I was in a 4 year relationship with a covert narcissist. He was always going out of his way to volunteer at churches and he would help anyone but me.

"Listen to what your gut is saying. Your gut is saying: I don't deserve this. And, I can do better."✅

Not only do they want to keep you tied to them, they want to make sure that you know that they are definitely NOT tied to you. No matter what, they will not show you any sort of vulnerability.

So glad to hear your explanation of the altruistic narcissist, Dr C. This is my ex. Very few people understand how vengeful, sadistic and degrading he was behind the scenes. "I'm the nicest guy you'll ever meet" was his go-to phrase. Even his tone of voice was perfect. I only once heard him roar with rage, and I almost couldn't believe my ears, and yet I lived in complete despair and deflated confusion for years. HIs conflict management was the sneaky, sadistic revenge that was difficult to trace back to him. It's been almost 5 years. I am divorced from all the family narcissists as well as my ex, and I am discovering I have a sunny, placid disposition, a gentle heart and a keen mind. Who knew?

I'm not getting sucked in by narcissists. Being in my 40's I don't have time for that crap anymore. I lost patience with them all in my mid 30's, went no contact with every single one of them and life has never been better.

Prepping for my first inventory, DrC! Can you believe it?! The narcissist I deal with told me over and over and over that my store would fail. I had one guest stand and chat with me today and they spent over $200! When they left they said they would be back and they hope my store is a huge success 💜. I can not tell you how grateful I am for you and for Team Healthy and for finally realizing the narcissists in my life will never change but I can and the change I needed to make was FOR ME and no one else. Listening now as I head home for the night. Have a great evening, Dr Carter! Edited for typos

Psych RN here 25+ yrs and cannot thank you enough for this generous and effective resource for healing - we had a family member who nearly destroyed our family with cluster b - mainly covert narc - THANK YOU !!! We love you Dr C! The reason I mentioned my profession is because I thought it important to express that your understanding and application of healing techniques is superior to anything I have come across in the clinical realm 🎉❤ (clinical professionals tend to avoid personality disorders and push them through the system due to the toxic behaviors making the unit hard to work on)

My narcissist used to lecture me about altruism and ask why did I like doing things for people because I do and I said I feel good when I do them. And he went on to tell me that I was very selfish for doing those things then because I wanted to feel good and therefore wanted something out of the exchange.

What an addition to my tortured life... We here find comfort in truth and reality through your podcast

Incredible how their MO is almost the same as I' m aware by the answer I read in your video. My husband was as a god on earth for the people who was around him , in the hospitals and in attending the patients ,as he was a pediatric doctor. He cared for our four children but me I had to take care of myself. It was a very difcult relationship. Oh! How it was.Good day, Dr. Les Carter.

Your example of the young man who changed after years of narcissistic behaviour amazed me. My ex-husband was precisely the same, briefly acknowledging he should change (going to AA etc.) but reverting to his original traits after a short time. He did this in relationships before and after me, so is a totally lost cause despite all the help and support offered to him.

Welcome back Dr C. So happy you enjoyed your vacation. You are the best at this. You break it down how these people operate. You also give those of us who have been involved with these people hope in how to heal, cope and get back to our authentic selves. Go Team Healthy. Dignity, Respect and Civility. That's where I'm coming from🎉🎉

Welcome back beloved Dr. C! We missed you and are equally glad you got a chance to get away! 😊

My eyes were opened up to the truth these last few years of your podcasts Dr C 😊Thank you so much😊 I found out im not the crazy one and now starting to trust myself 🤗 I feel so much freedom mentally it’s so liberating 😊

This is the way my Mum was brought up by her controlling Narc Father and shes the same way, trapped inside her adulthood is the little girl who was made to feel scared and not be taught to be independent. Thanks Dr C, you’ve helped me revealing another piece off the puzzle from my Narc Mothers Childhood

You are such a gift to ppl going through Narcissist abuse, Dr. Carter. I struggled through recovery on my own but was b4 cell phones & UT! Your messages, truthful & clarifying words are helping sooo many folks. I just want to sincerely THANK YOU

My husband has PROMISED me for 18 yrs that he's going to change.....Hes BROKEN EVERY PROMISE. The only way he'll change is if I LEAVE HIM. Im done with his covert narcissistic games..I.have actually aloud him to treat me this way by being too nice..

