Thank you 🤩

Indeed

Yes indeed

Not necessarily…if the person watching is unhealthy.. used to toxic traits, and insecurity.. doesn’t mean the other person isn’t the right one.

So true

Indeed

Well said. Actually too much absence causes disconnection and indifference. Character and emotional maturity are the most critical component. James Sexton is excellent!

Amen

Thats what I was getting too. Unrealistic expectations and giving up too easy!

Awe... thank you 😊

I tell my man I will treat you like a King. I think you should not expect anything in return. Love is given voluntarily. Give and take will flow naturally.

Facts

I desire a balanced relationship. Not one where I’m doing most of the giving.

Yes, no nonsense with out sugar coating anything! 👍 People show you who they are in the first conversation, on day one. . However dig up the skeletons. Be a detective. 👁️ Watch for secrets, lies, shady behavior and compartmentalization. Patterns of behavior. Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker

I am one hell of a detective, I don't know if I had blinders on or he waited until I was comfortable. he's been shady as hell 😢😢

@@ginaritter6963 Eventually the truth comes out. Shady is as shady does.

Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker In this world verify everything! Never doubt patterns AKA The Track Record

I'm a widow 20 months out. I agree with you. I just recently met a healthy, whole, new man who also is widowed. He gets it.

​@@bonniejones7919 Glad to hear Bonnie. All the best. 🙏

I feel the same. I have been a widow for 8 years. Yes want a new relationship.

@@bonniejones7919 In 2021 I started dating a widower only a few months after his wife’s death. Had I known then what a know now I would have told him he wasn’t ready and would have moved on. Instead we dated for two years, and he broke it off 6 months ago only to rebound into a new relationship which also didn’t last. Needless to say he probably needs to take a break from the dating scene and work on himself

Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Are You The One For Me? by Barbara DeAngelis In this world verify everything. Date like a detective 👁️ Interrogate Your Partners Their Past Is Your Future - Sam Vaknin podcast

Indeed 😁

Women don't need to explain their standards. If a man isn't aligned and isn't on the same page. 💨 You're meeting cold prospects. We don't owe anyone a conversation.. Block! Right. No response equals no match or, not interested. Next! Could respond with, "Learn some respect and social skills" 😁 Indeed it's projecting.-negging. Very poor social skills. Online is an anonymous venue I hope you're well 🙋 People show you who they are in the first conversation, on day one. The first meeting is The Resume. Why Men Behave Badly On Dating Apps - Evan Mark Katz

I agree

Negging is common. They know they're not aligned and don't meet your standards. Next! We don't owe anyone a conversation.

Next! It's their issue if they don't meet your standards or are misaligned. That's on them.

These recent anthropological/ coding talks are so compelling. . Thank you ☺️

Well said Christine!

Well said!

Agree with your comments. . Building a solid trustworthy friendship.

Then, don't do the work and choose a dysfunctional relationship if that makes you happier.

@@JonathonAslay I've already done the work, and still doing the work. I've been "doing the work" for more than 15 years and that's how I was able to say what I did in the previous comment. I have no delusions. What I understand now is that most people are not designed (or destined) for marriage. It is the most obvious thing that we fail to see, because society has sold us a bag of lies. Meaningful relationships exist and can be cultivated, and they don't necessarily have to be of romantic nature. The sooner we can accept this, the less miserable we will be.

I can understand what you’re saying… the more work you do on yourself the more likely you may end up being alone as you are less likely to to meet someone who has done the work on themselves and if you end up dating broken people again it can end up making you broken again. But solution it’s not why should anyone do the work when all around are broken. How about every individual works on themselves & learn about their attachment styles, their patterns etc..Most of the times major problem is people are not even aware they got to do the work like getting to know their attachment styles, level of emotional intelligence they need to develop, understand their insecurities etc..They think all should happen organically. But from my experiences I have realized dating is a skill, maintaining attraction & building long lasting relationships & marriage is a skill which people need to learn, just like any other skill we learn in our professional lives. This ‘work on yourself’ applies to friendships even. We need to have & build awareness in developing social skills & skills in building & maintaining friendships too like creating safe space for other person to open up to you etc... Unfortunately people are willing to enhance their professional skills but not their other intrinsic skills

Well said Etkaa. People have to want to change

@@sherriflemming3218 thank you. Yes exactly the same I realised from my experiences people don't change until they have to. For instance just like during pandemic individuals / companies were kind of forced to develop digital skills & systems until then they were complacent & could not see that it would be unavoidable to survive in future without digitization. And similarly in relationships most people have this notion that my partner should accept me as I am why should I change. And another thing I noticed in friendships & romantic relationships is that the person who says people should accept me as I am are the ones mostly wanting their partner to change but they won't even change an inch to work on their behaviour, for instance an individual's friend repeatedly cancels on them for meeting their partner or on his or her partner repeatedly cancelling on them to meet their friends. They won't be respectful of other person's time & commitment. Both people have to come half way..both have to change a bit to come to the middle ground.

That's sweet of you to say...

I know too bad he lives over the pond! 😔

We need more men like him out there!

Don’t forget he has a feeling, caring heart. He’s able to be vulnerable. He’s self aware, honest, intelligent, shown he’s capable of introspection. … A collared shirt, fresh shave & fresh haircut/good hair ~ never hurt either. 😋

I think it is not about the looks as much as it feels like everything I would say would be analyzed

Indeed

Yes, however safety first. The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Safe People by Henry Cloud

@@sherriflemming3218 agree also with that.

