I'd rather be divided by truth than united by error. So true Melissa.

As Christians, we must love people enough to tell them the truth about the mental, physical and spiritual consequences of this insanity.

honestly i would hope that the people around me who claim to love me wouldn’t allow me to live in delusion

“You don’t invent truth. You discover it.” Right on

As a health care provider I was taught to NOT go along with someone's break from reality but to gently nudge them back to reality...never go along with the dysfunctional thought processes. I intend to continue pointing to the truth...thank you so much for allowing God to use you and God Bless you and your family

"Truth is not made up, it's discovered." Well-said!

When I was in elementary school I wanted to be a Tyrannosaurus Rex. It would be extremely hurtful for my parents to tell me I actually am a Tyrannosaurus Rex up to the moment of adult life. This is psychologically damaging to a young child.

As a Christian, I'm part of the silent majority, because my personality is not strong and persuasive enough to speak what I know is the truth--out loud. Words falter, and my arguments fall to the ground, and I hate when that happens to me. I am grateful to have people like you to help me in that endeavor. You are great, but this is hard.

I never got this whole, “my truth, your truth” thing. There’s one truth, and the rest is just experience.

As detransitioner I have been hurt by harmful gender ideology. 😢

'Biology doesn't equal bigotry' is a great line

"YOU DON'T INVENT TRUTH YOU DISCOVER IT" Got to make that into a t-shirt! Will send a MOCK UP when I got it done ;)

So shocked psychologists don't speak up on this. They know very well that in mental disorders you cannot bend outside reality to your inside world. That's the whole purpose of dealing with personality disorders for instance.

To use a non controversial issue as a parable: I am obese. I don't want that to be glorifoed and celebrated because it is unhealthy and the result of emotional trauma. I also would not want to be mocked or shamed either. Anyone who does either of those things is NOT your friend. Instead true friends would be there when I need to talk so I don't turn to food for comfort, would help guide me on healthy things to eat, maybe even pick me up and take me to the gym with them once a week. That's how I feel anyone should be treated.

“I’d rather be divided in truth, than United in error” 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻 thank you, for being so bold in your faith!!!

"I rather be divided by truth than united in error. Any day." -Melissa Love it! Make a shirt. God bless you and continue the good work.

Favorite quote: "Believing in lies hurts the people who believe in them" Great video Melissa, thanks!

I would buy a “I’d rather be divided by truth than united by error” t shirt if it was in your store!

Wonderful work, Melissa! We’re definitely living in an Emperor Has No Clothes reality. We just have to keep calling it out

I find it far better to be chastised for telling the truth than to be accepted by liars.

I totally agree!! I identified as a trans woman, until Jesus called me out of darkness. This has been conditioned into our culture for decades. Movies like Just One of the Boys, She's the Man and so on. As well as the Little Mermaid, giving life to the fantasy of being something other than who you are to be fulfilled and happy. Thank you for speaking on this!! God bless you sis!!

Great video! I will be sharing this with several people. My granddaughter, who is 15, is trans. A couple years ago she told us that we cannot be in her life anymore if we don't use her proper pronouns. Thankfully she has eased up on that stance a bit. But it breaks our heart because she is whole heartedly going down this path, with hormones and she is planning on top surgery too. Please pray for her.

"Biology is not bigotry " love it!!

I agree with you, Melissa. I find that unfortunately when trying to have those conversations with people that are non-binary or trans or even gay that my words fall on deaf ears. I am automatically declared a bigot and intolerant. I would appreciate a video on how to break through to those people, if you're able to. Thanks for all you do and being a vioce of truth in a world of lies. Love your channel! God bless you and your family ❤️🙏

My youngest sister started identifying as "non-binary" a while back, and one day she just up and gave me an ultimatum: accept this lifestyle I openly don't agree with, or she wouldn't have a relationship with me. I love her fiercely, so you can imagine how much it hurt to see her throw it away because I wouldn't play along.