Dr C., I've heard you say, many times, that a narcissist will tell you that they're the nicest person you'll ever meet. And every time I hear you say that, I think of the time I told my husband's grown kids that, about myself! And the reason I told them that, is because I assured them that I wouldn't be a trouble making, manipulative new wife of their dad, eager to be a family trouble maker. Honestly, I meant that to the fullest. But everytime I hear you say, that's what the narcissist would say, it makes me worried about myself. But I also know, that I sincerely meant what I said, so I'm going to remain having a clear conscience, but I know I said that with a pure heart.❤

On point; my Nex volunteered at the local hospice, while lying, stealing, cheating, and harassing my family, even aging relatives with their own health challenges on the other side of the country. I was aware of her covert/malignant nature by that time, and when she tried to play the victim/martyr card, l called it out and referred to it as her false self. I was actually grateful that she had let her mask slip by that point, as it was obvious that it was time to step away from her, and give up trying to be supportive and loving of someone who was showing me so much hate. Thanks for your time Dr.C, blessings to you and your family ( including Gus!).

Beautiful beautiful..nature makes our heart happy, joy. It's good to go out at some times❤.

I was a teacher of adult students. I had the exact same experience, and over time I grew to be wary of students bearing coffee. He was late every day, and he brought me coffee and or cookies. He had a multitude of ways of taking control of things. It took a lot of time and energy away from my tasks just to deal with the guy.

Lately I think how much help court ordered Dr Carter videos could help society and not just the US. So what I said court ordered give em quizes after allegedly watching. It's a lot more helpful than doing next to nothing. From what I've experienced even the VA could show Dr C vids to group therapy folks. It's justa thought. Many blessings for a more peaceful and compassionate society.

How do narcissists view God? Do they practice religion just to keep up a good front? What do they think about sin? Thanks Dr C!

It's sooo tiring to have difficult inlaws with these deceptive altruistic behaviors. And yet they expect us to brunt their financial burdens. At 48yo, one AIL thinks we are still young and strong. And she commented we would be alright.

Dr Carter, May is a lovely time for a vacation. The night sky at Big Bend sounds amazing. 🌹

Glad you had a good vacation, glad you're back! Your education is so helpful! I'm beginning to learn, see, and know the pitfalls. It's about time. When younger, I seemed to attract narcs, for so many reasons. Now, I see them, much better. And that's all I do. See them. And now some people just shear off. My "radar" for spotting them is improving. Theirs, to not be called, is even better. It's almost funny.

One thing I would really like to know is why my narcissist brother avoided me at greetings and partings later in life. He lived with our parents; I lived far away and could only visit once a year at the most. Up until he was 30 or so, he would be there when I arrived in the living room with my folks as we got caught up on family news. They also all knew the day and time l would be going to the airport to go back home, and he would be with the folks to say good-bye. Then gradually, and especially in his 40's, he would avoid seeing me at those times. Only after sitting and visiting with the folks for 15 or 20 minutes would he come out of his room. Saying good-bye was weirder. He would make it a point to go wash his hair at about the time he thought I would be leaving. Sometimes I would wait for him to finish --- even 30 minutes one time --- but he would not come out. Then I realized that for some strange reason he was waiting for me to leave, that he didn't want to see me off. I could not --- and still cannot --- understand it. We got along well enough while I was there. I helped him do things and paid for things and bent over backwards to make it a pleasant visit for everyone. Yet he could not thank me like an adult would or even see me off properly. I don't know if this is within the narcissism spectrum or not, but it has always bothered me.

