Blocking the person that paid for your wedding is crazy 💀

The Wedding Planner's mistake was thinking she was working for the bride and not the person paying for the wedding.

"We can't be ruthless to our children, no matter how cruel they are to us." Ooh really.

he did the right thing. your daughter is a brat.

Eva should get in contact with her biological mom. She seems to be under the impression that OP is the reason for breaking the marriage. I think meeting with her biological mom would give her a good reality check.

Ava deserved to be alone. I have a sister who pushed everyone away out of hatred and anger. Then had the nerve to cry that no one loves her. I went no contact. Now my aunt thinks I should be more forgiving. I do forgive my sister, I'm just not going to put myself in the position to be treated like trash again so I stay away.

If she didn’t want you in the wedding she should have said no thanks to the money

My wife and i paid 35 dollars for our courthouse wedding, 21 years ago. We are still going strong If it is about LOVE, she won't care about the venue. 20-30k would be WAY better spent as a house down payment, or a paid off car.

Some people can't be saved, even your own kids.

If Ava hates her dad, then she can cut contact with him and pay her own wedding.

Sad how this dad tried to be fair with his daughter calling her out when doing bad stuff yet helping her when she needed help. And still be treated as the bad guy. She had a good father. Wish luck to op.

Your daughter is pure evil. And she never loved you. Never talk to her again.

“We cannot be ruthless to our children” yes you can, that develops their character and gives them boundaries. Teaches them lessons

I woulda canceled that sh*t too. Good job!! I'm tired of these soft ass parents these days. You're the parent. I have 2 daughters so I'm most likely going to have to cross that bridge one day. And let me tell you, I can almost guarantee neither one of them would try me like that. I've been the #1 staple in their lives since birth, they already know what to expect 😂.

The very idea that "Ava" thought she was going to get her father to pay for her wedding then get away with him not allowed to be at the wedding. She deserved it. There are times when that level of a wake up call is needed. "Mercy" made more than the full effort, and "Ava's" racism is a huge issue. She lost all of that because of herself. Christopher Titus' mom Juanita was just like "Ava", as she blamed Ken Titus (the comic's father) for everything. I am just glad that she is getting help even if she doesn't forgive the first OP.

Psychopath is what comes to mind. I don’t mean it in the dramatic sense but in the clinical context.

Nothing better than some good creative writing

Narcissism can be hereditary. In this case, she got it from her mom.

If your kids can't afford to pay for their own wedding they dont deserve to get married. Thats one of the first tests if you raised your son or daughter to be SELF sufficient! No one owes anyone anything but respect and thats a two way street.

OP's daughter is really mad her mother. But, since her mother wants nothing to do with her she takes out on the OP. She wants OP to be miserable like her.

It be your own family. I believe in tough love and won’t shed a tear if you disrespect me.

"I cut her access to the main gate" 😂 okay Bruce.

Some of us just like older men Ava. It’s not that deep 🙄🙄

My brother is the same as Ava, blaming everyone else for his mistakes.

Some children are so ungrateful and entitled. I agree with the dad. Hopefully when his daughter has kids one day she will get a clue.

Story 1: It's good that OP's daughter was saved, but it's sad that their relationship couldn't be saved.

Good going Dad. You did the right thing. Bravo!

The divorce impacted her to the point where she let her anger get the best of her. . .

Story1: i dont believe Eva changed at all in the end. I think she only made up with OP's Parents to ensure she gets a cut of the "generational wealth" OP mentioned, from the grandparents will. Based on the story i believe this more with how manipulative, narcissistic and immature she is. She is definitely thinking of using his parents as her new bank account.

Dude you most definitely did the right thing, no disrespect but your parents were wrong , In my opinion you should always love your children unconditionally. But you could always love your children from a distance especially if they are acting ungrateful!!!! Hope you and your wife mecy have 😊a happy and blessed life together, I also feel.the father and grandparents were partly to blame because they over spoiled the girl.

I’m happy that Op cut off the funding for her daughter’s wedding. Let other family pay for the wedding.

I didn't understand until he said his wife's credentials. I think he felt he LIVED with a child expert so didn't get her a seperate therapist.HUGE MISTAKE.

NTAH. She had it coming. He did the right thing, and he clearly still loves her.

Second dude is in denial. She clearly was going with the next guy

Wait mercy is a teacher?! I have a aunt who is a teacher and her name is also mercy 😮

He shouldve done more tough love like this when she was a kid. She might have had a chance to not be the way she is now.