Melissa---thank you for your boldness in publicly sharing this. Topics like God's love are easy, but topics that go against the grain of our culture are not. But as Billy Graham says, "“When a brave man takes a stand, the spines of others are often stiffened.” 2 weeks ago, I was on a parenting panel to discuss at my church on how to explain gender ideology to a 7 year old from a Biblical view. Normally, this would be easy for me to speak up. I'm a professor, so public speaking doesn't bother me, and I have a Christian youtube channel. HOWEVER, when I started speaking, I was shaking. When I got home, I felt like I was going to throw up. Why? Because I knew----that even in a church setting, there was a lot of hostility. Many have not yet read the Bible. Many read the Bible but don't think it is all true. But was it worth it? Yes. Did I loose a few friends? Yes. But, many also came up to me and said that they would join me in discipling their own children and now have the tools to do it. Praise God.

I’m so glad I read Brave New World this year. For no reason except I kept hearing it mentioned. Scary times we are living in. Or would be scary if I didn’t lean on the truth and the cross.

Who are these people that have decided that not affirming them is damaging?

I’m going to rewatch this 5 times because you explain this SO well!

I agree 100% with everything you said here! I was just talking to a friend about this. Me going along with someone else’s delusion doesn’t benefit either one of us.

Same with the bad non-workers at the job. How dare a supervisor set expectations,🙄

“You don’t invent truth, you discover it.” So good

I struggle with this. I want to be sensitive to people who are struggling with a mental illness, but by accepting it as true it normalizes it and encourages others to chase down the rabbit trail.

Agree! I don’t want to agree with someone stuck in their false reality because it’s akin to abuse.

Brilliant! This did not hurt my brain at all. Rather, it eased my mind's frustration, being reminded that I'm not the only one that recognizes the mind-games being played. No one really wins that game when the rules constantly change and the "winner" is predetermined. So kudos to your stance and willingness to share THE truth

"Its NOT loving to affirm an illusion." 👏👏 brilliantly said.

Letting people who suffer in mental illness will ultimately hurt others. Proof. My dad went to rehab twice. Was flown there by the RCMP (they flew out a plane just for him to take him the first time). He had severe ptsd. But the end of his life “his truth” was “I don’t have a problem, everyone is lying about me”. My trauma tells different. He didn’t speak to me for 6 YEARS!! He was allowed to have his pleasure and vices. He left my mom. He died alone. And the last time I saw him was on a slab. Any form of mental illness leave a wake of hurt. For the person, the the people around them. And now my dads siblings reject the truth, and reject me and my family and my children. I’m lying. I’m intolerant. I’m unloving. This is where it is going.

When someone threatens to unalive themselves unless they get their way, it’s not wise to just bow to their manipulation. How does that help? I’ve experienced this with a family member on a subject unrelated to trans/gender stuff. The answer was 1st calling 911 in the moment it happened and then 2nd continuing mental health treatment. I don’t make a fuss about peoples pronouns, I don’t necessarily think it’s my place to correct. But it boggles me that everyone just goes along with the “you have to treat me this way and pay for my surgeries or I’ll unalive myself” threats. How does that not clue you in to the fact that this is not truth, it’s mental illness?

A person could literally say they are a vampire and needs to kill people. It's scary how easily people are excepting.

You have expressed what I have been struggling to express...and you've done it so clearly. You are an important voice in our culture to help us stand against a darkening culture. Thank you.

My thoughts as well! Thank you for sharing this! Truth is not subjective.

It makes me sad to see people who are otherkin or neopronoun users (not sure what those ones are called). I can't imagine how badly you must feel about yourself that you refer to yourself or you want other people to refer to you as a frog. I think if someone called me a frog I would cry. Maybe I'm just sensitive but that hurts me to think that they feel that way about themselves. I think people who are non binary or trans are using this as a coping mechanism for deeper psychological issues, and I genuinely want them to get help.

Thank you Melissa. Great video. I have family members who distance themselves from some of us who don’t go along with the lies. We are “closed minded”. It’s all the spirit of deception and confusion. Praying for them, deliverance and freedom in Christ. And praying over myself and others that we wear The armor of God.

Blessings🙏from NY and thank you so much for your work, ministry and perspective. It is so helpful. All the best and stay up, stay blessed.