Looking forward to that webinar end of Feb!

I am learning so much from you! Thank you for you videos!! I have just gotten out of a 4 year relationship with a narcissist and you have helped me so much.

My mother is an overt narcissist, and my father is emotionally stunted, and wasn’t the kind to show any love, appreciation, or approval. So, I didn’t get love from either one. I am now in my 50s, and realizing my older sister may have strong narcissistic traits, and Im questioning some things as how to handle her recent silent treatment toward me. She has always been more self focused, expecting me to cater to her, I’m the one to travel to visit, etc. She tends to put me down and seems uninterested (at best) to any success I have, my kids have, etc. I figured she may struggle with comparing and jealousy, and I’ve always given her grace and I go with the flow. But she got mad at me recently in a texting exchange. She started texting derogatory things and seemed to think I was saying something I wasn’t. I tried to correct it in text, but she started gaslighting me, getting sarcastic, and then said she refused to consider anything I’d say. I tried to call her. I’ve left voice messages. ai re-read the texts and tried to see it from her point of view ( without her input since she wouldn’t tell me exactly what made her mad). And she has only texted me saying how dare I accuse her of misunderstanding… she is too busy to talk… she deleted the texts… and maybe one day we can address the big issues she has with me. She is a conflict avoider, so if she has problems with me, she hasn’t said them to me. I’m sure she has told her friends since she tends to gossip. At this point, it’s been 10 months since the last time she said she is too busy and may have time later. It baffles me after 55 years of being a pretty supportive, fun, caring, generous sister, I am discarded without a conversation. I left voice mails calmly saying I am open to anything she has to say, I love her, and I’m for her. And all I’ve gotten are cold, harsh texts or saying she is really busy and won’t have time for a conversation. I won’t text her because she twists words and gaslights, even though the texts show what I said. If she deletes it, it doesn’t actually disappear. So I think she may be like my parents and unwilling to face poor behavior on her end, even though I already told her in voice mail that I am only interested in making peace and moving forward. This feels like a huge loss, but perhaps it was a wake up call I needed. When is it ok to stop trying? My parents are worse than my sister and live their own life without any contact with me or my family. She is my last family member, but it apprears she is really good at silent treatment (except occasional text or snide comments on social media). Sigh. I’m grateful for your videos and all I’ve learned. I was studying narcissism and caught your first video ever when it was published! Thanks for listening. It feels therapeutic just to type this out.

Thank you 😊, Dr. C. , Ph.D.

My daughter got it into her head at an early age that I was trying to run her life. What I said was, "It's about time for your bath, sweetie, let's start picking up your toys." Her fear was that she wouldn't be independent, although she tried to manipulate me into doing all of her daily tasks for her. It was very confusing. So she fought me for "taking over" and manipulated me into doing things she should have done. Most of the child psychologists I took her to couldn't understand what was going on.

Thank you for therapy

Thank you 🙏 so much dr Carter ❤ God bless you❤

This is a n extra long one today. Thanks for taking the time!

Is it normal to feel obsessed with the narcissist when you are unable to get away from them? I feel so poisoned by my hatred for them and sometimes it seems to be all I can think about. I don’t want to hate anyone. I have to get along with them to keep the peace and I feel so inauthentic. I feel the need to tell them how I feel but that would probably cause me to lose my current support system.

Your description of an "altruistic narcissist" was a SPOT ON. Thank you for shining such a bright light on what can be a murky, confusing situation. That behavior makes it hard for victims to find allies in others who only know the person through their (very public) Good Deeds. Your videos are like a road map through an otherwise bewildering landscape. (Also, Big Bend is a natural treasure, glad you got to spend time there!)

