Its also interesting that Thandie was talking to a white reporter so she can milk her tears and a white audience will sympathize. If she wanted to apologize for real, it would of been to an audience who looks like her mother. She would probably sound different and hold her tongue more.

Those "I have dark skin family" comments always remind me of when white ppl say, "but I have black friends". LOL!

They're really trying to make "reverse colorism" a thing. Like stop. You know who you sound like. And Thandie has a whole white husband so bringing up the "taking their men" comment was just unnecessary. I don't accept apologies until I see intentional changed behaviour. Period!! Love the video. You are everything!!

I'm just gonna throw this out there (yall gone head and throw it back if you want to⚾️) but I think that they are NOW choosing to apologize is because dark-skinned girls are now getting more attention and positive recognition they (BEEN) deserve. It's a 'woe is me moment' for them. 🤷🏾‍♀️ thanks so much for this video, girl❤❤❤

Imagine "wash n go" is the worst thing someone has said to you meanwhile dsw are being called gorillas, tar babies, apes, roaches, dirty, burnt, crispy....I mean I could go on. I really hate that lsw fragility.

When she bent down after “My mom looks like you.” I thought she had busted out laughing 😂😂😂 Chile…. A mess.

The fact she said she's more affected by being light skinned than being black says a lot about how clueless she is about her privilege. Like she basically was like "White people are really nice to me and for some reason THE BLACKS have a problem with that" Also doesn't make sense how if her mom was supposedly dark skinned that she would grow up thinking that she was dark skinned when she had someone to directly compare her complexion with??? Like girly is literally translucent make it make sense? Also also why did she put "black" in air quotes lmao. Weirdo.

The funny thing is Zoe Saldana’s own mama be mixing them up! Every time she sees Thandie Newton in a role she thinks it’s her daughter 😭

Sometimes I feel like "light skinned guilt" and the need to apologize publicly is a form of attention seeking. Thandie Newton came out of nowhere with that "heartfelt" apology like she was auditioning for a movie role. I side eye her because she's married to a white man but she made sure to let everyone know that she is the preference of black men when she said she takes their men.

There wasn't colorism in my house but I can't act like I wasn't aware of it or it never made it into my home. The adults in my house were not treating my light skinned sister better or even mentioning her light skin, but a lot of other people did. Adults felt no shame in calling my dark skinned cousin names. My mother never let them get away with it though, she wasn't afraid of taking these colorists on (even family) and even kicking them out of our space. So I knew from a young age what it was and that it was wrong, even if it wasn't practiced in my home. So this I didn't know is a LIE!

Those light-skinned biracial girls have been getting starring roles for decades! Then Black Panther came out, broke box office records, and now roles for those ethnically ambiguous actresses have thinned out. I was watching Wednesday on Netflix. Wednesday broke season 4 of Stranger Things’ streaming record. And the black female cast in the series is dark skinned with her hair shaved off. There’s a brown skinned plus sized cop in it too. I didn’t see any light skinned/biracial girls with speaking parts. While I don’t think that all light skinned/biracial girls should be erased from casting, because Blacks come in all shades, it’s past time for brown skinned, and dark skinned Black women to get offered more roles.

In England, Thandie was called dark skinned by white people, not by black people. Imagine Idris Elba callin Thandie Newton "dark skinned?" TFOHWTS.

At this point, those who don’t believe in colorism either don’t believe in racism or fully accepts it. I said my peace, and if you’re too ignorant to do the work to see how these two concepts are two sides of the same coin, then I no longer have any words for you 🤷🏽‍♀️. I’m just gonna mind my business and look out for more corrective promotion for highly-melanated black women. ✌🏽

Oh child the red lipstick conundrum. I do not thank the modeling industry for much but dispelling that myth was amazing. That and the ability to wear fabulous colorful clothing and OWN it. My skin has taken me 45 years to love and now I celebrate all 6ft 1 inches of it. Coming from Barbados where our Ms. Barbados was once a white Canadian woman, yup colorism exits in 99% black countries.

