If you are a single man with no kids stay away point blank period

I can’t wait to see this channel blow up to 4M Subscribers. This is the only real channel on KZfaq with real life advice for real people. this man is the only person I’ve heard whether it is in person or online with actual solid life advice who isn’t looking for anything in return.

based on my experience, living with a woman with a kid or kids from her previous marriage is like facing or living with a bear with her cubs

There's no way in hell I would have anything to do with a single mother !! Just knowing some other guy got her pregnant and it came out of her digusts me... nasty !!!!

This is wonderful advice. Thumbs up!

I get what you are saying but I met the most wonderful man 20 years ago and he was the best dad to my kids He died 3 months ago and I am so grateful to have been able to have him in all of our lives. He treated them like they were his own and loved them so much

Aboud. You have a lot of common sense my brother. I wish more people were linear thinkers like yourself. We would have a better society if more people reasoned things out like you.

Hollywood, you already KNOW how much I respect your opinion. I have to say, this is one of the most heartwarming and candid presentations I’ve ever seen from ANYONE. This is SAGE ADVICE, and moreover, it’s RESPONSIBLE, MANLY ADVICE. The Only shortcoming, and it has absolutely NOTHING to do with your advice, is that a person must be BOTH MATURE AND SOPHISTICATED ENOUGH to APPRECIATE the WISDOM in what you’ve shared, and sadly, many of today’s juvenile, immature and “mama’s boys” are Neither sophisticated OR mature.

People should never give the pass on one child because that 1 child can also have resentment towards you! And the relatives of that 1 child especially if it's a little girl will be extra protective her Uncle's her grandparents maybe even her own father her grandmother even her aunt's they will be protective over that child making sure you do not abuse her

So wish I had advice like this way back when. Very. very smart Aboud. Keep up the good work.

Aboud you got a good heart. True mentor! Like a big brother

Not everyone has experienced this; and everyone's experience is not the same. I married a woman who had a toddler. From my experience, it was extremely difficult to form a bond with the child. The mother was usually "trying" to get us to bond, which was a little annoying. I never got the respect that I deserved for taking on a role of such responsibility. I didn't have any children, yet was basically expected to know all this "daddy" stuff in such a short time. I had loved her before the child, and when we reconnected-- she had a baby from a previous relationship. I agreed to have a relationship, thinking the father was long gone. Over 10 years later, having my own children with her, he comes back in the picture... changing the atmosphere of our home, and also getting to have sex with her. The child as a teenager, who still calls me dad, wants to move in with the biological. It's like a huge slap in the face. I can't blame anyone but myself. Sure, that may not be the case for everyone....yet naturally, I wouldn't want my sons trying to marry a woman who had children from someone else.

I agree with EVERYTHING you say, Aboud. That's exactly the way I thought far outside of the financial consequences. Unfortunately for guys like us, in a society where multiple marriages and multiple kids from multiple guys is the new norm, guys like us are labeled "Judgmental" and "Close minded".

Aboud you are the best ❤ cant wait when your channel blows up to 4 million you deserve more subscribers you speak so much sense and truth

i came here for help . i just found this video very helpful .. i needed this so badly .. Am just about making an important decision. i needed great advice. thanks for this.. am much guided and informed now.. i appreciate ...

Its a little different when both people have kids kind of like, "The Brady Bunch."

I don't know why it took 7 years to start looking at videos speaking on this conversation. I've felt so depressed from feeling so insignificant to someone I cared about. I knew why but I didn't come to terms with it. Thank you.

Thanks man for the word (I’m kind of addicted to your channel …). AFA dating a single mother, I have to add: - You’re always 2nd place, tops - Crazy ex to deal with - Kids will likely be resentful to some degree - You could end up paying child support for them Proceed with caution.

great video. Beautiful, I'm proud to be subscribed. Pretty much every video is of great value.

I don't know why but I've've always dated women that had children and married two women that had children from previous marriages, here's my 59 years of wisdom to men, DON'T DO IT, each situation was a disaster, i could write a handbook on the subject!

I don’t want kids only date women with no kids! 🙏🏿

Respect for your words, man.