Dr. Carter, this message is helpful for me. Altruistic narcissism is present in some circles. Repeated unhealthy methods of delivery aren't safe, as you stated. I certainly believe that a person's true character is revealed in what a person does when no one is looking. It’s easy to put on a show in front of people. Everyone can realize their strengths and weaknesses during conflict, disputes, or disagreements.

DR C - This video was highly impactful for me! I know because I laughed, cried, yelled out responses...just F-I-R-E today! Thank you!! QUESTION:: Is depression very common with someone who is narcissistic? Can someone with narcissism be successfully treated for depression? Someone in my acquaintance exhibits all the signs of covert narcissism (unacknowledged to themself, of course) and is in treatment for depression. Surprising to think they can recognize the need for treatment in one area, like depression yet never acknowledge the narcissistic "elephant" in the room!!

😢"Right now I feel like all the happiness has been sucked out of me." This is how J.K. Rowling describes the effect of dementors in Harry Potter. My narcissist achieves that in a blink of an eye with a well-placed, well-dosed strike whenever I have a sense of just going along with my things. It's very small overriding gestures on an energetic level like a wave of content when I drop something or they turn their back when they've just made a remark that I spontaneously open to as a normal reaction. It's like they eat what you produce as a snack, and that switches the light off. They have perfectionated cutting off your energy flow. I know what family my n. comes from. He has gone out of his way to try to understand my need to roam freely. He tries to schedule my freedom, which of course is against the concept of freedom. It's like he genuinely cannot understand how that works. But he wants me around and seems to notice that what he sees but doesn't have access to could really be something humanly significant. He showed me vulnerability at small occasions. But his survival mode is different, and he won't allow anything to make him lose it. I'm very aware he made a decision decades ago that he will never give anything out of his hands.

Talk about hit it on the head with the description of an altruistic narcissist!! 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

My parents were very good narcissists. It took me 34 years to see who they really are.

4:00 am I watch the sun come up. It shines on the north side of our mountains here in Colorado. Breathe taking. God is good. 🌟

Team Healthy thanks you for another great teaching video, Dr. C! 😊

I feel like it can't be repeated enough that we should not accept the judgments of those who don't take the time or make the effort to get to know us. I remember when my son was little and got in trouble for "hiding from the teacher". He was incensed because in his mind, he wasn't hiding - he just didn't stand up when told to, so his teacher couldn't see him. He had been talked to by his (understandably panicked teacher and principal), but they had been so upset, that they never listened to him. I took him on a walk and asked for his version of events. Then I empathized with how that did seem like hiding to him, but then asked him to imagine it from his teacher's point of view and how scared and worried she must have been. Once he was heard, he willingly admitted that he was wrong not to stand up when he was told to. We decided that from then on, hiding at school would mean being where the teacher couldn't see him.

Absolutely, Dr. C! On the receiving end of some kind of good will and then all hell breaks out! Yep! Been there, survived, and am still surviving that! Yep! Lol 🙃

Very bizarre Dr. C but everytime I listen to your videos that I hear sniggering and giggling throughout, think you find out who you might just find that narcissist. Hope they get the help they clearly need, bless them poorly puppies

Missed the LIVE roll-out so I'm catching up on the replay. Hey Hey Hello to all my Team Healthy friends, Dr C and SIR GUS!!

Idk if anyone watching DRC keeps up with the hip hop rap world some very major players have been torn down and they completely did it to themselves by crossing others boundaries , and crossing their own boundaries people are facing some very long jail sentences, the dark came into the light and the healing will begin soon ❤let’s hope many victims will hear about you Dr.C Prayers for healing ❤️‍🩹 & peace in this world

Dr.Carter, I am 70 years old and have been in a relationship with a narcissist for 25 years come February 5th. The other day I was in a Dollar General shopping and my husband left the store only to the store to run an errand. He came back and told me he wanted to leave. I replied that I wasn’t done getting the things I needed. Well, since I said that he started cursing at me loudly,so much so that the whole store couldn’t help but hear his voice. He told me he would remember this!!!, and called me some more Filthy things. I controlled myself and answered him calmly and reasonably . It was obvious to me he was trying to create as much of a scene as possible. This hasn’t happened before. What’s up with that??🤷‍♀️😖😳

100% Exactly on the altruistic narc!!