Even if the tears these light skin women are crying are not ”pretend”, they speak to a persevere ability for lighter skin people to be viewed with benefit, with sympathy, and tenderness and given full avenue on both internal black and international nonblack channels to bare their specific emotional traumas all while dark skin people arent given that grace. In fact , dark skin people - when merely discussing their specific trauma surrounding their skin - have their specific traumas dismissed, ridiculed or EXAMINED to SEE whether or not it could be TRUE. It is fucked.

Saldana really cried, then went on Sway in the Morning and said "I don't have privilege" lol these people always just lie with the apologies

Yooo I’m fucking dead, immediately after FKA twigs talked about being called wash n go (as if that’s an insult) I got an ad, with a light skin girl doing her hair. I’m done

Thank you for mentioning how others think race is only an American issue. Colorism is GLOBAL

I hate the part about how she was considered dark skinned in London. So what was your mom you spoke about? “My mom looks like you” clearly pointing out that she DOES NOT LOOK LIKE HER MOTHER who looks like dark skinned women? 🙄 Both Zoey and Thandie played the infantilization big. Zoey might as well been sucking her thumb during that lighter, lightesss moment

I just don't have it in me to listen to FKA twigs regularly again, after the whole "I faced colourism because a dark-skin girl called me "wash and go" thing. I had to remove Tinashe and twigs from my playlist b/c of this whole reverse colourism narrative, as well as Doja Cat for doing regular chatroom link ups with white supremacists and Lianne La Havas for calling Black people racist for wanting to be represented in UK music award shows more. Maybe I'm overreacting idk

How tf did that lady think she was darkskin I-

Yea, I lived in several places. Jamaican, lived in Trinidad to go to school, lived in Nottingham, UK to go to school, exposed to USA incessantly, visited several other Caribbean countries multiple time, visited Ghana for 3 weeks. Anti-black racism is everywhere and colourism is everywhere.

I'm a lightskin woman and seeing these virtue signaling tears makes me laugh🤣 I can definitely sit here and point out instances of how I've benefited over my darker skin sisters. And for some brief time when I was a child, I indeed felt favored and exalted due to my skin color (thankfully, not within my own family. They had common sense.) But you are not gonna catch my ass crying to my dark skin family members, friends, strangers saying such cringe things. I fight colorism with my genuine actions. I openly talk about it and actively shut down ignoramuses. Colorism is one of the most idiotic things...but it's a part of our reality. I kind of see colorist in the same light as racists. It's disgusting. Edit: and these bozos need to realize that privilege does not negate struggle. Sound like what ppl he rejects white privilege. Stop being so dense 😐

A lot of those light skinned actors look horrible crying and truly makes me question their talent. I know your niece looks better fake crying than they do in their “apologies”.

EVERYTHING you said 💯 when I saw Thandiwe ‘s apology, I thought she must be making a new movie. The movie is actually about an old white man, however, the producers decided to use a Black woman. If she was really sorry, she would have let a woman who “ look like her mum” take the part. Instead, she decided to get ahead of the “ANOTHER biracial woman playing a Black woman damage control” and try to justify why ANYBODY can play a Black woman. If that’s the case, they should have just kept it a White man. She used her light skin and tears to get sympathy, just like a Karen. I’m gonna start calling these women Carmens cuz they pull the same BS as Karens.

I instantly never believe a famous actor/actress apology. I can't trust someone I've never met or who's job it is to be other people often.

Thank you for this conversation, in pursuit of radical acceptance as a dark skinned person this is very helpful in helpinge realize I'm perfectly fine thr way I am, I don't even need to change a damn thing and I especially like that your channel is also challenging me to accept free form locs as being just as beautiful as any other type of kinky hair and questioning this narrative that they're a certain way in which black hair has to be for it to be acceptable.... New sub here loving your content

Always good to see you again, Mayowa. What a coincidence, Teanna ('Fab Socialism' on KZfaq) just shouted you out in her new video, just after you uploaded this! ✨

As a black woman who is on the lighter side & having phenotypically black features one thing I’ve noticed is colorism is heavily pushed by mixed race women like these. I am fully black, but I notice mixed race women heavily perpetuating colorism. There’s a difference even in conversation concerning race. They aren’t just light skinned they are not of two black parents, 4 black grandparents like someone such as myself. I’m just pointing out the difference in their thinking vs a black person who is lighter, but not mixed. Different perspectives…these heffas ain’t slick they can save the tears

That’s right colorism is not a trend lmao 😂 it’s a lifestyle

The biggest take away we don’t internalize as light skinned women, is being light skinned no matter how (wether being biracial, way back genes, multi generationally mixed w/e the case is) it is still an adjacency to whiteness and that’s why when we’re called out as you layed out so beautifully we literally are just mimicking white peoples defensiveness.

