Yup. My ex is fighting so hard to be in his child’s life, but anytime he doesn’t comply with his BM terms and conditions (which were often unreasonable) she threatens to take her away. And she has before, blocked him for months on end. It’s sad. Having a child with the wrong man/woman can quite literally destroy your life, and unfortunately an innocent child’s in the process.

@@AM-dp9tv He really needs to go to court. She only do it because he keeps complying to her narcissistic demands

@@bjnaves1192 I told him the same. Lawyer up. Take screenshots and receipts of everything. He’s young (25) and still has a lot of growing up to do, which is why it didn’t work out with me. I wish him and his daughter the best but holy hell, what a nightmare.

that’s the exact reason why I don’t want to go to court with my kids mother because most people don’t understand by the time the system gets involved the damage is already fucking done

That's the unfortunate truth right there

She should've taken him to court ages ago. A verbal child support agreemant is a bad idea. Get it in writing. The courts clearly think he can afford $600. If you're goint to get mad about paying for your child.. wrap it up

@@lordtette he told her the courts would order him to pay less than what he was giving her… when he wasn’t on child support… He lived off the tips he made His apartment was income based He got the kids every weekend Fri- Monday morning and was able to give her $200 a week… that was $800 a month. When she took him to court.. they based it off of his paycheck income…. Which was not big and he was told to pay $600 a month….. but when she moved out of state… courts dropped other another $100…. So now he pays $500 a month and gets the boys every summer

Very true, I’ve experienced this. Bih told me, didn’t nobody tell you to have more kids all because she couldn’t control my interactions with our kids. When our 2 kids wanted to be around my other 2 she was sick about it.

the power gone and so is the burdan of a man with to many fking kids

@@boots0313😂😂😂😂 thats how life goes and kids be mean u know already all 4 of them talikng shit bout those 2 mama

Thats why he dating me. I got hysterectomy. Talk about easy. I shut it down..its so lame..

Facts

THIS!

PREACH

His BM cant GET another man..she lived right here her entire life. So everyone KNOWS all 3 boys by different fathers. She cant get nobody anymore.

Omg, that's the ONLY reason I clicked! I said uuummmm Tachina Arnold what's this you're talking? 😊😅😅😅😅

I thought it was Monica for a second

Pam is fine af.

Very true

You KNEW goin into the situation that that man didn't want you, didn't care nuthin about you, but you slept with him and had kids by him ANYWAY 👈 He wasn't HUSBAND or FATHER material. That didn't stop you. You had better options. That didn't stop you. What's my point? You cannot make a man a man by putting more responsibility on him. Either he's a man, or he ain't. Stop putting him down in frontof the kids, because you CHOSE 👈him.

and YOU AND HIM 🤔 are a damn fool if you think that I'm not dropping a kid off to the nearest police station🤔 if he has joint custody with you (and he chooses to be a Deadbeat.. do not blame the woman !) cause on the real that's him and you problem...😂😂 yall swearrrr yall hurting somebody feelings with these type of statements when the only person you hurting is YOUR kid sweetheart 🤔😂🍅🤷🏾‍♀️

FACTS! I do not have kids, tried dating one really beautiful black man who paid child support, left his wife the house and bought her trips etc. He had his own apartment. I straight up told him to go back home, because she had no job, and she was out of shape. When I asked him if she was dating...he realized he was stuck with her. I told him buy her a tummy tuck or tighten her vag...whatever to make it work, because she will never let him go and will always be relying on him long after his 4 kids leave the house. Great guy. I just do not have kids and looked real stupid dating him. I did feel sorry for him, because he so desperately wanted more for his life, had moved on....and she had that noose around his neck downright using the kids. It's so sad because men will have a baby out of wedlock just to get away from the mother of their kids. Women need to do better especially black women.@@mcole442

Sums up the black community a bunch of baby mamas and baby daddy’s running around.

@misscamera12 They better wise up. I’m not fin spend every one of my dollars paying mortgage grocery utilities clothing medical sports, transportation, entertainment, PTO, I work full-time and be broke down dead while he taking great care of himself with his time & money. Nope. break bread. On schedule. Were strict & structured over here

Cap your the baby mama I know 😅

Agree sounds do angry for other woman going for child support!

@@mariamaconde9909you’re*

A message can be true and great no matter the person delivering it with a personal life. That is none of your business.

Exactly.

Very true 🎯

That’s a lie. None do!

CS messes up they lives. They still have to eat and live too! Should of thought about it before you let him raw dog you. Women don’t want to be accountable in that. Women control the sex.

