Most “ bitter men” step out of their child’s life while “ bitter women” are most likely to weaponize the kids to get back at the men. Regardless the kids are the ones suffering.

A toxic mother is just as bad as a absent father but single mothers will never admit that tho

Jay z said it best nobody wins when the family feuds!!! At the end of the day raising healthy children physically & mentally should be the common objective…

I was that kid caught in the middle so I vowed to never do that to my children. I never bad mouthed my ex husband. I reminded my son of his dad's birthday. I made sure he did something for him on fathers day until the day came when my son said he didn't want to anymore. I never even took my ex-husband to court after we separated. I started to let him deal with our son directly. I made sure I did my job as a mother and left dad to be a dad. If our son needed something from him, they had that conversation. If his dad didn't show up to get him for the weekend, he had to give his excuse directly to him. I stayed out of it and unfortunately the reason they have the relationship they have today is solely on his dad.

What trip said at the end is so true I’ve witnessed first hand women who treated their child according to how they felt about their dad smh 😢

A bitter women can put venom in those kids..I've seen that.

The answer is both, one neglects, the other mistreats, they're both harmful to the child, and to each other

I’m so thankful for my mother! She never said anything negative about my father or interfered with us having a relationship. As an adult she told me she didn’t want her feelings towards him to affect my Dad and relationship!! I wish more women did the same!

Yo I’m so glad wise black men are getting a platform… yes, i see threw the fact that it’s mostly entertainment, but i don’t care how our people heal, just that they do

All I heard was "bitter". Anger/jealousy can make anyone do/say crazy things.

Bitter Is a result of unkept promises, expectations and toxic treatment and betrayals. If the person done wrong is given the support need they will recover. It’s sad, the abuser will call the target of mistreatment a bitter person. Blows my mind

I stand with the one who said its about even. I have witnessed both. Sometimes. Daddy is just as vindictive or worse.

A better baby daddy can leave you unalive

I'm so BLESSED neither one of us is bitter, it's all about our child and we decided this together.

Stop competing with each other and work with each other. I agree with his statement

Trip got another W out of me. I hate admitting that shit too. But when he preaches, he ain’t wrong. I’ll be the first that criticizes. But I’ll also be the first to give you your flowers too. Very well said by Trip

Shouldn't be baby anything, but husbands and wives.

I’m a black man with 3 grown children and a few grand; I can definitely say it’s about even. A bitter baby mama usually makes it difficult to keep a stable relationship between the father and children so it’s more work from a social/psychological standpoint. With a bitter baby daddy: violence. Sometimes to the degree of someone losing their life or lives.

The brother speaking is the only reason I watch clips of this podcast

In 2023 it's the bitter baby daddy /ex boy friend / ex husband ... hands down! These dudes out here killing the women and all the kids because their feelings are hurt. It use to be the Women, but the tables have turned.

It's always fun to label bitter baby mothers but as Tipp said she's the one day and day out with the children, hungry, sick, home work, lessons, schedules forever alone. All the promises and ideas of the father he shows up on weekends and absent for the daily grind. Women are emotional and they are wrong for not balancing their emotions. They don't think of the child as weaponizing the interaction all they see is him popping up as cool-dad and making requests but getting upset when she's not complying. Men need to accept being absentee fathers is not fatherhood and one every other week is not parenthood and not apologizing is not co parenting

In my experience, my ex-husband is the bitter one which frustrates me because his focus, care, and concern is not on or about the children; it is simply hoping to make me look bad to others. My adult children and my high schoolers are now able to see him and all of his vindictive pettiness, annnnnnd their view will get greater later. 💯 Believe that! 🙏🏾🙏🏾

Unbelievable…… Who is able to NOT PAY their obligation if mad??????? Just change job while enjoying their freedom???? Why would a mad man still be able to get away with his OBLIGATIONS????? Of course if the gvt takes care of Mom, who cares about daddy being mad right?? Yea.. horrible.. Yet healthier for the mother and child………. Dead beat father are more common…. Sad…..

Facts. 10 years ago..my therapist asked me about my dad. I told her he was DARTH VADER. She asked me to explain. I told her at 6'5", super dark skinned, deep voice and because my mother made him the bad guy..that's who he was to me. She explained how my mother's anger toward my father and my escape from pain (Movies..particularly Star Wars) had merged in my 7 year old mind.

My son has been in therapy as a result of "My Mom hates my Dad!". From day 1 I said do not include children in adult conversations. Do not talk bad about any parent or grand parent in front of a child. You only hurt the child! My ex had to learn the hard way crying her eyes out about our son's depression. Then promising that her, her boyfriend and her friends were going to work on it. I should've been awarded custody of my son when he turned 12.