I met a LSBW at a neighborhood party hosted by a dark skinned couple. Now I really don't care about color, at the end of the day I like who like me. So turned out me and girly had a lot in common and chatted for a while and then she disappeared . That week on the subway to work I saw her and tried to engage in conversation to no avail. I figured maybe I got the name wrong lol wouldn't be the first time. So that weekend over brunch I mentioned it to my friends and nope the name was right. Irony of ironies I ran into her again walking into a building and now l was clear in greeting her and she looked right through me. So now I was done as I was taught never to beg for friends. Later on that summer I mentioned it at another neighborhood party to a neighbor, a Yoruba fella and he laughed and said it was my husband. I was like what? Turns out her beef was that I married a tall white man. The joke was that when I first started dating as a teenager all the dark brothers were interested in the sistas that looked like her so I gave up and dated who was left. Korean, Indian, Scottish whatever as long as they treated me right and we had a connection. I had one American cappuccino colored guy in college in Louisiana tell me he didn't date girls darker than him! Ms. I am black and I am proud had a lot to prove since her 23& Me test told her she was 72% white. So I guess the question if you decide to answer is who is "more black?" Me 100% of African ancestry of Senegalese, Ghanan and Nigerian or 72% white with beige skin but she does wear her hair in locks and goes by Tomeko while I have mid-back length relaxed hair and go by Sophia! That is a trick question because one of is is trying while the other is naturally a black queen! I have since decided to ignore her whenever I see her because you can't fix stupid or self-hate.

Thank you so much for this video. I appreciate you on mentioning the colorism and racism in the Latino community. Some people, especially online try to make me look crazy when I discuss colorism and racism. Same thing when I discuss colorism in the Black community too. There are a bunch of examples in films, shows, and social media. Shit, I have stories about colorism and racism too. The pretending needs to stop💯 P.S. - I know you asked for us to leave examples of colorist stories in the comments, but I rather not make the comment longer🤣‼️

Thank you so much for bringing up the fact that Black Americans have fought for and come up with the language to describe, define and fight racism. I hate to hear people say that Black Americans somehow create the problem or can't stop talking about race when I fact we are just used to (and have had to) fight against it by defining it and bringing it to attention.

lol had to pause to comment how years ago in university i became really good friends (for like a semester lol) with this extremely wealthy (went to a top boarding school and all) british nigerian girl who was an international student and our friendship ultimately ended because of what you mentioned. homegirl really tried to paint me as crazy, ignorant, and inferior for acknowleding race/racism/colorism (she was dark skin mind you) and classism and really tried to gaslight me into believing how it's only an american thing and none of what i would talk about existed in england/europe or nigeria. she deadass looked me in the eyes and told me skin bleaching isn't a thing in nigeria which i knew wasn't true...... it was really hurtful meeting a black person who pulled out literal KKK talking points about AA, she had a deep disdain for black americans that slowly but surely came out in the course of us knowing each other i'm surprised she was even interested in being "friends" with me looking back. hope she healed and learned for real lmao

