The children that are caught up in the middle of a narcissists insanity is very heartbreaking. The spouse can divorce the narc, but the child is stuck in the craziness... It's so sad

I asked my narc aunt to stop the constant criticism. She didn't, so I said "Ima do the same to you" Less than 24 hours later she yells at me "I'M SICK AND FUCKING TIRED OF YOUR GODDAMNED CRITICISM!" I smiled and said "See how it feels? You do this every day and you couldn't handle it for 24 hours. So either change or I'm leaving and never coming back." She proceeded to tell me everything she has given me.... while I packed

This is exactly what I did with my ex narc girlfriend. After absorbing all of her narc bull shit for 5 long years, I finally had enough, and I started treating her like she had been treating me. Wow, wasn't expecting that reaction...she instantly knew something was different, she was shocked, shrunk away, and then one day called me up and said she didn't want to do this any more, it took about three months. She cut me off and it was over. No problem, she was putting me down, triangulating me with male orbiters, even seeing other guys behind my back and making demands that were never going to happen. She has tried to hoover me back in three times in the last two years....not happening. Go fys.

A narcissist can only be the hero or victim.....they need a mother not a partner.

Treat them the way they treat you, then leave for good. The perfect revenge on a Narcissist.

This is totally insane! It’s like narcissists are too blind with the fact what they did is wrong and has the audacity to call people crazy if being treated the same way 😤

In other words, you can never win with a Narcissist except no contact.

Ghost them while they think they are ghosting you, don’t reply to their texts for days, don’t call them, be nice to everyone else and snap at them. If you’re lucky they’ll run out the door but if not you should be running out the door; don’t waste your time ‘playing’ with these creeps.

Yes!! When i finally stood up to my narc mother, and tried to correct her, she told our whole family that I went crazy from the pandemic and the lockdowns. This is how the narcissist parent treats their own children.

The moment I mirrored my ex back it's like he automatically knew the jig was up. I video called him and he didn't answer so when he video called me I didn't answer. Later on he tried to text me and I texted him back way later and then I never heard from him again. I know he hated that I mirrored him. I don't care, I was done.

100% facts,. They even start to count everything they have done for you, it's almost as if they are implying that the good things they did for you was a payment for their abuse later on. so they kind of expect you to just take in the abuse, if you don't then you are labeled ungrateful.

They don't like it when you reverse the curse..then want you to have a 'Pity Party's '

It’s very sad that people abuse other people who seem to truly care about the abuser. The caring person has no choice in the face of abuse other than to disconnect.

I did this to my now Ex husband he got VERY MAD- he was pissed

I reversed the treatment as well before I left. It didn’t go over well with him. I told him I was showing my support 😂. He didn’t like that either. Oh Well!!! Moved out two weeks later.

It is impressive how deeply informed you are about the subject in such young age. Congratulations for being so charismatic and for helping victims educate themselves. God bless you.

Run ....... keep running ......... Don't look back . 🤕

You always nail these people. I enjoy learning from you. You are the man your father should have been. So proud of you. Keep it coming.

These are so true! When I quickly discarded someone who started breadcrumbing me, they acted like they were the victim then tried to put me on some kind of shelf. But I didn’t care about being ‘the villain’. I basically told them ‘we’re not a match’, ‘it wasn’t serious’ and ‘life goes on’. They let it go. I blocked them. But I can feel their lurking behavior online. So I shut down most of my media.

You must have met my mother and siblings personally. This describes them exactly. Well done. Thank you for voicing what is very difficult for the survivers.

I’m glad you stood up to him and got out of there. I escaped the house while the narcissist was at work, saved the lives of my two cats, and it was years before my hackles went down from seeing the evil she had become.

Never fear the narcissist, go no contact on the narcissist (if you’re able to), during the no contact phase get your finances in order and plan an exit strategy, leave the narcissist as soon as your able to, expose the narcissist for who they really are (only if it’s safe to do so) and make sure you have no sympathy or mercy on the narcissist at any time……all you are doing is giving the narcissist a taste of their own medicine and this is the time to take your life back by all means necessary.👍✊🙏

Spot on again! My stbx covert narc husband tried to avoid me or show he’s scared when bumping into me in the house 😂😂😂. That’s the time he tried to convince me that I was the abuser.

Oh, soooo true. I have done the reversal a few times. Oh, the pity parties they have had for themselves....after the yelling.

If you decide to do this (mirroring them), then you should be fully prepared to burn the bridge to ashes. And let it burn continuously forever. It would also mean, you are no longer seeking validation outside, but you are the first and only person required for your own validation, which will get you all required abilities to recognize and dismiss all manipulations, deflections, projections.

Great Work, Keep on encouraging us, as survivors we feel great just by your validation!