Child support is for the child or children not you to live off of it. Get a job and take care of you and (your) child or children. He’s not suppose to pay 60,000 a year in child support for you and the child or children. Men need to start taking woman to friends of the court for full custody forget that joint custody she ain’t listening to know Court when it’s your turn with your child she has all the excuses in the world not to have you in the child’s or children’s lives. She’s doing everything vindictive to keep you from getting your lives on track. Take her to court, don’t just think just because she put you out of her place your finished. She’s doing you a favor by putting you out, you just do see it yet but in time you will. In most cases she’s not your wife and your not her husband. You are the child’s father maybe, she’s the child’s mother definitely. Get a parental test while your at the Court she’s going to scream in front of everyone it’s your child what you need a DNA test for. Men! Get the DNA test, oh and when the child is born don’t sign the Birth Certificate unless you are married to her. Think about it real hard why I’m telling you men this. Think think think don’t react think first!!!!!

Indeed ✅️

Stay strong my guy✊🏽✊🏽

yooooo I am so sorry!

You got to fight for it. I know it gets old..she crossing State lines I'm sure. My mother did that to my father and didnt provide another solid one. I had to find my own father. After 25 years all.he had to offer me was GUiLT. I didn't want any money.

Then go to court. What an excuse

Some people are just the reject or result of a system that do not care families. Sometimes folks do things just to be vindictive.

FYI: it’s always the woman,all those stories you heard about “Deadbeat dads” ALL FAKE. That shit was made up by mentally disturbed women who refuse to take responsibility for their actions. All men try to be good fathers but women make shit difficult for us and some just give up. It’s truly a sad situation,so next time who here some she-demon complaining about her baby father..don’t fall for it.

CS is a scam. The government gets paid to mediate a percentage to the bm. Interest is paid to the CS by the bd. The system really is flawed. Some of the bms think the system cares about them and the child. They dgaf. The broker the chick the more she gets paid. The more money the woman has the less the father pays. Usually the bm don’t want joint custody because she can’t be in control of him like she still wants. Soon as he in a new relationship she acting a fool. I personally have not met a single bm that is not bitter. Who can actually just co parent and be cordial.

Preach my brother preach

Filing for child support financially incentivizes keeping the child away from the father, as that enables higher payments. And there is ZERO oversight to make sure that the money is actually spent on the child's needs.

Wait, what??

That baby mama should’ve learned who he was before having a baby by th lame! Her fault! & Now it’s gonna be hard for her! Because men nowadays avoid dating single mothers! I mean they’ll have sex w them but not take them serious as far as a marriage!💯

I agree with you at @Whitney9018 how ever having a child by a male, especially from the black culture is way more complex. for example still to this day males make more money than females so if you have a child by a male and we have been talked to be codependent on them under the patriarchy system. If y’all break up nine times out of 10. He’s gonna be more financially stable/secure . If he’s not willing to make sure that the child is supported with mom when you’re taking care of the child or children, then, he need to be on child support. Males don’t wanna support their child if he can’t access the mom in any, like he use to.

That's A lie i never seen a black women actually use it for the child stop it

You're ignorant lol. Use the word correctly

@@powerisknowledgeTV f what you didn’t see it’s for that child

But will quickly bring her kids around a new man she barely knows.

@@musiqworlmedia88 yeap. Mine moved a guy in n has kept him hidden for 3 years. I don't know him. Never seen him. Don't know his name. But I do know that when my 5 year old sleeps with her mom in bed, her mom's in the middle. N he's on the other side

@@slyfly4829 it’s probably someone you know since she goes hard to not let you see him. But they’re literally all like that and it’s crossed my mind that many of them don’t actually care about the kids they have but just use them as pawns to torture active good fathers. Keep your head up.

Naw she afraid of the kid calling the other woman “mom”

You mean BETTER.

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This is a thing that’s been going on,it’s not just the young ones some of our own mothers were like this.

I feel you pain and frustration but these men wonder why their life is lacking abundance, growth Nd stability the can’t even take care of their own seed. Speaks a lot about how much he cares for and love himself. How can u love yourself but not ur children. Love is action not just a word

It's called therapy and healing for a reason. Being bitter makes you age bad anyway. Let it go and get a new man who is better. some of these BM's have it real good, many black women let their bodies go and can't find a man as fine as the one they got, so they tie that noose pretty tight around his neck for dear life until his kids leave the house. It's sad really.

And no.. he didn’t provide for child while in care of the mom..but your talking about the toxic women.. my story goes in the other direction.. smh

And had joint custody.. thought he would put them first and never in danger.. he tried taking them from me so they couldn’t say how they were being treated with him..lied on me in court..paid child support to them even when I got them back 2 years later..they we’re living with me.. he still took child support from me.. until a few months ago.. they’re now in college..they lived with me.. couldn’t afford a lawyer..yep broke and broken.. but stood ten toes down

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