I've been "extremely low contact/gray rock" from my sociopath father and narcissistic mother since the start of the pandemic and now live in separate states. I recently received a text from dad saying "we are planning to come and visit, it’s been to long, will let you know when." When I maintained my boundaries and said no, I was instantly showered with love-bombing texts and a voicemail where he seemed to be crying! Is this emotion real? I'm used to his extreme rage to most circumstances, but not sadness and desperation. After 30+ years he could just now try another tactic to get into my life or is he realizing his mortality and now wants to form a better relationship?

Thanks dr c. Was really good discussing the altruistic factor which I've seen many times ✌

Could you elaborate about Weopondized Incompetence? I have a narcissistic "buddy" who cons people in doing things for him because he doesn't know how to do something or that he can't do it.

My older sister often gave me her handmedown clothes. In time she let me know how much she had given me and how unthankful I was.

Can people be narcissists as early as teen years? My sister was extremely abusive with put downs and name calling. She was 15, I was only 6. 60 years later and she is still doing it.

You sure came back feisty and frisky! Must've been a fantastic time!!!

I have started to pray for the narc s in my life. There is an improvement but am not sure if I can trust these changes yet. My faith is very weak! I just know that I can do nothing in my own strength. It would need something supernatural to ease the chaos in their heads.

Altruistic narc. My person in my life... they "volunteer" at a school all day every day. Then use this volunteer work as the reason he can't work and support the family. That all falls on me. Then when I say this shouldn't all be on me and also what about your own kids? It's "you don't support me" or "your score keeping". You don't have to keep score to realize your doing it all. And it's easy to see that you are volunteering for the accolades. Volunteering is great but not to the detriment of your family. I'm super happy you convinced that kid to go to college but who is going to pay for your own kid to go to college? The community thinks he's great. They don't see him behind closed doors. It's crazy making. I feel like I'm talking to the wall most of the time. He really thinks that I am the enemy because I expect balanced adult responsible behavior.

This speaks absolute volumes , Thank you so much for this DR Les, You're absolutely beautiful, , I'm very grateful for you, You're a beautiful kind soul, A great bloke, Peace, love, Respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to the universe 🌝😍🐶🌷🦄🐉👁👽😘🌹🐎🌈🌌💚💛❤💜😃💙

So true

Dr. C - But how can I tell if the narcissist is really changing? He seems so sincere, but he knows exactly what to do and say to appear caring. I have seen him do that with others for decades. Trusting again is a huge risk! If the only proof is his behavior over time, well, that period of time would be very rough due to my doubt…and due to his frustration that I would not trust him.

There you tell something... Indeed!! (At the beginning the sharp good questions from you. About how healthy....."I got you now" etc.)and you explanation about that.

Dr. Carter....why are so many marraige counselors so UNEDUCATED & ignorant about Covert Narcissism?? In 8 sessions of therapy with my MANIPULATIVE husb(28yr), I was targeted & blamed for all the problems even tho, thru TEARS from pain & exhaustion, I would try to tell this guy , Samir, that he's getting played & explained over & over again, all the emotional neglect & disrespect I deal with on a regular basis. It went right over his head & he actually would remark at how calm my husband stays while I'm upset! These "Therapist" cause more TRAUMA for the victims & dont even seem 2 care that a husband or wife is being HURT....very frustrating.. I walked out on session and am done with my marraige... I NEVER thought my husband would be so cruel to me. It took 10 yrs b4 his true colors came out. We RARELY FOUGHT. Im NOT LIVING THIS NIGHTMARE ANYMORE. Thank u for your support and help. I will not let him break me..🙏😘❤🤗2all😇

SOOO TRUE. Thank you Dr. C. From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA

There are stars in universe as there’s sands on planet earth, our star sun is relatively small star, they are light years away from one another go figure how big our universe is, our universe is 94 billions light years across. this shows how insignificant we are relative to universe but yet we are the most significant part of universe without human brain as if there is no universe.

