Very well said!

I agree with you. My husband cheated on me a year ago. I tried to work on our marriage and he simply minimized it. He currently told me he didn't love me anymore and he stopped loving me 4 years ago. He asked for a divorce. I feel so had for our 2 children. They're the happiest kids. I'm so mad at him for breaking apart our family

Its very hard to accept that love sometimes ends. That emotions for a person can change , that a human being is weak .And that these men will not take responsibility for the " betrayel" that is bad , because they cant CONTROL their own emotions . They cant FORCE themselves to love the person they no longer love. So they dont feel responseble, but still OBVIOUSLY they are parents , many men cant distinguish the feelings for the mother of the child ( falling out of love with her) and still beeing a parent for children they have with her. So they leave both the mother and the children. Thats very imiture behavior , but many men have never looked at their feelings and analyst them , and many people are totally unable to do that

I did not even see the red flags. Not until right at the end. But a phenix rose out of those ashes and I will never be fooled again.

Right

Exactly. He is a jerk. He’s probably like most cheaters he is a pathological liar. How in the world can someone be grateful that their spouse cheated on them? Absolutely unbelievable.

@@connieherndon9614 Exactly.... If anyone stops loving you, you should hate them and if you can, make sure their life is completely ruined; including making sure your children loath them and don't want to know him. People who stop loving you don't deserve to live!

Me too it’s a killer !!! Still can’t forget it although it’s more than 10 years 😞

Thank you so much, you too!

Luckily for us, we can still trust our government.

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Are things getting better Maddi?

SLAIR 1590 I’m so sorry. Yeah it’s hard to see that things will be okay one day. I know when I was going through it I thought I’d feel that way forever. I’m here if you ever need someone to talk to! ❤️

Please in my opinion i don't think anyone should die in silence, you can get help sometimes all you need is just ask

How are things now 2yrs later?

They say time heals. I hope you find that healing. I too was betrayed and cast aside as if I never existed. True pain. Immeasurable

100% !!!

You will dear , I’m struggling with the same thing

I appreciate that I could help you express what isn’t always so easy to say in words music is the only outlet that doesn’t leave you feeling judged

Finally. The truth. I forgave him long ago(he abandoned us as an addict).I’m 76.engaged 12 times..never re married. He’s been married for years(not happiness though). Being abandoned never totally heals.period. I trusted us.

Or, good and loyal wife. Women do it, too.

Why are these angry as man not reading the comments correctly. Even talking smack about these good women talking about things she never even said... Notice this comment never mentions men being unfaithful. She just said that when ppl cheat is horrible thing to do to a spouse.

Aga Tron, hope you are with a good man!

Yes of course, how are you doing,please can will talk in private

Don't lie to us, I guess you stole some candy when you were a kid. Stolen candy is sweeter than the one you're given for free.

2 sides to every story. cheating happens when comnunication drops and not tuned in to ur partner. Shit happens! Dont be surprised.

@@tomas0170 not true. It can definitely be one sided especially with addiction issues.

@@tomas0170 if they r the ones to drop it!!!

Please don't be hard on yourself, the only way out is through. Don't suppress your feelings or you will bleed later on others. Be kind to yourself

Be kind to yourself! What she says about forgive yourself, it is really true! Best wishes dear 🎀. Hope u can reach out to this gal I think that's a good idea. Can never have too much support. Thinking of you, Granny🎀

Do they though, I’m just a more experienced, smarter, less blissful person. Ignorance IS bliss. At least I’m not ignorant.

thats really a painful story I can't believe him doing this to a beautiful women like you...... Do you mine if we talk and get to know more about each other text me on hangout larymark419@gmail.com

So your ex husband got married for the 3rd time???

Is it hard that got married or that the new wife is crazy?

Beauty has nothing to do with who people are or how people should treat them. I was quite beautiful as a young woman yet it didn't stop cheating. Being beautiful doesn't make anyone special.

@@chericarpenter-lundstrom6897 definitely looks don't change a poor character. Had nothing to do w cheats. Just want to validate.

Right ❤

Curious to know who qualifies?

@@xoxo-vp7ww These days no one qualifies. You gotta love yourself and be alone perfectly fine.

Looks aren't everything, If you are genuinely not enjoying each others company do you stay just because your partner is attractive?

@@MX-CO it’s not a woman fault a man cheats. That is a choice. Whatever reason ,he is responsible for that decision. He most likely will do it again.

@@Surfsup448 My comment wasn't about cheating, just in general about staying together.

It makes you more mad at the person because they make you feel like they ruined your life. I’ve been in 3 relationships since, but I can still feel that change in me. I absolutely was changed for good. It’s sort of like being at war. Once you see and experience something like that, you can never un-experience it or get the old you back. We ARE victims, so don’t let people tell you to stop playing victim. You can choose to learn and grow from it, but you can still never get your old self back. I will never consider myself a Survivor because I can never revive my old self ever, ever again. Sure, I’m surviving, I’ve moved on, had a family, but I’m still not the same. So that to me, is not surviving. It’s damaged goods. By someone else’s actions. Life long damage that can never be fixed, because it already happened. Can’t unsee it. People spend too much time on trying to forgive. I simply see that person as a piece of shit equivalent to a murderer, because he killed me, he killed my soul. I have strength, maturity and all of that. He still killed my soul. The repayment plan for that is, stay away from people who will absolutely annihilate you. Because once it happens once, with not just a spouse or partner, but with your soul mate, then you will never EVER be the same. My repayment plan is seeing that 100% as a loss, sort of like when you loose your wallet, and seeing that as in life-long unfortunate event, sort of like when you are diagnosed with cancer, and then accepting it as such. Because it will always be there, always, no matter what anybody says. Yes I do feel that someone has essentially inflicted cancer on me. Because I will never be the same, ever. Imagine a murderer killing my offspring, and I’m supposed to just continue with life as if nothing happened? He killed me, my soul. RIP my old self. I was killed. I forgive no murderers ever. No murderers will ever be forgiven no. It should be illegal to do what he did. Imagine if I could be my beautiful untainted self again? And if you could also be? The reason the world is so fucked up is because people are legally amd fully allowed to wreck people for all their worth. Step on us like delicate flowers and then move on with their lives scotch free. That’s abuse. All forms of abuse should be illegal but it’s not. I feel I have been abused, kicked and had to take a kidney out because of it. Me having one less kidney does not make me a survivor it makes me damaged goods. Sure I can function with one kidney, but again, not the same. Not ever Ever the same.

