Not aware of our observance skills!!! 🎉😂 Meaning that b/c they think we are idiots, weak etc that it's the truth b/c they think it... Lol😂

They don't appreciate the things others provide they focus on the flaws of others to make themselves feel good

Sir, You entire manner, Your voice, Your expertise is healing. Heaven bless You Sir.

When you said about how they miss treat you then turn around and want you to hang out with them I laughed out loud 😂😂. Yes, it is so gross how they think you should want to be around that! Working on my healing now!! Thank you so much Danesh!!

@@trying2survive602 Agree. When I told the oldest sister, narcissistic mother's flying monkey, that I am in therapy, her response was: "how dare you trash the family's good name"🤦‍♀

This is so well said. Admittedly, we all display some aspects of self-interest that normally remain humble. But some egos are so deeply hurt they become parasitic to the point they become cannibalistic in a social sense. As you had mentioned before, when we seek their understanding or assistance, we have to be prepared to face indifference, irritation, or even anger, RATHER than compassionate justice.

it is like that... it is really cruel, evil, and unfortunately this behavior is contagious like a virus

I was wondering,isit that they possess self awareness or just that they know their behaviour hurts others? Isn't self awareness supposed to entail values,core beliefs etc also? I doubt that they're aware of their own values,traumas,beliefs etc

They derive pleasure from hurting others, I believe this certain trait develops from them splitting from trauma.

So very true

I think the internal pain they are protecting no matter how in touch they are, always trumps the value of others feelings. I didn’t start realizing this until recently but I think most narcs are victims of occult abuse and mind control. SRA/ DID.

Recognizing this is a great step to be able to do something about it!! I wish u all the best! You are better than that for sure 💕

@@mariaa0031 Thank You it’s really hard i find myself lost most of the time. I sadly ended up on antidepressants just to feel alive in some way. Do you know how can i start? What books you recommend?

31 is exactly half my age! Your traits were probably just part of your survival tactic, a form of self acknowledgement, don't worry about it, life is for learning and narcs never admit they're....

​@@joseenoel8093Correct

Your “honesty” shows you do not have a diagnosis. If you place 50 people in a room and tell everyone who believes they are a narcissist to go to the left, and other to the right… almost all of the people on the left will not be narcissist. Every person on this planet has narcissistic traits. Because we need it. The risk is having levels that are far into the high end or low end of the scale. Having no narcissism is equally as dangerous, but far more to yourself. Narcs also don’t typically call the narc parent a narcissist. They make excuses for the behavior and both tend to feed off of one another as a supply. Think “golden child” or the one that got far too much attention. You lost your father as a child. Unless he passed as a horrible person, you were at an age where you did not pass judgement. Look into CPTSD first. See what you think and go to a psychologist. A narcissist would not watch these sorts of videos unless they were gaining knowledge for future abuse or manipulation. The motivation behind the actions could be the difference in what you perceive as narcissism for yourself. Would you be hurt if a psychologist stated that you are definitely a narcissist? If you thought, “Yes.” You are not a narcissist. Remember these videos (and other like this) are to help you with diagnosis, is to help you survive and understand what has been occurring in your life. You will see yourself in some thing because when dealing with a narc you will certainly gain reactive traits. Things like acting like you don’t care, because they act that way. The difference is that you do care… they don’t. Even a self-aware narc would not have said what you said before many counseling sessions. It takes time to fully accept it and it will take a diagnosis to confirm it. Unless you have another cluster-B disorder, be proud that you see something negative in your actions and you want to fix it.

Absolutely true, once away from them you see how the playbook never changes.

40 years for me 😑

Me too. 28 yrs.

I wish my ex would leave me and my child alone he's hounding me all the time going through courts it's mad am having to take him as I can't co parent just to make access arrangements it's every day a battle 😢

@@bubblesSqueak3895 keep your chin up you got this.

24 for me,

@David-eu1ms That's exactly right and it's downright frightening due to the immense harm they cause many people, especially children, which I've experienced and witnessed! I won't go into any graphic details because I'll get upset again and have a lot to do. I'd prefer not to upset others either. It's a huge relief that there's more awareness nowadays though, due to extremely helpful videos like this one, to end on a positive note. 😊

​@@jbrown2908That's for sure and many of the highly narcissistic, or worse, individuals I've known over the years and some I still know, seem to be completely deranged! I don't usually like to talk about others like that, yet I'm losing my compassion as I get older, especially after the way I've been treated, which is probably a good thing. 😊

And don't care a whit how they hurt you.