This black man right here, is a King. I pray that your childhood experiences have been purged from your ❤. Love you Trip. Good Bless

You can tell by his remarks that Tripp was traumatized by a woman or women early in life. If you listen closely you will hear the misogyny. When he says he is biased, he’s telling the truth. That aside, an involved present father can assuage a mother’s bitterness and, to some degree at least, protect the children from it. He can and will also take custody of his children if necessary. If he’s in the wind, he’s just as bad, if not worse than a mother who is at least doing something. I just watched a documentary about that crazy woman who put two of her children in a freezer. Had the father or fathers been around, they would have known their children were being starved and abused and could have probably saved their lives. I’m tired of Black people constantly pitting the sexes against one another. “Who’s worse?”, “Who’s fault is it?”, “Who’s more toxic?”, “Who cheats more?”, “Who lies better?” and on and on. We need to talk about how to love one another. How to raise strong children. How to be married. How to treat each other in relationships. How to communicate. How to heal one another of the effects of 400 years of ridicule, racism, disenfranchisement, terrorism, murder, enslavement, mutilation, segregation, discrimination, marginalization, and denied access to education, much of which is still perpetuated to this day.

BBD is worse, some of them be taking out their BM when they don't want to be with them no more or if they move onto another man.

My child's father was the bitter one.. didn't even speak bad about him infront of her but he would try to physically attack me on drop offs soo I got my mother to do it..when he realised that i werent showing up anymore, he didnt show up and sent 2 summons to get me in to court, both times I said "yes, he can have any visitations he wants" but I won't be interacting with him! Because he realised that the courts couldn't force me to meet him he walked out of court. 2nd time he did the same thing but his mom was there to finalise the case. We had to have pre visits to court, family court is silly and those few times he tried to ambush me outside soo I had to plan quick exits..still doesn't see his child to this day and when he does message her it's things like this saying bitter baby mom's ruin children.. my child reaches out to his family constantly but they never show up! She's old enough now to see I was never the problem! I made excuses for this man because my parents told me not to taint the view of a child's father. My older sister isn't my dad's child but she became his when he fell in love with my mom 40+ years ago..the only time i talk about him is when he or his people make plans and dont show up! Now I have to distract my child to cheer her up..Not fair on the children! 😢😮

This is why I left my ex. I found myself resenting my twins because of how he was treating me. I cut off contact because arguments would never end and he’d not consider how it was affecting the kids by me being with them the entire time. I didn’t want to mistreat my kids so I cut him off and went into therapy.

He didn’t have to say he was biased that shot him in the foot. However he cleaned up well afterwards. The children are what’s most important.

Very Well Spoken and Totally true Facts

Both😂

Now I'm not going to say that in perfect or a real one. I'm just honest. So with that being said my child is protected at all times. My issues with Dad has nothing to do with the child. Period and that child will never see that cuz hey I laid with them not that child. I take my lumps and do my job. These men expect you to chase them and beg them only to stop not come through. I can't do that. My time is valuable. I don't need anything making me upset all over again.... Making me feel less than all over again and whatever else we feel. I'm always the bigger person and honestly it's rough. Cuz you hope that Father will come through. Nope. I'm almost 50 I just don't have it in me anymore. So I just do my thing. It is what it is.

The message at the end is so true. My mom treated myself and my siblings according to her relationship with our fathers. Unfortunately, my father was extremely abusive towards her when they were dating, so much so that she had a miscarriage. He was killed when I was 12, but even before then he wasn’t in my life. My mom treated me horribly throughout my life, to the point that I began to have suicidal thoughts in middle school. On the flip side, the father of my little brother was a gentleman and always made sure that my brother was taken care of financially. As a result, my mom treated my brother much better than she treated me. He could literally do no wrong.

It goes both ways. Some men are so bitter to the extent they’d rather lie and have ur child taken away from u. Some men even go as far as threatening the new guy in the woman’s life that she may never be able to settle down with anyone, whiles he dating. I’ve seen both and it’s sad

Women catch the flack for actually being around. 75% of our fathers just dip. Bowing out shouldn't let you win by default. Thats not fair.

I never disrespect the other parent in the presence of my children. I want them to be confident and have the best childhood possible.

He's ALWAYS coming with knowledge and sincerity❤

These conversations are so vitally important today. I’m glad they are happening.

Omg I love this man. The way he speaks, the way he looks at the overall situation, the way he incorporates life situations and so forth. Whew..

He's right... i knew a girl who used to tell one of her kids "just like yo ugly ass daddy" 🤯🤯🤯 I ldgaf WHAT my babymama does, i would NEVER take it out on my daughter smh 🤦🏾‍♂️

Facts. When my parents divorced my mom took it out on us. My dad he was bitter too but we didn't see it on a daily and when we were with him he never directly showed it. My mom to this day 15 years later still don't see how bitter she was and still is. Avoiding therapy like the plague.