Absolutely spot on. This is what my ex did to me - turn everything around on me. He projected his ugly traits on to me and called me the narcissist.

I was treating my ex as if he was an idiot and he didn’t even realize. I used his tactics and he didn’t realize. Even I realized they are not as inteligent as people say they are. Nothing to do and also no emotional inteligence at all

A narcissist survivor only knows what he went through. No one can understand. Thanks for your advice and guidance. May God bless you always.

They go whining to their mother is what happens. 😂 Do it just one time to give them a taste of their own medicine after they’ve done it to you for many times.

Kids know that the parent who was there for them, is the only parent they need. They are grateful and know forever, that they were loved. They are amazed that that one person who loves them, would take on that effort, responsibility, work and do it well, because love makes it possible, not easier, but rewarding.

Again, my personality always slowly defaults towards "hope" these devils will have a modicum of introspection ( ain't gonna happen). Fortunately, because of people like you, my face is shoved into the reality--- wolverines make lousy pets and I'd be stupid to try and tame one. Every day, it's reinforcement to "get and stay with the program." Thank You!

At first, they're shocked and surprised you would do such a thing to THEM. Like it's fine for them to do it to you, but not the reverse. They get really ticked off and will use it against you somehow some way. anyway A waste of time as it doesn't change them one bit. Not capable of self-reflection or self-criticism.

They can dish it out but can’t take it.

Hi Danish, I am caught up in a similar marriage for the last 24 years. Your videos have given me much sanity and clarity. It is exactly as you have described.

Best title EVER for a narcissist video. They NEVER like a taste of their own medicine! 😂🎉

Brilliant Danish! And so insightful and true! Your analyses is so detailed and spot on! Turn the tables on them make them suffer the way they have made you suffer, don’t back off, don’t run away from them, be calm and completely indifferent to their ravings, stand your ground , give as good as you get, be strong, be objective and emotionless and ruthless if they misbehave with you .However, at the same time create a position of strength and invulnerability for yourself,it is for your own good. They are basically cowards and bullies, empty people with a low sense of self worth. When confronted by a person who is capable of inflicting the same pain on them and will not be manipulated or cowed down they will change their tune.They are vultures feeding off your fears and weaknesses, look to yourself ,love yourself and show not just the narcissist but the world you’re a strong person, a good person yet will not be intimidated by the likes of them. They will begin to view you with respect and ,yes, fear, that’s where you want to keep them. It must have taken courage for you to admit to your fathers narcissistic behaviour, it is appalling for us to think a parent or sibling can do this to you.But what is so amazing is how you have handled a very painful situation and come out on top and helping others cope with a similar experience. We hope and pray you have completely recovered, the scars have healed and you’re on the way to being really happy once again ! All the very best to you God bless and take care🙏🏼

💯 Correct! 💯Appreciation for your work Danish! Be prepared for divorce to be way worse than you imagine...Mine bribed my attorneys, our kids, stole my part of our business, had me assaulted by the police when they arrested me for a mental health check~Hospital wouldn't keep me~. If you have abusive parents you will crave love & make terrible decisions. ❤️You!!

Thank you Danish for clarity. I faced smear campaign for doing this... but it's over... Truth is out.... Bless you always for spreading awareness vehemently..

Some will beat or strangle their victim. A woman I know was stabbed in the face multiple times, then nearly stabbed to death in front of her kids. It's not always safe to even stand up for yourself, let alone dish out even an essence of their b.s.

Soo true when we hold that mirror in front of them they turn it back on us. Even if you try to make them realize their behaviour is wrong. My husband has accused me of being abusive when it's the other way round! 🙄.

Without turning to look at them, chuckle and ask them if they're really going to wear that.

Excellently said Danish! Thank you much🕊️By doing this to them, it showed them that I don’t fear them anymore like they want. Oh they hate this because this is how they would get control of me. I take my peace, clarity, strength and power back! I don’t mirror the abusive behaviors however, but I do address it or ignore(yawn) them depending on the situation and person. By doing this, it sent a clear message that they were not fooling me. I have been called all kinds of names; mainly crazy 😜 Prayers and blessings 💗🕊️🙏🏼

Thank you for your videos. I have spent over a year learning how to break my mind and heart free of my abuser. Everyone believes her just out of the box. How nice and kind she was around them... I still have a fear that something is wrong with me... am I the narcissist? Am I the relationships reason for failing? Everydays a struggle.. but its nice to come here, listen and get reminded that I was the victim... she had me so wrapped up that I missed all the signs. It started with my dad, his dad even... I take after my mom. We share the co-dependency genes.. I walked out of an abusive parent situation... then walked into a marriage with a woman like him. i felt a lot of shame, always felt like I was not enough. When love calls, I keep coming. Hoping I find a happiness I havent had. Everyone can be a victim, and everyone can thrive eventually. I love you all, we are all gonna make it.. together.

