Making Peace with My Frizzy Hair (Plus TONS of Product Recommendations)

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10 ай бұрын

I have been blessed with a hair texture that tends to get frizzy. I have learned how to take care of it after a lifetime, and in this video I share the products I like to use to get some kind of control over my frizzy gray/silver hair. But before we get there, I wanted to share some inspiration for beautiful, frizz-prone hair.
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Products discussed in this video at 7:45
8:03 Bread Clay Mask
9:19 Sisley Hair Rituel Restructuring Nourishing Balm
11:03 Aveda Cherry Almond Shampoo and Conditioner
11:19 L'Oreal Metal Detox Shampoo
11:42 Jones Road x Herve Claude Universal Hair Balm
12:58 Shu Uemura Awa Volume Mousse
13:50 Mizani Foam Wrap Mousse
14:52 Pattern Shine Spray
15:29 Kerastase Curl Manifesto Curl Refresh Spray
16:08 Goldilocks Signature Serum
17:28 Ouai Hair Spray
18:22 Bumble and Bumble Hair Spray
Thanks so much for watching!

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@kimweidner7351 10 ай бұрын

Oh my goodness I feel like crying. All those years when even my mother saying I had “nappy” hair. How they pained my soul. When I was five years old, my babysitter’s son poured sand on top of my head. I ran into the house where my babysitter scooped me up into her lap and comforted me. Then she scolded her son, washed my hair and kept complimenting my curls. It was sooooo soothing. After she gently washed and detangled my hair, she gave me two braids and then styled it with two Princess Leia buns. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I have embraced my hair ever since, curls and now the grays.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this important memory and experience. How we speak to one another matters. I’m so glad you have embraced what life has given you 🥰😘🥰😘

@robinmanly7381 10 ай бұрын

You are so right about how people respond to the simple fact of having hair on our head. My hair transitioned to it's natural grey over the pandemic, and this was not well-received when I came back on campus as a school leader. The comments - mostly from women! I'm never going back to coloring, and I am embracing my natural waviness most days. Interesting days!

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your experience, Robin! It’s discouraging to hear that the negative pushback came from other women-but I believe it! As it relates to my curly hair, almost all of the negative words came from women. Generally, guys usually thought it was cool and showed “interest”.

@Mk56b 10 ай бұрын

Do what you want to do

@robinmanly7381 9 ай бұрын

Wow! Thank you! @@pliktl

@valeriekmetz8355 10 ай бұрын

I loved the pictures of beautiful women through the ages with very curly (frizzy) hair. It helps those of us who have suffered the stigma of curly hair.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Weren’t they pretty?? I’m so glad you enjoyed them 🥰🥰🥰

@QuickSilverHair 10 ай бұрын

When I fuss over it I always say this quote: “Embrace the glorious mess that you are.” I don’t mind being messy…especially if it is a glorious mess. I appreciate the subject you touched on here about being judged for the texture of your hair, those mean comments can be horrible seeds that live on forever in the back of your mind. I have them too. It’s a really terrible side of the trickle down effects of racism.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

I love this, Jolie. 💖 I feel like a glorious mess this morning. 😂 I agree with you 100% about the bias against hair texture being rooted in racism.

@whatwendylikes 10 ай бұрын

As a fellow frizzy-haired girl, I love love love your message, make peace with it and tune out the haters 🥰 you and your hair are absolutely gorgeous!

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

💖💖💖💖 thank you, Wendy!!

@suzy1750 10 ай бұрын

This was interesting. I have razor straight hair and I rarely thought about my hair when I was growing up except to sometimes wish it was a different color - anything but the boring brown I had - but I did notice that my curly-haired friends used to think and talk about their curls/frizz a lot...I never understood why they thought about it so much. To me, it was all just hair. I'm sorry you experienced such nastiness from the mean girls but I gotta say that you definitely got the last laugh...your hair is absolutely stunning and the curls give it that much more fullness which matters even more as hair thins naturally as we age...trust me, all of us with fine, straight hair are completely jealous now!

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for the thoughtful comment, Suzy! I know that thinning hair is a very common concern, and I know that would be highly distressing! 🥰😘

@tomcocanower1937 10 ай бұрын

I would embrace a "little" frizz. Your hair color and curls are just some of the best I have ever seen.😊 Roundfile the emotional baggage and just rock on.❤

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

That’s good advice!!💗💗

@alettaduplessis7596 10 ай бұрын

you are stunning, jealousy made them nasty, they are closet curly girls or want to be!!!