@@lizzy5437 I'm sorry we have this emtional hurt/ trauma in common. And i actually just cried a bit reading about your hurt. I wish I could take your pain away. This just sucks.

@@thereturnoftheprodigalyams6763 I mostly wanted to convey that you are not alone and that people make it way worse by downplaying what happened to you with comments such as “get over it already” or “you weren’t even married” or “why are you playing victim.” We were married only by common law but my point is, try to notice those covert miniature put downs when people do it to you. And don’t accept it. What they are doing is allowing what the person did to you and telling you to accept it (the behavior.) It’s rude, insensitive, and downright wrong. People also have a tendency to blame the victim. Anyways, my best advice to you is to accept it as a loss, because you literally have no other choice and accept not the behavior, but that it happened to you like I said very similar to accepting that someone shot your kidney. There’s no other way to describe it. Because it really might have been that big of a blow for you, and for me it was. They killed a part of you, and don’t let anyone convince you otherwise! Now it’s our job to figure out how to function with that fact with zero justice either whatsoever. And here they are living as if they didn’t do anything that hurtful to you, even if they do apologize. Apologizing to a judge won’t make my kidney come back… apologizing doesn’t and didn’t do much at all tbh. Accepting it though has, and realizing that living this WHOLE life without something ever bad happening to me is actually pretty darn unlikely. Bad things happen. So I accept it as a bad thing and I hope that you can also do that too. My dog got bit by a pitbul yesterday who darted out of an elevator. That does not mean I’ll never use an elevator ever again it just means that I will now be more cautious of elevators. I wish you all the best!

I'm the same way, this world is chaotic and not fit for my hypothetical children so I won't be having biological children. If I choose to raise kids, I will adopt. And I will always keep my heart guarded from men. They can be so cruel.

@@violetselene244 amen sister ! I was thinking the same about adopting kids. The foster system is HORRIBLE. My friend is currently fostering our friends kid she’s unfortunately an addict and she’s in the deep end. The things she tells me about the social worker and foster care is extremely disturbing and even some people I know all of their stories are disturbing. I can see myself adopt but I’m honestly petrified to get a child that has a lot of issues. It’s horrible for me to say that but I’m not that person who can deal with a very difficult child there’s many people who can handle situations like that god bless them honestly! I am more than happy to take a child and give them love and affection keep them in a good home and give them the best life . It’s not their fault at all for their circumstances but some children belong with someone who will help them no matter how difficult the situation is. It’s best for them some people adopt kids just for money and not even show them any love which is so sad. As for men , same here. Until god sends me the man other than that every man I came across even my own dad all got some serious issues and there’s always a woman in their life that’s suffering because of them. Every single one. Not one I have met that I can trust with my life honestly .

me too, I think the chances of the ideal picture with love filled marriage, respect and loyalty is a 1% chance. Why to risk being a single mum ( being broken and broke and tired) while I can just be single and stress free

I need a man who's divorced and need a woman to spend the rest of his life with😍

I think so too! He's a piece of crap and it's sad she's such a good person she can't even accept that!

Hello

You I right dear, how are you doing,please can will talk in private

Hello Janet

Hi David

How are you doing

I'm doing fine. I feel stronger and better now that this ending is working out. It was more of an emotional struggle while going through the " maybe it might be saved " portion of the relationship. Now I know that I just do not want it in my life. Unfortunately he still hangs onto my things even though a judge ordered him to return my things to me. He also stole a vehicle from me and sold it to someone who abandoned it which now sticks me with the fine. I just wish all of this could be done and over with. All these things keep me tangled up in it and I am ready to be over it. It's odd that really I have put him out of my mind but then at night he comes up in my dreams. I guess my subconscious has to sort things out. I am looking at the situation in hindsight now and I knew early on that he was not the right person for me but he just kept hanging onto me, just as now he hangs onto my things. I told him all along " you just aren't you cup of tea ". He was younger than me, successful and handsome and smart, but he just did not bring me joy. We liked many of the same things in life, we liked eating the same foods, going the same places, but that is not enough. A best friend who you share joy with is everything. He thought sex was everything. When you and your spouse are 90, I bet you won't be having sex, but you still can smile and laugh together. I'm looking for that man who makes me smile. Thank you for asking.

And how are you doing David? Have you gone through a break up? Are you going through one now? You can talk to me if you'd like. I'd be happy to hear your story and help you in anyway possible.

Never a justifiable reason to cheat,it's people trying to have their cake and eat it too,just don't be in the relationship,be single and be with as many people as they want,the truth always comes out

Seems like you're another cheater trying to blame the victim. People cheat because they want to cheat!

Good question

You won’t!! But you might cry a lot I know I did. You have to tel yourself it won’t last forever even though it feels like forever. Message me on insta if you ever need to talk

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