Wow! I so much love this video. I have never see trans people as people with right thinking. For most Christian to accept their ideology is sad. I love the examples, like you can't say a circle is a square. You're so smart. Thanks for sharing.

That was an excellent message - thank you! What an eye opener when you said that "you discover Truth...you don't invent it."

It's hard to explain this to someone who's thinking below the belt. The lust of the eyes, which is a state of mind, can cause delusional perceptions like a mirage of beauty. It's like living in a desert and that ain't no fresh spring of water looking at you from across the room.

I need to memorize this!!! so thankful for how you are able articulate this!

Thank you for making this video! This message has been in my mind for a long time, but I lack the gift of wording things correctly. I’ll definitely be sharing your video.

Absolutely agree. Thank you for articulating this so well.

Agree 110%!! Thanks for your boldness! It is very encouraging in the midst of so much discouragement.

Wow that was some of the sweetest and most healing dialog I've heard in years. Thank you.

I couldn't agree more. Thank you Melissa for articulating this topic so perfectly

I absolutely agree. When you take my elderly grandmother suffering from Alzheimer's for example, most of the family would go along with her nonsensical brain attacking her making her think that she was back in her pubescent years, but I couldn't do that. Because when she would come out of the spell she was probably more scared, then in circumstances where I reminded her the truth that I'm her granddaughter she's 98 years old and we're working a puzzle book. Information is key, but truth is eternal!

Thank you so much. This video was needed and ofcourse I'm sharing it!

Such Wisdom Shared. Thank you! I totally Agree 1000%

This is all true. It's difficult to fight the public schools, the media and Hollywood. 😥

this is why God has been raising up detrans christians so they can speak his truth because when you are in sin it is hard to see what is right. for me it took the holy spirit telling me to renounce and repent of homosexuality. i had never been homosexual but i was an huge advocate and had watched the p word alot. i mourned then after sometime i started to advocate for exgay Christians. and people leaving that lifestyle. the joy of the lord is my strength. i love you Jesus !

You are so right! Thank you! I so much needed to hear some sanity. I learned from my dad many years ago, Truth does not change. Personal perceptions are often false and changeable. Many wise people have taught this same piece of wisdom.

Thanks Melissa , Helpful reflection on the issue of power and the value of truth.

Agree 💯, thank you for explaining it this way , it just may help to get through to some people, so far all else has failed and I end up being the bad guy.

I loved this video so much. I've been having a debate with some online friends about this, and your video was spot on about what we were talking about.

Definitely one of the best videos you have done. I had to watch it like four times to really capture all of it.

This was utterly brilliant way of breaking down this thought of “well who does it hurt?”. Please keep doing what your’e doing.

Melissa you have put into words exactly how I have been feeling on this matter. Thank you

Well-defined. Well thought through. On par with the word of God. You are a blessing to those who appreciate the real truth. Be blessed in your ministry, Melissa.

Very well said. Totally agree. Thanks for this! Great job!

You have hit the nail on the head. Good job.

Amen, very well spoken 👏

Amen!! God bless you❤

Excellent and reasonable observations. Thank you.

Melissa, I spent Thanksgiving with my brother and his wife and his wife’s family. His wife’s brother in law is a trans “woman”. When I joined the family as they were gathered around the kitchen island watching my brother carve the turkey, I noticed the trans woman’s wife, a woman, was not there. I asked their 13-year-old daughter If her mom would be joining us. As the daughter began to reply that her mother was sick, the trans woman snapped, “Her mother is standing right here. I’m a mom. I’m a mom too.” I was taken back and remained quiet for a moment before replying that I hoped she would be feeling better soon. I think my silence allowed the truth to speak for itself. Anyway, I refused to allow this person to coerce me into compliance with his delusion and falsely shame me that I didn’t somehow recognize him as a mother. In his subtle misogyny, he interrupted his daughter who may one day grow up to have a child of her own and become a real mother and he demonstrated disrespect for his wife who was not there who actually gave birth to their daughter. Not to mention, I happen to be a real woman. I tried to be friendly and engage in ordinary dinner conversation with him and made no remarks about his perceived sexuality or gender, however, he remained unfriendly and did not willingly interact with me at all. I feel sorry for him as it must be a difficult life to pretend to be someone you are not and expect others to see you that way and if they don’t they must be rejected. I tried to see past the exterior and realize this is a person in pain who has rejected himself so thoroughly and does not realize God made him just the way he is and just the way he is is enough. I have compassion for him. I know I need God too as I think about the ways I’ve rejected myself for different reasons. Please pray for him and his kids and his wife. Thanks

