this endeavor.

Kinda wish Yaqeen had someone other than Sheikh Tom addressing this matter.

So many people make it all about sex and make it about just wanting to satisfy sexual urges but what about love? Could we also address this and move past sex? I don’t have a lot of sexual urges, if anything I’m trying to develop my attractions to be able to enjoy my relationship more with my future husband as I am getting married soon alhamdulillah. But when it comes to love, emotional intimacy and that feeling of closeness, even though I can do that with a man and I like the thought of developing that kind of a bond with my future husband, I would much rather have that bond and companionship with another woman. I recognize and accept that it’s haram which is why I’m not engaging in it and I am also not advocating for acceptance nor do I identify with any label but every time I seek out such videos and read comments I leave feeling like a sexual deviant who is a fitna to the world and should be destroyed like the people of Lut pbuh when I’m not even that interested in sex in the first place. What about people who simply prefer same sex companionship in life? Can we differentiate between the two and talk about how to treat them for once? I wasn’t traumatized or anything I had a great upbringing both my mother and father are Muslims and I have a great relationship with both and I always have, so nothing happened to me to explain my inclinations for the doubters. People have no idea difficult it is and how they harm other Muslims by placing judgments. How many people have left islam because of the persecution they faced within the ummah? We aren’t safe with non Muslims and we aren’t safe with other Muslims either. It’s gotten to the point that people will mock that even if you get to jannah you’ll have an opposite sex spouse since no one is single there. So supposedly we won’t have peace even in jannah. Even an eternity in paradise is being weaponized to cause pain and suffering. I’m grateful to Allah that my faith is stronger than that but being in our shoes is miserable and we truly have no allies except Allah who understands our pain. Also compassion doesn’t necessarily lead to acceptance as some commenters claim because islam is clear in that it’s haram. However compassion does lead to a lot of people suffering less though. All of this just goes to show how little empathy some Muslims have. As you judge other Muslims I really hope all of you are as pious and spotless as you behave and don’t forget that the people you’re judging might be more beloved to Allah than you

How can i find turkish subtitles?

Allahu Akbar

Could I get the emaile of the brother speaking? It can be a newly created one, but could I please get it? It isn't for hate, please.

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I don't have sexual desires for both genders but i feel romantic attraction... What should I do?

Please this video as beneficial as it seems, is not or should not be a reason to soften the stance on how haram this is, people struggling shld seek help and seek help from allah in privacy, and not any sort acceptance, although my sympathies are with those struggling may allah guide our hearts and deliver us from kufr and ignorance All that being said this is very educational, especially about the trauma thank you for this

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From my own personal experience of hearing non-Muslims who were victims of sexual abuse. Many of them have difficulty approaching sex later in life, and a significant number develop abnormal sexual attractions. I also know of a Muslim husband who was divorced, and then started watching pornography and sequentially developed (or perhaps discovered) a sexual attraction towards the same gender.

1:06:04 is VERY important. Thank you for that. People struggling through this can just even make the intention that they will marry for the sake of Allah. Just accept it even if it feels impossible or the most difficult thing in the world. Just want what Allah wants more than desires. And believe that Allah can make a way out of this. Even a way through which the person can be attracted to the opposite gender, by the will of Allah. That doesn't necessarily have to be the end goal but just know that Allah can make it easy for those people when they sincerely want what Allah wants for them more than desires. Reflect on the story of the people of the cave. Truly reflect on it in relation to what the person is struggling with. Make the dua that the people of the cave make.

I don't think showing his face would glorify his struggle and he has to protect his privacy only because its seen as a taboo topic in the Muslim community. Remember that. It should be safe for him to show his face, but its not. Also, its hard to feel happy and fulfilled without acting on your romantic and sexual desires without communal and family support which is rare for a Muslim with same sex attraction to get.

1:13:45 completely understandable but people shouldn't be asked to accept it even if those desires aren't being acted upon. That should be a personal journey, and people shouldn't 'come out' even if they're not acting upon their desires. There is harm in this. It should be a personal journey. Of course people should get help if they're in need of it, but it shouldn't be normalized for the community to be accepting. There is genuine harm in this. The focus Absolutely shouldn't be that the Muslim community recognizes the struggles that these people go through. There is harm in this as people's hearts will soften to something that is haram. May Allah protect us.

lets not ever forget the lgbtqia community showed up for Palestine

People going through this should be told that it's haram. The people going through this should make dua to Allah to help them through this and prefer what Allah wants for them more than their desires (using the word 'desires' instead of 'wants' as there's a difference). Allah is able to do all things.

53:00 (please forgive me if I misunderstood and I could have misunderstood it but) it isn't right to talk about this as a way to accept people going through this. The sense of shame that people going through this have could be the very thing that saves them from acting upon desires. When community leaders and parental figures accept it, there's genuine harm in that. This isn't right. No, I acknowledge that people going through this seek validation and acceptance, but we shouldn't normalize it. This isn't right. Maybe I misunderstood what was being said? Do let me know if I misunderstood it so I can delete my comment.

The Devil is always at work and is our enemy. We have been warned severally by Allah SWT and his Prophets (peace and salutations be upon them all)🤯🤯🤯 We need to protect our wards from these screens that's now everywhere and actively encourage in-depth knowledge of the Deen and marriages in our Islamic communities (discourage divorces too unless where marriage is absolutely irreparable). Marriages keep us away from vice, take your halal sexual desires home to your spouse and spend money on your spouse and kids so you don't divert the cash to other vice.🤔🤔🤔

The Podcast has music. Music is haram.

Waheed Johnson 🤣🤣

I wonder what if people start claiming they are attracted to their pets s**tually! Or starts saying I like eating plastic (my choice my rules...)

Gender and sexuality desire is with physical body either male or female what God has selected in the womb of mother . Soul is who I am not my body .