I have to say, I am a Black woman of Haitian descent born and raised in the states, and although I can’t stand the crocodile tears, I think I may understand, to a very small degree, what Thandie might have meant when she said she was considered dark skin in the UK. I think, though Black exist in a multitude of shades across the world, in her own little world and chosen community, she may have very well been the darkest person, and therefore called “Dark”. I’ve seen this to be the case as well with black people who were raised around very fair skin people or white people, because their shade was the most pronounced in their immediate circle, they are called dark in those circles and internalize being dark as a negative thing. It’s a very deep issue where people’s perception of what is considered light and dark is so relative to their own experiences that it is also distorted in their minds, because as a Black woman, to me, Thandie Newton would not be considered dark on any scale, but she could be considered dark to her very white friends. I had the reverse experience as a child. I was raised in a mostly Caribbean community in Miami. Those in my neighborhood and in other circles were usually of the same or darker complexion than me, and while I never saw myself as high yellow or fair skin, I would often be referred to by my peers as a red bone or even dirty red (in the same way you hear dirty blonde). I am Black with a medium to dark brown complexion, but to some of my peers I was considered “red”. So the first time an Afro Latino man referred to me dark skin, in my early 20’s, I was confused; not, because I needed to hear red bone, but I didn’t understand how someone the same complexion as me, had referred to me as dark skin, as an identifier. It didn’t take me long to realize that culturally anything non-white or close in close proximity to white, is considered dark to many Latinos and really, most people who are lighter skin. So I say all of that to say, if you internalize how you are being perceived in this world, based on the perception of those around you, it would make sense how a light skin woman like Thandie Newton could have thought she was dark skin and then had a totally different experience once being in the US…especially if the treatment she encountered in the US was preferential in comparison to her experience in the UK. Let’s not forget, she has other factors in her corner as well, that adds to her unseen privilege: while she is a light skin black woman, she has lighter eye color, loose curl hair and an English accent, which is highly favored in the US, so her proximity white definitely affords her privilege that she chooses to continue to be blind to moreso here in the US, than in the UK.

13:56 yes exactly Ukraine proves that racism is not just an American thing

17:15 GIRL! I think about this so much. As someone you who has been learning Spanish for a while, one of the suggestions for getting really good/believable is once you reach a certain proficiency level, pick a country/dialect that you really like and listen to the music, news/watch shows/etc to learn authentic conversational Spanish and pick up on the speech patterns so you sound more natural/native. At first I was like, guess Imma start finding more Dominican shit to listen to but then, (atp I don't remember how) I stumbled into afro-colombian content and I was shook. In the States, mfs will have you believe that all Colombians look like Maluma, J Balvin, Shakira, or Sophia Vergara. There's actual niggas out there. Tons of them. They have such a beautiful dialect. And they're so proud of their blackness 😂 i can't wait to visit ☺️

Your point about racism being an "American " problem is SOOOOOO SPOT ON!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

We cry because like white women. We don’t want to be attacked. And we know ppl feel somehow sympathetic towards that. It’s all a performance. So please don’t fall for the light skin tears. I’m letting you know. It’s a performance.

I love your openings so much. They always make me happy. Especially when you begin with your cute “Hiiiii!”

This video was like a SERMON me and my partner just had to keep stopping to discuss. THANK YOU! it's time to sign up for your Patreon 💕

Well spoken. I appreciate you doing this video; I wish more people would give this concept serious consideration and make changes accordingly.

The cat in the thumbnail!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Last month was truly the most anti-Black, Black History Month I've lived thru in terms of how much colourism, misogynoir, ableism, was on display from celebs/projects/brands. Not to mention the usual racism. And I would like to hereforth blame Thandiwe Newton for that energy cuz she came out the gate swinging with this colourist bs ON LIKE THE FIRST COUPLE DAYS INTO THE MONTH 😭😭😭 all in favour say ay lol On a serious note: thank you for this video, as with all your others 🔥 on point everytime

Mayowa! Thank you for this vid. I just wanna say that the *only* time Thandie Newton has ever played a convincing and compelling role was in this audiobook that I listened to (Jane Eyre) in which she played several white ppl. As a Black girl she has always been static and lifeless, and maybe that’s because she is hyper confident about her prestige, beauty, and talent simply bc she is lightskinned. Darkskinned actresses really have to be top tier talents to even get an ounce of attention, but actresses like Thandie and Zoe are invited to the table and to play roles that they don’t understand simply for being the hegemonic image of “Black” beauty.

I love how truthful you always are. Keep being you sis 🤎

Racism is a colonial problem. It is not limited to locale

I don't for a second believe that these actresses/stars aren't aware of their privilege and use it to their advantage. The clip of FKA upsets me a lot as a fan because she always gave me that vibe of superiority but I thought it was in my head but that clip confirms it.