After thinking a lot, I came to the conclusion that narcissists will face bad karma throughout coz they can’t understand or value genuine feelings. I guess they themselves don’t believe in honesty or don’t believe anyone is honest. So yeah the narcissist person’s gonna face bad karma throughout 😅

My Psychopathic downstairs neighbour has tried every sadistic trick in her book of spells to harm me. To say she is out to get me is an understatement. A few men have told me she is jealous of my looks.She resembles the witch from The Wizard of Oz ( minus the green face ,although it should be with the envy she has for me ).

Not just their families but everyone else as well. But if your wife/husband is narcissist then God help you🙏🏻

How about your mother? An exceptionally violent one with grandiosity issues, knowing she isn't coming anywhere close?

@Lyrielonwind I know what you mean and want to add that I learnt in a counselling course many years ago that it's best not to give anyone unsolicited advice, unless they ask for it, or people could ask if someone has attempted deep breathing, or whatever the case may be. I've been an overly empathetic person, yet I usually don't like it when people give me advice while I'm talking to them either, because I mainly want my feelings validated. I also want to apologise for giving you advice and I'm aware that narcissistic individuals regularly do it, which is one of the many reasons why I'm avoiding them as much as possible nowadays. 😊

Exactly 💯

You are spot on. They think that it's you not being considerate...wow went through it with the preacher at church, when I reached out this for assistance

Only people who’ve been through a time wherein they’ve been stuck in the presence of a person with NPD {and cannot immediately get away} understand & believe you. On one hand, that’s bad because we *REALLY* need to be believed & understood, especially because we may require assistance in getting away. {and getting away is really the only thing you can do} On he other hand, if they cannot understand, and have trouble believing, that’s a good indicator that they’ve never been through through this and that’s *good* {for them}. See, as much as I deeply need to be understood, I would NEVER want & never allow ANYONE to go through what pwNPDs do to educate them & obtain an “I believe you.” I wonder how rare true, text-book, ‘no-doubt-about-it’ pwNPD are. While growing up, nobody else’s parent behaved like mine at all 🤷‍♀️. Other parents just kinda sensed something wasn’t right & had me over for meals and weekends as much as possible. Now, many grown-up decades later, a newbie-just entering the social work profession- straight-up didn’t believe me about some serious things [such as medication theft… so the common simile “as serious as a heart attack” actually almost fits without exaggeration here].

@DarrellOllis-cp9dz it's so awful when our own children are narcissistic lunatics, but they have to be wiped out of our life. We have to have no communication completely. They're relentless at what they do, and get more crafty at their game of destruction. They're no longer the sweet little child that was born. It's very hard to let go but what choice do we have. 🌟

That's awful 😞

My brother did the same.

@@Indite_Biden 🤔

Because life is just a game of strategy that is played out without a moral compass.

...just so long as I stay.

@@jbrown2908 nothing is "normal" about it. I hate my life but I cannot afford to leave.

Yes my Toxic ex said our relationship wasn't that bad.😂😂😂

@@MegaRose1958 yeh, because it isn't...for him.

@@jbrown2908 To be honest, I should have left long ago. I did once. Was gone for 10 months. One of my daughters became irate with me so I returned. That was back when I was still employed. Now retired, no funds.

You just described my sister, to a T.... I know what you've gone through... I've given up on God, karma....will probably require court, to prevent future cata$trophy...... * hell on earth

Sometimes we experience this from our best friend who over a period of time became our best friend but you always knew he/she was a narcissist. We have to slowly cut such people off or limit them very much. There should be no guilt in cutting them off or else we’ll have to live with people like that.

I actually JUST an hour ago finally told my narcissistic sister, after giving her the truth and her refuting it, I hope you feel better. What she doesn't realize is that was me, being done. I'm not gonna fight or argue with her any more. No more "proving". Just done. And it feels good. Sad. But good.

Freedom from them is just the best feeling. 🎉😊

I considered going that option as my cheating narc ex is a kindergarten school teacher and uses and abuses hard drugs and is a raging alcoholic. But I'm just going to move on and forget about her. Thank god it was only two months of dealing with her insanity.