Story one I've heard this story before and your daughter does hate you very much I don't think she'll ever forgive you but me personally I've always had this innate ability to cut people off and no matter who they are I don't care if they're my mother and my father my brother my sister it doesn't matter who they are I can cut anybody off and never care about them again so if my daughter hated me this much I would just tell her the last time well I hate you too don't ever contact me no matter what you want and then I would disconnect from her and never speak to her again, probably if she killed herself I probably wouldn't feel any remorse over it whatsoever because something in me is strange that I have no feelings for things like this I love my family yes but if someone hates me so much I find it easy to hate them back and I would not feel any pain if they killed themselves or died in any way whatsoever, that's just me I know it's wrong but I can't stop it I don't know what it is maybe I need therapy but it is what it is

Those reditors just make up so many stories

Perfect...Cancel that s**t, she would have gotten divorced anyway.

Okay, so you hate your dad and don't want to have anything to do with him. But then you had no problem taking his money? Wow.

I just realised homie named the wife and daughter after overwatch characters 😂

The grandparents sound like they had a hand in enabling the entitled, selfish behavior.

Whoever is the person playing the game is the real hero

It's not "ruthless"..... they're "consequences"......

You should never let them make you feel guilty about their guilt

You have done a good job. If children's don't treat there parents correctly or as a family. Then the parents also need not treat them. They should know the hard life of society.

He did the right thing!! I would have done the same thing but with a smile!

As a child growing up, you shielded her from the consequences of her actions. Now you're gonna act like a parent when your feelings get hurt. You created this monster.

Lmao. She fucked around and found out

This girl needed a therapist early on. I wonder if she ever had one, or if she is just a narcissist.

You are great! And you are a real man and father!!

As soon as i heard "drinking to deal with the sadness" all i could think of was that sad guy meme about hiding pain

Many ppl say "while all children deserve parents, not all parents deserve children well it's true but the opposite of this is also true.

😢😢. Hello, first time hearing about your lovely family story. I love it.

"How dare you move in in life and never enabled my bad behavior like a good father! You OWE ME!!" WHERE to does she, or anyone, get this from??

If she didn't feel supported by her father, she never should have taken his money. I don't blame him one bit. She's not a good person.

You did the right thing bro!

Did the right thing. Do not feel bad shes has taken it out on you because her mom threw her away

Good. Sadly my daughter did the same to me except hid it from me, my youngest son & husband. My parents hid it supporting her bratty & disrespectful attitude & did nothing to correct it. Very hurtful & wrong.

Ava really needs the therapy she seems to be finally getting. This is likely at least largely directed at her mother for abandoning her, but it's coming out at everyone within reach. All that said, however, I don't fully believe the father's view of the situation. It reads too much like the posts on Estranged Parents forums, where someone will explain in all apparent innocence that "I have simply no IDEA what I did to hurt her this much!" while in the same post, explaining in explicit detail exactly what their child said they did to hurt her that much. It's possible that everything is exactly as written. Or it's possible that both Ava's mother *and* father were hurtful to her, in different ways. Regardless, Ava needs the therapy -- because if her father did hurt her so much, she needs to learn how to absorb that and move on with her life without the trauma damaging her other relationships, while if it's exactly as her father said, then she needs to learn how to absorb her mother's abandonment and stop letting *that* damage all her other relationships, including the one with her father. Either way, though, she seems to be letting her hurt from at least one parent and maybe both damage her friendships and her marriage, as well as her physical and mental health. I hope she learns to do better for herself, but don't think she's out of line for not wanting to see her father anymore.

I think the mother leaving Ava might have affected Ava emotionally and the mother might have fed her lies before she left. OP should have gotten her some help and shouldn’t have let his daughter’s behavior slide by sending her somewhere else instead of getting her help. I believe, before the mother left she might have been the one to feed Ava lies since there shouldn’t have been any reason why Ava was accusing Mercy of being a gold digger

Her Grandparents should not have housed her, it seems they did not even try to stop her from taking drugs.

OP definitely needs to take out a restraining order for him and his wife.

Blood means nothing if you don't matter in their eyes but simply as an ATM, you can be the same as water and care about someone more.