I know I'm going to get heat for saying this. But if a woman has two or more kids, and each kid has a different dad, that is a red flag.

I couldnt be with a single mom. I just feel that the child is not truly mine. Wouldnt feel the same.

Try with all your might to find a woman without children....Women with children focus on those children, only - as they should....But, the child/children are not yours.....You will always come behind her children....JUST DON’T DO IT....Find a woman without children and have your own babies...Don’t get into that mess.....w

100% correct. There are exceptions to this but all they really want most of the time is someone to financially take care of them and a ready-made family.

I dated a woman with kids before worst experience ever, not saying they are all the same but this chick has one of her child in a juvenile institution while she’s out partying every night mean while her other child is so smart humble, that apple fell far the tree, the mom was acting like she’s the teenager and what makes it even scarier she wanted more kids. I told her good luck and she never heard from me again

You deserve more subscribers. Your logic on dating women with kids is A1. As a single mom I’m dreading dating. The internet is full of males belittling women with kids saying they’re toxic. People with or without kids can be toxic. But I’m coming into the dating game with the mentality that if a man loves me eventually he should want to be here for my child as well. I’m not going to sit here and force a man to play dad. These things should happen naturally. I can take care of myself and my little one financially just fine. In any relationship you choose to be in you need to check a woman’s/mans headspace and views to see true intentions. Do they want you for your finances? Do they want true companionship? Me personally it’s companionship. Everyone’s situation is different you just have to move correct.

When I saw ABOUD I thought he would be a bit of a dick, but he's a cool and honourable man. Very sensitive, I have adopted many kids, yea, this influencer has a good heart

I will never ever date a woman with kid's ever again. Because all you gonna do is get heartbroken. Because she can abort your child. And go right back to her already made family. On my soul. It happen to me. I'm heartbroken. But I get over eventually. Pray 🙏🙏🙏🙏 for me.

You are very right Mr! No one should play stupid with a women with kids. The ones who grow only with the mother they know what is all about. Just don't go there promising u gonna be there for her and then to leave...and if you go with her don't fu678ng start beating her kid/s. If she got a boy and you treat him bad,when he will grow he will give you the same respect.

Aboud how is the teenage girl that you are mentoring doing???

Thanks bro

Now my question to you is If you dated them before and their kids saw you as a father figure. How do you leave the relationship without hurting the Kid(s) and their mother, in your personal experience?

Thank You

Awesome advice

Thank you!

Very very wise

You are a very smart guy.

This has military husband vibes

A READY MADE FAMILY

My woman came to me. She chose me.

Agreed.

Stay away from them

I love my girlfriend I am 23 she’s 22, she has a 2 year old and I have 0 kids. I don’t love her son but you what said just now about loving him like he’s my own, I can never I’m sorry. I’d feel like a fool raising, spending my money on another man’s kids

It's a tough one Hollywood you will always be second best.which if the mother puts the man fisrt before who kids then I wouldn't be with .ie I can remember talking to a 90 year old lady & she told me it was normal in greece for woman to remarei coz husband got killed at war & left a wife & kids behind but than man were man she told me he loved me as if I was his own

I see nothing wrong with men dating single mothers but it's definitely not ideal or even natural. Children need both their biological mother and biological father, together, as one strong family unit. I am so grateful that both of my children are with the same guy and neither one of us have other children. If we did it would make things more complex in this already complex world. Happy New Year, Aboud. May God bless you and your family with a abundance of health and happiness for 2019.

I agree with not screwing around with single mothers. But never, repeat, never get involved with a single mother. Here's what you don't want - To be the ATM for another man's seed; to get in the middle of the drama and chaos between the mother and her baby daddy; or to be the emotional punching bag because it didn't work out with that other guy. Just don't do it. It very very rarely works out to your advantage. Place your bets elsewhere.