@denisehoward177 3 ай бұрын

@@alettaduplessis7596🙂

@faithjulian753 10 ай бұрын

This video almost brought tears to my eyes. It’s all about self acceptance and I need to work on that. I need to learn to love my frizz. Because I have been going naturally silver my hair is becoming more and more wild and I live in Florida. Completely smooth hair is unattainable for me so I need to learn to love what I have! Thank you, beautiful!

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this kind comment, Faith! You’re so right-it’s all about self-acceptance 🥰 it is my strong belief that the more self acceptance we can learn, the better the world will be. 💞

@valeriekmetz8355 4 ай бұрын

Hats off to those of us with the frizziest! This is good information.❤

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 4 ай бұрын

Love you. We’ve all been through it 😂😂😂

@Bazibishop 9 ай бұрын

I have curly hair and got it from my mum. She’s 53 and I guess actually went to uni during the 80’s. She has a lot of dark curls that can sometimes be frizzy. She’s happy that the ‘80’s are back’ in terms of hair acceptance. Her sister fully chemically straightened her hair that was even curlier. I like that my mum never changed her hair. It’s different these days I get complimented all the time. (Only time I ever felt bad about my hair texture was when my hair was changing in puberty and I didn’t know how to look after it) found your channel from your pat video. Love it!

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing these stories. 🥰😘 Women in our family had Teri Le experiences with chemical straightening, so I always steered clear. My hair changed a lot during puberty, too. I had a Fido Dido T-shirt that said “how can I control my life when I can’t control my hair?”

@Bazibishop 9 ай бұрын

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK loved hearing about your journey with your curls. I also am gonna check if I can get some of your recommendations in Australia!

@valeriekmetz8355 4 ай бұрын

I love the pictures of younger you. So cute!

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 4 ай бұрын

Thanks, Mom 💖💖💖💖💖

@isabelab6851 9 ай бұрын

We have such similar hair! Mine is not as gray…more salt and pepper. I wish it turned more. I just turned 60. I do struggle with frizzy hair especially when super humid. I moved from Florida to No California and although less humid, it is still humid. I like to wear my hair straight for work, although in wear it curly if not going to the office. My challenge is that my hair styled curly does not look good the next day. And straight looks better the second day (unless done at the salon). I appreciate this conversation. They key is to appreciate what we have

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 9 ай бұрын

I have the very same preference reasons for blowing out my hair. In the summer a blowout can be impractical due to the humidity. But in fall-spring, a blowout is simply more convenient for me and I wear it that way most of the time. And in the winter I rarely wear it curly because I don’t want to air dry when it’s chilly.

@Amylution110 9 ай бұрын

I LOVE your hair!! I’m new and came over with a link from patty Alonza your Pat McGrath video. The whole time I was watching the video I was mesmerized by your gorgious hair! My hair is silver too and no longer color it. Only mine is super straight and I just love love voluminous hair. I’m 59 and most of my younger teen years your hair type was what everyone wanted!! I used to perm my hair so much to get the body that you have.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for the kind words! Patty is the best-she was so kind to share my video with her audience 💖 congratulations on ditching the dye! We always want what we don’t have-I pined for straight hair for years 😆

@kates6793 3 ай бұрын

I enjoyed this video. Lately I don’t want to fight my frizz so much. A little frizz is perfectly fine

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 3 ай бұрын

Same-it is what it frizz 😂

@tomcocanower1937 9 ай бұрын

Beth, Hope the summer continues to treat you well. Today is my spa day to get a pedicure. I can't reach my toes any more so I have AMANDA cut my nails and scrub my feet. Its an awesome place where men can go to keep their feet clean, talk and drink beer or wine. Plus AMANDA is a hair stylist and checks out my hair. She is impressed and supportive as my grey hair continues to grow. After I get home, I'm just on a mental high. AMANDA and you have a lot in common...so helpful and encouraging. You are a blessing Beth. Just love seeing your new videos when they post❤😊

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 9 ай бұрын

Hi Tom! You’re so lucky to have a kind, supportive stylist! I love pedicures and it’s nice that we have that option so readily available these days. Thanks again for your super kind comments!

@LamazemamaLisa Ай бұрын

I can relate to this video so much!! ❤ I’m enjoying your videos.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK Ай бұрын

Thank you! 💖💖 I’m so glad you’re here.