I love so much Dr. Carter❤ waching You / videos just feels so good becouse You remind me of everything good posible happent to me, happynes laughter , my youngest age of 27 when i had lucky- the most beautiful time/ experience in my life in US in 2001 you are so cool there , so wery kind warm hearted people and most important, very friendly I just love there never ever forget Amerika God bless you and🇲🇾❤❤❤❤❤❤

Dr C., Gus is so much a part of your presentations. I love dogs too and have always had one. Would you address the narcissist and pets??? Is it possible for the narcissist to love an animal? We have always been a dog family and both siblings had dogs. Yet, their behavior with the animal sometimes was weird. I would get the impression that they never wanted another person to get too friendly with the dog. Am I wrong?

Ok You just answer😊 thank you!

My ex was the nicest person until we got married ten I was the stupidest person I made it almost 10 years but have made it on my own for9

My altruistic covert but wanting to be a big shot narcissist hid behind his voluntary service in Vietnam 😊 truth is he got kicked out of school @ 15 for violence & he ran a gang until his cop dad gave him a choice of jail for juveniles or war. His mother didn’t want the golden child to go into the Army but @ 17 his father signed off on him & he came back as a hero who traded on that story for a lifetime of exploitation. He’s a lover, liar, a leaver, a cheater, a stealer, a beater 😢

I think I've finally gotten to a point where I am able to see the red flags ahead of the point of 'no return'. I just met two fellows, sons of old friends, one has red flags hoisted all around him. Over the top, bombastic, quite outrageous, can fix everything, sort out everyone's problems....etc I reviewed a recent interaction with him and saw how his behaviour leads to people around him, including me, glossing over the inappropriate stuff, or when he isnt leading the interaction he becomes different. There is nothing wrong with the uncomfortable silence, I can see now I need to employ this tactic as he's one those who will always 'out' outrageous you, 'jolly' you into doing something that goes just past your comfort zone, tell stories waaayyy too similar to things you like so you start to over share. No thank you is a complete sentence. Silence is communication Filling my calendar with healthy people and wholesome activity, sorry, not available to (fill in the gap) I thank Dr. Carter for helping me to get to this point that I can see this stuff ahead of the slippery slope Thank you!!

I was married to a covert narcissist, she said to me that she didn't remember our wedding night.

Missed the chat but that seminar.... is so my spawn point YES she was an Altruistic dark triad! What I enjoy is that I follow the path of bhakti yoga and the teachings of Swami Vivekanada helping others to heal. I devoted my life to Charitable giving, devotional prayer, altruism, and love. Her fake altruism helped me find ACTUAL Altruism. I believe that she is a martyred soul. The universe wants balance and some times it takes a great villian to create a great hero. No one wants to be the bad guy but someone HAS to do it. I will always love my mother's soul. But I HATE, DESPISE, am SICKENED by, and I will NEVER FORGIVE her!

😂😂Your start up.

Why won't they let you go? I blocked him on everything and he created a new email address

Don’t answer the phone when they call and turn on Dr. Carlson ASAP❤

My question: How do you break off a relationship with a covert narcissist? I've seen the grey rock video which is helping. But I'm worried about a backlash as covert narcissists seem to have some sociopathy.

Please say hi to Gus for me!😁

I felt like she owned me

There is always conditions in their nicety, it will cost you later for sure

Yep ! I’ve heard it called mapping..

Is it common to feel like the narcissist has two different personalities? In my experience, it seems like there is a very kind, vulnerable and caring individual that seems to be fighting a very mean, entitled and beligerant personality. One of them seems to love and respect me and the other seems to despise me. It's very hard to come to terms with. Am I dealing with something unique?

