I cannot thank you enough for being so supportive while I go through this grieving process. My heart breaks hearing you touch base on your story and many others who haven’t yet gotten to share their stories.

This is why I see countless videos of the good foster parents quitting, not the bad kids.....the bad social workers chasing them away. Good foster parents are tired of fighting the system.

I think it’s ironic when I was put into an abusive foster home when I was a young teen, and I told my social worker, so did my foster siblings, but nothing was done. But somehow children are being removed from loving homes, make it make sense.

So sick and tired of these states causing more trauma to children! I fostered for 8 years in the states, and I was lied to, over and over. Moved to Alberta, Canada and it’s been 8 years of fostering here. I’m blown away by how the system is run here. I have a support worker, the bio family has a worker, and the kids have a worker. Everything is decided as a team. Is it perfect? No, but it’s a better system than the US. Traumatizing these kids that they are training us how to parent is ridiculous. It’s so frustrating and maddening. Kat has her act together more than an entire state CPS does.

I was in foster care from the age of 3 months on up to roughly 16 years old. They kept sending me back to my abuser ( my bio mom ). I was in at least 15 different foster homes. It was very traumatic on me. I also had a brother murdered in foster care in 1967. Everytime they sent me to my abuser, a few months later I was removed. Then about a year later back to the abuser. I am still in contact with one of my foster moms. I'm now 57 years old.

I need to go watch her video because it sounds so similar to my foster experience. When I was 22 I fostered two disabled teens. Just over one year of fostering we went in for a meeting and they were sent back to their parents. The goal was always reunification and I fully supported the parents but they weren't ready and everyone knew it. The parents shared their desire for reunification but explained they didn't even have beds for the children yet and asked for more time. The sw said "either you take them today or you don't get them back at all." No one knew it was coming. I wasn't allowed to tell anyone I wouldn't be picking them up. I couldn't say good bye to them. Without going into detail, things were back to exactly how they were within a week of the kids moving back in. And I fell into the deepest depression of my life. I've been working the last 15 years to get out of that depression and I'm not out yet. Also, I'm so sorry you had to go through this. It's devastating.

I've been following Kat for the past year, and am so horrified by what happened to her and those kids. Thoughts and prayers to everyone in similar situations.

CPS is corrupt and doesn't care one tiny bit about "the best interest of the child." 😢

There is always a call for more foster carers, never enough foster families… yet this is one of the reasons people won’t foster, because of dealing with the authorities and the overarching forms of abuse in power. There’s a reason they have a high turn over of families, it’s not a lack of loving families who want to foster.

Foster care is not free. I have a feeling there is some financial factor at play here. Either the government or the parents ran out of money for those particular children.

This is why we are giving up our license. Our agency brought an allegation against us that we were "mentally, emotionally, and physically unfit to care for children" because we called the agency director unprofessional. Instead of having a meeting about it, like we requested in writing multiple times, they disrupted our interstate adoption process, dragged us through a six-month long investigation, tried to convince my therapist to change her professional opinion, and ultimately gave us a letter stating, "Turns out, you weren't in violation of any rules and you can proceed with your adoption." Our adoption which had already been brutally smashed to pieces by their retaliatory investigation. 💔

That’s awful. I’ve been watching you on and off for more than a year or two. You can see how loving and selfless you and your husband are. I’m so sorry. That’s awful and God bless you.

Ex foster youth here. I was nearly 16 and living in a group home. I was removed in the middle of the night with no notice or ability to pack my things. I had been there for nearly 18 months. I was due to move into a foster placement 2 days later. I'd been working towards getting into a foster home and out of group homes for 4 years. I wasn't able to say goodbye to anyone. I had a bearded dragon with complex health needs and he wasn't brought to me for months. My room wasn't locked and most of my things were stolen, including the only things I ever received from my dad.

This video made me cry…I absolutely loath the foster care system. From 4 months until I was 11 (when mom finally signed off rights) many homes, a few states and they kept trying to reunite with my biological mother. I knew I didn’t want to be with my mom. She always left me with strangers for weeks and I’ve seen things no one should ever see as a child. They moved me from homes a felt safe in to put me in another home closer to where my mom lived. I’ve gone to summer camp and the state shows up to say I would be on a plane that night to Florida. My foster parents already had our stuff packed and in the car. They caused me so much trauma that I haven’t gotten help with still to this day. There’s so much more to my story… I’m glad to hear your story in the foster parent side. For years I wanted to know why no one wanted me, finally connected with someone and they said that wasn’t the case. The state wanted to reunite me with my mom. Broken System in many states. Vermont, New York, Connecticut and Florida are the states I was fostered in. I was adopted for a paycheck, when I turned 18 I was left with no one. I have depression and anxiety really bad (I don’t take medication) I doubt people’s love for me, I question every interaction I have with people, maybe I said the wrong thing or they probably don’t like me.

My friend was a foster care parent for many years. A lie caused the agency to remove all the children from her home. I remembered how hard I wept over one of the children who was like a daughter to my friend. The allegations were deemed unfounded and that one girl was returned. That happened when she was 12; and she remained in my friend's home well after she aged out. She's now in her 30s, a mother of 4, two of whom are my godchildren. Foster care can work out if the system will work towards it. When it goes wrong, it's devastating for everyone and a source of lasting trauma for the children.

Thank you for touching on how the states are doing this not only to good foster parents but good birth parents as well!! I keep running across more and more instances of families being traumatized by the system! 💔

My husband and I went through a very traumatic removal of a child we were planning on adopting. It was horrific and to be honest , I don’t recommend being a foster parent to people the way I used to. We will never foster again to protect our children in the home. They were hurt the most by what happened. The system is so so broken.

Same thing happened to me, after 3 years of having my niece placed with me, they took her in 2 days, because "I wasn't fit to take care of her" whatever that means. Agree to much power in the hands of people who don't understand trauma.

More people need to start listening to the kids x

Kat if you’re reading this please know my thoughts and prayers are with you I’m sorry you and the kids are experiencing that.