"How sharper than a serpent’s tooth it is to have a thankless child." Shakespeare’s King Lear, 1605

this is what happens when you give your children love but not discipline twhen they do something bad , hem

My 30-something daughter went all woke and leftist - and decided that the worst people in the world were western, straight, middle-aged white men ie 'my kind'. So, I simply cut her off. I won't fully disinherit her - but I now see some other places more deserving of the money I'd intended for her: charities, her brother, my girlfriend, me! - but she'll still end up with something significant. That happened about 5 years ago. To start with, I thought about it and her every day. Now, maybe once a week. Hopefully soon once a month and then fade away. I won't tolerate racism, sexism and ageism in anyone and not in my daughter - especially against me.

Y’all say he should have sent her to therapy as a teen but maybe he thought a different environment would be more helpful. Therapy gets a sort of negative look especially as a teenager

Ava is a prime example of why parents need to show tough love on their kids before they turn into this abomination. If i were op and I was treated this way then those spankings would've done it's job and show'em who's providing their needs since birth. Just because parents are supposed to provide for their young doesn't mean the child shouldn't have some form of discipline if bad behavior or actions come up. Without it kids like that grow up thinking that way and mess with the wrong person which will put them in their place. Sad but true.

She doesn't deserve anything when she can't appreciate all you do. She will be ok.

My daughter's story and yours is exactly the same. Her father left us soon after birth. She had birth defects that needed surgery and intense care. After that the story is the same. Only I don't have contact with my granddaughters.

You did right have her pay for it and her husband

man, I like these fictional stories created by chatbots. more plz

Eva, Ava, Evah, etc etc. bro, get her name straight.

It doesn't matter if their your children. All love is conditional. You treat people like shit, they will walk away

That daughter was clearly never allowed to deal with the consequences of her actions and it shows in her behavior. She needs to be left to hit rock bottom and deal with the fallout that she created without having a net underneath to catch her. Otherwise she’ll never learn

NTA. Pretty extreme, but not NTA. A bit joyfully extreme TBH

You can be as ruthless to people as they are to you, regardless of their relation to you. Don't dish it if you can't take it.

You damn right!

hey , Qley I have one question... do you get these from reddit or you generate your own script?

Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you'll never please some people. He was the villain in her psychological tragedy. No matter what he did, she will always see the bad. While painful, you need to separate from those types of people, family or not. Trying to please, then will get you nothing but rejection and pain. Maybe, if given what they've asked for, they see the error in their thinking. Nevertheless, a drop of poison will kill, literal, and metaphorical. She is the poison in the well of his life.

She’s pissed because dad was doing his best to make her mind and grow up as a decent human. Oh the horror. Some brats can not be saved. I’m on the dad’s side.

I’m calling it from experience. I’m betting grandparents are somewhat to blame or influenced what Ava is like. They didn’t see the problem until the behavior started being directed towards and affected them.

*Where's The Video With The Rest Of The Updates!*

The AI really can't write cohesive stories just yet.

Forget that! He should've took EVERYthing back!

Court house is still free of charge right?

Why does she remind me of someone I went to uni with named Eva?🤣

Brittany Smallpox did this to me!

Op did the right thing, that's low key disrepectful, the man pays for his daughters wedding and she don't even tell him or his wife, HER OWN PARENTS that their not invited. when was she even going to tell Op and his wife, when they're at the wedding but denied entry?!

Sounds like Ava has something pressing on her brain..... she needs an MRI

I would have called excorscist at some point lol

Let her hit rock bottom and deal alone for a while.

This spoilt adult child just learnt a valuable lesson don't backstab the people that are paying for your stuff, the lesson was doubly poignant as the consequences happened before she could reep the rewards, and to add salt to the already deep wound she will lose any future help because not only did she burn that bridge, she destroyed the foundations the bridge needed to be rebuilt. I really don't get the her thought process, like whatvdid she expect was gonna happen when her mother and father turn up for the wedding and get refused entry, i doubt any family on her side will stick around when they find out the bride excluded her own parents, i doubt the grooms family will think much of the bride when they find out their new daughter in law can be that heartless.

You paid for everything she did for 26 years.? Wow, what a self-centred B ! You were 100% correct in what you did. It Is hard when your own child is a Karen to you and your 2nd wife!

Good job. If I was blocked they There’s not enough security for keeping me from at least entering Thanksgiving, my friend

Daddy's RIGHT

Any friend that would hear that story and believe he owed her half the ticket cost is not a friend and can leave with her lol

Its 2024, why are adults PAYING and going into debt for ADULT CHILDREN to get married!!!

Don’t take action based on anger, take action on what is best for all concerned including one’s self. Actions based on emotion is very risky and can often backfire. BTW, we all need to stop this nonsense in calling so many people a narcissist. It is so often inaccurate.