Don't judge others unless you have been in their shoes. What infuriates me is how the family court system often forces a responsible parent in a domestic violence thanks to a narcissist - to do that sort of thing. Only because women and children are often not believed. At the turn of this century municipal government social services support groups for women and chidlren had to be set up here in this city because of it. At one point there was for example around during the summer up to 25 women in a room in various neighborhoods while their children were being babysat for them all who were going through the same. A person leaving a narcissistic other parent with their children is way better off only going to police for help without bothering to file for divorce. Some narcissistic perpetrators of domestic violence are sadistic too in how they enjoy being litigous during divorce.

True

@francesbernard Exactly; the don't judge others part. Plenty of women conduct themselves in this deceitful, evil, manipulative, destructive manner destroying many good unsuspecting men who just as some women have no idea the Evil that may reside in another human being. Not to mention the Court system that often recognizes the power imbalance and could care less about the Father 's full participation in all aspects of parenting without an agenda but a full human intent on loving his kids whom would not be here in this Earth without him also. We provide more than money. Our kids matter to us and that desire remains even when we have been robbed of thise same children we love that we no longer have access too. No the Courts don't always care especially if it is the man who is innocent in all this. We are blocked, discarded, no accountability of funds provided, no equal custody even if the father is or was the primary provider and caretaker to the children they share. Equal opportunity good & evil exists in the female as well as the male. It is a case by case basis as to whether it is the male or the female. Women are capable of great evil just as men are.

Yes,😢😂😢😂😢vs Soo Sad but funny. We have to find the humor in it as well . Stay blessed y'all 🙏🏽💕

It always is our fault whether you do something or don't. A losing proposition either way. 🙁🙁🙁🙁

It's always us. 😖😖😢😢@@caroleminke6116

@auniversalwoman, great comment!

This is an excellent video, I also learned from another youtube person, that you’ll never be able to make sense of their behavior, despite your brain trying. They don’t want peace or closure. They just want ongoing drama. Accept that it’s just a weird situation, that you no longer will have any part in.

It's bizarre, like they're living in their own reality where they're playacting to impress themselves meanwhile everyone else is a non-playing character/prop. Have you seen the 90s tv comedy 'Keeping up Appearances'? That is the whole basis of it, with Hyacinth Bucket's narcissism and snobbery 😂

I imagine that it would be a relief to know that other neighbours are able to see the difficult behaviour of the highly narcissistic one in the midst! Unfortunately, it's the opposite with my situation because the narcissistic, or worse, woman I've been living next door to for about 25 years has most of the others in the complex on her side. She managed to do it with previous tenants, who've moved on, since she becomes friendly with new ones, then they end up celebrating birthdays etc together. I've given up worrying about it now and don't want to be part of the "mean girls" group anyway, so do my best to avoid them, until I can move, or something else might happen. 😊

That's unusual that others have sussed the lunatic, usually the victim is classed as the lunatic and treated like the worst person on the planet. You're very fortunate. Great to hear this ❤️

@@Sheba8. Other neighbours have let us know he’s been a problem way before we moved in 👍

@allanwhite1533 I totally agree with you about the extreme neediness and it has turned to aggression after I've told a few narcissistic people that I'm unable to talk when they've spotted me in coffee shops etc, then expect me to spend hours with them, no matter what I'm planning to do! I've been through much worse than those experiences; however, it's a less graphic example and a couple of the men are dangerous, hence why I used to keep them company, but regretted doing so. 🙁

@@cyndigooch1162 Wow, that must be frightening! And too often they will stop at nothing whenever they feel someone has disappointed their often very lavish expectations. I've never had any dangerous narcs in my life but very toxic and nuisance ones nonetheless. I've had narcissistic friends/girlfriends who would call me at any and all times of the day and leave long ranting, often berating voicemails and/or text messages if I didn't pick up and respond to their calls immediately-even if I was at work. These people just live in such a distorted reality from the rest of us.

Damn how long you guys married?

44 years and you’re leaving now?😅😂 I really don’t know who is a “fool” here.

@@mihirjoshi8934 you’re the fool for not understanding that this person is Trauma Bonded to the narcissist. Educate yourself on the aspects of Narcissistic Trauma Bond.