@ladonnapierson5065 2 ай бұрын

Just found your channel and my hair is identical to yours but not as long. I’m always fighting the frizz and looking for new products but have yet to find something that eliminates it. I’m glad I’m not the only one. Thanks for saying that it’s ok!

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 2 ай бұрын

You should see how frizzy it is today 😂😂 thank you for the super thoughtful comment.

@tomcocanower1937 10 ай бұрын

Your guidance with my hair growing experiences, just awesome ❤

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

I’m so glad, Tom!

@lynnmichelle5482 10 ай бұрын

Your natural hair texture is stunning, to me it looks beautiful, healthy and shiny, i would love that hair, lol i put mine in loose braids after washing it to try and achieve that look !! 😅

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you!! You are so kind. I bet your hair looks gorgeous after you take it down from the braids 😍

@mangisty1007 10 ай бұрын

So crazy what they said about you! I don’t get it! I love wavy frizzy hair! Makes me sad little you heard that. Anyway, I love your hair! By the way you looked so pretty back then but the silver hair really makes you striking!

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you, Kindly!! 🥰😘 and, high school was a mixed bag but it made me stronger 💖

@jewbesixty3212 10 ай бұрын

Hi Beth, great video, hair is beautiful!

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you, Jewbe. I hope you’re doing well! 🥰😘

@amyelliott6565 4 ай бұрын

I'm glad I found your hair videos as my hair is wavier as I age and graying like yours, plus has always been frizzy and resists control. I learned years ago to let it dry naturally, but it helps to know how to deal with those 'Alfalfa' hairs 😂

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 4 ай бұрын

OMG the little springy hairs are just part of my life. I try-I try 😫 usually they win. So glad you’re here. 💖

@Mk56b 10 ай бұрын

I love grey hair I am jealous of people who have uniform gray hair and a youthful face. It looks amazing.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@TracyD2 10 ай бұрын

I’m accepting my hair more now when it’s frizzy. It’s a losing or hard battle in the summer. It gets so frizzy that I lose most definition. It in my mind looks unkempt. If I clip the sides back it looks nicer and more intentional. Thank you.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Oh, I hear you, Tracy! Summer humidity gets the best of me every time😂

@tomcocanower1937 10 ай бұрын

Frizzy hair can be beautiful if handled properly. Yours is superb❤

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Well I can say today I’m handling it improperly. 😂😂😂

@silviavlassis1787 10 ай бұрын

Hi From Australia, love the chanel new subscriber here,you have inspired me to embrace my silver hair 4 weeks in and im liking the silver im blonde and my hairdresser is glossing and toning the rest....and im using the oils &serums that your recomending keep vlogging.❤

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for the kind note, Silvia! Congratulations on starting your journey. 😘😘 Take lots of photos and treat yourself with extra kindness 💖💖💖💖

@Mollybloom10000 9 ай бұрын

Hey Beth. I have thick long fine curly hair. No matter what I do, I have flat head. Even volume mousse. Today I dipped a wide plastic pick comb in a small bit of pomade, and slightly back combed around my crown. Viola! And it stayed! Woohoo. PS, I used the Oribe Silverati pomade.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 9 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!! And is there any chance we used to work together 20 years ago??

@Mollybloom10000 9 ай бұрын

Hi Beth. I was googling and thought, OMG I know this woman! But you were such an amazingly smart woman, I was not surprised to see your wonderful, thoughtful videos. I thought I was anonymous…😜

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 9 ай бұрын

@@Mollybloom10000 OMG yay!!! I can see account names in my admin app! It’s amazing to hear from you!!! Hope you’re doing well! 💖💖💖💖 I saw the “voila!” And I knew 😂😂😂😂😂

@Mollybloom10000 9 ай бұрын

Haha. Geeze. Did I say Voila a lot? I’m doing great. Got my masters in Health and Nutrition, now retired. I was known for my vegetarian cooking! Hubby and I are major gardeners. Doing art…so happy. Its weird, I have a memory of you eating a fresh leafy vegetable. You looked like you were experiencing mindful enjoyment. You made it look so alluring, I actually had that vision stuck. You are just beautiful. And you exude grace. Your silver hair gobsmacked me. If you want to email me, I’ll send you pics. ❤

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 9 ай бұрын

Ann, I am so glad you have been able to retire after a meaningful career change. Ugh, it’s so wonderful. Gardening and art sound like the best way to enjoy your days. Congratulations!! I remember the glass waterfall you sculpted 🤍🩵 and the paintings with the crows. 😂