In the back of the class saying yes, being nice from a narcissist is a trap. Still seeing these days. Hopefully not much longer. Notice the niceness includes the narc, lol. Never just for you, alone, but always done jointly.

cannot have a regular conversation of even true facts so long as the facts don't interfere with their interactions, they act accused then all poor me and deny for minutes to hours to days that they 'have nothing to do' with whatever it is and then surely soon we hear that they are...

I didn’t find out the ugly side of husband until I go married to him 😢

The ex husband is one of those.

Before you even start the questions I want to say that a lot of how you describe the Narcissist also describes the Alcoholic/Addict..

Hi❤ narcis.are they jealous on your independence? ' couse they dont have? Are they feel independent,free people át áll?

I think I’ve recently had the craziest light bulb moment. The narcissist in my life has recently “changed for the better” and it truly seems he has actually improved in ways he never has before. He’s no longer controlling, he doesn’t rage anymore and I’m able to make decisions on my own. I’ve come to realize this all feels so foreign to me and as twisted as this sounds, I wish he was back to his old ways. Is THIS an example of being bonded to trauma? Or am I just being selfish? Lots of very mixed emotions within me at this time 😢

False humility..

A guy(narc)I was with (he used me for his own so I think it's not even an ex)he told me about a female friend he knew and now he is with her!!!! They were talking and she said something..maybe about a topic ..and she thought the same he did...and that was I think to him , special, maybe others did not think the same way he did. This he told me about the same thinking while he was (later I knew it for sure) already planned something against me, smear campaign and that all a narcissist is so famous about. This woman, he knew about 6 years earlier, had sex with her and I ask him why he was not with her than, (in love)he said (if it was meant to be)he already have had been with her.(blabla to me)but I think he used other woman but compared and when another relationship stoped, he soon was with this oldtimer. He was with her...kissing...when he had a steady girlfriend. This woman he is with now(oldtimer)she looked at me as if I had done wrong but we don't know eachother, but he ofcourse spoke nasty and have of course arranges everything that everyone will tell her also lies, they believe from him. Anyway...this story was about the same thinking thing. So for that I think he is from than on, pro that woman, only base of a few words than when they were much younger, maybe to him it was a aha moment nd he took her seriously and let's say..uhhhh.....respect her..

Do they know when they behave like most of the time the simple fact that they can be not normál ? no good something with them - they realize?, Or no capacity ?!

What's up doc....

Dr. Carter, I have a question after hearing your coffee guy instance...Is it considered altruistic if a person belly aches to you about their poor circumstance (s), you help them without them asking, they complain about WHAT you've done FOR them and /or say AFTER , "I never asked you for or TO help".....please help clarify this confusion for me ...thank you!!!!

First am must apologise for some comments I sent . I was in bad mood . Have I just tried my narcissistic wife to see sense ., again . She as the ops in to live with my daughter or my son who is coming over in July from Vancouver . I said ok . But she keeps coming back . She could move into my daughter house now . I would stay in are house. What am trying to say what game is she in .I don't know if it's the finances which she control .I have no problem with this unless she is not using it right . The situation I don't get it

Dr C,how does one give u the questions for u to talk about on your show?

Dr. C, Which mask is the real ‘person’?? I’m not sure which person is the ‘true self’. I’m leaning towards the angry one.

m DR C if your back in the saddle again where is your cowboy Hat? Lol

Can you speak frankly about Trump? I’ve never seen a Narcissist info channel willing to do that, probably for fear of losing subscribers. But for once I would just like to hear an expert opinion on Trump. My narcissistic family is totally enamored with the guy, and I don’t get that, at all. What is up with that? P.S. To anyone looking to argue with me here, I’m not going to do that. Because as a person, you are entitled to your opinion 100%. I’m really just interested in what Dr. C thinks on the subject. Thank you.