@@mihirjoshi8934 hey you! Own your s*it! No projection, any mirrors at home?

@@annajaworska3627 What? Who are you? Mind your own business

Dear@@jbrown2908 Thank you for speaking for more vulnerable. All the best to you! @mihirjoshi8934 must get a bigger mirror.

No your not damaged ,,choose to heal ..dont be like her,,HEAL🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

My story is similar. I'm 54 years old.I ran away as a teen. I knew my father mentally and emotionally abused me but never knew there was a name for it until recently. All those decades I knew he was wrong to blame me but at the same time believed there was something about me that caused it. For more than 3 decades I attempted to "repair" my relationship with my father. But then I actually learned what true narcissism was and became even more depressed, then angry, then depressed again. I'm currently waiting for a referral for therapy.

I am so sorry you went through that. Now I am not sure how I could help young persons I know who have gone through that whom I am not a biological relative to.

I lived it all my life and survived.... Please stop taking the medication. You need sunshine and fresh air. Exercise and healthy foods make a difference. Think about what you want ❤ good luck and God bless

It is with Jesus Christ And God 🙏🏽❤️ that gives us strength to move forward along with therapy if wanted or needed. You have the compacity to live,love and heal. Help others get a community of same minded people that went through this lime here. I beg you you will feel better y'all call on Jesus Christ he will answer. Kevin la Ewing is a great teacher on all these THINGS that happens to us. It's about life, spiritual walk to see that the person who is doing these things are possessed by evil spirits that manipulate OPPRESS and even possess us. So he teaches how to break free ❤️. I promise I found out what was going on as we all have we knew something wasn't right so I searched I found narcissist,and Jezebel evil spirits,I found out their tactics I found out how to remove those spirits or feelings of depression and sadness. Yiu will see if you check him out read the comments of people,you see through knowledge shall the JUST be delivered. ❤ I PRAY for y'all strength in this process 💖💖 GOD bless y'all 💓💓🙏🏽🙏🏽

Yes,you have power to love,help, complete this journey to Jesus Christ 💖🙏🏽 and forever become CHANGED through the renewing of your mind and spirit. Kevin la Ewing is a great teacher of these things I went through all these feelings 💔😭 mostly everyone in these comments. So with this knowledge let's set ourselves truly free . 🎉🎉🎉 God bless everyone here . Through knowledge shall the JUST be delivered 🙏🏽💕🙏🏽💕❤

Stay strong and stay away. Save your health and strive for some kind of personal piece of mind. Peace.

Once we learned about gaslighting or anything healthy. He would point fingers at me. When he knew it was him and his freak friends he loved to.rescue while abandoning his own family

It’s 49 years for me and I’m in the planning stages of leaving him!!

​@@tidycoatMay God go with you 🙏

​@@tidycoatgood for you! 33 for me and I'm making secret plans. I wish you the best and God be with you.

​@@tidycoathow old are you?

🙏🙏🙏

This is a serious matter and can have potential results, you can face something very bad at the end and you should file a police complain about this and go no contact with her

Everyone has a little narc in them, BUT it's simply your response to THEM!

@@dct1238 Thank you and very nice of you to think like that. I catch myself often identifying with my behavior.💜

Spot on!

I like to tell them they're not the center of anything or the star of the show. I tell them they're more like an NPC.

@@GenerationX1984 😂 or a grayed-out alien 😂

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 AYYYYEEE 🎯🫨

@cefcat5733 I just can’t stop reading that nutshell in a loop it’s kind of like a #Shorts video but better 💯❤ SOMEONE PLEASE put this verse in Guinness Books holy Bible an implement into schools and studies ASAP. And to Danish you changed my life and kids futures with these vids and everything man!!! I was blind you gave me eyes and tho it’s been hard and still is, am really respecting why and how you do all this with your time man so many people must be and have been feeling awfulll try figuring out what’s wrong with themselves and all that.. Your study got me an A+ for math knowing that 1+1 REALLY is 11. And skins got no color for certain race

@@zegwollah3883 Thanks. I am not an expert with a degree, but am troubled, watching things develop around me. Narcissists have taken up lots of my time, because that's what they do. Thanks for noticing the loop. Sometimes it just comes out that way, just like good fortune, in your life can eventually appear... just around the next corner.