Babymommas can be bad but those baby daddies! Whew chile!

A broken home.

Straight facts he spittin!!

Bitter men is a whole different level.... i just dealt with one at work an he finally got fired.. now we on red alert because hes a manipulative narcissistic lil boy who cant control his mental stability... & THIS IS A COWORKER!!! I've dealt with more bitter men than women. Thats including family an coworkers

From my experience is bitter baby daddies. My dad gave my mom hell. She had to pay this man to come see us. All while he lying to his friends and family that my mom won't let him see us. Being the eldest child in my family, I tend to see a lot of stuff and I came to the realization that he didn't love us. At 13 years old, I told her, "don't even bother."

It's impossible to rank these but if the mom is the primary, then a bulk of the responsibility does fall to her. But, remember, that doesn't mean her bitterness has no source. My child's father spent years trying to maintain a relationship with his child through me, as many men often do. I spent just as many years intentionally keeping all things between us strictly about our child. We don't need to go out to lunch or coffee together, we don't need to send happy b-day or merry Christmas texts. We don't have to make small talk at all. The only thing that need be discussed is what our kid needs and who's going to do what part in getting it done. It was extremely difficult for me to monitor my words when my child asked me very direct questions, but I managed it. So all my difficulty came from the father. On his end I'm certain he would describe my refusal of all his friendship advances difficult. But as stated in the video, the child/children are the most important. I am my child's mother only, not his wife anymore. So my energy went to my kid, not the feelings of an ex. That was for him and his next two wives to tend to.

Bruh speaking Facts💯💯

Have you ever heard the phrase “You’re just like your father!” I got treated according to the relationship y’all had.

Abandonment has real consequences and we can’t ignore it or say it’s not just as damaging.Especially when everyone is walking around with abandonment wounds, bleeding 🩸 on everyone they meet. 😊So it’s both.

For my situation it's my kids donor. He was so bitter he walked out my kids life, If we couldn't be together he didn't want the kids. I was Blessed to Marry my husband who stepped in & filled the empty space. My son was 5 & my daughter was still in the womb when their donor left. My son is now 21 & my daughter is 16 & their donor is still bitter while me & my kids have moved on with life. I knew God would take care of me & my kids. We don't even talk about their donor. It's like he don't exist.

With that being said… bitter baby daddy’s be the worst!!!! Because it’s the least expected & most detrimental

I agree the man is more bitter because they are mostly petty enough to leave the kids and not fight. 😅

That's only from his perspective. I've seen bitter baby daddies and they are emotional trainwrecks

In my case, its def a bitter baby daddy. My father treated me so poorly bc my mom moved on.

Grew up with my mom telling my I look just like my ugly ass daddy. Yep fucced me up a little bit 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Both need to heal, forgive, and move on.

That "TRIPP TRUTH" ain't no joke!!

I immediately understood and felt bad for him. I wirked un childcare and group homes and saw the effects of what he experienced in real time. Some of them kids were hurt - mentally, physically, and emotionally- really bady. Sometimes it was even criminal the poor treatment.

That guy asking the question is a straight up troll.lol

I grew up with my dad my mom left when I was 8. My dad was sad but not bitter! He NEVER talk against her but he was definitely sad.

Yea. He is definitely biased. As a single mom, my son’s dad is so bitter that I left him that he refuses to have anything to do with my son. That’s the ultimate bitterness IMO. My father did the same thing to my mom. She never held me from him, never bad mouthed him, never weaponized me against him…he was just an asshole.

Bitter custodial parent. All a bitter baby daddy is going to do is disappear and disappoint is he doesn’t have custody.

The problem is that no body knows how to move forward...brake ups do happen..for good reasons..but the kids should never be affected...

I say bitter baby father because the father can be bitter and not provide for his kids out of spite. The woman will be bitter and do things to make the man miserable out of spite but for the most part she wont abandon her kids.

Nothing but facts. We as mothers have to put the children first. Forget your feelings about that man. Don't put it on the children. ❤

1 word, both.

We’ll said my brother bc i had to pray to God to keep me sane and not to hold bitterness in my heart towards my BD. It’s not healthy for me and esp our kids. i rather have my sanity and peace, Etc.

How is one worse than the other 😅.... yall killing me

If they were good parents no one should be bitter! 👍

THIS BROTHA STAYYYYYY ON POINT! HE STAY SHARP...JUST LISTEN TO HIS CONVO!

This is an individual answer. Everyone is not the same.

I witnessed my mom shaping the narrative that supported her pain more than telling the actual truth. We grew up angry at my father for leaving but we only had one side of the story.

The man spoke to my lite just now.