A superlative video, thank you. So clever to use Huxley and Orwell. You show real mastery here, whilst also being measured and not a show off!

There are days when I think today it’s time to make a video. Then I wake up and you already have! This is so spot on! Excellent work. Thanks for speaking truth!

Well done You! Explained with so much grace and TRUTH

I totally agree with you, we lovers of thruth won't back down. The times are changing so quickly it's going to get rough. Excellent video!

As always Melissa, great content. It just amaze me how brave and well you expose all these "controversial" topics. Kudos! Blessings from Mexico.

Excellent video Melissa. You summed up my feelings on this topic so well. I took notes 😊

Well said. Thank you for voicing this so well.

I love Hook too! And that was a great analogy you used. To add, Hook used truth to making his lie convincing. The best lies always have some truth in them.

We live in a society that affirms delusion at the expense of truth.

Amen! I agree with you! 💯 Beautifully explained as well!

Amen! Fantastic breakdown and analysis.

Critical thinking leads to truth - thank you, Melissa!

Wholeheartedly agree!

You are so right. It’s like George Orwell and Aldous Huxley wrote the script for what’s going on now.

I agree, refuse to live in someone’s delusion!

Speaking about objective truth or just truth for that matter. I really like this definition. (Objective) Truth corresponds to the world as it actually is in reality. True for everyone everywhere. Regardless of what anyone thinks or how anyone feels.

What a great video. Awesome job of breaking this down. I work for the public school system and education is trying to “re-educate” us on LGBTQ+ and it’s ridiculous Nothing but lies being fed to the next generation. In my classroom, I tell the truth, no matter what, with Godly wisdom of course and still in Love Thanks again I plan on sharing this video

This was like visiting with good neighbor, like the old days. Thank you so much. You are so articulate and just spot on ! Well done.

Simple answer no, speak the truth in love to them. “It often appears that emotions are the determining factor, but emotions are only as valid as the truth on which they are based.” - Neil T. Anderson, The Beginner’s Guide to Spiritual Warfare

Please keep spreading truth, I had to have this conversation with my niece when she told me she was a he, after trying to kill herself. Thought that was the hardest conversation I would ever have. Than had a conversation with I’m Christian too, btw, if a conversation starts that way, it will have no bible, philosophical, psych or scientific knowledge in it. 💯 just affirm, meet them where they are. I just pray for moth of them.

I love this - "You don't invent truth, you discover it."!!! There is only One Truth - it never changes. It is either everything or it is nothing. The Truth, The Way , The Life - Jesus Christ.

Totally agree!! Thank You Melissa for SPEAKING TRUTH!! 🙏

Thank you for courageously speaking the truth.

If "Truth" is hurt then everyone and everything suffers, therefore everybody hurts! Just because they can't see how it hurts people doesn't for one moment mean it doesn't hurt people including them. Update:I wrote this comment as I listened to the video then at the end of the video realised you said pretty much the same thing. 😂

I'm glad you made a video on this because I remember this had just started when I was a teen on Tumblr, and people brushed it off and this issue is spread all across social media and there are now people in their 20s, almost thirties, and younger children completely engrossed in believing their identities are people from media, mostly anime, and it's disturbing, or came from alternate lives/timeliness as x character, x animal, etc.

Thank you Melissa, on point as usual!

This was so well broken down. Thank you so much!

I won't stay here another night If I gotta sacrifice Who I am on the inside I'd rather be an outsider That's kinda my default response to everything that says 'you need to affirm this and that and other and everything but the truth' Great video, Melissa - and God bless you!