Thank you, the pain is real from these people who live a facade. My personal conscience is most important, this is what I hold onto when the snapshots and the entire situation gets verbally reversed. Boundaries are also part of what makes them angry, the supply is walking away.

Holy crap, I’ve never seen such fire in my narc’s eyes till the day I mirrored her reactions. She threatened to kick me out after years of refusing to let me leave her control. Then after I was gone, she started telling people I was addicted to drugs. 🙄 It was easier to keep her out of the loop from then on and cut her off anytime she crossed the line.

Ha! He does claim to be the victim and I'm the abuser. When in reality I have just stood up to him and told him I refuse to be abused and I have a right to my own autonomy and a peaceful existence. Then said I'm a the narcissist because that's who he is. My complaints about his abuse has suddenly become the reason I am the abuser and he is the victim. It makes zero sense but is nothing but a manipulation, and I haven't fallen for it, so now he's trying to punish me with distancing himself from me. These people have no emotional maturity or integrity. Everything is a freaking mind game.

I called my mom out recently and she kicked me out of her house, telling me as I was leaving that I was projecting my mental illness onto her. I next called out my sister and her only response was "Goodbye." They're mad at me for not thinking they're good people anymore and the way they prove their goodness is by kicking me out of the family rather than simply looking themselves in the mirror, which would be the truly good thing to do.

If a narcissist parent writes their own child off as crazy or weird, the parent has failed. Case closed. Automatic F.

I did this to the last guy I met. He tried to fool me into thinking he had a place to live, when he was clearly homeless. And he tried to wiggle his way into living with me...what a joke. I blocked him.

Good morning Danish... Thank you for the new video this morning. Every day I look forward to your videos, as they have helped me so much. Thanks to you, I am beginning to feel a bit stronger more and more, about being able to leave this abusive relationship! I am grateful . Thank you.

This is a great video, Danish. You really cover a lot of the behaviors of the narcissist when you attempt to defy them in any way, not just turning the tables. In 45 adult years of being with narcissists and psychopaths, I have experienced almost all of these. The most recent was when I refused to cave in to my narcissistic son's wishes, instead, calmly setting healthy boundaries. He cut me off from contact with my grandson and spread rumors to friends and family that I have dementia. In conversation with me with no one around he displays the psychopathic stare (his father is one) and coldly told me I would pay the consequences of not giving in to his demands. It is frightening and difficult to counter. I am cognitively competent and capable, but that's difficult to prove to people when a persuasive narcissist is weaving false narratives behind your back. My only recourse was radical acceptance.

After 40 years of hell with narc mother and being a scapegoat of a family things changed dramatically. Now I am the worst nightmare they couldn't even imagine for the rest of their lives. My dark side will take care of them I explained to their faces, and I will not stop untill they all commit suicide and they know its not a joke. Never knew l could be such cruel to anyone, Survived by miracle. Sigma Superempath.

Also you end up apologising to them for abusing you .

Here’s my thing get far far far away from them when i mean away I mean away!

I just did it right at the end - I was so sick of him and he said I had an effing attitude and yelled at me🤮🤮🤮

Mirroring kills them. They get pissed and discard you.

It won’t change them but it will torment them like they have tormented you. I moved 2300 mile away and they still wouldn’t stop, so now I’m back, and I’m ready for the biggest fight they could ever imagine. Sometimes walking away isn’t enough, protect oneself causes one to fight back. They have already sabotaged my reputation so nothing to lose there and I’ve been physically attacked and they know I’m not afraid of that either.

When I finally responded to the horrible things he said to me by saying terrible things to him, he acted so shocked and hurt! WTH does they expect? I got fed up with tolerating the abuse! Thank goodness I finally left him. My life is so much better now.

I guarantee you that if the narcissist is your parent and they are able to get away with abusing you, you will most definitely be in a lot of danger if you try to do that. That is also something to keep in mind if you are the other spouse in the relationship. Plus, they tend to use extortion to exert control in the situation, and it might not just be the children who suffer. You will all suffer and suffer and suffer. They really DON'T care. And they really are crazy. It is not as easy as just treating them the way they treat you. You had better prepare for WWIII if that's going to be something you dare to try like that.

I thought I was the only one trying to laugh off a narcissistic affront! Now I know I am strong! Danish, you are an angel! "May the Divines bless your kind heart" -Skyrim quote ❤

My narcissist mother couldn't handle even 10 minutes of the behavior that I had to put up with for 7 years...