A bitter, baby momma

Some single moms can’t even date because they’re baby fathers are so bitter and out of control. Bitter baby fathers will kill you

I completely agree that women need to heal for themselves and their children. And there are men that are trying to be there for their children and the mother makes them pay for not being with them and it’s wrong. BUT I do not believe that’s the majority and many women are mislabeled as bitter when they are really tired and unsupported.

We're really weighing up what's worse neglect (abuse) or abuse 🤦🏾‍♀️ Lord help us.

A bitter baby daddy because he rationalize being absent an not providing for the child/ren

My mother covered my fathers infidelity, his abuse and constantly reminded my sisters and I how much he loved us. Our father literally started a whole new family while still being married to my mother and my mom encouraged us to respect and honor our father. Her love for him and us was the reason she stayed so long in an abusive relationship. She stayed until he actually threatened our lives. I know too many stories similar to mine and it doesn’t look too good on the father’s side. However I’m aware the “bitter” baby mama exists but not without reason. Imagine your organs being rearranged for 9 months, your mind, body, and spirit experiencing changes, and then the man who you chose to lay down with starts to become distant. That’s not easy to manage with a heightened state of emotions. Most women go through Postpartum depression, anxiety, stress and don’t know how to calm themselves from the heightened states of fear, frustration or anger so they lash out….perhaps like one would see a mother bear do when someone approaches her cubs. Listen I get that men have it hard but men understand that women are built different than you for a reason, and for those who believe in the Bible…scripture says that men should deal with their wives according to knowledge. I’ll take it a step further and say that men should deal with women according to knowledge and vice versa. Last thing that could help the average man and woman understand each other….. Women have a cycle which consists of 4 phases like the moon or like the earths seasons. Women have the menstrual, follicular, ovulation and luteal phase….the phase that messes most men and women up is the luteal phase. The woman is most agitated, frustrated, depressed and over it at this stage and it can last anywhere between 11 to 13 days 😂. So this is when men can make it easier for the woman…maybe say I’d like to take the kids to school for you or I’d like to take them for the week to relieve that pressure. We have been on this planet too long to not understand each other and I have to put the call to action on men because women are not here to hurt you, our nature leads us to help, nurture and heal but we are conduits and what you give us is what we will put out. Just my thoughts on the matter 😂

My mother always said no matter how you feel about the other parent, you keep it to yourself. The kids will see it for what it is. My dad did not have any restraints expressing his resentment.

Boffum. Don’t be bitter. Move on. Heal. Co-parent mentally healthy children. PERIODT‼️

It’s nothing worse that a bitter man because the woman is actually there taking care of her responsibilities regardless if she is emotionally bitter or not. The man is out here acting like he don’t have kids, going out building whole other houses-holds and bonds and expecting the woman he made a baby mama and kid/kids he left to just be cool with him just sending money and doing the bare minimum

He's right. What he's saying can't be debated. There's a higher percentage of bitter baby mommas

So true! But the Love we have for our mother makes us blind to bitter, and even controlling behavior 💯💯.

My daughter's father's absence STILL plagues her til today

Bitter baby daddy can check out the mother is there daily so she stressed and upset while the BD is living a carefree life.

Very WISE answer from the brother.

A bitter baby momma is way worse on so so many levels… currently going through it with my husbands ex. God bless her

This is true, I'm probably few of the single mothers that never bashes my daughter's father in her presence, and I treat very well so she can have other healthy relationships and pray our relationship continues to florish as well as hers with her father... but it's up to him at this point. My child will never chase a man, beg a man for love and attention. Is this fair to her no,but can't make a whole grown adult to be in his childs life. So being healed as a woman, mother prevents bitterness.

Enter Keke Palmer. She ain't safe nor is the child. I would hands down say the man is way more dangerous.

Absolutely agree! But being bitter no matter whether you’re the father or mother will affect the kids and someone has to be the voice of reason and have maturity no matter the sacrifices that need to be made. Protect children at all costs!

Neither should talk bad about the other in front of the children PERIOD

A bitter baby mama and a bitter baby daddy hold may hold the same bitterness. However, some actions labeled as bitter are not; it really depends upon the circumstances and relevant facts. A lot of primary care parents do not file for single custody of their children and even when they do they may be open to some form of co-parenting. However, if parent A does not allow parent B to form a healthy relationship with the kids, then parent B should take parent A to court.

A bitter baby momma will pop off and do crazy things but a bitter baby daddy will kill you 🤷🏾‍♀️ Men cannot handle rejection which is why you see so many BW getting killed

The woman will poison the child's mind and use them as bargaining chips He's spot on

I agree with Trip. “Hell hath no fury, like a woman scorned”. A bitter woman can be venomous and extremely toxic. Most bitter baby daddy’s just avoid the mom and lets her do the work alone.

Bitter men will leave their own children at their worst while women might TRY to hold the child and father separate at her worst. If men are good fathers they should fight for their kids and be in their lives to protect them even if the mom is throwing a fit.