It takes a special kind of man to provide and love etc? I can't give you the nod on this one brother. Nothing puts you quicker in the cuckhold seat than providing for children from another man that are not your own. Its unhealthy and puts a dent for the civilization and evolution of mankind. She spread her legs to some loser or losers before even considering a secure future with him which is marriage and now since she is older and mature she should have a free moral pass?. Either way you slice it , its irresponsible. Her same wrong horny decisions back then will conflict with your judgement and well being later down the line. Guaranteed. I been knee deep through it with one girl thats how I peeped up on game with this issue at hand. I never commited to her. She had 4 kids from 3 men at 24. I never got involved with her kids in any type of way. I never went to her place. I rarely seen them. Her and I were just fooling around for 2 years while I kept playing the field doing my thing. In a way I did feel and have a guilty conscious to an extent becuase I was basically selling her a dream that I couldnt warranty her. She stuck around and kept waiting for my commitment. I was still testing the waters to see if their might be a chance to commit to this girl but her having spawns from other men... it was diffcult for my masculiny to come in terms with that. If I ever want my first child , I want it with a girl with a fresh start that hasnt been through that exposure. What did I get from that experience in having a close but not formal relationship with her? That these young single mothers are emotionaly unstable, mental wrecks, scarred from the loser father/s being MIA, constant stress to provide for her fatherless children, mix all those negative motions in a bottle and you will have unnecessary turmoil and chaos. No thanks. Did I forget to mention that her children will always come first no matter how fuckin great you fuck her? At the end of the day, the attention span you will get are crumbs. Im a reasonable man and accept that every case with each individual single mother is different but when you got one or two friends that went through the same exact plot with young single moms, then statistically there is a pattern here.

Nigga nah bro.. the children still have there own father you try to step on mine you have some trouble on your hands

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Most of the time they look for something serios...and if you are a man who grow without father...with step father,you already know what to do and not what to do when you try to communicate and educate that child. For the rest...be careful and don't fuck with her life.

So is it that bright in there bro

u can bang and have fun with moms just lay down the line when she wants to be serious...than let em know the deal

My husband robbed a bank, arm robbery, I have 3 kids and hes been the ONLY man Ive ever been with and had sex with. My son really is begging for attention for a man, Its very hard for me because I'm doing this all on my own my husband cheated on me and didn't want to listen to me when it came top being responsible but now that hes in jail he really wants my support and I want to give it to him but I feel hes going to screw me over in the long run and I am just too attached too him and I don't think any man wants to be with a 21 year old who has 3 kids anyway :/ I feel stuck. what do you think about this sort of situation my brother thinks I should stay for him but I'm afraid once he gets out he will continue his old ways

That's true everything he saying is facts

My wife passed away 2 years ago, and I could not handle being alone, so I called a childhood friend that had adult kids, The first time I met her, I started to cry and shaking, because I felt like I was cheating on my wife, had to take a Valium to calm down. Few weeks later we met again and 2 months later she moved in with me, all the while giving her & Adult kids money, Her adult kids started to demand money, & curse their mom if I didn’t send anything to them. One day I woke up and realized that she and her kids were taking advantage of me, She would ask for a loan until her tax refund came in, then lie that she never got tax refund… She would ask can we send her boys 2 Thousand or buy big gifts,,… She stole money and send to her kids, and think I don’t know that she stole money,, I caught her and never said anything about it.. I told her just because I don’t say anything, does not mean I don’t know what is going on… 3 weeks ago I told her to pack her bags and never come back.

I have a testimony. I just married a single mom and she brought her kid along. Let me tell you boys - that little boy (1year 9months old) gives me the creeps. He freaks me out saying "daddy" or "papa" and I have to pretend that I didn't hear him call that title. I don't look at myself as someone with a bad heart and I cannot treat the little boy badly but I don't like him at all. I know how that sounds. I thought I could do it. I thought men that couldn't love a woman and her kids were wicked. Now I'm confused. What the eff do I do? Leave her? Someone give me some advice.

I would never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever wife up a single mother.

To me it depends on the mother She has to put me first and submit to me ,so its all about the mother, does she see you as her blessing from God. The mother is always the problem not the children. She is the one who is the cause of her children suffering because she wants to rule the house hold and not respect the man who does love and children because he was sent by God . She won't value him

To me SINGLE MOTHERS are LEFTOVERS. To much BAGGAGE.