So happy this ended up in my recommendations. So much love for you Mayowa

This is such a great and nuanced video. I’ve never thought much about the apology videos.

Y’all, I’m a regular ass light-skin AfroLatina. These videos are Fr educating me about how DUMB we sound expressing ourselves this way. Making darkskin women do extra work to speak to me isn’t it for me anymore. Do the work. How we gonna expect white people to have these conversations if we can’t. Nah nah. I’m dominican too like Zoey and there is colorism for dark-skinned Latinos. She’s ignorant. Bye imma watch all your videos and keep it pushing.

I love your videos! It’s like you articulate my feelings into words I can’t put together. Brilliant woman.

Love you, Mayowa ❤ I love your boldness and honesty.

You touched on every point I was thinking and I loved every minute of this video. Just came to say that 💁🏾‍♀️

fr those fake ass tears are annoying. thanks for the video, you said everything that was needed to be said 🙌🏾

This channel is a gem! I’m going back through all your old videos.

ooo ure very on point w everything but especially ppl “apologizing” and getting “attacked” by the community they hurt, n turning into the victim so their apology doesnt have to be accepted

I think what’s missing from a lot of these mixed/light skinned women is will power at this point. Being aware of something and actually doing smtg abt it are two completely different things, and that’s what’s missing. They’re not actively putting in the work for themselves and the community they claim to care about, it’s all a performance.

The story about your niece has me cracking up 😂

Yo I love how you’re making the parallels, so true 😂👌🏾but my main concern, is just telling you how pretty your hair is🥰

Why ET Canada keep giving the girls a platform…. Anyways, thank you for this video. You got me over here fucking rolling. 💀💀💀🤣🤣🤣 I turn 28 this month and I relate to what you say about not having the language growing up. I appreciate your page so much and it is great that black ppl in marginalized genders will be able to grow up with pages like yours and others 💕🥺👉👈

i love your channelll and your intro :)) your hair is thriving

I really loved hearing your perspective and your insight on the subject of colorism!

I don't think that she meant it as an apology... "I've desperately wanted to apologize"... not I want to apologize. She basically said that her wanting to apologize stemmed from the way she was treated. In her eyes she was treated so badly that she felt like she had to apologize all the time...but now she seems to realize that she herself was the victim afterall. She is crying over young Thandie. Forget about being black, MY life was way harder.

Thank you for this video Mayowa! This is the first video I have watched of yours and I feel you perfectly encapsulate and articulate my feelings growing up as a dark skinned woman. I never had the words to fully articulate how I felt. It’s nice to know that I am not crazy. Your breakdown of the six steps perfectly outline why their ‘sincere’ apologies always felt flat to me. I’ve I often feel like light skinned woman like Zoe Saldana and Thanie Newton play victim and act like colorism don’t exist while fully aware that their desirability is the reason why they got in the door and extended these opportunities. Throw in the fact that they not from the U.S. and seen as ‘exotic’ or in plain language ‘not the average black girl’ only added to their differentiation appeal. As long as the checks cleared they were fine with snatching all the roles they could being the “token desirable Black girl” but when those checks dried up, now all they have is water works and hallow apologies. I can’t!

I love you 😍! You are very astute and very very deep ! You have definitely given food for thought.Most definitely! Thanks sis !!! You gave me more food for thought.

You are so refreshing, I needed to hear someone be happy about being black and speaking about the experience.

✨ You look like a fed up angel every video 🌞

Ok but Zoe Saldana saying she didn’t grow up with lighter and darker has to be untrue right? Correct me if I’m wrong but I have mad Dominican friends and they def have called darker people morenos or sum that means brown. It’s considered a term of endearment but like, girl you gotta be aware of the skin tone scale over there. Also we’ve all heard British people separate “mixed race looking girls” from dsb girls

Loved this. Very perceptive!