@denisebrennan5726 10 ай бұрын

This was a very helpful video! I love the curliness of my hair, but now that I had all the dyed hair cut off and the silver is about 2.5 inches long, the hair over my ears is very hard to control. It wants to stick out sideways for the Albert Einstein effect, so I've resorted to clips, bobby pins, scarves, etc. I'll be glad when it's longer - I, too, feel more "like myself" with long hair and am strategizing to make the next couple of years easier.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Oh wow, Denise! I admire your approach to the transition -I didn’t have the guts for a big chop but it’s such a chic way to go. I hope you’re taking lots of photos and being super kind to yourself. Check out my scarf video if you’re the type that likes to get funky with a pretty scarf. 🥰😘

@danielarubinstein5778 10 ай бұрын

I think your natural hair is gorgeous

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you! 🥰😘🥰😘

@karenterrell8843 10 ай бұрын

Your “frizzy” hair is beautiful, it’s a shame you had to endure the insults. People can be so cruel.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you, Karen! It’s all good now, but I did spend a long time feeling bad about my hair. I don’t want anyone to go through that.

@CatherineHopkinsDesignsLife 10 ай бұрын

You have such beautiful curls!!! I can't believe how rude teens can be. I wonder if my kids are such a-holes at school. I sure hope not. On a sweeter note: I want roses and flower crowns to come back in style. LOL

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you, Catherine! 💖 I’m all for roses and flower crowns, too 😍 My high school was super spicy, but into it made me stronger 😂I’m sure your kids are much kinder than that.

@lisabroman3333 10 ай бұрын

even with the frizz, it's stunningly gorgeous!

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you!! 🥰😘

@jessicacollins9033 10 ай бұрын

Oh, Beth, if you think your hair is frizzy I’m afraid of what you’d think of mine!!!🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️. (So sorry you had to deal with mean girls in high school!!!😢❤). I would love it if you continued to discuss this topic. I have NOT made peace with my curly, frizzy hair?🤦‍♀️

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

OMG not at all!! You should sue me today. My hair is twice as big and the curl definition? Never heard of it 😂😂😂 Thanks for letting me know you’d like me to go further on this topic. It’s pretty deep once you get started.

@jessicacollins9033 10 ай бұрын

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK I look forward to your videos. I’d like to know why I view my hair as disheveled, but love curly hair on other women!!??🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️❤️. I think your hair is GORGEOUS!!!!!

@quiltbugj 10 ай бұрын

The product that has worked best for me for over 20 years is Ouidad Climate Control gel - both the original and extra hold formulas. I always come back to it. In fact, I buy it in the largest bottle available on their website and it lasts a year.I lived in the DC area for over 30 years with constant humidity in the Spring and Summer.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this tip! I will give this product a try. I’ve had good luck with gel over the years but I’ve never found my favorite one. 🥰😘

@libbygreenberg4764 5 ай бұрын

Please put links to products mentioned so they are easier to find. Thanks.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for the feedback. I have been reluctant to get into affiliate links, but I will be using more in 2024.

@saffysaffy3239 10 ай бұрын

Thts not frizzy! Evn if it ws its beautiful.I always embraced my frizz then I went grey & it webt almost straught No frizz. I.miss my frizz. As for tjose mean girls if they saw u now they wld be green w envy Ur so pretty

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you!!! Please believe me, I’m extra frizzy today. 😂😂

@starrhall8160 4 ай бұрын

Thank you...wild, frizzy hair is sexy ..people are afraid of sexy!

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 4 ай бұрын

That’s 100% accurate.

@wanda12411 10 ай бұрын

I avoid products with glycerin, they give me tons of frizz in south Florida.

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Oh that’s humidity on a whole other level!!

@louisealain780 10 ай бұрын

Frizzy hair or not you look absolutely gorgeous 👩🏻‍🦳🌸 since I started the wavy/curly hair method I find my hair is less frizzy by using different products but if i straighten it, i have lots of frizz but I’ve had that all my life. Yesterday we had a celebration of life event for my husband’s father who passed away 3 years ago, it was very humid out so I made one braid on each side (Viking style lol) it helped a lot and I did not worry about my frizz ☺️ and had lots of compliments 😍have a great week 🥰🤗

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for kind words, Louise 💗 I hope your celebration brought joy and peace to your family. I love your idea to wear Viking braids-I need to try them myself 🥰😘 sending you love and hugs 🤗

@louisealain780 10 ай бұрын

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK Thank you 🙏🏼👩🏻‍🦳🌸