​@@karinesavard2016 You rock Karine!

I appreciate that

Awe... thank you 😊

awe... thank you

Thanks for listening

You nail it on The Rules. I burned that ridiculous book years ago! 😄 Thank goodness I don't have abandonment issues. Individuated at 18. Wanted my freedom privacy and independence. My mother was healthy in teaching us to be independent.

Wow, thank you

Thank you 😊

Awe.. thanks ☺️

@@JonathonAslay In hearing your various topics on dating and experiencing true love, it has helped me to realize even more during the grieving I have been going through, how much my late husband of 36 years loved me. He certainly did get it right in his marriage, family life, personal relationships and career throughout his life. He came from a place, as I do from the foundation of respect. Respect of God, self and others. That truly is the basis of a good healthy productive happy life. I do journal on thoughts about his life and our life together, and your instruction vlogs help me to focus in on the topics. I have gained knowledge and introspection about "dating" and relationships from you since I had turned in and really appreciate everything you share with us. I think your tutorials are so affirmative and sorely needed in our society today.

I appreciate that!

Glad you enjoy it!

Thanks

I hear you Sylvia! If it's meant to be it will happen. The key to beginning to find the right ones is eliminating the wrong ones.

Noted

😂😂.

Games

Exactly

That's what I teach in my coaching program. Www.jonathonaslay.com/coaching

He has stated some important checklist questions. Are you dating others? Does anyone else think they're in a relationship with you? What does a relationship look like for you and mean to you? What does committment look like for you and mean to you? Have you completely healed from all of your past experiences? You want to get the relationship history asap. I ask this question. Can you give me your definition of a healthy relationship? Good luck Michelle! Listen and watch how they treat you. Safety first. The first conversation - meeting is The Resume. Be a detective. 👁️ Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker 8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman If The Budda Dated by Charlotte Kasi Are You The One For Me? by Barbara DeAngelis

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Well said!

My pleasure!

Games

Absolutely Jonathon. Hard to get and all that disempowering manipulative nonsense. Empowered women take charge of their relationship destiny.. They're seeking equality, mutuality and reciprocity. I support first wave feminism. Was raised with this.

I’ll look up your recommendation, specially in todays world. I’m not all about behaving like men and compete with them, feminism took a horrible turn since the beginning. I’ve know some older couples that are great. Things worked out so much better than what we are seeing today.

@@Bb-k4gd Yes, couldn’t agree more.

Thanks so much!!

Jonathon is a great communicator. Knowledge is power. Keep up the good work! Jonathon is saving people's lives. ❤️

Appreciation

Well if appreciation makes him miss me, he ought to be reaching out to me and missing me like mad by now! I appreciate him big time and believe I’ve shown him that, and I believe he has felt it from me, he has even told me himself that he appreciates me too, so he has definitely felt it from me. It does not seem to have made him miss me, that I can see so far anyway. So I think it depends on how INTO you he is. Unfortunately men are like computers, in order to get anything from them, the first thing you have to do, is turn them on. I heard this once and to be honest …. this I have seen to be true.

Lol 😆

😆

How awful. How old was he?

Jann, it's a relief when it ends..You did not deserve to be abused. Weren't there obvious signs of abuse prior to the marriage? You deserve to be safe. 🫂 His pattern will repeat with anyone. Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft

Be aware of the opportunists, Mari. Cooperation and compromise is challenging. We are most aligned with people similar to ourselves.

Glad you liked it!!

Me too... loved it. Happy to hear you felt the same.

Exactly

The same relationship you just described that you want.

I appreciate that!

Indeed Rozanne

You're welcome

That's sweet...

Here you go www.jonathonaslay.com/coaching

👍🏼

Thanks for sharing! Maybe someday

Some of the feedback he gave me... is I show no emotion, and vulnerability. I guess I'll continue 2 invest time to read & learn.

It's my circle of friends

Can recommend him to Jonathon's men's channel. There is men's group counselling.or perhaps personal development seminars.

Not exactly what I meant... but yes, whatever our ancestors were called back then, that's what I meant. 👍🏼

Here in texas and elderly couple ona in the area called dinosaur flats. The children are encouraged to come here for school field.Trips to see that the dinosaur walked in the same path as the humans footsteps. At the same time in life. This is a known fact for a long time.😊

Honey, you're not the only one in that situation, but you need to read the book. "Women who love too much"

Excellent book! Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker

My pleasure 🙏

Yes, 4 times a week. This video was recorded live...

He's wounded???

Good point Alicia. Are you safe and okay? Mental and emotional health is important in relationships. Healthy love doesn't correlate with abuse. Your safety and well being iare paramount. There are trauma bonded relationships. The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Safe People by Henry Cloud

What's a westie?

WOW! Thank you, and much appreciated. Any chance you can share this video with friends?

Awe... thank you

Can you elaborate?

@@JonathonAslay There are entire programs here for men designed for the manipulation of women based on intermittent reinforcement schedules. Intermittent reinforcement is a powerful psychological technique and can create obsessive addictive, destructive relationships.

Correct Living LargeCoaching Counseling..

Indeed 😁

The Hoffman Process

Thank you Jonathan. I really appreciate your videos. @@JonathonAslay

Indeed

Amen.