I have been WAITING for Mayowa to talk about Thandie 😂😇💕 Mayowa i love you🔥🔥❤🇿🇦

I think when someone apologize. They need to show a change in their behavior. My father would always say. The way you apologize to me is not by speaking those words but change your behavoir. Thanks for the video. One Love 💕

Once again you look amazing, and I love your commentary and how you broke it down into steps, because oooh child its uncanny! Also thank you for saying black non-men and non-binary people when talking about this, the conversation often leaves out some types of people. I also recognize it is so important to center women in this conversation. Love your videos.

"is your bullying systematic" couldn't have said it better myself. I would always try to find a way to word that exact statement, but could never. All I could come up with was, "okay, I understand that you had that experience, but it's not the same as institutionalized oppression that dark skin women (and men, but like we talking about the girlies) face" which, I mean like isn't a bad way to put it, but what you said is so much more concise and you get it like immediately.

Love everything you said! Thank you! 🙏🏿💞

love this your take. thank you!

THANK YOU, MA'AM. KEEP BLESSING THE INTERNET WITH HARD TRUTHS. 💜 Idk, but I just had to yell that, ok? ☺️

Me wishing I can like this video twice. So on point!!! 🔥🔥🔥

Aaaamazing work per usual! You look gorgeous too😍😍😍.

I'm lightskinned but not biracial.Girl, I'm here to tell you that it's not more problematic than being dark-skinned. Yes there is teasing but that is a part of black culture (Or at least African American culture). Being called wash-n- go is not as hurtful as some of the ugly things I've heard dark-skinned sisters being called. Any lightskinned woman who doesn't realize that it's more difficult to be black, dark-skinned and a woman is lying to themselves. Now what she may feel is an "otherness" because she is half white and not simply lightskinned. So, she may feel like more of an outsider. If she wants to make a difference she should MAKE a difference. Write a screenplay and put dark-skinned women in it. Produce something and insist that dark-skinned women be cast and not as the bully or a joke. Crying does nothing to help dark-skinned women. Folks with the monetary means should put their money where their mouth is.

Come through sis! I love ur commentary 💜💜💜💜💜 happy womens month. I appreciate u🌹🌹🌹

It's the intellectual dishonesty for me. Like, I don't get how these "victims of reverse colorism" don't feel stupid saying and doing these things in 2022. The Zoe Saldana incident was so embarrassing. Why repeat it? It's like when Tucker Carlson pretends he doesn't understand white supremacy. I don't know why so many people think acting dumb is the go-to solution. Like, when did it become okay to just be stupid in front of cameras for attention or whatever she thought she was going to get out of it? Why? I didn't even look at the rest of the Thandie video... As someone who watched a lot of her movies but didn't really know anything about her, I'm kinda just embarrassed for her. Like, leave the "Am I not black enough to replace you?" rhetoric to the younger people like Zazie and Doja and the girl who was Storm in X-Men... Thandie is a full grown 50 year old woman. Even if she believes what she's saying, she had to know saying it on camera was a bad idea. She's too old to just be acting an ass for attention.

Thank you so much Mayowa 🦋 Love You

I found my new favourite channelllll

The looks you serve are always amazing 🥰

new suby finnally someone who gets it without having to add some much dramatic text. Love this type of content

I was just thinking about you today and you blessed us with a video. manifestation on point lol 😅

You popped up in my suggestions. You are gorgeous sis😍

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Thandie dark skinned 😂😂😂 She was considered dark by her white friends ....lol. For Zoe SALDANA, Dominicans are VERY colorist and centered on who looks black or not.

the shimmy you did when you said “wash and go girly” took. me. out. 😭😭😭😭

Please keep up the great work.

🔥 content also experienced the same thing as a kid in NYC

Lol! You said you're from Atlanta and I felt like I knew before you said it. (live in Gwinnett). This video is fantastic! :) And I love your style.

Before I watch I must say, you look absolutely amazing. Your hair is thriving!!

Hiii. Thank you for this video 😔

I love your make up and hair ! So so pretty !

I recognize the 6 steps when I see it and I'm always unphased by the calculated/pretentious FOOLERY.

I'm don't feel represented by biracial women in movies. A lot of them are beautiful and talented but I can't relate. Thank God for Viola Davis and Lupita N.

This video is a blessing