There is Hope 🍀 there is a better Life away from narcissistic abuse ~ From 🌵 prickly cactus to an overbearing tree of life 🌱 a bountiful harvest awaits on the other side of toxic ~ its called Healthy 😘 The choice is always up to you ....stay and sink or paddle away to a New View 👑

That's what brought the end to my marriage of 15 yrs. I started treating him same way he treated me. The rage !!!!

I would do that to that hubby and it helped him understand. He is not one but was raised by one. So, he didn't realize how he was treating me or others. He has grown so much and we have grown together. He is seeing so much more now about his family. He's a great man.

Hello from Spain 🇪🇸 we are a dealing with a monster as a father. His mask has fallen ,it is time to put him in his place. Many years calling me crazy unstable and reflect all his problems on me or my mother. It’s time to pay

my ex-boyfriend has accused me of having borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder. it was actually him that had a lot of ‘emotional splitting’ & hot and cold behavior.

All you shared in this video happened to me too! Thanks to channels like yours, I am narc woke now. Seperated 2 years and begun my healing journey. 💕🙏

Good afternoon Danish very good all I know is that Jesus saved me from the Demonic Evil Entity that I had in my life for 40 years it's by the grace of God I am thriving thank Jesus amen

IT DOESN'T PHASE THEM!!!! I give back to my husband what he dishes to ME and he IGNORES IT!!!!!

Toxic narcissists always turn the tables no matter what you say or do ...its just a matter of time

You are so right I been through physical abuse l survived lost so called friends he left and I got a legal separation and a restraining order he tried to destroy me but with God's help and counseling I survived and am healing he divorced me 3 years after he left you are doing good 😊❤️💙 telling the truth bless you thanks 😊

Thank you, Danish! Key points are so well described!

Thanks for sharing this video, Danish!! Your teachings are very important!!

This is so insanely helpful ❤ thank you so much.

Very insightful. Absolutely true. Mirroring my journey 💯

God bless you Danish.... I just celebrated one year since going no contact. Your video is absolutely relatable. Im proud of how far I have come and how strong I stayed. I got a lot of help from content creators like you during my days of struggle.

I have watched many of your videos and you are spot on with how my best friend was she painted me to be a complete monster in her txt rage. The people who are actually close to me who read the messages couldn’t stop laughing because the things she wrote about me couldn’t be further from the truth 😂😂😂

100% true. Thanks D. Stay safe. Much Love. 🧡

You are amazing Danish. I resonate tough with so much of what you teach. You are an earth angel. This abuse stays hidden due to cunning behaviors and ignorance. (In a nutshell) Thank you.

Thank you Danish , your educational teaching is so much helping me to learn better to deal with narcissistic. Thank you so much.

Your so spot on ive just subscibed your videos are amazing and describes what happened to me thankyou i started treating him the way he treated me fireeorks ecploded ❤❤❤❤❤

Thank you for sharing your personal experiences. It is comforting in some way to know there are others out there who know exactly how we feel.

Thank you Danish for your invaluable information!

This is my ex husband to a T! The final year we were together was a nightmare. I decided to simply stand up for myself and start calling him out for his b.s. He is playing the poor, victimized husband just like I knew he would.

Thank you so much 🙏🏻

Let the Healing Begin 😍 Luv your message

So rightfully and beautifully explained once again. This is exactly how they are. Thank you for the vdo. You are so polite in talking. It needs courage to talk on this subject. Love to hear to you..

Yes!! Totally agree with you!!! In my case is my mum!!! Thank you for sharing your experience and for your vulnerability!! Thank you!!!!

I have learn so much from your educational videos and have been using the tools that you have provided. Thank you Sir.

personally for me the most eye opening video of you dear Danish ❤ keep up the great work ❤

Thank you!!

You just described my two sisters and my two step daughters. Thank you I’m learning a lot from your videos. 🙏🏽

Should I contact a psychologist in my defense I see it coming to bad stage. I have already lost precious 15 yrs of my life.

I am sorry that you are still going through all of this. You know best, and thank you for sharing your experiences. This has helped me as I have gone completely no contact with my narcissistic mother. I have also blocked all of the flying monkeys. It became a no-brainer eventually. I am happy with my decision and feel no guilt. Now I can get on with the healing. Thank you very much.

Thank you for discussing Narcissistic Guilt. Grateful.

Thank you 😍

TRUE Wow that's awesome how much you know Been there before You are absolutely correct WOW Thanks 😊💙❤️ Danish for the information 😊❤️🍀 It will help others to heal and move forward prayers 🙏❤️💙 to all who are healing

This is one of the best episode and information Narcissist r cruel guys. Accumulating bad karma

All of that explains and describes my daughter and her abuse towards me.